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"Smiling Assassins”: How Alcohol Became the Poison We Celebrate | James Swanwick · Everyday Ancestral with James Barry

• 0:00
  The practice of drinking alcohol, alcohol consumption has been around for thousands of years.
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  Archaeological evidence shows fermented residues in theolithic China, ancient Egypt, and Mesopotamia.
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  So clearly drinking alcohol is an ancestral practice, yet this is probably the first podcast
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  that I've done where the ancestral practice is actually not better or welcomed in our modern society
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  because what we're finding is actually sales of alcohol going down that less and less people are choosing to drink alcohol.
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  And my next guest, James Swanwick, is part of that movement to get people to stop drinking alcohol.
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  So how is it that this ancestral practice, something that's been around so long, can actually be so bad for us?
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  Stay tuned because you have found the Everyday Ancestral Podcast.
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  I am your host, James Barry, and my next guest, James Swanwick, is going to enlighten us all about why alcohol has no place in anyone's diet.
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  During this episode, our guest shares a statistic about alcoholics anonymous AA that didn't quite sit right with us.
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  While we believe in open dialogue and giving our guests space to share their experience and perspectives,
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  we also believe in doing our due diligence, especially when it comes to data.
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  So here's what I'm asking.
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  Listen to the full episode, then stick around at the end for an important follow-up where we unpack that stat a little more and share what we found.
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  We're all about curiosity, not cancellation, and this is a great example of how we can hold space for nuance and accountability in the same conversation.
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  I want to immediately just go right into bringing the ancestral concepts to alcohol because really there's clearly was a difference between alcohol of the yesterday and the alcohol today.
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  Wouldn't you say?
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  Well, alcohol's reputation is certainly crumbling. That is true.
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  I grew up in Australia in the 90s as a socially acceptable drinker, but now in 2025 heading into 2026.
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  Generation Z have never drunk less.
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  They're drinking less than previous generations.
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  People are increasingly aware about alcohols damaging effects.
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  And most importantly, people are choosing an alcohol-free lifestyle versus thinking that they need to be sober or have to go to an AA meeting, for example.
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  And people are increasingly feeling comfortable sharing with their friends and family that they're being alcohol-free.
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  So there's less stigma around being alcohol-free than there was in previous generation, certainly.
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  What do you think is feeling that?
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  Increased access to education, certainly social media, good and bad, but the good has definitely helped people understand that even one seemingly innocent drink per night is enough to cause some level of brain to generation.
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  I think also the younger generation that's coming through are just naturally more health conscious.
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  And so they're creating these morning exercise routines, these morning parties, which are drug and alcohol-free, and just increased education and increased studies that come out now that have been debunking this idea that a glass of wine is good for your heart.
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  I mean, that study that came out in the 80s has been debunked so many times now.
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  I think it's a combination of just access to great updated medical information.
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  We've got AI now so we can really dig in and find out what the real effects of alcohol are.
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  And then with more people now feeling comfortable about loving an alcohol-free lifestyle without the stigma that just has this spin-off effect where people and culture just shifts.
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  It's interesting because in ancestral times, alcohol, at least our understanding of ancestral times in the relationship alcohol was rare.
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  It was something seasonal, it was communal and tied to ritual.
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  And the years that we've grown up, cause I want to acknowledge what you're saying that it is changing, but in our youth, it was an everyday habit for many.
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  And I think that's what's carried us to this contrast we're starting to see.
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  What do you think is that major driver in modern day society towards daily alcohol consumption?
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  Cultural conditioning is real.
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  We started when we were a little boy or little girl when our parents said to us, oh no, no, little James or Sally, you can't drink, you can drink when you're older.
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  And in that moment, our parents cemented this idea that drinking was a right of passage, that drinking was something we got to do when we were older.
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  And then of course, as we get older, there are smiling assassins everywhere and smiling assassins are our friends and family and the waiters and waitresses
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  who are smiling as they offer us a drink. Hey, James, can I get you a drink? Sally, can I get you a drink? Hey, let's catch up for some drinks.
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  And we're all smiling as we drink this attractively packaged poison, which is what alcohol is.
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  And we move into college, people have fun, they get drunk, they have parties, we watch these Hollywood movies like American pie, which glorifies all of the fun shenanigans we get up to as we drink.
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  Then we move into the workplace and the workplace is like, let's catch up for some afterwork drinks.
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  And we use it as a way to bond and connect and get to no people.
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  And then we get invited over to backyard barbecues or to football games and everyone's smiling as they're drinking this poison and the conditioning continues.
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  And of course, we normalize drinking poison because everywhere around us, we're seeing people smiling at us.
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  And we're the ones who are the smiling assassins as well because when we invite people over to our home, we want to be a very hospitable host, don't we?
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  Can I get you a drink? What would you like? I've got vodka, I've got red wine.
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  And then we watch these super bowl commercials, which are very funny, very well produced, where celebrities are drinking beer and we've got Peyton Manning, the former NFL quarterback who's promoting calls or Bud Weiser as he was in the 2025 super bowl commercial and they're funny and they're great.
