Latest / Red Onion Randy - Life in a Supermax Prison / Virgin Father
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- 0:05Speaker 1: You have to fight and fight and fight and fight
- 0:08Speaker 1: to overcome. I can do something with my life.
- 0:15Speaker 2: All right, everybody. This is Red Onion Randy. It's been
- 0:26Speaker 2: a while since y'all heard from me. We had some
- 0:28Speaker 2: things going on with my editor and producer and whatnot,
- 0:32Speaker 2: but I'll do a full episode on that later. Right now,
- 0:37Speaker 2: this is about me. I'm still here at Buckingham. I'm
- 0:41Speaker 2: still doing good. I'm still working out like crazy, getting
- 0:45Speaker 2: ready to do and smash the Spartan Challenge, which everybody
- 0:50Speaker 2: on the compound seems to be terrified of. But the
- 0:55Speaker 2: main thing, the big news, the major news in my
- 1:00Speaker 2: life right now is I'm about to be a dad.
- 1:06Speaker 2: You know. As long-time listeners know, I am a virgin.
- 1:11Speaker 2: I'm 47 years old. I've been in prison since I
- 1:13Speaker 2: was 11 in one form or another. Juvenile, adult, blah, blah, blah.
- 1:19Speaker 2: I'm not going over that shit again. But I met
- 1:25Speaker 2: my wife back in 2022, October, and, uh, hands down,
- 1:31Speaker 2: best things ever happened to me. You know, we got
- 1:35Speaker 2: married September 10th, 2024. Things have been going and going well,
- 1:43Speaker 2: going good for us. And, uh, last year we started
- 1:48Speaker 2: talking at the end of the year, uh, you know, about, uh,
- 1:52Speaker 2: becoming parents in that process. And, you know, we looked
- 1:59Speaker 2: into it, and it was a fight. It was a
- 2:02Speaker 2: pain in the ass to get, you know, to get
- 2:06Speaker 2: the IVF approved, to, you know, do the paperwork. It
- 2:11Speaker 2: cost over $ 15, 000 U.S. to have it done, you know, involved.
- 2:19Speaker 2: You know, so when an inmate... Look, it's not a
- 2:22Speaker 2: guaranteed right. If you go straight to your, if you look,
- 2:26Speaker 2: if you're locked up and you hear this about whatever
- 2:30Speaker 2: means or your family tells you about it, your girl
- 2:32Speaker 2: tells you about it because all of a sudden she
- 2:35Speaker 2: wants to get pregnant, you know, she wants it to
- 2:37Speaker 2: be your kid. Look, if you have a release date
- 2:40Speaker 2: within the next few years, you're getting shot down. This is, it's,
- 2:44Speaker 2: the process is for guys who've got, you know, 30, 40,
- 2:48Speaker 2: 50 years, multiple life sentences, whatever. Like, you ain't going
- 2:52Speaker 2: home anytime soon. You can go to Richmond, because if
- 2:59Speaker 2: you go straight to your warden, no, we're not doing it.
- 3:03Speaker 2: You can't go on the institutional level. You have to
- 3:07Speaker 2: get your girl, your spouse, whatever the case may be,
- 3:14Speaker 2: Y'all have to go to Richmond, and you can't just
- 3:16Speaker 2: take no for an answer. You have to push. You
- 3:18Speaker 2: have to push. You have to... When somebody tells you no, say, look,
- 3:22Speaker 2: I'm not accepting that. Who do I talk to next? Like,
- 3:25Speaker 2: I want to talk to somebody above you. And you've
- 3:28Speaker 2: got to fight. Like, it's a pain in the fucking ass.
- 3:30Speaker 2: I'm telling you that right now. So if you want
- 3:31Speaker 2: to go down this road, get ready to deal with
- 3:35Speaker 2: a bunch of red tape and a bunch of bullshit,
- 3:37Speaker 2: and get ready to pay out the ass. So you
- 3:40Speaker 2: better have money. Um... You know, but once it's approved,
- 3:47Speaker 2: you know, you'll be shackled and handcuffed, driven to a facility,
- 3:54Speaker 2: a little IVF clinic, where you'll go in the room and, yeah,
- 4:02Speaker 2: you'll figure out a way to masturbate with handcuffs. It's
- 4:07Speaker 2: a little awkward. It's a little awkward, people. It's a
- 4:11Speaker 2: little awkward. Trying to hold the cup Get that son
- 4:15Speaker 2: of a bitch to bend so you can angle it and,
- 4:17Speaker 2: you know, yeah. Not very pleasant. But sometimes a man's
- 4:25Speaker 2: got to do what a man's got to do. And
- 4:27Speaker 2: that's the process, you know. They freeze it. Or, you know,
- 4:32Speaker 2: if your spouse, your girl, your wife, whatever, it happens
- 4:36Speaker 2: to be there, which usually it's not going to, you know...
