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How Do We Quiet the Voices in Our Head? · Inspiration and Transformation

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Welcome to inspiration and transformation from the banks of the Gunga with Sadvi Bagwati Saraswati,
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an American Sanyasi living at the parmarth Nikitan Ashram in Rishikesh, India.
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Sadvi is President of the Divine Shakti Foundation, a charitable organization bringing education,
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vocational trainee, upliftment and empowerment programs to women and children. Sadvi is also
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Secretary General of the Global Interfaith Wash Alliance and director of the world famous International
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Yoga Festival. Joined the musings of an American Sanyasi as Sadvi shares the wisdom
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and teachings of her Guru, His Holiness Pujiaswami Chinnant Saraswatiji. Welcome everyone to
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inspiration and transformation from the holy banks of the Sacred Gunga River in the land
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of Rishikesh, India. Illness and disease. You know, there's two two
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pieces of wisdom and they're going to seem mutually exclusive, but they're not.
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The first piece is the awareness that our highest goal in this human birth has
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nothing to do with health and longevity. It has to do with awakening all
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of our scriptures all of our spiritual teachings remind us over and over again the
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purpose of your life is to wake up and know who you are. And
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for some people, based on their lifetimes of a karmic package, that is
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most conducive to happen in a situation of financial success. For some, it's
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more conducive to happen in a situation of what we would call poverty. For
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some people, it's more conducive to happen in success. For others, it's
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more conducive to happen in what we would call failure. For others, it's
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going to happen during a long, healthy life. For others, it's going
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to happen faced with a serious and even terminal illness. But the goal is
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always the same, which is the awareness of who you are and what the
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universe's agenda is. Not that we should be either wealthy or successful or have
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a super long life, but that we should have the exact situations and circumstances
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that are the most likely to help us have that awakening in this lifetime.
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And so whatever we are faced with to take it as not a punishment,
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also not a reward. It's not, oh, you're rich, therefore,
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you were really good in a past life and you've been rewarded, or oh
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you're poor, you must have done something wrong, you're being punished. That's
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just our western sort of Santa Claus has a list of who's been good or
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bad, kind of filter that we've stuck on a law of karma that has
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nothing to do with rewards and punishments. We're not being rewarded or punished because
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the universe has no regarding wealth, regarding success, regarding longevity. We're just
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getting those circumstances most conducive for us to take the next step closer to God,
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to peel back the next layer of the onion of self. So when
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we're faced with those sorts of circumstances, the question is how am I supposed
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to use this circumstance to get closer to God? How am I supposed to
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see this as my path to God? And it doesn't mean by the way
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that we say therefore, I'm never going to work to change it. But
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in this moment, this is my path. That's why it's in front of
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me, and so I need to use this moment, whether it's illness,
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whether it's failure, poverty, loss, whatever I've been hit with that we
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would think is really not what I had wanted. The question is how do
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I use this to get closer to God? And, by the way,
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that's the same question to ask when you've got success and money and health as
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well. That's the question for everyone. Tragically, we just usually only remember
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to ask it when the situations are unfavorable rather than favorable favorable conditions. We
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feel like, yeah, yeah, I'm so good. I deserve all of
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this. I worked hard, That's why I succeeded. God loves me,
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That's why everything good is happening to me. And you know, so we
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forget. So the question is how do I use this moment to peel back
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another layer and simultaneously to realize that I may not necessarily but I may have
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the ability to change these circumstances, assuming that a change of circumstances is still
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conducive to my spiritual unfolding, assuming that it's in the will of the divine,
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I may have the opportunity to change my circumstances through a shift and how
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I live and how I think and how I self perceive a shift in so
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much, I mean, there's so many, so many things that we realize
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when we're hit with a tragic illness that we realize that we need to work
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through and go through and look at and heal from. And so it may
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be the case that in the healing from those things, in the shifts that
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take place in the heart, in the mind, and the life, that
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we can co create a shift in the situation. But while feeling fully empowered
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for that and fully in the awareness that everything is possible, it's also critical
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to realize that a lack of ability to change that around does not speak to
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a lack of your power to co create, or a lack of your power
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to manifest, or a lack of your power to heal. Because sadly,
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these days, with so much beautiful, beautiful inspiration around the power of the
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mind, the power of meditation, the power of manifestation, along with so
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many beautiful teachings of that, we've gotten into a situation where tragically we feel
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like everything is due to how I've thought about it. And what that does
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is it creates a lot of guilt in people who are for whatever karmic reason,
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it's not the right moment for them to create something different in their lives.
