72. EMDR for perfectionism

The EMDR Doctor Podcast · Jul 12, 2026 · 21m

In this episode, Dr. Caroline Lloyd explores perfectionism not as a simple drive for high standards, but as a fear-based defense. Perfectionism often functions as protection against shame— “if I’m perfect, I won’t be criticized, rejected, or deemed not good enough”. Perfectionism often develops in childhood, and can become an exhausting adaptation that evolves into a vicious cycle: high standards yield occasional rewards and social admiration, which reinforce the behaviour even as it drains energy, and impedes relaxation and authentic performance. EMDR therapy can address the underlying…