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#729 The News That Makes Justin & Kylie Officially Old · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for.
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  Speaker 2: The time poor parent who just wants answers.
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  Speaker 1: Now, Welcome to the Happy Family Podcast. I'm justin. I'm
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  Speaker 1: here with Kylie among our six kids. I'm the author
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  Speaker 1: of a whole bunch of books, the co host of
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  Speaker 1: a TV show called Parental Guidance, all about raising kids,
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  Speaker 1: and a whole lot of other stuff. And today you
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  Speaker 1: just happen to have joined the podcast. Maybe you're new here.
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  Speaker 1: If you are, you've joined us on one of the
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  Speaker 1: most exciting podcasting days in our podcasting history. It might
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  Speaker 1: not be exciting for you at all, but it's really
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  Speaker 1: exciting for us.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's just say your tagline just got a bit longer.
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  Speaker 1: My tagline meaning all the stuff that we ah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to reveal too much. Okay, So we
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  Speaker 1: have some news. We have some really big news. We
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  Speaker 1: are the parents, as I mentioned, of six children. I
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  Speaker 1: nearly said seven children, but I'm not going to say
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  Speaker 1: that we're the parents of seven children. But we are
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  Speaker 1: the parents of six kids. Our oldest daughter has been
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  Speaker 1: married for what almost four years? Nearly four years? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: four years in a couple of months time and a
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  Speaker 1: few weeks ago, she asked if the whole family could
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  Speaker 1: get together to have dinner. We said, of course, we
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  Speaker 1: love when the family gets together. So we all got
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  Speaker 1: everyone together and after dinner, we sat around and we
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  Speaker 1: played some pictionary. But there was something going on with
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  Speaker 1: the pictionary game because you decided to set it up.
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  Speaker 1: Rather than playing proper dictionary, you did a Kylie Coulson
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  Speaker 1: Pictionary Special. What were the details of that Kylie Culson
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  Speaker 1: Pictionary Special, Missus Happy Families.
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  Speaker 2: Well, when you're playing pictionary, obviously, there's usually just a
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  Speaker 2: couple of teams and you're playing team against team and
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  Speaker 2: there's only one person drawing. So we thought we'd kind
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  Speaker 2: of change it up, and we had multiple teams. So
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  Speaker 2: there was four teams, and because.
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  Speaker 1: We have a big family, it was like three or
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  Speaker 1: four teams were competing to be the first one to
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  Speaker 1: guess the same thing. Okay, so on each team, one
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  Speaker 1: person was the person drawing. All of the drawers got
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  Speaker 1: to see the same word and then they would go
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  Speaker 1: to their individual boards and start drawing, and everyone else
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  Speaker 1: on their team, the two or three other people and
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  Speaker 1: their team had to get and whichever team was first,
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  Speaker 1: and there was a series of themes that remained consistent
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  Speaker 1: with every single word that was drawn out.
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  Speaker 2: Like they were just household items.
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  Speaker 1: They were all just household items. But this is kind
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  Speaker 1: of what happened, eh am awake. So I should warn
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  Speaker 1: you that as we play more audio clips from the
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  Speaker 1: next few minutes, it's chaos in our home. We have
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  Speaker 1: six kids, we've got grandparents there, there's there's a whole
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  Speaker 1: lot of other people who are in our home with us,
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  Speaker 1: joining in for what's going to be a really fun
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  Speaker 1: pictionary night. And you can just hear the chaos. You
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  Speaker 1: can hear all of that. This is a raw that
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  Speaker 1: there is.
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  Speaker 2: There is no editing here anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Ella Ella notices at some point that there's something going
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  Speaker 1: on with the words of this I love this, So
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  Speaker 1: she's kind of recognized that there is this common theme
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  Speaker 1: with all of the words that are coming up. And
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  Speaker 1: then one of the other kids says this, which.
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  Speaker 2: Led to one of the kids actually accusing me being pregnant.
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  Speaker 1: Getting ready to tell us that she's pregnant again, are
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  Speaker 1: you pregnant, honey? So this conversation suddenly turns into a
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  Speaker 1: big discussion about pregnancy, and as you.
