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I told my husband I’m EMBARRASSED to go out with him, because of his hygiene! | Reddit Stories | EP3100 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Keon.
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  Speaker 1: sponsors that keep the show going. I told my husband
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  Speaker 1: I'm embarrassed to go out with them because of his hygiene. Ooh,
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  Speaker 1: he a stinky man. I, 29th female, got into an
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  Speaker 1: argument with my husband, 33 male, tonight. I sat down
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  Speaker 1: on our couch to watch TV and freaked out thinking
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  Speaker 1: there was a giant spider by me. No, it was
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  Speaker 1: a piece of matted hair. Oh! He had to cut
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  Speaker 1: out earlier this week because I told him his hair
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  Speaker 1: was matted from not brushing it. He has shoulder-length, thick,
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  Speaker 1: curly hair. I lost it. Not gonna lie, I went off.
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  Speaker 1: I know it sounds like I'm vain, and maybe I am,
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  Speaker 1: but he doesn't care at all about his appearance or hygiene.
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  Speaker 1: He had to cut his hair because it matted. I
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  Speaker 1: had to roll my car windows down to drive home
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  Speaker 1: after picking him up from work because his body odor
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  Speaker 1: was that horrible. He works outside and sweats a ton.
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  Speaker 1: I asked when he last showered, and he shrugged his shoulders.
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  Speaker 1: We had the discussion about him being depressed before. That's
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  Speaker 1: what I was going to ask. He said he's not.
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  Speaker 1: He just doesn't think having a shower daily is necessary
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  Speaker 1: since I don't. I work from home and I shower
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  Speaker 1: every other day if I don't shower every day. I
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  Speaker 1: don't go more than a day without showering. By the way,
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  Speaker 1: this comes from Emma the A-hole appearance TR. And if
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  Speaker 1: r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: And we're here to give good advice goofily. But we
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  Speaker 1: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do,
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  Speaker 1: and that's shower. If you do something else, put it
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  Speaker 1: down below. OP says, I told him I'm embarrassed to
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  Speaker 1: go out with him. I don't get dressed to the nines,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm not asking him to either. But at least
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  Speaker 1: shower and brush your dang hair. We went to a
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  Speaker 1: high-end hibachi restaurant for our anniversary recently. I wore jeans
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  Speaker 1: and a nice shirt. He wore a shirt with a
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  Speaker 1: hole in it and basketball shorts. Yikes. It's for your anniversary.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you got to dress up a little more spiffy
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  Speaker 3: than that. Like, I would say if you want to
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  Speaker 3: do it more casual, like even like.
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  Speaker 1: Jeans, but basketball shorts. Basketball shorts and a shirt with
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  Speaker 1: a hole in it? Yeah. And also, you know that
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  Speaker 1: he's going to smell like hibachi for the next two weeks. Ah!
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  Speaker 1: It's true. I begged him to at least pull his
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  Speaker 1: hair into a ponytail. All this being said, I love
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  Speaker 1: him deeply. I really do. I mean, OP, there is
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  Speaker 1: no doubt in my mind that you love this man
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  Speaker 1: because you're still here. Yeah. The scent would have driven
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  Speaker 1: me away. But even his mom refuses to go into
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  Speaker 1: public with him because of how he dresses. Am I
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  Speaker 1: the a-hole? And we've got comments. But what do you think?
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  Speaker 3: Truthfully I don't think anyone here is the a-hole I
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  Speaker 3: feel like it's just a maybe he was not taught
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  Speaker 3: I feel like women know how to like clean and
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  Speaker 3: you know take care of themselves and whatnot because it's
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  Speaker 3: kind of expected and that's like that's a good very.
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  Speaker 1: Big societal thing I feel like women have to like
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  Speaker 1: manicured and yes like there's things for us to like
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  Speaker 1: take care of ourselves and I feel like when it
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  Speaker 1: comes to like masculine yes societal expectations of men is
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  Speaker 1: is less on hygiene Yeah. And it's more like they
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  Speaker 1: do like the dirty work and they get down and
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  Speaker 1: dirty and they sweat and they don't, you know, like.
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  Speaker 1: And he works at like a, you know, physical labor job.
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  Speaker 1: So he's probably around a lot of men who are also,
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  Speaker 1: you know, getting pretty stinky, who don't care maybe. The
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  Speaker 1: matted hair though is crazy.
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  Speaker 3: Crazy like does he want red locks like.
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  Speaker 1: Just say like hey dude you can shave your head
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  Speaker 1: if you don't want to deal with brushing your hair
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  Speaker 1: my ex did not know how to clean himself for
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  Speaker 1: like a really long time and i like taught him
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  Speaker 1: and everything's like.
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  Speaker 3: Wow like he just was never taught And like, it was,
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  Speaker 3: it was kind of sad.
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  Speaker 1: And I wanted him to feel confident.
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  Speaker 3: I wanted him to be like, no, like you should
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  Speaker 3: be proud of who you are and how you look
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  Speaker 3: and whatever. And you should go out being like, I'm
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  Speaker 3: the spiffiest one here rather than.
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  Speaker 1: It really is a game changer when you like put
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  Speaker 1: in effort into your appearance. Cause a lot, I think
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  Speaker 1: a lot of men, especially like go out in the world,
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  Speaker 1: they're like, oh, I don't care. But then when you
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  Speaker 1: start caring, you're like, oh, I feel more confident.
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  Speaker 3: It's not like you have to care to where you
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  Speaker 3: are obsessed about it and need to like look better
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  Speaker 3: than everyone. And now I'm judging myself and judging everyone
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  Speaker 3: around me. Like, no, like you feel more confident. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And same with like girls like I never wear makeup.
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  Speaker 3: If it's like a nice event, then.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll put on a little face.
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  Speaker 3: But like for the most part, I'm all natural and
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 1: I just don't.
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  Speaker 3: Truthfully, it's the taking off of the makeup like really
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  Speaker 3: frustrates me.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what the comments say. Comment one says, not
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  Speaker 1: the a-hole. He's going to ruin his life if he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't start caring about how his hygiene affects other people.
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  Speaker 1: OP says, we've been together 12 years. You've lived with
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  Speaker 1: us for 12 years? And you've never had a conversation?
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  Speaker 1: He's had periods where it was bad. Even got sent
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  Speaker 1: home from work once because he hadn't showered in over
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  Speaker 1: a week and his co-workers couldn't stand it.
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  Speaker 4: Yikes.
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  Speaker 1: But for the last six months, it's gone off the rails.
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  Speaker 1: Reply says, you've been with a man who doesn't regularly
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  Speaker 1: shower for 12 years. That was the emoji. OP says
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  Speaker 1: there's only been two times where it was this bad.
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  Speaker 1: He went through about four to five years where he
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  Speaker 1: wasn't working too, so he didn't sweat or get BO
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  Speaker 1: as quickly as he does now. And edit, this isn't
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  Speaker 1: a consistent issue. This has only happened twice before. And
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  Speaker 1: after speaking with several commenters, I've put together that it's
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  Speaker 1: a stress response and absolutely depression. Yes, he can say, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's not depression. That doesn't mean that it isn't.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You can say I'm excusing it. That's fine. Maybe I am.
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  Speaker 1: But I do still love him. And knowing him, knowing
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  Speaker 1: how committed he is when he starts something, he'll go
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  Speaker 1: to therapy and continue it. I've even offered to start
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  Speaker 1: doing family spa days at home with him, me, our kids,
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  Speaker 1: and his mom. My sister-in-law is an esthetician, so she's
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  Speaker 1: pitching in. And we do have an update. Let's see
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  Speaker 1: if any of that worked. I hope so. For Opie's
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  Speaker 1: nose's sake. And everyone else's. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Even his mom. I mean, come on.
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  Speaker 1: She doesn't even want to go out with him. Update.
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  Speaker 1: His sister came over last night after I called her crying.
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  Speaker 1: She's one of my best friends and has been for
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  Speaker 1: over 12 years. Aw. His mom and sister went hard
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  Speaker 1: on him and his sister offered for me and the
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  Speaker 1: kids to come stay with her. That's where his mom
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  Speaker 1: stepped in and said if anyone was going to leave
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  Speaker 1: the house, it'd be him. She then told him how
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  Speaker 1: disappointed and embarrassed about him his late dad would be.
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  Speaker 1: That is maybe not the way to do this, I think.
