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A Happy Couple Check-In with Charity Lawson and Dotun Olubeko · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone, welcome to the Almost Manic Podcast. Like I've
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  Speaker 2: been saying in the past couple episodes, today Ben's not
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  Speaker 2: here because he's in Italy, but we have some amazing
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  Speaker 2: people here to join us instead. It is Charity and Doten,
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  Speaker 2: the Happy Couple. We are so so thrilled to have you. Charity.
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  Speaker 2: I messaged you a couple of weeks ago just saying
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  Speaker 2: that I was so enjoying watching your season and you
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  Speaker 2: as the lead. You're just like You're just so enjoyable
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  Speaker 2: and easy to watch. Like I don't know, I've related
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  Speaker 2: to you more than many bachelorettes of recent past, and
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  Speaker 2: it was just you were You conducted the show so
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  Speaker 2: wonderfully and this love story was one that I feel like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: we haven't seen so intensely one like this in a while.
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  Speaker 2: And you, guys, I just like, congratulations, I'm so so
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  Speaker 2: happy for you. It was a joy to watch it all.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much, so much.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so, like, where do we again? Where'd you leave again? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: don how did you sign up for the show?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so I didn't sign up, I did it. It
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  Speaker 4: wasn't nominated, didn't do any that. Two weeks before filming
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  Speaker 4: actually started, my roommate he was in like a text
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  Speaker 4: thread with one of his old college buddies, and then
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  Speaker 4: the college buddy was in the running. He dropped out
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  Speaker 4: until the casting director told that guy. He said, if
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  Speaker 4: you don't even want to fill your place, I know
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  Speaker 4: it's the last minute. He put it in the group
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  Speaker 4: text and my roommate was in and my roommate thought
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  Speaker 4: of me, right dad, like a list of criteri, he
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  Speaker 4: thought of me, and then he texted me. He's like,
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  Speaker 4: send me pictures and I was like, for what, and
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  Speaker 4: he's like, don't worry about it, and then he's like,
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  Speaker 4: y'all want to put you on the black speasherrette. Eventually
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  Speaker 4: I thought he was kidding, and then within an hour
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  Speaker 4: I had the casting agent call me and then the
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  Speaker 4: rest was history. So it was it was crunch time
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  Speaker 4: doing six months where the stuff in two weeks was tough,
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  Speaker 4: and I wasn't sure I was going to do it,
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  Speaker 4: but I saw this pretty little lady.
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  Speaker 2: Guys, You're entire story may not have existed if this
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  Speaker 2: one guy didn't drop out, and down didn't feel it
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  Speaker 2: like the urge to put it all together within two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: Holy cow, It's.
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  Speaker 3: Literally like it's actual fate.
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  Speaker 5: And I always say, like Jackie around, I'm like, so,
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  Speaker 5: what did the other guy like, Simmy, Like what.
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  Speaker 3: Did he look like?
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  Speaker 5: I want to know that would have been like his
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  Speaker 5: like replacement if he never came. But it's like everything
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  Speaker 5: truly did work out, And it's like crazy, how like
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  Speaker 5: this show obviously, like the purpose of the show really
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  Speaker 5: did bring us like together.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we like broughout, we say fairy tale. Then that's
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  Speaker 4: the reason why is because like eighty teaming goes beat
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  Speaker 4: before his name is Sam, shout out, Sam, thank you.
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  Speaker 4: But even before that, you know, it's like moving to
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  Speaker 4: New York, finding rooming with these guys. The way that
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  Speaker 4: everything worked out truly just felt like it kind of
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  Speaker 4: led to her in this moment. And so as logical
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  Speaker 4: as we are, it's hard to deny the circumstances that
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  Speaker 4: led us together. So it's insane and we still don't
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  Speaker 4: believe it to this day. But I'm just grateful for
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  Speaker 4: this crazy life, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is seriously magical. All right, Well, Charity, he
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  Speaker 2: didn't play the biggest role on the first couple episodes,
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  Speaker 2: he definitely was a silent standout, okay ye, Like when
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  Speaker 2: he got out of his little package, he got out
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  Speaker 2: the limo, I was like, my eye was on him,
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  Speaker 2: but he didn't become like a main character for a
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  Speaker 2: couple episodes. When did you know this guy's in my
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  Speaker 2: top three or four?
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  Speaker 3: Ocean said, So, that's what I want to say.
