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Hypnosis to Communicate Confidently and Without Anxiety · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  created for a client that would. Quite.
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  Often either use certain kind of crutches linguistically, so it'd
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  be phrases like what's the word? And they might say that three or
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  four times before the right word comes up.
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  So it's similar to a stammer or a starter?
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  But it would be. Different coping strategies and
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  that would be a linguistic coping strategy.
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  So what you're really going to hear in this hypnosis session is
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  a few things. One, they felt very comfortable
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  talking to certain people like their son.
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  So using that as a resource state to anchor almost like feel
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  like it's charging up a power Bank of resourcefulness that
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  they can then deploy in a situation where they weren't
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  feeling quite so confident and to use that coping strategy of.
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  That phrase. What's the?
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  Word as in a dialogue so they're pausing as far as the outside
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  world can world can see using that phrase internally and then
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  when the word comes then they start talking and that means
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  that they're following almost an identical internal strategy but
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  doing so in a way that gives them this confidence of a pause
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  and those people that communicate and.
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  Use pauses. Confidently come across as very
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  confident communicators because most people feel awkward or
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  uncomfortable about silence. They have to.
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  Fill every space. But think of the.
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  Great, let's say people that. Delivered speeches like Nelson
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  Mandela, for example. Was a great, let's say orator,
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  but he would use pauses. Quite often as part.
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  Of his speeches. And lots of.
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  Great. Presenters will use silence and.
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  Pauses to. Immense effect.
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  So rather than looking at filler words, a lot of people.
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  Will use words like basically or.
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  Thinking noises like umms and ours and I, I do it a bit and
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  it's a natural way of talking, but you can have pauses and
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  silences as a way of allowing you to find the right word
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  before saying the right word. So there's an element of
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  anchoring resource states, having internal strategies, but
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  also using things like movement. And they found that it was
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  easier for them to communicate while they were moving the body.
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  But the problem is, is that when they were stationary and sitting
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  down, they wouldn't feel that they.
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  Could do that because they couldn't.
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  Pace. But they can move their feet or
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  their fingers or their hands, and that can be a way to release
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  certain words. The final element of this,
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  outside of future pacing, is this element of considering
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  things. As low stakes.
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  And here's the thing most. People feel.
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  A lack of anxiety when they are in low stakes environment.
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  So if it's if it feels like nothing, it doesn't really mean
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  anything. Most people feel fairly
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  confident when the stakes get raised.
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  Then there is this feeling that the pressure gets on this
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  element, this idea of choking in sports psychology of, you know,
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  succumbing to the pressure. Is a feeling of it's a.
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  High stakes environment. So there's an element here that
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  also frames things as low stakes environments, that depending on
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  how you really think about things, everything can be a low
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  stakes environment. And when you frame it that way,
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  you tend to feel more relaxed and more comfortable.
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  So if you. Have in the past felt
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  uncomfortable or lacking confidence when communicating.
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  You might get some value from this, but please be aware it
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  was. Created for a.
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  Client with a very specific form of a stammer and therefore not
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  all of these suggestions are going to make sense for you.
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  If you like the idea of working with me directly, check out my
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  website adamcox.co.uk and there's a link on there where
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  you can book. The free. 30 minute consultation
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  call on Zoom. You can also find that in the
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  show notes. If you just click more details
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  in the podcast, you should be able to see a link there.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax.
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  And. Enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe.
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  In. Breathe in a resourceful feeling
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  of calm and relaxation, and as you exhale, just feel a
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  wonderful release, particularly around your.
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  Eyelids. And just notice, but with your
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  eyes closed, you're able to focus inward, to hear more of my
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  words and to allow these words to be a catalyst for wonderful
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  positive changes. So as you breathe in, scan your
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  whole body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes,
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  as you start to scan for tension, stresses and worries,
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  so that when you exhale, just feel this tension melting away
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  and leaving your body in that outward breath.
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  That's it. The deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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  the even deeper you breathe. So really settled in to where
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  you're sitting right now, feel the weight of your legs and
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  arms, notice the rate of your breathing.
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  And if you really concentrate, maybe you can even identify the
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  feeling of a heartbeat, a pulse in just one of your fingers.
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  The more you notice these physical sensations, like your
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  chest rising and falling, the more it's possible for tension
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  to be released. Perhaps tension around the jaw,
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  the neck, or your shoulders. Just allow it to be released
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  now. So feel the natural rhythm of
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  your breathing, the way the air flows in and out effortlessly.
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  Notice that you can recalibrate into that place of relaxation
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  and comfort, so that with each breath you allow your body to
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  relax just a little bit more, releasing any tension from your
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  shoulders, your neck, your arms, all the way down to your toes.
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  And as your body relaxes, so does your mind, as you realise
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  that you can let thoughts drift by like clouds in the sky or
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  leaves falling off a tree in autumn, knowing that there's no
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  need to hold on to anything right now.
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  Simply follow the sound of my voice as you begin to sink into
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  a deeper, more peaceful state of relaxation that's in.
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  I want you to imagine what it would feel like to be floating.
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  Floating on water that is so dense it just supports your
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  weight. I'm going to countdown from
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  12:50 and with each descending number just feel that this water
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  is supporting you, but that there are qualities in the water
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  that melts away. Tension, perhaps minerals,
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  perhaps the heat of the water 10 Just relaxing now, releasing
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  that tension 9 Maybe there's a current floating, taking you
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  somewhere, somewhere in your imagination. 8 feeling more of
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  that release, and seven, noticing your inner thoughts
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  quieten. Seven goes to six and your jaw
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  completely relaxes. 5 The water cradling you, holding you,
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  supporting you. 4 drifting deeper and deeper, relaxed. 3 So
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  deeply relaxed. 2 and one imagine the water has carried
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  you the somewhere where you feel completely at ease, safe and
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  open to positive transformation. So now in this relaxed state, I
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  want you to imagine a time when you are having a conversation
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  with someone you felt relaxed with.
