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All In My Business with Terry · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talk.
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  Speaker 2: Back thank you for tuning in for a new episode
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  Speaker 2: of we talk back a show dedicated to you niggas
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  Speaker 2: and these bitches and these hoes and everybody else right hey.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all it's me tim bam i love y'all did you
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  Speaker 1: say you were my co-host aj that was my co-host
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  Speaker 1: aj everybody Yeah, I didn't.
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  Speaker 3: Get to, you know, but it's me, you know, small back, aging.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, I'm big.
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  Speaker 3: Bigger person. I'm big to her back this year. I'm
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  Speaker 3: never going to be the bigger person. Well, it's big
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  Speaker 3: back Tim Bam, y'all. I love y'all. We got a
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  Speaker 3: co-host this week, y'all. Y'all listen.
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  Speaker 5: This is my friend from first grade school. through fucking college, okay? Terry,
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  Speaker 5: what you want to go by? You doing low T? Oh,
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  Speaker 5: you ain't going back to low T.
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  Speaker 4: Y'all can call me Terry. Only people that know me
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  Speaker 4: like that can call me that, but everybody else can
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  Speaker 4: call me Terry.
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  Speaker 3: And this has been my friend.
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  Speaker 1: Since 18 years old to we're now 27, so good
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  Speaker 1: 10 years almost.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all listen.
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  Speaker 4: More than that. We met in 2003. We 27, nigga.
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  Speaker 3: I just said that.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, okay. Shame.
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  Speaker 5: Y'all, Terry has been telling this fucking lie about me
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  Speaker 5: since I had a.
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  Speaker 4: Jerry curl in elementary.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: He has been going around, even into my adult life, lying.
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  Speaker 5: Go ahead and tell everybody's story, Terry.
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  Speaker 4: Listen, one day we was in elementary school, St. Andrews
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  Speaker 4: Elementary School. Ashley had a jerry curl. It's not a lie.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody knows this. It's not a lie. Ashley James came
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  Speaker 4: to school.
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  Speaker 3: Why are you saying my whole name? Okay, go ahead. Alright,
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 4: Ashley came to school one day. Ashley came to school
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  Speaker 4: one day. I remember what she had on. She had
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  Speaker 4: the jerry curl for starters. She had on an all
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  Speaker 4: black sweatsuit by Russell.
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  Speaker 3: By Russell.
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  Speaker 4: In black Chuck Taylors and black Chuck Taylors. And I
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  Speaker 4: was like, yo, hit a break dance. And ever since then,
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  Speaker 4: we've been going at it. And she called my mom
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  Speaker 4: a demolition man.
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 4: Because she had gold hair.
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  Speaker 5: No, this ain't that. Y'all, he not, like Terry get
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  Speaker 5: old because he got gray hair and I don't. Okay,
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  Speaker 5: so let's be very clear.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 5: So he used to crack on my mom because she
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  Speaker 5: had to tell him about your mom in a minute.
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  Speaker 5: Terry used to tell people I would say, hey, guys,
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  Speaker 5: check it out. And then bust into a break dance.
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  Speaker 5: First of all, my mom was not buying no name
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  Speaker 5: brand shit. I know damn well I had no Adidas
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  Speaker 5: or Russell anything in elementary school. OK, it could have
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  Speaker 5: been Wal-Mart. But I definitely was not wearing no fucking
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  Speaker 5: track suits back then, y'all. This never fucking happened.
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  Speaker 3: And he's been telling the same fucking lie since we
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  Speaker 3: were jits, okay?
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  Speaker 4: Y'all think I'm going to make this up and carry
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  Speaker 4: this on for all these years?
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  Speaker 3: For 40 years?
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  Speaker 4: But I love Ashley, though. That's my sister.
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  Speaker 3: Terry, my name is AJ. We're characters on this podcast, okay?
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  Speaker 4: I'm so sorry. Y'all calling me Terry?
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  Speaker 3: All right, AJ.
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  Speaker 4: I love AJ. I asked you.
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  Speaker 3: What you wanted to be referred to by as. I
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  Speaker 3: asked you.
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  Speaker 4: Forgive me, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Forgive me. So Ashley was wearing No Boundaries outfit.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, she be clean, though. She be clean.
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  Speaker 3: And Charlie Taylor. And Charlie Taylor.
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  Speaker 5: Y'all, I used to hate Jerry Carl so bad because
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  Speaker 5: the fucking mosquitoes in the summertime in Charleston ain't no
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  Speaker 5: fucking joke. Them shit used to be stuck in my hair.
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  Speaker 5: Stuck to the curls. Stuck to the juice.
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  Speaker 3: Mad. They was like, ooh, that looks shiny. Let's land
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  Speaker 3: on it.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't die. Girl.
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  Speaker 1: My sister would come home and be like, girl, so-and-so
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  Speaker 1: said you were sitting in that seat on the bus
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  Speaker 1: because your juice was like on the seat and the window.
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  Speaker 3: Did you know?
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  Speaker 5: Did you know like middle school would ride the same
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  Speaker 5: bus as elementary but just different times?
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  Speaker 3: So people would be tripping off me in my absence. Right.
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  Speaker 3: This is how I learned all you mama jokes. Okay?
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  Speaker 5: This is how I learned how to fucking trip off
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  Speaker 5: people quick because I got an hour worth of stand-up comedies.
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  Speaker 1: For anybody trying to come for me, all right? All right,
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  Speaker 1: Soul Glow, let's get into internet news. We ain't talking
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  Speaker 1: about our weekend. We was talking about growing up and shit.
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  Speaker 1: I ain't do nothing this weekend, no way.
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  Speaker 3: Go ahead, Tam.
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  Speaker 1: I ain't do shit either. My hair been looking fucked up.
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  Speaker 1: I went back to skin class. It's just so hard
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  Speaker 1: to look cute and exercise if you don't have like
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  Speaker 1: a protective style in.
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  Speaker 3: Good grief. Yeah, black women be having it hard, man.
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  Speaker 3: Trying to. Trying to stay healthy and keep your hair
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  Speaker 3: done is a real life struggle. So I didn't go nowhere.
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  Speaker 3: What'd you have going on this weekend, Terry?
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  Speaker 4: Nothing much, man. I went to an all-black party. That's
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  Speaker 4: a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Worked.
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  Speaker 4: And just really chilled out, you know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 4: Went to my homeboy house to watch some football. That's
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  Speaker 4: about it.
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  Speaker 3: Who's your favorite team?
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  Speaker 4: Cowboys.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, okay. Stupid internet news. Next, stupid internet news. Sexy
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  Speaker 3: Red is pregnant. That's actually stupid internet news. Go ahead, Tam.
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  Speaker 1: Sexy Red is pregnant, you guys. I know y'all seen it,
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  Speaker 1: but we gonna report it. She is pregnant, and I
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  Speaker 1: think that is in line with her whole aesthetic.
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  Speaker 3: What, be pregnant baby mama?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like, we just saw a sex tape of her
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  Speaker 1: about two weeks ago, and now she's pregnant, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: And we also saw her at the TV Hip Hop
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  Speaker 3: Awards just two weeks ago, and her stomach was flat.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't pay really good attention to her stomach.
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  Speaker 4: I did.
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  Speaker 1: It didn't look like she, she don't look super pregnant,
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  Speaker 1: you know? That belly is round. We would have seen
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  Speaker 1: that round belly, her performing three times. She performed three
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  Speaker 1: times at the BET Hip Hop Awards. You might have
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  Speaker 1: missed the second time when she actually did her personal performance.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, we would have seen that stomach, girl.
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  Speaker 1: And then the pictures that are out, I didn't see
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  Speaker 1: her on the red carpet, but the pictures that are
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  Speaker 1: out She.
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  Speaker 5: Said she was sucking it in. I don't know how
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  Speaker 5: you suck that much stomach in, but more power to her.
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  Speaker 5: I wonder if the nigga she was on the sex
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  Speaker 5: tape with is her baby daddy.
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  Speaker 3: We're going to find out soon enough who that baby
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  Speaker 3: daddy is. What'd you think about Sexy Red, Terry?
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  Speaker 4: Sexy Red is one interesting character. I saw that photograph
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  Speaker 4: of her, I guess, saying that she was pregnant. I
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  Speaker 4: thought she was bloated. you think she full of shit
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  Speaker 4: and then she came back and said she was trying
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  Speaker 4: to suck it in or whatever like that but if
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  Speaker 4: sexy red is pregnant you're gonna have to expect a
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  Speaker 4: sexy red pregnancy.
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  Speaker 3: Song sexy red baby.
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  Speaker 1: Alright y'all listen stick that stomach out let that pussy breathe.
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  Speaker 5: It's definitely gonna sound something like that maybe you should
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  Speaker 5: go ahead and write the album for her I.
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  Speaker 3: Mean I could The lyrics are very elementary. Easy, okay?
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  Speaker 3: Them bitches rap easy.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all, let's talk about.
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  Speaker 5: This goddamn megachurch pastor in Texas who was just sued
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  Speaker 5: for $ 2. 45 million, right?
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  Speaker 3: Or $ 2.
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  Speaker 5: 4 million for giving women herpes that he was meeting
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  Speaker 5: on Facebook, okay? A Texas pastor has been ordered to
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  Speaker 5: pay a woman her.
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  Speaker 1: A woman he met online, $ 2. 4 million after he gave
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  Speaker 1: her herpes. Ralph Douglas West II, the assistant pastor of
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  Speaker 1: Houston's The Church Without Walls.
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  Speaker 3: That's the name of the church, The Church Without Walls.
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  Speaker 3: I guess it's an online church, I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: Was found guilty of battery, intentional infliction of emotional distress,
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  Speaker 5: and fraudulent concealment. So apparently he knew he had herpes
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  Speaker 5: when asked about it. And so y'all think because he
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  Speaker 5: a pastor, like it's safe to fuck him wrong? I
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  Speaker 5: know I promote like, I definitely be on here talking about,
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  Speaker 5: you know, fucking without a condom.
