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Kids...School....Discipline...Who's responsible?? · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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Black Girl. Y'all already know how you started. Y'all already know how you
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started. Blair. All right, what's up y'all, Hey, y'all know
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what's your girl? Ash? I am back with another episode of Black Girl
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Interrupted. Happy Tuesday. I hope everyone had a good weekend, like I
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really do. Like I really hope everyone had a great weekend. We won't
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talk about football, but again, I hope everyone that watched football. I
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hope your team made it to the super Bowl. Unfortunately, y'all know my
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Saints, oh wasn't going. We just gotta get rid of that quarterback and
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get a new head coach. Maybe we could do some things. But anyway,
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but y'all, Happy Tuesday. Happy Tuesday again, y'all. Like I
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said, welcome back to another episode of Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all know what's
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sugarl ass bringing y'all some old juicy topics, some great conversations. But I
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just want to start off by saying, thank y'all, think, think,
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think, think. Thank y'all so much for supporting me. Thank y'all for
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sharing my little small business that will grow and flourish into a big business.
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But I appreciate all the love, the support. Like, I don't think
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y'all understand how humbled I am by the love that I received each and every
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day, each and every week that I come with a new episode. And
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I've been getting some really good feedback. People are like, you know,
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you're bringing some real cool topics. So I'm planning to keep that momentum because,
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like I say, my journey to making Black Girl Interrupted the household name
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is not going to stop. Like I really, really truly want this my
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affirmation. I get up every day and I say it every day that I
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will walk away from corporate America. Black Girl Interrupted will become my career.
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This was something I will be doing full time. So but let me let
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my employer fund my little business so I can get to where it is that
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I'm trying to go. But anyway, but happy Tuesday. I hope again
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everyone is having a great week so far. I hope everyone had a good
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weekend. I hope you guys have been staying safe, not just physically but
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mentally. You know, so y'all already know what I do. I always
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drop something inspirational, something and motivational because I do want to keep everyone encouraged.
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Again, I don't know what storm everyone is standing in the midst of.
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But I will always continue to love and courage and power and support in
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any way that I can. But again, I have to have I still
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have my boundaries up, so I can't let your dream me too much.
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But I will give you as much as I can. But uh, y'all
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know I do my mental health check ins before I start any conversation. I
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wonder how you're feeling. Dropping the comments, let me know how you're feeling.
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I know it's just Tuesday, I know where it's still early on in
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the week. But how have you been between last weekend today? Has anything
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changed? How are you feeling mentally? How are you feeling spiritually? You
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know, physically emotionally I could say for me, uh, my loopus is
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finally under control. I thank God for that. My hair is not coming
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out as much as it was in the beginning. I'm now at a healthy
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wait. I know I've had people message me trying to figure out what's going
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on, but I do have lucas. I'm also a Type two diabetics,
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so the medications that I take, along with the Monja role that I take
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for my diabetes, has helped me to get my weight under control. I'm
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as well as to keep my e one se down soap. That's a beautiful
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thing. But before we get started, y'all already know I always I want
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to play something inspirational, something motivational, to keep you going. So here
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we go before we jump into to nice conversation, because I can't wait for
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this. We all have twenty four hours, all right. What makes some
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of us average, makes some of us good? Something great? It's not
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the family you was born into. I had none to do with that,
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had not do with your social economic status. It has everything to do with
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how you command your life. So if you have a bad day, which
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is no such thing of it doesn't exist. You had a bad moment and
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you were so immature that you let that moment dictate the rest of your day.
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Right, And you're not kids no more. I don't do elementary school.
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I don't do elementary school because they really a fifth grader. If I'm
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talking to a third grade, fourth grade, and fifth grader, kindergartner,
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I don't care what I tell them. They're not at a place of maturity
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where they can switch their mindset. Their kids. You grown, and some
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of you are grown. But you're still a child. And you brag about
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how you're an adult. You're only an adult because of your age. You're
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not an adult because you command your life. You're adult because of your age,
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and that's not what makes adulthood. You're not an adult because you are
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eighteen years old. You're twenty five, twenty six. If you still catching
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timper tangents, you still getting attitudes, that means you're not an adult in
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that area. That means that particular area controls you. Right. Almost got
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into a car accident, car accident over with, car accident been over with
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ten hours ago, you still pissed about it, or you didnet got into
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it with your friend that happened two days ago, and y'all still not talking.
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That's immaturity, right, And let me tell you something. You don't
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know how many days you have, Like I'm just gonna keep you one hundred.
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You don't know how many days you have left. You don't want to
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be wasting days like you're not God, like you don't create, You don't
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you can't wake yourself up. You don't know how many days you have left.
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You can't be playing with the days you have on foolishness so you have
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to learn how to control yourself. Right, and so y'all know my circumstances.
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I'm not here because I'm sweet. I'm here because one day I's like
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yo, even need to get a control of this, bro. You need
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to get control of your life. You do not have a control. You
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watch a dog on TV playing video games when you should be out of your
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grinding. So there are people all day. People are et, bro,
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you do not want to be me. You're not ready for this grind,
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broh. Some of you you can show up when you're at home. When
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you go on the road, you struggle, meaning that when things are going
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the way you want, you cool, or when it rains you like,
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you gotta grow up. Your body does not control you. If the money,
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if I got to get up early in the morning, get the money.
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I'm a morning person. If I gotta go play somebody in their hometown
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and they got home of the van, I'm about to come bring the eed,
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like, listen to me, like you gotta stop playing. So most
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of you, what happens is when everything is favorable, you a beast.
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Make sure you understand what I'm saying. When everything is favorable, meaning like
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whatever conditions you like. When those conditions are right, you a beast.
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But when the conditions ain't right, you get smacked in the face. You
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gotta grow up. You gotta make, You gotta make after, you gotta
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make. You gotta be a morning person, afternoon person, night person.
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You gotta be at home person, on the road person. You gotta be
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when you when you when you feel good, person, when you sick,
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person, when you tie your person. I took an offensive, my man,
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Look at me, you tire. I'm like, bro, have you
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lost your mind? About to kill it? Why do back to back speeches
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four o'clock to five? They ain't wanted me to wait till eight to start
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again. I had to sit there for three hours and wait and can like,
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let's go each one of us. The things that you don't have control
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over is the things that's keeping you from being sweet. And at what point
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are you gonna fight against that that nature in you that you know? So
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if I was an ass, most of you already know what your challenge is.
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You ain't dumb. You know what it is. You just don't fight
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this, and I'm challenging you to fight it. And the only reason you're
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having a bad day is because of what you're thinking about. Now. I
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read something that said that the human brain is phenomenal and it could think like
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of a million and something different things, right, It's just it's explosive.
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But the one thing it cannot do is it cannot think of two ideas at
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the exact same job. It does not have the capacity to think of two
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things at once. Now, I have the capacity in an hour to think
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about a whole bunch of stuff, but at one particular moment, it cannot
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think about more than one thing. So if you're having a bad day or
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having a bad moment, it means you're probably focusing on what whatever that bad
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thing is. That's what you're focusing on. That's why your life messed up,
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because you focused on the stuff that's wrong. You're not putting the same
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energy on what's right. And it's just weird how we are as humans.
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We notice the bad and we talk about the bad, but we don't notice
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the good and talk about the good. We don't harp on the goods.
