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Alpha Male vs Man of God (5 Major Differences) · Off The Kirb Ministries

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There's another video that on the Internet that's just going
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viral at the moment of a little girl going down a slide, and
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this man runs to catch the child as it falls off the slide and
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catches it in the nick of time. I remember hearing Andrew Tate's
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at one of his good friends saying this, and it still angers
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me to this day. And he said, you know, I don't
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cook any meals. I just laugh at the Uber driver
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on his little bike pedaling, getting me some pizza, you know,
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and I'm here making all this money.
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And he's, you know, and I just give him my money and then take
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my food. Maybe this is even a little
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controversial. I do believe that if you can
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learn some kind of martial art perhaps, or boxing, OK, If I put
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a sheet of paper in front of you and I said, write a list of
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names of the first alpha males that you think of, names that
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people think are leaders, strong men in the world, who might you
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put on that list? Well, when I asked the Internet
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what it thought were these names, these are the names it
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gave me. So for the previous generation,
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the older generation, they said names like Clint Eastwood, John
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Wayne, Steve McQueen, you remember him, the king of cool,
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Sean Connery, James Bond. And then when I asked it, OK,
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what are some names for this generation, who do you think was
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the first name that came to mind?
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Andrew Tate, then we had Conor McGregor, Dwayne Johnson, and
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then Donald Trump actually is someone who would be seen as a
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strong alpha male leader. Now that might be what the world
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says is what a real man looks like, but what is the kind of
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man that God is looking for? Well, before I show you 5
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things, 5 qualities that every godly man should have.
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I'll send you an e-mail over and we'll put some faces here right
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as I'm doing the coffee now. When I was growing up, I
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remember quite distinctly there was quite a pressure on girls,
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especially because there was models like supermodels like
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Kate Moss. There was a shop called Topshop
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that opened up and they'd have high fashion catwalk models that
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were all really super skinny. And there was a real pressure on
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girls to to be like that. And there still is a great
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pressure on on young girls today to, to be like the Instagram
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models that they see. But I'll tell you something.
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I think the pressure, can I say this, you might not agree with
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this, maybe this is even a little controversial, but I
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think actually we've flipped places.
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And I think the pressure now is on young men, men, the Gen.
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ZS, you know, kids that are born in, you know, 2002 thousand and
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five around that generation. I think there's a tremendous
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pressure for them to be like an Andrew Tate or a Hamza or an
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Alex Hormozi. And if you're watching this now
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and you've never heard of these guys is all you need to know is
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these are guys who are rich, they're strong, they're
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charismatic, they get the girls. And that is what the world is
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saying. You need to have a fast car, you
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need to have a deep voice, you need to have lots of money, and
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that will make you into a real man.
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Now, some of these things that we've talked about, the finding
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of themselves, if you've got a deep voice, I'm not criticizing
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you. If you've got a nice car,
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there's no problem in that. But what is it that God is
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looking for and what is it that every Christian man should be
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seeking to do to try and be as godly as possible?
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So here are 5 qualities that I think God wants every single
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Christian man to have in their life.
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And guys, as I say this, please know you know me by now.
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I'm not going to set myself up as some example because I'm
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learning all of this too. And well, I will share some
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personal things of where I've totally got this wrong in this
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video. So number one, it's this.
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I think a godly man needs to be quiet, needs to be calm.
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One thing my wife will tell you is she hates it when I'm driving
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in the car. And you know, my work, I work a
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lot on my own. Literally just one day a week I
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go out St. preaching and then the rest of the week I'm writing
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messages, editing videos. It's quite a lonely job.
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It's not as glamorous as it looks.
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Being a Christian, YouTube, it can be pretty difficult work at
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times and I'm on my own a lot and I'm get stressed and I get
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worried and we'll get in the car and then as soon as the door
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shuts, I'll tell Emma. So this has happened and what do
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you think about this and what should I do about this?
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And I'll just burden all of my worries, all of my concerns, and
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I'll just throw them. I'll dump them on Emma and leave
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them for her. Now isn't that a selfish thing
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to do? Because the Bible tells us that
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the woman is the weaker vessel. Yes, physically she's weaker,
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but also in in a mindset, emotionally, she hasn't got the
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same strength. We are made differently.
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And again, I'm going to talk a bit a little bit about that
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later, but we are made differently, aren't we?
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And it's wrong for me to just pour out all of these things.
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Now, I'm not saying never do this with your wife.
