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Why This Show Exists · WILD SOUL ALCHEMY PODCAST

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  It's Monday morning. Your alarm clock goes off. You drag
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  yourself up out of bed. You get your kids fed. Get them dressed
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  out the door. Rush, rush, rush. You get through the week. You're
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  counting down to Friday. You count down to the next vacation.
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  You count down to when the kids are older, when things calm
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  down, and when you can finally breathe, and everyone around you
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  is doing the same exact thing, complaining about how tired they
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  are, how draining it all is, and then signing right back up for
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  it every single week, and you're sitting there like, "Am I the
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  only one who thinks this is fucking insane? You're not, and
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  that's why this podcast exists. Hi, I'm Ginger, and welcome to
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  Wild Soul Alchemy. This show is for the mom who doesn't have it
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  all mapped out. You don't have a perfect picture of the life you
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  want, but the way we're told to live, you grind all week, you
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  wait for your PTO. You hope life slows down someday so you can
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  finally enjoy it. You aren't the only one who feels like it's
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  bullshit. You just can't figure out why everyone keeps signing
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  up for it. If that's you, pull up a chair. You're in the right
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  place. So how I got here, and I'm going to talk about some
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  heavy stuff, including a time I didn't want to be here after
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  high school. I got my accounting degree because it came easy to
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  me. Numbers made sense, and when I did that career aptitude test
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  that they give us in high school and told us which jobs we'd be
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  good at and interested in, it led that way. Then I did my
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  internship and fell asleep at my desk every single day. Eight
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  hours of sitting still minus the 60-minute lunch, and it was
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  torturous. I thought there was something wrong with me, and I
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  needed to just suck it up because we're adults and we have
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  to be responsible, right? I got married. I had the kids. We had
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  a really nice neighborhood, and the house was big. We always had
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  cookouts. We kept the yard perfectly manicured. The
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  driveway was lined with nice vehicles. My kids were in
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  whatever sports they wanted to be in. We went to all the school
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  functions together. We made damn sure that our family looked like
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  we had our shit together. I worked hard on making the kids
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  shrink. Don't be too loud. Don't annoy people with things that
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  don't interest them. The point was to just fit in and be seen
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  as classy but easy to digest, because I thought how people saw
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  us would decide how easy life was for them, and I didn't have
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  an easy childhood. On paper, we had more than most people around
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  us, but yet I still felt empty, and I was miserable. I wanted to
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  escape this earth every day. I spent my days trying to figure
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  out how I would escape a planned fatal accident. That way, my
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  kids didn't think that it was had anything to do with them.
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  But I was afraid that I would become disabled and a bigger
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  burden to them. So, after about a year of actively thinking
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  about this, I woke up one day and I was like, "This is
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  bullshit. I can't leave my kids here on Earth to fight by
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  themselves. I don't even want to be here. So I was always a
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  problem solver, and instead of spending my energy trying to
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  escape this Earth, I decided I was going to figure out how to
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  build a life that I didn't want to escape from anymore. That was
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  a little over 10 years ago. I'm still on that journey. I'm still
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  building. And here's the thing: I didn't suddenly know what I
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  wanted instead of the life I was living. I had no clue. What I
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  did know was that I couldn't keep living for the weekend. I
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  couldn't keep putting my actual life on hold until some magical
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  someday when it would all slow down, so I started asking
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  questions like, "Who decided this is how life has to go? Who
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  made that rule, and will they come say it to my face? Because
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  most of the time, nobody's coming, nobody's enforcing it.
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  We're all just doing it because everyone else is.
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  I've had other Dark Knights of the Soul since then, and I've
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  shed so many different versions of me, which you'll hear about
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  throughout the season. Every version of me held on too long
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  to whatever plan I created, and that held me back. So I really
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  don't plan much anymore. I learned the biggest cause of
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  disappointment was having expectations. Anyways, speaking
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  of expectations, though, here's what the show is going to be.
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  I'm not going to tell you how to live your life. I don't have a
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  blueprint for you, and honestly, you don't need one. Remember,
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  expectations, plans fall apart, anyways. So you don't have to
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  have the whole picture figured out just to start. You just need
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  to be willing to question the picture you were handed. We're
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  going to talk about the rules you never agreed to, the
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  struggles of wanting something different, and what it looks
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  like to build a life you don't want to escape from. One
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  question at a time. It's going to be real. Sometimes messy,
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  sometimes I'll swear because I'm not here to be polished. I'm
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  here to be honest. So if there's one thing you're going to hear
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  me say over and over on the show, it's only one way to find
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  out. I say it to my friends. I say it even to my kid. I say it
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  to myself about 50 times a week, and I want to tell you why. I
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  think it's the one thing about my spirit I've never watered
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  down through all of this, and that's exactly what we're going
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  to get into the next episode. So go listen to that one right now
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  before you go. I want to say something. I shared some really
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  dark stuff today, heavy. I shared it because I know some of
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  you are sitting where I was sitting, and sometimes I still
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  visit. You're smiling at the cookout. You're smiling on the
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  outside. You look like you have it all together, but you're
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  still quietly wanting to escape this earth. And if that's you,
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  please hear me. You are not a burden. Your kids need you here,
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  and so does the version of you that hasn't been born yet. So
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  please reach out to someone. If you're in the U.S. you can call
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  or text 988 at any time. You don't have to have the words
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  figured out. Just reach out. I didn't think there was a way
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  through. There was. I'm still building it 10 years later, and
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  I am so glad I stayed to see it. Come find me on Instagram at
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  Wild Soul Alchemy, and if part of my soul-I'm sorry, my story
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  felt like yours-leave me a message. I read every one. Let
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  me know where it resonated. Stay curious. Stay wild. Toodles.