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166 // The Power of Hope in ADHD · ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women

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  Feeling hopeless makes everything feel like there's no point to it.
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  And I want to talk to you today about the power of having hope as a woman with ADHD.
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  Are you tired of feeling like you don't fit in? Like you're not good enough the way you are?
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  In this podcast, I will give you the strategies to build God-centered confidence
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  so you can know in your heart that you do belong.
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  You are enough and you are made on purpose and with a purpose. Hey, I'm Kelsey.
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  Hey friends, welcome to the ADHD with Confidence podcast.
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  I am your host, Kelsey Spronk, and today we're going to talk about the power of hope in ADHD.
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  Now, where this came from, in total honesty, recently I was trying to find new
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  topics to talk about on the podcast, and I was struggling with finding some
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  ideas to talk about, feeling a little discouraged.
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  I decided I should go look at statistics on ADHD, bring you some science.
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  And some research. And instead, what I found was that a lot of the statistics
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  on ADHD are kind of depressing.
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  And keep in mind, this is going to be a positive episode, I promise,
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  but this is where it started.
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  A lot of these statistics were telling me, you know, how I was not going to
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  do as well at different things, or how I would struggle with all these different
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  things and all these comorbidities that go along with ADHD.
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  And that's when I realized, I
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  think a better statistic, a better thing to look at is the power of hope.
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  Because when you look at it and you tell somebody, hey, you have this diagnosis,
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  this is now who you are, which it isn't, by the way, you are not defined by a label or a diagnosis.
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  It's simply to help you understand who you are. but there is so much power in
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  hope it even says in an article that i'll link below but it said they found
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  a strong link between high levels of hope,
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  and better contemporary and future outcomes in the well-being economic health and social arenas,
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  now my point with this today is and stick around to the end where i'll give
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  you some questions to think about for how you can have and choose more hope in your life.
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  But essentially, I think sometimes it's important for us to.
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  Know our unique ADHD brains, but recognize that we are not a statistic.
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  We are not just some article that somebody put together.
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  We are human beings. We are made in the image of God, and we are not made wrong.
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  We are not made deficient. We are made exactly as we're supposed to be,
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  and I believe that it is finding out how we can live a life that matches us.
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  Is it going to resonate with everybody that we meet? No, of course not.
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  Are there going to be some people who we rub the wrong way? Of course, just as they are for us.
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  But that doesn't mean that we are in the wrong. It doesn't mean we're doing things wrong.
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  And so I want to be, if you are feeling discouraged, I want to be that voice
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  of encouragement that is telling you, you are enough.
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  You are good enough. You have so much to offer.
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  And it is about unlocking that potential that you have that's hidden behind years of,
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  criticism of your your inner critic those negative thoughts comparison perfectionism
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  all of these other things that are bogging us down,
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  remove all of that and we can genuinely see who you were designed to be and
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  i believe that with all of my heart,
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  now in these questions here that i'm going to ask you to help you figure out
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  how you can feel hopeful again,
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  I want you to know as well this is something that I can help you work on one-on-one
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  if this is this is not something that changes overnight it's something that happens
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  with time with consistency with
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  having curious and friendly compassionate accountability through coaching
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  so if you are interested in checking that out go to adhdwithconfidence.com forward
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  slash offerings and you can book a free intake call to discuss.
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  All right, the first question I have for you is looking at your life,
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  where have you given up hope?
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  Have you given up hope on finding close friendships?
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  Have you given up hope on reaching for your dreams or your goals?
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  Have you given up on yourself?
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  Now, this can be a pretty heavy topic, and as I always say, it's important to
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  seek professional guidance with these types of things as well.
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  So therapy, your doctor, whatever that looks like for you, making sure you have
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  the right supports in place.
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  But what I want to help you look at is what would it change in your life?
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  And this is the second question.
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  What would change for you if you felt hopeful?
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  If you felt like, you know what, there actually is hope that I am able to make
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  a difference in the world, that I am able to have positive,
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  relationships, deep, meaningful relationships with other people,
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  that I am able to have a job that suits me well,
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  that where I can make a difference in people's lives, where I can use my strengths,
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  my talents, where it actually gives me energy instead of draining me or making
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  me feel like I need to mask and hide who I truly am.
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  So think about those two questions. Where have you given up hope and what would
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  change for you if you felt hopeful in these areas?
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  I wanted to share just a story from the other day. I was chatting with a client
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  and she had experienced so much pain in her life, but she still booked a coaching
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  call. She showed up for it.
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  She chose to give it another shot and she chose hope.
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  Sometimes even when we don't feel it, sometimes when we take those actions,
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  those next steps, stepping out in courage like this
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  it can start to build that hope she actually at the end of the call said this
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  is the first time she has felt hopeful,
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  in over a decade and there was there was so much hope in her eyes and joy and
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  that is something that i want you to be able to experience so if you have been,
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  surrounded by negativity about you about who you are about adhd.
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  I want you to just Just take a deep breath for a second.
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  Remind your nervous system that you are safe. You're not being chased by a bear.
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  And I want to remind you that you are so incredibly loved.
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  You are so incredibly valued. And you are good. And you are good enough.
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  And it's not about needing to accomplish some specific thing.
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  It's about who you are and who you've been made to be.
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  In this podcast, in other episodes, I will also help you to figure out what are your strengths?
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  What are you passionate about? What is your purpose? What are the needs that you have?
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  Things like social connection, adventure, achievement, learning,
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  creativity, out of the box thinking, whatever it is.
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  Let's figure out how you can become the most whole and healthy version of who you are.
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  If that's something you want me to walk alongside you with, I would be honored.
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  You can go to ADHDwithconfidence.com forward slash offerings.
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  I'm going to end us off with an encouragement. In Romans 15,
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  13, it says, May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust
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  in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
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  I pray this blesses you. Until next time, God bless.