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  Speaker 3: But the thing is that herpes is skin contact. So
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  Speaker 3: even if you use a condom, you might end up
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  Speaker 3: with herpes.
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  Speaker 1: People don't realize that herpes simplex one, like the lips,
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  Speaker 1: you could get, you could also have, fever blisters can
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  Speaker 1: also be simplex two. And you could give a person
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  Speaker 1: vaginal herpes via oral sex.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, slow down. Wait a minute. What now?
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  Speaker 1: There's a couple different forms of herpes. And you know
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  Speaker 1: the herpes virus is also just a strand of like shingles,
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  Speaker 1: chicken pox, all that shit go together, right?
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  Speaker 3: Herpes simplex one and two.
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  Speaker 5: A person who gets let me stop pointing at my
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  Speaker 5: motherfucking mouth like that and knock on wood. A person
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  Speaker 5: that gets one on their mouth can give it to
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  Speaker 5: you on your vagina absolutely absolutely so even if you
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  Speaker 5: know people don't associate that type of herpes with vaginal
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  Speaker 5: herpes but it's all transferable right so after.
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  Speaker 1: HPV that's something different that's warts no that's actually warts
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  Speaker 1: though but HPV more so affects women more than affects
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  Speaker 1: men because we get cervical cancer.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'm glad that woman getting paid $ 2. 4 million. I
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  Speaker 3: know some people who got herpes for free.
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  Speaker 5: Listen, they say one in three or one in four
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  Speaker 5: people in America have herpes. It's something like 70% of
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  Speaker 5: the people in America have herpes.
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  Speaker 1: 70% of people got herpes.
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  Speaker 5: You may have never even had an outbreak, but that's
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  Speaker 5: not something that the doctors test you for unless you ask.
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, because it's so common. Yeah, it's just that common.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all got herpes?
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  Speaker 3: It's three of us right now. Which one of y'all
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  Speaker 3: got herpes? You, bitch. It ain't me. Knock on wood. Terry.
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  Speaker 3: He ain't saying shit. Two or more congregate. Somebody got herpes. Terry,
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  Speaker 3: real quiet.
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  Speaker 4: My recent test shows I do not have it.
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  Speaker 3: They don't test you for that. You got to ask
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  Speaker 3: for it.
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  Speaker 4: No, you ask for it.
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  Speaker 3: So you went and asked for a herpes test?
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  Speaker 1: Why?
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  Speaker 4: No, you ask for everything. They just do everything. Once
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  Speaker 4: they draw blood, you ask them to test for everything.
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  Speaker 5: This is why I was like disgusted when people was
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  Speaker 5: talking shit about Usher because a lot of the people
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  Speaker 5: like in the comments online don't know their status when
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  Speaker 5: it comes to herpes.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 5: If you've never actually been tested and a lot of
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  Speaker 5: people don't know they got that shit until you have
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  Speaker 5: a fucking outbreak.
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  Speaker 3: So it lies dormant on your spinal cord.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I had a full panel test when I had
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  Speaker 1: my fibroids removed in May. So I think they tested,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to imagine they would test me for that too, right?
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  Speaker 1: It's a full panel.
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  Speaker 5: A full panel really doesn't include a herpes test though.
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  Speaker 3: That's a whole separate thing. Even if they're working on
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  Speaker 3: my vagina and stuff like that? Seems like they would.
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  Speaker 5: Well, you can go back on your MyChart and take
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  Speaker 5: a look and see if you actually have a test
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  Speaker 5: there for it.
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  Speaker 3: I have one on mine.
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  Speaker 5: So it says, after a three-day trial and six hours
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  Speaker 5: of deliberation, a jury determined on Thursday that West gave
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  Speaker 5: the victim general herpes after they met on Facebook five
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  Speaker 5: years ago.
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  Speaker 3: You can't fix it. She's got it for the rest of.
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  Speaker 5: Her life, said the woman's attorney, Sean Murphy, as reported
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  Speaker 5: on Click to Houston. Y'all, that's terrible. Because there was
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  Speaker 5: another pastor who was giving his congregation HIV. Y'all remember
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  Speaker 5: that shit?
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 4: I do remember that.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, girl. A real thing.
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  Speaker 5: Be careful who you follow or who you let hit raw.
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  Speaker 5: Because even the pastor... Use condoms.
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  Speaker 3: I guess her... Some of these people, they.
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  Speaker 4: Use their influence to lure the women in. You're a pastor.
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  Speaker 4: You're the head of the church.
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  Speaker 3: So... But that church don't got no walls.
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  Speaker 4: You can use that to manipulate.
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  Speaker 3: And he wanted some head.
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  Speaker 4: He probably used them words to manipulate, you know what
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  Speaker 4: I'm saying? Knowing that he's infected and infecting women. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that's wild.
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  Speaker 3: The head of the church. And obviously you had an
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  Speaker 3: outbreak while you was doing it. Yeah. Terrible. Got to
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  Speaker 3: be more careful. Speaking of outbreak, let's talk about Jada.
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  Speaker 3: Jada outbreak? Yeah. It's like every other month we having
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  Speaker 3: a herpes outbreak of Jada.
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  Speaker 1: God damn Jada Pinkett Smith.
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  Speaker 3: It's like why she don't stop? Let me just say this.
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  Speaker 1: I love Jada. She was the it girl when we
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  Speaker 1: were young. Everybody loved Jada Pinkett.
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  Speaker 3: Right? We did.
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  Speaker 1: We thought she was so dope. Now in her 50s,
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  Speaker 1: she's just like this. I don't know if she wants
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  Speaker 1: attention or what it is why we are so involved
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  Speaker 1: in their life.
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  Speaker 5: So she has a book coming out. So she has
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  Speaker 5: something to promote and she's promoting the fuck out of
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  Speaker 5: that book. I'm pretty sure it's going to be a
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  Speaker 5: New York Times bestseller. OK, when it does come out,
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  Speaker 5: I did click on to my Audible the other day
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  Speaker 5: to see if it was on there because I do
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  Speaker 5: got me some credits. I was definitely going to buy it.
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  Speaker 5: So I can I actually want to read her book
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  Speaker 5: and Will Smith's book. Y'all know I'd be liking to
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  Speaker 5: understand where the fuck people coming from.
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  Speaker 3: I like what's actually going on.
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  Speaker 5: But Will Smith was essentially on the same type of
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  Speaker 5: press tour about a year, year and a half ago
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  Speaker 5: when his book came out. I think women, period, have
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  Speaker 5: a have a not so nice way of saying things.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Like maybe she could be
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  Speaker 3: a little have a little bit more cool.
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  Speaker 5: With the interviews that she's doing, but she's not doing
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  Speaker 5: anything that he didn't do before her, you know? And
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  Speaker 5: he actually, he wrote a nice letter to her telling her,
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  Speaker 5: you know, how if he, if he, um, he wished
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  Speaker 5: he can go back 30 years, he would have hugged
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  Speaker 5: her more.
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  Speaker 4: Just think that, uh, just to speak from a man's perspective,
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  Speaker 4: it's kind of embarrassing, you know, you have to really,
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  Speaker 4: I always think, why would she say these things publicly?
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  Speaker 4: You know? And you do have a husband, and you
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  Speaker 4: have to consider your husband. Before you say something, you
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  Speaker 4: got to think, how my husband going to feel if
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  Speaker 4: I say this publicly? Because the internet is vicious. I
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  Speaker 4: would tell you, you would never defeat the internet, man.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just like, good lord. This man just.
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  Speaker 1: Ain't nothing worse than the August Alsina what they had.
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  Speaker 3: It wasn't entanglement. I said debacle. Entanglement? It can't get
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  Speaker 3: no worse than that, I feel like, at this point.
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  Speaker 5: But that wasn't her doing at the time. Augusta Cena
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  Speaker 5: started that shit. Oh, she was doing it, for sure.
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  Speaker 5: She was definitely doing it. Her issue was fucking with
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  Speaker 5: somebody who didn't have shit to lose. See, Will Smith
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  Speaker 5: is not exempt. I'm pretty sure he has some shit
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  Speaker 5: that he's done before. She just got caught up. at
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  Speaker 5: that particular time and she took accountability and she didn't
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  Speaker 5: say well shit I was fucking on that young nigga
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  Speaker 5: cause you was fucking on such and such she just
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  Speaker 5: didn't do that now that's some shit I do okay
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  Speaker 5: when you're trying to check me.
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  Speaker 1: About some shit I did I'm gonna bring up some
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  Speaker 1: shit you did like why are you tripping can I
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  Speaker 1: get some grace.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah but she.
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  Speaker 5: Just took ownership of what was going on at the
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  Speaker 5: time she didn't drag him down then but now it's
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  Speaker 5: like now she's trying to defend herself we weren't together then.
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  Speaker 3: And now he would have been he got a whole
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  Speaker 3: boyfriend who Oh, August Asina. Mm-hmm. I mean, people say
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  Speaker 3: things about.
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  Speaker 4: I thought that was his family member.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I thought, too. I thought it was his
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  Speaker 3: cousin or something.
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  Speaker 5: And I thought he was just, like, doing that to
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  Speaker 5: make people think he was gay.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, really? Well, I definitely thought he was gay. That
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  Speaker 3: might be his boyfriend. I don't know. I don't look
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  Speaker 3: too much into it. I don't really care that much. But...
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  Speaker 3: That brings us to our topic. Does it? It does.
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  Speaker 3: What are we talking about today?
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about people in your motherfucking business when you're
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  Speaker 1: in a relationship. Social media, your friends, your group chat,
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  Speaker 1: your pastor. Who should you talk about your relationship with?
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Is it safe to share it with anybody? Or should
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: you just keep your relationship with your partner in that seat?
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: We'll get into it when we get back from this commercial.
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: All right, y'all. So we're back.