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  Speaker 2: Can tell, in our house, there's never just one speaker.
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  Speaker 1: We need a talking stick in our home. So then
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  Speaker 1: this happens. You've read there.
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  Speaker 2: So our eldest daughter has made it official. I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to be having a baby.
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  Speaker 1: In September.
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  Speaker 2: Chaos ensued following their announcements.
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  Speaker 1: What are you crying? So everyone's crying except one of
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  Speaker 1: the kids, our nineteen year old, the muso, the one
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  Speaker 1: who is so in touch with her feelings. Why she's crying?
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  Speaker 1: Why is crying? Why are you all crying? You're all crying?
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  Speaker 1: What the heck?
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  Speaker 2: And in case you're still wondering what the heck is
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  Speaker 2: going on right now, our son in law made it
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  Speaker 2: extremely clear.
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  Speaker 1: Baby, one of our kids has always been really softhearted.
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  Speaker 1: She cries at the drop of the hat. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: she's the most emotional kid in a really positive and
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  Speaker 1: delightful way most of the time that we that we
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  Speaker 1: have and as the reality sunk in, this is what happened.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't you grand didn't click.
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  Speaker 2: Seconds.
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  Speaker 1: Mommy and I are going to be grandparents. You're going
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  Speaker 1: to be older you.
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  Speaker 2: What I just loved about this experience was for Annie.
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  Speaker 2: It was these incremental aha moments. First and foremost, her
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  Speaker 2: sister is having a baby yep, and then she's going
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  Speaker 2: to be an auntie.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to be grandparents.
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  Speaker 2: But that had blew up even further for her when
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  Speaker 2: she realized that, man, we were going to be grandparents.
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  Speaker 2: It was just such a big moment.
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  Speaker 1: So in case this has just been a bit too much,
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  Speaker 1: and we apologize if it has been, because our family
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  Speaker 1: is a little extra. The short version is we're going
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  Speaker 1: to be grandparents. The short version, we're going to be grandparents.
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  Speaker 1: The news is out. It's official. Our daughter has given
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  Speaker 1: us full permission to announce it. On the podcast of
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  Speaker 1: the Dog wants to know what's going on? Do you
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  Speaker 1: know what something really funny has had And in terms
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  Speaker 1: of this whole whole thing, and Kylie, you remember this
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  Speaker 1: conversation happening some years ago. I think they've only just
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  Speaker 1: gotten married, and I said to them, what are your
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  Speaker 1: plans for a family? I mean, it's your life, it's
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  Speaker 1: your decision. Now, we don't have any say in it,
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  Speaker 1: but i'd just love to know what are your planning?
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  Speaker 1: What are you thinking about? And they said, oh, it's
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  Speaker 1: it's going to be good four or five years. Well,
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  Speaker 1: we'll certainly be waiting before we have any kids, and
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  Speaker 1: I kind of breathed the sigh of relief, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: that's great, because I want to be fifty or above
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  Speaker 1: before you have your first grandchild. Not my business, you
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  Speaker 1: have them whenever you want. But and they look at
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  Speaker 1: me funny, and I said, now, let me explain, because
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  Speaker 1: I want to be a grandpa who can be available,
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  Speaker 1: like when that kid's big enough to go after school.
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  Speaker 1: I want to ride my bike next to that kid
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  Speaker 1: as we'd ride off to school together. I want to
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  Speaker 1: do the school drop off on the pickup. And I
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  Speaker 1: want to be that involved grandparent. And I looked at
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  Speaker 1: the kids and I just said, and guys, right now,
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  Speaker 1: there's too much happening with happy families and with books
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  Speaker 1: and with TV shows. It's not something that I can
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  Speaker 1: really commit to for the next few years. So just
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  Speaker 1: take your time. It's okay, take your time. And that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: They've waited three years and we've still got another five
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  Speaker 1: years before the school run happens. But when I knew
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  Speaker 1: it was going to happen sooner than later, and I
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  Speaker 1: was actually dreading it. And I don't really know why,
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  Speaker 1: because the minute that we found out, I just I
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  Speaker 1: nearly burst into tears. I can't tell you how absolutely
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  Speaker 1: overwhelmingly thrilled and delighted I am to know that we're
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  Speaker 1: going to be grandparents and to know that we're going
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  Speaker 1: to have this little baby in our home again, that
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  Speaker 1: we get to huggle and squeeze and love like crazy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just so indescribably thrilled to find out. Even if
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  Speaker 1: I'm a bit younger than I wanted.