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Never do this because there is a time and a place, but as a man,
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we've got to learn what it is to stay calm.
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We've got to learn what it is to to to really live this book out
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and to cast all of our cares on him for he careth for you.
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And if it is a big issue, of course you want to share that
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with your wife. You don't want to keep secrets.
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But I'm also going to say there are times to also have godly men
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around you and to share these things with them.
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So if you are like me and you struggle to be calm, what can we
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do about that? Well, obviously you need to make
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sure that you're not always live in a separate world on the
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computer. You're not always surrounding
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yourself with, you know, high stimulating things.
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So if you're watching television crime dramas or you're watching,
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you know, lots and lots of boxing or MMA, you know, all of
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this stuff is putting cortisol into your body and it's raising
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these levels. And then you're working a
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stressful job and then you've got your family and then you've
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got all these different pressures, church, all these
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things that are around you. You need to just take things
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back and just go back to basics. One of the best things I like to
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do when I go on holiday is I do not go on my phone at all.
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I don't go on the Internet at all.
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So have seasons, have time where it's just quiet.
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Have times where you just have a nice warm cup of Joe just with
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your Bible, no screens. Just stay calm.
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But it's not just being calm that's important.
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It's also important for men of God to be quiet.
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Now, my pastor, one of the things I most admire about him
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is he has a real gentleness, but he's also so careful with what
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he says. Emer actually used an example
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the other night. She said.
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I won't name my pastor's name, but there was a time where I
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knew I was going to go into a situation where I might be
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tempted to say some things, some rude things back to someone else
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who was going to be rude to me. And she said, what would a name
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the pastor do? He'd just be quiet and he'd just
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walk away if it got heated. And that's what I, I need to
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learn to do more. I'm someone who, you know, I
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speak my mind. I wear my heart on my sleeve all
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the time. Let me give a Bible verse for
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you. Proverbs 10, verse 19.
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In the multitude of words, there wanteth not sin, but he that
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refraineth his lips is wise. So when you're speaking all the
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time, when you've got verbal and I won't say that, you know that
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what words come in next. When you're just speaking all
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the time, sin's just near, isn't it?
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It's so easy. You slip up, you say stupid
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things you say. Why did I say that?
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But if you hold back your words, if you choose your words
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carefully, if you are known as a man of few words, that is not a
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bad thing at all. It's good to hold things back
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because if you read the the book of Proverbs, it constantly goes
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back to this man who who restrains his lips, who's quiet
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and he's seen as wise, the man of gods.
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He doesn't discuss certain topics, some things he knows
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this isn't a wise thing to talk about and he will just say, if
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there's gossip at work, I'm sorry, I don't want to think
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about that. I I don't want to entertain
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this. The man of gods, He isn't there
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to have a silly, cheap laugh over unclean things that God
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hates. He will have a laugh, He will
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have a joke, but he knows a time to laugh and a time to be
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silent. And the man of God, as I was
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saying earlier, is he doesn't repay evil for evil.
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If someone should we say the word disses you, or if someone
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puts you down or embarrasses you, the thing inside of us,
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inside of the flesh, we want to say, well, I can say this about
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that person. I can say that about this
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person. And I've noticed this, but that
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isn't the way of the Christian. No, Jesus says don't repay evil
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for evil, but repay evil for good.
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We must be like that in in the Scriptures, following the word
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of God, that we must be gentle with our words and very careful
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of what we say. Before I move on to #2 someone
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just came to my mind, someone who I think is a good example of
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an alpha male who's on this earth today.
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If you've ever watched the YouTube Dry Creek Wrangler, he's
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an American guy. He's someone who's, I like him,
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basically. But what did he say that came to
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our mind? He said that actually the most
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dangerous man in the room is the quietest man.
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And I think there's a lot of truth on that.
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So just chew on that thought for a minute #2A man of gods must be
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a protector. He must protect those around him
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who are weaker. I've got a Bible verse for you.
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If you've got a Bible there, turn to Ephesians 5 verse 25.
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Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church
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and gave himself for it. Now why did I share that verse
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with you? I'll tell you why.
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Who is the perfect example of a leader?
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I mean, I don't even like this word alpha male, but I'm just
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using it because it's a common term.
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But who is the alpha male? Well, it's the alpha and the
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Omega, the Lord Jesus Christ. He is our example.
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So why is it we're called to protect?
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Well, have you considered this? Here we are.