- 4:41Speaker 2: Y'all won't be there at the same time. Let me
- 4:43Speaker 2: tell you that right now. They're not going for that
- 4:45Speaker 2: because that's a major security risk. You know, she might
- 4:50Speaker 2: be scheduled for an hour later. You've already left and
- 4:53Speaker 2: she gets there. If she shows up while you're there, yeah,
- 4:57Speaker 2: she's in some trouble. So, don't try to get slick, people.
- 5:01Speaker 2: It ain't gonna work. These people, they're not that stupid. But, so,
- 5:12Speaker 2: got frozen. It got mailed to a clinic in Cyprus,
- 5:17Speaker 2: the Turkish side of Cyprus. That's where my wife did because,
- 5:22Speaker 2: you know, that clinic has a very, very high success rate.
- 5:29Speaker 2: You know, so that's where she did it. We went
- 5:32Speaker 2: the first time. We did it twice. The first time, unfortunately,
- 5:36Speaker 2: did not work. It kind of was spur of the moment,
- 5:41Speaker 2: but thankfully, you know, we had, uh, we had enough, uh,
- 5:46Speaker 2: specimen to, uh, to go again. And, uh, the second
- 5:51Speaker 2: time so far it's worked. Uh, she's currently pregnant. It's,
- 5:57Speaker 2: it's going well. You know, she's, uh, she's dealing with
- 6:00Speaker 2: some morning sickness. She's dealing, you know, she was dealing
- 6:03Speaker 2: with some cramps, but, uh, that thankfully has, has faded
- 6:07Speaker 2: away right now. No, she's, Pregnant with twin girls. I'm, uh...
- 6:16Speaker 2: I'm about to have two babies. Two beautiful baby girls.
- 6:24Speaker 2: I am the virgin father. That's kind of fucking awesome. Granted,
- 6:32Speaker 2: don't get me wrong. I'd much rather, uh... baguette it
- 6:36Speaker 2: in the old-fashioned way. But I plan on having some
- 6:41Speaker 2: boys when I get out, so they will not be IVF.
- 6:45Speaker 2: They will be old-fashioned ground and pound. Let's just put
- 6:49Speaker 2: it that way. Randy's going to get himself. But it's
- 6:56Speaker 2: a trip, you know. I mean, it's making me feel
- 7:02Speaker 2: things that I've never really felt before. It's... I'm bringing
- 7:09Speaker 2: in life. Yeah, I'm hoping to be released from prison,
- 7:13Speaker 2: hopefully this year. Right now, the pardon is going well.
- 7:18Speaker 2: It's managed to pass the first two hurdles, and it
- 7:23Speaker 2: is currently sitting on the Secretary of the Commonwealth's desk
- 7:27Speaker 2: from my understanding. I may have that wrong, but I
- 7:31Speaker 2: think that's where it's currently at. You know, I'm in
- 7:39Speaker 2: here and I lay on the bunk sometimes. I either
- 7:45Speaker 2: look out the window or I just stare at the
- 7:47Speaker 2: ceiling or watch the back of my eyelids and I
- 7:52Speaker 2: think about it. I think about being a father. I
- 7:55Speaker 2: think about how shitty my father was. I think about
- 7:58Speaker 2: the abuse. I even think about some of the good times.
- 8:05Speaker 2: I did have some good times. You know, they were
- 8:11Speaker 2: few and far between, but... You know, I think about it.