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  Speaker 3: I wonder when his dad passed because this may have
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  Speaker 3: contributed to this. You know, you don't have a male
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  Speaker 3: figure in your life. You aren't getting that, you know, guidance.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm not willing to say that to him no
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  Speaker 1: matter what. I think that got to him though. And
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  Speaker 1: when he woke me up this morning to ask if
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to bring him to work, normally Friday to Saturday,
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  Speaker 1: I bring him to work so we can spend time together.
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  Speaker 1: He showed me that he'd made an appointment with a therapist.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, good.
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  Speaker 1: Good. We've got a little bit left to this story.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think this is the right direction?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Talking to someone about it. Cause maybe he, the thing is,
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  Speaker 3: I don't think he sees that as a big deal.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, he said, I don't think I have depression.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. This is definitely a sign not taking care of yourself.
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  Speaker 3: I would say depression shows up in many different ways.
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  Speaker 1: Sure.
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  Speaker 3: It is obviously very mental. You can also, others can
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  Speaker 3: see it physically when you are acting different, when you
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  Speaker 3: are down and depressed, when you're not enjoying things as much.
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  Speaker 3: And like, no shame in it. It's not like you
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  Speaker 3: have to, you know, try to hide it from people
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  Speaker 3: or whatnot. It's more just like, yeah, I'm gonna, I'm
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  Speaker 3: gonna go get help now. I feel like I haven't,
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  Speaker 3: I've been in a rut. And I noticed that too, myself.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I'm like a little rut and I
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  Speaker 3: just don't feel good right now. And so, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you go and get help and you feel better about it.
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  Speaker 3: talk it through, figure out what the heck happened and
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  Speaker 3: how you can get back to being you. Agreed.
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  Speaker 1: He told me I effed up and something isn't right.
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  Speaker 1: Besides you and mama being sick, we're the most stable
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  Speaker 1: we've been in years. So I didn't think I had
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  Speaker 1: any reason to be depressed, but I think I am. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's a big step. Huge, actually. I told him to
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  Speaker 1: add a psych appointment to it, and he said I'll
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  Speaker 1: talk with his therapist and ask for a recommendation.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you to everyone who helped. I showed him this
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  Speaker 1: post while I drove us this morning, and he said
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  Speaker 1: to tell everyone that mentioned depression and potential neurodivergence, thank you.
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  Speaker 1: We've decided to do some couples counseling, too, and continue
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  Speaker 1: our own individual therapies. I've been in therapy for the
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  Speaker 1: better part of eight years.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Comments said, regarding that update, that's great and all, but
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  Speaker 1: did he shower? Yeah. That's what I was thinking. When
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  Speaker 1: he like came in, I thought he was going to
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  Speaker 1: be like, I took a shower. Look, babe. Look, babe.
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  Speaker 1: He goes, he goes, look, I took a shower. Look, look, smell, smell.
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  Speaker 1: OP says, yes, he did. He was actually in there
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  Speaker 1: showering using all my fancy shower and skincare stuff, which
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  Speaker 1: I buy with scents and stuff I know he likes.
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  Speaker 1: When his sister got to our house, he got out
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  Speaker 1: and our bathroom and bedroom smelled like blood orange.
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  Speaker 3: Yum.
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  Speaker 1: Ha ha ha. laughing emoji he still strongly smelled of
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  Speaker 1: it this morning i mean there really is worse things
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  Speaker 1: that he could smell of as you know his boss
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  Speaker 1: is now asking for some of my soap lol i
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  Speaker 1: that's so funny they're like oh my god that's so
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  Speaker 1: brought back this man wow this man from the brink
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  Speaker 1: all of his co-workers are like this man smells better
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  Speaker 1: than like imagine you know someone who smells so awful
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  Speaker 1: all the time and then they come in smelling like
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  Speaker 1: amazing I'd be like, what? Even if it's not like
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  Speaker 1: that crazy of a scent, I'd be like, that is
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  Speaker 1: the nectar of the gods on your body. It's just
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  Speaker 1: a new scent.
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  Speaker 3: And you're like, whoa, my nostrils have been blessed.
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  Speaker 1: That's the end of that story. What a happy ending.
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  Speaker 3: My wife had my sister-in-law deported and I want to
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  Speaker 3: expose her.
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 3: Uh-oh. I, 35 male, had to come on here and
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  Speaker 3: get some kind of sideline perspective because currently no one
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  Speaker 3: else in the family knows that the reason my sister-in-law,
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  Speaker 3: 33 female, is deported is because of my wife, 31 female.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you came to the right place, mister. We have
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  Speaker 1: all the answers. We know all about that.
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  Speaker 3: We have every answer ever.
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  Speaker 1: Mmm.
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  Speaker 3: Boy, do we not sure I should out her either
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  Speaker 3: in my current state of mind. Sorry if this is
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  Speaker 3: long and disorganized My mind is currently in chaos background.
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  Speaker 3: We have been together for eight years No kids basically
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  Speaker 3: all of this began when my brother and sister-in-law moved
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  Speaker 3: back to our home country After he had been living
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  Speaker 3: in her country prior to that my wife Emma didn't
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  Speaker 3: have an issue with her my wife and my sister-in-law
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  Speaker 3: are both from the States but my wife has been
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  Speaker 3: living with me in my home country since we got
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  Speaker 3: married My brother and sister-in-law are what some people might
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  Speaker 3: call free-spirited. Sounds like fun. Don't know what's wrong with that.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you call free-spirited.
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  Speaker 3: She is from Portland, something my wife rolls her eyes at. Why?
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  Speaker 1: That doesn't sound very free-spirited. Well, no, Portland is known
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  Speaker 1: for being very like granola, but like that's so weird
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  Speaker 1: for her to be like, oh, she's from Portland.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Ew!
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  Speaker 3: Ew! and is very hipster oh that's horrible you guys
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  Speaker 3: kind of stink oh oh my god she's hipster i
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  Speaker 3: bet she like doesn't shave she's got hair they both
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  Speaker 3: smoke regularly something i don't have an issue with but
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  Speaker 3: don't feel like getting involved with either my wife has
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  Speaker 3: no issues with substances or substance use but she can't
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  Speaker 3: stand how much my brother and sister-in-law talk about whenever
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  Speaker 3: we see them By the way, this comes from State
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  Speaker 3: of Disbelief. And if you want to submit your own stories,
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  Speaker 3: go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. As
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  Speaker 3: OP says, six months ago, my wife decided to finish
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  Speaker 3: her master's degree and was offered an opportunity to do
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  Speaker 3: a semester abroad.
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  Speaker 1: What's her name? Why are you only doing a semester
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  Speaker 1: with her? What are you trying to hide? Why can't
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  Speaker 1: you commit? What's wrong with you?
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  Speaker 3: Coinciding with that time, my brother and sister-in-law moved back
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  Speaker 3: here permanently. However, from what I understand, she is technically
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  Speaker 3: still on a tourist visa, which has expired by now
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  Speaker 3: since they came in February. And I'm not really sure
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  Speaker 3: what was going on with the whole paperwork process. They
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  Speaker 3: seem to be bad at planning. My sister-in-law has mentioned
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  Speaker 3: before that she wants to have a kid with my
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  Speaker 3: brother because she would not only get paid maternity leave here,
• 11:25
  Speaker 3: but it would cement her stain.
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  Speaker 1: She told my wife this over Facebook messages as well.
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  Speaker 3: When my wife left to do her semester abroad, and
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  Speaker 3: my brother and sister-in-law moved in, we hung out a
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  Speaker 3: lot more. At first, my wife was cool with it
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  Speaker 3: and would say hi, etc. But things changed when they
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  Speaker 3: invited me on a road trip to Sweden.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so they are presumably somewhere in Europe. Yes. Presumably.
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  Speaker 1: If I had to guess, that's exactly where I'd put them.
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  Speaker 1: I'd put them somewhere in Europe. Somewhere in the vicinity
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  Speaker 1: of Europe. It is hard to get a visa there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's pretty like, OP's like, oh, well, they're just not
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  Speaker 1: working hard enough. It's pretty hard to get a visa
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  Speaker 1: there if you don't have some sort of work permit. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: work-related sponsorship. Yeah. Visa or kid marriage, you know?
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  Speaker 3: Something that my wife has always wanted to do with me,
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  Speaker 3: but we never got around to.
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  Speaker 1: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 3: Here comes jealousy peeking its big old head.
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  Speaker 1: Run away.