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And that's what you do wrong. You focus so much on the negative that
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you forget all the positive, and then when you do think about the positive,
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you're not putting the energy in the positive like you put in the negative.
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So it's no secret you are where you are because you focusing on stuff
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you ain't got no business focusing on. I don't know what it is about
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Eric Thomas, but I just I love his videos. Like his videos they're
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like so motivational, Like whenever you having a bad day, man, y'all
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go find one of his videos, because like that man is something I don't
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know if it's the voice of what he's saying makes you get up and say,
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you know what, I'm determined to make it through the day. So
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I always always like I look at something by him every day to stay encouraged,
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because it's so easy to get discouraged. It's so easy to give up,
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it's so easy to throw on a towel. But I always try to
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listen to that little voice that's in my head that says, you know,
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I ash, you have to keep going, you have to keep going.
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You've made it this far, you gotta keep going. You gotta keep going.
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So one thing about me, what mean my bag for twenty two?
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For like when I say I'm more determined and more driven than I've ever been
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before, in life, like this is really my goal, Like this is
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really like I'm really determined to push my brand. I'm determined to make Black
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Girl Interrupted a brand, like a household name. Like I want people to
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say, man, that episode you did really help me out. Like that's
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that's my goal. And like I say, if I've helped one person,
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then I've done exactly what I'm supposed to do. So but you know,
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like I say, dropping a comments, Lemon, know how you're feeling,
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you know, Like I said, I always do my mental health check ins
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before the start of any show just because I want you all to know that
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I do care, you know, and that whatever it is that you're going
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through, I've been there. And yeah, it's it's hard to get out
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of the slump. It's hard to get out of those dark spaces. But
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keep going, y'all. Don't ever ever ever give up. You know,
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no matter how much life LIFs, fight back and get up. Don't never
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let the devil win or never let them defeat. You. Always know that
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regardless of whatever it is that you go through, God as you covered,
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and you'll always come out victorious if you stand firming what it is that you
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want to do. And also if you speak, speak out what it is
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that you want, speak like it's already happened, Like I already know I'm
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gonna be on Black Girl, Black Girls Rock, Like I've already told Beverly
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Bond that I'm like, I'm gonna be on your show, like I promise,
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like I'm gonna get an award. So I'm speaking at you know,
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magazines. I've done interviews, but I want to go higher than that,
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you know, But I can't tell you everything that I'm gonna do. Y'all
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just have to sit back and watch and clap for your girl on the sidelines
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because I'm always clap for y'all. We're all winners, and we're all gonna
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make it to wherever it is that we're trying to go. My destination doesn't
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look like yours, but we know the end result. We do know.
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We all are gonna try to get We're all trying to get to the finish
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line. So stay encouraged, stay empowered, and stay uplifted. M All
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right, so let's jump into tonight's show, y'all walk again. Welcome back
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to another episode of Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all know it's your girl ash again.
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Bringing y'all some great, juicy topics every week. But tonight's conversation is
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a little different. Every conversation is gonna be different because I'm always talking about
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something different. But tonight's conversation, Man, let me tell you so,
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y'all. When I first saw this video, I had to go back and
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I had to rewatch it because I was like, nah, I know that
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that woman, didn't I just tell that woman that, like I know,
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Like that can't excuse me. I was like, no, that can't be.
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This can't be til I went back and I had to rewatch it,
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and I rewatched it and I rewatched it, and I want to say,
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I watched it maybe ten times in a row, and I was just like,
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it's so different. Parenting is different, school is different. The world
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is just is very different from what I'm used to. So it's a nice
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conversation. We're talking about kids, school discipline, who's responsible. Man,
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let me tell you something. Let me play the video first, and then
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we're gonna get into that. Because when I tell y'all this, this video
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just had me up in arms because I said, there's no way you no,
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this can't be real. But y'all checked us out and we're gonna jump
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into to nice conversation. This is why I want to have this conversation because
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of this video and then several other videos with regards to this. But here
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we go. He is misglass from your child's school. Yeah, what's going
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on? Hey? I was calling because I'm having a little bit of an
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issue out of your son today. He is not wanting to sit down in
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his seat and he will not stop talking. So I was so Well,
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usually we use our behavior management system, which requires for us to call the
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parent if the behavior is I mean, y'all, I'm trying to work,
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and I understand that, and I also am trying to work, but I
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want us to work together to ensure the success of your scholar. No,
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ma'am, I'm not trying to get smart. I just want us to work
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together to ensure the success of your scholar. Well, I mean, what
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are you doing. He won't sit down and he won't stop talking, therefore
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he's not able to clean. Well, I can't make a child do anything.
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I can request it, I can ask it, but I can't make
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him do it. And so I'm wanting to work to get like I brought
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him. I see him to the school because y'all need to know how to
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help. I thought they had teachers, they know how to help the kids.
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I mean, if y'all can't handle I don't. I don't know what
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you want me to do. I don't really like to recording the whole conversation
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thing then uploading it to social media. But with that out of the way,
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moms, you are trash. I gotta tell you that, all I
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kept thinking was what is the daddy? Was the daddy, Daddy wouldn't be
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putting up with this bit. You don't know how to teach him. Now.
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I can't put my hands on your child like you can, but you're
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gonna be big mad if you mess around and catch suspension because of his bad
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behavior and you got to take our work to watch his lip bad behind.
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I come on, bro, some people should just not have children. I
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don't. I really don't even think y'all know how many times I want to
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say I watched that video the very first time I saw it. I want
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to say I watched it about ten times because I said, there's no way
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that that mother told that teacher you can't make him sit down. I send
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him to school. I thought he was with a teacher that knew how to
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control him. First off, let me say this. First off, I
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salute every educator that I know, and and the educator is beyond My heart
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really goes out to you because these are the type of parents that y'all deal
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with every day. And it's so sad that you send your child to school
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and your child is very disruptive. In other words, that child prohibits others
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from learning in class. So if the teacher's reaching out to you and she's
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letting you know, hey, i've tried ABC, let's work together. But
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it was the attitude that that mother gave in other words, I'm at work.
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Okay, I know you're at work. I called you at work.
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But maybe not a question who's responsible the parent of the teacher, because at
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the end of the day, we only have educators. Only have your children
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eight hours a day, forty hours a week. The foundation starts at home.
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That's your responsibility as a parent to make sure that your child respects authority,
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knows how to act when they're away from you, and knows how to
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conduct themselves like a child is supposed to. And this is why I understand
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why a lot of teachers are leaving the education system because her parents and students
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just like that. And that's the sad part is that you parents don't find
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any fault and why your children are up there at school acting like that because
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it starts at home. Children mimic what they see. So I'm pretty sure
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from just that little tidbit, and I could be wrong. I could just
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imagine how the mother talks to the child. I could just imagine how that
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child acts at home. I bet that mama lets that child run randy,
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do you hear me. I'm pretty sure she lets that child do whatever he
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wants and she says nothing, and then you send him to school, and
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you want the teachers to do what you're supposed to do at home. As
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a par teachers are supposed to teach your children. They're not supposed to be
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the disciplinary. That's your job, that's your responsibility as a parent. It's
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you are supposed supposed to raise your child to be respectful. But I don't
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know what to say about these parents and these children in this day and age.