• 17:25
  Speaker 5: And just like Tam said, we want to talk about
• 17:28
  Speaker 5: who do you tell your business to? Because I know
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: I tell my business on here. I'm going to tell
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: my business to Tammy. I literally got about five people
• 17:35
  Speaker 5: that I'm going to tell the same fucking story to
• 17:38
  Speaker 5: until I can't say it no more.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: And that's not.
• 17:41
  Speaker 5: Always good because I really be feeling depleted by the
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: end of the fucking evening, bitch. After that, I told
• 17:46
  Speaker 5: all y'all bitches my relationship bullshit, right?
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: Um, But that's also therapy.
• 17:55
  Speaker 5: That's therapeutic for me to be able to talk to
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: whoever about whatever the fuck it is that I have
• 18:00
  Speaker 5: going on. Now, Jada, we're using her as an example
• 18:03
  Speaker 5: for this. Like, she's telling the whole world via a
• 18:05
  Speaker 5: book and now through press runs.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: But is that healthy?
• 18:10
  Speaker 5: Because, you know, you do have to consider your partner.
• 18:12
  Speaker 5: And I know most men don't like people. Most men
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: don't like women to tell anybody what's going on in
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: their relationships.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: How do you feel about that, Terry?
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: To answer that last question, I think it just depends
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: on who that woman is telling. We already know that
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: most women have that one go-to friend that they're going
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: to confide in a certain situation. And the man really
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: might not mind because he already thinks that person is cool.
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: But I think it just depends on who you tell him.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? But then don't skew it.
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: Don't make it look one-sided. Try to be fair if
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: you're telling the story. But you've got to have an
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: unbiased friend as well. And your friend got to know you.
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: So if your friend know you and they're going to
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: be like, all right, so what did you do? You
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: know what I'm saying? I think that's what it is, man.
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: But at the same time, I'm back to Jada with
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: this press run. Like you said, you have to consider
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: your kids and your husband. You know, even if they
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: already know, you just have to consider them. Just be
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: respectful with things you say. You don't want to make
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: the person look like a weirdo.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: Some people be weirdos, though. That's the thing.
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: Some people do.
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: I got a text message this morning that says something
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: about arrows and bows or some shit like that from
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: somebody I've been ignoring for months, right? And we definitely
• 19:32
  Speaker 5: have a different, we have a difference in opinion or
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: perception of what transpired in that relationship. So I can
• 19:40
  Speaker 5: tell the story and me and Tammy, we talk about
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: perspective and perception a lot, right? Because that's really what's
• 19:45
  Speaker 5: going on now. So I can't, I'm telling. what i'm
• 19:50
  Speaker 5: telling my friends and whoever had a relationship with went
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: based on my perspective right the other person probably had
• 19:57
  Speaker 5: a grand old time meanwhile i'm feeling like a maniac
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: over here i'm the one that's going crazy you're the
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: cause of it but this is fun for you This
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: is your normal setting, chaos. This isn't my normal setting.
• 20:13
  Speaker 5: So you may not even recognize the shit you did.
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: In a relationship.
• 20:17
  Speaker 5: So when I'm telling somebody my perspective based on what
• 20:20
  Speaker 5: I'm feeling and what I'm going through, which is my
• 20:22
  Speaker 5: story also to tell, right? So you can't always consider
• 20:25
  Speaker 5: the other person's feelings. Like, yeah, you can try to,
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: you could try to like, you got to have accountability too, right?
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: That's a fact.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Like, right?
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: So I can tell you why I fucked up at.
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: I hate, that part you hate accountability yo.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: I don't mind it because I let me tell y'all
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: I really try to follow the course no you no
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: you serious no I'm joking I think a lot of
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: black women in particular hate accountability I think I think
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: a lot of people it's not just black women it's
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: people no most people don't like admitting when they're wrong
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: and a lot of people have trouble saying sorry when
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: they're wrong I think with black.
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: Go ahead. When I'm conversing with men, almost 98% of
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: them say they struggle with women being accountable for their actions.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: I agree.
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: It ain't black women. It's just women.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: Hold on. I'm not really... I wasn't throwing us under
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: the bus. Okay? It's just like I was saying. I'd
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: be titting if you tat.
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: Right?
• 21:29
  Speaker 5: And I feel like when I tat, you should shut
• 21:31
  Speaker 5: the fuck up because you tit me first.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: So no, I'm not taking accountability. for some shit you started.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: That's what I meant. I don't start shit. Let me
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: tell you. I try to do my best.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: That is one of the four agreements. Doing your fucking best.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: I try to do my best in every situation so
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: that after the situation I can be like, you know what?
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: I only did that shit. It was that nigga.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: No, I've definitely started shit and fucked up and made
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: bad decisions in relationships.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: I can own that, you know. I'm human. I was growing.
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: I was learning.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: I think I'll be better in the next one. Now,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: as far as telling my business, I would tell it
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: to anybody who would fucking listen.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: And I done learned my lesson in that, too.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Like, especially doing bitches' hair and I'm going through something,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: I be sitting here telling these hoes my business.
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: And then, you know, just.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: everybody and I had to get away from that because
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: not everybody's your friend and not everybody giving you advice
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: because they care and they want you to be happy
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: some people are giving you advice because they really don't
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: like your motherfucking ass and want you to be real
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: leave that motherfucker bitch so first thing.
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: See that's one thing I never tell my friends I
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: never tell my friends to leave their girlfriends you know
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: what I'm saying no matter what they did because one
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: thing I learned man people.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: I will I will tell a bitch to leave. But
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: that's if he's, like, very verbally abusive and hands and feet.
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it depends on something like that. Yeah, you getting
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: your behind, you getting your ass kicked, or they just
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: doing something that they can't take back. It's like, okay, yeah,
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: you have to. You know what I'm saying? Get the kids.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, if you very verbally abusive, too, I would say, girl,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: you need to get up out of there.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: Then he don't respect you. Yeah.
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: Especially if he's calling you out your name. I can
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: say that, too.
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: Well, sometimes y'all deserve.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Sometimes if you acting like a bitch, somebody need to
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: tell you.
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: Oh, no. That's disrespectful. Huh?
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: No.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: How you gonna tell him?
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: You being a bitch right now. You telling the homegirl
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: that or the man he being a bitch?
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: Oh, you telling the dude that? No.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: I mean, if your dude can't tell you you.
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: Being a bitch.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: Oh, right.
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: Oh, okay. I thought you said you was.
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: Going to tell me. No, I can't call no grown man.
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: Not my man, no bitch.
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: Bitch ass, pussy ass, nigga. I don't want to talk
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: to my man like that. No, if I start calling
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: you a bitch, it's time to go. But yeah, I
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: don't like you.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: But if I'm being a bitch and you say, all right, man,
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: you being a bitch, like, chill out. I can, I can,
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: I can, sometimes I do and somebody need to tell me,
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: you know?
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: See, one thing about men, men are very cooperative.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: What?
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: Only, check it out now, Men are very cooperative with
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: their women. But you got to know how to get
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: that out of him. It's all on how you talk.
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: A woman tongue, listen, that thing can either lift you
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: up or tear your ass down.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: That's true.
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: You got to know how to talk to him. That
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: nigga will move how you want him to move. But
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: you got to speak it into him. You know? Trust
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: me on this.
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: But I think it's the same way the other way around.
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: Women need a man that's going to affirm them. who's
• 24:57
  Speaker 5: going to give them words of affirmation. I feel like
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: my last couple relationships, this is where I get this,
• 25:05
  Speaker 5: you got to talk to me nice. I really mean
• 25:08
  Speaker 5: that shit, right?
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: Because I was in relationships where motherfuckers was not talking
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: to me nice, right?
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: And I'm a one-upper.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: So I find myself being extra nasty to counter your nasty,
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: and that's not my normal setting. Like, I don't want
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: to be able to say, like, the worst shit to
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: my dudes to win the argument or like to, to
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: kind of leverage out how he's treating me.
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: I don't want that.
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: Like talk to me nice because women are different when you,
• 25:33
  Speaker 5: when you talk to them nicely too.
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: Everybody likes respect. Right.
• 25:38
  Speaker 5: And you know, we talk about this a lot on
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: the show, like niggas always saying how they want peace,
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: but a lot of these niggas are not peaceful.
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 25:45
  Speaker 5: So you want to be a whole demon and you
• 25:48
  Speaker 5: want me to still be loving. No, you have to
• 25:49
  Speaker 5: be inviting of that type of shit. You cannot walk
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: in the house, change the energy of the home, and
• 25:56
  Speaker 5: I'm supposed to still come over, baby, what's the matter?
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: No.
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: I need you to be a big man and use
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: your words.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Tell me how you're feeling because the thing is, men
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: will go outside the house and treat people better out
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: there than they treat the person that they got to
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: deal with on a daily basis. But no, that's not
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: fair because sometimes you need to baby your man.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: Every now and then you come home and his energy bad.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: It's okay to shift the energy in your space. Like
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: maybe he had a real bad day. But maybe he
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: had a really bad day. Maybe something happened to him
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: that day. He hasn't even had the opportunity to speak
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: on it. And here you come like, what's wrong with you? No,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I don't say nothing. That's the thing. I match energy, right? So,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: and that's, that is a problem of mine, right? I
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: match energy. So my attitude depends on you. So if
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: I'm chipper and I'm happy and you come in the
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: house crazy, I'm automatically coming down. Like now I don't
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: feel good because I could feel your energy, right?
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: I get it.
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: It's like he drained your battery.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: Now you've depleted how I've been chilling all day long,
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: feeling great, feeling good, right?
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: But that's not your normal setting.
• 27:06
  Speaker 5: And this is me going based off of previous situations
• 27:10
  Speaker 5: with men. I just want people to get away from the, uh,
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: the finger pointing as if this is something that women do,
• 27:17
  Speaker 5: because there are a lot of men out here who,
• 27:20
  Speaker 5: and I won't call it feminine energy because it may
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: very well be a part of masculinity, right? Cause we
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: already know when niggas get mad, somebody could die. When
• 27:30
  Speaker 5: niggas getting their feelings, somebody gets shot. It's a real thing.
