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The Biggest Roadblock That Holds You Back · The Hannah Hammond Show

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  Everyone talks about all their success stories, but I want to
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  talk about all my failures and all of the things that I have
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  learned from them because I have failed so many times over and
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  over and over and over again. And I think what has set me
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  apart is that it was relentless. And I don't see failures as
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  failures at all. I actually see them as learning
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  lessons. So in my book, I either win or I
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  learn. And there's no better way to
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  learn than through your failures.
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  My friend and mentor Robert Kiyosaki actually talks to me
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  about this all the time. Is God designed us to learn
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  through failing? And so for me, I'm not afraid to
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  fail because I know that every time I set an impossible goal
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  for myself and I go after it if I fail on paper, I learn some
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  pretty incredible lessons that allow me the skill set and the
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  confidence to set even bigger goals and look at what I did
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  wrong, what I did right, and what needs to change for me to
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  do better in the future. And so some of those failures
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  I've had were partnering with people on business
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  opportunities, you know, just being an opportunist, being
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  ambitious, being optimistic, and saying yes to things that
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  weren't actually in line with what I truly wanted.
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  And it wasn't an integrity with who I was or what I really
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  wanted. And I was so lost and
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  disconnected. I was just grabbing on to any
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  opportunity I could find that would make me money and give me
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  the sense of freedom. When in reality, I was building
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  a prison. I was literally building my own
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  prison that I chose to create. And so just getting into
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  businesses that I had no passion for, no experience in or real
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  desire to be in. Like starting three construction
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  companies and starting them with a business partner that I didn't
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  even know and not doing my due diligence on him and not just
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  taking his word for everything and trusting that it was all to
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  work out. And I learned a lot and I'm
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  really glad I did it. And I lost a lot of money and I
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  had a ton of employees and I was miserable every single day.
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  But what I learned was what I shouldn't do and what I didn't
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  want to create in my life. And I think that that every
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  dollar I lost, every tier, every sleepless night, having to let
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  down employees, having this chaos going on in the company,
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  I'm so grateful for every moment of that because it gave me the
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  confidence and the knowledge to go create something that was in
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  line with what I wanted. It gave me, OK, this is what I
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  need to set up as far as an entity structure.
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  These are the agreements I need to put in place.
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  These are the employment agreements with the staff.
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  This is the insurance that I need and the liability.
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  This is what the proper marketing should and shouldn't
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  be. This is the structure for how I
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  should run my team and my employees to give them
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  ownership, but still keeping them in line with the vision and
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  the goals of the company. And so all those those failures
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  on paper, I mean, I've been engaged 2 times, you could count
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  those as two failures. I said yes to things that I knew
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  I didn't want and I was. I had to really get honest with
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  myself and have a reality check of like, am I that afraid of not
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  being loved and I'm not? Am I that afraid of being alone
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  that I'm dating people that I don't even want to be with?
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  That's not an integrity with who I am or what I want.
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  Zooming out and getting really honest with myself after those
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  failures and really analyzing what is working, what isn't
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  working, and what needs to change.
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  I call those win reviews and doing those every single day
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  paired with a morning integrity setup.
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  So every day before I start my day, I get myself in the
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  absolute peak state of mind that I could possibly be in.
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  And so I'm in a state of flow because when you're in a state
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  of flow, you're five times more productive and things just
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  really go your way. And so those two habits have
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  really helped me make sure that I can course correct much sooner
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  before I go spend years or possibly decades creating
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  something that isn't in line with what I truly want.
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  And one of my mentors told me that if you're going to climb
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  the ladder, make sure it's up the right wall because you don't
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  want to climb the ladder that's on the right wall.
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  And then be there at the top after all this work and be like,
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  oh shit, I just built something or committed to something that I
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  don't even want. I don't want any part of it.
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  And if you aren't passionate about something and you're not
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  in the Green Zone and in this state of flow, you're never
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  going to produce the results that you want.
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  I think one of the biggest mistakes that I ever made in my
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  life early on was First off, not prioritizing myself.
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  I had the wrong intentions for everything I was doing.
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  I was coming from a place to try to love myself, to try to prove
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  to my dad that I was worth it, to try to prove to my brother
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  that I wouldn't amount to anything like he told me.
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  I was just trying to find love for myself and approval from
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  other people. And no matter what external
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  success I achieved, which I always hit my goals that I had
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  set quicker than I had set them, but I was always unfulfilled.
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  I was always empty, I was always miserable.
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  I was always depressed, I was always anxious.
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  I was always addicted to everything outside of me to try
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  to feel connected, whole and complete and loved inside.
