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Embracing Truth and Overcoming Adversity – How to Face Life’s Toughest Challenges with Courage · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I see where I'm at today, but I know where
• 0:03
  Speaker 1: I come from, and it's kind of hard to almost
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: separate that. I'm almost not in a way I'm kissing
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: my own ass, but I'm amazed at what a human
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: being can actually do. So when I started talking to
• 0:14
  Speaker 1: myself in the third person, it's strictly because I know
• 0:17
  Speaker 1: that I literally made this human being out of out
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  Speaker 1: of this like a whole bunch of scraps. And I
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: wasn't you know, I wasn't a mechanic. I wasn't a carpenter,
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  Speaker 1: so I didn't know how to do any of you know,
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't trained and how to build a human being
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  Speaker 1: from nothing. You know, like my mom didn't train me,
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  Speaker 1: and my dad didn't trade me. Life didn't trade me. Well,
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: life did train me. Correction, And I started putting this
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  Speaker 1: scrap mel together, I'm like, I wonder what to do?
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  Speaker 1: Going happened?
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 1: The first year I tried to do is all fucked up.
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  Speaker 1: And after a while I started learning more and more
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  Speaker 1: and more through pain and suffer. I start len just
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  Speaker 1: learning so much about stuff before I knew it. Man,
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  Speaker 1: I built this beautiful car, and I'm like, how the
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: did I do that, and I knew how. I know
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  Speaker 1: how to do it because I have all the tools
• 1:03
  Speaker 1: through all the failure I went through trying to build
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  Speaker 1: this person who's goggets. When I was growing up, I
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  Speaker 1: was being bullied in all kinds of shit. My grandfather
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  Speaker 1: looked at me and he says, you know what, man,
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  Speaker 1: You're not going to mount to it because of how
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  Speaker 1: you hang your head. And as true and as real
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  Speaker 1: as it was, it hurt and a lot of us.
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  Speaker 1: What we do is we hide from the truth.
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  Speaker 2: We don't want to tell people the truth.
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  Speaker 1: We see people every day, loved ones, friends, family members,
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  Speaker 1: We see them walking around. Everybody has seen them gain weight,
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  Speaker 1: they're not going to school. But we live in a kinder,
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  Speaker 1: gentler world, so we don't say to them. We just
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  Speaker 1: watch them fail because why we don't know what to
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  Speaker 1: say or how to say it, or we may lose
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  Speaker 1: them as friends, or they may not love us anymore.
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  Speaker 2: You're watching someone fail.
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  Speaker 1: The best thing you may ever do for someone is
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  Speaker 1: to say, hey, guess what, brother, you're a piece of
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  Speaker 1: right now. You may not say it just that way.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you may want to say to somebody. Look, man,
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  Speaker 1: I love you to death. Brother, But your life sucks.
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  Speaker 2: You're not. You are so much better than this man.
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  Speaker 2: You're so much better. I'm watching you fail and I
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  Speaker 2: can't do it. So the best advice I ever got.
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  Speaker 1: Was a negative comment from my grandpa, you ain't going
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  Speaker 1: to amount to shit.
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  Speaker 2: And he didn't mean it in like a mean way.
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  Speaker 1: He meant it as honestly, you're allowing this world to
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  Speaker 1: kick your ass and it's going to keep on letting
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  Speaker 1: it do it.
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  Speaker 2: And it stuck with me. It stuck with me for
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  Speaker 2: a long time.
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  Speaker 1: The one thing that made me who and today is
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  Speaker 1: being vulnerable. It's breaking myself down to the absolute rock
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  Speaker 1: bottom and being able to tell people who I am.
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  Speaker 1: And that's how I fixed it. Literally looks somebody in
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  Speaker 1: the eyes. You know what, man, I have a whole
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  Speaker 1: bunch of character problems, character flaws. I've lied about this.
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  Speaker 1: I've cheated here, I'm insecure here. This isn't the real
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  Speaker 1: me I lied to you about that. I wanted your
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  Speaker 1: acceptance in life. All those things happen. But the thing
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  Speaker 1: about it is that we get judged so quickly by
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  Speaker 1: who we are. We don't know.