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  Speaker 5: Week three the Barbie Day, Like he killed his performance.
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  Speaker 3: It's like so good.
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  Speaker 5: But it was really that conversation that night when I
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  Speaker 5: took him up to my room and I was just
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  Speaker 5: like obviously like wanting to do something special for him,
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  Speaker 5: but then he ended up just like truly changing.
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  Speaker 3: My life in that moment.
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  Speaker 5: Essentially that conversation what you guys saw, it was a
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  Speaker 5: brief moment, but it was a conversation that brought me
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  Speaker 5: to tears, and like it was just raw tears, genuine tears,
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  Speaker 5: because that was like the first moment I ever felt
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  Speaker 5: really seen by someone, Like obviously it was on an
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  Speaker 5: intimate level, but like in my life, like no one
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  Speaker 5: has ever been able to talk about me the way
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  Speaker 5: that he did in that moment, and I was like
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  Speaker 5: it kind of hit me. I was like, oh God,
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  Speaker 5: like it's happening, you know, you kind of get that
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  Speaker 5: feeling of like, Okay, now I really am starting to
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  Speaker 5: recognize like this person could be my person. And it
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  Speaker 5: was like scary a little bit, but it was so
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  Speaker 5: like exciting.
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  Speaker 2: That's so beautiful. I remember that moment. It's it's a
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  Speaker 2: good one. Yeah, Dot. And when did you feel like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: this isn't a show, like this could actually be my wife?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah? Probably the same moment obviously the chat in I mean,
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  Speaker 4: I would say it started week two when I got
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  Speaker 4: out of the show phase, because that was like kind
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  Speaker 4: of like what am I doing here? Like that this
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  Speaker 4: whole faith thing is true? Like am I just a
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  Speaker 4: Jackasser coming here with that conversation after the barbecue for
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  Speaker 4: the second Rose, before the second Row ceremony, And then
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  Speaker 4: she just received what I said so well and so
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  Speaker 4: like for me, that was important, right because then I'm like, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: this is not BS. She's actually looking for low and
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  Speaker 4: she's very serious about it and she connects on what
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  Speaker 4: I shared with her. But then, like she said, the
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  Speaker 4: ocean side was just so huge for us because we
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  Speaker 4: just that's where the foundation I feel like started being
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  Speaker 4: laid for both of us. Together on that one journey,
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  Speaker 4: and then following obviously got that one on one and
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  Speaker 4: the rest was history.
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  Speaker 2: So truly, yeah, you got the one on one and
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  Speaker 2: then the next week you got another one on one
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  Speaker 2: and that was big news. How did you fenangle that one?
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't get enough. I love it. I know that question.
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  Speaker 5: Obviously, it's so tricky to answer because obviously at that
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  Speaker 5: what we see that week, there's several guys at that
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  Speaker 5: point who hadn't had.
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  Speaker 3: One on ones.
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  Speaker 5: But in specifics, like when it came to Dawton, I knew,
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  Speaker 5: like that day for that date that I selected him for,
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  Speaker 5: which was the marathon, I was like, it's a long
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  Speaker 5: date and I wanted to spend that day with someone
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  Speaker 5: that I knew I was like gonna have without a doubt,
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  Speaker 5: Like there was gonna be no doubt in my mind.
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  Speaker 5: I was going to have a great time because raking
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  Speaker 5: up like I mean that was that day started at
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  Speaker 5: six am and then we spent essentially the whole day together.
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  Speaker 3: So it was really important to me.
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  Speaker 5: But I was like, again, like I was coming off
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  Speaker 5: such a high from the last one on one. I
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  Speaker 5: was like, all right, well him again, and They're like
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  Speaker 5: what Nope, him again, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right. Another moment that I loved was hometownst
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  Speaker 2: in your hometown blew us away, And it was after
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  Speaker 2: a series of hometowns they were all really so great,
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  Speaker 2: like all the families. You know, we were a little
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  Speaker 2: bit skeptical of Joey's uncle, but besides that, like great hometowns,
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  Speaker 2: and then yours just was a cherry on top. Your
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  Speaker 2: parents surprising you back from Africa were you were, were
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  Speaker 2: you were?
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  Speaker 4: Were?