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  Speaker 3: After that, she would become short in her answers whenever
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  Speaker 3: I said I was hanging out with him. She began
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  Speaker 3: to make subtle comments about my sister-in-law, and the more
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  Speaker 3: I saw them, the more vicious the comments got. As
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  Speaker 3: a result, I didn't go out with my brother so
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  Speaker 3: much when I knew she would be there. I love
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  Speaker 3: my brother, but honestly, he takes a lot of energy
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  Speaker 3: to be around, so it's not something I really minded
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  Speaker 3: too much. However, things came to a head when both
• 12:43
  Speaker 3: my sister-in-law and my wife entered the same photo competition.
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  Speaker 3: My wife entered first and then my sister-in-law saw her
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  Speaker 3: post and entered two days after. Then the two of
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: them engaged in pretty childish, subtle Facebook statuses about each other,
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  Speaker 3: always masked as someone or this person. My wife was
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  Speaker 3: pissed and I took the opportunity to ask her what
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  Speaker 3: was going on between them. She basically told me that
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  Speaker 3: she resented how my sister-in-law got to see me all
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  Speaker 3: the time now and how she feels inadequate compared to
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  Speaker 3: her because she does all the cooking and I am
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  Speaker 3: the one who cooks in our marriage. My sister-in-law is
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  Speaker 3: also Asian and I made the mistake of telling my
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  Speaker 3: wife that I had had a thing for Asian girls
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  Speaker 3: back when I was 20.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, why did you say that? Well, they're like
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  Speaker 1: way older now. Oh.
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  Speaker 3: It's like, oh yeah, you know, my type is this.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like my type is changing.
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  Speaker 1: It does. It does change. I have never had a
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  Speaker 1: type beyond curly hair, which is funny because my boyfriend
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: does not have curly hair. I was going to say.
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  Speaker 1: But I also never like really considered myself to have type.
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  Speaker 1: I think I just like a personality. Definitely a personality,
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  Speaker 1: but I love a specific look. I feel like everyone does.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone has a specific style. I really don't think I
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  Speaker 1: have a specific look that I like. Really? I think
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  Speaker 1: the people that I've liked have looked very differently. No
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  Speaker 1: big deal. I'm open. Okay. I'm open to things.
• 13:58
  Speaker 3: She was also upset that I had gone to their
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: wedding without her while she had been abroad during her
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: bachelor's degree.
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: Your wife sounds like a piece of work. I'm sorry.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: She is away doing her own thing, getting her degree
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: or whatever. And she's blaming you for the fact that
• 14:13
  Speaker 1: she is away. It's like, I don't know what she,
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: should I just stop my life and wait for you?
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: Do you want me to stay in my house waiting
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: for you? It's like, yeah, I'll hang out with my friends,
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: but also, you know, the sister-in-law, but And also, she
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: continues to get more and more jealous, even though Opie
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: stopped hanging out with the sister-in-law. What else do you want?
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: It's just like a never-ending competition. Yeah.
• 14:32
  Speaker 3: She also is afraid that I'm going to start smoking
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: again because of them. I told her it was not
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: something I was interested in. She also brought up that
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: she hates how I will talk crap about my brother
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: and sister-in-law, but act perfectly fine to their faces.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God. She's so annoying.
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: She's literally doing that. Is she not?
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: That's... Yes. Well, I guess not because she's being mean
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: to them on Facebook. That's crazy to be like, I
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: hate that you are upset with them, you know, and
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: speak honestly about your feelings to me. But then when
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: we're with them, you act cordially and polite. I'll just
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: say I hate them. Yeah. Next time. Yeah, I'm sorry.
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: I was supposed to spit in their face.
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: She said she feels like I'm placating her by saying
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: my sister-in-law is annoying, but I still go see her.
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: She said it makes her feel like I will lie
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: to fit the situation and that bothers her.
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: I can see that, but also he's trying to keep
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: the peace.
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like why he doesn't want to cause any drama.
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know what she wants, man.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: Well, I hadn't seen my brother or sister-in-law for a
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: few weeks and my wife and I were back to normal.
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: She came home and we were having a good time
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: seeing all our other friends. She didn't even bat an
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: eyelash when I said some of the guys had invited
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: me out for a guy's night.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: All was good.
• 15:41
  Speaker 3: Then last week, my brother called and asked me if
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: I wanted to hang out. He sounded pretty high and
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: I told him no. Emma casually asked what was up
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: and I told her. She got a bit quiet, then
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: shrugged and went back to doing whatever.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: There is no pleasing this woman. Dude, that's my brother.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I don't... And also I said no. She's like, oh, oh, whatever.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: About 10 minutes afterwards, she said she was going to
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: take the dog for a walk and run to the
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: shop to get some vegetables for dinner. Oh no.
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: This is basically what went down. She went outside, called
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: the police anonymously, and said that she was a concerned
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: neighbor and could smell devil's lettuce coming from my brother's flat.
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: The police came. My brother and sister-in-law were arrested and fined. However,
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: when they went to pull up her profile to record
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: the incident, they discovered her expired tourist visa.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: She had to be transferred to a sort of holding
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: facility for people who are in queue for being deported.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: I would genuinely divorce her. Crazy. Oh, my God. Could
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: you get over this? No. Your sister gets deported by
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: your partner.
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: No, I am immediately like we are done. I will
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: not be speaking to you. How dare you do that
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: to me and my family? Like there was not an
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: issue and you made an issue.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Because you were jealous. Yes. You departed my sister-in-law and
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: got my brother arrested.
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: And fined.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Now he has like a, you know, criminal record or whatever.
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: Because you were just mad at them.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: Because you didn't get to hang out with me because
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: you chose to go pursue your education. Great.
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: Now there is a whole crap storm happening. My brother
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: is beyond upset and the family is shocked. This isn't
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: really something that can be worked around as one devil's
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: lettuce is illegal in this country. And two, she was
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: on an expired visa and they didn't file the correct
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: paperwork for her to live here legally. So if she
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: is deported, she may face a. Five to ten year ban.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: I would never forgive this woman for this. That's great.
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: And she's just sitting there like, I didn't know that
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: would happen.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Are you dumb? I just thought that that should go
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: back to school. Stay in school for longer. Oh, my God.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: I'd be so pissed.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: This means either the end of their marriage or my
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: brother will need to figure out how to move to
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: the US with her. The thing is, no one knows
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: it was my wife except me. And she doesn't even
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: sound the least bit remorseful. We had a huge row
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: about it, and she stood by her decision, saying that
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: if my sister-in-law was that stupid to do illegal substances
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: as well as not have her papers in.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Order, then it was on her.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: If I'm being honest, I don't care so much about
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: my sister-in-law being deported, but I care that my wife
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: felt so threatened by her that she went to this length.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: She's the type to make subtle remarks and be frosty,
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: but she has never done anything close to this before.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: So now I'm in a real bind.
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: I definitely cannot tell the family and I don't really
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: feel the obligation to anyway, but I cannot just let
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: this slide. I need to impress upon her that she
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: has potentially ruined a marriage all in an effort to
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: remove someone she finds annoying from our lives. What advice
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: can you guys give me? There's no one else I
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: can even talk to about this. There's an update.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh what a mess i'm gonna be so
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: for real yeah op sucks.
• 18:51
  Speaker 5: Too what for not op doesn't even care like like
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: the way that op is expressing oh you know i
• 18:57
  Speaker 5: don't really care that my sister got reported she kind
• 18:59
  Speaker 5: of ruined things like it feels like he is just
• 19:03
  Speaker 5: way too i mean yes he understands the severity but
• 19:06
  Speaker 5: it feels like he's just letting as long as she
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: says oh i'm sorry he would let this slide Yeah.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Like I would never let this slide. She got your
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: brother arrested.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: Like I would never let that slide.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: And now the sister-in-law is being deported.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: It really feels like if she just said sorry, which
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: I don't even think she will, he would never tell
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: anyone and they would go back to normal. Nah, I'd
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: be telling my whole family. Me too. I'd be like,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: oh my God, you will not believe this horrible person
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: that I've already divorced.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: That I am actively separated from what she did to
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: the rest of the family.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: That's just... You just broke up a family. Yeah. Like,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: that's what you did. My family.
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: It wasn't... Like, it wasn't hers. It wasn't... You know,
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: it literally had nothing to do with her. Yeah.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: She just was jealous beyond disbelief. And now... now you've
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: ruined a.
