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Keep Calm and Curry On — The Sweet Taste of Failure · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to a Happy Famili's podcast, Real Parenting Solutions,
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Speaker 1: every single day on Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. Today,
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Speaker 1: we put ourselves under the microscope, as we do every Friday,
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Speaker 1: and share ways that we can be more intentional trying
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Speaker 1: to get it right. My story the biggest fail I
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Speaker 1: have ever had in my efforts to make our family happier.
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Speaker 1: You're laughing because you know what's coming. Oh my goodness,
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Speaker 1: did I get this wrong?
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Speaker 2: Oh?
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Speaker 1: Like, it's so wrong. What's your one? I don't know
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Speaker 1: what you're going to talk about today.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to talk about real love.
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Speaker 1: Huh And you're saying with a smile on your face,
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Speaker 1: which makes me think that it's something else.
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Speaker 2: Oh.
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Speaker 1: We've got a couple of big news items as well
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Speaker 1: coming up right after the break. Stay with us. Hello,
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Speaker 1: Thanks so much for joining us on the Happy Families podcast,
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Speaker 1: Real Pairing Solutions every single day. It's Australia's most downloaded
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Speaker 1: parenting podcast. If you knew here, we really appreciate you
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Speaker 1: being with us. Every Friday, we put ourselves under the microscope.
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Speaker 1: We have a close look at everything we've done ideally right,
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Speaker 1: but frankly quite often wrong and try to be better tomorrow.
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Speaker 1: Hence the title of our Friday podcast, I'll do Better Tomorrow, Kylie,
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Speaker 1: before we crack on with our stories, yours and mine.
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Speaker 1: New South Wales HSC exams they started today I think,
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Speaker 1: or maybe it was yesterday, one of the two. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: New South Wales HSC exams Year twelve. It's on like
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Speaker 1: Donkey Kong, and next week and the week after other
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Speaker 1: states fall into line and start to put the year
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Speaker 1: twelve students under the pub We did an awesome podcast
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Speaker 1: on Monday morning about the year twelve exam season, What matters,
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Speaker 1: what doesn't, how to survive it if you've got older
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Speaker 1: kids or kids that are maybe heading there next year.
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Speaker 1: This is definitely worth a listen right now though we
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Speaker 1: need to talk about Oh sorry, there's one more bit
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Speaker 1: of news. This is so exciting. The other week on
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Speaker 1: I'll Do Better Tomorrow, you were talking about how our
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Speaker 1: eldest daughter has started reading my books. She pick up
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Speaker 1: Relationship Rules, started reading it, decided that she needed to
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Speaker 1: put some more water in the role relationship bucket, not
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Speaker 1: that she has with her daughter, but that she has
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Speaker 1: with her husband. Just as good as far as I'm concerned.
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Speaker 1: Then her whole friendship group started to get into the
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Speaker 1: whole relationship bucket thing and started talking about it. I
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Speaker 1: didn't know this, but I found out just the other
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Speaker 1: night when Chanelle and Jared came over for dinner with Indy.
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Speaker 1: That's our daughter and son in law and our granddaughter.
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Speaker 1: For those who are new to the pod, turns out
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Speaker 1: that Jared's gym buddy, bodybuilder Nathan, is a Happy Family's
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Speaker 1: podcast listener, and apparently last week you made him cry.
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Speaker 1: You literally got him weepy as you were telling that.
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Speaker 2: Sorry, Nathan.
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Speaker 1: So Nathan, I mean, this guy's like huge. You can
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Speaker 1: imagine standing there doing bicep curls and trying you as
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Speaker 1: he listens to your story in the gym. Nathan was
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Speaker 1: so sorry.
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Speaker 2: That's terrible.
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Speaker 1: And also, we've had some landscaping done in our yard
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Speaker 1: just recently, and it's.
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Speaker 2: Not very often I get stopped, but you got stopped.
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Speaker 2: I've been away and I came in. I drove in
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Speaker 2: the driveway and one of the lands escapers came up
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Speaker 2: to me and he said, I just have to come
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Speaker 2: and thank you. And I'm looking at and going we
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Speaker 2: haven't even met. What have I done?
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Speaker 1: You're paying my wages for the week, and we've got
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Speaker 1: a job landscaping things.
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Speaker 2: So I'm looking at the gardens thinking what have I done?
