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Honoring John Ritter: Actress Amy Yasbeck’s Remarkable 2nd Act · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Welcome, moms. Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host,
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  Speaker 1: Monica Samuels. I'm here with my lovely co host, Julie Orchid.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, JULIEA.
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  Speaker 1: I just adore you and I adore you, and.
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  Speaker 2: I'm I'm happy to be here with you again and again.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know, we're just we're spending a lot
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  Speaker 1: of time together lately. We weren't from Florida. I know,
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  Speaker 1: we did a Mom's Club trip together, all of our
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  Speaker 1: all the mom's friends, and I think it went well.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I think it's really hard to get all five of
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  Speaker 4: us together. Yeah, you know, I can't count then of
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  Speaker 4: our kids we have between us or whatso.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but when we do get it done, we take
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  Speaker 4: a photo, because lord knows if that may not happen.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I have a great photo. We took some pictures
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  Speaker 1: on the beach. Yeah yeah, the one of you kneeling
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  Speaker 1: like reaching over.
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  Speaker 2: We don't need to bring that up.
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  Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna put that on our website.
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  Speaker 1: I thought that was a great picture. We all meant
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  Speaker 1: see it's well. I'm excited today. We have a really
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  Speaker 1: great guest today. I'm really exciting and I think this
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  Speaker 1: guest was just meant to be because there's so many
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  Speaker 1: parts of her life that are just like I feel
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  Speaker 1: in this connection because you know my favorite actress in
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  Speaker 1: the whole world. Yes, it was Olivia to Havelin, that's right,
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  Speaker 1: and Olivia to Havelin famously played Maid Marian in the
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  Speaker 1: Adventures of Robin Hood. There you go, and our guest
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  Speaker 1: today also played Maid Marian, So people have to ask her.
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  Speaker 2: About that, Yes, definitely, But.
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  Speaker 1: Even bigger than that. You know, I'm a terrible, terrible,
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  Speaker 1: terrible cook, awful, the worst. There's nothing I don't even
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  Speaker 1: pretend to be good at that.
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  Speaker 2: I think you and I are in the same boat.
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  Speaker 1: But there was one thing that I could always make
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  Speaker 1: without fail that everyone seemed to love, and that was
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  Speaker 1: a cake in my easy bake oven. Our guest today, well,
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  Speaker 1: we'll have to ask her about that too. So without
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  Speaker 1: further ado, I will introduce an accomplished actress, author, devoted mother,
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  Speaker 1: and advocate, best known for her roles in television series
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  Speaker 1: Wings and in films including The Mask, Robin Hood, Men
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  Speaker 1: in Tights, Problem Child, and Pretty Woman. Following the loss
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  Speaker 1: of her husband, beloved actor John Ritter, she founded the
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  Speaker 1: John Ridd Foundation for a Ortic Health, an organization dedicated
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  Speaker 1: to raising awareness, supporting research, and educating the public about
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  Speaker 1: thoracic aortic disease. Please welcome Amy Yasbeck. Welcome to the
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  Speaker 1: Mom's Club.
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  Speaker 5: Oh what's up, mom world?
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  Speaker 1: Welcome Amy. So can you share with the audience what
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  Speaker 1: your connection is to now just kidding?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, So when I was six years old, I'm from Cincinnati.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's nicer, thank you.
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  Speaker 5: I have a big, big, crowded audience here. Now. My
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  Speaker 5: sister was a model in Cincinnati, fourteen years older than
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  Speaker 5: I am, still ha ha, and she was working on something.
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  Speaker 5: The photographer said he was going to be doing an
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  Speaker 5: Easy Bake Oven commercial, and she showed him my little
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  Speaker 5: school picture, which was terrible. I had cut my own bangs.
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  Speaker 5: I have no idea how I got the gig, but
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  Speaker 5: so I she broke me out of school with the nuns.
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  Speaker 5: She broke me out and I did like a little
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  Speaker 5: photo shoot and it was the box cover of the
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  Speaker 5: Easy Bake Oven in like nineteen sixty nine, when I
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  Speaker 5: was six. I'm going to be sixty four this year.
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  Speaker 5: You guys, I mean wow, read all about it. Well
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  Speaker 5: you still you still feed me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's true. Yeah, it's too.
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  Speaker 5: Old in those days. Now it just seems like what
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  Speaker 5: an adorable song about middle age about if you live
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  Speaker 5: one hundred and what's sixty four times too?
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  Speaker 2: Wow?
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  Speaker 1: That's right.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, and I did that on my own.
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  Speaker 1: I think we're going to, you know, make it that one.
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  Speaker 1: Supposedly there's a new drug that's coming out to room
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  Speaker 1: verse aging.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, diet coke.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, there you go.
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  Speaker 1: Now that does it too.
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  Speaker 2: We know a lot about diet coke.
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  Speaker 5: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we have a friend that.
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  Speaker 5: Really loves do you guys call them refrigerator cigarettes because
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  Speaker 5: that's what we call them.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that that is a refrigerator cigarette for sure.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, we are all in.
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  Speaker 5: But easybook oven. Who knew that I would never ever
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  Speaker 5: be able to cook? I have no idea. I moved
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  Speaker 5: into this house a year and a half ago.
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  Speaker 2: The oven has not been turned on.
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  Speaker 5: It has, and it smells like bacon no matter what
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  Speaker 5: I make. So I'm like, I got to get it
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  Speaker 5: out of here. Not that I hate my dad was
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  Speaker 5: a butcher. I lived with bacon for many years. But
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  Speaker 5: if I'm trying to make cookies, cookies, my friend is here.
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  Speaker 5: She's a cookie freak. But everything you know it has
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  Speaker 5: it's somebody else's oven, do you know what I mean? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and so, but.
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  Speaker 5: It's taken me a year and a half to like
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  Speaker 5: do the measurements, and that next week it's coming. I'll
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  Speaker 5: take you. I'll take a picture of like the first
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  Speaker 5: thing I make in it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we will want you to make cooks. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I mean totally I plan that. So anyway, so I had.
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  Speaker 1: So as a mom. Now did being a mom influence
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  Speaker 1: any of your career.
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  Speaker 6: Choices or yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Well tell me, let's tell us about them. Tell us
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  Speaker 1: how about happened mom?
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  Speaker 5: Oh? Interesting? So I'm a stepmom of three big kids
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  Speaker 5: and do them are actors? And then I'm the mom
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  Speaker 5: of one twenty seven year old kid who is a screenwriter. Uh,
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  Speaker 5: and I mean when the thing is, I really sitcoms
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  Speaker 5: are the only thing I know. A lot of moms
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  Speaker 5: have lots of help, which is great, and they can
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  Speaker 5: do all kinds of stuff. But for me, if it
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  Speaker 5: wasn't a kind of a sitcom or a guest star
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  Speaker 5: and it was out of town, that was tricky, especially
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  Speaker 5: after John passed away, you know, when our it was five.
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  Speaker 5: So it's like I didn't want to do like a
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  Speaker 5: movie thing. I didn't want to take the kid out
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  Speaker 5: of school, so I think it did. But also the
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  Speaker 5: offer started drying up because when you say no too
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  Speaker 5: many times, it's the opposite of real life when you're dating,
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  Speaker 5: when you're supposed to say no a lot, and it
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  Speaker 5: makes you attractive if you say no a lot. In uh,
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  Speaker 5: when they're asking you can you go for three weeks
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  Speaker 5: to Vancouver and you're like not really, They're like, okay,
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  Speaker 5: next Wady, let's see what march Across is doing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's probably very, very true.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but I feel like right now, the most fun
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  Speaker 5: would be for me to do like a I want.