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  And when I hired a mentor named William Poet, he told me that my
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  motivation was all wrong and that nothing was ever going to
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  fulfill me if my intention was coming from a place of trying to
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  love myself. My intention needs to come from
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  a place. And your intention needs to come
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  from a place from love if your intention is coming from a place
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  of love already. I go to the gym because I love
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  my body and myself and this gift that I've been given, not to try
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  to get a body that I love. Or I want to build a big company
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  because I see that this life is a miracle and I want to have the
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  greatest impact that I possibly can.
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  And I want to see what potential I have out there.
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  And I want to serve people and change the world or change
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  whatever this thing is that I'm so passionate about.
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  Not because I feel incomplete and because I need more money
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  and because I need more pride and status and ego.
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  If your intention is not coming from a place of love and
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  integrity with who you really are and your higher purpose,
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  your outcomes are never going to be great because the energy in
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  which you initiated the action is bad.
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  And Poet told me the outcome can only be as great as the
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  energetic state in which you initiate the action.
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  So if you initiate anything in your life from a bad energetic
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  state, whether it's a business venture, a business partnership,
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  a relationship, a friendship, literally anything in your life,
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  if you initiate it with a bad energetic state, your outcome is
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  going to be poor. And so protecting your energy,
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  protecting your time, being aware, having self-awareness of
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  what makes you feel expansive, what makes you feel loved, what
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  makes you feel creative, what makes time go fast, what makes
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  you feel in flow versus what makes you feel contracted, what
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  makes you feel small, what makes you feel angry, bored, upset,
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  frustrated, anxious. If you really can have the
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  awareness, and that's what it starts with, is having the
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  awareness of how you feel throughout the day.
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  And when I started, I would just set alarms on my phone because I
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  was so disconnected. I was so in this zone or doing
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  the tasks or doing the things that to create the habit of
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  awareness, to even know how I felt, I had to set reminders on
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  my phone every hour to check in. How do I feel right now?
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  What am I doing? Where am I at?
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  Who am I with? And I started to do these energy
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  audits on my energy and figuring out, OK, this construction
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  company I'm in is making me feel stressed, anxiety, anxious,
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  overwhelm, confusion, and consistently not just like a bad
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  day. This fiance that I'm engaged to
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  is making me feel contracted and small.
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  And he's competing with me and he's not supporting my dreams
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  and he's not supporting my goals.
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  And I'm not, you know, if you're feeling that from things in your
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  life, you're giving that same feeling to the things in your
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  life that are making you feel that way.
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  And so being in tune with my energy, being aware of what made
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  me feel expansive, and then simply just leaning in to the
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  things that make you feel expansive and starting to lean
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  away from the things that make you feel contracted.
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  And that little tool started to help me cut out of the things in
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  my life that were dragging me down.
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  Because where your attention goes, your energy flows, and if
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  your attention is sucked up by all these things that are not in
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  line with things that make you feel good, then the outcomes
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  you're going to have in your life are always going to be bad.
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  And so leaning more into what made me feel expansive and happy
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  and fulfilled and joyful and purpose driven and letting go of
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  the things that didn't absolutely changed everything
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  for me. And when this happened, when I
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  hired this coach, I was on antidepressants.
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  I was on, I mean, I had everything OCDADD, eating
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  disorders, insomnia. I took a pill to wake up, a pill
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  to go to bed. I was.
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  I couldn't sit alone with myself for 5 minutes without feeling
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  anxious and fidgety and not in a good state of mind.
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  And so that was the most important thing and meditation
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  helped me do that. Sitting quiet with yourself and
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  losing the attachment to your thoughts and realizing that you
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  are not your thoughts because I know we're all taught when we're
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  young. I think therefore I am.
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  But that's not true. You are not your thoughts.
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  The real saying is I am therefore I think so.
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  If you can separate yourself from your thoughts and not let
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  those thoughts turn into emotions and then those emotions
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  turn into actions, then you can just observe your thoughts and
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  redirect your brain. And that's the nicest thing
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  about the brain is if you tell it to think of an elephant,
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  it'll think of an elephant 2 seconds later.
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  It might be thinking about my deal that just fell through the
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  you know, I just lost 400,000 on Commission or this employee is
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  suing me or whatever. But if you have the awareness,
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  you can redirect the brain. And if you redirect the brain to
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  what you do want, then it becomes the law of attraction
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  where your attention goes, your energy flows.
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  So if you can catch the brain, the monkey mind, and catch it
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  trying to keep you in this state of survival, because that's what
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  we're wired to do, is to survive and not get attached to those
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  thoughts, then you just redirect it with love and just as an
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  observer and don't let that negative thought turn into a
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  negative emotion, which will then turn into a negative
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  action. So protecting your energy,
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  protecting my energy has been the most integral piece of my
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  growth, which has been, I would say more exponential over the
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  the past year really. But it's been quite a journey.
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  And I really, really hope that you do not take it lightly on
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  who is making you feel expansive, what is making you
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  feel expansive and who is not.