- 8:15Speaker 2: How can I do it better? How can I control
- 8:20Speaker 2: my temper better? You know, how can I discipline my girls,
- 8:24Speaker 2: my boys when they come along? You know, without resorting
- 8:28Speaker 2: to just beating the fuck out of them the way
- 8:31Speaker 2: my dad did me and my two brothers. You know,
- 8:34Speaker 2: especially me. You know, how... How do I sit down
- 8:41Speaker 2: and explain to them, okay, girls, look, it's wrong for
- 8:46Speaker 2: you to do this, and this is the reason why
- 8:49Speaker 2: it's wrong. I want to be that guy that doesn't
- 8:54Speaker 2: just tell them, don't do that. No. I want to
- 8:59Speaker 2: explain to them why it's wrong. I want them to
- 9:03Speaker 2: know the difference between right and wrong because I taught
- 9:06Speaker 2: them that. I have to learn to communicate even better.
- 9:15Speaker 2: I have to learn to be more. More than myself.
- 9:22Speaker 2: More than my dad. More than my family. It's a
- 9:32Speaker 2: little bit scary. There's no question about that, man. It's
- 9:35Speaker 2: a little bit scary. It's a little frustrating for me
- 9:41Speaker 2: right now because I want to be there to help
- 9:43Speaker 2: my wife. I want to be able to provide financially
- 9:49Speaker 2: for my wife, for my kids. I don't want her
- 9:53Speaker 2: to have to to carry that burden all by herself
- 10:03Speaker 2: you know there's a lot that goes into this there's
- 10:06Speaker 2: a lot that you know there's a lot that I
- 10:13Speaker 2: have to think about you know it's not just me
- 10:17Speaker 2: now not just her. You know, we're bringing in two
- 10:21Speaker 2: absolutely innocent, helpless human beings and we're doing it at
- 10:27Speaker 2: the same time. You know, how do I prepare them
- 10:31Speaker 2: for life? How do I make sure they don't grow
- 10:33Speaker 2: up to be like me? You know, how do me
- 10:38Speaker 2: and my wife raise them not to make the mistakes
- 10:42Speaker 2: that me and she made? You know, I'm a murderer.
- 10:47Speaker 2: I'm a robber. I'm a violent SOB. At least I
- 10:53Speaker 2: was any damn way. I'm not anymore. I've gotten a
- 10:57Speaker 2: pretty good handle on that whole anger thing and not
- 11:01Speaker 2: lashing out, poor impulse control. My wife was a party girl.
- 11:08Speaker 2: My wife, she's an ex-porn star. How do we protect
- 11:14Speaker 2: our girls from being abused and being violated the way
- 11:19Speaker 2: my wife was? You know, the way I was. How
- 11:23Speaker 2: do we protect them? How do they grow up happy?
- 11:27Speaker 2: How do they grow up comfortable and secure? You know, strong, independent. Like...
- 11:35Speaker 2: You know... I'm not raising weak children. I can tell
- 11:39Speaker 2: you that shit right now. You know, and me and
- 11:42Speaker 2: my wife, we discuss this a lot. We discuss, you know,
- 11:46Speaker 2: how we're going to raise our children. You know... What
- 11:50Speaker 2: does it look like? You know, what do we plan
- 11:53Speaker 2: on doing for them? What do we plan on not
- 11:55Speaker 2: doing for them? You know? You know, so there's a
- 12:02Speaker 2: lot that goes into it, but I'm so happy, so excited.
- 12:09Speaker 2: You know, it's... I look forward to this. This right here,
- 12:16Speaker 2: this is... You know, this is a fulfillment of kind
- 12:21Speaker 2: of all I wanted. You know, I've always wanted a family. Like,
- 12:24Speaker 2: I don't need to be rich. I don't need to
- 12:26Speaker 2: be famous. I don't need to be any of those things.
- 12:31Speaker 2: I need to be a dad. I need to be
- 12:35Speaker 2: a part of a family, part of a nucleus, part
- 12:38Speaker 2: of something special. It doesn't have to be huge, but
- 12:41Speaker 2: it has to be genuine. It has to be real,
- 12:44Speaker 2: and it has to be us. And it has to
- 12:46Speaker 2: be with Nick. you know, that is my divine mate.