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  Speaker 5: I love historical fiction. I would love that, or historical
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  Speaker 5: drama anything. I love a good of course, but and
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  Speaker 5: you know, lifting things, that's all good, and I've done
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  Speaker 5: a few of those lovely. But I would love to
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  Speaker 5: do a horror movie just everybody. My kids love it.
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  Speaker 5: They would love to see probably something horrible happened to me,
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  Speaker 5: just kidding. I'd be the hero. I guess you.
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  Speaker 2: Would be the hero in the horror movies.
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  Speaker 5: I'd be some kind of vampire slayer. I would freaking
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  Speaker 5: love that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that would be really cool.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, rather than the mean vampire though, or the murderer. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they don't want to do that.
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  Speaker 5: I avoided becoming a vamp. I don't remember. I did
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  Speaker 5: Dracula Dead and Loving It, which was after the Melbrooks movie,
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  Speaker 5: after Robin Hood, and I did get bitten in the
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  Speaker 5: neck by Leslie Nielsen who was Dracula, and I got
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  Speaker 5: kind of like extra sexy, but I don't think I
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  Speaker 5: ever drained anyone of their blood. And then I came
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  Speaker 5: out of it. I don't know Melbrooks wrote it. Anything
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  Speaker 5: could happen.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, who knows, right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? What was it?
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  Speaker 5: Like?
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  Speaker 1: He's iconic, So what it's like working for mel Brooks?
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  Speaker 1: What was that?
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  Speaker 7: Like?
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  Speaker 5: Who's a dream come true? That kind of like pinched me? Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: you know, and in those with Carrie ol Wes on
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  Speaker 5: the first one and then my other good buddy Steve
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  Speaker 5: Weber in Dracula Dead and Loving It, Crazy name, But
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  Speaker 5: we would look at each other like, can you believe
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  Speaker 5: we get to do this? This is work, you know?
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  Speaker 5: And it was work, but it also was like you're
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  Speaker 5: inside of the fantasy you have as a child of
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  Speaker 5: who you want to work with.
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  Speaker 2: Very pinched me moment, I'm sure.
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  Speaker 5: Extremely like, how about nobody pinch me because I want
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  Speaker 5: to wake up?
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  Speaker 4: I don't want to wake up. Yeah, that's that's incredible.
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  Speaker 4: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Not many people can say that, amy like I.
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  Speaker 5: Know, and I feel really lucky. And when I start
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  Speaker 5: to think, like, oh, I haven't like worked a movie
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  Speaker 5: in a while, and I'm like, I think that equals
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  Speaker 5: a lot. Yeah, that weird that you do that, you
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  Speaker 5: know what I mean. It's like not that it equals
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  Speaker 5: a lot of movies or a lot of movie time,
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  Speaker 5: or that movies are ranked or anything. But I had
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  Speaker 5: not done Melbrooks movies, and you would have asked me, like,
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  Speaker 5: what's the one thing you wish you would have done?
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  Speaker 5: When your tits were high, I'd be like, mel Brooks movie.
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  Speaker 5: Can I tell you my story? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Sure please?
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  Speaker 5: Okay, So I can't tell you my story from all while.
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  Speaker 5: So when I auditioned from Maid Marion, they had seen
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  Speaker 5: lots of girls and they were looking for twenty ish, blonde, buxom.
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  Speaker 5: This is that's just later buxom and British and virginal.
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  Speaker 5: So I didn't get called in for a whole time.
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  Speaker 5: It's a bunch of girls who were all good. But
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  Speaker 5: Mel had something in mind, right, And I don't know
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  Speaker 5: if you know who the actress Deborah Carr was, if
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  Speaker 5: you ever thought you know who that is? Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I know King and I you know Deborah Car. So
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  Speaker 5: when I went Mel saw my audition tape and called
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  Speaker 5: me in. And my audition tape John had helped me.
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  Speaker 5: There was a thing where little birdlands on my finger,
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  Speaker 5: and that was part of it. And so I did
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  Speaker 5: a thing pretend like the bird pooped on me. I
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  Speaker 5: think it went in the movie. I forget. But so
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  Speaker 5: mel Brooks kind of expected he didn't know Amy Yasbeck. Nobody.
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  Speaker 5: I hardly know Amy Asberger. So I came in and
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  Speaker 5: I was like, hey, nice to meet, and I was
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  Speaker 5: like kibbitzing with him, and I used words schmaltz, kibbitts,
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  Speaker 5: and he assumed I was Jewish. I'm not, but he said,
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  Speaker 5: I like you. You're like Deborah Carr, but with a
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  Speaker 5: little old Jewish man inside. And I said, and it
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  Speaker 5: won't be you don't get any ideas, and he's like,
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  Speaker 5: you're hired. You're hired in the room. So we had
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  Speaker 5: this very fun relationship, but then when he called to
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  Speaker 5: tell me, literally, I got the job. This is what
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  Speaker 5: he did with everybody he ever worked with. He would
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  Speaker 5: call personally and he said, don't cut your hair, don't
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  Speaker 5: go out of town. You've got a job. And I said, okay,
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  Speaker 5: because I do have to talk about one thing. I
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  Speaker 5: haven't talked to your agent about it yet, but I will.
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  Speaker 5: There may be some I think they're calling it side boob.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm like, mel tell you because what I'm like,
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  Speaker 5: they don't have like sides. And he's like, what, And
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  Speaker 5: I said, when I came in, I had pushed up
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  Speaker 5: my a sat one A and one sad b whatever.
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  Speaker 5: You pushed them up so hard, and I'd filled in underneath.
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  Speaker 5: This is before all the things girls, the chickens and
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  Speaker 5: all those things. Those were just for ladies with mastectomies.
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  Speaker 5: They were hard to get the rich. So I had
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  Speaker 5: socks and things rolled up so my my sad little
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  Speaker 5: boobs and my nipples were like cross eyed, like up here,
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  Speaker 5: but you couldn't see it, so they were like this
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  Speaker 5: malthout And I said, please tell me, that's not why
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  Speaker 5: you hired me. He goes, no, no, you know that,
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  Speaker 5: And the funny yeah, I lied to him and I
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  Speaker 5: told him that I had done I played a mermaid
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  Speaker 5: in a movie. I lied, I said, I know exactly
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  Speaker 5: how to make them look great. He's like, because it's
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  Speaker 5: a bathtub scene, and I'm like, don't worry, I got it.
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  Speaker 5: And then I talked to people at you know, Industrial Light,
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  Speaker 5: just kidding effects House of how to make so they
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  Speaker 5: were like silicone instead of the inside on the outside. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I like placed over like where the nipples would be
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  Speaker 5: getting out of the bathtub, and oh, it's just beautify me.
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  Speaker 5: And I was thirty. I love it a little bit already.
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  Speaker 5: That's my story about my boobs. I'm try to hear it.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, that's a great story. I'm still trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: out why Deborah Carr would cross his mind at all,
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  Speaker 1: Like that's that's.
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  Speaker 5: A little because of the British accent and the stuff,
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  Speaker 5: so like he saw me under that. I don't do
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  Speaker 5: you think I know?
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  Speaker 2: Do you have a fabulous British accent?