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They have no respect for authority. And then when you try to have
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conversations with the parents, that's the type of pushback you get no, ma'am,
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that's not how you handle it. I remember when I was in school
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and teachers and parents work together. If my mama got a phone call that
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I was acting up at school, best believe my mama was up there at
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this school ready to tag my ass. Do you and me because my mama
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didn't send me this foold act like that. It starts at home. And
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then when the teacher said I'm trying to work with you, and she still
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was met with a pushback. You can't make him sit down. If that
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teacher want to have physically restrained your child, you would have been at the
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school ready to fight and ready to file some type of lawsuit for that teacher
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putting hands on your child. Teachers are limited to what they can and cannot
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do. They're limited to what they can and can I see. So when
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a teacher reaches out to you and lets you know, hey, your child
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or your children are acting up, you need to get a handle on that
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mom or dad. And I'm gonna give the guy at the end of the
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video a little pushback because you have parents, you have children where both parents
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are in the house and the child still acts like that. So we can't
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say, oh, he's acting like that because the daddy's in out, not
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in our We don't know that. We don't know that because I've seen some
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fathers let their children act that very same way and not say nothing. Get
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and go to the school and be ready to fight the teacher because they've disciplined
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your child because now your child is suspended from school, or because now your
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child excoose me has to go has to sit it in school suspension for the
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day, or because your child has to come to Saturday detention on Saturday or
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the following Saturday. You mad at the teacher, but that's your responsibility.
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That foundation starts at home, and the foundation has absolutely been lost because we
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no longer have the village. And that's the sad part. The village is
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gone. You know, these new age parents want to hang out and they
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want to party with their children. So your children don't respect you, So
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you think they're gonna respect somebody else because trying to be the a best friend
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to your child is not gonna work when it's time to lay down some roots
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because they're not gonna respect you because they're not gonna look at you like,
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oh, that's my mom they're looking at you. Oh, that's my friend,
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because that's the way you treat them. You start putting your feet on
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their neck. You wouldn't have this problem. You start handling your business at
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home and stop sending your children out for somebody else to be responsible for them,
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we would have these issues. But I'm here to say, if you
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do not get your children under control, you're gonna be visiting them in one
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or two places, in a cemetery or in a jail cell because they don't
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respect authority. I see these children all the time. We see the videos
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where a teacher has told a student, put your phone away, take your
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book out, do this, do that, and the student is, who
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are you talking to? You can't tell me what to do. I'm not
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putting my phone away. And then when you contact the parents, the parents
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are cussing the teachers out. So you cussing me out because I'm calling to
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inform you that your child is being disruptive in my class, which is prohibiting
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other students from learning. Noah, baby, you need we need to have
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a parent teacher conference. And that's another thing. Parent teacher conferences have really
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become non existent. You don't care about your children's grades. You only care
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when it starts to affect you, and that's it. It's another video where
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she says education is very disrespectful. This one here is only forty one second,
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so check this out and we're gonna continue on in the conversation. You
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know what really used to burn my biscuits as a teacher was when I would
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call a parent to let them know that their child was acting a fool in
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my class and super disrespectful, and the parent would ask me what I did
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to their child to make them act like that, because they don't act like
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that at home, ma'am. Now, I hate to be though when I
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was in school, but when I was in school, if my mama got
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a call from my teacher, my mama did not ask my teacher what you
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do with my child. My mama asked me, why are you at this
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school acting a fool? Because you didn't lost your mind and I'm about to
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help you find it. This is a new generation of parents. Are y'all
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trying to be y'all's kids friends? Well, you're not their friend, you're
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their parents. I had to play that because that's exactly what I just said,
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because it was very different. You know, during the time I was
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in school, I came out of high school class in ninety six, and
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parents were involved. You know, you had parent teacher conferences. You know,
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parents will come to the school. And I understand, I get it.
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In this day and age, parents really they can't afford to take off
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work. I get it. I totally understand. But you could set up
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and you could do it virtually. There's more than one way to skin a
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cat. If a teacher is calling you repeatedly to let you know that your
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child is acting up, showing their ass in class, you need to say,
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ah, okay, let's talk about this. We're gonna get this under
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control. But your new parents, y'all don't do that. The problem is
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y'all coddle your children too much. You don't want anybody else to say anything
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to your children. But then when it's time for you to chastise them,
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they don't even listen to you. And then, like she said, parents
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say, oh, well, here or she don't act like this, and
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don't. Apparently they do because they come into the school acting a very same
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way. And if I'm calling you to notify you that I'm having some issues
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with your child, and that's the risk. And the response that's given to
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me is what did I do to your child? That right there lets me
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know how that child acts at home? That that lets me know right then
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and there that you don't have no control over that child. But you want
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me to control your child. That's not my responsibility. My responsibility as the
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educator is to educate your child. Is to teach your child. You're supposed
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to do the rest. You're supposed to be the foundation. You thought this
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educators they just add on to what you've already built. And we keep adding
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on. You know, the further along in schooling, they go, excuse
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me, the more they get to add it on to the foundation. But
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if these children don't have a foundation, how can they grow? And a
27:52
lot of your parents don't care. And that's the sad part about it is
27:57
that this generation is lost, completely and utterly Lost's disgusting. It's to the
28:07
point where you had teachers. I remember when the pandemic, you had teachers
28:15
that were quitting. See, when the pandemic hit you parents got a taste
28:21
of what these teachers have been trying to tell you for years. When them
28:26
children had to go home and had to be had to be schooled virtually.
28:32
Y'all got to see exactly what these teachers were saying. I saw some videos
28:38
where parents are get up, wake up, come on, come on,
28:41
pay attention. Now you see what these teachers go through, and you don't
28:45
care. It's sad. A lot of great educators were lost during the pandemic,
28:56
a lot of great teachers were lost after the pandemic them. Now it's
29:02
like, y'all are just these kids are just running rapid. You're getting teacher
29:10
educators in here that have zero common sense about how to teach your child.
29:18
But then, as a parent, you're putting all the responsibility on the teacher,
29:19
and that's not fair. That's your responsibility. You're the one that's supposed
29:25
to teach your child right from wrong, how to respect the adults, how
29:30
to respect the authority, how they're supposed to conduct themselves in public. That's
29:33
the parent's responsibility. That's not the teacher's responsibility. So your parents stop sending
29:37
your kids to school thinking a teacher is supposed to do your job. No,
29:44
ma'am, no ma'am, and no, sirch, that's not how the
29:49
schools. But y'all coddle and y'all, baby, these kids, you excuse
30:02
their disrespectful behavior. Y'all condone this behavior from these children. You got the
30:07
kids at school fighting the teachers. Baby, let me tell you, I
30:15
wish I would have jumped in a teacher's face. I wish I would have.
30:22
Let me tell you something, my mom would have been at that school
30:26
and zero point two seconds on my ass. Do you hear me? Because
30:32
my mama tell you, that's not how I RaSE. That's not how she
30:33
acted home. And my mama has embarrassed me at the school. I'll never
30:40
forget. I'll never forget when I went to that school, y'all. I
30:45
got into my very first fight, and Baby, my mama came to that
30:49
school and embarrassed me in front of all my friends, and she did out.
31:00
Okay, it's it's the lack of respect, it's the lack of discipline.