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  And we just think for this is normal, but it's not normal. This is not the way nature intended us to live drinking poison, it's ridiculous.
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  It's very hard to break that conditioning, very challenging because everywhere we look, people are smiling as they drink this poison.
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  I'm not aware that I actually know your story with why you came down this path. I find it fascinating because working with health practitioners, there's always that catalyst that got them to follow that diet that they're professing to people or that philosophy that they're pushing.
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  So what is your story with alcohol? How bad did it get for you to realize, hey, none is good. Don't do any of it.
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  I was a socially acceptable drinker growing up in my native country of Australia in that I would have two or three drinks most nights of the week.
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  And I did that from age 17 right up until when I stopped at age 35.
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  Now in my 20s, certainly I got drunk on weekends, had a lot of fun, but I didn't get arrested for drinking. I didn't get a DUI, I didn't wake up in the ditch, I didn't have a rock bottom moment.
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  It was just very consistent, socially acceptable drinking habits, but I identified in my early to mid 30s that those drinking habits two or three drinks most nights of the week had caught up with me.
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  I was about 35 pounds overweight. I wasn't sleeping great. I was irritable, stressed. I was envious of other people. My life was just blah.
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  And by blah, I mean six out of 10 in my finances, six out of 10 in my happiness, six out of 10 in my relationship, six out of 10 in my overall happiness, mediocre, blah.
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  And it all came to a head in Austin, Texas in March of 2010. I was at that year's South by Southwest festival.
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  And I went out to an industry party. It was an open bar. I had two free Bombay Sapphire gin and tonics that I went back to my hotel about 20 minutes outside of downtown Austin.
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  I went to sleep. But when I woke up in the morning, I just felt mediocre. I looked in the mirror. I had tired and weathered skin bags under my eyes. I could feel the fat rolls over my pajama buttons.
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  And I walked to next door to this hotel to an IHOP, an international house of pancakes. And I sat down and I looked around me and I could see these very unhealthy looking people eating or you can eat pancakes with maple syrup and whipped cream.
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  Not even real maple syrup.
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  Yeah. And I looked out the window and I just thought, what am I doing in an IHOP? James enough. And I just said to myself, James enough, take a break from alcohol for 30 days and just see if you can feel better because this is kind of like.
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  Crap. This is so average. You're just drifting in life. And so that's what I did. I committed to quitting drinking for what I thought would be 30 days.
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  In those 30 days, I lost 13 pounds that just fell off me because when we drink alcohol, we consume a lot of calories. And then when we drink alcohol, we also eat a lot of additional calories like burgers and fries, for example.
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  So in 30 days, I lost 13 pounds. I had an opportunity to audition to become a television host on a TV show called Sports Center on ESPN. And because I was sleeping better and felt better and looked better and had more confidence and strategy.
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  I decided to go for it and I auditioned and I got the job. And I was on television two weeks later and I thought, wow, this is crazy. I'm like, this clarity and focus and energy is helping me surge forward creatively and professionally.
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  When I was a drinker, I noticed that when my parents would phone me from Australia, just to catch up with their son who was living in California at the time, that being me.
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  I would often screen their calls and I would go, my parents always call me at an inopportune time. But when I was alcohol free, I was calmer and more open and agreeable.
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  When the phone call came in once a week, I would like, oh, hi, mum, hi, dad, how you doing? I would be open to taking their call even if I was busy with other people at that time.
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  And then I attracted a great romantic relationship and far from me thinking that she would think that I was an alcoholic because I was choosing not to drink. She actually was very impressed with me living an alcohol free lifestyle and thought, wow, finally a real man who's got his stuff together who didn't invite me out just to a bar to have drinks.
• 11:05
  Invited me out on a Saturday morning hike. I'm like, oh, this is the kind of man I want to be with. Oh, this is pretty good. There's alcohol free living. So I just kept going and going and going and going and I got to one year later at the next year's South by Southwest Festival in 2011 back in Austin and I walked into the Luster Pearl bar in Rainy Street and I ordered what I thought would be a celebratory beer.
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  And just as I put the beer to my mouth at the last moment, I thought, you know what? In one year, I've got this dream job hosting sports center on ESPN. I've lost 35 pounds. I'm nicer and more agreeable, I'm less stressed. Got this great relationship.
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  I'm think I'm just going to keep on going. So I called the bartender over handing back the Budweiser that I'd ordered.
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  Walked out of that Luster Pearl bar and I haven't so much just picked up an alcoholic drink since and that was all the way back in 2011. I've been 15 years alcohol free now and now I've created this organization in this movement called alcohol free lifestyle which helps high achievers to re-explore their relationship to alcohol.
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  Many of them quit alcohol. They save marriages. They feel better. They look better. They surge in their wealth and their finance and it's now this movement that's really caught on.
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  Do you label yourself an alcoholic though?
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  No, never never have. And in fact, I don't even believe in the term alcoholic. In fact, the term alcoholic doesn't even exist in medical literature.