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  Speaker 5: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I had.
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  Speaker 5: Your fabulous British accent in a couple of different movies.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So who do you wish you'd worked with that you
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  Speaker 1: haven't so far? Who if you had your dream director, your.
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  Speaker 5: Dream, That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: Well, in addition of but besides that one, besides me
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  Speaker 1: another one.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, who if I didn't know that Woody Allen was
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  Speaker 5: an absolute eff and creep. Yeah, yeah, I couldn't do
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  Speaker 5: it knowing what I know. I couldn't like keep it
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  Speaker 5: out of my mind. But I love Woody Allen, not
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  Speaker 5: in the way that his stepdaughter does. Be a.
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  Speaker 2: Right, right, that's for sure.
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  Speaker 1: You another that's another month's club episode or not.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but talk a little bit about the John Ritter Foundation,
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  Speaker 4: because when I'm not sitting here with Monica. In my
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  Speaker 4: past life, I was an r nurse and so I
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  Speaker 4: have you know, seen.
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  Speaker 5: More or less I got you.
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  Speaker 3: So.
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  Speaker 5: Aortic dissection is something that is often mistaken for something else.
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  Speaker 5: It's called the great imitator. And you have all probably
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  Speaker 5: heard of a abdominal aortic aneurysm. This is not that abdominal,
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  Speaker 5: so you're may I. So the aorta is the biggest
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  Speaker 5: ardor in your body. It comes candy cane shaped out
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  Speaker 5: of your heart with things going You've seen like people
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  Speaker 5: with they're cool, like this is my anatomical heart tattoo.
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  Speaker 5: Those well things going up. Well, those are your great vessels.
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  Speaker 5: They go to your brain, your arms, everywhere, and your
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  Speaker 5: aorita goes all the way like this, all the way down, kidneys,
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  Speaker 5: everything but the part from your diaphragm up, not the
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  Speaker 5: one you had in your person college ladies, like your
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  Speaker 5: actual diagram that is thoracic, and something happens in there.
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  Speaker 5: It's so close to your heart, it's so the pressure
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  Speaker 5: from the blood is so so strong. Your aorida has
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  Speaker 5: three layers, so if you cut it this way, it
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  Speaker 5: looks like target symbol. And what happens is a lot
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  Speaker 5: of times it's genetic. A lot. We have a whole
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  Speaker 5: genetic research program under John's name as well. But if
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  Speaker 5: there's some kind of misspelling, as in in your DNA code,
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  Speaker 5: and the proteins aren't bonding right, or they don't do
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  Speaker 5: the stretchy thing or something, there can be a little
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  Speaker 5: tear or a notch in the first layer. So when
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  Speaker 5: the blood is going where it needs to go, it
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  Speaker 5: also starts going off course in between the layers. And
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  Speaker 5: the best way that I've ever explained that, and it
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  Speaker 5: was years ago, and doctors use it and come and
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  Speaker 5: tell me, is I don't know where you guys are from,
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  Speaker 5: but in Ohio and I'm the fifth kid. So I
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  Speaker 5: had hand me down coats and in the winter you'd
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  Speaker 5: put it and it had been in the closet with
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  Speaker 5: the mobs all winter. You put your hand inside the
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  Speaker 5: coat and your your hand wouldn't come out the end
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  Speaker 5: because it had gone in the lining, in between the lining.
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  Speaker 5: That's what happens to the blood, so it gets waylaid,
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  Speaker 5: doesn't get to wear. Am I explaining this right there?
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  Speaker 2: And you're doing I mean, like amazing.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, well I've only been doing it since two thousand
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  Speaker 5: and three. Yes, And when I talked. There's a famous
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  Speaker 5: doctor name doctor John Ellef Teriotti at Yale, and in
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  Speaker 5: two thousand and four he reached out to me and
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  Speaker 5: he said, I need to know how to talk to
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  Speaker 5: families and talk to people about what it is and
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  Speaker 5: on their terms, because sometimes that gets lost and doctors
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  Speaker 5: are speaking. Doctors speak, and you're like m hm uh huh,
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  Speaker 5: and you go, I guess I'll look this up later,
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  Speaker 5: but like in the room, how to know? And I said, well,
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  Speaker 5: how would you explain it? He said, well, I'm a surgeon,
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  Speaker 5: so I tell people if you have an aneurysm, which
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  Speaker 5: is the thing that most likely happens before in about
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  Speaker 5: ninety percent of the cases, which is like that ballooning right.
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  Speaker 5: If you see that, you can repair it before, but
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  Speaker 5: if not, it's an emergency. The terear is called a dissection.
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  Speaker 5: And he goes, when I see people who are having
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  Speaker 5: a dissection and it's an emergency and they call me in, Well,
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  Speaker 5: then the patient, and he literally said, is already up
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  Speaker 5: on blocks with the hood open. And I went, wait
• 16:55
  Speaker 5: what And he goes, yeah, I don't get to meet them.
• 16:58
  Speaker 5: I wait, wait, wait, let me guess what did your
• 17:01
  Speaker 5: dad and mom do for a living? Goes, Oh, my
• 17:02
  Speaker 5: dad was a mechanic for Penske. I went, there you go.
• 17:05
  Speaker 5: So that's how I would explain it to you. And
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: I said, and how I would explained it to a plumber.
• 17:11
  Speaker 5: Is this and for the main fuel line and then
• 17:13
  Speaker 5: this a highway? If you're a city, you know what
• 17:16
  Speaker 5: I mean. So everybody needs to know what it is,
• 17:19
  Speaker 5: visualize it on their own terms, know how dangerous it is,
• 17:23
  Speaker 5: know your family history, which is a big thing we did,
• 17:26
  Speaker 5: and it turns out it is genetic in that ridder
• 17:28
  Speaker 5: line John's brother Tom, and so John died in two
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: thousand and three. Tom in two thousand and seven was
• 17:36
  Speaker 5: having a yearly echoes, which all of John's first degree relatives,
• 17:41
  Speaker 5: including his four kids and his brother, all have those
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: to measure and see if there's an aneurysm there. If
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: it's great, just like we do mammograms guys, but we
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: talk about it so much better because we're all women.
• 17:53
  Speaker 5: I'm sorry, you know what I mean. We're not going
• 17:55
  Speaker 5: to let somebody related to not get their mammogram. We
• 17:59
  Speaker 5: keep bond people. So this is the model that I
• 18:02
  Speaker 5: use for if you have someone in your family that's
• 18:05
  Speaker 5: had an aortic dissection, or if you've had an early
• 18:08
  Speaker 5: if somebody in your family has an early unexplained death.
• 18:13
  Speaker 5: So John's brother had his echo, they saw an aneurysm
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: right where John's was right ascending, ascending, descending, and had
• 18:23
  Speaker 5: it fixed prophylactically so he didn't have a dissection. And
• 18:29
  Speaker 5: they know that tex Ritterer, their dad, who was from
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: Panola County, Carthage, Beaumont area for Texas people texts. Actually
• 18:39
  Speaker 5: he was singing Cowboy and he was the MC at
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: the Grand Ole Opry and he had a band and
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: he was bailing one of his band members out of jail.