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  Speaker 2: To be, Well, you are being sheltered a little bit
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  Speaker 2: because since Chanell found out that she was pregnant. I
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  Speaker 2: have had text messages at two am this morning. I
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  Speaker 2: have had five am phone calls. She has been on
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  Speaker 2: my doorstep at any given moment. I get photos of
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  Speaker 2: everything she's eating. I get students about why her Pooh
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  Speaker 2: looks a certain way like I I hear it all.
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  Speaker 2: But what is so delightful is that she wants me
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  Speaker 2: to be a part of that space. She wants to
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  Speaker 2: share all of those moments, all of the changes that
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  Speaker 2: she's experiencing. And for anyone who's been pregnant, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like it happens in some ways so quickly, and yet
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  Speaker 2: a conversation just the other day, she's like, Mom, I
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  Speaker 2: feel like I have been pregnant forever.
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  Speaker 1: It's been like three and a half months forever. Look,
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  Speaker 1: I can't laugh. I'm the guy. I've never had to
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  Speaker 1: worry about this. It's a girl thing. So how are
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  Speaker 1: you feeling about it?
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  Speaker 2: I think what I'm most excited about is that Jared
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  Speaker 2: and Chanell's relationship has just blossomed and grown, and there
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  Speaker 2: is just so much solidarity in their love for each
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  Speaker 2: other and their desire to kind of move forward in
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  Speaker 2: their family, and that excite me. I'm kind of in awe.
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  Speaker 1: Of being old enough to be a grandma, no.
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  Speaker 2: Having the privilege of having a front row seat as
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  Speaker 2: this family grows, and to watch them just love each other.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm so excited about, is just watching that love.
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  Speaker 1: I just had a thought that I've not had until
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  Speaker 1: right this moment. We have six kids, six daughters. How
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  Speaker 1: many grandkids do you reckon we're going to end up with?
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  Speaker 1: I have no idea, Like we've got the potential to
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  Speaker 1: end up being responsible for the global population problems, right
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  Speaker 1: like that?
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  Speaker 2: Well, we put this in context because Shanell and Jarrett
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  Speaker 2: have been around us for a long time now, and
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  Speaker 2: it actually probably has been a little bit of a
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  Speaker 2: birth control.
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  Speaker 1: With all the kids driving everyone crazy. Clearly it didn't
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  Speaker 1: work well enough. What are you most excited about?
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  Speaker 2: I think I'm just most excited that she wants to
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  Speaker 2: include me in the process and that I actually get
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  Speaker 2: to just be with her side by side. In so
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  Speaker 2: many ways, it feels like reliving some of my own experiences,
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  Speaker 2: and yet it's an out of body experience because it's
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  Speaker 2: not mine, it's hers, and it's different. And being able
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  Speaker 2: to share with her some of the really hard learned
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  Speaker 2: lessons that I learned way too late and desperately want
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  Speaker 2: her to learn now and take care of herself and
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  Speaker 2: nurture and support herself and be able to ask for
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  Speaker 2: what she needs because it was something that I really
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  Speaker 2: struggled with as a young mum.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think would be the hardest thing.
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  Speaker 2: Watching her hurt?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Watching watching watching her go through the hard because while
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  Speaker 2: there's so much beautiful, there is so much hard And
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  Speaker 2: knowing that while I can support her, the reality is
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  Speaker 2: she actually has to go through that hard.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. But you know what, that's where you grow, That's
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  Speaker 1: the good stuff. That's why you're who you are because
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  Speaker 1: of the hard stuff That you've been through anyway, that's arounsdment.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm most nervous about the thing that
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  Speaker 1: I think is going to be the hardest. I reckon
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  Speaker 1: you can guess what is going to be the hardest
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  Speaker 1: for me. You're not going to guess. I thought you'd
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  Speaker 1: be able to guess that one.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm more scared of penises. To be honest, I
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  Speaker 2: haven't had to change one of those nappies.