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  It's alcohol use disorder. Alcoholic at alcoholism is a made up societal word to kind of like generalize someone who's got a drinking problem.
• 12:49
  But someone who has a drinking problem can have wide ranging degrees, right? But when you watch a Hollywood movie or television shows like, oh, I'm an alcoholic. You see this person waking up in a ditch drinking out of a brown paper bag.
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  It's all ridiculous because someone can be drinking too much and not be what society deems an alcoholic.
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  So no, I never considered myself an alcoholic. I don't believe in the term. I think people throw it around loosely to incorporate anyone who has a challenge with drinking.
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  And I would just submit most people have an alcohol use disorder, which is temporary and something that we can certainly fix or amend or improve upon as opposed to millions of people mistakenly labeling themselves as an alcoholic, which is an identity, which is very hard to shift.
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  I love that you're saying this because I have been thinking about that perspective for a long time. You know, I sometimes listen to DAC shepherds, armchair expert and he's always just focusing on that label.
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  I'm an alcoholic. I'm this and that and I felt very similarly to you that the label is not accurate because no one can be all just one thing. Always, right?
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  Humans are not consistent like that. First of all, and secondly, I've always wondered like is the label that he's holding on to of what he is keeping him in it.
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  So I have to wonder you started this program. You probably get people that do label themselves alcoholics into the program. So how do you kind of help them deemphasize that label?
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  I say to them, you are not an alcoholic. That's the first thing I do. And it kind of like what? What are you talking about? I'm like, you are not an alcoholic. You're experiencing an alcohol use disorder, but that's temporary.
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  And we're going to shift that. We're going to rewire your mindset. When people are saying, I'm an alcoholic. That's labeling yourself that that's an identity. It's so hard to shift that from people. And I see it all the time, especially celebrities like DAC shepherds. I get it.
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  And look, if that works for someone, okay, great. If that's effective as it seems to have been for people like Brad Pitt and Robert Downey, Jr. and people who call themselves an alcoholic. If that works for you. Okay.
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  Who am I to challenge it? Double down on that. But I would submit. It's an ineffective strategy for millions of people around the world because you're labeling yourself an identity, which is very hard to shift.
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  You are not an alcoholic. You're you.
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  And it may be true that you're finding it challenging with alcohol or you found it challenging in the past, but using neuroscience as we do at our alcohol free lifestyle organization.
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  Some mind rewiring techniques, getting in a like-minded community, focusing on health, focusing on conscious communication and personal development.
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  We can get rid of this alcohol use disorder and you can love living alcohol free. And the way the reason I'm so confident with this is because I see people come to our organization all the time saying, I'm an alcoholic and I go, you're not an alcoholic.
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  And then they go throughout 90 day stop drinking process and they start to have all of their pre-existing beliefs challenged and then suddenly they're extinguished and they come out the other side going, yes, I love living an alcohol free lifestyle.
• 16:36
  Really, you're referring in many ways to people that have gone to AA because that is a program that absolutely focuses on that label, right?
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  You potentially getting people that are years of following some other philosophy, which is that's really what that is. And then they're experiencing yours and you're saying in 90 days, they're able to release that label.
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  Yes, I am saying that in fact the University of Washington did a scientific study on our 90 day stop drinking process back in 2023 and now 90 day stop drinking process is called project 90.
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  And the result of that scientific study was a 98% reduction in drinking amongst the study participants.
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  Now that's pretty amazing. Now by comparison, AA has an actual success rate of about 7% according to many studies.
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  That almost makes it sound like it's a cult opposed to an actual effect of program.
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  It's effective for 7% of people who attempt it. It's ineffective for 93% of people who attempt it.
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  Now AA as a brand is fantastic because everybody knows what AA stands for. Alcoholics anonymous AA gets referenced in Hollywood movies on TV shows.
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  People talk about how they went to AA and it saved them. Hollywood celebrities like Brad Pitt, Dr. Shepherd, 12 step program. Everyone knows this, right?
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  That organization's been around 85 years. So they own the branding, they own the, hey, this is the way to do it. This is worked.
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  And it has worked for millions of people. It's worked for millions of people. So if you're listening and it's worked for you, keep doing it, keep doing it.
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  But it's been ineffective for most people who attempt it. In fact, there was a book by Dr. Lance Dodds out of Harvard University called The Sober Truth.
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  And he reported these actual success rates of AA and he described AA's actual success rate as one of the worst in modern medicine.
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  Why is it still around then? I feel like most practices, if you find something better, then something better takes over. But this sounds so antiquated and like I said, almost cult like in that it's not as effective as it could be given that it's been around so long and yet it's still relied on by people.
• 19:06
  Well, it's still reliable for 7% of people who attempt it. And that doesn't feel like enough. You know what I mean? Like 7% for something's been around so long feels petty to me, you know, like that sounds ineffective.
• 19:18
  It is ineffective. And thankfully people are alerting about it. But I don't want to demonize AA because its mission is great. It's virtuous. It's fantastic. It's terrific. And it's helped millions of people.