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: This is real in Nashville. Clutched his chest when he
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: was about sixty four, fell over and died. So now
• 18:54
  Speaker 5: they know that was not a heart attack. All these
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: they used to think aotic dissections were rare guys because
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: there were so many. There weren't enough modalities of imaging
• 19:06
  Speaker 5: that you would see them. Now somebody goes in for
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: you know, maybe an echo or a CT scan for
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: their work for insurance, they might not they might see
• 19:17
  Speaker 5: an aneurysm, but that's not what they're looking for. So
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: it's basically we get awareness out there. We educate doctors,
• 19:24
  Speaker 5: we educate everybody. I've had a big education in genetics
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: and stuff, and our family. We don't know what our
• 19:33
  Speaker 5: gene mutation, the Ridder gene mutation is, where it is.
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: We have suspicions. There was one when John died. Gene
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: mutation to look for called ACTA two. And doctor Diana
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: Millowitz who's in Houston now, she's the director of the
• 19:50
  Speaker 5: Genre to Research program in aortic and vascular diseases, which
• 19:55
  Speaker 5: is crazy, and she's also a physician, and we fund
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: her I mean, she gets other big funding because it's
• 20:01
  Speaker 5: a big deal and people are realizing that it is
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: not as rare as people thought it was. And it's
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: always been the horrible kind of specter in the er.
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: Yes, because it becomes a very fast, quick emergency.
• 20:17
  Speaker 5: He came in, they treated him for a heart attack
• 20:20
  Speaker 5: without doing any imaging, and so because it's a tear
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: in your aorta, and they treated him for a block
• 20:28
  Speaker 5: in his heart. So all the blood finders, everything, you,
• 20:31
  Speaker 5: everything that's contraindicated they did. So sadly he died from that,
• 20:38
  Speaker 5: but I kind of made sure I could still be
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: a mom and change the conversation around it as opposed
• 20:50
  Speaker 5: to what they told me in the hospital that night,
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: which is you really can't see this coming. It's like
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: a satellite falling out of the sky and I'm like,
• 20:56
  Speaker 5: that can't be right.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah it was.
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah, So Amy, that is the explanation that you just
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: gave was so incredible.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: No, I mean to people and how to explain that.
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: We've had a couple widows on our show, and so
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: we know a little thing about people speaking about grief
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: or sorrow or said is, how did you decide to
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: do something so fast after his death. I mean, what
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: clicked in you to like pursue that mom thing?
• 21:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, because it's again what they told me in the hospital.
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: This cardiologist told me, a different cardiologist that was working
• 21:42
  Speaker 5: on I'm just somebody. I was like that, that can't
• 21:46
  Speaker 5: be right. And the reason I knew it couldn't be
• 21:48
  Speaker 5: right is because I would be out somewhere with Noah,
• 21:50
  Speaker 5: with my little kid, and somebody would say, oh, my
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: husband had an artic dissection, and I'd say I'm so sorry,
• 21:56
  Speaker 5: and they're like, no, no, I mean he's waiting in
• 21:58
  Speaker 5: the car to pick me up like a cashier's wait.
• 22:00
  Speaker 5: What you can live through? It is something that I
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: didn't know. I'm talking the first week. And then I
• 22:08
  Speaker 5: got a call that there was There were articles that
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: were already being written for months before in the Wall
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: Street Journal by Tom Burton and Kevin Helliker about aortic
• 22:18
  Speaker 5: dissection and how much it is misdiagnosed and all this stuff.
• 22:23
  Speaker 5: These articles, there were ten of them, went on to
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: win the Pulitzer in Explanatory Reporting, and it just happened
• 22:32
  Speaker 5: John died when the seventh one was coming out, So
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: then that one was all about misdiagnosis. It was sent
• 22:38
  Speaker 5: to me like clipping out of a newspaper. Two thousand
• 22:41
  Speaker 5: and three. My friend's mom's librarian in need a mass
• 22:45
  Speaker 5: and I just looked at all of the specialists and
• 22:48
  Speaker 5: doctors that were interviewed, and I just started calling them
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: and I would say, this is John Ritter's widow and
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: they're like, oh my god. One lady for doctor Sofie
• 22:58
  Speaker 5: in Houston. And the woman answered the phone and she
• 23:02
  Speaker 5: was just like crying. She's like, we're not allowed to
• 23:04
  Speaker 5: reach out to you. So this means the world. How
• 23:08
  Speaker 5: can we help you? And I said, how can I
• 23:10
  Speaker 5: help you? And they're like, you have to meet this geneticist.
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: How can I help you? And it was getting When
• 23:15
  Speaker 5: you do genetics, you need to develop the cohort, which
• 23:20
  Speaker 5: is all the other people that you're so you can
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: have a suspicion of a gene vus variant of unknown significance.
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: You guys have ever had genetic testing or whatever, and
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: it's because it's echoing a few people who have this
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: thing also have this, but they haven't made it Like
• 23:40
  Speaker 5: that's causal causal causation, right, So you need a giant
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: cohort of people to be able to test. So doctor
• 23:48
  Speaker 5: Melowitz said, I just need more families. She had three
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: families in the study, and I went, watch this. Let
• 23:55
  Speaker 5: me just contact a lot of Mormons and Catholics that
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: have giant families, especially Mormons who are fantastic record keepers.
• 24:04
  Speaker 5: Thank you for ancestry dot com and everything else I'm
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: obsessed with. But so I started just calling. I had
• 24:11
  Speaker 5: Google alerts. It would pop up aortic dissection some little
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: town somewhere, and I would call the funeral home. I
• 24:19
  Speaker 5: would call it whatever. I've been on the phone a
• 24:21
  Speaker 5: couple of times while people were doing a memorial sitting
• 24:25
  Speaker 5: Shiva and saying this is John Ritter's widow on the
• 24:29
  Speaker 5: phone and they're like yes, what and having to tell
• 24:33
  Speaker 5: them it could be genetic and it's been a lot guys.
• 24:37
  Speaker 5: But the men can say something is genetic. I mean
• 24:44
  Speaker 5: not just that John's four kids and brother were at risk.
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: But if the world doesn't know that, how do you know?
• 24:51
  Speaker 5: And so people when they think like I'm so sorry,
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: people go so sorry. I know I loved. My favorite
• 24:58
  Speaker 5: is when people say to me, did I ever tell
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: you this job? Yes? Sorry, my buddy, Like people come
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: up to me and say, you don't know how much
• 25:06
  Speaker 5: I loved John. I don't know these people. And I'm like, no, no,
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: and he loved you too. They're like, I remember exactly
• 25:11
  Speaker 5: where I was when I heard he died, and I'm.
• 25:13
  Speaker 7: Like me too.
• 25:15
  Speaker 5: And then I keep talking. But it's because they and
• 25:18
  Speaker 5: I go huh. Then I comfort them and then they're like,
• 25:22
  Speaker 5: I'm so sorry he died of a heart attack. I said,
• 25:25
  Speaker 5: it wasn't a heart attack with something called an aortic dissection.
• 25:27
  Speaker 5: Oh that's what my uncle died of. I'm like, hold up,
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: So there was that again. I grew up Catholic. And
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: this is the proselytizing, like fishing a fisher of men.
• 25:40
  Speaker 5: I was a fisher of aortas and having to bring
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: people into understanding it, understand that it very likely could
• 25:49
  Speaker 5: be genetic, and sometimes having to talk to them again
• 25:54
  Speaker 5: on And I'm not saying there's levels like low information
• 25:57
  Speaker 5: high information. There's some people why would they ever need
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: to know about it? Yeah?
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: You know, And but you're getting the word out and
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: what you're doing your word.
