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The nicest guy: how the Ronnell Agee case exposes the neighbor narcissist 🏠⚖️ · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  I'm reading the comments on the video of like Ronald Agee over
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  on Facebook today, right? The neighbors of Ronald Agee in
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  Detroit are in the comment section saying like the same
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  thing over and over again. He was such a nice guy.
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  He was a good guy. He was so nice.
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  It has to be someone else. Like y'all, if you don't know,
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  I'm clinically diagnosed with narcissistic personality
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  disorder. And y'all, you got to hear me
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  when I say this. The nicest guy, the nicest
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  person you know might be a monster.
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  The nicest person you know might be the most dangerous person on
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  your block. The most dangerous person in the
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  neighborhood, the most dangerous person around.
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  That nice neighbor that wave at you every day might be a just a
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  psychopath. They might be crazy.
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  They might be sick, twisted, and demented.
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  And that neighborly wave they give to you all the time is just
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  to concoct that mask. It's just to concoct like the,
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  the neighborly mask, the the neighbor mask.
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  Hi good guys. Hey neighbors, I'm Ronnell.
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  So y'all, if you don't know, I had to look this up today,
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  right? I got, I got Google alerts on
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  now to just do alerts and stuff like this reports on
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  narcissistic people. And it's popped up like in
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  Detroit, there was a 14 year old girl that was kidnapped, right?
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  Nobody knew where she was. A 14 year old girl disappeared.
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  And then they arrested like a dude named Ronald Tremaine AG
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  that was 37 years old on multiple counts.
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  Multiple counts. They said he kidnapped her,
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  kidnapped a 14 year old girl in his neighborhood, right?
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  Kidnapped a 14 year old girl, you hear me?
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  He's 37, she's 14, right kidnapped a 14 year old, right
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  And then S aid her SA you know, it's actually smalted her like
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  for days in his home, like on the on the on the West side of
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  Detroit kidnapped her and this did all kinds of heinous things
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  to her. He was charged with four counts
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  of first degree criminal actual conduct, 1 count of kidnapping,
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  4 counts of third degree criminal actual conduct and one
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  count of delivery of a controlled substance and one
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  kind of harboring a runaway, right?
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  This is crazy like over there in Wayne County in Detroit, AG
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  kidnapped. They say he allegedly AG
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  allegedly kidnapped a 14 year old right on on March the 3rd on
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  or around March the 3rd and kept her in his house for a whole
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  entire week kept her in his house for a whole entire week,
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  the whole week of Fort Hmm, boy boy, boy, boy he he's supposed
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  to be like he said he's he was arraigned no bail.
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  He's in jail like until March 9th.
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  Well, it was a couple weeks ago. He's scheduled scheduled to
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  appear in court on Thursday and whatnot.
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  Y'all, but it's crazy like it really is insane.
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  Like it I don't know what to say.
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  It's it's crazy because like I say again in the comment section
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  of his video, the video that I saw, I mean of the report that I
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  saw on Facebook, people just are shocked.
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  They really are like one of his neighbors named like stars in
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  the end, like stars in the end rhymes with Ricky said that's
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  not his character. When they asked about the
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  charges and what what they thought had happened, she said
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  that's not his character. Now how many times have you told
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  somebody what happened to you in your abusive or toxic
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  relationship and they just said really that they don't seem like
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  they would do anything like that.
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  They don't seem like they're toxic.
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  They don't seem like a liar. They don't seem like they are
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  abusive. That's not their character.
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  I know you felt that, didn't you?
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  I know you felt that, but like she said that's not his
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  character. As a narcissist, y'all character
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  isn't what we show the neighbors or the friends and whatnot,
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  right? Character is what we do when the
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  when the doors are locked. Like character is who you are
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  always, not just who you are in the front yard when you're
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  cutting people's grass and you're doing good deeds for
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  people. Like they said, this man might
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  have been doing right? He was good doing good deeds and
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  waving everybody, but he's a monster behind the scenes.
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  Real true character is not your public face is who you are
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  behind closed doors or is who you are in public and who you
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  are behind closed doors the same person that's true character.
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  That's a true measure of somebody's character right
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  there, right? Narcissist don't typically don't
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  have very high character, right? Narcissist or master actors,
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  master manipulators, like they don't just act nice, right?
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  They become the character the neighborhood needs so they can
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  have a shield. They become a character that the
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  family needs so they can have a shield.
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  They have a, they try their hardest to project a good
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  external, like external representation of themselves.
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  So when things like this happen, they could possibly have
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  character witnesses coming to court to testify on their
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  behalf. They were always nice to me.
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  They were always a good person. Matter of fact, I've seen this
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  happen very recently. There's another court case I got
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  to, I got to find it. Y'all, it was another court case
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  where there's this man literally was cheating on this man was
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  cheating on his wife, took his wife's life, killed his wife,
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  right? Literally took his wife's life,
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  killed her. And then they had two kids
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  together. The two kids are adults.
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  The two kids came and gave victim impact statements.
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  The daughter, I mean the son, his his son came into court and
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  said I don't believe my father did it.
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  I don't believe my father did this.
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  He's been my dad for 23 years and I've never seen him do
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  anything bad. This is not his character.
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  He killed his Mama. Guilty, found guilty, killing
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  his Mama. All evidence points to it.
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  The daughter came up her and was like no he's a horrible human
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  being. He killed my mom.