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We are the bride. We are weak.
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If you're the strongest man watching this now, you are weak
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compared to the spiritual forces out there.
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And here we are. The devil lunges for us, He goes
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for us, He wants to take us out, but the Lord Jesus Christ, he
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stands in the way and he protects us.
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He lays down his life for the bride of Christ, for the church,
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and he dies for us. And that is using an example for
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us as husbands to look after our wives, that if anyone should
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ever come after our wife, we must stand in the way.
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Now, you might not be the strongest guy in the room.
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I'm certainly not the strongest guy in the room, but God knows
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your hearts. And if you're willing to
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literally lay down your life for your wife, if 10 men come for
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you and there's no point, that you've got no chance, you're
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still called to stand in between your wife and those men, your
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children, because you are called to protect them.
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And we're also called to protect those who are weaker around us.
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We're called to be caring, to love people.
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You see a woman and she's struggling to pick her walking
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stick up off the floor. You should help her.
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You see that man and he's, he's on his own.
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And you get the idea. We should be trying to be
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caring. And that's something that
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sometimes you won't always see with these, you know, alpha
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males that we hear about in the media.
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They're not doing those gentle, kind things.
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It's all about them. Do I have permission to get
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really practical now? I actually think more of those
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men, particularly if you're an average Joe like me, we need to
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learn to be a bit stronger. If you like me and you sat at a
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desk all day. God has given us muscles for a
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reason, our muscles. I truly do believe this, even
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though I don't see any sin or anything wrong in doing the work
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that we're doing with technology, But I do believe
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we'd all be way happier if we lived.
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Here's another alpha male for you, like Charles Ingalls.
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If we just lived on a, on a farm self-sufficient and we get our
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crop and we all spend time at church on Sunday coming together
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chatting, we didn't have all this technology.
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I think we'd be way happier. But we do live in this world.
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And as the Bible says, we were made for such a time as this.
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But that doesn't change the fact that God has given us, you know,
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fingers, finger muscles, muscles in our arms.
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You know, in your 20s, you know, your muscles are never stronger
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then, you know, as we get older, you know, sometimes different
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things are better as we get older.
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But your muscles at the 20s, they have this, this power in
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them, this stretchiness in them. And I'm not in my 20s anymore,
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as you can tell. But we need to keep working
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these muscles that God has given us.
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That's what I'm basically trying to say.
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And I do believe that if you can learn some kind of martial art
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perhaps or boxing. Personally, I like to go on my
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punch bag twice a day. I used to box when I was when I
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was younger and it's just something I'll pick back up
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again and just for fun. It's just good for your health,
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isn't it? Because you know, again, when we
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look at the Bible, the men of the Bible, they were warriors.
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They were strong men. Now, here's the thing, if we are
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trying to be stronger, if we are trying to know that, OK,
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something went wrong, I would at least do my best to fight for my
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wife and children. Are we always going to look for
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a fight then? No.
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I love this example. When I was 19 years old, I was
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preaching in the open air and there was an older evangelist
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there, a guy called Mickey. He was actually American and
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he'd come over from the States to do some beach missions with
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us. And he said, if I ever got
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punched in the face in the open air, I said, would you punch him
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back? He said, no, I'd actually praise
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the Lord and say, Lord God, thank you that you've let me
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take that for you that I've, I've taken that bit of, of
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hatred in your name. Thank you.
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I praise your name for that. I'm blessed because of that.
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But on the flip side, he said, however, if someone came for my
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wife and my children, I would do everything within my power to
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protect them. I think you get what I'm trying
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to say here. But again, there needs to be a
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word of caution. Some people physically, they
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can't do much and for whatever reason it might be, you can't
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protect. And the Lord knows that.
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But it's inside of your heart of hearts.
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Is there a self preservation where you're looking after
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yourself? You know where it's, if there
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was a water bottle there and your wife needs a drink and you
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need a drink, are you the one who's going to take it all?
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You understand what I'm trying to say there?
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It doesn't have to be, you know, this strong macho man.
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Are we, are we doing it on the micro level?
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At the same time #3 the man of gods should at all costs be
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seeking to be selfless. And on that note, would anyone
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like some of my coffee? But you know what I'm trying to
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say here. You know, there's a, there's a
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problem. Isn't that?
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As I named some of those alpha males before, the issue with a
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lot of those alpha males is they are selfish, they're self
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censored. They want they want to build
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their Kingdom, they're following, they want to build
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their muscles, they want to build their strength.