• 26:06
  Speaker 5: Out big time and busting myths about it. And there
• 26:11
  Speaker 5: was a family from Iowa and the thing was you know. Finally,
• 26:17
  Speaker 5: like somebody was on their tractor died excuse me, in
• 26:22
  Speaker 5: the field and it was an aortic dissection. And somehow
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: I called them because I'm a creep read about this.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: Thing, and like I read about it.
• 26:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, And I talked to them and they said, you know,
• 26:35
  Speaker 5: it's kind of like a family curse. Every you know,
• 26:38
  Speaker 5: generation a couple people will just fall off their tractors
• 26:41
  Speaker 5: and die. And I'm like, hear me out, what if
• 26:44
  Speaker 5: they are dying and that's why they're falling off of
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: their tractor. And they're like, oh, yeah, that got them
• 26:51
  Speaker 5: in the study. No names, of course I can't. I
• 26:54
  Speaker 5: have to once it's in the medical world. They're just
• 26:57
  Speaker 5: a number. Sometimes I can figure out what the number is.
• 27:00
  Speaker 5: But yeah, they found more people. The CEO of Art
• 27:03
  Speaker 5: of My Thing is a survivor, Meredith. She dissected while
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: she was pregnant.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: Yes, which can happen.
• 27:11
  Speaker 5: Which can happen? She had an emergency caesarean and a
• 27:18
  Speaker 5: aortic arch replacement same night.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: Same That sounds like a great day.
• 27:24
  Speaker 5: It's a great day because they're they're telling her it's
• 27:26
  Speaker 5: just labor. You've just never been in labor. Before, and
• 27:28
  Speaker 5: she said, my mom had an aortic dissection when I
• 27:31
  Speaker 5: was nine and lived and they went Texas, got her
• 27:36
  Speaker 5: on a life light and fixed it, and after she
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: researched it, she was the fifth aortic dissection in four generations.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Believe well, I appreciate this conversation a lot, because my
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: grandfather died in his sixties of a heart attack, and
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: then my uncle. I don't know, this is a long
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: time ago, but then my uncle.
• 27:56
  Speaker 5: Tell me the names off the air. I have deser
• 27:58
  Speaker 5: to think I can get everybody.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: I'll have to ask about my So my uncle was
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: also in his sixties and literally died exactly like you're saying.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: He went to get a drink of water to water
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: fountain and collapsed and had died. And so we all
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: talked to our family.
• 28:11
  Speaker 5: Was he under any doctor's care? Did he have high
• 28:13
  Speaker 5: blood pressure? Was he smoking?
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: No?
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: Might No, he didn't smoke, Now my grandfather did. But
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: I guess the questions We always said, Man, the men
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: in the family don't like they die of heart attacks
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: pretty young. But I didn't even think about that. But
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: I was.
• 28:25
  Speaker 5: I mean, Jason, Ritter, Mikes and Tyler, they do lots
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: of like stuff for the foundation and all. And the
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: story was because John grew up again at John Tex
• 28:35
  Speaker 5: ridder In Uhm said Mervall County. It's all confusing over there,
• 28:40
  Speaker 5: but anyway, and he the thing was all of the
• 28:45
  Speaker 5: Ridders die of their first and last heart attack. We
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: know now they're not heart attacks. I have all of
• 28:51
  Speaker 5: the things, and most of them are like in their
• 28:53
  Speaker 5: early seventies or late sixties. Just because John was just
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: about to turn fifty five. And also who knows, different lifestyle,
• 29:02
  Speaker 5: different everything, and Tommy, his brother, was just you know,
• 29:05
  Speaker 5: it's just a year older than John. Every different g mutation.
• 29:09
  Speaker 5: By the way, now they're about fourteen in the hopper,
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: just from getting that giant cohort of people to be
• 29:15
  Speaker 5: tested against. And there's more and more that we know
• 29:19
  Speaker 5: every week. I would have you ever had a genetic test.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: No, but I mean that's just that's interesting.
• 29:25
  Speaker 5: What about their what about their parents?
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: I would have to look into all that that would.
• 29:29
  Speaker 5: Be interesting their parents, because this particular one, it's not
• 29:33
  Speaker 5: like I got blue eyes from my grandpa. It's not
• 29:35
  Speaker 5: the Maleman that my mom's grewed or whatever you know,
• 29:37
  Speaker 5: likes about It's not that it's not like we learned
• 29:41
  Speaker 5: in high school about Mendel the monk who studied peas
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: and fruitflies and stuff. This is called autosomal dominant. So
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: fifty to fifty. So all four of John's kids are
• 29:52
  Speaker 5: fifty to fifty, whether they have that normal uh normal
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: you know area in their or they got it from
• 30:01
  Speaker 5: their dad. Boom boom. It's fifty to fifty. That's all
• 30:05
  Speaker 5: you had to tell me. That's what the geneticist told
• 30:07
  Speaker 5: me on the first phone call. And I'm like, not
• 30:09
  Speaker 5: only does my family need this, everybody needs to know
• 30:13
  Speaker 5: that it's way more heritable than breast cancer, which is crazy.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: Well, we have some ladies who have some questions for you. Also.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: These this is so fascinating and they are our zoomer
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: mom So welcome zoomer moms. Welcome to the Mom's Club.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: I'm going to introduce each one of you. Tell us
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: your name, where you're from, a little bit about yourself,
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: and do you have a question for Amy Lauren. Welcome
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: to the Mom's Club.
• 30:37
  Speaker 8: Hi, Hi, Hi, Amy, Hi Dollar are you I'm good?
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: How are you all right?
• 30:45
  Speaker 8: I just want to say that Monica, you bring up
• 30:48
  Speaker 8: and touched on some really important points that I think
• 30:51
  Speaker 8: every mom listening to can relate to.
• 30:54
  Speaker 5: And Amy, you are such a strong woman. You are
• 30:58
  Speaker 5: all the things.
• 30:59
  Speaker 8: Gorgeous, beautiful, full, You've helped a lot of people, and
• 31:02
  Speaker 8: I love that you've taken adversity and turned it into
• 31:05
  Speaker 8: something really beautiful and powerful.
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: And I really can, I can I say something real
• 31:10
  Speaker 5: to you, not at zero cost. And that's the thing.
• 31:15
  Speaker 5: It's like being a mom. Now I'm momming the world
• 31:17
  Speaker 5: in terms of their a ortis. So there is definitely
• 31:20
  Speaker 5: And every time I share the story, as much as
• 31:23
  Speaker 5: i'm sharing it with you, you get a little bit of
• 31:28
  Speaker 5: the but you know what it's worth it. It's absolutely
• 31:32
  Speaker 5: worth it. And thank you for saying that. I don't
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: feel strong exactly, but I feel useful, which is makes
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: me the happiest of anything.
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah weird, huh nicely put?
• 31:44
  Speaker 8: Yeah, well, I can see that you're strong regardless.
• 31:48
  Speaker 5: So we see your strength and feel it. And I
• 31:50
  Speaker 5: think at Coke there's something about it strong, like wonder
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: bread or so. Yeah.
• 31:59
  Speaker 8: I live in Miami, Florida, and I'm a mom of
• 32:03
  Speaker 8: a three year old and an eleven year old, and
• 32:05
  Speaker 8: I grew up in California, So I grew up on
• 32:08
  Speaker 8: all your movies, all your stuff, you know, all the things.
