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Dating Red Flags Christian Women Should Never Ignore · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, let me ask you something real. Have you ever met a man who looked like
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  everything you prayed for, but something in your spirit whispered, slow down, watch this?
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  In today's episode, we're breaking down the top red flags women overlook when dating.
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  Not because we're desperate, not because we're weak, but because we're hopeful.
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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come from God.
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  Hey sis, welcome back to the show. I am so excited that you're here with me again.
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  Welcome, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy.
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  Because why? You deserve the best. That's why. That's it. Period.
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  There's nothing more to it. So today, this episode is all about helping you
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  protect your heart while you pursue God's best.
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  We're uncovering the signs that a man is not ready, not healthy,
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  or not aligned with the relationship God wants to bless you with.
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  These are the red flags we excuse, the ones we justify, the ones we pray into
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  potential instead of recognizing the truth.
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  Today, you'll hear the spiritual signs, the emotional signs,
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  and the practical signs that the man you're dating may not be safe for your
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  heart, even if he's charming, fine, and knows a scripture or two.
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  By the end of this episode, you'll know what to look for, how to trust your
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  discernment, and how to choose a man who loves with integrity, not just intention.
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  Let me tell you a quick story. There was a time I met a man who checked every
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  surface level box. He was charismatic, romantic, knew how to talk,
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  but my spirit never settled.
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  Every time he told a story, details didn't match.
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  Every time I brought up accountability, he got defensive. and every time I shared
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  something vulnerable, he dismissed it or redirected the conversation back to him.
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  Yet there I was trying to believe the best, trying to be understanding.
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  Trying to be the bigger person.
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  But one night the Holy Spirit whispered, this is not confusion, this is revelation.
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  Red flags you ignore become pain you live through. I wanna say it again.
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  Red flags you ignore become pain you live through.
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  Sis, that moment taught me a lot that I needed to know about discernment.
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  And today, I want to teach you the same.
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  So here are 10 flags to watch for when dating a man. Number one, he's inconsistent.
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  Consistent communication, consistent behavior, consistent pursuit, they matter.
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  If he's hot today and cold tomorrow, that's instability.
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  Number two, he avoids accountability.
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  He never apologizes. Everything is someone else's fault.
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  He talks about his exes like they're villains. he plays the victim in every story.
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  Number three, he moves too fast, too soon.
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  Love bombing feels like a blessing until it becomes a strategy for control. I'm repeating that one.
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  He moves too fast, too soon.
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  Love bombing feels like a blessing until it becomes a strategy for control.
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  Number four, He has no real community, no mentors, no brothers in Christ,
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  no one who can correct him.
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  A man with no accountability is a man with no growth.
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  Number five, he doesn't respect boundaries. If you say slow down and he pushes,
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  if you say I'm not comfortable and he dismisses, run.
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  Run for the hills, sister. Run. up.
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  Number six, he's emotionally unavailable, guarded, shut down,
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  distant, acts deep, but can't go deep with you.
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  Says a man who can't name his emotions can't nurture yours.
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  Let me say that again. A man who can't name his emotions can't nurture yours.
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  Number seven, he's spiritually performative. He knows scripture but doesn't live it.
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  He says, God told me you're my wife after the first date.
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  He uses spirituality as a tactic, not a lifestyle.
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  8. He has anger issues. Short temper, road rage, irritability.
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  Even if it's not directed at you yet, it will be.
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  9. He talks but doesn't follow through. Bold promises, little action.
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  Intentions are cute, but fruit is the truth.
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  10. You don't feel safe. You feel anxious. You overthink.
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  You walk on eggshells, your body and spirit keep warning you.
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  And I'm talking about when you're around this person, okay?
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  If you can't excel around him, he's not your person. He needs to be able to
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  calm your nervous system.
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  That's how I knew my guy was really healthy for me, is he could calm my nervous system.
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  So here's your call to action, your homework. You ready?
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  Tonight, I want you to sit down with a journal and answer these questions.
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  Number one, which red flags have I ignored in past relationships?
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  Number two, which ones am I ignoring right now?
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  Number three, what part of me thought I had settled for less than peace?
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  Number four, what boundaries do I need to reinforce moving forward?
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  This is your season of clarity, sis. Your heart deserves truth.
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  I love you. I want you to hear this. There is a man out there who won't make you beg for clarity.
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  He won't confuse you. He won't drain you. He won't violate your peace.
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  You don't have to fear missing out. You don't have to compromise to be chosen.
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  And you don't have to ignore red flags to keep someone around.
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  God's best will never require you to abandon yourself. All right?
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  So let's get those standards up. Right?
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  And let's get clarity so we can move forward into the man that God has for us.
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  All right, sis, I love you so much. I will see you next week.
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  Have a wonderful rest of the weekend. Talk soon.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher.
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  Thank you.