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Does a 12 year old get privacy? 2 · Scott & Ally on Demand

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  SPEAKER_00: Uh this is getting very interesting, and I am loving these texts that are coming in because I think a lot of us are scratching our heads.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had this experience happen the other day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gavin is 12.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh we did normal annual physicals, you know, and and that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this was the year that two things happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I at first got locked out of his not locked out, but limited access to his online portal.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, that was Which you didn't even notice, right, until you went to the doctor.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the very beginning, well, they give you the disclaimer at the top that goes, and at 12 years old, you know, things change.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, who reads this card?
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: Right, right, right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then you go in and then you realize, now, mind you, you can contact the provider and say, I am the parent.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am need access.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, but did they make Gavin say that it was okay that he was on the phone?
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, because I'm a little surprised.
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  SPEAKER_01: I thought that they were gonna make Gavin say, yes, it's okay that my dad can see this stuff.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think that might happen later, but this is my problem at 12.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: I guess my question that I want to ask is I understand there's a level of privacy that people should have.
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  SPEAKER_00: At what point should privacy become priority?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not accessible priority.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the reason why is I had to contact the pr the uh portal, get access, and then we're at the doctor, and they give him a set of forms with a lot of questions that were well past his age, yeah, um, and just giving permissions and things.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to help him all the way through it, which is fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can I make a very bold statement?
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  SPEAKER_00: Sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a huge problem with our society today.
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  SPEAKER_00: The minute we rely more on the privacy part for our children, and we stop looking at what the best interest is for our children, we're gonna have a lot of problems.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am not saying people shouldn't have a level of privacy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm saying 12.
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  SPEAKER_01: And also I I know that there are certain things that happen, let's say 12, 13, 14, where not not our Gavin, but there might be other children that become sexually active at a younger age or try alcohol at a younger age, things like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's the time you need the access to the adult around you more than ever.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right, exactly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because if let's say, for instance, your child gets pregnant at the age of 13, then guess who's raising that baby?
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  SPEAKER_01: You! Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then what if the child does experience some sort of alcoholism at the age of 13 as well?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or anything, really.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or drugs or whatever.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whatever.
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  SPEAKER_01: But and who is going to be the one to take them to a rehab or you know, help them, help them to understand and get mental help for them so they don't turn towards drugs or alcohol.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more that I'm thinking about this, the more infuriated I get because the limiting of access and inform now listen, 16, 18, maybe the stages go like this.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I guess it's like this in PA too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Somebody texted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: This needs to stop at 12.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can't we you need the involvement of the adults around me, around you?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: The lack of of uh involvement of adults around you is what causes you to get pregnant at 13.
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  SPEAKER_01: 5146, 1000% with Scott on the 12-year-old and the doctor.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's absurd.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I love this one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Does that mean they should drive and vote at 13?
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_01: Well, I was I was thinking that too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, if you can't even drive yourself to the doctor's office, then should you have limited access?
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  SPEAKER_01: Should your parent have limited access?
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_01: Um, also, I agree with you, Scott.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: They said I grew, well, actually, I'm not gonna read that one first.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_01: I wanna read this one first.
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  SPEAKER_01: I have three kids.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, technically not kids.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're 33, 31, and 21.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I still make appointments for my 21-year-old who's in college when he goes to fill out the forms of the doctor's office.
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  SPEAKER_01: He's like, Mom, can you answer me this or that you know that is so true?
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's so true.
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  SPEAKER_01: Scott, it is kind of weird and awkward to have kids filling out those forms, although my kids are not kids anymore, I must say.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just the 12 or 13 part, really to me, that's the part.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: One, you're not close to an adult.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not even close.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you may be doing adult things that, well, frankly, you shouldn't be doing at that age, but again, this is when the parents need to be more involved than not.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_00: Right, knowing if your kid is sexually active and or using something or doing any of those, or e this even goes to a level of uh if it's an abuse type situation where, you know, let's say there is some unpleasantries happening at, you know, at a home or someone around the child.