31:07
The foundation is shaky, and you expect the teachers to put all this
31:12
together for you. No, ma'am, that's your child. That teacher only
31:18
has that child forty hours a week, eight hours a day, five days
31:22
a week. Before your child starts school. You're supposed to have that foundation
31:29
laid out when that baby when that child starts school, that child's supposed to
31:34
come with matters, yes, ma'am, no, ma'am, yes, sir,
31:38
no, sir. Supposed to raise your hand to ask a question,
31:42
you're not supposed to speak out a turn. That's how it's supposed to be.
31:48
But you got these kids cussing their parents out. Mamas don't know what
31:53
to do, dadd is don't know what to do. And then they send
32:00
a child to school, and you want the teacher to deal with that,
32:02
You want the teacher to handle that. Now, I see why. Now,
32:10
Like I said, a lot of great teachers left, but a simple
32:16
fact, they're overworked, underpaid, and the disrespect is that are all time
32:21
high. And the saddest part about it is that the districts don't even back
32:27
the teachers up. Parents come to the school, they custing the teacher out,
32:32
the child and cuss the teacher out, and they get no support from
32:37
the districts, no support, And then you wonder why these teachers twenty thirty
32:45
forty years in that game quit. I don't blame it to have to deal
32:52
with a disrespectful child on a daily basis. That pro hei it's others from
33:00
learning. Yeah, you're gonna get burnt out. That's gonna really truly burn
33:06
you out. And who wants to deal with that every day? Who wants
33:07
to go home with that? Every day? Sad? Sad? I see
33:15
new people have tuned in again, y'all, welcome to another episode of Black
33:19
Girl Interrupted Tonight. We're talking about kids, school and discipline. Who's responsible
33:24
is it the teacher is? As a parent? I played a video y'all.
33:29
In this video actually went viral for those that are just tuning in of
33:34
a parent that called the teacher. I mean, I'm so sorry, a
33:38
teacher that called a parent to inform the parent that the child was acting up
33:43
in class. I'm just gonna run it back real quick and give me your
33:45
thoughts. I'm not gonna play the whole video, but give me your thoughts
33:49
and we just gonna get right back into the conversation. Dis Miss Glass from
33:52
your child's school, what's going on? Hey? I was calling because I'm
33:59
having a little bit of an issue out of your son today. He is
34:01
not wanting to sit down in his seat and he will not stop talking,
34:06
So I like, well, usually we use our behavior management system, which
34:15
requires for us to call the parent if the behavior is getting you. I
34:22
mean, I'm trying to work, and I understand that, and I also
34:25
am trying to work, but I want us to work together to ensure the
34:29
success of your scholar. No, ma'am, I'm not trying to get smart.
34:34
I just want us to work together to ensure the success of your scholar.
34:40
Well, I mean, what are you doing. He won't sit down
34:44
and he won't stop talking. Therefore he's not able to clean. Well,
34:49
I can't make a child do anything. I can request it, I can
34:52
ask it, but I can't make him do it. And so I'm wanting
34:58
to work together today school. Because I just had to go back and replay
35:07
that because it was the response. It was the oh, I thought he
35:15
was sick, zero concern. And when the teacher told you, I'm trying
35:24
to work with you, you say you can't make him do that. No,
35:35
a teacher can ask him so many times, please have a seat,
35:37
please sit down. I'm not gonna tell you again. Teachers have to go
35:43
by by their guidelines in their roots. Again, moms and dads, this
35:50
is y'all's responsibility. This is y'all are supposed to handle this. Y'all are
35:53
supposed to say, you know what, I don't see you. The school
35:58
up that act of Act Craze. Y'all's supposed to handle that, not the
36:04
teacher. And it's disheartening because you could tell the teacher is really, really,
36:12
really trying to do her job. She's like, she really cares and
36:15
wants to see your child succeed, but you don't care. And then you
36:21
say, oh, she's trying to get smart, and the ladies, no,
36:24
I'm trying to work with you. I'm trying to build a partnership so
36:30
we could guarantee that your child is successful. Isn't that what you would want
36:36
or would you care for or would you like your child to have a teacher
36:38
that don't care? And that's the problem to a lot of y'all parents.
36:44
Y'all want it both ways. You can't have it both ways. You either
36:47
want a teacher that really is concerned about your child or you want one that
36:52
doesn't give a damn me. I'm gonna pick the lad I want the one
36:58
that cares, that really want to see my child succeed. That's what I
37:01
want to see. I want a teacher that believes in my student. I
37:06
want a teacher that I can work with, going sure that my child is
37:13
at their best, is given their potential. Hey, babe, I hope
37:16
you're having a good night at work. Sugar, my sugar butt. I
37:21
love you, but I want a teacher like that. That's like, you
37:25
know what my daughter, my baby girl, who already knows. And I've
37:31
told my children, even though the two olders have graduated from college now and
37:36
the babies in middle school, I tell them all the time. Wherever you
37:38
show up, that's why I'm gonna show up. If that includes me embarrassing
37:43
you in front of your friends. But I don't send you to school to
37:46
add crazy. I send you to school to learn. Stop worried about you
37:53
know. Yeah, I want you to be sociable, but I need you
37:57
to get your education first. I need you to go to school. Sit
38:01
down, and whatever that teacher tells you to do, you say yes,
38:05
ma'am, no, ma'am, yes, sir, no, sir. And
38:07
I never ever, ever, Lord, I thank god I never had any
38:12
disciplinary issues with my children because I wasn't gonna play with them because I didn't
38:16
have a problem of going to the school if my child did something wrong,
38:22
okay me, And you want a teacher. We're gonna sit down, we're
38:23
gonna have a conversation because see we're gonna ensure that this doesn't happen again.
38:29
But then too, I had an old school, my my mama, old
38:30
school, My mama seasoned. My mama didn't believe in us going somewhere and
38:37
reacting crazy because I'm here to tell you, Joanne, wherever you show out,
38:44
she gonna show up. See. She didn't have that with my sister.
38:46
I was I was the I was the problem child. Like I'm not,
38:51
I'm not a shame to tell nobody, but I was the problem child.
38:53
My sister was the good when I was I was the bad. When
38:55
I was the one that my mama was always at the school. And for
39:00
me, I did it just because that's what I wanted to do. Oh
39:06
and I know there's no excuse, but yeah, I was a recluse.
39:08
I was rebellious. You know. It just seemed like I got into that
39:13
first fight and I won that fight. I was like oh yeah, yeah,
39:15
you know, but I got out of control and my mama had to
39:23
start putting their hands. My mom was like, oh, yeah, it's
39:27
not working no more, Like yeah, we're gonna have to we got to
39:30
handle this. We're gonna have to really get down and dirt it with this.
39:35
You want to be out here acting crazy, Okay, I got you.
39:39
And then when I got arrested, y'all, my mama left me in
39:44
juvenile She left me there all day. She said, I should have left
39:47
you asked here the whole entire week. Kid, what girl, if you
39:52
don't come get me out of here? Sure did. But that's how parents
39:59
work. Parents say, okay, you want to be grown. Okay,
40:02
I'm gona teach you like to be grown. But now these children these days,
40:12
like I said, my heart really truly goes out to these educators because
40:19
they deal with a lot of stuff they in in day out. You know,
40:25
I look at this question right here. Why are parents raising their child
40:31
their children not to respect authority? Why is this like something generational? Because
40:42
I just I really can't put my finger on why this generation is the way
40:52
it is. They don't fear anything, they're not afraid of anything. They
40:57
don't want you to tell them nothing. Think they know it all. But
41:02
here's a video, y'all, and this hill it's pretty long. This video.