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Speaker 2: And he said, he said, I've been listening to your
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Speaker 2: podcast for a couple of years here now, and he said,
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Speaker 2: the work that you and Justin do has literally changed
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Speaker 2: the relationships I had with my children and my wife.
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Speaker 1: How did he know it was you? Did he recognize
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Speaker 1: you from the photo and the image on the podcast.
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Speaker 2: He read the name on the job sheet and he
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Speaker 2: was like, no, way right. He was so excited to
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Speaker 2: come here.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I gave him a couple of books and
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Speaker 1: one of the other guys as well, Ned, So Ned
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Speaker 1: and Will were working in our yard and Ned said
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Speaker 1: that Will has got him onto the podcast. So Ned
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Speaker 1: and we love what you did in our garden. Thank you.
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Speaker 1: We love it and we hope that you enjoy the books. Hey,
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Speaker 1: while we're on this as well, it was my fiftieth
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Speaker 1: birthday in the last week or so. I've lost count
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Speaker 1: of the days. It was like eight or nine days
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Speaker 1: ago or something like that. And you, with the help
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Speaker 1: of Mim Hammonds who looks after all of it, admin
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Speaker 1: and research and other support for the pod, got a
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Speaker 1: hold of a whole bunch of Happy Families listeners and
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Speaker 1: Happy Families members and asked them to say nice things
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Speaker 1: about me, and they did. And it was so nice
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Speaker 1: to sit around the dining table as you read out
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Speaker 1: everybody's messages about how the podcast and how the work
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Speaker 1: that we do has made an impact in their lives.
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Speaker 1: What a treat. I mean, a life well lived has
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Speaker 1: nothing to do with where you live, or what kind
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Speaker 1: of car you drive, or even the holidays you take
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Speaker 1: or what your bank balance is. It comes down to
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Speaker 1: relationships and the people that you're able to influence an effect.
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Speaker 1: And I sat there and I felt a little bit
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Speaker 1: funny hearing all of these people saying nice things about me,
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Speaker 1: But most of all, I just sat there and felt
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Speaker 1: so grateful. What a privilege, what a gift it is
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Speaker 1: to be able to do this podcast to make a
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Speaker 1: difference in people's lives. So to everyone who's listening, we
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Speaker 1: really appreciate that you give us your time each day
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Speaker 1: so that we can try to make your family happier.
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Speaker 1: It makes our life feel like it's a life well lived.
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Speaker 1: Oh and I've got to quickly mention over the last
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Speaker 1: couple of weeks. I have done a lot of travel.
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Speaker 1: I've been home for the last few days, but my goodness,
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Speaker 1: I was in Kratha, i was in Perth for a
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Speaker 1: couple of days. I was in regional New South Wales.
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Speaker 1: I've kind of been all over the place and it's
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Speaker 1: just been so much I love going to the regions.
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Speaker 1: Like being in Karatha. There's all these people coming up
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Speaker 1: to me who are saying, nobody ever comes to a
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Speaker 1: place like Kartha. That's like Western Australia's equivalent of Townsville.
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Speaker 1: It's just so far up north and it was thirty
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Speaker 1: nine degrees when I've got off the plane. But people
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Speaker 1: were so excited to come along and listen and participate.
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Speaker 1: Podcast listeners there as well, So a huge thank you
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Speaker 1: to everybody there. Kylie, we've done too much news. Let's
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Speaker 1: hear your story. You're older, but it's tomorrow your true
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Speaker 1: love story. What's going on here? I have no idea
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Speaker 1: where we're going with this. So our kids have.
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Speaker 2: Cousins from New South Wales and their holidays extended past
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Speaker 2: our holiday.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's always that one week overlap and then one
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Speaker 1: week we're there.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and your mum had come up to spend some
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Speaker 2: time with the cousins, and she invited Emily to come
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Speaker 2: down to the theme parks. We've got annual passes and
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Speaker 2: it makes it so easy for them to all to
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Speaker 2: get together and play and worth highlighting.
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Speaker 1: Though two hours, it's a solid two hour drive from
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Speaker 1: the Sunshine Coast to the first available theme park.
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Speaker 2: Well, when I told Emily what we were doing, she said,
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Speaker 2: how long do I have to sit in the car?
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Speaker 2: And when I told her, she looked at me with
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Speaker 2: kind of like pain in her face. She was like,
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Speaker 2: this is such a hard choice. Just had two hours
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Speaker 2: snapped to sit in the cup of two hours, but
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Speaker 2: I want to see my cousins. Anyway, she braved it.