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  Speaker 2: You were both surprised, right, you fully had no idea.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, that's not great.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and your mom Dotton talking to Charity about like
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  Speaker 2: how she's like already ready to plan the wedding and
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  Speaker 2: like she's praying with her. Oh my gosh. It was
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  Speaker 2: the sweetest thing. Do you guys have any stories that
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  Speaker 2: we didn't get to see from hometowns that were really meaningful?
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  Speaker 5: Mine is the biggest one, which was the after part.
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  Speaker 3: So when we went to the drive in theater.
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  Speaker 5: He had obviously that like beautiful like little movie clips
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  Speaker 5: of us from like birth to like where we're at now,
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  Speaker 5: like essentially our story, and so at the end I
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  Speaker 5: was sobbing wet face again. But that was when I
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  Speaker 5: actually told him I was falling in love with him,
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  Speaker 5: So that was like a really special moment between us.
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  Speaker 3: It was we kind of bummed out that that didn't.
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  Speaker 5: Make it, but I was like, it's okay, Like it
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  Speaker 5: was kind of like one for us to keep. But
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  Speaker 5: now I was like, I love talking about that in
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  Speaker 5: shanging because it definitely does kind of change that jectory
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  Speaker 5: of like where I was at in the sense of
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  Speaker 5: like how I felt about him at that time, which
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  Speaker 5: was hometown. It's like, like you said his hometown was
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  Speaker 5: so good, and I was like, this was a perfect
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  Speaker 5: moment for me to like express how I felt about
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  Speaker 5: him at the time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, that's the biggest one probably in the whole season,
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  Speaker 4: really the biggest thing that probably wasn't shown. I would say, also,
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  Speaker 4: like just my hometown just went I mean, it went
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  Speaker 4: so well. Wasn't what I expected, Like that Durans aren't
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  Speaker 4: like they don't want me to do this, you know,
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  Speaker 4: my family just like, no, they're not going to think
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna find love on here. But they knew that
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  Speaker 4: if I went this far, then I must actually be,
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  Speaker 4: you know, have feelings for this girl. And so everyone
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  Speaker 4: just put their best foot forward. And that's why they
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  Speaker 4: embraced charity. And you know, me and my dad had
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  Speaker 4: a moment too where he was just like sobbing. That
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  Speaker 4: guy never cries. I mean, that guy's like he's insane.
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  Speaker 4: He never cries. But he had a moment where he
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  Speaker 4: was sobbing and like just connecting with me as a
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  Speaker 4: son and just like being proud and so that was
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  Speaker 4: a beautiful moment for us, and he said things that
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  Speaker 4: he had never said to me before. And yeah, I
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  Speaker 4: had amazing conversations with my sister too. She had asked
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  Speaker 4: great questions about charity and had just the best insights.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, there was so much in that hometown. It
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  Speaker 4: really could have gone better, and so I wish they
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  Speaker 4: were able to show that. But it's okay, I get it.
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  Speaker 4: Death to build time.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, well, you know, there's something about the show
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  Speaker 2: that really makes you say things that you never thought
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  Speaker 2: that you'd say like out loud, and be as vulnerable
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  Speaker 2: as you never could imagine you'd be. But then I
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  Speaker 2: also just wanted to say they had to count out
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  Speaker 2: the falling in love with you, because like that would
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  Speaker 2: be a dead giveaway exactly, there would be no surprise
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  Speaker 2: to me. There like already was no surprise in my heart,
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  Speaker 2: but like I but I still like couldn't wait to
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  Speaker 2: see the journey to get there. And if you had
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  Speaker 2: seen that, it would have just been like That's what
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  Speaker 2: we kind of like.
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  Speaker 3: We told each other.
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  Speaker 5: We're like, well, if that had been left in then
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  Speaker 5: that people would go tune it out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, Well, don this is like super awkward when
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  Speaker 2: I bring up Joey because but I'm sure you're used
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  Speaker 2: to it by now. Okay, great, great, great, great charity
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  Speaker 2: watching the like the whole top three week and beyond,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, what do you mean you don't know?
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  Speaker 3: I was actually losing my mind. I think I need
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  Speaker 3: to say that.
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  Speaker 5: I know, I know right now, Okay, I will be
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  Speaker 5: fair like Aaron probably like I was just okay, starting afresh.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, then you also let Aaron be in and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, wait, why you're very kind, but like
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  Speaker 2: we know that these two are like so much higher.
