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Will the narcissist ever get over you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammett
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time I see my
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  face and hearing my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  They use my platform on social media to raise awareness for
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  NPD. Get more people in new therapy
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  like myself, six years strong. It also validate the victims,
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  survivors and thrivers of said disorder.
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  Said toxic people, said Toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be entitled Will the Narcissist
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  Ever Get Over You? Will They Ever Move On?
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  Will they ever leave You alone? So before we hop into today's
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  episode, make sure you check out the Self Love Journal on Amazon.
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  a touch relationship Dynamical space.
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  Yeah yeah yeah yeah. Will the narcissist ever get
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  over you? So let me preface this by saying
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  y'all, yes, some narcissist, The people, y'all will just leave
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  you alone. They will get over you.
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  They will move on with their lives.
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  They might think about you in passing and things like that
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  they might think about. They won't reach out to you.
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  They'll leave you alone. They'll go shit get over you,
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  you know, just block you or they'll block you and everything
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  and move on with their lives, never to hear, never to be seen
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  again. Kind of like in a like one of
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  those movies. Never to be seen again.
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  What was it? Moana.
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  Moana. Moving Moana.
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  When Maui disappeared and his hook fell into the ocean, it was
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  like never to be seen again. Just like that.
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  The narcissist is falling into the ocean, deep, dark ocean of
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  empathy or whatever, and just getting drowned in empathy and
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  just disappears, never to be seen again.
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  So yeah. Does that happen to some
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  narcissistic people? Yeah.
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  Would they leave you alone? Yeah, they will.
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  They'll disappear on you. But some of them, y'all, some a
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  lot of them will never get over you.
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  And this is not me telling you. Let me go.
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  And before I dig in deeper. Before I dig this whole deeper.
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  This is video is not meant for you to take A to listen to it,
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  hear it, and be like okay. Please tell them I was.
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  I was looking for a sign to reach out for my narcissistic
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  person to reach out to them and try to rekindle and maybe
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  forgive them. No, this is not.
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  If you're looking for a sign, this ain't it.
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  This is not the sign that you're looking for.
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  These are not the droids that you are looking for.
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  Hell, no, this is not me telling you to reach out to your
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  narcissist, the ex, whoever this is not me telling you to do any
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  of that. This is me telling you right now
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  that some of them will not get over you.
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  You will always be on their mind.
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  And so do I have people like that in my in my life?
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  Yeah, I have people like that in my life.
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  That I in my mind. I think about them all the time.
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  Like they have very common unique names.
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  That they have very common, unique names that you would pop
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  up. So yeah, sometimes you don't get
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  over this because it's because I haven't gotten over them,
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  doesn't. I'm in love with them.
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  I want them back. It's just like my mind is still
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  focused on that person. Like that person defeated me or
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  something like that. That person got rid of me
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  instead of me being able to get rid of them.
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  That person discarded me instead of me being able to discard
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  them. That person broke me down
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  instead of me being being able to break them down.
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  It feels like a loss. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's kind of like what I think a lot of people would describe it
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  as the one that got away, quote, UN quote, but it doesn't work.
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  It's like, it's like you got away, but what did you get away
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  with? Did you get away with my heart?
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  Did you get away with me, with me, with anger?
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  What did you get away with in these circumstances, in these
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  situations? You mean, what exactly are you
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  escaping this scenario with this situation?
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  With what are you, what is going on here?
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  You don't mean what is the dynamic, What is the space that
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  we are in right now that says like what?
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  What? What is going on?
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  You may think about it. What are we dealing with?
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  What are you? It's just like you got away.
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  You are the one that you might be one of the people that got
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  away. You may because a lot of
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  narcissistic people have a string, not just one
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  relationship that ends like that with it, where the person gets
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  rid of the narcissist. A lot of narcissistic people
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  have a string of relationships that end this way where the
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  person gets away from that what they is, you know, quote UN
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  quote, escape from the narcissistic person.
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  When they get, they break free of the narcissistic person.
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  You see, I'm saying this happens all the time in these spaces.