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Speaker 2: We got in the car, we drove down and we
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Speaker 2: managed to convince your mom, who has never gone on
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Speaker 2: a ride with the kids before.
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Speaker 1: My mom is terrified. We went forward driving once with
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Speaker 1: my mum and I.
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Speaker 2: Think I still have the scars on my shoe.
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Speaker 1: She literally put her nails into your arms as she
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Speaker 1: held on to you and were just driving along the
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Speaker 1: sandy track. It's not like we were doing real full driving,
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Speaker 1: and she was like screaming ahead off So to get
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Speaker 1: my mum on a ride other than what the teacups,
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Speaker 1: which is like you sit there and it's a little oh.
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Speaker 2: That spins around and makes you feel really great.
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Speaker 1: That was too much for my mum. Yeah, I agree, Yep,
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Speaker 1: she won't. She won't do dodge and cars. She won't.
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Speaker 1: She won't do any kind of ride that has any
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Speaker 1: thrill at all. What do you call it? The carousel?
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Speaker 1: The carousel is as far as she'll go, where you
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Speaker 1: sit on the horse and you bob up and down
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Speaker 1: as you slowly spin around in that circle and hear
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Speaker 1: the music.
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Speaker 2: Well knowing bad, she did amazing because one of the
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Speaker 2: first rides the kids decided to go on was the
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Speaker 2: log ride. And I'm not a big ride person, but
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Speaker 2: I love the log ride. And it was so hot.
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Speaker 2: It was eleven o'clock. It was really hot, and I
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Speaker 2: was like, I'm going to go on that log ride
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Speaker 2: because I'm hoping I am going to get completely drenched.
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Speaker 1: H Queensland Spring, welcome to it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and shemmed an Ard and the kids. As soon
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Speaker 2: as I said I really think you should come on it.
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Speaker 2: You should have seen the kid's faces just like light up.
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Speaker 2: They then were you so excited? To think that she
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Speaker 2: would come, and when she finally agreed to it, they
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Speaker 2: were just they were speechless, like they really couldn't put
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Speaker 2: into words how excited they were that she was going
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Speaker 2: to join us.
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Speaker 1: And this is five grandkids age between like what eight
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Speaker 1: and twelve, eight and thirteen something like that. Yeah, just
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Speaker 1: jumping out of the skin. I wasn't there, but like,
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Speaker 1: I know how unusual it would be for my mum
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Speaker 1: to say that, So I can imagine.
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Speaker 2: So a log ride takes eight people, and there was
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Speaker 2: two girls behind us, your mum's in front of them,
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Speaker 2: and the entire they had an entire mouthful. The entire time,
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Speaker 2: your mum was talking and screaming and squealing and saying,
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Speaker 2: you know, I can't believe you're making me do this.
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Speaker 2: This is the worst. And we were going through the
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Speaker 2: smooth bit at that point, but she had already seen
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Speaker 2: obviously the big crash that happens when you go down
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Speaker 2: the big slide coming out of the mountain, and we
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Speaker 2: got to that point and oh my gosh, she just
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Speaker 2: screamed the log log all the way down the hill.
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Speaker 2: But the kids just loved it, and at the end
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Speaker 2: of it, she said, okay, it wasn't It wasn't as
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Speaker 2: bad as I remember it. And she did it again, right,
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Speaker 2: she actually did it again.
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Speaker 1: The problem was, I'm trying to work out how this
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Speaker 1: ties in with your audio. But tomorrow your incredible loving
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Speaker 1: sacrifice other than that you stood in line at Warner
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Speaker 1: Brothers movie World.
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Speaker 2: Well that was the sponsored That was the preface because because.
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Speaker 1: I did that, like I think, I got three rides
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Speaker 1: in five hours when I did it last Holidays with them, I.
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Speaker 2: It was a really big deal for you, mum. But
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Speaker 2: halfway through the day the kids, a few of the
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Speaker 2: kids decided they wanted to go on the Joker.
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Speaker 1: The Joker is the best, the best ride. It is
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Speaker 1: so much fun.
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Speaker 2: So there's four kids, but only three want to go,
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Speaker 2: and nobody wants to ride next to a stranger. And
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Speaker 2: the kid who doesn't want to go rue he says, Annie, Kylie,
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Speaker 2: I think you should go on it. And I looked
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Speaker 2: at it and I said, oh, you have no idea.
