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Mother Gothel Is a Narcissistic Sociopath | How She Manipulates Rapunzel · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Do you want to know the biggest narcissistic sociopath in Disney
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  movie history? It's this woman right here,
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  Mother Gothel. You know, if you don't know
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  Mother Gothel, she is the main antagonist in the Disney movie
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  Tangled. And like I said, she is a
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  narcissistic sociopath if I've ever seen one before.
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  I know everybody go hit me with like, well Lee Tangled is a
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  Disney movie and no y'all, it's a movie about having a
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  narcissistic, abusive, neglectful, manipulative mother.
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  It just is this just facts. And not only does it have the
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  narcissistic mother daughter dynamic, it also shows you how
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  having a narcissistic parent can leave to you being in a
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  narcissistic relationship with a manipulator like Flynn Rider.
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  Because yes, absolutely yes, Flynn Rider is at minimum a very
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  highly egotistical narcissistic person.
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  Let's get into it though. You got to think about it, from
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  the very outset of the movie, Mother Gothel's selfishness is
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  on full display. She had this flower that can
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  make her super young and what not.
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  And instead of and healed her and everything, and instead of
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  sharing that with the village, you know what she did?
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  She hid it. She hid it and she would go out
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  there into the woods when she got older, let it all, everybody
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  pass away. She was sneaking her ass out
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  into the woods and like flower grow, make me young again and
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  then just be young again and hide it.
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  Keep it to herself and live for centuries, centuries while
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  everybody else around her was struggling.
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  She knew and she knew it. She didn't care.
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  She only cared about her ego and her vanity.
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  OK but Lee having an ego and being vain doesn't necessarily
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  make you a narcissistic sociopath.
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  How about kidnapping a child from her nursery so you to
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  protect your looks? How about that then, Sir?
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  How about that Madam? Because that's literally what
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  Gothel is. She kidnapped Rapunzel as a baby
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  because the people that the king and the queen took the flower
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  and healed Rapunzel so her hair had the magic power of
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  kidnapping a child for your looks.
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  Does it make you a narcissist and sociopath?
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  I don't know what I don't know what does y'all got to help me
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  out here right? And if kidnapping isn't enough,
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  how about holding them hostage in a tower for their entire
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  youth for 17 years? How about that?
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  How about that? If you, if you seen, if you seen
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  the pop up on the news, somebody kidnapped their child and held
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  them for 17 years and a secret tower in the middle of nowhere,
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  what would you say? Would you say that's a good
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  parent? That's an amazing parent?
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  No, you would say that's a sociopath.
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  That's narcissism. And they did it to stay young.
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  They did it to keep their youthful looks and youthful
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  exuberance. Huh.
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  What would y'all say then? That's a sociopath.
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  I've ever seen one. Like she keeps Rapunzel isolated
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  for so long that all Rapunzel does is sitting there clean up
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  and paint, paint all day with her chameleon.
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  She has a chameleon that she talks to.
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  So Rapunzel is struggling with her own mental health because
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  she's been isolated from society in the world because she has a
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  psychopath as a mom who kidnapped her, who is raising
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  her like she loves her. Like Rapunzel sings a song in
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  the beginnings talking about when her life will begin.
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  So she knows that she's been isolated.
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  She knows that she is has this type of stuff is going on.
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  She knows it, but because Mother Gothel is such a good
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  manipulator, she convinces her to not go outside.
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  She's like, no, don't go outside.
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  It's scary out here. Only I can protect you.
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  I love you so much. Now think about when Rapunzel
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  when think about this right here.
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  When Mother Gothel tells Rapunzel that she loves her,
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  what is she always doing? Go back, go back and watch the
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  movie. What is she always doing when
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  she tells tells her that she loves her.
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  Mother knows best to write this on Mother knows best.
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  Every time she tells Rapunzel that she loves her and cares
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  about her, she's always hugging or kissing her hair.
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  I love you so much. You mean you mean the world to
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  me? She's not talking to Rapunzel,
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  she's talking to Rapunzel's hair.
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  Rapunzel is not a real person to her.
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  Rapunzel is their serving a purpose, just like narcissistic
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  sociopaths. Rapunzel in her relationship
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  with Mother Gothel is transactional.
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  As long as I get what I want, you get to live.
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  You get to live this lavish life.
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  It's a lavish life that I'm convincing you of, but it's not
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  a real lavish life. I'm convinced you that it's
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  lavish because you don't know anything else.