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  Y'all so do will it. Will they ever get over you?
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  Some of them don't. Y'all.
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  And it's some of them like that again.
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  So even if some of them don't get over you, it doesn't mean
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  that they'll reach out to you. It just means that you're on
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  their mind. It just means that they might
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  think about you from time to time or all the time.
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  It might. It might mean that they are
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  obsessed with you. But obsession, just because they
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  are obsessed with you doesn't necessarily mean that they will
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  reach out to you. That they will contact you for
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  any reason for you know, they. It doesn't.
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  It doesn't mean that right there because they're obsessed with
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  you. It just means that you're on
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  their mind like you. They it's it's kind of like they
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  mentally bring you into their new relationship spaces, into
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  their new relationship dynamic, You know what I mean?
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  Sometimes if they, if they don't get over you but they don't
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  reach out to you, sometimes they'll try to morph their new
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  partner into you. They'll try to take the they'll
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  try to take your characteristics that they liked and put them
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  onto their new partner. You see what I'm saying?
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  Maybe it's your hair, the way you wear your hair.
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  Maybe some kind of, maybe some kind of Cologne or perfume that
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  you used to wear. Something along those lines.
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  Maybe it's a movie that y'all used to watch, something like
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  that. Maybe it's something you used to
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  cook. Maybe it's something that they
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  favor what? It's something that they bring
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  into. They try to morph the other
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  person into you, and they can do this by manipulating them in a
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  good with good good intent or bad or no, they can do this by
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  manipulating them with with that, by damning you or praising
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  you. You see what I'm saying?
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  They could damn you. But say my crazy ex used to do
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  this so it it diverts them from doing as one certain behavior
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  and makes them do a different behavior.
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  You mean my my crazy ex used to do that and I hate it.
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  So even though I might not have hated what they did or I might
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  be lying, you mean that makes my new partner do something I want
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  them to do or stop doing something that I don't want them
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  to do. You see what I'm saying?
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  I can. You can manipulate by damning
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  them, but you also can manipulate by praising.
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  The XI can praise you. If I'm not over you.
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  I can praise you to my new partner and make them in
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  competition, which I can triangulate.
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  I can praise and triangulate at the same time cause like my my
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  ex used to cook the best quesadillas and you like, oh I
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  got to make some better quesadillas than your ex did.
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  So boom, gotcha. You see what I'm saying?
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  I can, I can manipulate with with praise or criticism.
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  Damning or criticism. You see what I'm saying?
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  Praise or criticism. That's going to be another
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  video, you know, praise or criticism.
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  I like what I'll be talking and I'll come up with new ideas for
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  for other videos. But yeah, that's how it goes
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  though. Y'all, that's why I tell people
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  it's some of them don't reach out to you, but they bring you.
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  They don't reach out to you. They but they haven't gotten
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  over you and they bring you into a new relationship especially,
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  and this happens quickly. Sometimes they'll move on
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  quickly. If you break up with them or
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  they break with you and they're still not over you.
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  They might move on to a new relationship and love bomb the
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  bejesus out of the next person. Love bomb the hell out of the
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  next person is to try to get over you.
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  But it doesn't work because they're thinking to to love bomb
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  the new person, to give the new person everything that you you
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  were asking for that you might have been begging me for.
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  They have to think about you. You know what I'm saying?
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  They're not over you. So they're giving the you the
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  stuff that you wanted to the new person and it works.
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  It makes you jealous and it works for the new person.
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  You know what I'm saying? It just it just how it goes.
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  Y'all just because they sometimes they they don't, they
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  don't get over you by love, by the other person they like.
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  This is sign that they're not over you by love bombing this
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  theme over the next person. I'm not saying everybody does
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  this but some people do do it like that.
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  But then last but not least, this last category, the
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  narcissistic person that doesn't get over you, that still thinks
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  about you. They won't leave you alone.
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  Some of them become stalkerish. Some of them become obsessive.
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  Some of them become damn near dangerous as hell, y'all and
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  will threaten and will threaten. They they the ownership category
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  is this shit. A lot of narcissists think that
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  you belong, think that you belong to them anyway, right?
