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When Old Beliefs Get Rewritten by New Truth (S5) S18:E4 TUESDAY · Inspirations for Your Life

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So this is Inspirations to Your Life.
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It's series five, show 18, and it is
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episode number four.
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When direction changes because the truth gets revealed,
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okay, was where we were at yesterday.
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But I think an important point for today
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is knowing like what happens, right?
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What happens?
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Because when this happens, we know the direction
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has a big thing for us, right?
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So direction changes because truth gets evolved is
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where we are this week.
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But this episode of Inspirations for Your Life
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with myself, by the way, John C.
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Morley, I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, graduate student, keynote speaker, and yes,
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a passionate lifelong learner, and now very grateful
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to be a published author.
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I'm exploring how transformation happens when the truth
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replaces belief, and how people think, decide, and
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act.
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This is not about motivation.
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This is about correction through truth.
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Because ladies and gentlemen, the truth enters thinking,
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and everything that is built on assumption begins
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to suddenly shift.
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Yes, it begins to shift.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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a lot of people, they miss that whole
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concept, right?
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They miss what that means.
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And so our very first point that I'm
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going to dive in today, and it's an
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important one that a lot of people, well,
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they miss.
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And that is, ladies and gentlemen, that beliefs
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change with exposure, with exposure.
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So new information reshapes old certainty.
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When we get new information, it changes our
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perception.
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It changes our belief.
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It changes what we once knew to be
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true is now, well, different.
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And once we know the truth, and once
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we've learned something, we can't go back and
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pretend that we don't know it.
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Number two, guys, truth overrides assumption.
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Reality becomes stronger than any amount of belief,
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okay?
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So your belief is good, but what you
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feel, what you see, and you experience in
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life, that's the real deal, ladies and gentlemen.
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That is the real deal.
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And I think the more that we can
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appreciate that concept, the more that things will
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basically change in our lives for the better.
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Number three, guys, experience reshapes thinking.
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Life corrects theory over time.
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We make a hypothesis if we're scientists, right?
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And we say that when I do this,
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something's going to happen.
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We make it a hypothesis.
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And then we document, we do the experiment,
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and we document what happened, and then we
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draw our conclusion.
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And the hypothesis could be correct or it
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could be wrong, but we document it with
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data.
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Number four, guys, learning replaces certainty.
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Understanding evolves continuously.
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And I think a lot of people believe
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that the way they learned yesterday is the
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way they learned today.
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And I'm here to shake things up.
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It's not.
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The way you learned yesterday is not the
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way you're going to learn today and maybe
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even the way you're going to learn tomorrow
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or next week or next year.
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You evolve.
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Number five, guys, awareness disrupts mental models.
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Old systems stop fitting reality.
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And so when we become aware of something,
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hint, hint, like what's in my book here,
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awareness is in there quite a bit.
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When we become aware of things, our life
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just sort of, it takes a different path,
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a different turn.
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It inherits different characteristics.
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And it can disrupt the model that we
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knew for hours, days, months, right, or years.
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Number six, guys, information changes the direction.
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When we have new information, our direction, our
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course will change.
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New input forces new outcomes.
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When we change the way we act, people
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act to us differently.
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I want to share something that Dr. Dwayne
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Dyer shared, rest his soul.
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His mentor was Patanjali, who also passed away,
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and rest his soul as well.
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Patanjali said something very interesting that Dr. Dwayne
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Dyer has talked about.
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When we change the way we look at
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things, the things we look at change.
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When we change the way we look at
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things, the things we look at change.
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And that causes us to, well, force out
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the old inputs and put in new inputs.
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Number seven, guys, growth requires correction.
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Improvement demands adjustment.
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We're not experts at something day one.
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We get better at things, right, we get
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better at things.
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Number eight, guys, understanding replaces the bias that
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we might have.
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The clarity removes the distortion.
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And so the bias can be a prejudice
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toward one side or the other, because maybe
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we're not versed in the other side.
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Maybe we're going to lean to one learning
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method when the other one would work for
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us, but we haven't even tried it yet
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or tried that technique.
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So I think that's a very important thing
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to understand.
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Number nine, guys, evidence changes belief, right.
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Belief is key, and proof becomes more powerful
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than the opinion that we have set forth.
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The opinion that we have set forth.
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That's a very, that's a very important thing.
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Number 10, guys, old frameworks collapse.
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Outdated thinking can no longer hold it.
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So it must collapse.
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We must get something new.
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You know what this reminds me of?