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  And like that's why I'm not here to bash AA. I'm just here to offer the idea that there are more effective solutions out there. Now look, I am biased. I have a process scientifically proven to reduce drinking by 98% according to the University of Washington. I am absolutely biased.
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  But I've just invite your listener, do your own research. Like go out there and research AA's actual success rate. I'm telling you, it is one of the worst success rates on all of medicine.
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  The only thing worse than AA's actual success rate is probably willpower and motivation and people trying to wipe, knuckle it. That's the worst success rate of all time.
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  And it doesn't matter how many times you and I have these types of conversations. There'll be many of you listeners who will still try to use willpower, motivation, white knuckling at moderation.
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  And they will be stuck on a stop start cycle for years and possibly decades.
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  Now why 90 days for your program is that I assume that scientifically proven that it's you need that specific amount of time.
• 20:37
  Well, there's a lot of studies that suggest 66 or 67 days is how long it takes to break a habit. However, as it relates to alcohol being so insidious, I can just share anecdotally I've tested this because I've been coaching people for 10 years.
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  66 days is too short because people start to get this pink cloud effect where they think I got this are broken and no problems.
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  And then they say, oh, you know what? I'll just have one. I'll just go back and just have one or I'll have a drink on a special occasion.
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  Well, first of all, drinking is not a special occasion. Every day you choose to be alcohol free is the special occasion. I would submit.
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  So what we found is also what is horrendously ineffective long term at these 30 day challenges like dry January and sober October and dry July.
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  They're great at getting millions of people to dip their toe in the water and actually experience what it's like to be alcohol free.
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  However, most of the time people are going into it and experiencing it as deprivation because on day 30, what do people do? They celebrate with what a drink.
• 21:44
  And the challenge with that is that all during those 30 days, they're kind of like celebrating their willpower. I've got on day 27, three days to go on day 30.
• 21:53
  Oh, yeah. Now I can celebrate with a drink. Well, I would submit what is the point of doing those 30 day challenges if you're going to celebrate with the drink because you've just convinced yourself that drinking equals fun and pleasure and not drinking equals pain and deprivation.
• 22:09
  So to answer your question around why 90 days 30 days is way too short because people going into it just try to get to 30 days.
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  66 67 days, which is when study show is when people effectively do break a habit doesn't appear to be effective enough as it relates to an insidious drug like alcohol, which is what it is.
• 22:29
  90 days seems to be the sweet spot where people have had a few plateaus that kind of felt a little bit challenged but they've been able to get in a like minor community and feel really empowered and positive.
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  They lose weight, they feel better, they're sleeping better, they're consciously communicating with their kids and their wives and husbands and they get to 90 days.
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  And now that's like now I get to keep going, you know what I want to keep going I desire to live an alcohol free lifestyle as opposed to needing to be sober or needing to be in AA.
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  So 90 days, this seems to be really like a terrific sweet spot where people then have shifted their identity from I can't break the stop start habit to I get to be alcohol free.
• 23:17
  What do you think about that concept that that part of humanity is that we are going to find addiction somewhere so let's just say you found it in alcohol and then you do a program like yours and then now you're not doing alcohol but then do you just swing this something else because typically that does happen right particularly I've seen it in AA where they go from drinking alcohol to then now smoking cigarettes like frickin.
• 23:46
  So what do you see in your 10 years like do you find that we default to something excessive.
• 23:54
  If I've done my job properly then the excessive thing which isn't really excessive but becoming obsessed let's say with health, fitness, personal development, real human connection.
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  I can tell you anecdotally a lot of folks when they first quit drinking through our process turn to sugar chocolate they crave sugary substances but then we support them with that by steering them more towards dark chocolate which is a lot healthier.
• 24:26
  You know like 85% dark chocolate cacao we show them how to instead of eating things like ice cream we put them onto Greek yogurt which is very high in protein instead of putting candy and sweets in their desserts we have them put blueberries which are very low glycemic index and delicious some raw honey.
• 24:47
  So there are ways that we can reeducate or educate people on how they can have sugary sweets and kind of get that dopamine hit from what they were getting from alcohol but the the obsession I think I think that's an exaggeration from me it's not really an obsession what I found people turn to once they quit alcohol if they're doing it effectively is focusing on being like a professional sleeper.
• 25:16
  They get an aura ring they track their sleep they start to modify they start to go for morning hikes on a Saturday they join a gym they start to understand the difference between paleo style eating or keto or grass fed beef as opposed to farm or corn raised beef they understand the difference between farm raised salmon and wild caught salmon they understand about good fats they understand
• 25:45
  understand about the crap that a US diet mostly has and then they become i wouldn't say obsessed but i would say like really enthusiastic about throwing themselves into that i have not experienced a lot of our clients turning now to cigarettes or to marijuana or to ketamine or anything because they've now removed alcohol but i do acknowledge that many people probably do do that.
• 26:12
  yeah it's interesting but it sounds like what you're doing is you're infusing your program with functional health as well it's not just about.