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And I hear so frequently people say, you know, I'm doing my
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affirmations, I'm doing my manifestation practices, I'm doing my meditation, and this
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illness isn't going or this situation isn't changing. And then in addition to feeling
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down because of the situation, they also feel like a failure at this whole
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manifestation thing. And so it's really important to realize we're not living in a
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vacuum. We are threads, threads in a tapestry of creation, and that
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which you are going to be able to manifest is that which is within the
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realm of your karmic journey. I mean, let's say that I decide right
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now that what I really want is to become a professional basketball player. Okay,
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like I want the LA Lakers to hire me. Okay, Now,
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I'm I'm fifty one, about five foot three. If I'm standing up really
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straight, I've never played basketball in my life. I could be the most
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committed student of basketball. I could spend twelve hours a day, fourteen hours
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a day dribbling and running and throwing and whatever else they do on a basketball
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court, and other than you know, take your grandma to the ballgame day.
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It's really online likely that the La Lakers are going to put me on
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the court. And I give that example because we forget when we talk about
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co creation, when we talk about manifestation, we forget that we are we
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are a thread, a divine thread, a united infinite thread with the infinity
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of creation. But we're not over here alone. And I've got a physical
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body also part of my karmic journey, a physical history like the fact that
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I've already lived fifty one years, a physical history in which I've never dribbled,
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all of which has to be taken into consideration. You know, people
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come and they say it, could could you pray or give me a manthro
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or a sadna to do so that I get into the university I want to
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get into, or I'm number one in the class, or people say so
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my child gets into the university or gets this job. And the dilemma with
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thinking like that is it implies that somehow God is going to play favorites because
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there's only a certain number of places in a university, there's only a certain
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number of places for the job that we want. And it's like saying,
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well, could you help me get God's favor over the other guy, and
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of course God doesn't play favorites. And in the same way, when we
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look at aspects of the thread of our lives, we have to realize that
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we are part of a divine tapestry in which your illness is not just about
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you. There's a ripple impact upon those in your world that is giving them
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opportunities to peel back layers of their onion, that's giving them opportunities to dive
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so deep to get closer to the divine in them. And so it would
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be to hold both of these simultaneously that a, it's all about the life
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and our days, not the days in our life, and to use those
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days, to use those moments to wake up to see the truth of you,
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to experience that within you which will never die, which is never sick.
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I mean, the truth of you was never born, will never die.
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Chapter two of the Bagavad Gitas dedicated to this never born, never die,
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to connect with that, and at the same time to recognize the power
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of you here to shift yourself situation, that we've been given the power of
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the Divine in our minds, in our hearts, in that working of the
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soul through the body, to change everything and so it's a it's a very
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beautiful I don't want to say balance, because that means they're separate, a
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blend, a coming together of the total acceptance of the plan in which this
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is your path to awakening and simultaneously a total embodiment of your power as the
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divine here in the body on earth to create and to create health, because
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we all have that. And so your path is going to be a yes
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and of both of these. And it's not easy, as you know,
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and thank you for having the the courage to go through this. It's you
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know, yes, some of it is due to our past karma. But
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I also always believe that there's a not just a cause and an effect.