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: So who, who's more emotional men or women?
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Who's more violent?
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: I think we're more emotional, but these niggas is more
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: violent than us when they get emotional. We typically ain't
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: going to kill nobody.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: I mean, we do sometimes. Don't get me wrong, but
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: men go there more than we do.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: So y'all basically think that a lot of men have
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: a communication issue?
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: I disagree with that.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: I think a lot of people have a communication issue.
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: We just communicate differently.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: Well, that's the thing. I disagree that men, if we
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: just stay on that, men have a communication issue because
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: men will come into a barbershop or whatever and spill
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: everything out in front of a room full of strangers. Right.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: So that tells me right there, you don't have a
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: communication issue. I think they have a communication issue with.
• 28:27
  Speaker 5: That's still a communication issue. So if you can tell
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: strangers of what's going on, but you have neglected.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: Because I got little boys who tell me all their business,
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: but have you communicated that with your woman so she
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: can course correct the problem.
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: You have with her? And most of the time, most
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: men who have not communicated that with their woman after
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: you ask them, it's mostly because that woman haven't created
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: that space for him to come to her knowing that
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: It's a safe space, basically. She got to create that
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: safe space for him to come to him. Because it's
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: already hard being a man.
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: Trying to be vulnerable.
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: Coming to your woman. Yeah, be vulnerable without it being
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: tossed back in your face. You know what I'm saying?
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: That's a mean person thing.
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: I hear that a lot from you.
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: And I want to get away from that, too. That
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: is not a woman thing.
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: That is just a mean person thing when somebody throws
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: your vulnerability in your face.
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: Because it's happened to me from men.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: Right?
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: So, yes.
• 29:19
  Speaker 5: In order to be in a healthy relationship with somebody,
• 29:21
  Speaker 5: y'all got to be able to communicate.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Whatever it is. And that's when me and Tam talk about, like,
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: open relationships. It's not just about fucking. It's just like
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: being able to be completely open with the person you
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: sleeping next to every night. Like, why are you more
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: comfortable telling one of your home girls about me and
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: you can't tell me about me? right now that is
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: where accountability comes in on women's part right if a
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: man i think a lot of times that a lot
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: of times women um think that they have no fault
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: in their relationship they're not at fault for anything because
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: a man never communicated his grievances with her we are
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: very vocal when we have a problem with a man
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: We telling you until you correct the issue, we gonna
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: keep telling you about it. Men have a tendency of
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: going outside the relationship to resolve the issues, right? They
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: might go fuck on somebody else to complete their happiness
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: and they still come home and be disgruntled towards you.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: They haven't communicated to you what the problem is, right?
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: So that they can correct, so that you can correct it.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: We gonna keep telling you, keep telling you. So women
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: really be thinking they don't have no problems out here.
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: Meanwhile, your nigga... think you nasty. Like, you don't even
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: clean your bathroom, bitch.
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: I'm telling you, it comes back to not being a
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: conversation bully. You know what I'm saying? So if your
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: man come to you about an issue, listen, understand, and adjust.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: That's it. It's really simple. But when you hear something
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: coming from your partner and it's on you, it's hard
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: to take accountability for something like that. Damn, motherfucker really
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: pointing out some shit I said or did. last night
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: or yesterday, why he didn't say a thing? Probably trying to,
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: you know, process it.
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: My thing is, I don't like when I'm complaining to
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: you any of my grievances, and then that's when you
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: take the time to give me your grievances. When you
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: was upset about whatever you were upset about, you should
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: have told me in that moment. Because now it's just
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: coming to me like, this makes it okay what I
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: did because of some other old shit. Like, you should
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: have been saying that shit. Don't wait till I'm saying
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: something to you, nigga.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: That's a fact. Don't use my moment to address something
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: that I'm taking to address you.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: But do y'all consider that maybe this moment stems from
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: a moment that they created? Why I can even go
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: back and say something about what you previously did? Like
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: I said, I might tit-tat type shit. I might not leave, right?
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: But you're going to feel my wrath because I'm going
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: to put a mirror. I'm going to show you what
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: you did based off what the fuck I'm about to
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: do to your ass.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: But that's manipulation though.
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: It's not really manipulation.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: Yes, it is.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: If you are upset about something, if you want to rectify,
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: you do it in a loving way.
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: That's not loving.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: If this is your person, you need to do it
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: in a loving manner because the issue is not the person,
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: it's the behavior. So you attack that, the issue. So
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: if you're just putting the mirror on the behavior though, right? Yeah,
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: but maybe not intentionally. They're not intentionally hurting you. They're
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: just like.
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: Let's talk about cheating then. Okay.
• 32:22
  Speaker 5: Is that not intentional when somebody makes a conscious decision?
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: Because that's all cheating is, is a choice. So now,
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: if you've continuously made a choice to cheat and I...
• 32:32
  Speaker 5: tit your ass one time and I may not even
• 32:34
  Speaker 5: actually have slept with somebody I might have just went
• 32:37
  Speaker 5: and hung out with a nigga right and now this
• 32:40
  Speaker 5: is the now the argument is AJ you did such
• 32:44
  Speaker 5: and such you was talking to this nigga but you've
• 32:46
  Speaker 5: been talking to hundreds of bitches yeah but right yeah
• 32:49
  Speaker 5: but it's not okay you're not right because you did
• 32:51
  Speaker 5: that you're just even I'm not saying I'm not I'm
• 32:54
  Speaker 5: not saying I'm right I'm saying the same way I
• 32:57
  Speaker 5: gave you grace with your situation let me get mine
• 33:00
  Speaker 5: Or we could just stop all of this, right?
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: Because I'm only doing what you're doing, basically. Okay, but
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: you don't think that's... A lot of women need a reason.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: Men need a time and place for cheating. But you
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: don't feel like all of that is just toxic?
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: It is, right?
• 33:14
  Speaker 5: So I'm no longer in that energy field, right? But
• 33:19
  Speaker 5: I've definitely been on that type of time in a
• 33:21
  Speaker 5: relationship because I just feel like we all human.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: So can I be human too? Since this is regular
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: human behavior, can I be human too?
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: No, that's like, You are human, but that's like, let
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: me get even.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's even. Let me get even with your ass, nigga.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: That's what that is. No, that's let me show you
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: how it feels. Yeah. Let me show you how it feels. Listen, listen.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: Show him.
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: Listen, you can show him how it feels in the
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: most simplest way, and that shit will sting worse than
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: you sleeping with another man. If you just leave.
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: Right, leave and then find a new nigga.
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: If you leave, trust me, That shit will sting worse
• 33:59
  Speaker 4: than a hundred niggas that ran up in you. Which
• 34:02
  Speaker 4: I ain't saying you gonna let a hundred niggas run
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: up in you. What I'm saying is you pack your
• 34:06
  Speaker 4: shit and you say, you know what? Cool, I'm gonna
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: take that L.
• 34:10
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but you gotta do that the first time. What
• 34:12
  Speaker 5: I'm talking about is after you done with a bunch
• 34:14
  Speaker 5: of shit and then now you.
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: Finally- I'm telling you, a nigga know not to play
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: with you. If he know you capable of doing that,
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: he'll know not to play with you.
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: That's a fact. Y'all hear that? Leave. That's a fact.
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: Get the- Get the head. Then leave.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: I'm trying to tell you. The reason why most niggas
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: do this is because they know y'all ain't going nowhere.
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: She ain't going nowhere. She probably can't even, but she
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: gonna stay here. If you just say, hmm, okay. James,
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: I know you slept with Kim. And it's cool. But
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: your shit already packed. You know what I'm saying? Your
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: car already packed. gas already full up, the closet empty.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: That nigga gonna lose plenty nights of sleep.
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: You might lose your life. So my suggestion, bitches, don't
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: even tell him your shit, pal.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: You're not leaving.
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: You're not left. You're on the phone. Oh, right. You're
• 35:09
  Speaker 4: not doing it. Yeah, you're left already. You got to
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: be real strategic with this thing and calculate. You're already left.
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: I'm telling you. And they're going to be coming back
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: hands and knees crawling. Baby, I'm sorry to hear that.
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that was my mistake leaving the last relationship. I
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: told the nigga I was leaving.
• 35:23
  Speaker 5: I should have just already been gone.
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: No, just leave.
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: And then hit his ass up like, yeah, I'm out.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: You can have that shit.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: But leaving ain't always easy as just packing up the
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: next day and being out.
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: You have to strategically plan that shit.
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: That's a fact. Especially if you, you know, we talking
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: about just regular people that dating, but if you're married,
• 35:45
  Speaker 4: I would never tell anybody.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: Like taking pebbles, like small pebbles at a time, baby. Small,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: moving it from here to there.
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: That's what.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: Like a bird. But that's where I was at when
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: I left.
• 35:54
  Speaker 5: I was, like, moving, like, so my last little bit
• 35:57
  Speaker 5: of shit, I'm like, dog, I'm taking all this shit today,
• 36:00
  Speaker 5: and I ain't never coming back.
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: Come back. Today. Nigga get home is one wire hanger
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: in the closet for his motherfucking ass.
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: No wire hangers. Do y'all think it's levels to cheat?
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: What you mean?
• 36:15
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there are levels to cheat. Emotional, financial, sexual, online.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah. on.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely levels.
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: What's the simplest, what do y'all think the simplest level
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: of cheating is?
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: Internet sport. Because just... How about you, AJ? Listen, I
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: like to fraternize a little bit. I like it, okay?
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: And I think that anybody I'm in my next relationship
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: with need to understand, like, I'm a flirt.
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: I feel like it's natural. A lot of people are flirts.
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: Flirting is insane.
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: A lot of people are flirts.
• 36:48
  Speaker 5: But some people, they'll be flirting while you're making a
• 36:51
  Speaker 5: problem for your partner to be flirting.
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Let's just be.