• 26:19
  Hey let's get you out of the habit of drinking alcohol but let's actually re reframe re teach you how to live a healthy lifestyle or choose a life healthy lifestyle yeah it's all functional health James absolutely.
• 26:34
  I always say to people this isn't a stop drinking program this is just a life change program we're going to show you how to do it through stopping drinking for 90 days so people come to us with this challenge of alcohol but they leave with.
• 26:48
  How to eat well how to move how to sleep well how to have conscious communication what you do when you're irritated or frustrated different than what you were doing and you know becomes very much about the work that you do James you know really supporting people good health good nutrition great sleep conscious communication personal development growth mindset.
• 27:11
  And you do that through a stop drinking container then by day nine you come out the other end your your educated on health fitness communication you feel better and then you're just rocking and rolling from there.
• 27:24
  I love that you're articulating that some of these ancestral practices you know of like your food your sleep your exercise all these very foundational habits.
• 27:34
  Are so much a part of getting better and how you're infusing that in the people that go through your programs but i'm wondering.
• 27:43
  Is there for the person that's listening that hasn't started your program that maybe though is realizing hey I do have a problem what is like the first.
• 27:52
  Of those foundational habits that you would recommend that they just.
• 27:56
  start focusing on prior to joining a program like yours will look I would say stop trying to quit drinking and instead focus on what you will do.
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  Because there's a bundle of nerves in our brain called the particular activating system and it focuses in on those things that we.
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  Focus on so if we're saying quit drinking our carts drink I need to quit we're thinking about alcohol and so it's very easy to then drink alcohol.
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  Instead tell your mind what you will do and in this example it is.
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  Easily only drink soda water ice in a piece of line.
• 28:37
  When you walk into the bar i'm say to yourself i'm going to go up to the barman i'm going to order a soda water with some cranberry or splash a.
• 28:45
  Pineapple or whatever tell yourself what you will do right that mindset shift is powerful second thing would be get around a group of like minded people.
• 28:55
  Who also want to love living alcohol free create some accountability because that camaraderie will generate accountability but if your.
• 29:05
  Friends and family and colleagues are all glorifying alcohol and have no interest in reducing or quitting alcohol.
• 29:13
  Being in that environment is going to remain very challenging okay so getting into an environment of like minded community of people who are health conscious.
• 29:20
  Try to find some communities who are hiking on a Saturday morning doing group exercise because.
• 29:27
  The fastest way to get a set of six pack abs if you're a man is to hang out with other men who've got six pack abs i'm just using that as an example right like but for women.
• 29:36
  Get out of this wine a clock culture get out of this hey it's why to call come on girls come on ladies let's get together get out of this noncicle let's meet for for cocktails on Sunday morning and have a boozy brunch get out of that and instead find health conscious communities.
• 29:54
  So I would definitely say that and then more practically if you did want to get coaching again i'm biased but head over to alcohol free lifestyle we have a podcast which is called alcohol free lifestyle.
• 30:07
  I have a book which I wrote called clear it's a neuroscience based approach to help.
• 30:12
  People to rewire their mindset i would submit listen to the audio book of clear or get the book.
• 30:18
  But do something that has your incoming information be all about healthy living keep listening to to your podcast i would say to your listener as well around health functional health good nutrition health focus on.
• 30:34
  Great sleep habits because all of those things combined are going to help you to reduce your craving just one more thing i will say this there was an interesting study that came out.
• 30:43
  That showed that you can reduce your craving for any drug.
• 30:47
  By simply incorporating a daily gratitude practice.
• 30:52
  That's fascinating to me so if you live a life of appreciation instead of expectation you're craving for a drug reduces by up to 30% that is bananas like that to me is just fascinating.
• 31:05
  Which is why we have our project 90 clients during their 90 days.
• 31:09
  Write down 20 things they're grateful for every day each day of the 90 days that they're with us because that rewires their mindset to live a life of appreciation.
• 31:21
  Instead of expectation which has been scientifically proven to reduce cravings for any drug.
• 31:27
  I love that yeah it's been a Zadi says get more vitamin G gratitude that's really really great now where it is.
• 31:36
  Moderation fit for you does moderation even exist for you with alcohol because that's one thing that you hear spouted all the time around food around alcohol around anything is people always like well you can have a cheat day or you know as long as it's in moderation as long as it's not all the time so where does that philosophy fit for you.
• 31:57
  Moderation is a myth first of all why are you saying to yourself i'll just have a drink on a special occasion i'll just drink on weekends if you're saying that you're still positioning alcohol as something worthy to be glorified.
• 32:15
  You're still looking at attractively packaged poison is something that's fun desirable special it's not it's piss in a bottle it's flavored piss in a bottle that's all it is.
• 32:28
  So clinging on to this idea i just drink on weekends i'll just drink at a wedding i just drink kind of.
• 32:35
  I would just invite you to reframe your mindset on that every day you choose not to drink is the gift is the special occasion certainly our clients tell us moderation is a myth.