41:09
Hell, I almost teared up for this young lady, because you could
41:16
tell this young lady really loves her job, she really loves doing what she
41:22
does. And she's younger, young, young, youngerl who talks about her
41:31
experience with these students. With these kids here, we're going, we're gonna
41:38
get back into the conversation. I'm calling out all the parents. If you're
41:44
a parent and your child is in pre k to elementary school, elementary school
41:49
to high school, I'm calling you out the children today. I have never
41:53
experienced, I'm twenty two. Having to tease and work with you guys as
42:00
children has been the most traumatic experience of my life. I teach five year
42:07
olds ballet, five year old girls ballet. I have a class of ten
42:13
students. They don't respect any authority. You ask them, can you stand
42:20
in your designated spot? They're telling you no and shut up. They're throwing
42:24
things at each other. They're throwing things at other people other class meets.
42:30
You say, can everybody sit in their spot? I don't want to.
42:34
I'm not doing that. You don't get to tell me what to do.
42:36
You're not my mom. You confront the parent, the parent tries to argue
42:40
with you and fuss at you. Because you tried to reprimand and redirect their
42:46
kid. I told a young little girl, please sit in your spot.
42:52
You're not my mom, you don't tell me what to do. Okay.
42:57
When her mom came to pick her up, I said, hey, your
43:00
daughter's having a hard time following instructions. And seven times today I've had to
43:06
redirect her to just sit in her spot. Well, clearly she didn't want
43:08
to sit, and mind you, this is the mom. Clearly she didn't
43:10
want to fucking sit right there. So I mean, if she's telling you
43:14
she don't want to do something, why keep asking her to do it?
43:15
You know she's not gonna do it. What world do we live in?
43:21
Like? What in you guys's brain as a parent says, hmm, my
43:25
kid not following any directions is a great thing. It's not that serious.
43:30
And y'all don't have a right to tell her what to do. It's sad.
43:34
It's sad. It's really really sad. And another thing that's heart wrenching
43:40
is horrifying. It is horrifying. Your five year old daughters are asking to
43:46
listen to Poundtown and skiee your daughters, Your five year old daughters are asking
43:53
can we hear Poundtown. I'm playing them Princess Tiana valat me and they are
44:02
asking me, can we hear? Don't know what to do. I don't
44:15
know what to do. And I'm so scared for these little girls today because
44:21
this is the most insane, insane agenda push I have ever seen in my
44:28
life. We do freeze dance, you guys, as daughters are tworking at
44:35
five five? Where's the parenting, where's the boundaries? Where's the help?
44:43
Y'all are not helping your kids. You're hurting them. You guys are hurting
44:47
them. I come every day dressed ready to go, and I'm in school
44:53
too. I'm in college. I mean, I put bowls in my hair,
44:58
I'm wearing leitars. I I'm trying to get them interested in like proper
45:06
things for their age. And you guys are exposing your kids to this raunchy
45:10
secular music. Why is you guys' five year old daughter singing bound Town?
45:20
And it's just really really really it's upsetting and I feel so bad. And
45:27
I I've watched different techniques, soft skills, soft parenting, gentle parenting.
45:36
I'm patient. I don't you know, I don't yeo. I'm gonna say,
45:40
hey, you know, let's regroup and you guys need five minutes.
45:45
Let's do some breathing. Your kids are telling me to shut up. You
45:49
guys's kids are saying, I don't want to do that. I'm not doing
45:52
that. You're not my mom. They're putting their hands, they're hitting each
45:55
other and hitting other kids. You address the parent. The parents are telling
46:04
you you don't tell my daughter what to do. It's not that bad.
46:08
Well, at least she was in the class, at least at least at
46:12
least is all these excuses. Y'all come in and you're more worried about what's
46:16
going on on your Instagram and TikTok feed versus being a parent. Be a
46:21
fucking parent. You guys are horrible fucking parents. Like I'm sorry to say
46:25
it, but this generation of some of my some of the mom not all,
46:30
not all, but majority that I've dealt with with kids that are between
46:36
the ages of five and four and three, You guys don't parent your children
46:44
at all. They have no basic comprehension skills. They can't sit still,
46:49
no attention span. They're hitting people. They can't talk, they can't communicate,
46:54
they don't even know how to say, like, I wanna go to
46:58
the bathroom if you ask them a question. Their rude, nasty, horrible
47:04
attitudes at five and they want to hear a poundtown. What are you guys
47:09
doing with your kids? What are you guys literally doing with your kids?
47:15
Because I have never in my life experienced something so horrible. I literally don't
47:21
even want to teach ballets of you guys' kids anymore because they are so hard
47:25
to work and deal with. And I see, I literally see why the
47:30
teachers are quitting and your kids are getting expelled and kicked out because it's no
47:36
way, it is literally no way that this is happening, and you guys
47:40
don't see any issue with it. I tell you your kid hit someone,
47:45
and you're saying, well, what the fuck did the little bitch do to
47:49
my daughter to make her want to hit? Nothing? Literally nothing. Your
47:53
daughter just decides she wants to put her hands on people, and you don't
47:58
correct her. You're yelling at me, why does she feel like she wants
48:01
to hit? What parenting is happening? You guys are worried about seafood,
48:07
boils and dates and fucking like partying and being a hot mom you guys are
48:14
shitty moms and it needs a change. Stop listening to sexy red around your
48:20
children. Talk to your kid, interact with them, teach them, Listen
48:24
to them, teach them to respect authority. Don't say you don't have to
48:30
listen to anyone unless they're me. Your kids are so horrible and hard to
48:36
deal with, and I'm blaming the parents because they have horrible guidance and it
48:45
needs to be a change. And I'm asking, I don't can somebody's mom
48:50
stitch me and say, like, what the hold up is? What is
48:52
the issue? Why are you listening to raunchy music around your kids? Why
48:57
is it that you have to deal with certain people and be rude about it?
49:02
Why can nobody correct your kid or help them get on a better track.
49:07
And why do you guys approve and applaud bad behavior? Why? Why?
49:13
Why? Because I'm telling you all the teachers that are good and have
49:16
genuine interest in building your kid, I want to help them. I want
49:21
to help these little girls realize that they're precious, that they have purpose,
49:24
that they're beautiful, that they're smart and intelligent, and that they can be
49:30
somebody. I don't want to see little five year olds trying to talk to
49:35
pound time and you guys think that it's cute. And I'm coming on here
49:42
because it needs to be a change. So please tell me as an educator
49:46
a teacher, and I'm not I'm just a ballet teacher. I'm not a
49:50
regular trained institutional teacher. I'm teaching five year olds ballet and these are all
49:58
the problems starting now and it's no change happening. So what needs to be
50:02
done and happen to fix this issue? Please? Somebody tell me, Somebody
50:07
make it make sense, because I'm telling you I'm this close to quitting and
50:13
saying I'd never want to work with people's kids again because this has been the
50:16
most horrible experience I've literally I've never dealt with an experience like this. Listening
50:24
to raunchy music around your kids needs to stop. Applauding bad behavior, needs
50:30
to stop not giving your kid your attention but throwing an iPad at them or
50:37
a tablet because you don't want a parent. Needs to stop. I'm coming
50:42
on here and I'm begging you, guys. I'm asking you to really please
50:46
make a change. Make a change. Your kids' lives are depending on it.