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  That's what narcissistic parents want to do.
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  They want to get inside of your head and convince you that this
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  is this world is the best world that is that's possible.
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  You can't live without me. You can't survive without me.
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  So make sure to stay here, right?
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  And she just straight up tells Rapunzel, you're never going to
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  leave this tower. She like you're never going to
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  leave here. You're always going to be in
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  this tower with me. Like get stop getting into your
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  head that you're going to leave anytime soon because you're not.
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  You're always going to be here. And she gets angry at it and
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  snaps on her. She's like, you're never leaving
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  this tower and try to manipulate her.
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  And so Rapunzel is like, look, OK, I'm sorry, can you please go
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  out and get me some stuff to give me some more paint and some
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  more utensils so I can learn how to do more painting?
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  Because Rapunzel realizes that, hey, she's not listening to me.
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  I'm grown. Just like most people outgrow
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  narcissists. Once you understand who they
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  are. Rapunzel's like, hey, you
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  manipulative as hell. You, you trying to trick me?
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  Hell no. This ain't gonna work out for
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  us. I can't let I can't be here.
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  So Rapunzel starts becoming manipulative herself and tricked
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  Gothel into going out and getting some utensils for her to
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  paint more. It's crazy when you watch the
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  movie, when they're arguing, Mother Gothel will be yelling
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  and saying evil things to Rapunzel, like, you're not as
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  good looking as me. She's putting her down right
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  Because she's jealous of her right, But she always tries to
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  play the victim. She's like, oh, now look, I'm
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  the bad guy, Rapunzel. I haven't done anything wrong.
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  Sorry for yelling at you, you I even sorry for this happening.
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  But you know you how I get when you make me do this.
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  Blame me, Rapunzel, for everything.
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  It's just like a narcissistic sociopathic mother would do.
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  A narcissistic sociopathic mother who is going is going to
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  be your very first hater and your biggest antagonist.
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  And I told y'all Rapunzel, I mean not Rapunzel Mother Gottel
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  isn't the only narcissistic person in the movie.
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  Flynn Rider had a traumatic childhood.
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  He tells her like I got abandoned as a child.
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  I don't know what real, I don't know what real love is, but he's
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  a manipulator through and through.
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  He comes in and tries to use his looks and minute look at look at
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  him doing this. Get ready for the schmo there
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  the smo there, right? He's looking at her and
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  manipulated her from the very beginning when he climbs up in
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  the tower. And then again, Rapunzel, who
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  only knows transactional relationships, says, hey, look,
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  I'll let you go If you Take Me Out of the tower and get what I
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  get me what I need. Take me to the see the lights in
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  the sky, right? Take me to see the lights,
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  please, Flynn. And Flynn, like who is also a
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  manipulator who betrayed his two compatriots, compatriots, right?
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  Flynn betrayed his two goons earlier.
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  He absolutely tricked the goons earlier into doing what he
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  wanted them to do. And he just took the crown.
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  And now he's he's like, OK, well, I've been tricking
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  everybody else. I've been manipulating everybody
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  else. So my what?
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  What's one more manipulation to this young lady right here?
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  So he agreed. He literally just voluntarily
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  agrees to go into this right here and help her because he's
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  also going to get something out of it.
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  Because you look at her right here, she's got him tied up with
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  her hair like a lasso, like a rope.
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  And then they leave the tower. Mother Gotto somehow can send.
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  I told you, narcissists have a sixth sense.
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  Mother Gotto can sense it that Rapunzel's no longer in the
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  tower. And guess what?
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  Skedaddles her ass back home, and then she hunts Rapunzel
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  down, who's just hunting for love.
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  Rapunzel is just looking for love.
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  She's just looking for identity. Because soon as she gets outside
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  the tower, she's like, Oh no, I'm betraying my mother.
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  I'm a bad person. You hear, you hear.
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  Mother Gothel is nowhere to be found, but Rapunzel can hear her
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  inside of her head. Because Mother Gothel has done
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  such a good job at being manipulative.
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  Mother Gothel has done an amazing literally Mother Gothel
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  has done an amazing job at convincing Rapunzel that you are
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  a bad person. If you live leave like so she
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  doesn't have to be around. She doesn't have to be around
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  anymore. She can just she literally can
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  leave and Rapunzel won't leave. Watch the movie, Rapunzel.