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  Speaker 1: Well, what I'm most worried about is that I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to want to try to be the parenting expert, and
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  Speaker 1: we're going to have a son in law or a
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  Speaker 1: daughter who looks at us and says, would you just
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  Speaker 1: stop telling us how to do it and let us
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  Speaker 1: figure it out for ourselves. And yet I feel like
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  Speaker 1: there's so much at stake, and there's that opportunity to say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: we've been there, and I've got a book about that. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I've got a book about that as well, and look,
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  Speaker 1: I've got a book about this. I think that's going
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  Speaker 1: to be the hardest thing. I hope I hope that
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  Speaker 1: our relationships such that they're inclined to and talk with
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  Speaker 1: us about things, because it's going to be really hard
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  Speaker 1: for him to buy my tongue. I'm just saying, it's
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  Speaker 1: really gonna be a tough one. Glad to put it
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  Speaker 1: out there in my tongue, get bitten off. It's a
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  Speaker 1: happy day for us, and we're so grateful to be
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  Speaker 1: able to share it with you. We hope that you
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  Speaker 1: don't mind this moment of self indulgence on The Happy
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  Speaker 1: Family's podcast. But we're going to be grandparents. What are
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  Speaker 1: you going to be called? Do you know what the
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  Speaker 1: grandchild will be calling you?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I know what they're calling you.
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  Speaker 1: What are they calling me? You're Papa and Papa, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: Papa as really Papa.
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  Speaker 2: Chanelle as a young girl, used to call you Papa smurf.
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  Speaker 2: She did know how it ever starts you are still
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  Speaker 2: Papa Smurf in her phone.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm going to be really, you are right, So
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be papa.
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  Speaker 2: So you're going to be Papa, and I think does something.
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  Speaker 1: You'll be Nona, No, don't. We don't have Italian heritage here.
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  Speaker 2: Our kids' grandparents are nanny and Poppy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Nana pop yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I grew up with a papa and a nana,
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  Speaker 2: But I don't just I don't feel like any of
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  Speaker 2: those spit me and I'm not granny.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I was about to say, that's all we got
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  Speaker 1: time for grandma.
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  Speaker 2: So I think I'm going to be mama.
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  Speaker 1: Mama, yeah, mamma, mamma.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so you're going to be papa and I think
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to be mamma.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we'll find out as things progress. Now, we just
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  Speaker 1: hope and pray and cross everything that the pregnancy progresses
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  Speaker 1: well and that we are fortunate enough to have a
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  Speaker 1: healthy baby add to our family. Soon it'll be the
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  Speaker 1: Happy Families podcast with me doctor Justin Coulson and you
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  Speaker 1: missus Happy Families. The moment who our six kids and
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  Speaker 1: grandparent to one? How exciting? Thanks so much for listening.
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  Speaker 1: The Happy Family's podcast is produced by Justin Roland from
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  Speaker 1: Bridge Media. He really had his work cutout for him
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  Speaker 1: pulling together the audio from the chaos of that announcement.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, j R. For your great work. Our executive
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  Speaker 1: producer is Craig Bruce. He's the one who said make
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  Speaker 1: sure you record the announcement. And I don't know if JR.
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  Speaker 1: Likes Craig anymore because of that. If you like more
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  Speaker 1: information about making your family happier. Please visit us at
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  Speaker 1: happy families dot com. Oh and if you know someone
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  Speaker 1: who is expecting, I've written a book. It's called Dad's
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  Speaker 1: Guide to Pregnancy for Dummies. This is a book that
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  Speaker 1: is now on our son in law's bedside table, and
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  Speaker 1: I know that they have started reading it together. It's
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  Speaker 1: all about pregnancy and labor and how dads can actually
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  Speaker 1: be useful during that process. You might want to check
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  Speaker 1: it out online wherever you buy books, or at happy
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  Speaker 1: families dot com. Do au