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Speaker 2: There is no way I'm going on that ride. And
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Speaker 2: he said, Nan went on the.
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Speaker 1: Log ride, the log Ride of the Joker. They're not
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Speaker 1: even in the same universe.
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Speaker 2: They're not. But to him it was like Nan did it,
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Speaker 2: so you have to. Okay, I said, I'll make you
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Speaker 2: a deal. If you go on the Joker, I'll go too,
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Speaker 2: and he went, no way, not doing it anyway.
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Speaker 1: So twelve years old, three twelve.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we've still got three kids wanting to go
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Speaker 2: on a ride and one of them has to have
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Speaker 2: somebody else to go with them. And my mother in
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Speaker 2: law looked at me and she just said, you better
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Speaker 2: do it. So I stood in that line for probably
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Speaker 2: an hour, and the entire time I thought I was
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Speaker 2: going to vomit. I honestly, Oh my god.
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Speaker 1: This is exactly like. This is literally it's the way
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Speaker 1: our psychology works. We tell ourselves these stories, we get
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Speaker 1: ourselves worked up. It's all in your head. You rang me.
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Speaker 2: The kids are laughing at me the whole time. They
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Speaker 2: can see like I have no color in my face.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I rang you. I was asking what you're
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Speaker 1: up to, and you said I'm five minutes from dying.
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Speaker 1: You had like there were three more rides and it
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Speaker 1: was going to be you on the Joker, and you
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Speaker 1: said I'm going to be dead soon. It's been nice
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Speaker 1: knowing you, or something like that.
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Speaker 2: No, I said, if I don't make it out alive.
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Speaker 2: I just want you to know you were the best
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Speaker 2: thing that ever happened to me.
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Speaker 1: I should have said that better, because that is a really,
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Speaker 1: really beautiful thing to say.
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Speaker 2: And you told me to ring you back after the.
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Speaker 1: Back and tell me how much you enjoyed it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you'd be.
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Speaker 1: Great, Yeah, so amazing.
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Speaker 2: I didn't ring you back, and you might have run
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Speaker 2: me three times before I finally picked up.
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Speaker 1: Yes, and you picked up and you made it sound
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Speaker 1: like an answering machine.
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Speaker 2: And I may have said something along the lines of
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Speaker 2: This is a recording of Kylie Coulson. I died on
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Speaker 2: the Joker. I'm done, I'm done, And you cracked up,
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Speaker 2: you laughed, you made fun of me all afternoon.
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Speaker 1: How much fun is the Joker?
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Speaker 2: It was so bad? So I actually looked up because
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Speaker 2: your mum went on the log ride and then she
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Speaker 2: did actually go on the Flight of the Wicked Witch.
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Speaker 2: That ride goes at sixty seven kilometers an hour.
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Speaker 1: The log ride would be like thirty five, Yeah, crazy.
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Speaker 2: The Joker at maximum speed one hundred and fifteen kilometers
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Speaker 2: per hour. That thing flies. And you know how like
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Speaker 2: on the old roller coasters you used to have the
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Speaker 2: kind of like lulls in the ride. You'd have these
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Speaker 2: big corkscrews or you know, you do the loop, but
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Speaker 2: then there'd be a little bit of time where you
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Speaker 2: kind of adjusted. No, yes, this thing just doesn't stop.
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Speaker 2: It was so fast.
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Speaker 1: You know that you drive fast than that on the freeway.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't turn upside down and.
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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, and my bum kept lifting off the seats.
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Speaker 3: I actually said to the lady as she locked me in,
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Speaker 3: I said, how many people die on this thing?
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Speaker 1: So what's your take on message? Missus? Happy families, because
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Speaker 1: this has been the longest story you've ever told. It
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Speaker 1: was clearly it was clearly a big deal for you.
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Speaker 2: It was a really big deal for me. You know,
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Speaker 2: ultimately everything we do is about our kids, right, And
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Speaker 2: I actually really really don't like going on rides.
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Speaker 1: It makes me feel we got that. Yeah, we definitely
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Speaker 1: got that.
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Speaker 2: But seeing those kids' faces light up, yeah because I
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Speaker 2: did something, and listening to them constantly giving me the
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Speaker 2: pep talk. I believe in you, Artie, Kaylie, you can
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Speaker 2: do It was just such a beautiful bonding experience. I
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Speaker 2: will never go on that thing ever again, but they'll
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Speaker 2: have the memory that I did do it nice.