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  I'm a bad, I'm a bad daughter. I get I had everything and now
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  I'm leaving. I betrayed her and Flynn.
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  Like what the hell wrong with you?
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  You ain't you. You never been outside the town.
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  You can't go outside. Damn right.
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  He starts feeling bad for her, but he's still trying to
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  manipulate her because he wants that crown.
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  He wants his money. And again, I'm pretty sure in
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  her, in Rapunzel's head, she keeps hearing that song Mother
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  knows best over and over and over again in her mind, 'cause
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  it's messing with you. That song is dope, but it's just
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  like it's a song about manipulation and not trusting
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  your own trust in your own mind. Trust mother, trust me, 'cause
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  I'm here for you. I love you, I care about you,
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  right? It's crazy.
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  Then they go to that bar where everybody got a story to tell.
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  Everybody has a story of trauma and neglect to to tell.
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  They look mean, but everybody has trauma and neglect and they
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  all end up connecting and bonding with Rapunzel because
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  she has a, a trauma story as well, right?
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  So they all bond through trauma in the bar.
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  And of course, Mother Gothel hunts down Rapunzel and realizes
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  that Rapunzel's too big and strong for her to just talk into
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  coming back home. So she gets starts manipulating.
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  She finds the two goons that Flynn betrayed and gets them to
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  help her out. They the two goons become Mother
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  Gothel's flying monkeys and to help her out to get Flynn and
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  Rapunzel to come back home because Mother Gothel knows that
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  she has to convince Rapunzel to come back home on her own.
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  It can't just be manipulated, it can't just be me overpowering
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  you. You have to come on your own.
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  You have to decide. And that way I'm not the bad
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  guy. You made the decision on your
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  own, right? You made the choice on your own.
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  And they set the plan in order to make it seem like Flynn
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  abandoned Rapunzel. And when Flynn was actually
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  falling in love for Rapunzel, I know y'all remember that part,
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  Flynn was falling in love with Rapunzel, which is a whole
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  nother story because y'all know Rapunzel wanted to go to the
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  tower, to the to the tower because it was her 18th
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  birthday. So Flynn is in his 20s carrying
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  17 year old Rapunzel to the tower, which is a whole, which
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  is a whole nother conversation to have.
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  Late, but hey, they didn't do anything till she turned 18,
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  right? There was no love.
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  This little boat scene didn't happen until he turned 18.
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  And then, like I said, mother got to pop back up and
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  successfully convinced her to go back into the tower and whatnot.
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  Like look at this mother got to is kissing her hair.
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  I love you so much, Rapunzel. You mean the world to me.
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  But she's kissing her hair. She's always talking to her
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  hair. But then Rapunzel come to the
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  realization that mother got to is the bad guy.
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  Mother got to kidnapped me. Mother got to is not my mom.
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  And of course mother got to tries to to murder Flynn.
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  She stabs Flynn and tries to murder him.
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  When Flynn comes and tries to save Rapunzel, Flynn like
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  Rapunzel decided to fight back and mother got through, came out
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  here and stabbed Flynn. So she tried to commit murder.
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  So narcissistic sociopath at a minimum because she tried to
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  murder Flynn because he tried to save Rapunzel.
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  But of course, Rapunzel Flynn sacrifices Flynn, has cured his
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  narcissism and sacrifices the youth and the healing ability
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  from Rapunzel because she got stabbed because, you know, he
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  cut her hair. It would not.
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  So she became a brunette and saved his life.
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  And Mother Gotto ended up disintegrating, setting Rapunzel
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  free to find her own parents and find her real parents.
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  It would not go back and realize that she's the Princess.
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  And it's crazy because you could probably understand that
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  Rapunzel was still hearing Mother Gothel's voice inside of
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  her head, even though Mother Gothel had disintegrated and
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  passed away. It's chronic.
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  Yeah. I'm just telling you, this
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  movie, Open My can open your eyes up to narcissistic family
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  dynamics and how the mind of people like this work and
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  whatnot. And how being with having a
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  narcissistic parent can have you ending up with in a narcissistic
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  relationship with a much older man like Flynn Ryder, Right?
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  Because he has something to offer you.
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  He reminds you of your mom because he's manipulative.
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  You see what I'm saying? But anyways, y'all, what do
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  y'all think about this this Disney breakdown?
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  Make sure to hit that subscribe button with a terrible takes
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  over on YouTube and we will chat later.
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  Y'all peace.