- 12:50Speaker 2: I said it before, I'll say it again. You know,
- 12:55Speaker 2: that woman is, she's, she's, she's everything to me. You know,
- 13:00Speaker 2: and my kids will be too. You know, so hopefully, uh,
- 13:05Speaker 2: hopefully I get my pardon. You know, nothing is, uh,
- 13:08Speaker 2: obviously guaranteed. Uh, I'm looking forward to it. This is
- 13:19Speaker 2: a new chapter. This is, you know, it's more motivation
- 13:23Speaker 2: for me to keep striving, for me to keep grinding,
- 13:25Speaker 2: for me to keep doing the things I'm doing because
- 13:28Speaker 2: I know I'm on the right path. You know, yet
- 13:31Speaker 2: things are hard for me. You know, I deal with
- 13:34Speaker 2: a lot of prison drama, prison politics. I deal with
- 13:38Speaker 2: a lot of frustration. I deal, you know, with a
- 13:41Speaker 2: lot of sadness, a lot of just lack of But
- 13:46Speaker 2: at the same time, man, there's such beauty in my life.
- 13:50Speaker 2: I have an amazing, amazing woman. You know, I'm about
- 13:55Speaker 2: to have two girls. I've got a lot going for me.
- 14:04Speaker 2: You know, so... I apologize that I've been gone for
- 14:07Speaker 2: so long. I do, you know, but unfortunately... It wasn't
- 14:13Speaker 2: just out of my hands. It was out of Michael's hands, too.
- 14:16Speaker 2: But I will come back in a week or two
- 14:19Speaker 2: with an episode. And, you know, I'll explain what, you know,
- 14:24Speaker 2: kind of what he's dealing with and why he had
- 14:27Speaker 2: to step back, you know. But just because he stepped
- 14:29Speaker 2: back from that doesn't mean he stepped back from me.
- 14:33Speaker 2: And he didn't step back from y'all. You know, we're working.
- 14:37Speaker 2: We're busting our ass and, you know. We've got a
- 14:41Speaker 2: system set up so I can get back to recording.
- 14:45Speaker 2: I can get back to talking to y'all and maybe
- 14:47Speaker 2: do some other cool stuff. Yeah, that's it. That's what
- 14:55Speaker 2: I'm going through and dealing with right now. It's good
- 14:59Speaker 2: to be back, folks. It's good to be back. Thank
- 15:03Speaker 2: you for sticking with me. Y'all take care and stay
- 15:06Speaker 2: safe out there. Hey, everybody. I know most folks don't
- 15:13Speaker 2: listen to the closing. You know, you've already heard the
- 15:17Speaker 2: meat and potatoes of the episode and everything. But I'd
- 15:20Speaker 2: appreciate it if you would at least listen to this one,
- 15:22Speaker 2: at least once or twice. There's some pretty cool information
- 15:26Speaker 2: in the closing. And, yeah, I'm kind of proud of
- 15:29Speaker 2: some of the stuff that me and Mike is doing.
- 15:32Speaker 2: First thing, please go to prisonaudio.com. That's P-R-I-S-O-N-A-U-D-I-O dot C-O-M.
- 15:43Speaker 2: We got some really cool stuff up there. You know,
- 15:45Speaker 2: we're doing some things, man. You know, we're putting stuff together,
- 15:50Speaker 2: me and Mike. You know, one of the things we're
- 15:54Speaker 2: doing is the prison audio player. You know, for example,
- 16:00Speaker 2: Mike took an episode that I did on fear and
- 16:04Speaker 2: he put a beat behind some of it and kind
- 16:06Speaker 2: of made it like a song. I don't even know
- 16:11Speaker 2: what to really call it, but it's just me talking,
- 16:13Speaker 2: and it's got a beat behind it, and it's really cool.
- 16:17Speaker 2: You'll find stuff like that. Originally, we're expanding into putting
- 16:22Speaker 2: other people's podcasts from prison up on our channel. We're
- 16:31Speaker 2: doing a lot of stuff. Yes, we put a tip
- 16:35Speaker 2: jar up. up there. You know, this stuff is expensive,
- 16:39Speaker 2: and quite frankly, if you want to keep Red Onion
- 16:41Speaker 2: Randy going, I'm going to need some help. I'm going
- 16:45Speaker 2: to need some donations. This money isn't for me to
- 16:49Speaker 2: buy commissary with. This money is to pay for expenses.
- 16:54Speaker 2: You know, it cost us to do this. You know, like...