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  I hope he burns in hell. Two kids, same household,
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  different, different representation, different image.
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  Dad always good to me. He was always good as a dad.
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  Cheated on his mom. Tiller is always good to me.
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  You see, the external image they worry about.
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  They worry about how they represent it.
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  So you can have your child come and testify in your defense or
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  give a good character witness statement to in your defense and
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  whatnot. Well, that's what that's what
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  happened. I'm just telling you, y'all
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  narcissists worry so much about their external image.
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  Possibly like Ronnell, possibly like Ronnell AG, right?
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  He's out here doing good deeds and being a nice neighbor and
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  people don't realize that he's evil.
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  He's an evil. You know he's evil.
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  He's an evil fuck if he did what he say he did, right?
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  He did. They did what he's accused of,
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  right? They did.
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  What if he's evil? I don't know how to, I don't
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  know any way to put it, but in order to concoct that neighbor
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  mask, in order to concoct the nice guy, nice gal mask, they'll
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  narcissistic people would do a lot of good deeds.
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  They do, they do good deeds for people.
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  They'll donate the charity, they'll have nonprofits, they'll
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  be doing stuff at the church, right?
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  Like they'll come up, they'll come up if this, if it's your
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  neighbor, they'll come up to you.
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  And just like if I mow your lawn or look out for your kids, like
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  I'm doing this, like if they, if they ask you to do something for
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  you or they do something for you, they really are buying
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  reputation. You know, you hear the life
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  insurance, right, What narcissists are doing in this
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  instance right here, they're they're buying reputation
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  insurance. They're ensuring that you they
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  look good to you, that if somebody questions them, has a
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  somebody comes to you and questions you, questions them,
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  questions you about them, you'll give them a good, a glowing
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  review. Oh, that's my neighbor.
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  He just got my grass yesterday. He watched my kids.
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  They did this, they did that. So that's why I say it like if
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  you, like a lot of narcissists, try to build up good
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  reputational credit with people so if they ever get outed or
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  exposed, people will give them the benefit of the doubt.
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  He was a nice neighbor. That's not his character.
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  The kidnap or 14 year old, you know what I'm saying?
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  That's not his character. That's not who he is.
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  Like this, what goes on. So when the truth is presented,
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  if they've been nice to you or good to you, people will look at
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  you sideways. Like you say, people will look
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  at you sideways, 'cause I, I was, let's put me, they put me
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  in this instance. If I was good to you, Lee, Lee's
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  always been nice to me. Lee's a great guy.
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  Lee's always out in the front yard playing with his kids.
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  Lee's donates the charity. Lee runs the the sock drive,
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  right feeds the, feeds the unhoused.
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  Whatever the case to be, they you like narcissists, use
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  kindness as a weapon to it to create that cognitive dissonance
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  to get your mind having two parallel 22 separate thoughts at
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  the same time, 2 separate competing thoughts at the same
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  time. He can't be that because he was
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  nice to me. You see what I'm saying?
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  This is what happens right here. Like you got you have to watch
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  out for what a what true, but you have to kind of learn the
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  difference between true kindness and a transaction, right?
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  Ask yourself, is this narcissistic person, this
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  neighbor, this Co worker, are they being helpful because they
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  care? Or are they collecting
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  information on everyone and trying to build up a good
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  reputation with you? Like narcissists can be useful.
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  They can I say they can be useful to learn, like I said,
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  they they would learn your schedule to do all kinds of
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  stuff like that. So you have to understand that a
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  lot of narcissists are manipulative, manipulative
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  people. They're horrible people, but
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  just because they have a good reputation, they tend to get
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  away with stuff, right? They can.
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  They tend to get the benefit of the doubt.
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  That's what happens. So y'all in closing, stop
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  trusting the brand and start looking at the behavior.
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  Start just like I said, you can. It's cool to have a good nice
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  neighbor, but just kind of keep you out like keep your options
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  up. It's cool to have a good friend
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  or a Co worker or whoever, but just keep your eye on them
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  sometimes right? Because you, I, me as a
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  narcissist, yeah. I I've, I've, I have difficulty
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  trusting anybody, damn near everybody.
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  You got to earn the trust. There's no benefit.
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  There's no benefit of the doubt here, right?
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  You got to earn it as a benefit. You have to earn it.
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  You got to work 90. You got to work 90 days.
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  It, it leaves company before you get benefits, especially the
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  benefit of the doubt, right. So if the nicest person like has
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  it, like if the nice person to you has a criminal history or
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  just weird vibes, believe the vibes, man.
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  Trust your intuition, your the vibe, the vibes you get.
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  I don't know, I get weird. I get a weird vibe from that
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  guy. Trust it.
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  That's your intuition. Those are that's your internal
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  radar shooting up red flags and warning signs to you.
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  Like trust their intuition, not their smile, not their pumpkin
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  pie, not their Raisin bran, whatever it is, right?
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  Whatever it is in that case, right there.
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  So my heart seriously goes out to the the Youngs, the young
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  survivor out there in Detroit. But just be careful about these,
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  these dangerous, toxic ass, dangerous neighbors.
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  Y'all or the nice guy, the nice girl, because they typically
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  they're always hiding something. I'm glad I'm at the end of the
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  video. Y'all heard the police.
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  I was coming. My office is right beside the
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  Police Department. I feel safe, but I get
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  interrupted. There's no not y'all.
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  Peace.