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But sometimes what we have right now that seems like an effect is actually a
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cause for a later effect. And so I think sometimes about these amazing beings
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of light suffering illness struggle in order to teach and show the rest of us
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what this looks like when done by a divine being of light. You know,
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we were talking last night about the Ramayan and Lord ram and if you
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look at the Mahabadha and Lord Krishna, who are the two? You know,
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there are the two epics we have of God on Earth. God comes
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on earth in form in the form of a human being, and in both
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cases their lives are filled with nothing but struggle. In Krishna's case, his
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own uncle tries to kill him god knows how many times before he's like five
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six years old. In Ram's case, his own stepmother sends him off into
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the jungle for fourteen years, exiled with nothing. He's a prince, has
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to leave behind the clothes on his back, also going just like the bark
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of the tribal people. Nothing. And I've thought a lot about you know,
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well, this is God coming on earth. Like, if God we're
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going to come on earth, couldn't God create somewhat better circumstances and situations?
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Of course, of course God could. God's God, right, But we've
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been given these on purpose, I think, because the struggles, of course
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don't end there. I mean, those are the big ones. But in
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Lord Rom's case, then of course he gets back. Fourteen years or years
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are over. Devali is celebrated, it's beautifully as king and then boom.
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Some washerman says, I don't believe your wife didn't sleep with the demon.
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And essentially she has to leave the kingdom, even after she was proved to
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be totally pure, walks through fire, pure beyond a doubt, but just
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simply because his dharma as a king is to keep the kingdom happy, he
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has to live without his wife and children. So it's like circumstance after circumstance
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of just what seems like it would be misery, but it's been created.
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I believe to teach us that even being God on earth is not an inoculation
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against bad things happening. So certainly being a good spiritual being is not an
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inoculation against bad things happening. There's nowhere it says, be a good spiritual
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being and you'll never get sick, you'll never die, your loved ones will
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never get sick or die, you'll never get divorced, you'll never get fired,
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your house will never burn down. Doesn't say that anywhere. We're given
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these examples of God on earth struggle, struggle, turmoil, suffer, But
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what do they show us how to do it? Krishna with his flute,
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just the flute is on and ram is just this embodiment of dharma, of
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righteousness, of peace, of love. So we're given these examples, I
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think as a teaching that life is full of struggle and suffering and let us
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all channel that inner divine within us to go through it. And I know
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So when I say the universe does not have a preference of success over
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failure, or wealth over poverty, or longevity over non longevity, that doesn't
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mean there isn't an incredible intelligence in the universe. There's a divine intelligence in
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the universe, a divine wisdom in the universe that pervades everything, and it
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has a very clear wish desire, which is that we all recognize the truth
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of who we are. Which is why, as I was saying, we
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get these circumstances that are the ones that are most likely to help us recognize
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that. So it's not that the universe is mindless, not at all.
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It's just that it has a much bigger goal in mind than thou shalt become
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CEO of your company, thou shalt become a multi millionaire. I don't think
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it cares much about that. I think what it cares about is thou shalt
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wake up, thou shalt experience the president of soul in yourself as yourself and
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in others, and connect with the world, with the universe, soul to
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soul. There's there's an incredible intelligence. I have said many many times.
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In fact, I agree with you fully. I've said many times that my
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belief in a divine creator has actually much more to do with science than it
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does with religion. I've spent way too much time in science laboratories to believe
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that this happened randomly. You know, you go into a chemistry lab or
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a biology lab, and you've got your Bunsen burner, and you've got your
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crucible, and you've got your beakers, and you've got the elements that you're
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supposed to put in the crucible, and Bunsen burner goes on, and something's
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supposed to happen, and most of the time what happens is nothing. When
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you go back over where you made a mistake, sometimes you get a bad
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smell. Sometimes you get you some fire, maybe some nice color fire.
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You don't get life. And even today, billions and billions of years after
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this big bang of creation, with hundreds of years of modern science, we
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can't create life in a petri dish. You can take the best biologist in
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the world, the best botanist in the world. They can tell you exactly
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what this leaf is made of, how much hydrogen, how much nitrogen,
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how much carbon, and how much oxygen, how much whatever is in there.