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What is it, the caterpillar, the caterpillar and
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larva and, you know, the stages of their
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birth, basically.
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And so the butterfly lifecycle is kind of
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where I want to go with this.
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It starts very, very small, right.
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It starts as the egg stage, okay.
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Then the caterpillar larva stages is the next
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stage that it goes into.
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Then it goes into the pupa stage, pupa
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stage, which is hanging upside down, okay.
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It hangs upside down.
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And then the next stage emerging as an
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adult butterfly.
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Yeah.
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So it hangs upside down, then it starts
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to emerge as an adult butterfly.
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And variations across species can happen.
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So the egg stage is everything starts with
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the female butterfly laying eggs, usually on a
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host plant.
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And that will later become food for their
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offspring.
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The eggs are often round or oval and
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barely the size of, oh, the head of
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a pin.
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Inside a caterpillar, it begins to form.
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And depending on the species and temperature, the
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eggs hatch in a few days to a
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few weeks.
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And once they do, out comes the larva,
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better known as a caterpillar, aka larva.
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So this larval stage is also about eating.
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The caterpillars feed almost nonstop, mainly on the
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leaves of their host plants.
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Their main job is to grow.
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And as they expand, they shed their skin
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multiple times because their outer covering doesn't stretch.
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Caterpillars often have short antennas, multiple sets of
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legs and soft, flexible bodies.
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Some, like the monarch butterfly larva, are brightly
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striped.
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To warn predators, they taste bad.
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OK.
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When the caterpillar is big enough, it enters
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the pupal stage.
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This involves forming a corallis or, in some
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species, a silken coon, a cocoon, they call
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it, where major changes happen.
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Unlike moths, most butterflies don't spin full cocoons.
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Instead, the caterpillar often hangs upside down and
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sheds its final skin to reveal the pupa
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underneath.
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Inside the corallis of the caterpillar's body breaks
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down into a kind of a biological soup,
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if you will.
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From this, an adult butterfly forms, complete with
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wings, long legs, and compound eyes.
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And so it emerges as an adult butterfly.
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In the final adult stages, the butterfly breaks
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free from the corallis.
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At first, its wings are soft and crumbled.
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It pumps fluid into them and waits for
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them to dry.
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And then it takes flight.
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This adult stage focuses on reproduction and feeding.
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And adults sip nectar from flowers using a
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straw-like and often live.
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But they only live only a few weeks.
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But their main goal is to find a
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mate and continue the butterfly life.
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Females lay the eggs, and the cycle begins
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all over again.
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But my point that I was trying to
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share with you about this is that when
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our shell doesn't fit us anymore, or our
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ways don't fit us anymore, we outgrow them.
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We stop doing them.
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We change the way we are acting in
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life.
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Number 11, guys, insight replaces fear.
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What is fear?
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False evidence appearing real.
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That's what fear is, guys.
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That's what it is.
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Clarity reduces internal resistance.
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It does.
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Number 12, guys, perspective evolves.
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How you see determines what you see.
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How you see determines what you see.
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And that's a mouthful there.
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That is awfully a mouthful there.
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Number 13, knowledge expands identity.
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Learning reshapes our self-definition.
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When we learn how to grow lots of
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different ways, we find that we're not the
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same person.
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Now, we might have gained more intelligence.
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I mean, that's great.
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But we're different.
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We don't look at things the same way.
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We don't do things the same way.
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Kind of an evolution of our journey.
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Number 14, guys, misunderstandings get corrected.
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The truth adjusts perception.
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The truth.
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Sometimes we're not ready for the truth, but
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the truth still comes at us.
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Number 15, awareness resets thinking.
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Mental patterns reboot over time, over time.
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Number 16, truth removes the limitation, and boundaries
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lose their influence.
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I know so many people that want to
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just push through and say, you know what?
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I had enough.
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I had enough.
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And so when somebody has enough, it's like,
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they're like, all right, enough of that.
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I don't want to go through that patterning
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work.
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I want to do something different.
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I want to change my life.
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When we find the real truth, that's when
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we break down the barriers.
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Number 17, guys.
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Are you ready for number 17?
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Number 17 is the mental models shift.
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Internal logic reorganizes our life.
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But again, ladies and gentlemen, it does not
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happen overnight.
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It takes some time before it happens.
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Okay?
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I think a lot of people don't really
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understand, like, why things are a certain way.
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And when you start to understand that your
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mental model shifts, internal logic, and then it
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can reorganize it, not just once, but many
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ways until it's in the right sequence.