• 36:54
  Speaker 5: Honest that this is normal human behavior. And it's not
• 36:57
  Speaker 5: like something that should happen every single day. But the occasion, like,
• 37:00
  Speaker 5: you might feel like you still got it a little bit.
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Niggas distracted from me, nigga.
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: Don't get me fucked up. Okay? But that's a slippery slope.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: That's a slippery slope because flirting, you mess around and
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: slip on a banana peel and land on somebody's dick.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: That ain't your man.
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: Nah.
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: No, no, no. I slipped, baby. I fell.
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: I think that the simplest form of cheating is communicating
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: with somebody while keeping it away from your partner. You
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: don't want your partner to know you're just communicating. It
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: could be texting.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's internet support.
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's like the simplest.
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: That's Snapchat shit where messages disappear. Now, that's where the
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: cheaters at. The cheaters is on Snapchat, bitch. No, let
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: me tell you where the cheaters disappear. Let me tell
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: you where the cheaters really at. Android users. If that
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: nigga don't want no iPhone, he don't want to be FaceTime, bitch.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: He don't want you to be able to FaceTime him.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: That was me for years. I always used to be like,
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: iPhone is for fucking stalkers. Okay, that's why I don't
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: want no fucking iPhone. Y'all niggas want to see When
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: I see the message, y'all want to see where I'm at.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: iPhone is how I got caught up in my last situation.
• 38:12
  Speaker 5: This nigga, like, really was logged into my shit, and
• 38:15
  Speaker 5: he had that fucking, that find my phone shit on.
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: Oh, wow.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, if your nigga got an Android, he hiding some shit, bitch.
• 38:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: I don't even, when I see.
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: I'm about to go back to Android. A nigga text
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: me in his green, I be like, oh, nigga, you
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: toxic as fuck. Yeah.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: Grand rising yeah grand rising let's try to get back
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: on topic a little bit as far as like telling
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: people about your relationships because.
• 38:48
  Speaker 5: Like I said I do that shit I definitely be
• 38:51
  Speaker 5: telling people shit niggas be mad they be mad because
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: they you know I guess you gotta be careful who
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: you telling your shit to Because I don't want to, like,
• 38:59
  Speaker 5: once I'm good with my man, I don't need you, like,
• 39:01
  Speaker 5: acting nasty towards him because I told you some shit
• 39:03
  Speaker 5: that he pissed me off about.
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: Hi, James.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: That's how you speak to your friend because of some
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: shit he did.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, be like that. So you got to be careful.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: If you're going to stay with him and you know
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: you ain't leaving, you got to be careful what you
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: tell him because your family ain't going to want him
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: as a cookout, you know?
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there are some things even like in any relationship
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: I've ever been in, if my partner did something, I'd
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: be like, I want to tell somebody, but nah, I
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: don't want them to hate me.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: And you don't want people to judge you for staying
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: with somebody.
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and judge you and knowing you ain't leaving.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: I love my friend, but that's a weak ass bitch, boy.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: She keeps staying with that nigga. I just be listening.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: I don't say nothing anymore.
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: I hate to sound like this, but that's a woman thing.
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: Men don't tell their homeboys, bro, leave that bitch. Nah, bro.
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: Because they know you ain't leaving. I've heard mostly women
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: tell their friends, uh-uh, he did what?
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: Meanwhile, they'll stay with a nigga with the same situation.
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: Take them L's in private.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: The people I tell my shit to is the ones
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: that I know that ain't just going to be like
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: agreeing and full of grins with me all the time.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: Like I have certain people like AJ, my best friend, Takiyah, Jhene,
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: and Ryan, they'll tell me, they'll like tell me and
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: don't care if I'm mad. Don't care if I'm like
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: trying to combat them with how I feel. They'd be like, no, bitch,
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: you're wrong, bitch.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: I said, you're wrong. You're wrong. Be mad about it.
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: You know?
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: So I need people like that. Cause I do have
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: friends that'd be like, girl, you right. And give me
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: a high five every.
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: Time, you know? them the ones you don't need no
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: I need them I need them too no no.
• 40:47
  Speaker 4: You need them but I'm saying them the ones advice
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: you don't need they gonna tell you you right every time.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes when I'm.
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: On my toxic time I just go to them so I.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: Can be like I'm right ain't it bitch to validate
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: what you you be like.
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah you right bitch I knew you was on my
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: side bunch.
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: Of yes men.
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: Shame bunch of yes men but then it's I feel.
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: Like my homeboys hate when they call me I'm fair
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: across the board. Because I know you, nigga. Like, I
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: know what you do. I know what you keep for love.
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: So if you tell me some shit, I'd be like,
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: all right. But you know you. Oh, OK. But T-Man,
• 41:25
  Speaker 4: you know. So you understand. I know you for 20 years.
• 41:29
  Speaker 4: I know what you did.
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: What are you talking about? She did this.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: OK.
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: But what you did to cause this.
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, OK.
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: Don't leave that part out. So it's OK for a
• 41:36
  Speaker 3: third party to point out what they did.
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: But it's not OK if the partner herself is saying,
• 41:40
  Speaker 5: I did this because you did this.
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: That's not OK, though.
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: That's tip for that, like you said.
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: But why is it okay when you do it?
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: Outside the relationship.
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: When he do it, you need to address it right
• 41:54
  Speaker 4: there like Tam said.
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: I agree. No, I do.
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: Address it right there.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: I do address it right there.
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: Don't wait until he brings something to you to bring
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: up something he did.
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: No, no, no. That's not what I'm saying. So, I, okay.
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: I consciously, like it's for sure now and I'll see
• 42:09
  Speaker 5: how it actually goes in my next relationship.
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: I'm not letting nothing fester.
• 42:14
  Speaker 5: And that's why I told Tammy, I told multiple people
• 42:17
  Speaker 5: this year, I'm not arguing with nobody no more.
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: I'm just not.
• 42:21
  Speaker 5: It doesn't make me feel good. I don't feel well.
• 42:24
  Speaker 5: I physically feel sick when I argue with people, right?
• 42:27
  Speaker 5: So I'm no longer in the business of arguing. So
• 42:30
  Speaker 5: my next relationship, duh. And I actually had a situation recently.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Like I was dating this guy and I just, I
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: just knew that if I would stay in that situation,
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: because in the past, I would just end up in
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: a five-year fucking relationship somehow, right? With somebody I know
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: I wasn't supposed to be with. So now I'm learning
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: to nip shit in the bud soon because I have foresight, right?
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: That me and this person will be arguing a lot.
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 43:00
  Speaker 5: Like the back and forthness, like I am not, I'm
• 43:03
  Speaker 5: not into it anymore, right? So if we cannot effectively
• 43:08
  Speaker 5: communicate From day one, I'm not fucking with you.
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: I'm just not doing it. You got to learn people.
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: You got to learn people. You definitely got to learn people.
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: But you also got to meet people with a head.
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: I don't have to do that. I don't have to
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: do that.
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: No, what I'm saying is this. We already know who
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: we are, right? Once somebody show you exactly who they are,
• 43:33
  Speaker 4: You already are. I let you right there.
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: No, I disagree.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: Do you see how many times black men will be
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: at their wedding and be like, she made me a
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: different man. She changed me. She helped me to grow
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: into the man I am. I'm so grateful for you.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: Because sometimes these niggas be needing not just the men,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: the women too, you know.
• 43:51
  Speaker 5: You come into each other. People don't change much. We
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: getting older. People don't change much. So who you meeting.
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: Today is probably.
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: What's going to be going on going forward. I disagree, y'all.
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: I disagree. That's fine. You can meet somebody and be better.
• 44:05
  Speaker 5: What I'm saying is I don't want constant compromise. I
• 44:08
  Speaker 5: don't want constant compromise in a relationship.
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: I do.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: Constant compromise?
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: I want someone who's willing to compromise with me at
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: all times because they love me and I love them.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: So instead of us butting heads, we're compromising for each other.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: I think you're mistaking what I'm saying.
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: In a relationship.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: There should be a meeting of the minds to where
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: there is not always constant compromise. Because what constant compromise
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: means is that you're constantly bumping heads with this person
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: and somebody has to digress every single time.
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: I don't want that in a relationship.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: You should be able to have a partner that y'all
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: have a meeting in the minds where y'all.
• 44:46
  Speaker 5: Agree a lot of times. Y'all agree on a lot
• 44:48
  Speaker 5: of things. It shouldn't be constant compromise is what I'm saying.
• 44:51
  Speaker 5: You understand what I'm saying now?
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, but I think, I think,
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: compromise is always necessary in a relationship and you're not
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: always going to agree and see things exactly the same
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: oftentimes opposites attract you are you with somebody who isn't
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: exactly like you and that's why you're going to compromise
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: but compromise doesn't have to be a negative thing you
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: know i think people view compromise as something that's negative
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: and it doesn't have to be it's just about uh
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: ebb and flow and give and take you know.
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: I think um to respond to both of you, I
• 45:27
  Speaker 4: think that in any relationship, especially if it's new, each
• 45:31
  Speaker 4: person have to ask every question they need to ask.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: Don't wait later and then you find out, damn, I
• 45:39
  Speaker 4: never knew this motherfucker think like this.
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: This is crazy.
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: Like, you really think like that's normal? You ever been
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: talking to somebody and you're like, damn, you really think
• 45:46
  Speaker 4: like that?
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: And they be like, yeah. You be like, nigga, that's
• 45:50
  Speaker 4: not normal.
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: Like, what?
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: That's why in the beginning, you need to ask them.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: every necessary question you need to ask. Whatever them questions
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: may be. Because later on, y'all five years in, all right, damn,
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: this thing is like the way his drawers inside out
• 46:05
  Speaker 4: instead of putting them in the dirty clothes. You'll be like, what?
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: You need to get extra wear out of it.
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: You'll be finding out all the things about niggas.
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, what would you ask to know that?
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: Like, it's like shit that you only going to learn
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: about people by being with them.
