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BONUS: 13 Going on 30 with Christa B. Allen · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to Untraditionally, Laala, Hello, gorgeous,
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the bonus episode of Untraditionally Lala. I
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  Speaker 1: have my new bestie, Christi b Allen. Most of you
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  Speaker 1: will know her from. Well, you're an actress, You've got
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  Speaker 1: many talents. We talked about all of it on the
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  Speaker 1: regular episode that was on Wednesday. So for the bonus
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  Speaker 1: because you made your excellent debut on thirteen, going on
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  Speaker 1: thirty and then Revenge, which is one of my most
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  Speaker 1: favorite series. But thirty, flirty and Thriving. I remember when
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  Speaker 1: I turned thirty and I was like, I'm flirty and
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  Speaker 1: I'm fucking thriving, and then shortly after my life went
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  Speaker 1: to shit. But it's okay as it finds too, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it tends to. So that's one of the most iconic
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  Speaker 1: movie lines ever. And I have a list of things
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  Speaker 1: that I'm going to ask you, and you're going to
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  Speaker 1: tell me which ones you're working on, which ones you're
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  Speaker 1: thriving at. And I want to start because if you
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  Speaker 1: do this, then I need to set my game up
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  Speaker 1: meal prepping on Sundays.
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  Speaker 2: Oh absolutely not, absolu not are you opposed to it. No,
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  Speaker 2: I just personally, I've never been a drawn to meal prepping,
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  Speaker 2: Like who wants to eat the same thing every day?
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  Speaker 1: I don't get the meal prepping. I'm also very weird.
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  Speaker 1: I used to be addicted to leftovers, and now if
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  Speaker 1: it's not like fresh, then I don't really want Do
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  Speaker 1: you cook girl? Now the worse? Can I cook?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: If I have to cook for my family, I can definitely,
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  Speaker 1: like do work in the kitchen. I don't enjoy it.
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  Speaker 1: And now with Postmates, why would I do something that
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to do?
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  Speaker 2: Sponsored by Postmates?
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  Speaker 1: Sponsored by the Postmates I wish, hey, yeah, get the
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  Speaker 1: plug please sponsor this episode. Do you like eating out?
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  Speaker 1: Are you an order in type of chick?
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  Speaker 2: I listen. If left to my own devices, I would
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  Speaker 2: never leave my house, okay, but when friends pull me
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  Speaker 2: out of the house, I'm quite happy to be out. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: But I love to cook. I just I don't cook
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  Speaker 2: a whole lot for just myself.
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  Speaker 1: Like it is so hard to cook for one person,
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  Speaker 1: and then you add kids into the mix and everyone
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  Speaker 1: wants something different and it's just like post.
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  Speaker 2: Mates, that's gotta be hard. Yeah, dating apps definitely not
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  Speaker 2: really Is it because you're famous? Oh, it's just I
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  Speaker 2: don't know. There's one theory that dating apps mess with
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  Speaker 2: the algorithm of the universe, like you're supposed to meet
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  Speaker 2: who you're supposed to meet, not force it together.
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  Speaker 1: Oh okay, so you're more about like the organic connection
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  Speaker 1: in person old school.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I like a magical meet cute, cute, love it.
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  Speaker 2: But I also yeah, it's just like overwhelming the apps.
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  Speaker 2: I've been on them before, okay, but the apps feel
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  Speaker 2: like another inbox that needs tending to. It feels like
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  Speaker 2: another task totally. They just start piling up, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and you feel bad if you don't respond to them.
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  Speaker 2: So it's an unclosed loop in your brain. I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: it feels like a task.
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  Speaker 1: You're right, So then do you tend to be the
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  Speaker 1: aggressor or do you fall back? If you're like out
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  Speaker 1: at dinner and you see a cute guy across the
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  Speaker 1: bar and you're into it, do you give him a look?
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  Speaker 1: Do you approach? Do you wait to see if the
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  Speaker 1: universe is like wanting this to happen and have him
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  Speaker 1: come to you?
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  Speaker 2: What's the game plan? I have historically never been the aggressor.
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  Speaker 2: I don't make any effort whatsoever. I let them come
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  Speaker 2: to me, and then they make a massive effort. As
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  Speaker 2: we've talked about, wow, and that I thought was working
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  Speaker 2: for me, but clearly does not. Okay, So I'm trying
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  Speaker 2: to flip that and be a little more of the aggressor. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: So I flirted with the guy at a party the
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  Speaker 2: other day.
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  Speaker 1: And how did it go?
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  Speaker 2: Well, we exchange numbers and then I let him take
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  Speaker 2: me to coffee, and that's about as far as we've
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  Speaker 2: got enough.
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  Speaker 1: I'm always the aggressor. Really, don't come to me. If
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  Speaker 1: I'm interested, I'll let you know. Otherwise leave me. B
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  Speaker 1: How doesn't work out? Not well? A lot of sex
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  Speaker 1: is happening, but not much more than that.