50:53
For y'all to make a change. Please make a change. Oh whenever
51:07
video first came out, I wanted to hug that baby. It's so bad
51:10
because she's only twenty two years old, that's first and foremost, and she's
51:15
teaching ballet, and like she said, she's not teaching in a school.
51:23
She teaches ballet, and at four and five years old, this is what
51:30
she's experiencing. So imagine if that child is dancing, you know, let
51:37
me back up, if that child is talking like that at four and five
51:40
years old, just imagine how that child is gonna be when they get the
51:45
middle school and on into high school. It starts at home, ladies and
51:53
gentlemen, you as the parents. It starts with you stop sending these children
52:01
to school and expecting the teachers to do your job. That's why I have
52:08
this question. Why are parents raising their children not to respect authority because their
52:15
moms didn't respect authority. So these children mimic what they see. You got
52:22
your mama's running around here listening to Sex of Red and all that other trash
52:29
music they got going on in the world, and then your la and then
52:34
you're clapping, Oh look at my baby. Watch watch put put that up
52:37
and I and baby I can't even tell you how poundtown goes because that goes
52:40
to sho. I don't listen to that. I don't listen to uh,
52:45
what's her name, golo real glorial like, I don't listen to none of
52:49
that because that's foolishness. But you have not glorially sexy red. I'm so
52:57
sorry I meant to say sex a red. But you have these parents that
53:00
are recording this and they're laughing and think that that type of behavior is cute.
53:07
What happened to keeping the children children as long as possible? You got
53:15
your child five six, seven, eight, nineteen years old wearing a lace
53:20
front, she got makeup on. You're letting nowhere lipstick? Come on now,
53:27
stop rushing your children to grow up if they haven't even grasped the concept
53:32
of being a child. You parents, y'all gotta do better. Y'all have
53:40
definitely got to do better. When it comes to the sake and well being
53:47
of your children. It starts with you. It starts at home. And
53:51
I'm gonna say that again. The foundation starts at home. That's up to
53:58
you and dads to set a good example for your children. Mom and dad.
54:05
That's your responsibility to teach them respect. That's your responsibility. Stop like
54:13
like the baby said, stop condoning bad behavior, because y'all applied it,
54:20
y'all co signed for it. And I just don't see what's cute. I
54:24
saw the little video at the little birthday. I guess it was a birthday
54:28
party. I don't know the little They looked like they couldn't have been no
54:30
more than four or five years old, singing sexy red. And then the
54:37
mama that posted it, you got mad at the people in the comments that
54:40
said them kids need to be sitting down watching something and listening to something other
54:46
than sex a red, and the mama got mad. But y'all know that's
54:53
how the mama probably acts. I see the videos that come across social media,
55:00
these kids singing sexyrec and they singing other songs with cuss words that they
55:08
don't even have no business singing. But this is what y'all promot though,
55:13
this is what y'all post on social media. And then you get upset at
55:15
the comments. And then I look at how the mothers dress they sons.
55:25
You dressing your sons like the type of man you want to date. Can
55:31
we start letting these kids be kids? Can we please normalize five year olds
55:39
and six year olds acting like five and six year olds, dressing like five
55:45
and six year olds. I look at the girls. Excuse me, My
55:49
baby is fourteen years old, and I look at some of the girls that
55:52
she goes to school with. They got their stomachs out. My baby don't
55:59
like all. My baby don't like showing her skin, but she know I
56:01
don't play that with her anyway. Because you're gonna conduct yourself like a young
56:08
lady, you're gonna dress like a fourteen year old child. I'm gonna keep
56:15
my baby a child as long as possible. I'm not gonna. I don't
56:21
want to rush my baby to be an adult and be grown before it's her
56:23
time. No, I'm not gonna do that. But your parents do,
56:31
and y'all clap and y'all laugh, and you think it's cute. It's tacky.
56:37
I'm gonna be the first one to say it. That shit is tacky.
56:40
Excuse my language, but that's tacky. That's very tacky for you to
56:45
condone your five year old child to be talking and you laughing, and you
56:52
after talking next to him, really really, But then you get upset when
57:00
people say something to you, and then you get upset when people question your
57:06
parenting. Well, apparently you're not doing a good job if you your five
57:08
or six year old child is walking around here singing Poundtown. What does a
57:15
five or six year old know about Poundtown? Ain't that the song, y'all?
57:20
Where she say my booty hole brown and my couchy pink, or or
57:25
how it go? Ain't that the song? And you and you got kids
57:30
running around her singing it, and that's cute. That is so tacky and
57:37
so distasteful. I can't stand seeing that the MoMA and me be wanting to
57:43
snatch the child up and take get your get over here. That's the mom
57:49
and me. But I can't tell nobody what to do with they child.
57:52
See, back in the day we had a village, you was able to
57:58
discipline someone else's child if you saw them acting up. In this day and
58:01
age, these parents don't want you to say nothing to their children. Don't
58:06
talk to my child like that. And then you got the parents telling the
58:10
kids, don't let nobody else tell you what to do but me, I'm
58:15
the parent. And then you wonder why they go to school and act like
58:19
little animals. You wonder why, because your parents are raising these children not
58:27
to respect authority right here? Why are you pushing for your child to be
58:37
in a cemetery or in a jail cell. Are you trying to live through
58:45
your child? Because we do see that. We see stories like that.
58:52
We're parents try to live vicariously through their children. Are you trying to start
58:58
over? I I just don't get it. Where does the change coming?
59:08
Where was the support, especially for the educators. Where is the support?
59:20
I thought the parent and the teacher were supposed to be on the same page.
59:22
I thought we were all supposed to be a team. I thought we
59:27
were both in agreement that we want what's best for the child. Apparently some
59:31
of your parents aren't too concerned. And it shows because you your children are
59:40
a reflection of you. So apparently, if that's what you're doing at home,
59:47
that's what your children are gonna go and do out in public. We
59:52
see the videos where the kids are cussing and the mommy and a daddy just
59:54
laughing until they get you out in public and embarrass you. Now you're ready
1:00:00
to chop his head off. Now I keep that same energy. Mm hmm.
1:00:08
It's a problem when they when they do it to you, But it's
1:00:12
okay for them to do that to somebody else. It's okay for them to
1:00:14
act the radical for somebody else, but they can't do that with you.
1:00:17
Again, like I said, you're laughing and joking because they around here cussing
1:00:22
and and twerking, or that's funny until they get out in public and do
1:00:28
it, and now you embarrassed, and now you want to say something,
1:00:31
No, you need you need to get a grip on that. You need
1:00:36
to get a handle on that. But also, your parents, stop babying
1:00:40
these children. Stop coddling your children. Stop telling your children not to listen
1:00:45
to anybody but you, because when you send them out into the free world,
1:00:52
they're gonna have to listen to somebody or the world is gonna humble them.
1:00:57
You make your choice, You make that decision. What do you want.