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: Family thanks congrats update things are quite tense at the
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: moment but tomorrow we have agreed upon a sit down
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: we'll update letting you all know what happens now with
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: us and the situation as of this moment my sister-in-law
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: is definitely being deported oh update two i'm just gonna
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: get right into it First, my sister-in-law is on a
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: flight out tomorrow. There's nothing that can be done at
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: the moment to keep her here. She now has a
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: stamp on her passport that says expelled and a 10-year
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: ban from the entire Schengen area. The immigration officer my
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: brother spoke to said that it is possible for the
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: ban to be reduced. but that is the current official
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: time given. The American embassy was also notified about this.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: My brother is a wreck. He was able to briefly
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: visit her in the holding facility and she gets to
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: call him twice a day, but that's it. They don't
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: know when it will be possible to see each other
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: again or where. If he is unable to go to
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: the U.S. because of his arrest, they may agree to
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: meet in a mutual country. That is just so sad
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: to do to someone.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: How do you live with yourself after just splitting up
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: an entire marriage?
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: And also Schengen area is a zone of 29 European countries,
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: which include Austria, Belgium, Bulgaria, Croatia, etc.
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: Dang.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: But yeah, so I was the 90 180 day rule
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: visitors from outside the EU who do not need a
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: visa can stay in the Schengen area for up to
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: 90 days with any rolling 180 day period. This limit
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: counts across the whole zone.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: So when I was traveling for three months, it was
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: the thing of like, you can only stay in all
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: of these countries for like 90 days. Never knew.
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: She has family in the Philippines, so that may be
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: an option for them. Many of you told me to
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: tell him what my wife had done, but honestly, in
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: his current state of mind, I just can't do it.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: It would be the actual tipping point for him. I
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: know that this probably means I will have to either
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: never tell him or accept that when I do, it
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: will completely destroy our relationship.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Only if you stay with her. I mean, you gotta
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: choose a side, OP. Yeah.
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: I get that, you know, you love this girl and blah, blah, blah.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: But she ruined your family. Yeah. Tore these two apart.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: She doesn't feel bad.
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she doesn't care. And she also, like, lied about
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: it to your face. She said, oh, well, I'm just
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: going out. Yeah, I'm just going out. Don't worry about me, blah, blah, blah.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Cops called. Everything turns into chaos. Like.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: What is wrong with you? Secondly, I did tell one
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: family member. My mother came to visit to discuss the
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: deportation and I ended up telling her what Emma did.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: She was furious and she insisted that the both of
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: us talk to my wife. Well, my wife and I
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: had already agreed to have a long talk today about
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: the matter and what this meant for us. I felt
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: a little more grounded having my mother there. And then
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: things just took a freak turn.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, God. What do you think is going to happen?
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: She's deporting someone else. Ah, actually, your mom can't be here.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: I'm having her deported. Sorry. And he's like, but my
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: mom's a citizen. She's like, nah, no. I took her passport.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: I ripped it up and it's in shreds. There's no
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: proof she exists.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: My wife sat down, seemed really calm. She let my
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: mom say what she wanted and just sort of sat
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: there nodding with her hands folded. When my mom was
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: done talking, my wife pulled out her phone and handed
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: it to her. She showed her messages from my sister-in-law
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: on Facebook telling my wife how she planned to have
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: a baby in order to stay and get paid maternity leave.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: My mom is extremely sensitive to this sort of thing
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: because her own mother used her as a pawn many
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: times when she was a child. So my mother went
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: from being extremely angry at my wife to actually siding
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: with her. She said it was better this way because
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: my sister-in-law's motives for having a baby were misguided and
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: that she couldn't believe my brother was going to go
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: along with it. So, with my mom on her side,
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: my wife began to lay out my sister-in-law's shortcomings and
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: how she was creating a toxic environment that would drag
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: us down and any potential child they would have had.
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: She also said that it was unfair how she had
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: to go through the process of paperwork before coming here
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: and my sister-in-law was resting on her laurels.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: What are you talking about? talking about i still hate
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: her op already knew about that baby text yeah because
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: he said oh yeah like she had talked about oh
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: well you know once i have a baby then it'll
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: be a lot easier so i don't want to go
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: through the it feels like she's looking for anything it's.
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: Kind of like cheating the system like how people do
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: in like the military, like how they just marry.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: They get married so that they can say, yeah. Like
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: people do that all the time. Exactly.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: So I don't think that her, you know, her intentions
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: were like misguided.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: No, and they also seem to have been talking about
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: wanting a family in general.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: It seems like I could totally be wrong. It does
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: seem to me like from what OP has told us,
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: the sister-in-law was just saying like, I don't want to
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: do any paperwork because I'll just have a kid. Which sure,
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: maybe definitely misguided in terms of like, that's why she
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: got deported yeah but like it feels like that could
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: be like an easier way to go about it than
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: like going to them now with an expired visa.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Being like hey I'm gonna try to do this and
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: they'd be like yeah actually you have to leave yeah
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: and then fill out that thing and then come back
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: after you get approved like you know it just seems
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: like a lot of extra steps in the middle and.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Also if OP's wife actually had a problem and actually
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: thought oh sister-in-law's trying to baby trap your brother the
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: fact that she didn't come to OP and say hey
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: what should we do about this Yeah, she's still, she's scheming.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: She's freaking scheming. Now she's your mom on her side.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: She's a schemer. Do you think, do you think that
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: she's scheming or is this like, she actually saw this
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: and was like, oh, well, I have to do something
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: about it.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: I think her judgment is clouded by her jealousy. By her,
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: it's just pure hatred.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Pure hatred for this woman.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I also understand how she may be like, yeah,
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: it took me a while. It's not fair and all
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: this stuff. There are ways to quote unquote cheat the
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: system if that's going to be the easiest route for you.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: You know, everyone takes a different route. There is a
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: more legal way of doing it. Sure. That doesn't mean
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: like all like since you did it all through. the
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: right legal way to do it, now you have to
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: take down everyone who does it.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, now you're the police force.
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: It's like, I understand that, you know, it may be
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: frustrating that she didn't have to go through all of that,
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: but why does that give you the right to ruin
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: her life?
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Literally.
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: And scheming to cheat the system, something that really pissed
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: my mom off.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: Valid points, all of them.
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: However, I wasn't going to let it slide that she
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: had obviously had ulterior motives, such as being jealous. Yeah, absolutely.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I asked her if she would have.
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: Done any of this if my brother and sister-in-law weren't
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: spending so much time with me, if she wasn't cooking
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: dinners for me, taking photos, or entering the same competition
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: as her. She admitted that all these things definitely contributed,
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: but only served to underline the disdain she already had.
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: I told her that no matter how you cut it,
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: she had effectively ended their marriage. My mom decided to
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: jump in and say that my brother and sister-in-law were
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: at fault because they did not get their situation in order.
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: My wife seconded that and said if she had taken
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: the time to file papers instead of planning trips with
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: me or being busy playing the housewife to someone else's husband.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: She wouldn't be in that situation. How do you not
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: hear it?
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: She's like, well, maybe if she backed off and didn't
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: try to take my man, then maybe she wouldn't have
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: been deported. No one liked each other in this. Yeah.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: No one was trying to make a pass at anyone
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: or whatever.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: They just, she was being nice. Yeah. cooking dinners for
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: this guy her brother-in-law and then that is what she
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: like like the fact that she's op's wife is nitpicking
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: at at the good things this woman was doing as
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: the reason why she should have been deported.
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: To quote maybe she should have been taking care of
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: herself and her own instead of trying to play housewife
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: to someone else's husband well i can take care of
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: my family just fine and if she had any doubts
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: about that now she's in the clear oh my god
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: I will admit the points about her being afraid that
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: I was going to be implicated along with them when
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: it comes.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: To devil's lettuce. I understand.
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: That is a valid fear to have. They smoke almost
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: every day. My brother almost always has something on him.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: My sister-in-law should have done her paperwork. She should have
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: made sure her visa didn't expire. I will not argue that.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: She probably should not have said she was going to
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: have a baby specifically to stay here.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: That's the other point I was going to make.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: I don't 100 agree with how the sister-in-law went about
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: all of this i do think that you know she
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: should have been proactive and done it the right way
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: and whatnot but she also had an ulterior plan.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Of being like okay well if i if we have
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: a baby which eventually we do want to have then
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: i could stay here and we can start our family
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: be happy whatever it's not like a horrible idea no
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: it's not like she's like i'm gonna trap i'm gonna
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: make sure i'm gonna put coals in the condoms and
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: She didn't say that.