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: Living with them. Yeah.
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: Right. You're sitting there like, do you wear your... Do
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: you wash clothes? Do you wear your drawers twice? You
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: can't ask nobody that.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: No, no.
• 46:31
  Speaker 4: You might be like, do you wash clothes every week
• 46:34
  Speaker 4: or every two weeks? Do you use washcloth or loofah
• 46:37
  Speaker 4: or just soap? Bigger might be like... I just use
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: my hand.
• 46:40
  Speaker 3: No, you're going to be like, this bitch is weird.
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: She asking weird ass questions.
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? You might be like, what?
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. These are the questions you might
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: need to ask. They might be like low debatable questions like,
• 46:50
  Speaker 4: what you think about people using wash rags versus sponges?
• 46:54
  Speaker 4: And they might be like, shit, I don't use none
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: of that shit. You'll be like, what do you use?
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: I use my hand.
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: You'll be like, what?
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: That could be culture because european people don't uh use
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: washcloths like that.
• 47:06
  Speaker 5: And washcloths hold hold a lot of bacteria so really
• 47:10
  Speaker 5: using your hands to take a shower with the soap
• 47:11
  Speaker 5: bar itself is not really a bad thing like we
• 47:14
  Speaker 5: use wash rags in the western i remember i went
• 47:17
  Speaker 5: to grenada they didn't even exist wash rags because they
• 47:21
  Speaker 5: do all if you're not using a new one every
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: single day it's holding bacteria So, at least with soap, like,
• 47:26
  Speaker 5: the bacteria slides off. That's what the slippery thing is. So,
• 47:29
  Speaker 5: if somebody says, why use my hand to wash? Like,
• 47:31
  Speaker 5: I'll be like, okay, now, you ain't sliding your hand
• 47:33
  Speaker 5: up your ass crack, are you?
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: No, just say the nigga take his hand, take the
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: damn thing, and squeeze it.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how they do in England and stuff like that.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: In the hotels, they don't even know why.
• 47:42
  Speaker 4: How would you explain abuse? You in the shower, y'all
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: take a shower, he's doing this all day.
• 47:47
  Speaker 3: I don't like, don't wear the same drawers twice. That's
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: a problem for me.
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: And don't try to use random gym shorts. Oh, that'd
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: be stank.
• 47:57
  Speaker 5: Them gym shorts be stank in the crotch area. I
• 47:59
  Speaker 5: bet you they put a black line on that crotch area.
• 48:01
  Speaker 5: It's all type of shit right there.
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: I used to make my nigga like, when he came
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: back from the gym, take them shits off in the garage, nigga.
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: That shit smell bad. How is that coming off of you?
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: I think they like it.
• 48:12
  Speaker 5: Listen, my gym boyfriend, that nigga hands be so stank.
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: One day I smelled his hands and he was like,
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: I love how that shit smell. Make me feel like
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: I'm getting it in. What? I smell bacteria, bitch. That's
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: what I smell.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: If you don't throw them gloves in the fucking trash,
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: you nasty bastard.
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: So what's the questions that you feel like you need
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: to ask a woman?
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: Number one for me? Hygiene. That's number one.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: Hygiene.
• 48:47
  Speaker 4: That's self-explanatory.
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: What you gonna ask her?
• 48:50
  Speaker 4: What kind of body wash you use? You smelled good
• 48:54
  Speaker 4: the other day.
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: What kind of body wash did you use?
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: But that don't mean she got good hygiene. She could
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: use that best one once a week. I used Duff
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: on Tuesdays.
• 49:02
  Speaker 4: You started like that. Did they y'all go into, you
• 49:04
  Speaker 4: know what I'm saying?
• 49:06
  Speaker 3: I used FDS. Fuck the soap.
• 49:09
  Speaker 4: And that's all she used.
• 49:11
  Speaker 5: It's coochie dry.
• 49:14
  Speaker 4: Listen, if you got bad hygiene, I'm out of here.
• 49:17
  Speaker 4: I don't care how fine you is. You got bad hygiene,
• 49:19
  Speaker 4: I'm out of there.
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: Okay, but that's basic. What else?
• 49:25
  Speaker 4: I mean, some men point to different questions about.
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: That hygiene shit, let me tell you. I think most
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: women is washing their body regularly.
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: That is not true. I bet you men... I can't
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: speak for all... We ain't fucking on bitches that often.
• 49:36
  Speaker 4: A lot of people struggle with hygiene problems. I'm telling you.
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: That's why I be putting it on Facebook in the morning.
• 49:41
  Speaker 4: Good morning, fellas. Don't forget to take a shower.
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: Yo. I'll keep it real simple.
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: People be like, that's funny. You gotta tell people that?
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: No, don't forget to wash your shower. Yes.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: Because a lot of people be taking baths in dirty showers. Yeah.
• 49:56
  Speaker 4: Start with washing your ass first. Worry about cleaning the
• 49:59
  Speaker 4: tub second. You got to clean first to have the
• 50:01
  Speaker 4: tub get dirty. If the tub clean and you ain't washing, it.
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: Don't even matter. Wash your ass first.
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: Clean the tub second. People be like, that's crazy. You
• 50:13
  Speaker 4: got to tell people that.
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 50:14
  Speaker 4: We all know somebody or know somebody that know somebody
• 50:18
  Speaker 4: who struggle with hygiene. Even in college, everybody had that
• 50:21
  Speaker 4: one roommate or friend that had a roommate. Yeah. washing. Oh, man.
• 50:26
  Speaker 4: Y'all smell him or her?
• 50:30
  Speaker 3: Or a house just be filled?
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: I'm telling you. People struggle with that.
• 50:35
  Speaker 5: I might wash too much, though. So, like, I know
• 50:37
  Speaker 5: some people might skip an evening of baths.
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: I don't. I can't.
• 50:40
  Speaker 5: Like, I can't, like, even if I, like, take a
• 50:43
  Speaker 5: shower right now and I run outside to the store
• 50:46
  Speaker 5: and I don't leave the house for the rest of
• 50:47
  Speaker 5: the day, like, I still have to take a shower
• 50:49
  Speaker 5: right before bed.
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 50:50
  Speaker 5: Everybody don't do that. So, if I have a partner who, like,
• 50:54
  Speaker 5: we go out and he comes in and then get
• 50:57
  Speaker 5: in the bed and I took a shower like I'm
• 51:01
  Speaker 5: like looking at you a little bit from the side
• 51:03
  Speaker 5: even though you might still smell good you might have
• 51:05
  Speaker 5: took a shower right before we went out and my
• 51:07
  Speaker 5: mind is like I have to excuse some things right
• 51:11
  Speaker 5: because maybe it's me that I wash so much now
• 51:14
  Speaker 5: that's a.
• 51:14
  Speaker 4: Compromise that y'all were talking about that's.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: A compromise yeah because if my nigga come in and
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: he drunk and want to fuck me real hard I
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: don't want to wait sometimes I can, okay? We can
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: start in the shower, my nigga. Sometimes that energy, you
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: kind of fuck it up with it. Sometimes the energy
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: just be like, come here, get me on the counter
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: right now.
• 51:37
  Speaker 3: That's what your mouth is for, bitch. You can get
• 51:39
  Speaker 3: it back together.
• 51:40
  Speaker 4: Shower sex is overrated.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: I don't want no nigga who got to come in
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: and fold up his clothes before we fuck.
• 51:45
  Speaker 3: Like, ooh, I'm going to tear that ass up after
• 51:47
  Speaker 3: I fold this shit.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: Like, no.
• 51:52
  Speaker 3: Did you sleep you sleep.
• 51:59
  Speaker 4: That man might that man might be ocd no.
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: I'm with that though listen i'm not yes you know
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: what i don't like like i love hotel sex but
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: i always side eye a nigga who puts his clothes
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: on the hotel floor like even in your own home
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: like get your clothes off the fucking floor I don't
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: like that. So me, if my nigga fold his shit
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: up before he fuck.
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: Me, like, I'm cool. Like, hang your shit up or whatever,
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: how it is.
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: Y'all ain't coming in the room and just taking clothes off.
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: Wherever they laying, yes.
• 52:31
  Speaker 4: They laying, they laying.
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: That shit don't happen in real life. That shit do, baby.
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: Yes, it do. Y'all been out on the town. Y'all
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: had a good time. Y'all feeling good.
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: Y'all get back. I gotta take a shower before you
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: touch me. Oh my gosh. I swear.
• 52:47
  Speaker 4: I swear.
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: I be feeling so clammy.
• 52:51
  Speaker 4: We clean. We showered before we left.
• 52:54
  Speaker 3: I don't feel like that though. That's what I'm saying.
• 52:57
  Speaker 3: It could be with me.
• 52:58
  Speaker 4: You be killing the vibe.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: Baby, come in here and knock the pictures off the wall, bitch.
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: Come knock the pictures off the wall. What nigga? We
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: knock all the pictures off the wall. We was all
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: on the counter.
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: Yes. That's the energy I like. We clean.
• 53:16
  Speaker 4: If we say we going out at 9.30, we both
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: showered at 8, we get back at 1, we still clean.
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: No, we've been outside. It depends. We've been sitting down
• 53:25
  Speaker 3: at places. It just depends. We've been touching doorknobs and shit,
• 53:28
  Speaker 3: and now you want to put that thing in my hands?
• 53:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you wash your hands.
• 53:30
  Speaker 3: No. If I feel like, if I.
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: Of course you wash your hands.
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: If I feel like, I'll do a smell check.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: If I feel like a little musty, I'll be like,
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: all right, nah, baby, wait a minute.
• 53:39
  Speaker 3: But if I feel clean... My smell check is underneath
• 53:41
  Speaker 3: these titties.
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: Y'all think y'all titties gonna be having a little odor
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: from 8 p.m. to 1 a.m.
• 53:51
  Speaker 3: The weightiest titties. I ain't got enough titties. Titties are
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: a little smaller. The weightiest titties sit, baby. Yes. Okay.