• 32:47
  And candidly people have been trying moderation for years and it's a very very slippery slope you start off by saying i'll just drink on weekends then suddenly someone offers you a drink on a Thursday and you go well it's close enough then all of a sudden it's like oh it's Wednesday i'll have a drink.
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  And then it's like Tuesday and then Monday and then next thing you know you're drinking daily and experiencing all of the negative consequences that come with that lot of people do these 30 day challenges like we're reference before they then start drinking again on day 30 and they return to the same level of drinking they inspired them to do these 30 day challenges in the first place that's a form of moderation.
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  You do these deals with yourself i'll just have one drink a night that turns and one into one and a half turns into two the slippery slope gets you all the sudden few years go by now you're drinking three now you're drinking a bottle of night now it just increases then you get into your 50s and 60s and go well whatever i'm i'll just drink more.
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  An on and on and on it goes over weeks months years and decades if you are the type of personality that can realistically have a drink on occasion i'm not saying a special occasion i'm just saying have a drink on occasion and that quantity of drinking is controllable at it's not compromising your life in any meaningful way okay sure go ahead drink like that.
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  But for most people for most people if you realistic with yourself with your honest with yourself moderation is a myth.
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  Is there any distinction between what you're drinking anthropologist for example say like ancestral alcohol was only about one to four percent alcohol by volume compared to today's spirits are like what 40% or more.
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  Because i've heard in my circles as well like oh this is homemade meat you know with raw honey and da da da da and like that makes it better and then of course even things like kombucha have alcohol on them is the what you're drinking of factor or are we just specifically talking about no no i'm talking about you know like wine beers you know liquor like things that have specific amounts of ABV.
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  The two worst alcoholic drinks you can have from a toxins point of view are actually pretty surprising you want to have a a bet james or do you want to have a go at it try to figure out one of the two worst alcohol drinks for you from toxins point of view i want to try to guess before you say but i probably won't figure it out even though everyone's always saying it's so healthy for you i or healthier for you i would i my brain goes to vodka for some reason as one of them but you know actually i'm not a
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  i don't drink enough to even know what other things are really out there so you know margaritas i don't know no sweet drinks maybe sweet drinks would you be surprised to learn that the two worst alcoholic drinks for you are actually beer and red wine really the ones that are the you know the highest volume of sales basically beer and wine toxins all the toxins from it it's crazy and people are like what beer and wine what are you talking about
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  how how can that be true but from a toxins point of view they're horrendous the least bad is actually some form of tequila so some tequila coming from natural cane can actually be almost you could argue like very small amounts could almost be beneficial for you in a way now i'm not talking about drinking a lots of tequila i'm just talking about like a drink a little bit of tequila that actually is the least bad because it's the cleanest
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  but in terms of toxins the way that they make beer pesticides red wine toxins same thing like the worst for you did you know also that you can take a strand of hair from someone who's had a drink and seven days later put that hair under a microscope and you can see whether they drink or not
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  that's how long the toxins stick around in the body crazy isn't it like you said i have to imagine like having these things like or rings having something to measure how these things affect us has helped this this younger generation go i don't even need to go that route
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  i mean because we didn't have that data before right not even just the younger generation but the older generation i've got a client called even melt your and he won't mind me referencing his name but he came to us i think four years ago
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  and he'd been tracking his sleep as a drinker for one year and he came to us he was broken he was on like
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  any anxiety medication he was on sleep medication he was on acid reflux high blood pressure medication
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  he had a young son he had marital strain and you know he'd been pretty good at tracking his heart rate
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  variability and he's sleep for a year as a drinker he came to us joined project 90 we helped him rewire his mindset helped him stop drinking
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  and he continued to track his heart rate and his sleep over the next year that he became a one year alcohol free man
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  and he estimated that he saved five million heartbeats in the year that he was alcohol free
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  his heart rate as a drinker was elevated you know because of the pressure and strain that he was putting his heart
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  under as a drinker his heart was going something like this and then as a non-drinker it came back to more
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  natural levels you know that might be an exaggeration slightly but let's just like five million
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  heartbeats like he absolutely tracked through his aura five million heartbeats a year
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  now he's been four years alcohol free as we're recording this so that's what 20 million heartbeats
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  he's saved over four years he's lost 25 pounds he's marriage has been saved he's present with
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  his kid he is really loving life here I'll show you a photo as well of a before and after
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  of Evan I know that your listener may not be able to see this but there's a before and after photo
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  I want I want to show you here it is here look at the the difference in Evan as a drinker to a
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  non-drinker clearly the drinking said he's got a lot of inflammation in his face
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  inflammation going on yeah and he looks so much brighter and thinner healthier in the other photo
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  I know like Eric Henman who's been on our podcast he talked about the difference in his 20s
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  between drinking and then getting fully off of it it is incredible that's his resting heart rate
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  you can see how it's going down over time as a non-drinker and then you can see here he's
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  sleep score how he sleeps calls has been improving as a non-drinker there's people though that talk