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she was, she wasn't like trying to make this like, uh.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: She wasn't hiding anything. Yeah, it wasn't supposed to be
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: malicious at all. We also don't even know if like brother-in-law,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: brother-in-law was probably aware of this plan. Yeah, he was.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: Or sorry, brother was probably aware. Yeah. Brother and brother-in-law, yeah. Yeah,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: they're probably like, everyone knew about it. Emma didn't like that. Yeah.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: But I know that these are solid excuses that are
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: being used in conjunction with something else. I know that
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: if my sister-in-law was not Asian, if she couldn't cook,
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: if she didn't take pictures of us together for her
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: instagram my wife would just chalk her up as another
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: annoying person who smokes too much for her taste but
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: was ultimately harmless exactly and that is the difference.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah that's why that's why she's the villain.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: Here and i know if i had just gone to
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: sweden with my brother that my wife wouldn't care but
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: because i went with the woman who was playing housewife
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: to me it was a serious offense in her head
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: I waited until my mom left to tell her all
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: of this.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: She didn't deny it.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: I also told her that this whole situation had let
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: me see a side of her that honestly scared me. Yes.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: I told her I wanted to begin couples therapy together
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: or there was no hope of this continuing.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Good for you, Opie.
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, good.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: She agreed and we both began to.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Research therapists in our area.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: She apologized for not talking to me about calling before
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: doing so, but she has not apologized about the deportation.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Because she wanted it to happen. Like, why would you
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: apologize for something you so strongly... believe was right?
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: She also said, if I wanted to tell my brother
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: and sister-in-law that it was her, I could go ahead
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: and do that.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to. One, they are distraught enough.
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: And two, it seems like her coming to claim victory
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: one last time over my sister-in-law to her face.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: She's going to tell her. Your wife is probably going
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: to tell them. She wants them to know. Yeah. She's
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: probably going to comment some vague thing on Facebook like, oh, sorry,
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: you got deported. Wonder how that happened.
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: The evil of this woman. She's so evil. So that's
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: what's going on. I'm hoping to post an update on
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: our progress when we begin couples therapy. The issue for
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: me right now is rebuilding the broken trust. Also, as
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: far as things with the family go, well, my mom
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: is on her side. And should my mom decide to
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: tell other people in the family, she will definitely make
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: my sister-in-law the bad guy in the story. Aside from
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: my brother, I think most of the family would be
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: on Emma's side. And there are some relevant comments. Commenter
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: number one says, I am concerned that your wife has
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: this secret in her back pocket that could end your
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: relationship with your brother at any time.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yes. Hey, Keon here. We're going to get back
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: our sponsors.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: That's concerning. Not being able to trust your partner.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: If you ever show her any sign that you want
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: to rebuild your relationship with your brother and spend time
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: with him and maybe even like, you know, spend time
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: around him when he's like smoking or something. She will
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: use that secret to destroy a relationship. Like, It's like
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: she has so much ammunition.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And she is going when she's mad. And that
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: could be literally at anything.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: Because this girl. Yeah.
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: This girl just is jealous and insecure about everything.
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: If you find like, I don't know, a group of
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: people that you hang out with and, you know, there's
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: an Asian girl in it or something like she's going
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: to be like, oh, we'll see about that.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: And now, you know, she wouldn't even consult you. And
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: you also know that she's going to do it behind
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: your back.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: Like, OP, I understand that this is, you know, horrific
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: situation and your mind is going a million miles a second.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: But you also need to take a step back and
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: look at the bigger picture of your.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: Wife is untrustworthy. She is not going to get your
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: permission to do things. She is not going to have
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: a talk about it. She's not going to discuss options.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: She is going to, in the moment, just ruin someone's life.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah. That's scary.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: And I feel like kind of going, you kind of
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: mentioned this earlier, but like, I feel like it's the
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: worry is not even, oh, about the deportation. It's like
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: at the core of this, your relationship is broken. Whether
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: or not, whether or not sister-in-law deserved to be deported for,
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: you know, mismanaging the, you know, documents and visa, blah, blah, blah.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: Whether or not that is righteous or not. The trust
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: in your relationship has been broken and I don't think
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: it can be fixed.
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: It's like, I guess you could try couples therapy. But
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: the thing is, she seems like she has a very
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: evil side to her.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: And that's so vindictive. It's scary.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: And it's crazy that you are just now finding this
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: out about her. And she's trying and she's sitting there
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: so calm. Yeah.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: That's weird. It is.
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: OP responds, I agree. I know I have to tell
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: my brother in order to stop that from hanging over
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: my head. I just feel that right now is the
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: absolute worst time. What if he did snap and do
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: something completely crazy like harm her? He would end up
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: in prison and with no way of even trying to
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: maintain a long distance relationship with her. The most relevant
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: comment says, this is some gone girl level crap. And
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: there's a third update.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: Oh boy. Let's find out what happened next.
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: This is the last post I will write on this
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: issue for several reasons.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: Probably some sort of legal reason.
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: The first would be that many of the responses made
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: me feel sick to my stomach. Advice is one thing,
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: but there is no reason for anyone to say that
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: they hope someone passes away. Oh yikes. They hope my
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: wife gets a horrible disease, calling her every awful name
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: in the book.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just the internet. That is not advice and
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: not welcome.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: I was more willing to listen to people who commented
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: saying perhaps she had BPD or some other type of
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: psychological disorder, because that at least I could give them
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: credit for. At the end of the day, she is
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: my wife. Secondly, a lot was assumed about my brother,
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: and that is probably my fault. I love my brother,
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: but he is 34 years old and still smokes devil's
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: lettuce every day and acts pretty much the same as
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: he did at 18. He needs to grow up. Him
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: being a father would not have been a smart choice.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: He and my sister-in-law are kind people, yes. They are family.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: But my brother hasn't been here for me. He left
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: home when he was 18 and barely wrote to me
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: on Facebook for the next six years. My wife, on
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: the other hand, has stuck by me for eight years.
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: She has been there for me when I needed her.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: She has been my rock and she has had my back.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to abandon her just because.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, with a knife in it. She's been holding your
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: back with a knife primed. Ah! I unfortunately think that
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: the commons pushed him closer to his wife. Good job, guys. Thanks, Reddit.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: I am not going to abandon her just because my
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: brother is a blood relation. I'm going to go to
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: therapy with her and we will see what happens. She
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: may have been cold and calculating, but she is not
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: without cause.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: And that's it. Short update and to the point. Good luck. Yeah.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: You know, I hope there is an aha moment that
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: you have in therapy for.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: You and for her, but mostly for you. Yeah.
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: That is like, oh, she is crazy and will do
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: things in the heat of the moment.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, she's Freaky Nikki. This is obsession. She's like
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: sabotages her competition so that she can be with you.
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: It's real crazy. I just don't.
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: I don't trust her no and that trust is broken
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: forever for me at least I don't know if I
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: mean obviously you're trying to rebuild it but and I think.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Everyone in the comments my question for you is taking
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: putting all of the deportation stuff aside whether or not
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: you think it was right or wrong do you think
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: this relationship should continue yeah just from what you did
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: like putting all of that righteous stuff outside like away.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Just the action of her doing that behind his back
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: caused all these issues for what?
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: Over jealousy. Over jealousy. Is that normal? Is that a
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: normal response? Yeah. Would you trust someone after that? That's
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: our question. Yeah. But that's the end of that story.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: And we got another one coming up. Sure do. I
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: called my husband's family idiots because of their unwanted comments.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: Oh, well, that is a term I guess you could use.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: My husband's family keeps giving us advice and I thought
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: that advice was dumb. So I told him and now
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: he's quiet.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: What?
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: That was quick. I will try to keep this short
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: and to the point. All of it has been very
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: short and to the point. I, 31 female, told my husband,
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: 32 male, that his family's dumb. So far OP has
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: just repeated the same thing three times. But she's making
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: it very clear. We've been married for seven years and
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: have built a beautiful life together. He is an amazing
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: partner and father to our two girls and I love
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: him dearly. We met in college that was six hours
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: away from our home cities so we never really met
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: each other's families until the wedding. Everything seemed fine. They
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: were all so nice and accepting and I got along
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: with everyone. There were occasional yellow flags and my husband
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: warned me of some family members. But for two years,
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: everything was great. Then I got pregnant with our first daughter.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: I will now list out the major flags I have clocked.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: We had been trying for a year. His sister responded with, ugh,
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: this baby is going to be more important than me.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: While pregnant in 2020, height of the vid, I find
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: out alone that my placenta wasn't giving her enough nutrients
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: and oxygen. so we had to induce labor so she
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: could grow. I was so sad and scared, so I
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: just made a general Facebook post to inform family and friends.