• 53:58
  Speaker 3: Down the middle. Like, I'm definitely.
• 54:05
  Speaker 4: Going to do a smell.
• 54:07
  Speaker 3: Check on my vagina before I feed it to you.
• 54:11
  Speaker 5: So I need niggas that wash just as much as
• 54:14
  Speaker 5: me is all I'm saying. And I have had that.
• 54:16
  Speaker 5: I have had men who take just as many showers
• 54:19
  Speaker 5: as I do.
• 54:19
  Speaker 3: Like, that's on my list of things. Okay?
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: That's funny.
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: That's one of my deal breakers. Sometimes the energy.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: So you ain't never came in and was like, ooh,
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: when we get in that door, boy, I'm about to.
• 54:34
  Speaker 3: And you was like, no, let me go. I'm about
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: to take a shower when we get in that door. What?
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: And I'm the latest damn pussy on your chin when
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: I get out.
• 54:45
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: You know, listen. Some men like that natural vagina smell.
• 54:53
  Speaker 4: That's them pheromones.
• 54:55
  Speaker 3: You washing all your pheromones away.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: AJ, you're Vagina is not stink.
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: Just relax and let him have it.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: It's not about it being stink.
• 55:05
  Speaker 3: It's clean. It's clean.
• 55:08
  Speaker 4: It's clean.
• 55:09
  Speaker 3: Your vagina is self-clean.
• 55:11
  Speaker 5: It's not even about my vagina because the vagina is
• 55:14
  Speaker 5: covered up. It's about the skin that was exposed outside.
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: Girl, you are of the earth. You are of the earth.
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: It's okay.
• 55:24
  Speaker 5: We from a different tribe. I ain't trying to explain
• 55:26
  Speaker 5: shit to y'all no more. My tribe, we was the
• 55:28
  Speaker 5: first civilized tribe. OK, we used to take a shower.
• 55:32
  Speaker 4: If I take a shower, a good, good shower at
• 55:36
  Speaker 4: 830 p.m., I get dressed. We in the room. We
• 55:39
  Speaker 4: probably leave until 945. So we get back at 1 a.m.
• 55:45
  Speaker 3: I'm clean. I know I'm clean.
• 55:48
  Speaker 4: These balls fresh.
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: It depends on if we were sweating. Like, if we
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: were sweating heavy, then okay. But if we're not sweating,
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: I'm okay with it.
• 55:54
  Speaker 4: I mean, but what were we doing? We were walking.
• 55:57
  Speaker 3: We were walking down the street.
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: We were going to the slums.
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: Sometimes it be hot. We was at the main event.
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: Sometimes you sweat, but you still don't stink.
• 56:04
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: We was at the main event, and Lil Wayne came on.
• 56:08
  Speaker 3: He was like, ah, ah, ah. Pop a pussy on
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: his head.
• 56:12
  Speaker 4: No, yeah, that was a sweat box.
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: Right, so.
• 56:14
  Speaker 4: Main event been a sweat box.
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: So it just depends.
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: But.
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to ruin the moment with a four-mile close-up.
• 56:21
  Speaker 3: Hang your pants up. What?
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: I'm okay with it. I leave my panties in a
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: ball on the floor. If it ain't, it wasn't good.
• 56:32
  Speaker 4: Just don't wear nothing.
• 56:34
  Speaker 3: That's me. I don't wear nothing for real.
• 56:35
  Speaker 5: Bitch, I be packing so many panties when I go
• 56:37
  Speaker 5: out of town and bitch don't wear them panties.
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: I don't even know why I'm doing this.
• 56:41
  Speaker 5: Bitch barely wear bras. Just packing shit to pack it. Y'all,
• 56:45
  Speaker 5: but we're going to take a break right quick, and
• 56:46
  Speaker 5: when we come back, we're going to get a simp
• 56:49
  Speaker 5: story from Terry, okay?
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: Boy, there's no real easy way to say this, but look,
• 56:57
  Speaker 4: you're a simp.
• 57:02
  Speaker 3: Y'all, we back. Tam had to take a shit.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: Why you got to tell everybody my business?
• 57:12
  Speaker 3: Everything came out all right. It was Starbucks, man. I
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: had Starbucks.
• 57:17
  Speaker 5: Coffee is definitely a diuretic.
• 57:21
  Speaker 3: Diuretic. Yes, for me as well. All right, Terry. Now
• 57:25
  Speaker 3: we want to hear about this Sim story.
• 57:29
  Speaker 4: Oh, man. I remember it like it was yesterday.
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: It was yesterday. Go ahead.
• 57:36
  Speaker 4: This was like, I think, all right, 08, 09. I
• 57:41
  Speaker 4: used to go to Atlanta to go see my homeboys
• 57:45
  Speaker 4: and party with them back in the day. So I
• 57:47
  Speaker 4: met this chick who was at Compound. We exchanged phone numbers.
• 57:52
  Speaker 4: But I was leaving the next day, so I'm like,
• 57:54
  Speaker 4: all right, I'll call her when I get home. La-da-da-da.
• 57:58
  Speaker 4: We connect. We'll schedule something. We talking on the phone
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: every day, everything going good. So she started taking the
• 58:06
  Speaker 4: conversation to the next level. I'm like, oh, word? That's
• 58:08
  Speaker 4: how we're coming. All right, cool. You already know what
• 58:10
  Speaker 4: you're talking about. So I said, all right, I'm going
• 58:12
  Speaker 4: to come see you, right? And we agreed to a date.
• 58:20
  Speaker 4: I'm already anticipating everything you're saying you're going to do. Oh,
• 58:27
  Speaker 4: I feel like such a simp. So I hit up AJ, right?
• 58:32
  Speaker 4: I hit up AJ. I'm like, yo, I'm coming to Atlanta.
• 58:34
  Speaker 4: She was living in Atlanta. I'm like, yo, I'm just
• 58:37
  Speaker 4: there for like a day and a half. I can
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: get a room, but let me just crash on the couch.
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: She's like, all right, cool.
• 58:44
  Speaker 4: Boom. Get there.
• 58:45
  Speaker 3: Boom.
• 58:46
  Speaker 4: Hit the chick up. I'm in town. I was a
• 58:48
  Speaker 4: little nervous because she wasn't answering the phone. You know
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: how you call people just to be like, everything's still good?
• 58:53
  Speaker 4: It's still good for 8 o'clock or whatever? She wasn't
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: answering the phone. So she finally hit me back. Hey,
• 58:58
  Speaker 4: I took a nap. I'm like, all right, cool. I
• 59:00
  Speaker 4: done drove three hours. Oh my God. We get up.
• 59:04
  Speaker 4: I get dressed. Tell AJ I'm out.
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: Boom.
• 59:09
  Speaker 4: I go pick her up from her spot. We go
• 59:12
  Speaker 4: to a nice restaurant in, it's Atlantic something. What's it called?
• 59:17
  Speaker 4: It's like an area in Atlanta.
• 59:20
  Speaker 3: Atlantic Station.
• 59:22
  Speaker 4: Atlantic Station. That's where it was at. We go to
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: this nice restaurant, right? She ordering drinks. I'm ordering drinks.
• 59:31
  Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, okay, we lit. Boom. I'm holding the
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: door open for her, trying to be a gentleman. She
• 59:39
  Speaker 4: asked for the, man, the bill came out to like 380. Damn.
• 59:43
  Speaker 4: Maybe four. What tip? Yes. This spot, I didn't, she
• 59:47
  Speaker 4: picked the spot. I'm like, all right, cool. I had
• 59:50
  Speaker 4: a little bit of cheese at the time, a little something.
• 59:52
  Speaker 4: The bill came out to like three. I never really,
• 59:54
  Speaker 4: I was like, whoa, that's a lot. But alcoholic beverages
• 59:58
  Speaker 4: runs to the checkout. Everybody got to know that. You
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 4: ordering them drinks, them drinks be $ 12 in restaurants. And
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: I'm like, all right. I'm like, are you ready to
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 4: get out of here? She's like, yeah, we can get
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 4: out of here. So I'm thinking like, finally. Get back
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 4: to the car, held the door open for her. We
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 4: driving on the way back to her house. I done
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 4: got my overnight bag in the trunk.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 3: So I'm like. And now you got the whole bag
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 3: in the trunk. Yeah.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 4: So I'm like. Spend the night bag. We pull up.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 4: We pull up to the door. She like, all right,
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 4: thank you for a good night. And it was good
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 4: seeing you again. So I'm like, huh? So I'm like, okay,
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: let me finesse it. I got to finesse it in
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 4: some way, right? So I'm like, oh, well, let me
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: walk you to the door. You know, I figured if
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 4: I walk you to the door, I might can just
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 4: get inside. You know what I'm saying? Maybe try to
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 4: get a little kiss or whatever like that. Get to
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 4: the door. She gave me like a little hug. Like
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 4: one of them little like, all right. And I'm just like, wow. Wow.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 4: She's like, yo, text me when you get back to
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 4: your people house. And I'm just like, wow.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 3: Hold on.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 4: What you mean?
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 3: What you thought? Cause you bought her dinner and drink.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: She owe you some pussy. Nah, she was talking about it.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: She was talking like that. She was talking heavy like that.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 3: She initiated it.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 4: She was talking like, I was like, All right, cool.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 3: So she made you think that it was up.
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 4: And then I got back to South Carolina, hit her up.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 4: My nigga answered the phone. I'm like, oh.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 3: There's the same story right there.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 4: Don't call my girl phone. I'm like, oh, God. And
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 4: that was it, man. I drove three hours then, three
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 4: hours back, and spent almost $ 400. Plus gas.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: You came back with your dick in your hand.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 4: God damn.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 3: That's it. Nothing. He came to visit me.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 4: That's it. I appreciate it, though. Ashley did open her doors.