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  about like the disposition gene wise for alcoholism have you debunked that is is there any truth to
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  that there's some studies that suggest that if a family member like a father or a mother or
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  grandparent or uncle art had an alcohol use disorder you have up to a 50% increased rate of
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  also experiencing an alcohol use disorder that has been established however with what we now
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  understand about epigenetics we can actually control or eliminate an alcohol use disorder
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  through lifestyle and environment and community so for example if you take someone and you put
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  them in a engaged group of healthy people you get them walking 10,000 steps a day you get them
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  focused on sleep you get them around a really positive mindset a group of people we can change
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  the expression of our genes now we can't change our genetic code that is set for life
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  but we can change the expression of those genes through what we now understand with epigenetics
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  which can destroy an alcohol use disorder so it's pretty amazing and pretty exciting that we can
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  do that now so just because you have a predisposition to an alcohol use disorder doesn't mean that
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  that is setting stone first of all I love that the guests come on here from so many different
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  walks of life from so many different angles and yet it all tends to boil back down to those very
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  foundational ancestral practices that we talk about all the time here exercise, sleep,
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  connection, stress levels and basically like being outside all these very basic foundational
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  health practices they continually come up in the discussions organically and they tend to be
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  the solutions is there anything that you would add to what the person listening or watching should
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  or could be thinking about to break free of habits and certain cycles that are not contributing to
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  their health. I had one of the world's leading addiction experts come and talk to our clients
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  about two months ago his name's Professor David Bellan from Cambridge University and we had him
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  on a Zoom call there were about 90 of our clients all there asking him questions and he was answering
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  them and one of our clients asked him a question what are the two best supplements that someone can
• 42:03
  take to overcome an alcohol use disorder or to overcome any addiction and his answer was profound he
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  said two things exercise and human connection and I thought wow that seems too simple and I
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  challenged him exercise and human connection what are you talking about he said exercises been shown
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  to release endorphins oxytocin serotonin makes us feel better we get our heart rate going we're
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  doing breath work it's like meditation and metabolism is going helps us sleep better helps us feel
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  better by feeling better we get into a much more powerful mindset which gives us the foundation
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  to be able to make big habit changes and then the other thing was real human connection
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  real human connection the longest running study of all time is out of Harvard University it's
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  wed for about 90 years and they they tracked men from the 1920s or 30s of all I think they're
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  almost all dead now but they tracked these people over a lifetime and what they found was that the
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  biggest contributor to happiness was the quality of their relationships real human connection so to
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  make any habit change it's not reading another book going to YouTube video and trying to get a new
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  secret formula and learning something new and what's the latest supplement and what's the latest
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  medical device you can really just bring it back to move your body and get exercising because it
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  makes you feel good and that will inspire you to change and that will make change easier and get
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  around a like minor group of people and focus on the quality of your relationships because that
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  supportive community is likewise is going to create accountability for habit change I love that
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  that's really powerful themes and like I said they continually come up on this podcast before we
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  go though I do want to bring up what's fascinating to me about these younger generations to your
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  point many of them are not drinking but what they're also doing though is they are isolating at
• 44:09
  least that's what we're told right they're isolating there on social media they're not interacting
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  as much so is there a high potential for fallout because they aren't connecting the way that we're
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  talking about there if anything they're isolating they're keeping their distance from people
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  in person but they're doing it virtually then is that setting them up for failure should they ever
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  get a taste for a drug or something like alcohol you you know where I'm going with this
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  yeah it's very possible I do acknowledge that it is a problem that people are isolating a lot more
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  which is why you do great work and I do great work and we need to get people out there really
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  identifying that real human connection not over a screen not on a zoom call or a WhatsApp or on
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  social media DMs but real in-person human connection is the most profound way that people can
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  positively impact their life so yeah I can understand that people isolate I mean we saw an
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  example of that in the pandemic we're all isolated and alcohol related deaths increase 25%
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  as a result of the pandemic because of that isolation they drank more and the consequence of
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  that was still experiencing five years later so it is a real concern however the ones who are
• 45:30
  participating have never felt better apparently back in my native country of Australia on