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They can even show you with little styrofoam balls and sticks how the molecules
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connect to each other. But they cannot create one in a Petrie dish.
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The very best, after billions of years of creation, hundreds of years of
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modern science, the best we've been able to do is essentially make a xerox
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copy. Right, We did a couple of clones, so we were able
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to xerox something, but not create it. We can't create life as an
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amiba in a Petrie dish. And so I made deep and ardent believer that
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there was a capital P planner. Yes, I believe in evolution. I
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believe in Darwinian evolution. But it's not random. There's a capital P planner
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who has set this in motion and whose hands I believe are are holding it
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and holding us and infusing us with that creative power to be able to be
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these active members of the act of creation. So there is nothing mindless about
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it at all. It just has a much much bigger, longer goal in
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mind. Then who's going to succeed, who's going to fail, who's going
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to be rich, who's going to be poor, who's going to be healthy,
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who's not going to be healthy, who's going to live a certain number
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of years this lifetime, who's gonna not? You know, there's a beautiful
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teaching that says, if you imagine a mountain a mile high, a mile
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wide, mile high, mile wide mountain, and once every hundred years,
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a bird with a silk scarf in its beak passes by that mountain and brushes
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its silk scarf against the mountain. Once in a hundred years, the amount
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of time that it would take that mile high, mile wide mountain to be
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eroded by the scarf is how long we have been doing this, how long
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we have been on our journeys of the soul. And so the path is
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a path that's much more than just particular manifestations of karma in this lifetime.
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And and along with that we have the power. The human birth is seen
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as the highest, the pinnacle of evolution for one reason and one reason only
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in my book, because animals are a lot higher than we are in a
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lot of ways, but in one way, which is it said that only
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humans have the ability to be conscious of their own consciousness, and therefore we
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are the only ones with the ability to actually attain that moksha, that liberation
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in this lifetime. So regardless of how long you've been doing it, right
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here, right now, we have that power. That's why we've been given
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a human birth. We have that power to have that that experience of that
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infinite soul of the self. And it's totally independent of the number of years
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we have here, of what any other aspect of our life situation maybe,
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And so we use that and grab it. If for whatever reason doesn't happen
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for you this time, you decide not ready to let go of that which
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six two two p e t A welcome back This is Sadvi baga ati Saraswati
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with inspiration and transformation. A lot of us do that we approach our spirituality
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the same way that we approach you know, running on a treadmill, or
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running not on a treadmill. You begin with a certain number of miles at
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a certain pace, and then you go every day, and eventually, after
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a certain number of days or weeks, you should be able to increase your
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time, increase your speed, increase your angle. Then you know you're getting
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better. If you weightlift, you should be able to lift more weights after
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a month of weightlifting, then you know you're getting better. And so when
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we start on a spiritual path, a lot of us apply the same thing
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to it. But it actually isn't like that. Spirituality is not about getting
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better and better. It's about getting more and more real, being more and
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more in tune with your true self, which is peaceful, which is joyful,
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which is divine, which is abundant. And so yes, naturally,
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of course you will find that you are blossoming in ways that you could consider
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better, but not because you've developed some new skill, but simply because you
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are uncovering more and more of your true nature, and because you're less stuck
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with the things that take away your peace and take away your joy. So
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I try not to ever think, you know, how am I doing?