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Speaker 1: After the break, the biggest disaster that I have ever
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Speaker 1: been in charge of. Find out more ever, Yeah, stay
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Speaker 1: with us, Okay, it's time for my I'll do better tomorrow.
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Speaker 1: I can actually do this one fairly quickly. I have
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Speaker 1: decided that because I'm traveling a little bit less for
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Speaker 1: the next few weeks, that I want to contribute a
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Speaker 1: whole lot more around the house. I finished the manuscript
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Speaker 1: for my book. That feels really good. So I've got
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Speaker 1: a little bit of margin, not heaps, but I've got
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Speaker 1: a little bit of margin where I can get involved
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Speaker 1: in the kitchen and start doing a bit of the
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Speaker 1: stuff that really means a lot to me, like helping
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Speaker 1: you with the stuff that you would normally do under
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Speaker 1: our typical division of labor, and spending more time with
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Speaker 1: the kids. So I can't remember what day it was
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Speaker 1: or why, but I was cooking. Oh it was the
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Speaker 1: day you're at theme parks, that's right, And I said,
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Speaker 1: I've got dinner. Don't worry, I'm really looking forward to it.
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Speaker 1: What time we be home. You're gonna be home at
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Speaker 1: seven o'clock. Fantastic, It'll be ready at seven. I spent
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Speaker 1: two to two and a half hours cooking this red
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Speaker 1: tie curry. There's the recipe in the book. I was
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Speaker 1: so busy in the office that I got our twenty
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Speaker 1: one year old daughter Ella to read out the recipe,
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Speaker 1: go through the cupboard and the fridge, make sure we
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Speaker 1: had everything, and just give me a shopping list of
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Speaker 1: what we didn't have. I raced out of the shops,
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Speaker 1: I grabbed what I needed. There was one item on
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Speaker 1: the list that wasn't properly written. She wrote two cans
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Speaker 1: of unsweetened and then she didn't write what needed to
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Speaker 1: be unsweetened, two cans of unsweetened something. And I had
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Speaker 1: no idea what it was. And so I gave her
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Speaker 1: a quick call and I said, what, what do I need?
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Speaker 1: Two cans of unsweetened what? And she said, hang on
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Speaker 1: a second check. And she came back to me like
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Speaker 1: four seconds later and said condensed milk. And I was like, okay.
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Speaker 1: I went into the condensed milk aisle and I'm looking
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Speaker 1: for unsweetened condensed milk. I'm thinking that doesn't make sense.
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Speaker 1: Condensed milk is sweet anyway. I pick up two cans
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Speaker 1: of sweet and condensed milk because there was no one
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Speaker 1: sweetened condensed milk. I came home totally on autopilot and
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Speaker 1: just started cooking this mealk. Lots and lots of preparation.
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Speaker 1: This takes a long time to prepare this curry. And
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Speaker 1: I remember as I was tipping the condensed milk into
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Speaker 1: the curry, I was just so much on an autopole.
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Speaker 1: I was annoyed that it wasn't coming out fast enough.
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Speaker 1: So I got the spatchelor and spooned all the condensed
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Speaker 1: milk into the curry. I've got all the vegetables cooking,
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Speaker 1: I've got just the stock, the whole thing. It was perfect.
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Speaker 1: And then just before you walked in the door, like
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Speaker 1: whenever you put any milk into something that you cook
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Speaker 1: on the stove, if it boils, you get this curd
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Speaker 1: all effect and it's really horrible. And unfortunately, because I
15:41
Speaker 1: was trying to do too many things, I curdled the
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Speaker 1: milk and I was just so so upset and it
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Speaker 1: looked horrendous. But while I'm washing my hands and getting
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Speaker 1: ready to come in for dinner, you are having a
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Speaker 1: little chat with the kids.
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Speaker 2: I've looked at this thing. I have never seen like
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Speaker 2: curdled like it was. This. This looked like when you
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Speaker 2: have baking.
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Speaker 1: It looks like somebody had vomited. That's what it looked
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Speaker 1: like when you've got.
