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I Can't Read Your Mind - Part 3: Learning to Listen, Not Assume · Couples’ Journey Podcast Channel

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  Hey everyone, welcome back to the Couples Journey blog series podcast.
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  We're on part three of the series entitled, I Can't Read Your Mind.
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  Yesterday, we explored more of the key points we've learned from Proverbs 23 verse 7.
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  Today, Rey reflects on how his relationship with his wife, Annie,
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  has been shaped by their personalities, struggles, and spiritual growth.
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  Here's Rey's reflection in this series.
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  Should I know what my wife is thinking? This might sound funny,
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  but the truth is we often find ourselves guessing what is in our spouse's mind.
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  How many times have I asked Annie where she wants to have dinner?
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  Only for her to reply, it's up to you.
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  But then, as I park the car in front of the restaurant, she quickly points out, here again?
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  We were here just last week.
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  Usually, that moment ruins our night and we miss the chance to enjoy a nice dinner together.
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  We see similar patterns when dealing with bigger, more difficult issues.
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  Communication can be truly challenging because Annie processes her thoughts differently.
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  Although she's very outspoken, there are times I do things ahead of assuming she'll be fine with it.
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  Sometimes that works, but often it leads to missed moments and eventually heated
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  discussions or disagreements.
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  For a long time, I've learned to live independently.
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  Growing up, I was exposed to responsibilities early on, which shaped my behaviors.
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  But Those behaviors don't necessarily mean I'm considering others or seeking
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  a deeper understanding.
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  My perception of relationships back then was simply based on what I thought might work.
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  Until God intervened in my life and everything changed, especially how I viewed marriage.
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  The greatest blessing I've received is having a lifelong partner,
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  not just to handle responsibilities, but to dedicate ourselves and our marriage
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  to God, continuously seeking His guidance,
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  His will, and His purpose.
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  This foundation of communication in our marriage is anchored in Christ.
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  As God shifts our heart's desire, we walk each day in obedience to Him, even when we struggle.
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  Face spiritual battles, or fall into temptation.
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  We get up and move forward, carrying His grace, mercy, and love.
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  So when I'm challenged by Annie's womanhood, especially hormonal change that
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  affect her thoughts and emotion, I know I can only navigate those moments with God's help.
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  Daily conversations centered in Christ help me understand her as she goes through
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  her own transformation.
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  This is just one of God's many ways of molding and growing me into trusting him.
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  As Solomon reminds us in Proverbs 3, 5, trust in the Lord with all your heart
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  and do not lean on your own understanding.
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  Fellow husband, leading your
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  family can be challenging, but we can always turn to God for guidance.
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  He blesses us with this role, and He will surely help us understand our wives.
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  And when we fail, God's patience, grace, mercy, and love are always there,
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  encouraging us to get up and keep on moving forward.
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  May Rey's reflection reminds many husbands the importance of patience,
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  understanding, and divine guidance in marriage.
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  Let's remember that we are not alone in this journey.
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  With God's grace at the center of marital relationships, we can navigate the
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  challenges, grow in love, and build a union rooted in faith and mutual response.
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  May we all continue to seek His wisdom daily, trusting that He will lead us
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  to become the husbands and spouses He has called us to be. Join us tomorrow.
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  Annie, Rey's wife, will share her reflections on the series.
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  Thanks for tuning in, and may God bless you and your marriage.