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  Speaker 5: In drinkings Joey and Dot and definitely was like firm
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  Speaker 5: like final two, like yeah, regardless of anything. But I
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  Speaker 5: was just like, I mean, you guys can kind of
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  Speaker 5: relate as contestants, but it's like you're just under such
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  Speaker 5: like mental exhaustion and so your emotions at that like
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  Speaker 5: you can't really like I don't want to say I
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  Speaker 5: can't think straight, but like I'm I don't want to
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  Speaker 5: say easily swayed either, but it's like anything.
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  Speaker 3: Kind of goes. You're just like kind of going through
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  Speaker 3: the motions.
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  Speaker 5: And I don't like to say that either because it
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  Speaker 5: almost feels like I didn't take it serious. I definitely was,
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  Speaker 5: but there's a lot that's happening. So that week was
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  Speaker 5: very like jam pack lots of like important decisions to make.
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  Speaker 5: You'renaring things down. So yeah, when I said I didn't know,
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  Speaker 5: in my heart of hearts, I probably did know. But
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  Speaker 5: like in those initial moments when I was like asked
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  Speaker 5: on the on the spot, like what am I feeling,
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  Speaker 5: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I really don't know, Like give me something time to
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  Speaker 3: think about it.
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  Speaker 5: But yeah, it was I mean gotten for a while
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  Speaker 5: was like up there and was like clear front runner.
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  Speaker 5: But then obviously, like when we got to Fiji, like
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  Speaker 5: that's when like Joey kind of like definitely caught up.
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  Speaker 5: And so then that's when I was really like in
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  Speaker 5: a place where I was starting to become torn but
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  Speaker 5: like my gut and I had to rely on that.
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  Speaker 5: So as you see like my journey throughout this whole season,
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  Speaker 5: it's like Cherity's intuition, Cheerity's gut, like.
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  Speaker 3: When she going to finally trust that and like rely
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  Speaker 3: on that.
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  Speaker 5: And so that's when I knew, like what I'm feeling
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  Speaker 5: in this moment and how i feel about this man, like.
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  Speaker 3: This is what I'm supposed to do and this is
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  Speaker 3: who I'm supposed to be with.
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  Speaker 2: Let's talk about your family's opinion. I know that way heavy.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure they truly loved you guys both in that
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  Speaker 2: first impression, but you know, the way we see it
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  Speaker 2: is another way that another tactic that they used to
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  Speaker 2: like throw us off a bit, and they seem to
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  Speaker 2: think that you lit up more around Joey or you
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  Speaker 2: were like more relaxed. Yeah, and like things just seemed
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  Speaker 2: heavier because I just think that, like the love is
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  Speaker 2: heavier with gotten, right, So how like, so how was
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  Speaker 2: that really? How was their reception to both guys? And
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  Speaker 2: then elaborate on that conversation that you had with your
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  Speaker 2: mom or she was like Charity, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: decide for you.
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  Speaker 4: That would.
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  Speaker 5: No So my my family both loved Joey and Dawton,
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  Speaker 5: and obviously what you said you're spot on about, like
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  Speaker 5: kind of another tactic used. But I think if I
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  Speaker 5: can make sense, like Joey's was the first meet the
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  Speaker 5: family is what we see too, so that's the first
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  Speaker 5: time I'm also seeing my family, so how they see
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  Speaker 5: me in that moment, It's like I am like very excited,
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  Speaker 5: I'm very glowy because it's like I'm bringing home someone
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  Speaker 5: for you guys see me, but I'm also excited to
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  Speaker 5: see my family. So like a lot of that energy
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  Speaker 5: was contributed to, like my family just being back in
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  Speaker 5: their presence, and so I don't think people like obviously
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  Speaker 5: take that into consideration at all. But no, my my
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  Speaker 5: family absolutely loved him. Like my mom, yes, she was
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  Speaker 5: a little bit more harsh, like harsh or harder, but.
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  Speaker 3: She's just being protective.
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  Speaker 5: And I will like continuously defend that because my mom
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  Speaker 5: by no means doesn't like him, Like that's like an
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  Speaker 5: incorrect narrative.
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  Speaker 3: But like my parents both gave their.
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  Speaker 5: Blessing and gave Dotton their blessing for him to propose
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  Speaker 5: to me, and so yeah, it went great.
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  Speaker 3: There was a lot of conversations that.