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  Speaker 2: We don't go to the to where it happened.
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  Speaker 1: You know, life created this person me life, Life created
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  Speaker 1: me to be this person that was back in the day,
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  Speaker 1: and I had to realize, Man, that's okay, man, it's
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  Speaker 1: not my fault. Now I gonna go back and fix
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  Speaker 1: this shit though, So a lot of this isn't your fault.
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  Speaker 1: Why you do some things you do, why you feel
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  Speaker 1: the way you feel, but no one's coming back to
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  Speaker 1: save your ass. You have to go back to where
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  Speaker 1: the sh started, wherever that place is for everybody. And
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  Speaker 1: had the courage to go back there and start fixing
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  Speaker 1: what broke you's And that's why I was like, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm fund up, I'm gonna go back and fix this though.
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  Speaker 1: Mediocrity is everywhere right now, and we're all trying to
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  Speaker 1: find an easy way out, and we're judging ourselves. Let's
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  Speaker 1: say there's ten people in this room and we're all mediocre.
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  Speaker 1: I'm the best of the mediocre people. I now think
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  Speaker 1: I'm great, best of the mediocre people. We surround ourselves
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  Speaker 1: around people that make us feel great. They tell us
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  Speaker 1: what we want to hear. The second we put ourselves
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  Speaker 1: amongst the uncommon people, we don't like that feeling, that
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  Speaker 1: challenge and feel of that person's waking up at three
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  Speaker 1: thirty mornings.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, push your shit on, we're going for a run.
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  Speaker 2: We don't like that challenge.
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  Speaker 1: We like that person who says, hey, you know what, man,
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel good today.
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  Speaker 2: Man, And they say, oh.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay, brother, We'll take a day off. Maybe we'll
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  Speaker 1: get a pizza and watch the game. We like that
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  Speaker 1: why because you understand, man, we don't want that in
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  Speaker 1: our lives. We don't want that person who's constantly challenging
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  Speaker 1: our weaknesses, stop being a pump. We want that person
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  Speaker 1: who's constantly, you know, making us feel nice and good
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  Speaker 1: and secure in our.
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  Speaker 2: The mediocrity of life.
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  Speaker 1: As you're trying to fix yourself and dig yourself out
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  Speaker 1: of this deep hole that life society, and you helped.
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  Speaker 1: You helped also those people who you saw down there
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  Speaker 1: in that hole, who are there with you, who are
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  Speaker 1: your friends and people who you counted on. Because you
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  Speaker 1: meet the people in the same situation that you're in
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  Speaker 1: in life, those people become your friends, and second you
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  Speaker 1: try to get out of that situation, become better. Those
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  Speaker 1: people are in that grave, in that dungeeness, yanking at
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  Speaker 1: your heels, Man, say get the back. Oh no, getting old.
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  Speaker 1: Come out back here, mother, You ain't gonna make me
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  Speaker 1: feel like while you're getting out of this whole people
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  Speaker 1: would constantly remind me of who I used to be
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  Speaker 1: back in the day, and they always come out of
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  Speaker 1: the woodworks. Man. When you come from a small, small
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  Speaker 1: town and you come from a place that a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people don't want to come out of it and
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  Speaker 1: get out of it, and all you want to do
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  Speaker 1: is become somebody. When you have small town mentality is
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  Speaker 1: a real mentality. You've got to be able to get
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  Speaker 1: out and let your mind see open minded this because
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  Speaker 1: a small to what it does to you is it
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  Speaker 1: closes your mind completely, close your mind. Not to everybody.
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  Speaker 1: This isn't everybody a lot of people. You have to
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  Speaker 1: be able to go out there and create open mindedness.
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  Speaker 1: You need space. You need space to see the world.
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  Speaker 1: Like a lot of racism, a lot of ignorance in
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  Speaker 1: the world. It comes from people not being out and
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  Speaker 1: seeing other things, seeing other people, seeing all kind of shit.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we judge so harshly because our minds are
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  Speaker 1: so closed to the reality of life.