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It's so tempting. I mean, it's so tempting to be able to somehow
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label ourselves. Ah, you're doing great. You can skip meditation for a
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little while. Right, It's like I've been so good on my diet,
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i can have a blueberry muffin. Or we say, oh god, you've
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been awful, you haven't been doing it well, And then it's just yet
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another reason to braid ourselves. Yet just another reason to judge ourselves. Neither
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way is it positive or helpful. So I try to avoid that at all
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costs. But I would say if you are looking for a way to at
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least gently know whether you're at least on the right path, because that's a
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question that a right is similar to this as so I've been doing these practices,
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how do I know if I'm on the right path? Is this the
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right path for me? And again there's no equation, but there's some guide
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posts that you could use. For example, do you find yourself getting angry
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less frequently or more frequently? Less frequently? Sounds like you're on the right
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path. Do you find yourself more and more grateful or do you find yourself
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more and more frustrated and feeling like you are lacking? Spiritual development is going
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to make you feel more and more grateful because you're more and more aware of
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the fullness of yourself. You're more and more living in that truth of yourself
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which is full, so you will be grateful. Do you find yourself more
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and more inclined to help others and give to others? Or do you find
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yourself more and more looking for what others can do for you. The more
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we develop and evolve spiritually, the more we realize, number one, that
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the other is self. And so just like we serve ourself. Right my
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leggage as I scratch it, my tummy is empty and growling, I feed
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it. The body is tired, I put it to sleep, We take
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care of it. So in the same way, we start to see others
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as self, and therefore we start serving them. So these are just some
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very gentle guidepos. Watch how frequently you get angry, Watch how grateful you
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find yourself? How easy is your gratitude practice? Watch whether your internal instinct
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is to share and to give, to serve, or is it to grab
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and to get start to notice how easily or not easily, you're able to
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choose love and choose peace no matter what's going on around you. So when
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we are spiritually undeveloped, our internal state is pretty much determined by the external
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state. In Hindi we call the external state puttstity and our internal state our
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swastity. So if I'm spiritually undeveloped, my swist it the my internal state.
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It's going to depend on external state. Things are good, people are
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nice to me. Everything I want is happening according to plan. My internal
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state is good. Things are not happening according to plan. People are not
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being so nice to me. I'm not getting what I want. My internal
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state is miserable. The more spiritually developed you are, the less your internal
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state is hooked into the external state. The more you are able to automatically
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experience, generate, manifest live in an internal state regardless of what's happening around
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you. It's that pace in the chaos or that noiselessness in the noise.
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You're able to find something inside that doesn't need the external world to validate it.
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So those are some just sign posts you can use as you're as you're
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looking. But you know you're human and you're having a human experience as part
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of a karmic journey, and so go easy on yourself. You know,
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if you find that today you got more angry, okay, no problem,
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Tomorrow will be different. Keep keep watching yourself, but with gentleness, with
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love, with awareness that you may be having a bad week, something may
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be going on because we are still in these human bodies and things, things
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as unconnected to our spiritual growth as how much sleep we're getting, what's happening
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with our hormones, especially for women but also for men, what the weather
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is like, what we've been eating, if we've been eating good nourishing food,
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or have we been on the road forced to eat junk, And these
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things actually have an impact, and a lot of those signposts, they have
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an impact on our emotional state and our mental state. And so notice yourself,
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be aware frequently day if you can, but do it gently. If
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you notice that there's a period of time in which things seem to be going
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in the wrong direction, don't beat yourself up about it. It literally could
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two two pet a Welcome back. This is Sadvi Bagavati Saraswati with inspiration and
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transformation. How do we stop expecting from our loved ones or the results from
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our actions simply by realizing that it doesn't serve us. There's a term called
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buddhi Budi means intellect, my ability to use my you know, good way,
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hopefully, introspection, contemplation. This is that which strengthens and purifies our
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buddy, our intellect. Now you have something like expectation. We all expect.
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It's part of the human condition. If I'm really nice to you,
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I expect that you're going to be nice back to me. If I treat
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you with love and care, I expect that you're going to treat me with
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love and care. If I work really hard for something, really earnestly and
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sincerely for something, I expect that it's going to bear some kind of good
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fruit, that there's going to be a positive result from it. There these
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are normal expectations. So the first part is recognized that it's natural to have
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them. But also, just using the power of your introspection and contemplation,
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ask yourself, does that actually make it any more likely to happen? No?