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Speaker 2: Baking soda and you add it to your butter mix
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Speaker 2: and it blows up and gets all puffy and then
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Speaker 2: just kind of settles. It was like really foamy. And
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Speaker 2: I've looked at it and I've said to the girls,
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Speaker 2: dad's tried really hard on dinner. It looks disgusting. He's
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Speaker 2: absolutely destroyed it, and we are going to eat it
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Speaker 2: with a smile on our face. And they looked at
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Speaker 2: me and they were like, okay, mom, yep, we've got this.
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Speaker 2: I said, it looks terrible, but it will taste fine.
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Speaker 1: It literally looked it looked like vomit. It was horrendous.
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Speaker 2: But so I've put it into the bowls and we've
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Speaker 2: sat down, We've said a prayer, and I've taken my
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Speaker 2: first bites and it tasted like chicken dessert. It was
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Speaker 2: carrot and so sweet. I thought I was going to
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Speaker 2: be sick, like it was so.
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Speaker 1: Sweet cans of Condon's milk, and what do you think you?
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Speaker 2: And I looked at it. I was trying so hard
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Speaker 2: because I wanted to pump you up and I looked
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Speaker 2: at you, and I said, how much sugar did you
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Speaker 2: put in this?
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Speaker 1: And I said, and you.
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Speaker 2: Said, I didn't put any sugar in it. I just
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Speaker 2: put two cans of condensed milk. I just about spat
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Speaker 2: my food out onto the plate, and I've got up
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Speaker 2: just khacking. I mean, honestly, I've walked over to the
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Speaker 2: recipe to think, how on earth milk from coconut milk?
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Speaker 2: And I couldn't read condensed anywhere. There was no condensed nothing.
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Speaker 1: And then I saw coconut milk, and I went, oh,
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Speaker 1: we're having pizza tonight.
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Speaker 2: But you know what was so great about this story? Honestly,
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Speaker 2: I don't think our family has laughed as much as
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Speaker 2: we did that night. It could have been a disaster.
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Speaker 2: You could have been up in arms and all frustrated
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Speaker 2: and angry, and it could have just been an absolute nightmare.
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Speaker 2: It was just hilarious. And I grew up in a
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Speaker 2: home where that wouldn't have happened, Like we wouldn't have
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Speaker 2: laughed about that. And I was just at the end
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Speaker 2: of the night, after having the massive day that I
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Speaker 2: had where I almost died, and coming home to your
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Speaker 2: experience of destroying dinner I just thought, how awesome, how
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Speaker 2: awesome that, in spite of it all, we can sit
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Speaker 2: down and we can just have a really good laugh
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Speaker 2: about how terrible that was. You know, that was one
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Speaker 2: of our favorite dinners until you cooked it.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yep. But because this episode's called I'd be better tomorrow.
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Speaker 1: On the next night, I cooked it again, and this
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Speaker 1: time I did coconut milk, and everyone ede it and
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Speaker 1: no one complained and I didn't even hurdle it. I
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Speaker 1: got it right, which my take on message means is
18:46
Speaker 1: that if we keep on trying, we can eventually get
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Speaker 1: it right. We've gone way over time on this podcast,
18:50
Speaker 1: but we're so glad that you listen, and we hope
18:52
Speaker 1: that it gave you some entertainment. We hope that it
18:54
Speaker 1: gave you some inspiration for just connecting better with your
18:57
Speaker 1: kids and with your partner and wife loved ones. Family
19:02
Speaker 1: life is so messy. Family life is so hard, and
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Speaker 1: family life requires so many sacrifices, and yet if you
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Speaker 1: want to have a happy family, I've actually worked out
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Speaker 1: that it's taken me this many years. But if you
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Speaker 1: want to have a happy family, you've got to laugh.
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Speaker 1: Laughter makes family life happy. If you're not laughing, then
19:19
Speaker 1: it's just not nearly as happy. So when you do
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Speaker 1: ruin dinner tonight or tomorrow night, or when one of
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Speaker 1: the kids does do something stupid, when you have to
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Speaker 1: make a sacrifice that you find really uncomfortable, if you
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Speaker 1: can find a way to laugh about it and then
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Speaker 1: you can do better tomorrow, it's amazing, Like it just
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Speaker 1: becomes so enriching, so soul stretching and soul enlarging, and gosh,
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Speaker 1: I just feel like I could wax lyrical about it,
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Speaker 1: on Monday talking about what you should do when the
20:04
Speaker 1: kids break something but they didn't mean it. How do
20:09
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