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  Speaker 2: Period.
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  Speaker 1: We want to be the best we can be amongst
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  Speaker 1: the average people. People wonder how do you stay hungry
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  Speaker 1: all the time? Because after I accomplish something, I don't
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  Speaker 1: sit back like a lot of guys who graduate buds
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  Speaker 1: graduate this graduate that they get comfortable.
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  Speaker 2: They wonder why I'm getting weak? Man? What's going on?
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  Speaker 2: Because once you hit the top of the mountain, guess
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  Speaker 2: what happened. I'm good. So you wonder why you're falling
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  Speaker 2: down now?
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  Speaker 1: Because once we get on the top of the mountain,
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  Speaker 1: you got to put up another one. That's mediocrity. There's
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people in mediocrity who have a nice resume,
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  Speaker 1: but they're one timers.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 1: They hit a one time deal, they busted it open,
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  Speaker 1: got a lot of money.
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  Speaker 2: But they're good.
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  Speaker 1: You're mediocre now, man, what are you doing today, tomorrow,
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  Speaker 1: the next day. That's what I'm listening to theorists. I
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  Speaker 1: don't listen to all that bullshit. That's the person who's
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  Speaker 1: gained knowledge. You gain knowledge through suffering. And on the
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  Speaker 1: other end of suffering, there is a world that very few,
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  Speaker 1: very few have ever seen. It's a beautiful world because
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  Speaker 1: that's where you find yourself. You don't find yourself in
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  Speaker 1: over here. You find yourself on the other end, like
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  Speaker 1: the one hundred mile race.
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  Speaker 2: I was on. I reaan it for twenty four hours.
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  Speaker 1: I found myself on the other end of that race.
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  Speaker 1: That nineteen hours. I found Wow, there's a whole another
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  Speaker 1: world out here ever even saw. The world is in
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  Speaker 1: your mind, and that's where all that mediocrity is about.
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  Speaker 2: Mediocrity is contagious.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny how our goals are only as elastic as
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  Speaker 1: our sense of self, of who we are.
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  Speaker 2: And what we think we can accomplish.
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  Speaker 1: If all you've ever done is run three miles at
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  Speaker 1: a clip, then a ten mile run can feel as
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  Speaker 1: far as the moon. Your mind will compile reasons why
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  Speaker 1: that distance is beyond you, and you may believe them.
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  Speaker 1: If tim becomes the new normal, then a half or
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  Speaker 1: full marathon maybe the next step after a marathon comes ultra.
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  Speaker 1: Each time you level up, your mind will step in
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  Speaker 1: like an overbearing chaperone and try to shut down the party.
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  Speaker 1: That very dynamic was playing out in my own mind.
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  Speaker 1: On the long drive, I flash to a thirty mile
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  Speaker 1: run i'd done with Cameron Haynes in Oregon back in
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  Speaker 1: December twenty eighteen. While we hammered the trails around his hometown.
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  Speaker 1: He gushed about a new race he'd finished two months earlier.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't a one hundred miler. It was a two
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  Speaker 1: hundred and forty point three mile trail race with nearly
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  Speaker 1: thirty thousand feet of elevation. Game that's more than the
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  Speaker 1: elevation of Mount Everest among the red rock formations, sheer
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  Speaker 1: dropoffs and desolated peaks of moapp two hundred and forty
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  Speaker 1: miles was that the new deep end? When I was
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  Speaker 1: learning to swim as a teenager, I spent all my
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  Speaker 1: time in the shallow end of the pool because there
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  Speaker 1: was no fear there. Even after I'd become proficient, I
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  Speaker 1: swam laps in the shallow end because it soothed me,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that with each stroke I damn near scrape bottom.