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And when it doesn't happen, all those expectations do is make me more
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upset, and so purely through a process of what we would call gan yoga,
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the yoga or jan mark the path of gan of wisdom, through that
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I realize these expectations are actually hurting me more than they're helping me. You're
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no more likely to be nice to me because I expect it than if I
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didn't expect it. You're no more likely to love me back just because I
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expect you to the universe is no more likely to give me what I expect,
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and so simply remind yourself be very scientific about it. Okay, so
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I expected this, it didn't happen. My expectation didn't didn't serve me.
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Because of course, when we expect something and it doesn't happen, then we're
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really upset. I mean, it's bad enough that someone's not nice to you
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or doesn't act lovingly to you. That's bad enough as it is. But
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when you expected that they would be nice to you and then they're not,
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then it's a double whammy because then I'm hurt that they weren't nice, and
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I'm hurt because my expectation has not been fulfilled. So I'm doubly miserable.
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And just allow yourself to see that, to see that some bit of your
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misery is in response to the way they treated you and how you've reacted to
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that, but a huge percentage of your misery is actually due to the fact
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that you expected them to be different and that that expectation wasn't fulfilled. So
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the minute that with clear eyes we can realize, my God, it's much
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more my own expectations than someone else's actions that actually cause me misery, we
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start to be able to be free of them. I mean, think about
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it. You walk down the road and there's somebody on the corner who is
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yelling all kinds of obscenities, and you are buying. This person yells all
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sorts of obscenities at you. Does it ruin your day? No? Right,
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you realize, all right, the guy is crazy or under the influence,
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or having a bad morning, or whatever it may be. But you
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didn't have any expectation about this guy. It's not going to ruin your morning.
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Sure, there may be like a moment of you know, kind of
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that was weird energy, and you you know, you sort of get that
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out, But the day goes on. There's no misery. But if you
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go home and the person you're expecting to greet you with wide open arms and
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love starts shouting obscenities when you walk in the house, well then not just
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the day, but the week is ruined because we had such an expectation of
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what they're going to be like. And that's where just simply through the process
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of clear thought, we realize, my god, it's my expectations that are
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causing me misery, and so you start to let them go. And it
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doesn't mean that you become a pessimist. It's not that you expect that people
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are going to shout obscenities at you, but you simply realize that it's not
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in your hands. The only thing in your hands is your own reaction to
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them. That's the only thing you have any control over, that which you
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generate from the inside, and so focus much more on that than how everybody
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else's acting and behaving. You know, in the Bug of ad Ghita,
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one of the very core teachings is do your best, do it with full
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sincerity, full commitment, but do not have any expectation about what the result
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of that's going to be. Do not be attached in any way, shape
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or form to the fruits of it. Plant your seeds, plant them with
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care, with love, with time, with energy, with thought. But
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you have no control over what sprouts, what flowers, what grows. That's
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all in in God's hands, in the universe's hands. And so we let
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go because we realize the expectation is just a path to misery. And when
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it does happen, because remember we're still human, it's going to happen.
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The moment that sting starts, that internal sense of oh you just remember,
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oh yeah, that sting is because I had expected something so different. And
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shift your focus immediately in that moment from what that person did to how you
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can respond differently. Can you find love in this moment even though that person
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did not act the way you thought they should. And if you can't find
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love in this moment for them, that's okay. Can you find love in
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this moment for anyone or anything? Can you just manifest love from within,
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because that's going to transform your inner experience from lack to abundance, from feeling
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like you didn't get what you needed to recognizing that you have more than you
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need. And when you do that, that love will then extend into them
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as well, and it just makes for much nicer relationships, much more peaceful,
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joyful, grounded, anchored existences here on planet Earth. Because everything other
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than our own actions, our own thoughts, is ultimately out of our hands.
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So we offer it with our love, with our best intentions, with
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our commitment that we will keep serving and acting and loving and as we should,
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but that my internal sense isn't going to change based on what's happening outside.
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This brings to a close this hour of inspiration and transformation. Thank you
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so much, for joining me. I'm so glad to be together with you
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all each week, and I look forward to being together again next Thursday,
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same time on Home Time's Radio. But I may because to be okay,
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go back to the place of being