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  SPEAKER_00: God, I want to be able to know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, maybe there's a better way they can do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the doctor's offices can go, you know, uh would you like to talk for a few minutes and and we can have mom or dad leave the room?
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I I really am a big proponent of this, or maybe there should be something that they can check.
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  SPEAKER_01: I actually I like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Can we talk first?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: That that I like.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and here's why, because I think if you can one-on-one just get a feel, I think doctors can, or even nurses, can get a feel for because they've seen it so long.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I will say, one time I was at the doctor's, and I was an adult, but I was at the doctor's and they my medical part of my medical chart was read out loud, and it was something I didn't want my mom to hear or know.
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  SPEAKER_01: And from this point on, I have a note that says, do not, when I had my uh Tommy talk, do not talk about my medical history at all while my parent is in the room.
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  SPEAKER_01: And which is weird.
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  SPEAKER_01: Fair enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm 43.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't want to talk to my mom about this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm an adult.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean you're 43.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_01: That's it, you know.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know, but what I'm saying is is that I think that they should have a conversation with them because then then maybe only parts of are accessible.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe there's sure there's something that they can hide from you because that I don't, I'm not Gavin's a great kid.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: Well, yeah, but I'm just I'm not worried about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I could walk out of the room and not have anything to worry about.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_01: But maybe there should be that conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Can you keep this hidden or whatever?
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I do think or just a conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: How are things going?
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  SPEAKER_00: Has anybody touched you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Has anybody offered you something?
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  SPEAKER_00: Has anybody this and that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the the reality to it is 12 years old, that's just way too you to start limiting access to the parent at 12?
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  SPEAKER_00: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: 16, a little bit different.
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  SPEAKER_00: 18, technically, you're an adult.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think at 18, you're totally yeah, but I think at 18 you're totally off of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I yeah, I think I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I'm trying to remember when I was 18 what happened.
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  SPEAKER_01: And yeah, I think one thing.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, and it's all changed.
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  SPEAKER_00: From where you were at 18 till now, these words, this law has to change.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: And three, two, one.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: You're listening to Scott and Allie.
• 6:37
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• 6:38
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, one more text.
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  SPEAKER_01: I just want to read this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Scott, the same thing happened with my daughter, and I thought it was insane.
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  SPEAKER_01: I had to physically bring her to the doctor's office so she could sign a paper saying it was okay for me, her mother, to have access to her chart.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why I was really surprised.
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  SPEAKER_01: And how old's your kid?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what I'd like to know.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was surprised that they just gave it to you without talking to Gavin and putting him on the phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think I remember having to give some of my like date of birth and uh, you know, uh there was, it wasn't just like, oh, who are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Don't you worry.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know, but I'm just surprised that they weren't having Gavin say, yes, my dad can have access.
• 7:15
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• 7:26
  SPEAKER_01: So let's start off with something that I've noticed around town, and someone did ask about this.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_01: They said, What are all these purple ribbons that are uh on these lampposts and things?
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_01: It is actually with Catholic charities of Schmung and Skylar County raising awareness for National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_01: And the attorney for the Tennessee death row inmate, Krista Pike, says Governor Bill Lee should commute her sentence to life in prison after that failed execution.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, failed execution twice.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_01: Mm-hmm.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_01: Stephen Farrell made the call on CNN State of the Union saying she has endured what he called a torturous attempt.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_01: Frell added that Pike remains in the hospital on a ventilator.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_01: And debris from a missing medical flight was found near Nantucket.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_01: The Gulf Stream G100 air ambulance registered in Canada was carrying six people from Bermuda to Boston on Saturday when it lost contact with air traffic controllers.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_01: The passengers were four Canadians and two Bermudian nationals.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_01: Do you remember when you were a kid and there was this weird fair fear about the Bermuda Triangle?
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, yes.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: And then this story The green lights would come up and suck a plane out of the sky.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_01: And this story, I'm like, and then they lost contact?
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_01: Doesn't it seem like your childhood coming to life?
• 8:42
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• 8:45
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