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: His mom's response, why did all these people on Facebook
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: find out about this before me? Didn't ask how I
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: was or the baby, just mad she wasn't the first
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: to know.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: Okay, okay.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: I'm like partially on her side there. Partially what? Just
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: only partially. I think it's ridiculous that she didn't say,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: oh my God, how are you? Are you okay? Do
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: you need anything? But also, yeah, why?
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: Why post about it and not actually.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: Like talk about it with family?
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: To each their own, I guess. I don't know. I
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: think if it was a text chain, I'd be a
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: little bit like, oh yeah, okay, that makes sense. But
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: a Facebook post feels a little bit.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: Other than that, I'm not on her side. Daughter is perfect.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: She is beautiful, silly, full of attitude and happy and autistic.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: Sorry, I just wasn't prepared for the last thing.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: It was on the next page, so I also wasn't prepared.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: I didn't know where that was going. I was like, oh, this, that,
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: the other thing. And that. Also autistic. Sure, yeah, okay.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: Why not? His mother comments on the size of her
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: nose and how dark she gets in the summer. I'm
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: black and my husband is white. Well, sounds like she
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: gets dark in the summer because she is dark skinned.
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: Genetics.
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: Genetics. That's just how that works. Melanoma. No, melanin. Melanoma
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: is getting canceled. Yep, kid. Editors, you know what to do.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from all forms of potatoes.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: to the r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: and not melanoma. Now you have to keep it in.
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Take it out. Now, the moment I commented on his family,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: that I finally lost it, was when his uncle told
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: us that we just ate a feed of raw milk
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: for six weeks to cure her. I'm not confrontational, so
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: I told him that's not how autism works, and it's
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: not some life-risky disease that needs curing. absolutely right that
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: is an insane thing for him to say when we
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: were home i was fuming over another fix our daughter
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: and why isn't she like her sister a comment that
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: i said his family were a bunch of idiots so
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: valid yeah so valid with this context i am definitely
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: on your side Because they're coming at you with, like,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: the moon landing's not real. Vaccines cause autism. Yeah.
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: Fix your kid. It sounds a lot like Flat Earthers.
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: And, like, how, what was it?
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: If you, like, inject Lysol into your veins, like, you'll
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: be clean.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: Isn't it bleach or something? Yeah, bleach.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: If you drink bleach, you'll be cured of any disease
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: you have.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because you'll die. You'll be cured because you won't
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: have life. The biggest disease of it all. He got
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: really quiet and hasn't brought it up, but now when
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: his mom calls, he really doesn't tell me about it
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: and sometimes leaves the room. I know some of what
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: I was feeling was justified, but should I have not
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: told him how I felt about some of his family members?
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: There is an update, but what do you think? should
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: OP have kept that thought inside or perhaps wrapped it
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: a little differently truthfully I think you got your point
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: across yeah if you tried to say it in a
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: sort of you know like oh I don't really like
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: your comments you know blah blah I don't think that
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: would work yeah like truthfully, you kind of went about
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: it in the right way of just being like, hey,
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: you know, you're going to sit here and tell me
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: that my daughter's wrong or tell me that she's there's
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: something wrong with my daughter. And why is she like
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: the other one? You know how hurtful that is to her?
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: You know how hurtful that is to us as a family?
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't want them around my kid if they're going
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: to make those comments. Exactly.
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: Like you don't say that. You don't make her feel
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: any less than anyone else. Yeah, that is just not OK.
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: And so, yeah, I think that calling them out, use
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: an idiot. I think it was the right thing to do, truthfully.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: I honestly could see exactly where she's coming from. I
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: also totally understand his feelings of maybe defensiveness because no
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: one ever, even if you see your family's flaws, no
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: one ever wants another person to call them out, you know,
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: because they're like, oh, I can say that, but you can't.
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: That's kind of the feeling. However, again, these people are
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: saying pretty stupid stuff.
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I think OP just got sick of it. She sounds
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: like a very blunt person. OP continues, thank you for
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: all the comments and advice. I was not expecting such
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: a reaction. Oh, also OP is a black woman. So
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: I'm sure there might be some other, you know, things
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: going on there. That's also true. These are all comments
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: and microaggressions made over the past four years. And my
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: husband isn't tuned into those. So most of them go
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: over his head. Yeah, because they're microaggressions. And he's like, well,
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: I don't have to worry about that. And he's also
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: a white man. When I made the Facebook post, it
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: was just to inform friends and family. She was coming earlier.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: And we called his mom the next day because she's
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: old and knew she doesn't go on Facebook. And my parents.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: So they heard it from us still. Okay. So what
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: was she complaining about? My daughter was diagnosed with autism
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: spectrum disorder and ID when she was three. I knew
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: she was a little nerd a virgin princess way before then.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: So we jumped on all early interventions and therapy to
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: make sure she had a great life and we know
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: how to be good enough parents. Now for the update.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: I took some people's advice and just had a real
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: conversation about why I felt the way I did about
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: his family. And I apologized for my language because it
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: is his family. But it turns out he was clocking
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: my reactions and their words for a while now. He
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: was actually more upset that I had been keeping my
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: feelings to myself for so long and didn't talk to
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: him about it. He already barely tolerates his sister and
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: calls her out every time she wishes our daughter was
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: normal and would just talk. Hard eye roll. But the
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: reason he's been leaving the room to talk to his
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: mom is to screen her comments and so he can
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: educate her on how to not suck. there. So now
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: she goes, oh, well, why can't you just fix your daughter?
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: He goes, mom, don't say that. Yeah.
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: And he should, that should have been day one.
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: He didn't say that, but that's my interpretation. He is
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: the golden boy and he doesn't want to strain my
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: relationship with her anymore. Very smart way to do that.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: Instead of being, you know, calling them out when OP's
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: in the room, making it feel like OP's problem, because
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: they would definitely turn it on OP and be like, well,
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: you're making our son attack us. Instead, just calling them
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: out on his own time. I think that's a good
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: way to approach it yeah definitely should have done it
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: sooner as you said i.
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: Think it came off maybe a little aggressive but they
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: they've been doing it for a while so obviously there's
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: been some feelings mixed in here so when he.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Thinks she is educated enough she will be allowed to
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: have supervised visits he's like so i'm her tutor right
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: now and once she passes the class then she'll come
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: it's probably gonna take five years and truthfully that's how
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: it should be Thanks again if you have read this far.
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: I know it's not piping hot tea, but that's the update.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: My husband was secretly trying to teach his mom that
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: the internet does not equal a medical license and that
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: I am in fact a proud black woman and she
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: needs to think before she speaks. And that's the end
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: of the story. I agree. I'm glad that your husband
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: was taking initiative. Yeah, definitely could have told you that though.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: I definitely could have been like, you know, I'm so
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: sorry that you felt that way. I totally should have
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: been doing something about this.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: OP, since they did not communicate, it felt like OP
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: was being, you know, victimized.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: And ignored. And yes.
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And it's like, actually, we're a team and we
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: could be working together instead of being separated, still trying
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: to work towards the same goal.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: You know? Yeah. It's like when in those action movies
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: where all of the teams go off into their own
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: separate plots and stuff. And you're like, oh, if they
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: were just together, they would solve the big issue. And
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: that's how I feel here. Yes.
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: You know, like in Stranger Things, they all have their
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: separate plots. And then when they finally get together, they
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: actually solve everything. That's how I feel.
• 44:12
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• 44:20
  Speaker 3: I attended the weirdest funeral I have ever been to.
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: Were there unalived people there?
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: My family is weird. My dad's side especially. Apart from
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: probable doses of autism spread throughout, we were fortunate enough
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: to have descended from a short lineage of smart investors
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: and developers. My dad retired from his job as a
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: math teacher around 40, but is a passionate, though unsuccessful,
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: hobbyist business entrepreneur. As I like to put it. That's
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: a lot of words.
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: Hobbyist because he has a lot of interests.
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: His most successful idea was a fruit of my eight-year-old
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: brain wanting to be an inventor 20-plus years ago, creating
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: what I called at the time a light glove, where
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: a battery pack in your wrist would power a light
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: on your index finger for scuba divers wanting better nighttime flashlights.
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: He shared this with a friend, and well, according to Amazon,
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: the friend is doing very well.
• 45:17
  Speaker 4: The friend?
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but this isn't about him. So much as my grandmother, who,
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: like skiers say after a run, two more and skip
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: the last. After her first kid, but had to try
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: again since the not-last run wasn't the greatest. She was
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: a successful woman in her own right, investing in many
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: businesses and people alike. She became somewhat a powerhouse in
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: the micro-communities she participated in. Becoming recognized beyond my own
• 45:46
  Speaker 3: father's achievements. By the way, this comes from CertainHorrors3755, and
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit where this was submitted.