• 32:11
  Speaker 5: Yeah, don't let your kids watch my movies. I have
• 32:15
  Speaker 5: a problem child.
• 32:16
  Speaker 8: Actually he may become a little worse.
• 32:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah, he's a little wild. There's like poopy jokes and stuff.
• 32:23
  Speaker 5: But you could Yeah is it a boy. It's a boy.
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: His name is Heart. Yeah, he's three. He is wild. Wait,
• 32:31
  Speaker 5: that's the problem child, not the eleven year old. No,
• 32:33
  Speaker 5: the eleven year old. Eleven year old the movie. Maybe
• 32:36
  Speaker 5: he'll get ideas for calming down the three year old. Yeah,
• 32:39
  Speaker 5: that's my recipe.
• 32:40
  Speaker 8: She's totally different. You know, she's the girl and she
• 32:43
  Speaker 8: makes the perfect grades.
• 32:44
  Speaker 5: And he's just meet them where they are, man.
• 32:49
  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I meet them where they are.
• 32:52
  Speaker 8: And I realize that he's a lot of me sometimes too, I'm.
• 32:55
  Speaker 5: Like, oh, now I will drive you the craziest. Well,
• 33:00
  Speaker 5: what do you resist persists? What John used to say,
• 33:04
  Speaker 5: that is true.
• 33:06
  Speaker 8: So as a mom, we're constantly trying to protect our
• 33:10
  Speaker 8: kids right from the pain and the hardships that go
• 33:13
  Speaker 8: on in life. What do you say to speaking upon
• 33:20
  Speaker 8: showing them the resilience that you carry verse covering what's
• 33:25
  Speaker 8: going on and hiding it.
• 33:28
  Speaker 5: Tricky because my kid was five, so it's different than
• 33:32
  Speaker 5: the big kids who were just out of college just
• 33:35
  Speaker 5: got into college that week, and then one that was
• 33:38
  Speaker 5: in her third year. So I had to be I
• 33:46
  Speaker 5: had to be cared. I had to learn that. I mean,
• 33:47
  Speaker 5: every kid is different from that. There are definitely there
• 33:50
  Speaker 5: were books that I read and stuff because you want
• 33:52
  Speaker 5: them to be able to express what it is and
• 33:56
  Speaker 5: that see you, it's okay to cry. But I was afraid,
• 33:59
  Speaker 5: like if I started crying, I would never stop kind
• 34:03
  Speaker 5: of thing. So for me, it was just situational stuff. Sometimes,
• 34:07
  Speaker 5: you know, they would look at me. We're in the car,
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: and I'm like, I need to change that song. That
• 34:12
  Speaker 5: song right now is making me a little bit sad.
• 34:15
  Speaker 5: And you know, my kids are very they're all very smart.
• 34:21
  Speaker 5: I don't know, then get it from me, just get
• 34:23
  Speaker 5: it one of the minute. But and you know he
• 34:28
  Speaker 5: would be like, but it's okay to be sad, and
• 34:30
  Speaker 5: I'm like, should we just pull over and listen to
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: the song? Okay? Like like it actually helped me figure
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: stuff out, I think. Plus the absolute art of distraction,
• 34:42
  Speaker 5: which is I've got to save ten thousand lives, was
• 34:49
  Speaker 5: helpful for me for like that, but I had to
• 34:52
  Speaker 5: always like bring it back home, bring it back home,
• 34:55
  Speaker 5: and be able to because before there before there was
• 34:59
  Speaker 5: a website, there was a foundation, but I couldn't have
• 35:02
  Speaker 5: a website yet because there was at a lawsuit a
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: couple of years later, and so the website I couldn't
• 35:08
  Speaker 5: have experts on there that I was stupid and crazy,
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: not stupid, but like really horrible and taxing. But I
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: think I'm still finding the balance, to tell you the truth,
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: I'm absolutely still finding And each one of the four
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: kids has like I can't hack it. I can hack it,
• 35:25
  Speaker 5: I can do this, but I can't be something where
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: they're going to be show a thousand pictures of Dad.
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: I don't want to talk about personal stuff, and you
• 35:32
  Speaker 5: have to honor that. You know, not everybody, you know,
• 35:39
  Speaker 5: not every I'm not everybody. I'm not well. I also
• 35:42
  Speaker 5: I'm not everybody's widow. John was a different everybody has
• 35:47
  Speaker 5: a no pun intended hole in their heart. You know
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: where John was. You guys might even have a little one,
• 35:58
  Speaker 5: but it's shaped different for each person, and you can't
• 36:02
  Speaker 5: I can't give you my version of what's missing for
• 36:04
  Speaker 5: me and make it for you. It's a journey for everybody,
• 36:09
  Speaker 5: and it's been fascinating and I've learned a lot about
• 36:12
  Speaker 5: grief and I talked to widows a lot, but mostly
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: I listen because that's what you need.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Sharon, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: little bit about yourself, and you have a question for Amy.
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: I am Sharon Archer.
• 36:25
  Speaker 6: I'm from the Dallas area.
• 36:27
  Speaker 7: I'm a realtor along with my husband, so we work together,
• 36:30
  Speaker 7: which is kind of fun. Sometimes we work with better
• 36:33
  Speaker 7: homes and gardrail estate. Yes, there is actually a better
• 36:36
  Speaker 7: homes and garde real estate.
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: And I have.
• 36:40
  Speaker 7: Three grandsons and six grandkids and.
• 36:42
  Speaker 6: One on the way.
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: That's not possible, Yes, possible. Congratulations. I also have six grandkids.
• 36:53
  Speaker 7: Well look at you.
• 36:56
  Speaker 5: From my stepkids.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: So, Sharon, did you get marrit it a lot?
• 37:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah?
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: I got. Don't there's no sixty eight. I don't believe it.
• 37:08
  Speaker 5: He goes you, well, too bad. I don't believe in
• 37:12
  Speaker 5: any of that crap. But yeah, don't don't. I'm gonna
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: make you take the cross off your wall. If you
• 37:18
  Speaker 5: don't know that's voodoo.
• 37:22
  Speaker 7: Do you know where that is?
• 37:23
  Speaker 5: Yes?
• 37:24
  Speaker 7: Friday Night lots, and.
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: I know, yeah, we were well anyway, maybe you said
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: Friday Light Nights, Friday Night Lights and land Man, so yeah.
• 37:36
  Speaker 5: So ben Bob is a good friend of mine and
• 37:38
  Speaker 5: was one of John's best friends and does stuff for
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: the foundation and stuff and every once in a while
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: for like an auction item, and when we're raising money,
• 37:48
  Speaker 5: he'll sign a guitar. He's also a musician. And my CEO, Meredith,
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: drives out to where he's shooting that and they like,
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: she said, oh my god, they made me sit in
• 37:57
  Speaker 5: a chair. They made me sit in Billy's chair. She
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: loves it. He loves being showbiz adjacent, so it's it's
• 38:05
  Speaker 5: really fun for her. But we, like I said, we
• 38:07
  Speaker 5: have so much Texas.
• 38:08
  Speaker 7: So I've been living with John Ritter and you being
• 38:12
  Speaker 7: so funny yourself was a hate right.
• 38:14
  Speaker 5: We always last supper super hood.
• 38:18
  Speaker 7: So how I mean, what was your like first day?
