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I made the Father's Day plans 2 · Scott & Ally on Demand

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  SPEAKER_02: You need to read this again and refresh, folks.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh and I want you to listen very close to the words that Allie says says here.
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  SPEAKER_02: Says she says.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh because there's a piece of that's that there's a certain line in what you're about to read that has triggered this thought in my head.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Was it wrong for me to make Father's Day plans without consulting my wife first?
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  SPEAKER_01: Father's Day being two weeks away, my two brothers called me and asked me if we all wanted to get our families together and let's celebrate the day all together.
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  SPEAKER_01: My brother Andy said he'd host the party.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I said, Great! And that was that.
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  SPEAKER_01: When I told my wife about the plans, she got really mad at me for not calling her first to run the plans by her.
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  SPEAKER_01: She didn't have a problem with the plans.
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  SPEAKER_01: She just wanted to be a part of making them.
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  SPEAKER_01: I thought this was crazy and brought up that she's never asked me if I'm okay with the plans she makes on a regular basis, let alone Mother's Day.
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  SPEAKER_01: She told me it's different, but I just can't explain why.
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  SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now the ending right there, it's different, but I can't explain why.
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  SPEAKER_02: Triggers me to go.
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  SPEAKER_02: She's got an issue with w either one of the brothers or one of the sisters or somebody in the family that's gonna be there.
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  SPEAKER_02: Maybe it's it I there's just something that says it.
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  SPEAKER_02: Read the first line one more time.
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  SPEAKER_02: The very first line.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Father's Day is two weeks away, or was it wrong for me to make Father's Day plans without consulting?
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, after the Father's Day is two weeks away.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Father's Day is two weeks away.
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  SPEAKER_01: My two brothers called me and asked me if we all wanted to get our families together to celebrate that day.
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  SPEAKER_01: My brother Andy said he'd host the party.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: So and he's gonna host it from there.
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  SPEAKER_02: So uh my two brothers called me.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is different than, you know, uh you saying, um, hey, our buddy Tony called and they're gonna do a big bonfire, and I said we're all going.
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  SPEAKER_02: And she's like, you know, I just wanted to relax.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, right, right.
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  SPEAKER_02: This this is very different.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is like it's it's a family thing, so you have to go.
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  SPEAKER_02: There's an obligation that's attached to this.
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  SPEAKER_02: And well, anyway, I'm gonna come over to Kimberly because she sent us a voice message.
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, go ahead, what do you think?
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, good morning, Scott and Allie.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's interesting because you're just reading that situation where the you can say good morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Good morning, Scott.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and so when she's like, oh, he should have consulted with her first, she's either very controlling or I agree with Scott.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's somebody that she doesn't um get along with because it doesn't sound like she was making plans, and it also doesn't sound like she had a problem with the plans being made, but you have to run it by her first.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if the shoe was on the other foot, she's like, No, I don't have to run anything by you because it's different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Girl, go sit down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go sit down.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's controlling.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, not you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was saying that the wife needs to go sit down.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, God, I love her.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love her too.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, okay, so they there is some truth to what she's saying there.
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  SPEAKER_02: This feels different than just being controlling.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, the family thing, you had said she doesn't like somebody in the family.
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  SPEAKER_02: I think there's an issue somewhere in that she has not told her husband about.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you think that if she would have known, she would have tried to change the plans and go, oh, well, I actually have plans for us for Father's Day?
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  SPEAKER_02: No, I think honestly, and maybe uh I'm not a woman.
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  SPEAKER_02: I know that's shocking.
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  SPEAKER_02: But isn't there some truth to the fact that even when you have, all right, I'll do this delicately because I don't want to put you in an uncomfortable position.
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  SPEAKER_02: Sure.
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  SPEAKER_02: In a previous relationship, to my knowledge, there was one family member you did not connect with at all.
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  SPEAKER_02: Correct.
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  SPEAKER_02: And sometimes, but you still had to endure.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, sometimes.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Sometimes isn't it nice to get that heads up to go?
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, like mentally prepare.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_02: I understand.
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  SPEAKER_02: This is important.
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  SPEAKER_02: So that's why I'm thinking it's somebody in the family.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I get it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: So, like, I'll give you an idea.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'll give you a great example.
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  SPEAKER_02: The Crown Jewels uh had told Tiffany, she goes, Hey, any plans for 4th of July?
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  SPEAKER_02: You know, meaning like a cookout or something.
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  SPEAKER_02: And apparently it was Tiffany or somebody said, Well, we could all go to Nani's and do a cookout there.
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  SPEAKER_02: And I go, or they could all come to our house and we could do a cookout where I'm more comfortable just being at home.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, okay.
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  SPEAKER_02: You see, you can you you get a chance to pre-arrange unless there's something else going on.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now I can, okay, I can see that it might be a family member, but I also can see, because I realize now more and more as time goes on, how controlling I am about my plans.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and I say that because I do always make plans.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I I I try to be respectful to Zach and say, but mine's more like, hey, was talking to Elena and we're thinking about doing X, Y, and Z.
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  SPEAKER_01: As opposed to like if he was to just come out and be like, we're having dinner with Lucas on Tuesday, I'd be like, hold up.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I understand the controlling part too.
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  SPEAKER_01: For some reason.
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  SPEAKER_01: But if you did the same thing, it's okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't get that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't get it either, and it's my brain.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's not fair.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not.
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  SPEAKER_02: Actually, good for you for saying that.
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  SPEAKER_02: Look at 7453.
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  SPEAKER_02: They said she needs to get over it.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's Father's Day.
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  SPEAKER_02: He made a plan, period.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that that's true?
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  SPEAKER_01: I think for Father's Day, you get to do what you want.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're the dad, you know?
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  SPEAKER_02: Well, I don't even say he wants to do it.
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  SPEAKER_02: It seems like the respectful thing to do.
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  SPEAKER_02: Not everybody is like, oh, okay, lots to all family, you know, get together.
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  SPEAKER_02: Sometimes it's just like, well, that's what's expected.
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  SPEAKER_02: And since somebody put that out there, that's what we'll do.
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  SPEAKER_01: 2457, she's the jerk, not him.
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  SPEAKER_01: Controlling the boss, how stupid I pick my battles.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: I and and this is where like the Father's Day thing is.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think you're right.
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  SPEAKER_01: No matter what, they should absolutely do what he planned.
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  SPEAKER_02: But there's something more there.
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  SPEAKER_02: And that's what I want to know.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's the other, other every day or weekend plans that I'm like, don't tell me what to do.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my!
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  SPEAKER_02: But you can tell me what to do.