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: What?
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: I am Savannah.
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: I am Riley.
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give some good advice in, you know,
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: a little goofy way, but we don't have all the answers.
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: We only tell you what we would do in this situation,
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: but you should let us know what you would do
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: down in the comments. As Opie says, she was without
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: a doubt the matriarch and had the ability to speak
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: her truth until... At a younger than most age, she
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: started to lose her mind and memories.
• 46:22
  Speaker 4: Aw.
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: The upside of this being that for the first time
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: in my teenage life, she started saying it had looked
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: like I lost weight rather than gained, no matter how
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: much I actually put on between seeing her. That's the
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: bright side of this, is that she doesn't remember what
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: you look like, so she just says, you look like
• 46:40
  Speaker 3: you've lost weight. Oh, no.
• 46:43
  Speaker 4: I mean, that's a nice compliment.
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I guess she could be mean and
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: be like, ew.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: You're chubby.
• 46:50
  Speaker 4: That's gross. Yeah.
• 46:53
  Speaker 3: She was given mercy when I was around 21, leaving
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: a family somewhat lost in their own confusions. Her funeral
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: was quiet. The respect she had spent her whole life
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: earning had run dry with her memory. What was anticipated
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: to be a 300-plus person affair tossed in maybe 75
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: of her nearest and dearest. We all tossed on what
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: we could for the funeral. I wore a black dress
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: I ordered prior to her passing, fearing having only inappropriate attire.
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: My sister wore a dress that was seen only months
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: earlier at a black tie. My brother threw on a
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: pair of dark gray trousers, eight years too small. And
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: my father found some leather-worn shoes to go with his
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: mismatched suit. As they carried out her casket, I was
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: approached by a rather pinched lady.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: It started as one would anticipate.
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: Are you her granddaughter? I am so sorry for your loss.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: My son isn't here, but you are really pretty and
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: I would love to introduce you at some point. Her
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: husband pulled her away with a swift but stern hand,
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: as you would say a child when they say something
• 47:58
  Speaker 3: a little too honest. I laughed to myself and my
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: sister as what was my grandmother but a networking woman,
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: trying to help me find true love at her funeral. No,
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: I did not follow up. It was a rainy day
• 48:12
  Speaker 3: somewhat appropriate for the ambiance. My grandmother couldn't have planned
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: better for herself. She always was a fan of theater.
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: My father, who found himself walking up a gravel path,
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: lost the grip sticker that lay on the bottom of
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: his leather heels. He laughed at how he could never
• 48:29
  Speaker 3: be put together enough for her and put it in
• 48:32
  Speaker 3: his pocket. As we exited the graveyard site headed for
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: the cars, this part of the shoe became very apparent
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: as he slipped. Little did I think of it, but
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: his knee was in pain, so I offered to drive.
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: As we got in the sedan, siblings in back, I
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: look over to him having what appeared to be a stroke.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: To my right.
• 48:50
  Speaker 3: I ran out of the car, leaving my brother and
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: sister to fight for his life while I flew through
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: the five stages of grief in an extra round called panic,
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: just to make sure everyone knew. I called 911 but
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: had to hand it off to someone else as I
• 49:04
  Speaker 3: was afraid to see if my dad was still living.
• 49:06
  Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. Not another one.
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: There's a little bit left.
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: Any final thoughts?
• 49:12
  Speaker 4: It's probably going to be a cheap funeral because you're
• 49:14
  Speaker 4: already at one.
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: Double it in.
• 49:15
  Speaker 3: Can you.
• 49:16
  Speaker 4: Throw him in the hole too. In all seriousness, I hope...
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: he's doing well. That is terrifying.
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah. What are the odds?
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: I hope everything is all right.
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: We'll never know.
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: But we will know because there is an update. He
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: didn't pass away nor have anything beyond an arrhythmia. The
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: paramedics assured me. But there I was, wailing at the
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: thought of leaving my grandmother's funeral and having to plan another.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: Ugh, I hate that for you, Opie. That's horrible.
• 49:44
  Speaker 3: The story became one not about health, grief, or family,
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: but rather my insistence on one-upping my grandmother. To this day,
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: I can't think about her passing without both of these
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: stories popping up in my head and the absolute onslaught
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: of emotions that happened at that funeral. That was, in
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: my opinion... a reflection of a curse that came with
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: the fortune. No updates on the story, but just a
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: slew of curses from jewelry whose beholders pass away prematurely.
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: Endless divorces and an ever-existing presence of something unexplainable bringing
• 50:18
  Speaker 3: the family back together to grieve. Maybe I'll post one
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: of those stories.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: One day, too. Oh, and that's the end.
• 50:25
  Speaker 3: That is a weird funeral.
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: There was so much happening, so much to process, and
• 50:32
  Speaker 4: A very short amount of time.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: You're trying to grieve while also look for a date
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: while also help your dad not pass away.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: Who isn't matching.
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: His clothes aren't matching. That would drive me insane. Dad,
• 50:47
  Speaker 4: your trousers do not match your suit. Why are you
• 50:50
  Speaker 4: having a stroke? I should be having one.
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: They're eight years too small.
• 50:54
  Speaker 4: That's so funny.
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story.
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: And we got another one coming right up.
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: My brother demanded I cater his 500-person wedding? It made
• 51:05
  Speaker 4: me livid?
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just you? That's insane.
• 51:09
  Speaker 4: My piece-of-crap brother dropped a bomb on us on Christmas
• 51:13
  Speaker 4: that he was finally marrying his longtime girlfriend. Since he
• 51:18
  Speaker 4: lost all of his inheritance, mostly stocks we all received
• 51:21
  Speaker 4: when we turned 18 on cryptocurrency, he's broke. So he
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: is having everyone in the family cover certain expenses. Since
• 51:30
  Speaker 4: I worked for years in fancy restaurants, including a shoe
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: chef for James Beard award-winning chef, I get to cover
• 51:39
  Speaker 4: the mill. After pressure from my parents, I caved in.
• 51:43
  Speaker 4: This morning he called me to tell me what he wanted. Attendees,
• 51:47
  Speaker 4: 250 invites with all plus ones allowed. Cocktail hour with
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: tray pass hors d'oeuvres. He's still working on what that
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: will entail still. Main course plated, not buffet style. Beef
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: dish filet mignon served with your shower pudding and roasted asparagus.
• 52:06
  Speaker 4: Poultry dish, red currant glazed duck breast with fondant potatoes,
• 52:10
  Speaker 4: grilled Brussels sprouts, veggie dish, chickpea bolognese with cauliflower pasta
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: and mushroom. Great. Dessert, a collection of Cox Patriots, other
• 52:20
  Speaker 4: Patriots and many cheesecakes. To make matters worse, the kitchen
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: rental at the venue is $ 1, 000, which includes the cleaning fee,
• 52:29
  Speaker 4: but not any cookware or utensils. I'll have to pay
• 52:33
  Speaker 4: for additional cooks, servers, bartenders, busing staff, and serving ware.
• 52:38
  Speaker 4: I am beyond livid. By the way, this comes from
• 52:41
  Speaker 4: Crying the Walk-In, and you know where to submit your stories.
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: I'm Riley.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: I'm Savannah.
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: I'm going to read this story goofily. This is pissing
• 52:47
  Speaker 4: me off. Savannah, what can they do?
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: You guys can also be pissed off in the comments.
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: You don't have to be, but you could be.
• 52:55
  Speaker 4: As Opie says, more frustrating is my parents have always
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: babied him, and so when I called to let them
• 53:02
  Speaker 4: know that I wasn't going to do it, not if
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: he's going to be demanding all of this when getting
• 53:07
  Speaker 4: it for free, I was told that I should call
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: up my restaurant contacts and see if they would be
• 53:13
  Speaker 4: willing to donate their time or the ingredients. We have
• 53:17
  Speaker 4: an update.
• 53:18
  Speaker 3: That's crazy to ask all of that. This is going
• 53:21
  Speaker 3: to be... the most expensive wedding just for the catering.
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: And we already know this man's history when it comes
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: to materialistic things. He gambled his whole inheritance on cryptocurrency.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: Which is also insane.
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: There's a strategy with that. I can't. Cryptocurrency is a
• 53:44
  Speaker 4: way to aggressively invest. You should not put all of
• 53:47
  Speaker 4: your investments in aggressive stocks.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so.