• 38:21
  Speaker 5: You know, we met on a movie, so we never
• 38:24
  Speaker 5: even we never even really dated. Yeah, showbiz, but I
• 38:30
  Speaker 5: had met him years before. He didn't remember me, but
• 38:33
  Speaker 5: he was John Ritter and he was walking around the
• 38:35
  Speaker 5: West Side Pavilion Mall with his son and they were
• 38:39
  Speaker 5: looking at shar Pei puppies, and I was just like
• 38:43
  Speaker 5: going on John Riders inside of there. I was watching
• 38:45
  Speaker 5: and he was doing filthy stuff with the Sharpei folds,
• 38:49
  Speaker 5: making it look like stuff, and he was and to
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: his son didn't know what was going on, but the
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: women that were working there were like, ah, like I
• 38:59
  Speaker 5: like met him real and he said, oh, nice to
• 39:01
  Speaker 5: meet you.
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: Years later, unbelievable.
• 39:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, of course it was about humor and stuff, but
• 39:09
  Speaker 5: also we talked about We talked about grief a lot
• 39:14
  Speaker 5: because his dad died when he wasn't still at USC.
• 39:20
  Speaker 5: John was at USC. He was doing the Waltons. He
• 39:23
  Speaker 5: was a character on the Waltons Reverend ford Wick, which
• 39:28
  Speaker 5: he of course called Reverend Foreskin. But that's that's neither
• 39:32
  Speaker 5: here nor there.
• 39:34
  Speaker 6: But he.
• 39:37
  Speaker 5: What the heck are we talking about.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: Your first day?
• 39:44
  Speaker 5: I mean, humor was a giant part of it, but also,
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: like I said, real stuff. And his his dad died
• 39:52
  Speaker 5: in Nashville when John was here, and he went there
• 39:57
  Speaker 5: for the funeral, and he his dad was always a
• 40:03
  Speaker 5: little bit like, son, you're making a fool of yourself, now,
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: knock it off, and like, you know what I mean?
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: Because John loved Jerry Lewis and would be like a
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: goofy goofball and stuff. And sometimes John would get on
• 40:13
  Speaker 5: the hood of the family station wagon, which is they
• 40:17
  Speaker 5: would go from Carnival to Carnival. That sounds weirder than
• 40:21
  Speaker 5: it is, but that's how the cowboys singing cowboys did
• 40:25
  Speaker 5: and that you see it in the movies. My favorite movie,
• 40:28
  Speaker 5: which is Coal Miner's Daughter. Just hang up the Christmas
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: lights and do the thing. But John would get up
• 40:35
  Speaker 5: there because other things that were happening would be tent revivals.
• 40:39
  Speaker 5: So and even though they didn't they're Methodists, they're not
• 40:42
  Speaker 5: going into anything too fancy. But John would stand and
• 40:46
  Speaker 5: he would take the antenna from his dad's car, pretend
• 40:48
  Speaker 5: like he was like preaching and stuff and don't get
• 40:51
  Speaker 5: down from there. Secretly just you're making a fool of
• 40:54
  Speaker 5: all of us and stuff. But he got to see
• 40:57
  Speaker 5: him on the Waltons and so that was a big
• 41:00
  Speaker 5: deal that John's dad got to see him, like do it,
• 41:03
  Speaker 5: preacher rever.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: Ellen, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: bit about yourself, and do you have a question for Amy.
• 41:14
  Speaker 6: Hey, Hi, I'm Ellen Cooola.
• 41:17
  Speaker 9: I live in Miami Beach, So, Lauren, I'm a Miami girl.
• 41:25
  Speaker 6: I work for enough for profit.
• 41:27
  Speaker 10: We raised money for hospitals in Israel.
• 41:32
  Speaker 6: We're Hadasa Hospital.
• 41:35
  Speaker 9: I just as a matter of fact, I started working
• 41:39
  Speaker 9: for them during COVID. I was a member, a volunteer,
• 41:43
  Speaker 9: and decided I had raised my kids for fourteen years
• 41:48
  Speaker 9: being home with them, and it was time for me
• 41:51
  Speaker 9: to give back to the community and do something more
• 41:55
  Speaker 9: with myself.
• 41:55
  Speaker 5: So I don't know about your in your hospital experience
• 42:00
  Speaker 5: where we talk to people, but I have family, whole
• 42:03
  Speaker 5: families in my head that I'm like keeping track of
• 42:07
  Speaker 5: and stuff, So yours is a little pulled out from that,
• 42:09
  Speaker 5: and like you're making these facilities and safe and stuff.
• 42:13
  Speaker 5: By the way, I'd give you all the information you want.
• 42:15
  Speaker 5: We have everything now I.
• 42:17
  Speaker 11: Should put you in touch with them actually, because I
• 42:20
  Speaker 11: mean Hadasa Hospital does top research for around the world
• 42:26
  Speaker 11: and all different areas of research, from women's health to ophthalmology.
• 42:33
  Speaker 6: There's just a lot going on.
• 42:34
  Speaker 5: There, procedures a lot. The thing that barbersed rice and
• 42:39
  Speaker 5: building over there, the women's heart health.
• 42:41
  Speaker 9: So I have I mean one of the things that
• 42:46
  Speaker 9: as I'm getting older and my kids are twenty six
• 42:50
  Speaker 9: and twenty three, just trying to figure out, you know,
• 42:56
  Speaker 9: just what makes me happy every day.
• 42:59
  Speaker 6: And I you know, we all create our routines.
• 43:01
  Speaker 5: I don't have a routine. That's my problem. If I
• 43:04
  Speaker 5: if I turned this camera around, bro, you can't believe it.
• 43:08
  Speaker 5: I have so many projects.
• 43:10
  Speaker 9: I was going to ask you two things if I
• 43:13
  Speaker 9: could do it.
• 43:15
  Speaker 10: One, what is what is one of your bucket list
• 43:20
  Speaker 10: items on your life list, whether it's a like a
• 43:25
  Speaker 10: life a trip.
• 43:27
  Speaker 5: I'd like to go back to Ireland. I went a
• 43:29
  Speaker 5: little bit. I mean any I just want to go.
• 43:33
  Speaker 5: I mean, I want to like dig up fossils. I
• 43:35
  Speaker 5: want to go mudlarking. You know what that is? What
• 43:39
  Speaker 5: you know, Lauren? You know, are we on the same
• 43:41
  Speaker 5: TikTok algorithm? So in England and other places where there's
• 43:47
  Speaker 5: like streams and rivers and stuff, there's so much history
• 43:51
  Speaker 5: in the banks because so many people would just throw
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: literal shit, but also stuff. So there's a thing and
• 43:57
  Speaker 5: you can go, excuse my mirror, but it's look it's you,
• 44:02
  Speaker 5: but different. You put like a little glass thing and
• 44:06
  Speaker 5: you hold it down in the water so you're looking
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: into it, or if the water's clear and there's just
• 44:10
  Speaker 5: little like little, a little piece of jewelry, a little
• 44:13
  Speaker 5: doll's head, and then like a button from a tutor,
• 44:17
  Speaker 5: you know, or from like Queen Elizabeth. Okay, I'm just
• 44:21
  Speaker 5: like my friend Sarah Silverman, who is a doll. She
• 44:25
  Speaker 5: told me about pebbling, which is what I do. It's
• 44:29
  Speaker 5: what penguins do when they like each other and they
• 44:30
  Speaker 5: give each other like little pebbles, or crows do it.