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  Maybe your son or someone else. But picture their face, hear
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  their voice, just notice how comfortable and at ease you
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  feel. This is a low stakes
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  conversation, no big deal. In this moment you are
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  confident, relaxed and fully yourself and notice how words
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  flow naturally and even when you pause to think.
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  It feels completely normal, completely natural.
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  If you make a mistake with a word or a thorn, you just
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  restate it, rephrase it, find a different way of saying it, and
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  you notice they are engaged and patient.
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  And this feeling of ease is your natural state.
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  It's the way you like to communicate.
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  So at the point where you feel the words are flowing and you
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  feel comfortable, just create an anchor, maybe squeeze a thumb
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  and a finger together on your left hand.
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  Do that. Now as you feel that, this
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  feeling of feeling comfortable, you're now creating a trigger, A
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  trigger you can charge up and a trigger you can deploy.
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  We can think of this like a power bank, the kind of power
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  bank you might use to charge your phone in an emergency.
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  When you're feeling comfortable and confident communicating,
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  squeeze your finger and feel like you're charging this power
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  bank up. And when you're in a situation
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  that feels outside of your comfort zone, use the same
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  trigger. Start using up all of that
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  resources you've been charging to feel resourceful and
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  comfortable and confident, even if you're in a situation with a
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  group of many people you don't know.
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  So allow that ease and confidence to become an anchor
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  within you, a resource that you can.
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  Access. Anytime you speak to others, and
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  maybe now you can imagine taking that same feeling and extending
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  it, bridging it across to conversations with anyone, even
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  groups of people or those that you've just met and feel how
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  this confidence feels in your body.
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  And maybe it's a warmth in your chest, a feeling of fluidity and
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  flexibility, a connection, a steadiness in your breathing, or
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  a calm clarity in your mind. And just allow that sensation to
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  grow stronger, as if it's spreading through every part of
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  you, making you feel more capable and grounded with each
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  moment. And perhaps you could imagine
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  yourself in a future situation where you're speaking to a group
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  or someone new, and if a word doesn't immediately come to
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  mind, give yourself permission to simply pause.
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  And you own that pause, feeling calm and composed.
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  And you might think to yourself, what's the word or what's it
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  called in your inner dialogue, but outwardly you remain poised,
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  feel comfortable using the crutch inwardly and feeling
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  comfortable with the silence externally.
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  And when the word comes, say it. Treat this as just one tool in
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  the toolbox, and maybe variety is another tool.
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  Occasionally you might change your words and say it's on the
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  tip of my tongue. I'm drawing a blank here, It's
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  escaping me right now. And you notice how natural and
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  easy it feels to use these phrases.
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  It's perfectly OK to pause, to think, to take your time.
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  Sometimes you can pause and use the rhythm of hand gestures or a
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  tapping foot to also release a blocked word.
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  As you start to feel you have so many tools in your toolkit,
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  silence will become your ally, a space where your thoughts can
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  settle and the right words can surface.
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  You trust your mind, define the words when it's ready.
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  There's no rush, no pressure, because you know that most
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  situations are just low stakes. That in the grand scheme of
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  life, these conversations or even big speeches are just no
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  big deal. And with this realization, any
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  anticipatory fear seems to dissolve or just melt away.
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  That you can feel calm, capable and at ease.
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  Because you can make an evaluation that you'll handle it
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  and you'll be fine. And even if something happens,
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  you'll still be fine. In the big scheme of things, no
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  big deal. So now just imagine a scene
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  where you're speaking to a group of people.
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  Perhaps it's a casual meeting, or maybe a big presentation.
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  See yourself standing or sitting comfortably, and when you notice
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  that you're looking comfortable, step into that version of you.
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  Notice how you feel steady, grounded, and confident.
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  Notice that you're speaking naturally, pausing when you need
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  to, and if a word escapes you, you calmly say, I'm drawing a
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  blank. Give me a moment and notice with
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  these words, with these pauses, the audience becomes more
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  engaged, more patient, even more responsive as you feel that
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  you're in complete control, owning your pauses, owning your
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  gestures, your rhythms, your movements, and the flow of your
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  words. Small movements and gestures,
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  taps, movements of your feet or your toes can be like a
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  conductor of an orchestra. Just one movement is all it
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  takes for the right word to suddenly arrive.
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  And every time you speak to someone new or in a group, don't
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  be surprised if you find yourself tapping into this same
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  confidence and ease that you feel with your son.
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  And maybe you just imagine that your son is in the same room
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  with whoever you're talking to, a room full of strangers, and
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  your son is there somewhere in the room.
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  Becoming a bridge to feel resourceful when you normally
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  wouldn't. Because this resource is always
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  within you, ready to support you in any situation.
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  Pauses become your friend, and you own them completely.
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  Notice that the more you trust yourself to find the right
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  words, the more true that becomes, knowing that
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  communication is about connection, not perfection.
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  If you're unconscious feels and has more options, but future
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  events have become more manageable and more low stakes,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And with that in mind, it's time
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  to return to the present, taking all of these thoughts,
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  strategies, and resources with you as very soon I count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you. But first, take a deep breath
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  in. Through your nose.
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  And out. Through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, start to calibrate
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  into the here and now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you starting to count 123 waking up. 456.
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  More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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