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  Speaker 5: We didn't see, Like him and my sister had an
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  Speaker 5: amazing conversation that wasn't really shown in its entirety him
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  Speaker 5: and my dad like we only saw like a brief
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  Speaker 5: with that, and then obviously the sit down with my
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  Speaker 5: mom after I had to come back in and just
• 14:31
  Speaker 5: kind of give them the rundown of what's going on again,
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  Speaker 5: another mental exhaustion moment. I was like someone just helped me,
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  Speaker 5: like rescue me. And I kind of was like a
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  Speaker 5: little dependent in that moment of my mom to be
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  Speaker 5: like just give me like pros and cons and she
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  Speaker 5: knew in her heart like that wasn't going to be
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  Speaker 5: the most beneficial thing for her to do as a mom,
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  Speaker 5: which I appreciate her for and looking back on, like
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  Speaker 5: in that moment, yes, I was very frustrated, but looking back,
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  Speaker 5: I respect her on that because I think if she
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  Speaker 5: had said bade them like one person over the other,
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  Speaker 5: that could have like some way probably altered the outcome,
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  Speaker 5: and I didn't want that. So the fact that she
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  Speaker 5: trusted me enough to make the decision for myself because
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  Speaker 5: I'm the one that has to marry him, and so
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  Speaker 5: she believed in me and she trusted that.
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  Speaker 2: So Okay, well, you guys, I'm just so glad the
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  Speaker 2: way it turned out again, and I like thought that
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  Speaker 2: that was the most beautiful proposal, would you guys? Both
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  Speaker 2: said to each other. Made everybody at home melt. I've
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  Speaker 2: told everybody who hasn't like watched the show in a
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  Speaker 2: few years that like yours is worth going back and
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  Speaker 2: watching because the love story is just so great. I
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: want to talk about happy couples weekends and like after
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  Speaker 2: the proposal, because after the proposal you get to have
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  Speaker 2: like a little vacation and you know, wherever you are
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  Speaker 2: for like three or four days. How was that when
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: the doors closed, the cameras were off, and you were like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, this is like a real thing. Was
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  Speaker 2: it at all awkward or was it just wonderful?
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  Speaker 4: There's like there's like a small period like once it's
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  Speaker 4: all seted than the proposal, Actually we get a couple
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: of days to like hang out and like just culminate everything,
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: and there's this like this like somber period of taking
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: it all in, like what the hell we just did
• 16:18
  Speaker 4: and went through and like the love that I have
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: and how we're going to take that into the next step.
• 16:23
  Speaker 4: So it's very like kind of it. It's a little heavy,
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: right to say, it's a little heavy, but not in
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: a bad in the best way possible. I think both
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: of us are just preparing for the next steps. And
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: then it only continued to grow. And I think we
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: took the lessons from the show in terms of having
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: those hard conversations, uh, talking deep, using our communication skills
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: that helped us bond in the first place, and continued
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: that into the Happy Cobbles, and so we continued learning
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: about each other. We didn't like let our foot off
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: the gas, and it's only helped us grow more.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: So.
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: It's it's it's every stage has its fun and it's challenges.
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: It's also fun to like be kind of sneaky. There's
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: like something like tap about it.
• 17:00
  Speaker 5: You know.
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: It's like like no one knows, but yeah, it's a
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: weird mix of emotions with each stage. But I feel
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: like we handled it so well.
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: Wait a second, no one knows. But there was that
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: one time that you guys both posted that you were
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: at the same place at the same time.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: What happened there?
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: We just were in town at the same time. We
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: were not.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: Total coincidence was somebody wearing wigs.
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: No, we actually weren't together.
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: I just was in town for press, but it was
• 17:34
  Speaker 5: I was trying to be funny and it did not
• 17:36
  Speaker 5: go over.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: We don't have to focus on that. But there was
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: another slipop by People magazine posted your finale your finale results.
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: Accident, how do you miss?
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: I don't know that.
• 17:54
  Speaker 5: I was so bummed about that, and it was even
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: only up there for like a split second. But as
• 17:59
  Speaker 5: we know it, anything up on the internet is just
• 18:02
  Speaker 5: it's out. So yeah, that was a little disappointing, but
• 18:08
  Speaker 5: so close to the I.
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: Know, it was like right two days before.
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: Unbelievable.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: I was like, this is not happening. This is literally
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: our luck. But this is happening, but.
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: A major publication even al I'm saying it would.