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It's all about them. It's all about their money,
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their bank account. And yet they don't care about,
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you know, the random person on the street.
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I remember hearing Andrew Tate's one of his good friends saying
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this and it still angers me to this day.
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And he said, you know, I don't cook any meals.
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I just laugh at the Uber driver on his little bike pedaling,
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getting me some pizza, you know, and, and I'm here making all
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this money and he's, you know, and I just give him my money and
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then take my food. That isn't the way of a strong
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man should not be thinking like that in any shape or form.
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A strong man should be wanting to, to help that man.
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And if you know these tools and these ideas, you should be
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helping him. You should want to see this
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person who's bringing you food every day to, to better himself.
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A strong man should, should look at the needs of others and and
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it should break them to pieces because the Lord has blessed
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them and yet these others are are struggling.
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The man of God, I believe will attract a woman of God.
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And I didn't realise this until a few weeks ago actually, just
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how much women are attracted to selflessness, you know, to
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sacrifice. Now I, I do many, many things
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wrong. OK, so I'm just going to give
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you an example here. And I'm not boasting anyway.
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It's just it's really stuck in my mind because my wife taught
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me something I had no idea about.
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And it is true men and women are very different.
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And I just, I thought one thing completely opposite and she
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thought the other. But as you know, recently me and
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Emma have have gone through a loss and it's been a tough time.
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And the first time we took our little boy Samuel swimming, who
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went to the swimming lesson, and it was the first week we'd been
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back and they'd actually moved us to a different pool.
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And in this swimming pool, the children can't touch the bottom
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with their feet. So the swimming teachers at this
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end, doing something with a class, and she'd set Samuel off
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to do a backstroke, okay, on his back.
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And Sam started to panic because there was a sort of row of
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floats that he'd swam into an angle and he wasn't moving
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anywhere. So here he is.
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He's not moving, he's not going anywhere.
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And he's starting to think, where am I?
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So he flips over onto his belly and then realises I'm here.
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And then he flips over onto his side and then I'm here.
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And then he starts to panic. And here the swimming teacher
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is, is, is at the other end. And we honestly, it wasn't her
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fault. And I'm just want to make that
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completely clear. But she was at this end.
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And me and Emma are watching Sam and he's panicking and he's
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worrying and, and I'm saying to him, it's going to be OK, it's
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OK, it's OK. And then it went on and on.
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And then I'm thinking this isn't good at all and Emma's like
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this. What's going to happen?
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Emma's real. No, this isn't good.
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All that and then next thing I know, fully clothed, I've jumped
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into the water in jeans, in my shirt and I'm soaking wet and
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I've paused Samuel up and I apologise to someone teacher.
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It was actually quite a nice moment.
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And she sent sent us a card because we explained our
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situation. I said I think this is probably
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just an overreaction with everything that's happened.
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But there I was, now I was humiliated and here I am soaking
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wet with all these other mums. I'm the only dad there and I'd
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only gone to the swimming lesson just to support Emma because
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we're getting back into activities.
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All these mums are there and I'm, I'm in my genes and, and
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I'm just sat on the sideline. So I'm kind of thinking, what do
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I do here? Then one of the people at the
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swimming pool says to me, there's hair dryers in there.
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So I go out and I get the hair dryer.
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I try to dry myself as good as possible.
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And I said, Emma, that was just so embarrassing, wasn't it?
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And Emma turned to me and said, I've never been more attracted
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to you my entire life. So, well, I'll have to jump in
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the swimming pool more. You see, I didn't understand
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this situation In my mind. I thought, this just looks like,
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you know, you're overthinking you being over the top.
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There's another video that on the Internet that's just going
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viral at the moment of a little girl going down a slide and this
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man runs to catch the child as it falls off the slide and
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catches it in the nick of time. And of course, all these women
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are just saying this is amazing, you know, So what?
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What am I trying to say? The long way around it is
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sacrifice is something that women really appreciate.
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And why is that? Because inside every woman's
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heart they have a desire to meet the ultimate man of sacrifice,
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the Lord Jesus Christ. That's who every woman really,
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if you're watching this and you're single, that's who who
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you need in your life more than anyone.
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But again, just know that again, this isn't about the jumping and
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swimming pools level. This is about the micro level.
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Don't be always trying to self preserve.
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You know, look after your needs. She's not meeting my needs.