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  But you get a lot of narcissistic people that think
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  you belong to them anyway. But they're super obsessive,
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  scary narcissistic people. That's my dehumidifier.
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  Y'all. Reap it.
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  But you get a lot of narcissistic people.
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  The scary, some of the scary ones, They think you belong to
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  them and they act like it. They act like you belong to
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  them. They treat you like you belong
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  to them. Even if the relationship is
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  over. I'm not over you and you damn
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  sure but not get over me. Those are the type of
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  narcissistic people that you know.
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  They stalk you, they harass you. They threaten you.
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  You better not have anybody else around my kids.
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  You better not have another man or woman in my house.
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  You better not have another person over here.
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  You know what I'm saying? It doesn't even matter.
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  Yo did the crazy about. The crazy thing about it is it
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  doesn't even matter if they have moved on or not.
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  It really doesn't even matter like they can.
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  They don't have to move on to mess with you to keep this feel
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  like they own you. They can they can literally have
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  moved on to a new relationship, new partnership or whatever, and
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  they, you know what I'm saying? They can move on to a new
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  relationship or new partnership or something like that and still
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  think they own you. They can have a yeah, they can
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  have a whole new damn family and still think you belong to them.
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  Like they can have a whole new family, whole new husband, wife,
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  family, new job, new everything, but still take you belong to
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  them because they haven't gotten over you yet.
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  Some narcissistic people have not.
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  They won't get over you and they won't leave you alone.
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  Y'all. And sometimes you have to force
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  them to leave you alone. I don't know what country you're
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  in. Protect your peace.
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  In the United States, there's a, there's a there's 10 amendments
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  to the Constitution. The second one, the second one
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  says you can defend yourself in a certain, in a very specific
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  type of way. You know what I mean?
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  Hey, hey, hey. Sometimes you have to, because
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  sometimes they'll pop. They'll drive by your house.
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  Sometimes they'll drive by your job.
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  Sometimes they'll send you text messages.
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  They'll send you roses and by you Cologne.
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  They will do things to let you know that they're still around,
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  still watching you, and the ones that haven't gotten over you and
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  won't leave you alone. They'll put the tracking devices
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  on your car. They'll do things like that.
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  They'll put tracking devices on your car.
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  They'll put cameras on your. They'll put cameras in your on
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  your stuff. Y'all they'll record you.
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  They'll put cameras in your house.
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  They'll put cameras around you and do things like that.
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  Like a lot. A lot of narcissistic people,
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  they they think you belong to me.
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  They will not leave you alone. Regardless of how the
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  relationship ended, they still think that, hey, you belong to
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  me. You're mine.
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  And I'm going to. I'm going to exercise my rights
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  on you. My rights.
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  My right of ownership. You see what I'm saying?
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  You know what I'm saying? Somebody you have to force them
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  to leave you lonely, Billy. Some of them you have to force
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  them. Some of them you have to force
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  them to leave you alone. Billy.
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  How do you force them to leave you alone?
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  Y'all. Sometimes you have to call the
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  police. Police don't do anything.
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  Y'all SBIFBI. Call somebody.
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  Arm yourself. You have you have to keep doing
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  this. Y'all documenting things.
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  Use deterrence. Put cameras up.
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  People don't like being on camera.
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  Y'all people don't like being recorded.
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  You see what I'm saying? You might have to get a body Cam
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  and do things like that. Y'all I promise.
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  You might have to hire private investigator to follow them.
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  The the private investigator. I had people hire private
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  investigators that followed the narcissistic person and a
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  narcissistic person is stalking them.
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  So imagine that you hire a private investigator.
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  The private investigator is following the narcissistic
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  person, the toxic person, the stalkers dangerous person and
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  they're following you. So it's it's wildness, Y'all
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  it's wildness. You have to protect your peace.
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  Except I'm just telling you some of them become super obsessive
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  and they will not leave you alone.
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  Y'all because they think you belong to them.
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