• 18:22
  Speaker 5: Be different if I posted it or someone in production
• 18:26
  Speaker 5: posted it.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: But no, I can't believe that that happened, and I
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: can't imagine how annoyed the you know, the behind the
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: scenes crew must be. I saw those things like the
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: revealed accidental spill up, you know what a slip up,
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: and I didn't look like who it was. I just like,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: as soon as I saw like bachelorettes spoiled by people.
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: I was like.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Flying past this. Yeah, okay, let's talk about present day now.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: How are you okay? You're brought to prepare for Dancing
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: with the Stars.
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: This has always been a critical challenge point for bachelor
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: leads getting off the show, who decided to do Dancing
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: with the Stars. How are you going to thrive through it?
• 19:13
  Speaker 5: I think if anything, we like gotten said, we have
• 19:16
  Speaker 5: done the work and we have laid such a strong
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: foundation for where we're at at this point, and that's
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: only going to continue.
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: To grow and evolve.
• 19:27
  Speaker 5: So it's just prioritizing each other. And I know, obviously
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: that sounds a little crazy because it's like, well, my
• 19:32
  Speaker 5: priority now will essentially be Dancing with the Stars, but
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: never forgetting like what this is and what we have
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: and our relationship that still is very much a priority
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: and will be. And so just it requires is going
• 19:43
  Speaker 5: to require more time being more intentional with that and
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: how we utilize that. But I am very confident that
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: we will be totally fine. He will be out there
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: with me, so that definitely helps. And if at any point,
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: you know, it gets to chaotic, I don't.
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: Know, but we'll address it when when we get there.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: But right now, like I am, I don't.
• 20:04
  Speaker 5: Have any any doubts and he doesn't either, So I
• 20:06
  Speaker 5: think us both being on the same page with that.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: He literally is like my biggest supporter and fan.
• 20:12
  Speaker 5: So with that energy, I think we will be able
• 20:15
  Speaker 5: to push.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: Right on through.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: So you don't believe in the Dancing with the Stars curse.
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: I don't.
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: I don't believe in any of this nonsense.
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: Are you kidding?
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: But this is real deale right here?
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly. This is not like a trial here. We're not.
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: I can for me. I don't think her either, We're not.
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: I'm just not a trial. Like, oh we're still kind
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: of figuring thinks of that. Yeah, Like no, this is
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: locked in and like and then like, just like in
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: any marriage relationship, you are going to work through things.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: So I don't have any conterns on my friend. I'm
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: just excited because I feel so good that she's going
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: to freaking bring that Marion ball back home. Like she's
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: got everything going for her, no pressure, baby, but I'm
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: super duper excited. So and I'll be there out there,
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: and so like you won't have that distance factor and
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: we'll just keep talking and I think it'll be good. Yeah,
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: it'll be fun.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: Thanks.
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: True.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: So what's the living situation going to be like when
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: she's on Dancing with the Stars.
• 21:02
  Speaker 5: So he's gonna come out to LA with me while
• 21:04
  Speaker 5: I'm out there, so we'll be where I'm living at,
• 21:07
  Speaker 5: He'll be with living with me, and then after that
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: we'll relocate to our permanent place, which will.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: Be in New York. Nice. All right, So Dalton, you
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: are going back to your job in New York. I've
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: been working your dear back.
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: I love it.
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: Live as normal life as possible since coming back. So yeah,
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: it's just going to be business as usual and just
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: continuing and taking a day by daily, by week kind
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: of thing. So yeah, and I work remote, so I
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: can do this anywhere.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: So amazing, perfect, your work being remote will be very
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: helpful and especially the Dancing with the Stars chapter of
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: your life. Okay, so let's talk about like engagement marriage.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: What's the timeline here? Because I feel like you guys
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: are not going to be one of those bachelor couples
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: that wait a.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: Bit and you're in.
• 21:56
  Speaker 5: You would be correct, Yeah, you would be very correct
• 22:00
  Speaker 5: in that assessment.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: We both talked about it.
• 22:03
  Speaker 5: We don't want like the whole like five year engagement,
• 22:06
  Speaker 5: Like I'm just not into that. Like, yeah, our whole
• 22:09
  Speaker 5: purpose and point of coming on this was a fun
• 22:11
  Speaker 5: love we found it. We feel very confident. Obviously we're
• 22:15
  Speaker 5: going to take our time with it, not rush, but
• 22:17
  Speaker 5: like we are very excited about the idea and concept
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: of planning a wedding, getting married soon. So maybe a
• 22:24
  Speaker 5: year year and a half will be yeah, getting getting.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: Wed, walking down the aisle. So we'll probably have two weddings.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: You will probably have two weddings, just.