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No, if you've taken a wife and even if it's tough, you are
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called to lay down your life as Christ laid down his life for
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the church. You are called to give yourself
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up and to love her even when things are difficult.
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You're not called to be greedy. Always want him more and more
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for yourself and and living in two separate worlds like we can
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often do him. You know, your wife might be on
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a phone and you're on your laptop or you're reading a book.
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No, spend time together and be near to your wife and sacrifice
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yourself even when you don't feel like doing the homework
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with your children or you don't feel like, you know, taking the
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bins out. It's all about a life of
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sacrifice. That's what men of God do #4 the
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man of God is disciplined. This is so, so important.
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Just turn in your Bibles to Colossians 3, verse 23.
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And whatsoever you do, do it heartily as to the Lord and not
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to men. You see, as a man of gods, you
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are called to be the provider for your family.
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You are called to work hard. And whether you aren't married
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or you are married, you're still called to do everything you can,
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whatever your hand full of, to do.
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Do with all your might. Work for your heavenly master,
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not your earthly master. God is watching you.
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And this is a quality we should all be seeking to do.
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So let's get really practical. What time do you wake up at in
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the morning? What time do you go to bed at?
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Do you read your Bible? Are you a man of prayer?
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Have you got a disciplined quiet time that happens every day?
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These are things that a man of God must have the non
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negotiables. And again, I, I get so busy and
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I've struggled with it to to maintain that before I had this
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YouTube channel. It was I used to be, you know,
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do it. I'll be honest, I used to do a 2
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hour quiet time in the mornings. I wasn't Christian work so I had
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that luxury. But once real really, you know,
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high pressured work came up, it was difficult to maintain that.
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So I'm not judging anyone in any shape or form, but I am saying,
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guys, we've got to get this right.
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Even just this week my dad was saying if you don't do your
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quiet time first thing in the morning, the very first thing
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you do before you eat, it won't happen.
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It's so very often if you leave it till later in the day, it
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won't get done. Now, I know we're all wired
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differently and if that's you, that's great if you can do it
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consistently, but I'm just saying we need to be
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disciplined, don't we? Now, if there's any Single
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Ladies watching this video, do you know, let me let you into a
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little tip how you can find the right man for you who's going to
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be a provider. If you're dating a man and
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you're interested in him, but you're not married yet, why
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don't you go and ask his boss what's he like at working?
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Come on, be honest with me. Is he a hard worker?
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Because your boss will tell you the truth.
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Well, his boss will tell the truth, won't they?
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And if they are a hard worker, you know, you've got, you've got
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yourself a Gemini, ladies. You see, I think too many of
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those men, we go to bed with too much energy.
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Again, as I said, God designed us to be toil and to be
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labouring hard in the fields, to be working hard.
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But if we're not going to bed exhausted, if we're not going to
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bed like the, the cloth, if you like, just totally wrung out of
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energy. I've, I've given everything to
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my work. I've given everything to the
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Lord. I've given everything to my
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wife. I've spent time with my
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children. I've, I've done the jobs around
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the house. I've, I've done everything.
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If we're not going to bed with all, you know, there's a
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problem, isn't there? If we're just scrolling on the
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Internet or watching Netflix for hours and hours and we're laying
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awake and we're not falling asleep, there could be a reason
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for that, that we're not working hard enough.
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Proverbs 14, verse 23. Would you turn there with me
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please? In all labour there is prophets.
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But the talk of the lips tendeth only to penury.
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Penury means poverty. So did you hear that?
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You heard it from the word of God?
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In all labour there is prophet. You might think clearing this
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drain, it's just so boring and it can wait another few months.
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But the Bible says in all labour there's profit.
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You might think, ah, doing, doing this work for the church.
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You know, I'm the treasurer for the church and I'm, I'm doing
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all of these taxes and oh, it's just seems so mundane.
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In all labour there is profit doing the dishes.
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I'm a man, I don't need to wash the dishes.
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We don't have a dishwasher at our house.
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We we do it manually. But I'm a man, I don't need to
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do that. That's a woman's job.
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Well, as Billy Graham's wife once said, I think her name was
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Ruth Graham, she put a little plaque over the kitchen sink and
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said divine worship is given here twice a day and that was
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for Billy and for the other men of the house to know.
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No, you also are called to wash dishes.
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Why? Because in all labour there is
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profit in all the mundane things we do as men, as men of God.