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  Speaker 1: If I got too tired or wanted to quit, I
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  Speaker 1: could simply stand up, and that gave me both comfort
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  Speaker 1: and confidence. It allowed me to work on my stroke
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  Speaker 1: without fear getting in the way. There is nothing inherently
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  Speaker 1: wrong with that, as long as we are clear that
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  Speaker 1: the shallow end work we put in is all about
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  Speaker 1: preparation for the deep end. But that was not my
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  Speaker 1: mindset at that point.
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  Speaker 2: In my life.
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  Speaker 1: The way the pool complex was laid out made it
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  Speaker 1: impossible to ignore the deep end. Each day I left
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  Speaker 1: the locker room, I had to walk by the ten
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  Speaker 1: foot section. Occasionally I stepped to the ledge and looked down.
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  Speaker 1: That ten foot floor felt bottomless to me, so I
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  Speaker 1: tucktail and strolled toward the cozy, little three foot marker.
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  Speaker 1: With each step, my dread faded, while my comfort swelled,
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  Speaker 1: and that with my psyche. I did my best to
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  Speaker 1: clear it out of my mind as I swam, but
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  Speaker 1: it lodged in there like a thorn, lap after lap,
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  Speaker 1: day after day. When something continually looms in the back
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  Speaker 1: of your mind like a taunting, that's an alarm. It's
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  Speaker 1: a signal that you need to evaluate and address that issue,
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  Speaker 1: or it may become a lifelong fear, looming larger each
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  Speaker 1: day until it morphs into an obstacle you may never overcome.
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  Speaker 2: There is nothing wrong with being afraid or hesitant.
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  Speaker 1: We all have our reasons for remaining in the shallow end,
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  Speaker 1: but we must make our shallow end a training ground.
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  Speaker 1: We lay back, get comfy, and then have the audacity
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  Speaker 1: to wonder why our lives aren't getting any better While
• 11:14
  Speaker 1: we do the same shit we've always done. I should
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  Speaker 1: have been using my time in a shallow end as
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  Speaker 1: mental preparation, imagining deep water. With every stroke, you have
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  Speaker 1: to train your mind as.
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  Speaker 2: If you are already there. If you get.
• 11:28
  Speaker 1: Tired while swimming laps in the shallow end, don't give
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  Speaker 1: yourself the option of standing up in the middle of
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  Speaker 1: the lane. Your only resting point should be the gunnille
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  Speaker 1: at the other end of the pool. That way, when
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  Speaker 1: you get to the ten foot end, you know from
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  Speaker 1: experience that you can make the distance. But back then,
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  Speaker 1: I was merely a survivor. I wasn't a warrior capable
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  Speaker 1: of thriving and discomfort. So I chose to bury my
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  Speaker 1: dread and log my pool hours in the shallow with
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: no end in sight. A lot of us grow out
• 12:03
  Speaker 1: of life shallow end, but stay there because we fear
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  Speaker 1: the unknown. I'm thinking of those who remain in a
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: secure job they hate instead of cutting ties, starting up
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  Speaker 1: their own business, or applying for a new position elsewhere.
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  Speaker 1: Most are intimidated by an unknown future, filled with variables
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  Speaker 1: and consequences they can't control or foresee. I know a
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  Speaker 1: person who ran other people's thriving businesses for twenty years,
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  Speaker 1: but was afraid to run her own. She knew every
• 12:29
  Speaker 1: aspect of what it took to become a successful entrepreneur,
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  Speaker 1: but rather then acknowledge her experience and use it as
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  Speaker 1: a confidence supply, she let her irrational fears keep her
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  Speaker 1: running in place for someone else. You need to evaluate
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: what you are feeling. Not every emotion deserves to be ratified. Remember,
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  Speaker 1: if you stay where you've always been, you will never learn.
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  Speaker 2: If you have what it takes to venture into the
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  Speaker 2: deep water.
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  Speaker 1: I honestly want to be considered one of the hardest
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  Speaker 1: men to walk the planet.
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  Speaker 2: The Earth, in the history of the world. And I
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  Speaker 2: mean by heart. I'm not talking about the guy who
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  Speaker 2: does the most pull ups, the most sit ups, runs
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  Speaker 2: the most.