1:01:02
You want to visit your child in the cemetery, You want to visit
1:01:06
your child in the jail cell or because they couldn't respect authority because you told
1:01:10
them not to. You've taught them that, You taught them that the only
1:01:15
person they need to listen to is you and their dad. And then when
1:01:22
they get you our publicly and embarrass you. Now you're looking crazy. Now
1:01:25
you're ready to whoop they You ready to whoop their behinds. Uh uh.
1:01:30
Don't whoop them now, don't spank them now, don't discipline them now,
1:01:36
because now they've embarrassed you. Because the teacher has called and told you that
1:01:43
your child has been disruptive in class for the last two or three days,
1:01:45
or the teacher has called you once a week and says, hey, your
1:01:50
child is being disruptive. He or she is prohibiting others from learning in class.
1:01:53
You need the You need to nip it in the bud because if you
1:01:58
don't, the world will. The world has a way of humbling you real
1:02:04
quick. So you better get a grip on that before the world and the
1:02:10
streets get ahold of your child or your children. The respect needs to be
1:02:16
there. You parents, stop trying to be your children's best friends. You
1:02:25
need the first accomplished how to be a parent. And yeah, I'm gonna
1:02:30
see it. You want to be friends, I am. You need the
1:02:36
first grasp how to be a parent. And yes I said it twice.
1:02:40
Your child out here showing they behinds and you call sign it. You're agreeing
1:02:50
with the behavior, and then when they end up in a cemetery or in
1:02:58
a cell, Oh my baby was a good kid, Oh he or she
1:03:01
never got in trouble. That's a lie. That's a lie. You fail
1:03:13
when you don't do what you're supposed to do for your children. You fail
1:03:15
your children. And there's a lot of parents out here that are failing their
1:03:20
children continuously. You're not trying to make anything right. You're not trying to
1:03:25
better the situation. You instigate the situation because you celebrate. Ooh girl,
1:03:32
look at my baby over here to work and girl, put that sexy red
1:03:36
on. Girl, put that put that what you call it on, and
1:03:39
watch my baby girl. Uh huh, girl, look God, sing your
1:03:43
baby sing that song. And your baby out here singing Pound Town, your
1:03:47
baby out here singing. Uh, what's what's another song? Uh? I
1:03:55
can't even think. And it's cute, y'all. Love that y'all recording you're
1:04:02
putting on social media. But then you get mad at the comments, You
1:04:06
get mad at the response because it didn't go like you thought it was gonna
1:04:11
go, because you thought everyone else was gonna condone the behavior that your child
1:04:15
is displayed. You thought that's what was gonna happen, then you it didn't
1:04:21
go that way for you, and I did it, and now you shamed,
1:04:25
Now you embarrassed because the whole world has seen how you consistently feel your
1:04:31
child and now you mad. But that starts with you. I feel like
1:04:40
teachers deserve a better paid because they deal with a lot. Not only do
1:04:46
they have to deal with your disrespectful child, but they got to deal with
1:04:48
the disrespectful parents. And that's sickening to me. Hey, petty Vandros,
1:04:58
they're gonna petty friend, that's my patty brother. But you leave these children
1:05:04
these I'm so sorry you leave the teachers to deal with these disrespectful kids.
1:05:12
And that's right. You're applauding and condoning this ratchet ass behavior until they get
1:05:20
you out in public and embarrass you. Then it's not so funny. That'd
1:05:25
be the funny part to me. You see how karma works. You applaud
1:05:30
them, disrespecting everybody else until it's you, and now you're mad. I'm
1:05:39
not saying children can't change. I'm not saying parents can't undo what's been done.
1:05:46
But five six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Those are
1:05:49
the imperative years three four years old. Their brains are forming. These children
1:05:57
are like sponges. They're they're soaking up everything that they see. So if
1:06:03
you want different, then you do different, you show different. But your
1:06:11
parents need to stop raising your children to not respect authority because I'm telling you,
1:06:16
the world will humble them real quick and will humble you. Now when
1:06:23
you sitting up that crying in the cemetery, when you sitting up that crying
1:06:27
because your baby's sitting behind balls, then what And I'm not saying this is
1:06:36
for all parents. Let me just clarify that I'm not saying that for all
1:06:40
parents, but for the ones who children we see going to the school fighting
1:06:45
the teachers. I saw the video what was that last week or week before
1:06:49
last? What a teacher? The student jumped on the teacher. I did
1:06:55
a whole show about that, about the young lady getting into it with the
1:07:00
substitute teacher. But that's the type of behavior you parents condone. Though somebody
1:07:08
hit you, you hit them back. Well, what if you do if
1:07:13
your child hit somebody first? What do you do? Then? What do
1:07:21
you do? That's the crazy thing for me is your parents. You better
1:07:32
understand your parents or your child or children's first teacher, y'all. Are they
1:07:44
come from you? You lay the foundation down for them. We just add
1:07:48
on to what you've already laid out. That's what educators do. They're there
1:07:55
to teach your children. You as parents, you need to teach your children
1:08:00
right from rome to respect any adult, to say yes, ma'am, no,
1:08:09
ma'am, no, sir, yes, sir. You address them by
1:08:14
mister so and so and missing so and so. These kids out here addressing
1:08:16
these teachers like they adults. What you say, Linda, ah ah,
1:08:25
that's not how you address an adult as a child. It's always been missed
1:08:30
or a missus. Even to this day, y'all, and I'm in my
1:08:34
faulties, I still say miss so and so, a mister so and so,
1:08:42
Yes, sir, no, sir, yes, ma'am, no,
1:08:44
ma'am. I still say that. My children they know how to address adults
1:08:53
mister so and so, missus so and so. They don't. Never I've
1:08:57
never heard of my children call an adult by their first name. I wish
1:09:00
they would, baby, I wish they would. And I used to tell
1:09:06
my children all the time wherever you show out, I'm gonna show up.
1:09:13
You get to school and you act and you act like a clown, or
1:09:16
I'm gonna come to your circus. Get up to that school and show out
1:09:23
at them, at them good people school, and watch what I do.
1:09:27
Let that teacher call and tell me you not paying attention in class. Let
1:09:30
that teacher call and tell me you acting up, that you disrupt the others.
1:09:34
I'm on the way. I'm on the way, and I'm gonna handle
1:09:41
it because you're gonna go back to class with some sense. Don't let your
1:09:47
friends get your behind tour up here because you trying to play follow the leader.
1:09:54
Don't get your friends. Don't let your friends get your butt toe up.
1:09:58
I'm gonna say that again. Do not let your friends get your behind
1:10:00
toe up because you're not gonna go to that school in that craze. You're
1:10:08
not gonna go anywhere in public. And that crazy. Even my two oldest
1:10:12
and they twenty three and twenty one, still know how to conduct themselves in
1:10:15
public. They don't act crazy, no, none of that. Very respectful
1:10:25
children, all three of my babies, very respectful. But I'm gonna reiterate
1:10:30
this. Your parents or your child or your children's first teacher. You give
1:10:40
them their first lesson. You're the one that sets the fact, that lays
1:10:45
the foundation out for them for them to grow into flourish. We continue to
1:10:51
poor educators, continue to feed and nourish your child as they go. Oh
1:11:02
a true mom and dad. Y'all gotta do better. Y'all gotta do better
1:11:09
as parents. Here's a teacher that has a message for parents. Here we
1:11:15
go on. Then we're gonna roll into the final thoughts for the night.