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 4: I had to spend no money on the hotel. I
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 4: appreciate her for that.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: You spent the hotel money on pussy that you didn't get.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 4: Everybody got a sim card.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 3: Everybody.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 4: I had a few of them, but that one stuck
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 4: out the most, man. I was like, oh, God.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we all got them. At least you got a
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: grown-up story. Some of these guys be talking about high school,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: lunch money.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 3: No, no, no.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 4: That don't count.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 4: I was a young adult then, but, yeah, man.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: My hard-earned money was gone, man. 380 is a lot
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 3: back then.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: I'm telling you. It's the alcoholic beverages. That's what it was.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 4: She kept ordering drinks, like, top-shelf drinks. Like, I'm like.
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: Let me ask you this. Dan, you got her drunk
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  Speaker 3: for the next nigga. Go ahead, Tana.
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  Speaker 1: If you went out on a date with a girl
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  Speaker 1: and she ordered four trays of oysters and ate all
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  Speaker 1: of them and the bill came out high and a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of drinks, would you leave her there?
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  Speaker 3: Did y'all see that with a girl? I saw that shit.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I saw that. I saw that. I wouldn't leave
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 4: her there, but in the process of her ordering, I'm like, yo,
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  Speaker 4: you good? I'm going to say something. Like, all right.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 4: You can't eat. Now you're just being greedy. Like, come
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  Speaker 4: on now.
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  Speaker 1: Four trays of oysters we could have went to harris
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  Speaker 1: tea and got a house right yeah bitch.
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  Speaker 4: No that's people got to know man well i'll just
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 4: say this women if a man is going to take
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 4: you out on a date he asks you he's fronting
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 4: the bill everything there's a certain level of class you
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 4: got to have when ordering if he's paying the.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: Bill what the fuck that means.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 4: Basically, don't just take advantage of this just because I'm peeing.
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  Speaker 4: We can tell when you're just trying to be greedy versus, hey,
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  Speaker 4: we're just hungry. We're trying to get something to eat.
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  Speaker 4: Don't think, oh, this nigga peeing. I'm going to write
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  Speaker 4: a check.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to get what I want. I ain't going
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 3: to lie. I'm going to get what I want. But
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 3: you know what? Let me tell you, especially when I
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 3: used to be growing up. I'm going to ask, though.
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 3: Can I get some more oysters? I'm going to ask.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: When I used to go out with drug dealers, I'd
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: be like the money, or scammers, like the money supplies,
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: use all them, uh, uh, What are the gift cards,
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  Speaker 1: my boy? I'm eating good tonight.
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  Speaker 3: I got a whole bunch of that in Charlotte, bitch.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 3: We be running it up. But if he.
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  Speaker 4: We're talking about the average working man.
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 3: If he's a working man, I'll be conservative.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 4: You gotta be like, all right. Yeah, be conservative.
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 3: But I had to learn that. I didn't realize it.
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  Speaker 1: I was ordering drink after drink, and then I looked,
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: and he was looking nervous about the bill.
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: I was like, damn. He was sweating. This ain't a
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 3: drug deal. And I logged into his banking app and
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 3: all that.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 4: Any working man, he going to be calculating that bill
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 4: with his head.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 3: And then he kept saying he didn't want nothing else.
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 3: I was like, okay, you know what? He probably can't.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 3: So I was like.
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 4: No, it ain't the fact that he just don't want
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 4: to break the bank.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 3: I'll pay for my drinks. He's like, no, no, no, man. No,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 3: you ain't got to do that. You ain't got to
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 3: do that.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 4: But I felt.
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: I felt bad after I realized this ain't a drug
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 1: deal or a scammer.
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 3: This is a. And it's not even about him not
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 3: being able to afford it.
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: It's just like some people don't want to spend that
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: type of money on entertainment, especially entertaining a bitch he
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: may not get pussy from.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 3: Like that's really what it boils down to. So it's understandable.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 3: And let's be very clear.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 5: When young girls go eat out, go look at a
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 5: black woman's table when it's four to eat out.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 3: It looks like a buffet. Right. I still would eat
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 3: like that by myself. Don't get it twisted. I didn't
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 3: come with you. I didn't come with you and run
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: it up in a way I would.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 4: Run it up by myself. See, y'all be trying to
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 4: act cute on first dates. Oh, no, not me. Y'all
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 4: know y'all be hungry. Some of y'all know y'all be hungry.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 4: And she be like, oh, I'm just going to get
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 4: a salad.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: Oh, not me.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 3: That was 20-year-old me.
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 4: Yo, man, that's all you going to eat. But I
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 4: done heard women say, I don't want him to be like,
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 4: I'm greedy. I don't want to look fat.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 3: He need to know who he getting involved with. I
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 3: be telling niggas. Right.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 1: I be telling the nigga before we go, I'm like,
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: bring your wallet. Cause I'm bringing my appetite.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 4: We like that though. That's good though. We want you
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 4: to be comfortable and eat, but at the same time
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 4: have like dining, just be courteous. Like have some cool, like,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: don't be like, Oh yeah. For appetizer.
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: Let me get the she crab soup. Let me get
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: the cocktail shrimp.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 4: And for my auntie, I'm going to get the ribeye, medium,
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 4: loaded big potato, steamed vegetables, shrimp skewers, grilled on both sides.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 3: And baby, when you see my drink low, just bring another.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 4: See? He's going to be like, well, god damn, she
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 4: must don't get out much. She's just taking advantage of
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 4: the opportunity. She don't like this at home.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: Yes, she do. Yes, the fuck she do.
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 4: How often people eating shrimp skewers and steak surfing turf
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 4: at home.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 3: I'm saying when I come back here, which is often,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 3: this is my spot, they know me. I order the
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 3: same shit.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 4: That's another problem. If you ever walk up, hey Tam,
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 4: another one?
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: I definitely take all my niggas to the same place
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: and if I catch you in there with another bitch,
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: it's going to be a motherfucking problem.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 3: I own this place.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 4: That's funny.
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 5: I'm clearing the table if I catch you in here
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 5: with somebody else introducing people to my place like you
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 5: know where it's good to eat at.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 4: Boy, fuck you. Yeah, that's funny. Y'all do say, don't
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 4: be bringing nobody in no place I.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: Didn't introduce you to. Yes.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 4: That's law.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 3: Now you impressing the next bitch with my place.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 4: You see me in there? Yeah, what's up? Yeah, I hear.
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 4: What's going on?
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 3: Okay, I'm going to put this drink on their tab
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 3: over there. Their nigga over there. No.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 4: Sir, I did not order this.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 3: No. All right, y'all.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 4: Bring somebody to the restaurant. I put them on too.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 3: Because what are you doing? You don't even know this
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 3: place existed. I'll come over to the table like, so
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 3: did your herpes outbreak clear up, Terry? Yep.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 4: Thanks for the vouchers.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 3: Okay. Well, y'all enjoy, girl. Don't lick them.
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 4: What was that about?
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 3: Y'all, let's get out of here. We've read it all forever.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 3: Can you log into your MyChart for me, please, sir?
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 4: That's crazy.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 5: Yo, that might be the new thing. Y'all might have
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 5: to tell motherfuckers to pull up their MyCharts. If a
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 5: nigga don't got a MyChart, it's a problem. Just airdrop it.
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 5: Airdrop your MyChart before we.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 3: Go out on a date.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 4: God dang. Why would I have to do that? I
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 4: don't even know if we're going to sleep together. Why
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 4: would I have to do that?
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 3: That's the only way you're going to ever sleep. I'm
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 3: considering it. Yeah.
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 3: I'm considering fucking you. That's the thing now.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 5: Y'all be thinking y'all got some control over whether or
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 5: not we fuck.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 4: Nah, dawg.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 5: We already calculating that LAFN score in our fucking head.
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 5: We thinking about fucking you already. We just need more information.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 4: I always tell men this too. I say, usually when
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 4: you meet a woman and you thinking, you already got it.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 4: You just got to get it. If that makes sense.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't fumble it.
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 4: Don't fumble it. Don't fumble it. Just don't say nothing stupid.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 4: Don't talk yourself out of it. You'll be alright. Be cool.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 4: He be all right.
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 3: All right, y'all.
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 5: That's our homeboy. Low T, Terry. I ain't talking about
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 5: your mama this time. I ain't going to talk about her, man.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 5: Low T, I did talk about her before on this show,
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 5: but not this episode.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 3: Like literally last week. Liar's lady.
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 4: She still got that gold hair, too.
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 3: Liar's lady, okay.
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 4: She still got that gold hair, too.
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 3: All right, y'all.
• 1:09:48
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• 1:09:53
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• 1:09:54
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• 1:10:00
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• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: I love y'all. Thank y'all for tuning in. Terry, before
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: you go, do you want to plug anything? You're at Barbershop.
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 1: Tell people where to come get a cut.
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 5: I'm so sorry, friend.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 3: Anything like that?
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 4: Thank you. I appreciate that. Yes, it's Terry on Instagram.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 4: I am so Charleston. That's I-A-M-S-O Charleston. C-H-A-R-L-E-S-T-O-N Instagram. Hit
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 4: me up. I'm in Columbia, South Carolina. Shout out to Benedict.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 3: B-C-B-C-A. Best barber. Yes, he's awesome.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 4: I appreciate y'all, man. See y'all in a few days.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah yeah yeah hold on hold on yeah a
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: few days y'all if y'all listening you in Columbia South
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: Carolina shout out to all the Benedict College alumni this
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: weekend is Benedict's homecoming Benedict's homecoming we will be hosting
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: a party damn what's the name of the goddamn place
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: Tammy Sweet Sixty Sweet.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 3: Sixty the former the weekend yeah.
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 5: That's where we at y'all and I might hop on
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 5: the mic man I hope they let me do what
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 5: the fuck I wanna do bitch cause I like to
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 5: rock the mic.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: Alright y'all remember speak now And never hold your peace.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 3: Or feet. Or what you want to eat at a restaurant.
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 3: Order what the fuck you want. Period. Don't hold your stomach, bitch. Bye, deuces. Bye, y'all.