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Number 18, guys.
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Belief systems upgrade.
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Thinking structure evolves.
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When we believe in a system and when
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we keep upgrading it, a structure evolves.
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And when we have structure, we can then
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have consistency, we can have reliability, and we
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can have repeatable success.
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But most people give up before the structure's
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even formed.
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Number 19, guys.
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Change requires unlearning.
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Oh, that can be a little uncomfortable for
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some people.
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Old ideas must be released.
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Even if you say, you know what?
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I don't wanna do this another way.
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The other way is gonna be uncomfortable because
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you're used to doing something a certain way.
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It's like, if I asked you, like, I'm
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right-handed, right?
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If you ask me to write my left
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hand, it's like, can I do it?
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Yeah, but it's gonna be challenging.
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Is it painful?
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No.
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Is it uncomfortable?
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Yes.
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I'm not ambidextrous with my writing.
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If I practiced with my left hand, not
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that I want to, I could probably sign
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well in a period of time, but I'd
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have to do a lot of practice because
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this hand has never done more than maybe
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one or two signatures, right?
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It is not done with this hand, the
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right hand is done.
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So that's an important thing for us to
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understand.
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Number 20, guys.
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Growth requires a sense of oneness.
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What the heck is that, John?
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Close thinking blocks evolution.
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So when we realize that we are all
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one, that we're all part of this ecosystem,
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the universe, we start to learn that we're
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here to help each other, not harm or
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hurt each other.
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And sometimes along the way, I feel that
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that message gets lost.
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The concept of helping people, the concept of
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being there for people gets lost.
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Becomes me first, you second, or you fifth.
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Number 21, guys.
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Experience teaches faster than theory.
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Perfect example I can give you is maybe
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you've been around a stove.
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Okay, I'm sure you have.
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And if I tell you don't touch the
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stove because it's hot, you're like, okay, but
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then the minute you, whoa, you had your
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hand right back there, reflex.
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You don't touch the stove again.
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It's not from me telling you it's hot.
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It's from you basically almost burning yourself that
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you respond.
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So the experience of almost burning your hand
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gets you to pull away quickly.
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Like, I'm not doing that again.
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That's hot as you know what.
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So the experience is important and it teaches
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faster than any theory as reality will accelerate
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the learning all the time.
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So when you immerse yourself in something, this
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is something that a lot of the companies
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have implemented that when you learn a language
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by immersion, which is like the best way
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to learn a language, you understand the different
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caveats.
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You understand how words come together.
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You're not just seeing them.
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You're living them.
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You're experiencing them.
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Number 22, guys.
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Understanding deepens over our time and clarity compounds
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gradually.
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So many people get upset.
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Oh, I can't do this right away.
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It's not fast enough.
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It's not fast enough.
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But maybe it's that we're rushing.
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We're not enjoying the moment.
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And when we rush through something, we may
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miss something even better because we're trying to
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rush through it.
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Number 23, clarity builds confidence.
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Whether you're studying for a test, you're preparing
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for a presentation, maybe you have to do
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some type of work that requires you to
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know what you're doing.
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And when you do, not only will you
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be confident, but you're able to share that
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with others.
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And when we share with others, guess what
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happens?
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You learn more.
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So when you teach yourself, it's one thing,
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but when you have to teach someone else,
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you're gonna teach yourself again, that's the second
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time, and the third time when you taught
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them.
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So basically, you're gonna learn the material three
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times.
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Once you're gonna learn it yourself, then when
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you, let's say you're gonna take the material
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again, it'll be once for you and then
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once for the person who teaches you.
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If you're not doing it that way, then
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you're just gonna learn it twice.
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You're gonna learn it once when you learn
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it and once when you teach it to
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someone.
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Most people that teach something have already learned
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it and they are just trying to figure
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out how to present it to someone in
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a way that makes sense.
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Number 24, guys, truth simplifies complexity.
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Confusion begins to dissolve.
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It begins to dissolve.
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And when we know it begins to dissolve,
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we know that our life has changed.
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A lot of people think that confusion is
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the only way that we can be anywhere.
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No.
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Confusion exists because people wanna manipulate you.
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Just being honest, guys, that's the honest truth.
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Number 25, all beliefs fade.
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Fade.
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And when that happens, repetition weakens and outdated
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thinking, well, it just sort of surfaces.
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And we're like, well, I wasn't like this
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before.
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I don't care if you weren't like it
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before, you're like this now.