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  Speaker 1: Just the person who's able to overcome any adversity in
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  Speaker 1: front of them to figure.
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  Speaker 2: Out a way. Hardness isn't about all this physical man.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it helped me get to where I'm at, But
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  Speaker 1: all I was doing in the whole process the process
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  Speaker 1: want to be ripped, They want to walk around my
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  Speaker 1: shirt off, That wasn't it. I knew through the physical challenges,
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  Speaker 1: through the physical suffering, my mind was getting stronger I
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  Speaker 1: was literally doing that for a reason. I had a
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  Speaker 1: weak mind. All the rest just happened to come with it.
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  Speaker 1: I was trying to strengthen the mind to handle all
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  Speaker 1: the judgment that's passed on me, perceived and not. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: you make it up in your own head, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I just want to be able to handle all of that,
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  Speaker 1: everything physical, mental.
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  Speaker 2: I want to be perceived as that, like an old
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: school Barbarian.
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  Speaker 1: An old school God is like God, damn man, nothing
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  Speaker 1: can hurt the guy, which is why the book is
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  Speaker 1: titled Can't Hurt Me. I want people to have that
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  Speaker 1: mantra in their life. Take that with you, take it
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  Speaker 1: everywhere you go in life. And if you believe that
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  Speaker 1: and you work towards that callous in your mind, strengthen yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Can't hurt me as strong. In any situation like WNA's
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  Speaker 1: and Buzz, they beat the out of you. I'd be
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  Speaker 1: the first one to get say, can't hurt me, mother,
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  Speaker 1: And they were beating the hell out of me.
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  Speaker 2: But you say that enough to you.
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  Speaker 1: False motivation becomes real motivation.
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  Speaker 2: After a while.
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  Speaker 1: They can't see themselves doing it. They can't see themselves
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  Speaker 1: doing it. It's one big reason The other reason is
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  Speaker 1: a lot of it is jealousy when you set these
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  Speaker 1: humongous and goals and they see that you're getting at it.
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  Speaker 2: Morning I'm getting up training.
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  Speaker 1: For a toursent my run and you see me get
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  Speaker 1: at four o'clock in the morning and all you workers
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  Speaker 1: are sleeping, And by the time I get done running
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  Speaker 1: my thirty I come home just getting up. How are
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  Speaker 1: you gonna feel about yourself?
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  Speaker 2: A lot of times when you're overachiever.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of our family members, a lot of our friends,
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  Speaker 1: they're mediocre. There's always those couple of guys who are
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  Speaker 1: uncommon who want to be better. But you make that
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  Speaker 1: mediocre mother feel like shit, whether it's your mom, your dad, whoever,
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  Speaker 1: you make him feel horrible. I've been there. I'm speaking
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  Speaker 1: from experience. You get somebody around you, may who's trying
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  Speaker 1: to be better, and you don't have the drive that
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  Speaker 1: they have.
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  Speaker 2: It's a constant.
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  Speaker 1: Reminder of how stup you are. You have to know
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  Speaker 1: that that's what it is. Anybody in your course and
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  Speaker 1: not saying, man, get after it, brother, I'm so proud
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  Speaker 1: of you.
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  Speaker 2: They have a problem with.
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  Speaker 1: Themselves because all you trying to do is achieve more.
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  Speaker 1: If that's a problem for somebody, you have to look
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  Speaker 1: at them and say, man, you really have a problem
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  Speaker 1: with yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Huh.
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  Speaker 1: It's much deeper than what you think. It lies deep
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  Speaker 1: in your soul. How I was able to fix myself
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  Speaker 1: was I saw how ugly I was towards other people
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  Speaker 1: who were great. I was able to look back and say, man,
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  Speaker 1: you don't hate that much for any reason, because he's
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: great and you're lazy.
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  Speaker 2: You're lazy.
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  Speaker 1: He makes you feel like shit every single day.
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  Speaker 2: It's where it comes from. You gotta know.
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  Speaker 1: You have to know where it comes from to be
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  Speaker 1: able to solve it.