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Letting Go With Love: Signs It’s Time to Choose Yourself · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Maybe we're just going through a rough patch. Maybe it'll
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  Speaker 1: get better. We tend to feel guilty when we're about
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  Speaker 1: to let someone go. It could be a friend, a
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  Speaker 1: romantic partner, a crush, a family member or even a
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  Speaker 1: colleague at work. You might feel like you are making
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  Speaker 1: the wrong decision or being a little extra. Especially if
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  Speaker 1: it's a relationship you have poured so much of your
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  Speaker 1: time and emotions into. But whether you initiated the separation
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  Speaker 1: or you are considering doing so, here are some signs
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  Speaker 1: that letting them go is the best decision ever. A
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  Speaker 1: valid reason to end a relationship with someone is when
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  Speaker 1: it has become a huge distraction from your aspirations. The
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  Speaker 1: moment you begin to lose sight of who you are
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  Speaker 1: and find yourself sacrificing all your time and energy in
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  Speaker 1: pleasing and satisfying them, is the moment it may be
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  Speaker 1: in your best interest to go your separate ways for
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  Speaker 1: you to get your focus back. Research from Ashley E.
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  Speaker 1: Mason at the University of Arizona had even found that
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  Speaker 1: people experience a new sense of identity and direction after
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  Speaker 1: a breakup. This same result applies to platonic and formal
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  Speaker 1: associations that have grown to become somewhat toxic. Different Values
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  Speaker 1: and Beliefs Although it can be thrilling in the beginning
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  Speaker 1: to be with someone who holds a different worldview, eventually
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  Speaker 1: some lines just can't be blurred anymore. You both have
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  Speaker 1: to agree on certain aspects of life and convictions. Differences
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  Speaker 1: in political, moral, societal or religious values can lead to
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  Speaker 1: conflicts and resentment, which is not beneficial for either of you.
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  Speaker 1: Do you relate to these reasons? Like, share and subscribe
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  Speaker 1: for more. Do you want the same things as them?
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  Speaker 1: Living in the moment with someone can be fun. but
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  Speaker 1: there are some things to consider as your relationship progresses.
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  Speaker 1: Depending on what the big life goals are, if they
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  Speaker 1: don't align, this can be a deal-breaker, says licensed marriage
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  Speaker 1: and family therapist Heidi McBain to Bustle. If they're thinking
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  Speaker 1: of pursuing a profession that ties them to one place
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  Speaker 1: while you want to travel the world, it's difficult for
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  Speaker 1: your futures to align. Differences in your career paths and
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  Speaker 1: personal goals and an unwillingness to compromise for one another
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  Speaker 1: are valid reasons to let someone go. Even if the
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  Speaker 1: relationship continued, you might end up regretting tagging along altogether
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  Speaker 1: if it meant sacrificing your wants and dreams for them.
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  Speaker 1: It is abusive. Another deal breaker for a relationship and
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  Speaker 1: an intolerable excuse is abuse. Abuse can be physical or
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  Speaker 1: emotional and if there are potential instances of domestic violence
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  Speaker 1: or manipulation, then you have every right to end the relationship.
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  Speaker 1: You deserve better and walking away is the right thing
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  Speaker 1: to do. If you're interested in learning more about what
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  Speaker 1: constitutes abuse, feel free to check out our video on
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  Speaker 1: emotional abuse available on our channel. You have outgrown them.
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  Speaker 1: Are they still acting the same way as when you
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  Speaker 1: were children? One reason to let someone go is when
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  Speaker 1: they are comfortable at a level you have outgrown. This
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  Speaker 1: doesn't make them bad people, but you just happen to
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  Speaker 1: want more out of them and out of yourself. People
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  Speaker 1: grow and change at different times and in different ways,
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  Speaker 1: writes psychologist Leslie Becker Phelps. As much as you try,
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  Speaker 1: you cannot force people to grow along with you, and
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  Speaker 1: sometimes maintaining these relationships can prevent you from living up
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  Speaker 1: to your best self. Know that some people come into
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  Speaker 1: your life for a season, and once that season comes
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  Speaker 1: to an end, so does their time in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Although they will always have a place in your heart,
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  Speaker 1: it's okay to prioritize your own growth and well-being. It
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  Speaker 1: just isn't working. Sometimes there might not even be concrete
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  Speaker 1: reasons you can point to. You just weren't happy and
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  Speaker 1: fulfilled in the friendship or relationship. You may feel frustrated
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  Speaker 1: and guilty because the relationship is perfect on paper. Yet
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  Speaker 1: for some reason, the real thing doesn't feel right and
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  Speaker 1: you just can't tell what it is. Cutting ties with
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  Speaker 1: them doesn't make you cruel, petty or dumb. If you
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  Speaker 1: communicated your feelings in a clear and empathetic manner, you
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  Speaker 1: have committed no crime. Your inner gut spoke and you listened.
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  Speaker 1: Walking away from someone you genuinely care for can be painful,
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  Speaker 1: especially if you are the one initiating the separation. However,
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  Speaker 1: you must remember all the reasons you had for making
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  Speaker 1: the decision in the first place. The art of letting
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  Speaker 1: go is one of the most empowering things a person
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  Speaker 1: can master. It is an integral part of adulthood. If anything,
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  Speaker 1: it shows you have a high level of self-awareness, self-love
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  Speaker 1: and responsibility to make the best decisions that matter to
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  Speaker 1: your personal growth and journey. Need more signs it is
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  Speaker 1: time to let go? Watch this video to find out
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  Speaker 1: if you have become overly attached to someone.