• 22:33
  Speaker 5: A small intimate one and then the big Nigerian one
• 22:37
  Speaker 5: that everyone's like rooting for and waiting for.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: So yeah, my gosh, So it'll happen in Nigeria.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the plan.
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah. So obviously things can change, but that'd be ideal.
• 22:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so nice.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, she says she's ready to whisk away.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: But she's so freaking cute.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: So cute.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Okay. I have a few fun questions for you guys,
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: But first, well, I guess to kick those fun questions off,
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: are you a vander pumb Rules fan? And like, do
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: you how do you feel about competing against Arianna Maddox.
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: I like absolutely love her and I stand her because
• 23:25
  Speaker 5: after that scandal, Like, my god, so I actually recently
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: just got into it because of that, which is crazy.
• 23:32
  Speaker 5: He has no reality, Like who is this? How do
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: I feel about competing against her? Yeah, I think it'll
• 23:39
  Speaker 5: be fun.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: It's excited. I'm excited to really meet her and like
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: get to know her. But yeah, I don't really have
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: any thoughts besides the fact that I am a fan
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: of her. So that's gonna be interesting.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: That's awesome. That's gonna be so much fun. You guys
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: have quite a height difference. Any like, any fun jokey
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: stories about that.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: When we're at the.
• 23:59
  Speaker 5: Club, I'm on I'm on the couch and he's on
• 24:02
  Speaker 5: the floor, so I'm always on something. I'm standing on
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: the bus.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: Are always a good time.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: Who said the best though?
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Jus the hug jumps?
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: You know?
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, yes, I'm sorry. People have told me that
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: I called a koala jump and then people corrected me
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: once I call it koala jump and they're like, they're who,
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: jus who you hug jumps?
• 24:25
  Speaker 5: Yeah?
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: I learned that too. Just go on the show with her?
• 24:28
  Speaker 5: Yeah?
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: Who? No, he does it?
• 24:32
  Speaker 5: So good because he just like it's like a smooth transition,
• 24:36
  Speaker 5: like yeah, glad into his arms.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: Please?
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: Do you do who jus in the real world?
• 24:46
  Speaker 5: Sometimes yeah, yeah, when we're just like goofing off happy couples.
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: We haven't seen each other for pretty much did it
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: coming right through the hug jump, So yeah, now we
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: do it like a little bit more goofy here, but
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: still it's still there.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: I love it. What's like something you guys bonded over
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: in haavy couples that you were like, Oh my gosh,
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: I didn't know we had this in common, like something
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: like pop culture.
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm, so much like you have very sent like
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: comedy sense, like like our sense of humor is so similar.
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: Music tastes right for things that weren't discussed per se
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: on the show. But we figured out slowly but surely.
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: So it's hard to say, like we both like Gunna, I.
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: Went to see Beyonce together. Nice Beyonce. Fan love this.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: It's fun.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: You went to Vegas right after you were announced as
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: a couple. How was that like big debut?
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: That was? It was fun? I would say we had
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: like a really good time and went.
• 25:56
  Speaker 5: My pretty fast just because we were just like enjoying
• 25:59
  Speaker 5: each other and had some of his guy friends from
• 26:03
  Speaker 5: the show come and they were there, so that was
• 26:06
  Speaker 5: interesting and.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Fun because I saw that was weird.
• 26:11
  Speaker 5: So that was fun, like just being able to be
• 26:14
  Speaker 5: out and like obviously we did have people like.
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: Come up and recognize us.
• 26:18
  Speaker 5: I would I'd always check about and say, like, I
• 26:20
  Speaker 5: get recognized more with him just because of like the
• 26:22
  Speaker 5: height difference, so they spot him and then they're.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: Like there she is, you know, yeah, yeah, but yeah.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: No, it was.
• 26:28
  Speaker 5: It was such a good time and it was actually
• 26:30
  Speaker 5: I think necessary for us to just kind of have
• 26:32
  Speaker 5: that period right after to just like.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: Bask and just celebration.