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: This is ridiculous. I am having a hard time. I'm
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: so glad my brother didn't ask me this for his wedding.
• 53:58
  Speaker 4: He just said, show up.
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: Which is what families should do. They shouldn't be responsible
• 54:04
  Speaker 3: for doing all this stuff. If they want to, out
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: of the goodness of their heart, sure. But it shouldn't
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: be everyone's problem to make your wedding good.
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: If my brother asked me to film his wedding because
• 54:13
  Speaker 4: I'm a videographer, I would be a little peeved off.
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: And that's kind of what this feels like. Hey, brother,
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: you're a chef. Give me all the food. Update. My
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: parents had a heart-to-heart with him. After discovering that he's
• 54:27
  Speaker 4: been taking money from other relatives as well for a
• 54:30
  Speaker 4: few years, they gave him an option of not taking
• 54:33
  Speaker 4: any money for the wedding and they would pay for
• 54:36
  Speaker 4: courses so he would learn how to be more responsible
• 54:40
  Speaker 4: with his money or when they put an undisclosed amount
• 54:44
  Speaker 4: of money in an account and hire a wedding planner
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: who can use the money from that account but that
• 54:49
  Speaker 4: would cut off all contact with him. This is a
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: weird ultimatum.
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to say.
• 54:55
  Speaker 4: The long ass one. They gave him an option of
• 54:58
  Speaker 4: not taking any money for the wedding and they would
• 55:00
  Speaker 4: pay for the courses, how to learn to manage money,
• 55:04
  Speaker 4: or they would put an undisclosed amount of money in
• 55:06
  Speaker 4: an account and hire a wedding planner. So it's, we
• 55:09
  Speaker 4: either pay for you to learn how to manage money
• 55:11
  Speaker 4: or we have a wedding planner do it for you
• 55:13
  Speaker 4: and we go low contact with you. There was apparently
• 55:17
  Speaker 4: a lot of crying on both sides, but ultimately he
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: decided to take The cash. We were told to no
• 55:25
  Speaker 4: longer help him out financially, and they recommended it, not
• 55:29
  Speaker 4: contacting him either. Is there a word for feeling happy, sad, relieved,
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: and disappointed all at the same time? That's called losing
• 55:38
  Speaker 4: your brother and also losing all the weight of the
• 55:41
  Speaker 4: world off your shoulders.
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: That's called stress, baby girl.
• 55:45
  Speaker 4: Update. It's been a wild few weeks. I learned that
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: the trust my brother received was revoked by my parents
• 55:53
  Speaker 4: a long time ago. In its place, they gave him
• 55:56
  Speaker 4: a small allowance so he could still afford to live,
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: which they also stopped. The reason, as many of you
• 56:03
  Speaker 4: pointed out, it turns out my brother was serious regular
• 56:07
  Speaker 4: use problems. And when he said he was going to
• 56:11
  Speaker 4: Malibu for seasons or headed out to the Courtney Love
• 56:15
  Speaker 4: Dance Festival, he was actually checking into rehab. He called
• 56:20
  Speaker 4: me last week to make amends because he's going back
• 56:22
  Speaker 4: to rehab and it's a requirement that you put to
• 56:26
  Speaker 4: rest any hard feelings before checking in. We did nothing
• 56:29
  Speaker 4: but argue. To continue, first he insisted that the food
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: costs wouldn't be in the tens of thousands because he
• 56:36
  Speaker 4: knows that it only costs a dollar or two per
• 56:38
  Speaker 4: plate and that all that extra cost is nothing but
• 56:42
  Speaker 4: a markup, something he wouldn't let go of. We have
• 56:46
  Speaker 4: a second point from him. He's still on this wedding
• 56:49
  Speaker 4: crap while going into rehab.
• 56:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, that's what he's going to rehab for
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: so he can be better for his wedding, I guess.
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: I don't think that's enough time, but to each their own.
• 57:00
  Speaker 4: Second, he couldn't understand why I think there is 500
• 57:04
  Speaker 4: people coming when he clearly stated that they invited 250 people.
• 57:09
  Speaker 4: with each a plus one since any reasonable person would
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: know that that meant there were only 125 invitees who
• 57:17
  Speaker 4: have the option of a plus one. Lastly, he absolutely
• 57:21
  Speaker 4: despises my parents and everything they represent. The only reason
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: he took the money was that he wanted to hurt them.
• 57:29
  Speaker 4: By the way, the only reason they offered to give
• 57:31
  Speaker 4: him money at all for the wedding was because they
• 57:33
  Speaker 4: are very Catholic and wanted him to at least have
• 57:36
  Speaker 4: a proper Catholic service. It has been very eye-opening to
• 57:40
  Speaker 4: know that there were a lot of hidden skeletons in
• 57:43
  Speaker 4: the family that have been kept from us so that
• 57:47
  Speaker 4: we appear normal. That's the end of that story. Holy cow, bro.
• 57:51
  Speaker 3: So this guy is going to rehab and he took
• 57:55
  Speaker 3: his parents' money so that he could get revenge on
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: his parents?
• 57:59
  Speaker 4: I don't think he's going to ever learn until he
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: has zero money in his bank account and is living
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: on the streets. Also, who was marrying this guy? Can
• 58:06
  Speaker 4: we have a heart-to-heart with this girl?
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what does she... Does she not make any money either?
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: It's just... Like.
• 58:14
  Speaker 4: People that still have an allowance from their parents and
• 58:17
  Speaker 4: they are of working age is a wild concept to me.
• 58:21
  Speaker 4: He was getting an allowance from his parents and he's
• 58:22
  Speaker 4: about to get married. You should be financially independent on
• 58:25
  Speaker 4: your own, ready to take the burden of another person
• 58:28
  Speaker 4: coming into your life. I mean, not saying you have
• 58:31
  Speaker 4: to fully support them, but you guys should have a
• 58:33
  Speaker 4: plan that, oh, we're good.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: On our own.
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: I never even had an allowance. And I still don't.
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: The allowance I got was working at the sawmill and
• 58:41
  Speaker 4: getting a paycheck.
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: I worked for my dad a few times.
• 58:47
  Speaker 4: Like odd jobs?
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: No, I would do.
• 58:50
  Speaker 3: It was more like organization and kind of like accounting, really.
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: Trusted me with the numbers. All right. But that's the
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: end of that story. And we got comments from the video.
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: I refuse to attend my sister's wedding because of her dog.
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: And this was posted August 1st, 2026. TLDR comes from
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: story one. OP was excited to attend her sister's wedding
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: until she found out her seat at the family table
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: was given to her sister's dog. Instead, after feeling replaced,
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: OP refused to attend, causing a family argument. If you're
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: curious to know the full story, you can go watch
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: the full video.
• 59:24
  Speaker 3: The first comment we have is from CrystalNobody4689 saying, Are
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: they going to replace one of the groom's siblings with
• 59:31
  Speaker 3: his labradoodle? I wouldn't go to the wedding either. Comment
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  Speaker 3: number two from Kiki underscore net. Nah, I wouldn't go.
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  Speaker 3: The fact that it even happened in the first place
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  Speaker 3: and the dismissive attitude from the parents shows that OP
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  Speaker 3: isn't valued by the family.
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  Speaker 1: Comment number three.
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  Speaker 3: By T League. Sisters is telling you exactly how she
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  Speaker 3: feels about you. She sees her dog as being a
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  Speaker 3: higher value than you.
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  Speaker 4: Your dog, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And more like family than you. This is like in
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  Speaker 1: the movie Air Bud when the dog gets to be
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  Speaker 1: on the basketball team and the other kid has to
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  Speaker 1: be like, wow, I'm worse than a dog. Oh, the
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  Speaker 1: dog got his yearbook photo. Yeah, tough.
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  Speaker 3: And the last comment we have here by quinoarrat2528 says,
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  Speaker 3: does sister's dog even sit in chairs that size? Wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: a wedding reception chair just fall over if a golden
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  Speaker 3: retriever tried to jump up to it? Couches are a
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  Speaker 3: lot more heavy and sturdy. Taking a chair from a
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  Speaker 3: human and giving it to a.
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  Speaker 1: Dog who can't.
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  Speaker 3: Who can't even really use it instead of just giving
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  Speaker 3: the dog a bed under the table, which the dog
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  Speaker 3: would probably prefer anyway, is wild.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. A lot of people said a golden
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  Speaker 1: retriever couldn't play basketball. Now look at him. But that's
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  Speaker 1: the end of those comments and the end of the episode.
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