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Boys to Men - Discipline · Health and Healing Dealing with Trauma and Addictions

• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: Hey guys, once again it's your man Mike D.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, I just want to welcome you to a new podcast.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_00: We're going to talk a little bit today about boys to men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sounds like a simple concept, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The transition from a boy to a man requires replacing impulse and short-term comfort with self-control, accountability for a long-term purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boys chase impulse.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are young, discipline primarily comes from outside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the goal of parenting is to train you in the way that you should go in order that you might learn how to train yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men practice restraint.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boys chase impulse.
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  SPEAKER_00: People look for the shortcut, the hack.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you come here looking for that, you won't find it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The shortcut is a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: The hack doesn't get you there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you want to take the easy road, it won't take you to where you want to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're going into a dead end.
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  SPEAKER_00: There must be discipline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of our boys and youth, they don't need spoiling, they need love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spoiling and love are two distinct things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spoiling rewards bad behavior with gifts, freedoms, and privileges.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spoiling is about doing anything and everything to stay in the good graces of our kids, primarily our sons.
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  SPEAKER_00: It speaks of your emotional insecurities and immaturities as a dad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love, however, is nurturing and affection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love comes in the form of discipline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love can be a father being a stern father with his son and being consistent until the behavior is corrected.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love is validating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love is what's making your sons earn his privilege when he breaks your rules.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love is disciplining your child when you are tired and don't want to get up and do anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yet you know that it must be done.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love reminds him who pays the bills and who pays them all.
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  SPEAKER_00: So get up and discipline them while you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is discipline?
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  SPEAKER_00: The root of all good qualities, the driver of daily execution.
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  SPEAKER_00: The core principle that overcomes laziness and lethargic and excuses.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline defeats the infinite excuses that say not today, not now, not ever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Parents are to drive foolishness, rebellion against God and his word from your hearts with the rod of correction and the instructions of righteousness.
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  SPEAKER_00: That can be found in Proverbs twenty three, thirteen, fourteen, twenty nine, and fifteen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline is a fight, a fight against a disorganized self that is resistant to change or correction.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-discipline is key to accomplish your life's mission.
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  SPEAKER_00: Indeed, self-discipline is a fundamental part of your whole mission.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline begins then with self-knowledge.
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  SPEAKER_00: You must know who you are and what you were designated to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You must recognize your limits and work within them to maximize your potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: Knowing your boundaries aids you in determining your focus, keeping you from setting your eyes on the end of the earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proverbs 17 24.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thinking you can be whatever you want, you are wasting your time and energy on the worthless pursuits.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't discipline yourself to stay within your God given boundaries, you're setting yourself up for failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sounds like a simple concept, right?
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's just not that simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: The concept of discipline is a simple one.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the practice of discipline that is difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is difficult to say no to what you want to do at that particular time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why is the practice so difficult then?
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  SPEAKER_00: When it came right down to it, men just don't want to do what is necessary to get the results they desire.
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  SPEAKER_00: They want to keep doing what they are doing, trying to achieve different results.
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  SPEAKER_00: They will whine, complain, and moan, not because the answer is complicated, but because the work is difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your emotions must not be what trains or guides you.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you grow and mature, the benefits of discipline are numerous.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline reduces anxiety because you have a focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know who you are and what you are doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not being pushed and pulled by every whim or wimp that comes along.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anxiety is created when you feel that you are out of control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline doesn't allow what everyone else thinks and demands of you to control you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline cultivates strength.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline makes you productive.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are a warrior.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline is the path to victory and freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline yourself to receive wisdom by learning to listen to good counsel, not being arrogant.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline yourself physically to maintain a healthy body and sharp mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline your minds through reading, study, and listening to that which contributes to your mission.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline your emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make them the servant.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discipline yourself so that you may be free.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_00: Talk a little bit about a few habits that turn boys into men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Taking responsibility, developing self discipline, seeking continuous growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Real men understand the importance of taking responsibility for their actions and decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: This habit goes beyond simply admitting when they are wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: It involves owning up to the consequences of their choice and working to make amends.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't make excuses or blame others for their circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, they face challenges head on and use their experience as learning opportunities.
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  SPEAKER_00: By taking responsibility, they build credibility and trust with others, which is foundational for any meaningful relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: This practice fosters maturity and accountability, setting the stage for personal and professional growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Taking responsibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-discipline is a cornerstone habit that men cultivate in all areas of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: They set clear, achievable goals and establish effective routines to reach them.
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  SPEAKER_00: This involves prioritizing long-term benefits over short-term pleasures, such as maintaining a healthy lifestyle, managing finances wisely, or advancing in their careers.
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  SPEAKER_00: By mastering self-discipline, they develop the ability to stay focused and resilient in the face of distractions and setbacks.
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  SPEAKER_00: This habit empowers them to make consistent progress towards their aspirations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilled and purposeful life, developing self-discipline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men are committed to personal growth and lifelong learning.
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  SPEAKER_00: They actively seek new knowledge, skills, and experiences, understanding that growth is a continuous purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: They embrace challenges and step out of their comfort zone to push their boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: This habit includes reading, attending workshops, learning new hobbies, or seeking mentorship.
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  SPEAKER_00: By constantly pushing themselves to improve, they become more adaptable and innovative, capable of navigating an ever-changing world.
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  SPEAKER_00: This commitment to growth not only enhances their own lives, but also positively impacts those around them.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about cultivating emotional intelligence, showing respect, practicing integrity, and embracing leadership?
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  SPEAKER_00: Emotional intelligence is crucial for building strong, meaningful relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men develop self-awareness, allow them to understand their emotions and the impact they have on others.
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  SPEAKER_00: They regulate their emotions effectively, ensuring that their reactions are appropriate and constructive.
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  SPEAKER_00: By empathizing with others, they build deeper connections and navigate social complexities with ease.
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  SPEAKER_00: Effective communication and mature conflict resolutions are key aspects of this habit, fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding, cultivating emotional intelligence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Real men treat others with respect, regardless of their background or status.
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  SPEAKER_00: They listen attentively, value different perspectives.
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  SPEAKER_00: They treat everyone with dignity.
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  SPEAKER_00: This habit is about recognizing the inherent worth every individual and behaving in ways that reflect this understanding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Respect is earned through actions not demanded, and men who consistently show respect build stronger supportive networks both personally and professionally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Showing respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: Integrity involves upholding high moral and ethical standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men who practice integrity acts with honesty, honor, and consistency in their personal and professional lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: They value trust and are true to their word, ensuring that their actions align with their values and principles.
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  SPEAKER_00: This habit builds a reputation of reliability and respect, fostering trust and admiration from others, practicing integrity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Leadership is not about holding positions of power.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about taking initiatives and inspiring others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men who embrace leadership make decisions confidently, take responsibility for their outcome, and motivate those around them to achieve their full potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: They lead by example, demonstrating the behaviors and attitudes they wish to see in others.
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  SPEAKER_00: This habit involves empowering, contributing positively to family, worksplace, and communities, and striving to create a better environment for all, embracing leadership.