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  Bondi Beach they have these morning sunrise parties now where they have a DJ come out and play
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  and go on of the days where people would stay out all night and get drunk and do drugs and then
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  come on go and pass out on the on the beach and watch the sunrise you know and then have to
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  sleep all day recovering from a drug and alcohol for your evening and they're being replaced now
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  with people waking up at 4.30 in the morning and going down to Bondi Beach and welcoming the sun
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  dancing party and having fun listening to a DJ but no drugs no alcohol no nothing just community
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  and then after the sun's come up they all go for a walk or a hike or a swim it's great mating
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  strategy you people used to go and like mate at nightclubs meet people now like meeting on the beach
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  at sunrise crazy yeah that's amazing you know and having concerts and things earlier rather than
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  everything so late I mean it would be it would be more and more powerful as we start to see that you
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  know see more matinee times for these events that we wait for in the evening that as you said earlier
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  like kind of you associate with oh I'm going to have a drink or I'm going to do this at that event
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  but if they're they're more during the day we would probably be more mindful of our health and
• 46:49
  our well-being so we can go get a good night's sleep well James it's been a real pleasure here in
• 46:54
  your thoughts on this I'm continually amazed at how the conversation does tend to come back to
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  those foundational ancestral human practices can you share again how people can find your program
• 47:09
  and then also connect with you thank you James alcohol free lifestyle calm is our website if you
• 47:16
  want to dig into project 90 alcohol free lifestyle calm slash project 90 my book clear a neuroscience
• 47:24
  based approach to break free from alcohol without AA rehab or will power is available on Amazon
• 47:30
  you can get the audio book it's eight hours and duration listening to my incredible Australian accent
• 47:36
  or four hours if you put me on double speed as most people probably will but it is author
• 47:43
  and then my Instagram account is probably my most engaged social media and it's just my name
• 47:48
  at James swanick and I do a lot of videos there about helping people rewire their mindset around alcohol
• 47:54
  and then our podcast is alcohol free lifestyle you can find it on Spotify or or Apple podcasts
• 48:00
  one last question I realized and maybe I already know this answer but for the person that's not
• 48:05
  aware that the alcohol or their these lifestyle choices are affecting them how does one bring
• 48:13
  awareness to them is it or is it simply like hey if you're drinking right now and you're doing it
• 48:19
  more than once a week or something or more than once every two weeks then just stop and you will
• 48:27
  start to see changes like how because I find it's contrast that really helps someone with change
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  so how does the person that not that's not realizing that it's an issue find change
• 48:42
  experiment run an experiment 14 days 21 days 30 days if you've never done that long
• 48:49
  of going alcohol free test it yourself see what happens what will probably happen is this
• 48:56
  you will lose weight you will sleep better you'll be less irritable less stressed less anxious you'll
• 49:02
  be calmer more generous happier you won't understand why you're happier they'll just go oh I just
• 49:08
  feel a bit nicer your husband or your wife will say to you I'm proud of you your kids will just
• 49:14
  say oh let's go and play if they're young kids or your adult kids will start phoning you and
• 49:19
  wanting to have a conversation with you the definition of success is your adult children literally
• 49:24
  wanting to spend time with you and that will happen and will be a consequence of you being calmer
• 49:29
  and clearer and nicer and more agreeable from not drinking alcohol because alcohol makes a stress
• 49:36
  and anxious and sleep poorly so just experiment run an experiment once your eyes open you can't
• 49:44
  close them again because do you will feel it doesn't matter how much evidence I supply you with
• 49:50
  on a podcast like this I give you the data give you the stats in one ear out the other for most
• 49:55
  listeners they go that was an interesting podcast well I was fascinating and then pour yourself a drink
• 50:01
  but if you just reduce at the very least or stop give yourself that gift of an experiment like
• 50:07
  I did all the way back in 2010 I thought it was going to be 30 days I'm 15 years alcohol free
• 50:12
  you will experience profound contrast you will experience health wealth love and happiness and
• 50:18
  you will love living an alcohol free lifestyle love it thank you James and thank you again for
• 50:25
  sharing this wisdom to for going on this path for helping so many people and for being a model of
• 50:31
  what's possible we need more people doing the work that you're doing in all facets of life so thank
• 50:38
  you again and thank you all for participating in this podcast make sure to share to tell us how
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• 50:51
  and enjoying what you're listening or watching thank you again and everyone please stay curious
• 50:58
  hey friends thanks for sticking around so in this episode our guest James Swan Lake
• 51:04
  referenced a statistic claiming alcoholics anonymous has a seven percent success rate
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  compared to 98 percent for his 90 day program now while James clearly states that he is not
• 51:16
  bashing a a and that it works really well for people and has helped countless lives so what I'm
• 51:22
  about to say is no implication stores James he's a very upstanding person I just want to clarify
• 51:28
  the numbers because you probably heard how shocked I was and I was like well why is this even exist
• 51:32
  if it's only seven percent that's just seems so low so I just it caused me to kind of want to dig
• 51:38
  a little deeper into the stats and what you know that's referencing so the issue is really in
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  the comparison AA is a long term open ended program while most 90 day programs report short term
• 51:52
  success as completion or sobriety at discharge so it's not really about sustained recovery even
• 51:59
  though James has witnessed sustained recovery these stats though are measuring very different
• 52:04
  outcomes so in reality AA they do not publish official success rates but research shows 20 to 30
• 52:11
  percent of members achieve long term sobriety and 50 to 70 percent of those who stay actively
• 52:17
  engaged maintain recovery and that's source from Stanford bed recovery research institute and the NIH
• 52:24
  so the takeaway is context matters without its stats can be misleading and even well intention
• 52:32
  comments can unintentionally shape unfair conclusions like I said James was very adamant about not
• 52:41
  meaning to bash or insinuate AA is not a good program the takeaway context matters without its stats
• 52:50
  can mislead and even well intention comments can unintentionally shape unfair conclusions so I hope
• 52:56
  this a little addendum to the episode has helped please continue to be curious and thank you so
• 53:02
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