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Top signs a narcissist is about to discard you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist.
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  Mr. Lee Hammock better known as mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. This your first time seeing my
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  face or hearing my voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and he's my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people into therapy and also
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  validate the victim, survivors and thrivers of said disorder
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  said toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about signs that a narcissist is
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  about to discard you. When is a narcissist going to
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  discard you? Things like this, What are they?
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  What are they thinking when they discard you?
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  All about the narcissist to discard?
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  Pretty much. Before we hop into today's
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  episode. Y'all make sure y'all check out
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  after a toxic relationship. Y'all but yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  yeah, yeah, Let's hop into it. When is a narcissist going to
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  discard you? Signs.
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  How to tell if they're going to discard you?
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  Y'all How to tell if they're going to.
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  So when I mean discard y'all, I don't necessarily mean break up
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  with let me go and get out, get out the way.
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  When I say discard you, to me there is more than one type of
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  discard. There is the emotional discard,
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  and then there's the physical discard.
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  The emotional discard happens when they emotionally disconnect
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  from you and the but like just because they emotionally get rid
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  of you, emotionally disconnect from you, doesn't mean that they
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  will physically get rid of you. They'll keep you around, you
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  know, sometimes something that will keep you around physically
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  and do just enough to keep you from leaving or won't leave you.
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  You see what I'm saying? They don't want to, they don't
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  want to be apart from but they don't want to treat you right.
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  They type of stuff right there. So the first time y'all is the
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  love bombing stops. If there is a love bombing
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  idealization phase, it stops. It comes to like a screeching
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  halt. It's like and once it stops it
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  just it it just there's nothing else you can get it back started
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  pretty much once the love bombing face stops it stop y'all
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  there's no rekindling it. There's no going back to the
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  beginning. I know you want to start over
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  because the love bombing was intense.
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  You never felt the love like this before.
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  I've y'all trust when I. When I tell you I've heard it
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  all. I promise you I've heard it all.
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  It just you just don't go back. There's no going back to the
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  beginning of how it used to be, of how it used to how how it
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  was. It just doesn't work the way we
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  deal with narcissist, the people.
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  So when the love bombing stops for whatever, for whatever
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  reason that it stops, a lot of times it stops because they they
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  see that you're a flawed person. And what I mean by flawed person
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  is y'all you, just not a perfect human being.
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  Nobody is perfect. That's the thing.
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  I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but nobody on this on
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  this planet right now living right now is a perfect human
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  being. But in the narcissist mind we
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  see you as a perfect person. We idealize, we create this
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  perfect image of you that will fit us correctly like we've been
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  we you will be missing puzzle piece through our chaotic life
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  puzzle, right. So we put you in this, you know
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  you put you fit perfectly within this puzzle, but then we notice
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  that you're flawed. You don't fit exactly.
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  There's a little space where where you you know how you do a
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  puzzle and a piece look like it looks like it fits, but there's
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  like a little space It it'll work but it don't work fit but
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  it don't fit. So they'll see that you're a
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  flawed person, like you just don't need it.
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  Something happens. Something like you reveal that
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  you're not. Like you said, you can just set
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  a boundary out. You can set a boundary, you can
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  say the word no it doesn't take much for them to for the for the
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  flaws quote UN quote, they'll start popping back up.
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  But that's the space that a lot of people fall into.
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  We deal with narcissist the people y'all your flaws pop up
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  and then they start treating you a certain type of way like they
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  mostly disconnect from you. So when the love bombing stops,
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  they could get me getting ready to discard you emotionally.
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  They do it kind of emotionally, discard you right here.
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  But then they could also discard you physically.
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  Because once you feel like because the narcissist,
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  narcissistic person wants to love on me stops, they feel like
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  you lied to them. They feel like whatever you've
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  been doing, you've been lying to them.
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  They're like, well, damn, you lied to me.
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  So I can't trust you. I can't do this with you.
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  I can't do that with you. So they see it as you just
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  telling them a whole bunch of BSA, whole bunch of lies and
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  things like that. So they treat you badly.
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  They just get, they get rid of the emotion.
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  They definitely emotionally discard you.
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  But then they might not physically discard you.
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  They start looking for another, another emotional supply, so to
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  speak. You know, they start doing that
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  type of stuff right there. So that's one.
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  That's one sign that a narcissistic person is getting
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  ready to discard you. The love bombing stops abruptly.
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  They stop. They stop treating you good, you
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  mean? And when the love bombing stops,
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  you mean the negativity starts. You know what I mean?
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  You. The negativity starts, the
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  devaluation stage starts to happen, right?
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  So once like this is different, this is different, this is a
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  different sign right here, y'all.
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  So once they the negativity starts, like the love bombing
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  stops and they start being like negative towards you, right,
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  They start telling little liars or big lies.
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  They start treating you differently like the like they
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  start, they start nitpicking at everything that you say.
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  Everything that you do. They start picking at it.
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  They start picking it and picking at it, picking at it.
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  They keep doing that type of stuff to you, to mess with you.
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  They keep doing that type of stuff with you, to keep, to keep
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  you, to mess with your head, to put it inside of your mind that
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  you can. There's nothing you can do right
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  here, right then and right now. You mean they really, really
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  change it up right there. Like they emotionally disconnect
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  from you and they start treating you badly.
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  They start being negative. Their mood switches, their mood
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  changes. You can tell like a lot of times
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  your intuition kicks in. There they you can feel that
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  their energy has shifted. They just look at you different.
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  Their body language is different.
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  They seem like a different person to you.
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  That's because when a negativity starts, they're typically
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  getting ready to get rid of you. When a negativity starts, they
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  probably already emotionally discarded you, but they might be
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  getting ready to physically discard you as well.