- 17:01Speaker 2: It goes into a PayPal account that is controlled by
- 17:05Speaker 2: my wife and only my wife. And, you know, I
- 17:11Speaker 2: will call my wife and direct her, hey, I need
- 17:14Speaker 2: you to put money on the phone so I can
- 17:16Speaker 2: call and record. I want you to get this, this
- 17:21Speaker 2: microphone or whatever it is that we need. I really
- 17:26Speaker 2: would appreciate your assistance and your help. You know, but
- 17:30Speaker 2: I'll leave that up to you all. Somebody went and
- 17:35Speaker 2: bought up redoniorandy.com. So we had to get a new
- 17:40Speaker 2: domain name and everything. So it's at r-o-r.prisonaudio.com. We've got
- 17:47Speaker 2: a brand new site. We've got a brand new intro.
- 17:50Speaker 2: We've got all kinds of stuff. You know, this is
- 17:54Speaker 2: your one-stop shop for anything Red Onion Randy. And not
- 17:58Speaker 2: just Red Onion Randy. We got my buddy Kyle, you know,
- 18:02Speaker 2: Cheshire Madness. We got his podcast up. We're about to
- 18:06Speaker 2: put a new guy up that did time at Red Onion.
- 18:10Speaker 2: I don't think I know this guy. He's only got
- 18:13Speaker 2: three episodes out so far, and, you know, it seems
- 18:16Speaker 2: like he's got a positive message. So we're putting him
- 18:19Speaker 2: up on the site, and, you know, we're going to
- 18:21Speaker 2: start hosting him and everything, you know, so y'all can
- 18:25Speaker 2: get some different insights there. from different people with different
- 18:28Speaker 2: backgrounds and different views. We're not putting no dumps up.
- 18:33Speaker 2: I've already made that crystal clear. I don't mind if
- 18:36Speaker 2: you get up and you tell a few war stories here, there, whatever, man.
- 18:40Speaker 2: I do the same thing myself. But if you're up
- 18:43Speaker 2: there just lying, making stuff up, because I'm going to check.
- 18:46Speaker 2: My guy's going to listen to it. He's going to
- 18:49Speaker 2: play it for me. some things, and you get up
- 18:52Speaker 2: there and you're lying, you're making stuff up, trying to
- 18:55Speaker 2: do shit that you ain't about, I'm going to clap
- 18:58Speaker 2: your ass off my site and you can go do
- 19:00Speaker 2: that shit somewhere else. So give some of these guys,
- 19:03Speaker 2: as you see them pop up on the site, give
- 19:06Speaker 2: them a listen. Check them out. If it ain't for you,
- 19:11Speaker 2: move on. If you like it, keep listening. That's up
- 19:15Speaker 2: to you. You know, my books are up there. I've
- 19:18Speaker 2: got four books that I've published, two children's novels, one cookbook,
- 19:22Speaker 2: and the one I'm probably the most proud of is
- 19:25Speaker 2: You Ain't Beyond Saving. Please, check that book out. Look,
- 19:29Speaker 2: it's not going to take you five years to read
- 19:31Speaker 2: the thing. You can literally have it done in a
- 19:33Speaker 2: couple of days, or you can literally sit down for
- 19:35Speaker 2: like two or three hours and read it. You'll get
- 19:38Speaker 2: something from it. You know, it's basically, it's just me
- 19:42Speaker 2: and book form. Um, You know, obviously we're also, we've
- 19:49Speaker 2: got some stuff on Instagram, at RedOnionRandy, all lowercase. Y'all
- 19:55Speaker 2: can go check me out there. Don't forget, we've got
- 19:59Speaker 2: the hotline. That's 1-888-524-1050. nine, three, two. And for those
- 20:13Speaker 2: who are outside the continental U.S., just simply put a
- 20:17Speaker 2: plus in front of the one. Works just the same.