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  Speaker 2: But celibate. I was celibate.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing. I was celibate for quite a bit
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  Speaker 1: of time. And then I always tell people cut me
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  Speaker 1: some slack because I was also attempting to get pregnant
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  Speaker 1: and was pregnant for nine of those months and then postpartum.
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  Speaker 1: So people were like, you were celibate for over over
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  Speaker 1: a year and a half. I'm like, well, cut me
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  Speaker 1: some fucking slack. I was carrying a baby and then
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  Speaker 1: who wants to have sex right after.
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  Speaker 2: They have a baby.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody? Yeah, so now and what happens with me is
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  Speaker 1: like once you rip the band date off, I'm like
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  Speaker 1: all in. I'm like, okay, this is fun. Who's next.
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  Speaker 1: I'm definitely safe, But I like to be the aggressor
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  Speaker 1: because I don't if I'm not into it. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to have to pretend to be nice. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: will let you know if I'm interested.
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  Speaker 2: I like the strategy. Yeah, I might start using it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 1: It's working for now, but the universe is going to
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  Speaker 1: do its thing. I have no control over my life. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: she'll take care of God. We give it up to God.
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  Speaker 1: Nine pm bedtime. I don't need to work on that
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  Speaker 1: at all. Yes, my favorite.
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  Speaker 2: In fact, if you want to flirt with me, tell
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  Speaker 2: me you want to be home and in bed by
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  Speaker 2: nine pm.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh so hot, marriage material. If you want
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  Speaker 1: to get in bed with me, you know, let's just
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  Speaker 1: go really wild. Let's say seven pm, get in the bed,
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  Speaker 1: watch our favorite show, and eat Gouda cheese and crackers
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  Speaker 1: without spilling a crumb in my fucking bed. Okay, there
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  Speaker 1: are rules. There are rules to the fun you are
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  Speaker 1: my soulmate.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, that's hot.
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  Speaker 1: That's so hot. Hangovers in your thirties.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, absolutely not. I had one glass of wine
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  Speaker 2: the other night and I was like, no, why why
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  Speaker 2: why is your next day?
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  Speaker 1: For what?
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  Speaker 2: It's not even that fun.
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  Speaker 1: I know every time I look at someone and here's
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  Speaker 1: where I always get the drooly mouth and not like
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to like give in to it, right, but
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  Speaker 1: I my mouth will water. If I'm on a rooftop
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  Speaker 1: like during the day and someone's like, I'll take a
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  Speaker 1: glass of rose, I'm like, I totally get that. But
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  Speaker 1: then I tap into I know where this goes. It's
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  Speaker 1: like one will lead into two. Tomorrow is shot, Sunday.
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  Speaker 2: Scari yes, tomorrow the next day the next like it's
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  Speaker 2: just not worth it.
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  Speaker 1: No, the hangovers as you get older are like days
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  Speaker 1: of recovery.
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  Speaker 2: And I like what you said there, because what you're
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  Speaker 2: actually tapping into is how refreshing it might taste. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's a cold glass is something on a
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  Speaker 2: hot day.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, we're like, we're like, you start feeling like
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  Speaker 1: uninhibited and your cheese get a little warm.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so perhaps you know, we could all be more
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  Speaker 2: mindful about what we're seeking. Mm when we reach for
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  Speaker 2: a glass of alcohol, are you seeking connection? Are you
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  Speaker 2: seeking presence? Are you seeking intimacy? And maybe find a
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  Speaker 2: way to find that elsewhere?
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  Speaker 1: Well, let me tell you something. I've now done this
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  Speaker 1: thing where I'm like, Okay, the equivalent of a glass
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  Speaker 1: of rose for me is a diet cocone ice. The
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  Speaker 1: equivalent for me if I'm like out at a nightclub,
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  Speaker 1: if I've ever been in one of those in the
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  Speaker 1: past few years, but nighttime where people are getting buck wild,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I guess I'll have a red bowl
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  Speaker 1: and get really buck wild with a shot of pineapple juice.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's when. That's like the equivalent to like
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  Speaker 1: a vodka soda for me.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So I find my equivalents, and once I tap in
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  Speaker 1: mentally to like, this is what we're doing, this is
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  Speaker 1: what it is for you, I start feeling the same
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  Speaker 1: everyone else is feeling. Except tomorrow I'm gonna be up
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  Speaker 1: at seven am ready for breakfast in my coffee.
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  Speaker 2: It's all a mental game anyway, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It truly is.
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  Speaker 3: It's all just a placebo effect if you ask me, right,
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  Speaker 3: therapy thriving, thriving.
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  Speaker 2: I love my therapist. I recommend her to everyone. She
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  Speaker 2: is a goddess.