• 26:36
  Speaker 5: And his birthday was two days after AFR two, so
• 26:39
  Speaker 5: it was just a good week.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: Amazing. Do you guys have any embarrassing things that happened,
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: either like in the press that you've done recently or
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: during the filming that never got on air embarrassing like
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: really like silly stupid stories.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: Oh thanks, Then I've been on my best behavior on
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: this pressure.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: You've done a great job. You have not slipped up
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: at all.
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: I really have been on that behavior.
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: Anything embarrassing I will say, I will admit, but did
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: the dodgeball day. I did get out one time, but
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: and I stayed in. I didn't leave, but that was
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: because those rules were garbage. Okay, those were not real
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: dodgeball rules. So it's like, I'm not gonna listen your rules,
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: like if these aren't real rus So anyway, it's long
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: story short. That's probably like the only thing that I
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: can think of that like, oh no, Like it was
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: kind of like I was like a little shakyve out.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: But other than that, Now you cheated, Okay, I.
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: Mean, is it cheating if there's no rules? There were
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: no rules. There's rules, but it's not I'm realizing that.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: I like you guys realizing things on there eight rules.
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: Okay, So it's not super exciting, but that's all I
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: got it. It was pretty straightforward, nothing too embarrassing, just
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: cracking jokes and being idiots with the boys and connecting with it.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: I like creating fun, playful tension with couples on the show.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: So I'm going to ask you a question now that
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: will wrap up this podcast with that you guys will
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: be able to like really converse about later in the day.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: Great when you think about living together because you've been
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: in hotel rooms and such together over the past few weeks.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: What worries you about the move in about each other?
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: Like does he you know, just like does he like
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: always leave his toothbrush in a certain spot, or like
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: does he leave the cabinets open? You know, something dumb
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: like that? One done has a lot.
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: I'm thinking, I'm thinking.
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: You docuse bring it up now. It'd be more fun
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: to bring it up on a podcast than it would
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: be to like actually say, hey, that's really annoying when
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: you do that.
• 28:54
  Speaker 5: I will say he's fairly clean and organized, which I love.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: Thank god. Oh man. The biggest thing.
• 29:04
  Speaker 5: I feel like, the biggest debate for us is going
• 29:07
  Speaker 5: to be like a debate.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: It is a debate. Well, we're not talking about the
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: snoring thing, Okay, it's the temperature.
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: Like I feel like that's normal for every couple. It's
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: like what I am I typically run cold and he's
• 29:17
  Speaker 5: more hot, right, And yeah, that's a nice way to
• 29:21
  Speaker 5: put it. It's just ridiculous, Like, what do you mean
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: the nice way to put it?
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: That's on a ridiculous temperature. It's like sixty And I'm like,
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: that doesn't make sense.
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: She said, Now I'll put it on like sixty seven
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: and sixty.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: Six still too cold for Ray for sure, under right.
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: But then she'd be like, I'm cold, and it'll get
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: to like sixty eight and she'd be like, I'm sweating bullets.
• 29:43
  Speaker 5: So it's just like, okay, now you're kind of you're
• 29:45
  Speaker 5: really putting me under the Thank you, Ashley, this is
• 29:48
  Speaker 5: what you're doing.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: Well, I successfully did it, and Charity, I'm with you.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: If it's even seventy, I'm cold. It has to be
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: seventy two for me to be comfortable.
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: I feel I'm like like seven above seventy always.
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: Like you gotta get with it.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a it's a woman thing. And like if
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: I'm doing chores around the house that I'm moving a lot,
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: then seventy is fine. But if I'm just chilling on
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: the couch, I'm gonna be cold at seventy exactly.
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: That's actually so.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: Wid Oh, this is gonna be a little bit of
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: a problem. She's gonna have to wear sweatshirts in the summer,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: and that's not fun in summer. I want to wear
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: skimpy things exactly.
• 30:24
  Speaker 5: I want to like not have to put on layers.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like dot do you want to see her full figure,
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: you know, in like a cute little workout outfit, or
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: do you want to see sweatshirts and sweatpants?
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: I do, but I don't want to see you on sweating.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: So so wow.
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: I'm saying like, it's it's yin and yang you're doing.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: He has, you know, a six foot seven body that
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: I'm sure emits a ton of heat and I can't
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: relate insulated. All right, guys, you are such a joy
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: to you and thank you so much for coming on,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: spending your time, and for sharing your love story with us.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: We cannot wait to watch the next chapters. Thank you
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: so much, Ashley. Until then we said hi, very will
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: see yah hye bye bye.
• 31:14
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