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So we need to change it.
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And that's something that is hard for a
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lot of people to recognize.
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That's very hard.
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They don't understand that your level of knowledge,
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they don't understand that new truth stabilize the
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direction.
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And that the alignment makes it clear, number
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26.
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But the repetition weakens outdated thinking.
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And it causes us to replace the outdated
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thinking with a new paradigm, with a new
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lesson, with a new program.
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Kind of like, you know, you load a
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program on a computer and when you close
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it, you open another one, another program loads,
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but that program's gone, right?
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With a different purpose.
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One program can help you surf the internet.
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Another program can help you write documents.
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Another program can help you do Excel sheets,
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calculate formulas.
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Another one can help you scan documents.
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Another one can help you do graphic design.
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Another program can take dictation from you.
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Number 27, guys.
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Awareness creates an alignment.
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Thought and action will connect.
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But again, I wanna tell you this, it
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is not going to be overnight.
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And if you think it's gonna be overnight,
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you are going to be very, very disappointed.
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I think when we change and don't expect
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something right away, it happens sooner than we
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want.
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But when we decide that we've gotta get
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it now, it feels like everything around us
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is blocking us from that.
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And it's because we put so much stress
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on ourself to have to get it now.
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What if we get it tomorrow?
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What if we get it next week?
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What if we get it next month?
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Does it really matter?
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No.
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But that level of stress that gets applied
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is brutal.
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Okay, I had enough.
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I don't wanna do this.
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I don't wanna do this at all.
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So it just like gives up.
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Number 28, guys.
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Thinking transforms reality.
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I gotta get some more water here.
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Thinking transforms reality.
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When we think, our whole image of what
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the world is breaks down and it rebuilds
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into what we are envisioning.
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And that changes our thought process.
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And the thought process then sets us up
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for a different expectation.
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And we learn before that wherever our thoughts
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go, that's where the energy is gonna flow.
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That's the truth, guys.
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You focus on good things in your life,
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more good things are gonna happen.
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You focus on being grateful, the more grateful
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things are gonna show up in your life
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you can be grateful for.
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Number 29, logic evolves, reasoning adapts to the
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truth.
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Logic might make sense in engineering, but it
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doesn't make sense with people.
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It's not logical.
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It's illogical.
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Sometimes people are illogical.
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They're people, just how they are.
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Number 30, guys.
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Truth will always rewrite your identity.
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This one is very powerful.
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Who you are updates through your sense of
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awareness that things you see, hear, touch, taste,
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smell.
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And even your body's proprioception to whether my
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arm is high or whether my foot is
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low, that is about your awareness.
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I could spend days talking on just awareness,
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but think about awareness right now if you
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could think about it.
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And you literally could think about the fact
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of you hearing my voice and how that
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sound is coming into you and how that
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is changing your present state, your present mood,
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okay?
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I think that's a very important thing to
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understand is that whole concept is what can
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get us to move forward, to get us
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to stay still, or to get us to
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digress and go backwards.
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Ladies and gentlemen, when truth enters a system,
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it never negotiates.
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It corrects whatever is wrong or the misread
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perception.
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And once that correction chain, because it's a
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chain, sometimes one thing doesn't just get corrected,
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begins everything built on the old assumptions.
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Or I like to say collapse and we...
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Everything, even the things that you were not
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aware of suddenly change.
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Most people think change is emotional, but change
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is structural.
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What you believe determines what you see in
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our world.
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What you see determines how you act and
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how you act determines your results.
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At first, change feels like an annoying disruption
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because old beliefs resist new information.
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That's just the way it goes.
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But resistance is not failure, guys.
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It's friction between the old identity and the
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new awareness that you're starting to perceive.
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That friction is where transformation, ladies and gentlemen,
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begins.
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Number 31, guys, signals change.
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And this is very important for us to
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know because with the signals changing, I think
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there's a lot that we can actually experience.
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And I say this to you because if
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we can be aware of one thing, just
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one thing, maybe you could be aware of
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how that caterpillar starts and turns into a
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butterfly.
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That's pretty interesting, isn't it?
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Or maybe aware of how the sound of
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an electric piano sounds from a regular string
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piano.
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Or being aware of every percussion instrument in
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the band as opposed to just the strings.
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Awareness helps us separate things out very, very
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easily, but it doesn't always end immediately.
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It rebuilds slowly over time.
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And suddenly, we're not the same person that
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we once were.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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Have a great one, everyone, and be well.