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  Speaker 1: And do you feel like she speaks Christa She does. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And it was working with my therapists that made me
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  Speaker 2: recognize one of the most powerful forms of love is
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  Speaker 2: understanding and that I mean that is her business. Like
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  Speaker 2: she sees you, right, she understands your pain and really
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  Speaker 2: it's not you know, it's not training, it's not performance.
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  Speaker 2: She really understands where you're coming from. And she deals
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  Speaker 2: with a lot of people in you know, very really
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  Speaker 2: varied circumstances like different industries and whatnot.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, love therapy.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so you're killing it. So if people are going
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  Speaker 1: to murder me for this, I because of my past experiences.
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  Speaker 1: I've had very bad experiences with therapists. That is a
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  Speaker 1: trauma that I'm having to heal from and learn that
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  Speaker 1: not every therapist is like that, and I will get
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  Speaker 1: over it where I can trust somebody again.
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  Speaker 2: I will send you mine. Yeah, please do wonderful.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would love that. So I need to work
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  Speaker 1: on it that. In my thirty flirty and thriving, I'm
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  Speaker 1: flirting with the idea of therapy not quite thriving right?
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  Speaker 1: Tracking your steps? I'm an I don't need to know.
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  Speaker 1: I would track my sits. I always win at sits
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  Speaker 1: ten thousand sits a day.
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  Speaker 2: Bitch. Wait, that's amazing.
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  Speaker 1: I always meet that number.
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  Speaker 2: I know so little about this. Does it actually track
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  Speaker 2: when you sit down?
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing is most people track it on their phone,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, do you know what I My phone
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  Speaker 1: is hardly ever on me unless it's necessary, So like,
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  Speaker 1: it's not going to track my steps because I don't
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  Speaker 1: even know where it is half the time.
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  Speaker 2: I love that You're the only person I know that
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  Speaker 2: is not glued to their phone.
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  Speaker 1: No, I really don't love the phone. It just feels
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  Speaker 1: very unnecessary.
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  Speaker 2: That's why you're so present.
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  Speaker 1: I try to be. You know, life is short. You
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  Speaker 1: blink and it's over, So we need to be present,
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  Speaker 1: saying no without guilt. I'm working on it. Are you
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  Speaker 1: good at it? The boundary?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm thriving in that department. Wow? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: How old are you again?
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  Speaker 2: Thirty three?
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  Speaker 1: Thirty three? I just turned thirty five. Well you're a
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  Speaker 1: what's your sun sign?
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  Speaker 2: Scorpio?
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  Speaker 1: That's right, you're rising Pisces. Because I remember we had
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  Speaker 1: I think your sun is my rising because I'm a
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  Speaker 1: Scorpio rising, but my sun is Virgo. So the constant
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  Speaker 1: conflict I feel between who I came into the world
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  Speaker 1: as and who I project to the world is like
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  Speaker 1: very intense. Yeah, what's your moon? My moon is Aquarius.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I love that very watery. Yes, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: tuias air. Aquarius is air. Then I think I'm not that.
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  Speaker 2: I think I was like aliens because they're so.
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  Speaker 1: Then I think, but then I think I might be Pisces.
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  Speaker 1: I need to look into that because I know that
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  Speaker 1: I'm a water sign for emotion.
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  Speaker 2: Well, if you're you're rising as Pisces, that's that's water.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my rising is Scorpio.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you're rising a scorpio. Also, I know that.
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  Speaker 1: My I know that my moon, which is emotion right, yes, water,
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  Speaker 1: so it's not Aquarius. I think maybe that's what I'm
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  Speaker 1: thinking about, is our We have a Pisces that's the same,
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  Speaker 1: and then the Scorpio.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, those into things, they'll get you.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I know, I cry about everything. It doesn't even
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  Speaker 1: mean anything to move emotion. The last one I want
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  Speaker 1: to know about because you have gorgeous skin, face masks,
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  Speaker 1: and serums.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, thriving, thriving too.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, did you try the Haley Beaber one on Amazon?
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  Speaker 1: The metacube, Oh, I love meticube so good. But then
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  Speaker 1: I saw you have to leave it on for one
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  Speaker 1: to three hours and I was like, oh, okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: one of those last night. Actually you can tell, just
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  Speaker 1: going to pop in today.
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  Speaker 2: It's so sweet. But no, there's there's a metacue one
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  Speaker 2: specifically that has what is it called. They're called like ampules.
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  Speaker 1: Or said, the tap, like the things that go into
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  Speaker 1: the skin. Yes, yeah, the best.
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  Speaker 2: The pink one. Yes, it's extraordinary it.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I only recommend.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, I love that mass. We are thriving in this department.
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  Speaker 1: We are thriving, and it's really the only one that
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  Speaker 1: matters you.
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  Speaker 2: Guys.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of
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  Speaker 1: the Bonus for Untraditionally La La. Thank you for joining
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  Speaker 1: me again. I will now release you into the wild.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to catch you guys on Wednesday and again
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  Speaker 1: next week.