- 20:21Speaker 2: You've got questions, you've got comments. We're also, we've got
- 20:27Speaker 2: it set up to where I can do live shows
- 20:32Speaker 2: on YouTube. We're trying to get it on some other platforms,
- 20:35Speaker 2: but right now it's on YouTube. We're not sure if
- 20:37Speaker 2: the date of when we're going to do it, but
- 20:39Speaker 2: we're going to start doing it. We already just did
- 20:41Speaker 2: a practice episode. Honestly, we wasn't even prepared. Kind of
- 20:46Speaker 2: surprised that both of us said it worked, but it worked,
- 20:49Speaker 2: so we're going to be up. I'm leaning towards Sunday
- 20:51Speaker 2: nights around 9. We'll see what happens, though. We're doing
- 20:57Speaker 2: some really cool stuff right here. My buddy Michael isn't
- 21:02Speaker 2: doing this. He set it up. He built a fully
- 21:05Speaker 2: functioning AI For me, I've got my own AI. You
- 21:11Speaker 2: can go on to the ROR.PrisonAudio.com thing. Yeah, RORPrisonAudio.com. Sorry
- 21:21Speaker 2: about that. And you can look at it, and it's
- 21:25Speaker 2: literally got an AI bot of me that thinks it's
- 21:30Speaker 2: really me. You know, I've actually interacted with him a
- 21:33Speaker 2: little bit over the phone, and it's pretty tricky. It's
- 21:37Speaker 2: pretty cool. But you got a question, you know, about
- 21:41Speaker 2: past episodes or where to find something or, hey, did
- 21:45Speaker 2: Randy ever talk about this? You know, and he'll pop
- 21:49Speaker 2: up and he'll tell you exactly where to go. He'll
- 21:51Speaker 2: answer your question, pray for you. It's pretty cool, you know.
- 21:56Speaker 2: I don't know if the world's ready for that or not, but.
- 22:00Speaker 2: It ain't got no damn choice now. But look, prison audio.
- 22:06Speaker 2: This dude, Michael, is going out of his way. He's
- 22:08Speaker 2: bending over backwards and he's been through some people. You know,
- 22:12Speaker 2: I'll do an episode on that here very shortly. But
- 22:16Speaker 2: this man is giving us in prison a voice. And
- 22:20Speaker 2: it's not being filtered through somebody else, through somebody else's voice. ideology,
- 22:26Speaker 2: through somebody else's filter, beliefs, or whatever. You can come
- 22:32Speaker 2: to this site and you are going to hear truth.
- 22:35Speaker 2: You are going to hear somebody's truth. You're going to
- 22:37Speaker 2: hear somebody's experience, somebody's life, somebody's pain, somebody's mistakes. But
- 22:42Speaker 2: you're going to hear somebody's triumphs. You're going to hear
- 22:45Speaker 2: somebody's victories. You're going to hear somebody overcoming. That's what
- 22:49Speaker 2: prison audio is about and that's why it matters. So
- 22:54Speaker 2: if you've got family out there that's in prison and
- 22:58Speaker 2: they would like to do their own podcast, we have
- 23:01Speaker 2: a way. We have a way. You can get a
- 23:05Speaker 2: number set up, so on and so forth, and they
- 23:08Speaker 2: can literally call an AI bot and just follow the
- 23:13Speaker 2: basic instructions, and they can start recording their own episodes.
- 23:18Speaker 2: It edits, it produces, it builds the thumbnails, and it
- 23:22Speaker 2: automatically uploads it. There's so much that we're doing to
- 23:27Speaker 2: try to change prison, to try to change prison culture and,
- 23:31Speaker 2: you know, bring it into the mainstream so that guys
- 23:35Speaker 2: can get the help they need so we can stop
- 23:37Speaker 2: being criminals. That's what prison audio is about. It's about
- 23:42Speaker 2: genuine rehabilitation. It's about fixing what's broken inside of us. So, yeah,
- 23:49Speaker 2: please go check this stuff out. You know, throw a
- 23:52Speaker 2: little something in the tip jar if you like what
- 23:54Speaker 2: you're hearing. Help us expand. Help us to build because
- 23:58Speaker 2: it's not just about me. It's about trying to get
- 24:00Speaker 2: other people's stuff so long as they're on a positive
- 24:03Speaker 2: message and they're doing something good. I'm not about that
- 24:08Speaker 2: gang life, that bullshit, them lies, that trying to impress people.
- 24:11Speaker 2: I don't care about that shit. So, thank you for listening.
- 24:16Speaker 2: Thank you. Thank you. God bless, and y'all take care
- 24:21Speaker 2: and stay safe out there. End recording by itself. End
- 24:25Speaker 2: episode by itself.