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It doesn't have to be strong and conquering kingdoms and building
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empires and you know, gaining all this money on cryptocurrency
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or whatever it is you're doing, it doesn't have to be all of
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that. You can give glory to God in the
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mundane things. And often that's often where we
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find ourselves giving the most glory to God, where we're just
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gleaning wheats in a field, just doing the little things here and
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there what our heavenly Father sees.
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OK, lastly #5 our fifth and final attributes are
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characteristic of a godly man is a godly man is faithful.
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Proverbs 20 verse 6 says most men will proclaim everyone his
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own goodness. But a faithful man who can find,
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A faithful man who can find. And really, that's the one thing
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I want to be left ringing in your ears.
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We see all these men. We see all these strong men, but
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a faithful man who can find you see, the Bible says that's rare.
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It is rare to find a loving, loyal man, a man who sees the
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Lord Jesus Christ as his greatest example.
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You know, the Lord Jesus Christ, he was a gentle shepherd, He
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shepherded people's hearts, but he also LED, He was a leader.
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And when the going got tough, he was the one who said, I'll carry
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the can, I'll take it. So whether you're married or
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not, would people say about you, you are a loyal person?
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Are you faithful? Do you gossip about your friends
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behind their back? Can your friends trust you of
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information or are you known for just spreading it around your
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wife? Do you protect your wife?
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Again, we're not just always talking about being physical
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here. Do you protect your wife when
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others are putting her down? Maybe even your own family?
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That can so often happen. Do you protect her?
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Are you prepared to lay down your life, lay down your
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reputation for your wife? Are you a loyal person?
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I'll tell you something that most men need to repent of, and
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it's this. You can be really unfaithful to
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your wives late at night. I think you know what I'm
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talking about. There you are.
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Maybe your wife's in bed or the house is empty and you're all
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alone on the Internet. Are you faithful?
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Do you take your marriage vows seriously in that moment?
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Are you faithful to your God? If you're not married with that
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same exact thing I'm talking about, are you a faithful man?
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Are you loyal to the one who died for you?
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And, and though these things, you know, we're not, we don't
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believe in workspace salvation, but we are called to repent.
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We are called to turn from our sins.
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And are you going to say this one who died for me, he's so
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precious to me. I can't watch that stuff.
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I want to be faithful. Principles are really, really
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important. And in a society that doesn't
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care about principles, you and I more than ever need to get them
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drilled deep into us. I have shared this story before,
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this illustration before on this channel, but if you've not heard
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it, I want to share it again with you.
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You know the story well of David and Bathsheba.
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And David had got himself into a real mess, hadn't he?
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He'd taken another man's wife, and here it was.
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Everyone was going to find out about it.
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So David tried to get rid of Bathsheba's husband, Uriah, and
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he tried to get Uriah to well, he got him to drink a lot,
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didn't he? So here he is Uriah, he's he's
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out of his mind, he's dulled his senses after drinking so much.
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And what happens? David says I want you now to go
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home to your wife, spend some time with your wife.
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But Uriah said no, how can I do that when my men, because he was
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a soldier, he was a captain of the army.
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How can my men, while they are out in battle, how can I go home
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and just relax and chill out with my wife?
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No, I need to be with my men. I have duty.
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I have principal. And so here he is, this man
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who's intoxicated, he's been drinking a lot, and he's got
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more principles than the king of all of Israel.
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He says, no, I'm not going to do that.
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So if you do have principles, ultimately they they do go deep.
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And even at times when life throws different things at you,
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they'll be there. And I hope that these principles
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to be quiet, to be calm, to be a protector, to be selfless, to be
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disciplined and to be faithful. I hope that these principles go
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deep into us and they're not shaken.
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I hope you've enjoyed your coffee.
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It's been a bit of a different video today.
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I would like to do one on talking about a godly woman.
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But if you think I've said too much nonsense in this, because I
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did actually again, I'll let you into another secret.
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I made one of these videos years ago and and people said you got
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this so so wrong Joe, you shouldn't speak on these things
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and I thought do you know what they're probably right.
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So if I've got it wrong again today, let me know I'm more than
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happy to delete this video as well as I deleted that that one
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about it was in 2019. I'm happy to do that.
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Let me know. But if you did find it helpful
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and you'd like me to talk to you about what it is to be a woman
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of God from now I see the scripture laid out.
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Thank you so much for joining me for coffee, and I hope we'll see
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you again very soon. Click subscribe if you want to
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have another cup of Joe with me. God bless you all.