Latest / Good Morning From The Chicken Coop! / Season 3 - Episode 53 - Lessons from a barking dog

Transcript

Season 3 - Episode 53 - Lessons from a barking dog · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

• 0:01
  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
• 0:04
  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
• 0:08
  coach. Filled with inspiration,
• 0:10
  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
• 0:13
  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
• 0:16
  of yourself you could ever imagine.
• 0:18
  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
• 0:21
  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
• 0:28
  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
• 0:31
  So I've been waiting to start this podcast for a bit of time
• 0:35
  and you might hear in the background that my neighbor's
• 0:37
  dog is barking and this dog has been barking for.
• 0:41
  I can't even begin to tell you. Maybe it's far enough away that
• 0:44
  you can't hear it on the speaker, but I can definitely
• 0:47
  hear it. And this dog has been going on
• 0:49
  for about 30 minutes now and I've been waiting for someone to
• 0:52
  come out. It's early and I've been waiting
• 0:54
  for someone to come out and stop the dog from barking and it just
• 0:58
  hasn't happened and I finally decided, you know, OK, my
• 1:01
  irritation with this dog barking.
• 1:03
  Obviously it it is a thing that they don't stop the dog from
• 1:08
  barking when he's outside. And I thought this is messing
• 1:12
  up. And I was getting myself all
• 1:13
  worked up about the fact that it was messing up the podcast and
• 1:16
  it was messing up my head and it was, I was so aggravated.
• 1:20
  I was sitting here saying I should text them and say to them
• 1:23
  get your dog in the house. And I was getting all back.
• 1:26
  Like, I grew up in Boston and and it put me in a position
• 1:32
  where I said, you know what, I should record while the dog is
• 1:34
  barking so that I can tell everybody that irritating things
• 1:37
  happen and I get irritated. It's without a doubt.
• 1:40
  This is a big pet peeve of mine that my neighbors all around me
• 1:45
  don't stop their dogs when their dogs are barking like crazy.
• 1:49
  No doubt this dog has got a squirrel up a tree and wherever
• 1:53
  he sees the squirrel go, he will just stay at the tree and just
• 1:56
  incessantly bark as they've told me before.
• 1:58
  But they don't do anything about it.
• 2:01
  And I have recognized in myself that maybe this shows up because
• 2:07
  I have to learn that I have to let go of things and I have to
• 2:12
  not have. Now, is it still rude?
• 2:14
  Yes, it's still rude. Let me say that for those of you
• 2:16
  be like it's still rude. Yes.
• 2:17
  It's still rude. Yes, I can't stand it.
• 2:20
  Yes, they're not being good neighbors when they allow this
• 2:23
  stuff to go on. At the same time.
• 2:26
  I am my own microcosm. I am my own Petri dish.
• 2:30
  I am my own situation where I can say, hey, I don't have to
• 2:35
  take that energy in. I don't have to decide what
• 2:37
  that's like. I can sit there and I can say,
• 2:40
  you know what? I'm the dog is barking.
• 2:43
  I don't have to pay attention to it.
• 2:45
  I can let it go and move on. Now the reality is that is very
• 2:50
  hard for me because I am this person that says no.
• 2:53
  When you see something, you fix something.
• 2:55
  You don't let that happen. But the I am not them and they
• 2:58
  are not me. And this is where things get
• 3:00
  tricky in our heads because we will sit there and we can obsess
• 3:04
  on things. And instead of saying what can I
• 3:06
  learn from this? How can I bring my patients out
• 3:08
  With this? We get more and more amped up on
• 3:11
  it because we get a driver in the seat.
• 3:13
  And and for me that clearly is what I get irritation in the
• 3:17
  seat or I get anger in the seat. It's not going to be far behind
• 3:21
  from the girl who grew up in Massachusetts with an attitude
• 3:23
  of like, hey, take care of it because I can't stand when
• 3:28
  people don't take care of their business.
• 3:30
  And that is still a part of me. She is still on my bus.
• 3:33
  I have to be careful how I use her.
• 3:36
  I definitely have to be careful how I use her because she's not
• 3:40
  pleasant and I know that, so I she's like salt.
• 3:43
  You only can use her so often. But there's also a piece of me
• 3:47
  that says, well, when these things show up, this teaches me
• 3:51
  to have that Zen spot come out more.
• 3:55
  This teaches me to pull up something inside of me that says
• 3:59
  I can't control everything. I can't have my certainty girl
• 4:02
  constantly have order around me and I have to release things and
• 4:06
  let them go. Now at some point this is
• 4:10
  ridiculous and at some point I will have to text if it goes on
• 4:13
  for hours because it it makes you crazy.
• 4:16
  And I've done that before and they will go and they will get
• 4:19
  the dog, the thing that cracks me up, but it's hours later
• 4:23
  because they never do it immediately.
• 4:24
  It's always hours later and it drives me nuts as I've said.
• 4:27
  Did I say that enough? It drives me nuts.
• 4:29
  However, I do realize that it's part of my process to to learn
• 4:34
  and release and take in the ability to say.
• 4:38
  While I may say something about it to them, I don't have to feel
• 4:42
  so elevated. I don't have to go to a 10, I
• 4:44
  don't have to go off the chart to get a result.
• 4:49
  What I do have to do is let myself remain in a place of
• 4:53
  patience and try really hard to keep working that because there
• 4:58
  is growth in that, my friends. There is something in that when
• 5:02
  you start to have to put yourself into a position that
• 5:05
  you're not necessarily easily capable of putting yourself into
• 5:10
  it, which I know I still my, I have a very short fuse for that
• 5:14
  kind of stuff. And that's where I have to do
• 5:16
  it. I swear sometimes I say to
• 5:18
  myself maybe that's why the dog is there, just to teach me
• 5:21
  patience so that I can say, hey, I don't have to think this way
• 5:25
  or I don't have to allow that or I'm.
• 5:27
  I'm using it as a lesson to say I don't have to hear it.
• 5:31
  I choose to hear it. I hone in on it because clearly
• 5:34
  nobody else hears it. It's just me that drives.
• 5:36
  It drives crazy because nobody else does anything about it.
• 5:39
  So maybe it's just me. So it's something to think
• 5:41
  about. And it's funny because now as
• 5:44
  I'm finishing and saying that look, the dog stopped barking.
• 5:48
  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day.
• 5:50
  I'll see you tomorrow. Bye.