• 44:34
  Speaker 5: I like to explore and find little things. John used
• 44:39
  Speaker 5: to say. John used to say, we'd be like in
• 44:41
  Speaker 5: Hawaiian it's beautiful, and you know, it would be like
• 44:45
  Speaker 5: the sun is setting and everybody's like holding onto their
• 44:47
  Speaker 5: spouse and get the sunset. And I'm looking around like
• 44:49
  Speaker 5: I found a piece of glass, you know, sweetheart, sweetheart,
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: sunsets over that away, over that away, and I'd be like, oh,
• 44:57
  Speaker 5: and then he's like, are you looking? Are you looking
• 44:59
  Speaker 5: for rocks? Looking for shells? And I can feel one
• 45:01
  Speaker 5: under my photo. I can get it real quick. Okay,
• 45:03
  Speaker 5: now the sun set again. I mean I am a forager,
• 45:11
  Speaker 5: is that right?
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: And and do you keep all of these things? Like
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: are we going to see you on an episode of
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: Hoarders some day or like, what do.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: You do with all of them?
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: What do you do with that?
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: Well, because they're collections but not really and my grandkids
• 45:25
  Speaker 5: love them. I'm like looking around, I have a little
• 45:28
  Speaker 5: little areas for everything. I don't know I have right here,
• 45:32
  Speaker 5: like if I turn this around, I'm not going to
• 45:34
  Speaker 5: do it, but I'll send you guys pictures. So I have,
• 45:38
  Speaker 5: Well here's something. I have no idea what I'm going
• 45:40
  Speaker 5: to do with these. But I bought these and these
• 45:43
  Speaker 5: are avalony, like pretty little cabashat like little shells, but
• 45:50
  Speaker 5: you know, I glue them onto stuff and I did.
• 45:52
  Speaker 5: I don't know, always going and I build stuff. I
• 45:55
  Speaker 5: built a coffee table, but it was all right, a
• 46:00
  Speaker 5: coffee table, but it was glass and metal. Then I
• 46:03
  Speaker 5: took the metal off and it had these little rods.
• 46:05
  Speaker 5: So then I bought my lying Joss. I bought all
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: these wooden beads of different shapes and sizes, and I
• 46:12
  Speaker 5: died them with different strengths of coffee. Get it, coffee table.
• 46:16
  Speaker 5: So the legs are may I'll send your picture. So
• 46:18
  Speaker 5: the legs are made of that. But I'll sit and
• 46:20
  Speaker 5: think about it for a year. And then I came
• 46:23
  Speaker 5: home from a very stressful ninety five year old's birthday party,
• 46:28
  Speaker 5: and I was so stressed out socially that I went,
• 46:31
  Speaker 5: I wonder if I have all this stuff for that
• 46:33
  Speaker 5: project in my head. And then I spent six hours
• 46:37
  Speaker 5: I made this. If anybody's a therapist or a psychiatrist,
• 46:40
  Speaker 5: I know, I know, I've got my diagnosis. I understand,
• 46:43
  Speaker 5: I understand where what kind of spectrum I am on.
• 46:47
  Speaker 5: But that kind of thing that kind of like weird tenacity,
• 46:51
  Speaker 5: if it's something I'm interested in, is how I do
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: the foundation. It just like keep digging and digging. I'm
• 46:59
  Speaker 5: like this is like that, like this is like that,
• 47:02
  Speaker 5: here's the pattern for this. And sometimes doctors are different
• 47:06
  Speaker 5: kind of brained. And by the way, there's no such
• 47:08
  Speaker 5: thing as right brain and left brain. You know. That
• 47:11
  Speaker 5: was one paper and it's been disproved. Just letting you know.
• 47:14
  Speaker 5: It's that idea of that kind of curiosity that leads
• 47:19
  Speaker 5: out this way, but it can also be focused. So
• 47:23
  Speaker 5: that's why sometimes doctors call me like I've got a
• 47:25
  Speaker 5: family who's just not buying it. They say, this is
• 47:28
  Speaker 5: God's will and I'm playing God if I try to
• 47:32
  Speaker 5: like look into their DNA and stuff. So then I
• 47:35
  Speaker 5: am like, can I talk to this family and I'll
• 47:37
  Speaker 5: come up with something Again, Like we were saying, every child,
• 47:42
  Speaker 5: you have to not that these families are childlike, but
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: you have to honor like their individuality. So finding something,
• 47:51
  Speaker 5: you know, something in the Tamud or something in the
• 47:55
  Speaker 5: New Testament or something that they're like, I'm like, yes,
• 47:58
  Speaker 5: but we're allowed to ask questions and this beautiful spark
• 48:02
  Speaker 5: of God that's in us, that's letting us see into
• 48:05
  Speaker 5: this when in fact I kind of just want to say,
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: just get your DNA tested. You could be rocking and
• 48:10
  Speaker 5: aertic candorism right now.
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: That's yeah.
• 48:13
  Speaker 5: Not everybody is there? Not everybody is there?
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 48:15
  Speaker 3: True?
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: Well this has been This has been so fascinating. It's
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: fun to talk to you, which we've just kept going on.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: We could keep going on and on.
• 48:22
  Speaker 5: We welcome back with you.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: I would love it. You're so much fun to talk
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: to you. So tell us tell our audience where they
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: can find you, like what projects you might be working on,
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: or where can they find you on social media?
• 48:35
  Speaker 5: Look, come on my answer. I'm just found out I
• 48:37
  Speaker 5: have three thousand followers on Instagram. Yes, I didn't even
• 48:42
  Speaker 5: know how I did that. I don't know what that's about.
• 48:44
  Speaker 5: That diet coke is coming up on me as they said. Sorry,
• 48:48
  Speaker 5: I'm sure you could hear that on.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: The well number three thousand and one. How where do
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: we find you?
• 48:53
  Speaker 5: Not? Okay? So as yazbec Amy's all right at yasbec
• 48:58
  Speaker 5: Amy on Instagram. I should do more on TikTok where
• 49:00
  Speaker 5: it's just Amy. Those other amy as people trying to
• 49:03
  Speaker 5: be me or whatever, don't do that. You'll see it's
• 49:05
  Speaker 5: a picture of me and John. You'll see it John
• 49:07
  Speaker 5: and me, John Water Foundation dot org. Boom, you guys
• 49:15
  Speaker 5: visit me and can I come back on and stuff.
• 49:18
  Speaker 5: I'll talk about being a mom more. I'm just.
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: We can get to that. We'll get to that some
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: other we'll get to that another show that one.
• 49:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, well topics we want to get with you, Amy,
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: Mom's talk about everything so crap they do.
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: That's exactly right.
• 49:35
  Speaker 5: And by the way, I nursed for almost four years.
• 49:37
  Speaker 5: We'll talk about that later.
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: Oh well, we'll do a whole show on life. That's
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: quite something. Yes, it is quite And you can check
• 49:46
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• 49:49
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• 49:54
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• 50:00
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• 50:06
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• 50:08
  Speaker 1: thousand subscribers and you can be another our next seven
• 50:12
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• 50:18
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• 50:41
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• 50:49
  Speaker 1: she learns to play the guitar, so we're gonna be
• 50:51
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• 50:54
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  Speaker 1: be fun. Well, Julie. We you know, this has been
• 51:03
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• 51:06
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• 51:08
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• 51:10
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• 51:13
  Speaker 1: don't laugh sometimes you are.
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: Going to cry.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: You are going to cry. Keep on keep laughing out there, moms,
• 51:19
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