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  You know what I mean? Like I said, the emotional
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  discard always happens. The physical discard may or may
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  not have it. They will emotionally disconnect
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  from you, but like I said, physically keep you around.
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  That happens a lot. So they feel if they emotionally
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  discard you, just stay prepared. Y'all I might say it because
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  like they once it starts going into this stage, it might stop,
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  it might stall a little bit when they start treating you better
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  here and there, but it always goes back to this negativity.
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  Y'all it just does, you know, it goes back to this negativity.
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  It starts treating you differently.
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  Another sign y'all is their temper, Their temper, temper
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  tantrum. Their temper starts to show who
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  they really are starts to shine through.
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  And when a narcissist, when a narcissist feels comfortable
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  enough to show you who they really are, typically they're
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  they they're getting ready to push you away.
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  No, it's kind of like when they take their mask off.
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  Yeah, You know, it's kind of like a movie.
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  Well, they wait till the very end of the movie.
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  It's, you know, a sequel that's coming or you don't know it.
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  It's like living, living with a living a movie with a
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  cliffhanger. Like, you know, at the end of
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  the movie they take the mask off and then you can see it.
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  You can see who they really are. But then they don't really show
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  the audience, like you know who they really are, what the
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  audience doesn't know. It's just like the the person in
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  the movie knows who the when they take the mask off, you know
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  who the criminal is. You know who the killer is,
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  whoever it is. Right.
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  But the audience doesn't know. It's really how it is.
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  A narcissistic relationship, isn't They take that mask off.
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  You see it, but the audience doesn't see it.
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  And then it goes in the part too, You know, it's just like
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  you knew all along. Like their temperature, get
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  their temperature. Their temper gets shorter.
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  They're still yelling and screaming at you.
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  They could also become passiveaggressive during this
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  stage right here. Y'all they could become super
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  passive against you right here. Like passive.
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  It doesn't like, you know, they can start, you know, exhibiting
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  signs of narcissistic toxic rage.
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  Or they could be give you the silent rage I did.
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  The silent treatment to me is what I call silent rage.
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  They're literally raging out at you by taking their voice away
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  from you. So narcissistic people can rage
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  out on you by being silent as well.
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  So this stage, you know when another sign is that they start
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  give you the silent treatment. They started yelling and
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  screaming at you as well. Some of them during the stage
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  right here when they this is kind of like the the real reveal
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  stage right here. They start treating you
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  different. They start putting their hands
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  on you. This is when the physical
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  violence aspect and pop into it as well.
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  You know this is the sign that a narcissistic person is getting
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  into either physically and or emotionally discards you right
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  here. That they start, they start with
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  a rage, starts to amplify the temper gets shorter and whatnot.
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  They don't, they don't want to do anything around the house
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  anymore. They like really, really
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  disconnect from you. You start hearing from them
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  less, like there's another sign right here, y'all the
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  communication goes down, they start communicating with you
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  less, right? They like everything.
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  It seems like everything that you do becomes irritable to
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  them, like they irritated by everything you say and
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  everything you do. Now, you can't win in this
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  situation right here. Like you say something small.
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  You say you ever say something small and it's it'll be a
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  compliment and they'll just pass it off like you were trying to
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  insult them or something like that.
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  You get a lot of narcissistic people who do that right there.
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  Y'all they try to take. They don't take compliments from
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  you anymore. They don't give compliments
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  either. So the communication goes
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  downhill as well. Y'all all these are signs right
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  here that the narcissistic person is getting ready to
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  discard you. The communication goes down,
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  they start withholding, like if you've been in a relationship
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  with them for a while. They start withholding money,
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  separating finances and doing things like that.
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  So if you see a narcissistic person cutting off your access
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  to the finances or splitting up the bank accounts or, you know,
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  getting separate bank accounts or whatever it is, you know,
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  hiding money, the financially abuse support starts to happen
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  too. They can be a sign that they're
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  getting ready to discard you one or the other, maybe both.
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  You know, they can be getting rid of you.
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  You know, another sign a narcissistic person is going to
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  discard you. Another reason why they discard
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  you is because sometimes there's a baby involved.
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  There's commitment, Too much commitment.
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  Like a baby. A baby comes involved in the
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  picture like a narcissist. The person could be jealous of
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  the kid. They don't want to be around the
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  kid anymore. So it gets it falls into that
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  space, into that criteria as well.
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  They just don't want to be competing with a child for your
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  attention. So they just disappear on you.
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  They just, they the operative word a lot of times nowadays is
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  they log out, you know, they log out to get rid of you and things
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  of that nature. So you have to prepare for y'all
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  you have to be, you know, you have to be mentally and
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  physically ready for these situations to happen because
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  they're going to do it. I'm just telling you, this is
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  what a lot of narcissistic people do.
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  They will do it like this and they will run you through the
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  dirt. They'll run you.
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  They'll run you through the dirt and run your reputation through
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  the dirt as well. So just be prepared for this
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  job, like I say, because everybody gets discarded one way
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  or another. This is just not nothing you can
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  avoid. I know a lot of people want to
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  avoid it and try to make it work and do things like that, you
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  know, but it just really doesn't ever work out that way.
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  You know what I mean it just like you got to make a plan for
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  like, these are always telltale signs.
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  They start separating finances. They start coming home like you
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  catch them texting somebody else.
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  They might start cheating, like if there's so many different
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  signs, y'all. But if the biggest telltale sign
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  y'all out, and I'll leave this with leave y'all with this, is
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  that they start like I said, they start just disconnecting
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  for you like you how you feel your intuition.
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  Y'all your intuition tells you. You get your like little impact
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  antennas go up like an Ant and you start smelling.
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  You can smell, you can look, you can smell energy, you can feel
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  energy with the little empathic antennas you like feel it, feel
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  the impact, You know what I mean?
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