1:11:20
Now we have a GMA parenting. A Texas teacher has had enough. She
1:11:24
took the Facebook with a big message saying, quote, people absolutely have to
1:11:29
stop coddling and enabling their children. Theyb see Debora Robertson is here with what
1:11:32
prompted the social media rent. Good morning to you, Deborah, Debborah.
1:11:35
This teacher's fed up. She is Michael. She is expressing exasperation that many
1:11:40
teachers apparently are feeling across the country. They've been protest about low pay,
1:11:44
and now this Texas teacher says disrespect is an issue too. Her rent on
1:11:47
social media has gone viral, with nearly half a million views. This morning,
1:11:54
A frustrated teacher striking a nerve. I've had responses from people literally all
1:12:00
over the world, people everywhere, relating to sixth grade teacher Julie Marberger,
1:12:04
who was so fed up with bad behavior from students and parents that she resorted
1:12:10
to social media to vent, writing, teachers get treated so disrespectfully from all
1:12:15
sides, and that parents have become far too disrespectful and their children are even
1:12:18
worse, and adding people absolutely have to stop coddling and enabling their children.
1:12:24
It will not serve them towards a successful and happy life. She even went
1:12:28
so far as to share pictures of her classroom that she says displays utter disregard
1:12:32
for school and personal property from her students. We've had pictures drawn into books,
1:12:40
books that I personally bought for myself, that students have drawn inappropriate pictures
1:12:45
in or inappropriate words in. Sometimes I have students even coming and getting things
1:12:51
off of my desk, just taking things that don't belong to them, the
1:12:57
forty five year old saying she felt compelled to write that post after a particularly
1:13:01
tough day in class. I had a student who I had an issue with
1:13:05
and decided to call his mom while at school, and she was disrespectful and
1:13:14
rude to me on the phone in front of her son, and I actually
1:13:17
had the class right there with me too, and they could hear what she
1:13:21
was saying, and it was quite embarrassing. Marburger's saying while she never expected
1:13:27
to get so much attention, the reaction from parents, teachers, and her
1:13:30
administration has been positive. I was worried after this kind of blew up all
1:13:35
our Facebook that people would be offended by it, and what I found is
1:13:41
that I'm getting more support now. She suggested that she might walk out of
1:13:46
the classroom, but Marburger says probably not just yet. She's weighing her options.
1:13:51
There's a chance though, she says she might leave after this school year,
1:13:55
but I suspect with so much support, Michael, that may not happen.
1:14:00
All right, Thank you so much, Debor We all she definitely needs
1:14:01
some support and from more perspective on this. Erica Suter, editor of mom
1:14:05
dot Me, is joining us right now to Erica, and it sounds like
1:14:09
this teacher has a recipe for disaster right now? What can they do to
1:14:13
turn the situation around? Well, first of the parents have to get involved,
1:14:16
and you can't ignore it it doesn't do it's not fair to the teacher,
1:14:18
it's not fair to the other students, and it certainly doesn't do your
1:14:21
child any favors. So parents just start looking at their relationship with the teacher
1:14:26
as a partnership. They have to work together to give their kids the best
1:14:29
educational experience possible and make sure they're doing the right thing. So what can
1:14:32
parents do? I mean you said by having it, have a relationship with
1:14:35
the teacher. Schedule conferences, maybe bring the kid in as well, have
1:14:39
individual conferences with the teachers. Exactly. You have to be involved. You
1:14:43
have to ask questions to the kid and make sure they're doing everything that they
1:14:45
should be doing. Make sure that they know you are interested in their behavior
1:14:48
at school and how they're doing that school. You also have to be proactive
1:14:51
when the teacher sends an email and says there's something wrong, schedule that conference
1:14:56
and get involved and make sure you're working together. And lastly, your kids
1:14:59
should know that there are consequences. Now. She described an incidance where a
1:15:02
parent admonister was upset with her in front of the child. That tells that
1:15:06
kid that, hey, I can get away with anything you want to make
1:15:09
sure your kid knows they cannot behave badly. And do you think parents sometimes
1:15:13
let the teacher shoulder too much responsibility for their children. Yeah. Look,
1:15:16
we're overworked. Some of us are juggling multiple kids, multiple jobs. It's
1:15:20
easy to say this is the teacher's responsibility, this is their job those eight
1:15:25
hours during the day, but that is not how it works. We have
1:15:29
to take a part in our kids' education as well. Well. Your parent
1:15:31
twenty four to seventy, you're a parents three sixty five, that doesn't matter.
1:15:34
That's right, Erica, thank you so much. We appreciate it.
1:15:38
Well. Hey, there, GMA fans, Robin Roberts here, thanks for
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1:15:55
you in the morning on GMA. Huh. So, I'm gonna go into
1:16:02
my final thoughts. I wanted to end with that video because again, the
1:16:11
teacher, goanna has your child eight hours a day, five days a week,
1:16:17
and you parents need to get more involved. And like I said,
1:16:20
I understand in this day and time. It's hard because you got parents that
1:16:26
are working two or three jobs to make ends meet. I totally understand and
1:16:30
respect it. But now they do virtual conferencing where you could set up a
1:16:36
time and you could do a virtual you could do it over the phone.
1:16:42
Set aside fifteen twenty thirty minutes of your day. The moment that teacher notifies
1:16:47
you that something is going on you, as a parent, you need to
1:16:50
take responsibility for that. You need to jump into that and you need to
1:16:54
say, you know what, I need to handle this with the child.
1:17:02
I need to handle this. Start working with the teachers, stop working against
1:17:10
because you really truly have teachers out here that really truly want to see your
1:17:14
child win, that really push for the success of your child. And teachers
1:17:18
like that are rare. Y'all. Parents, y'all take the good teachers for
1:17:26
granted. Y'all love the ones that let your child do whatever it is they
1:17:30
want to do. But you're disrespectful to the ones that excuse me, put
1:17:36
a foot down when it comes to how to support that acting class. Why
1:17:46
like that lady just described, That's one of the reasons why a lot of
1:17:49
teachers are quitting. It's the disrespect not only from the child, but from
1:17:55
the parents. You ought to be embarrassed and ashamed to act the way that
1:18:01
you're do in front of your children. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience.
1:18:10
Your parents got to do better. Y'all gotta do better. Your children
1:18:15
depend on that. We owe our children that, and the less that you
1:18:21
are involved, the more you continue to fail them. Like she said,
1:18:28
you gotta work with the teachers a partnership to ensure your child is excelling,
1:18:35
that your child is staying on track to destin your child for success. That's
1:18:44
what we have to start doing. That's what parents need to start doing.
1:18:47
Start working with your teachers. Stop giving them pushback, Stop acting like an
1:18:54
ass in front of your child if the teacher has told you your child has
1:18:57
done something wrong, instead of question and saying what did the teacher do to
1:19:01
your child? What did your child do to the teacher? What did you
1:19:03
do? We gotta get the village back, ladies and gentlemen, We gotta
1:19:11
get the village back. We gotta bring the community back together. We got
1:19:14
to get our children back. We gotta take our babies back from the streets
1:19:20
because that's where they're headed. And your parents don't even understand how you're setting
1:19:27
your children up for failure. Better do better, And I'm gonna en right
1:19:35
now. So anyway, again, thank y'all for tuning in to another episode
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