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- John Adams: Welcome to another week of the Health Tech and Wellness Podcast. I'm John Adams. Crystal Nevedale: And I'm Crystal Neverdale. John Adams: And Crystal, we we were just talking before we got on here. We're gonna have a little fun with this one. one of the things that I've been really thinking about is, you know, especially as we're getting older, you know, I'm 47. My birthday will be in, you know, November 10th. I'll be turning 48. And man, just life and your body and just everything kind of just starts to catch up with you. so I just wanted to kind of go into, you know, When did we first realize that we weren't as young as we used to be? Right. I'm sure that we'll both have kind of some fun stories to talk about. but when did we go from we make the rules, we're gonna go out and have some fun, to our body starts to make the rules now because you know. We were just saying before we even got out, okay. The little little outside baseball we were talking before we got on, and one of the ex examples I gave was remember as a kid, or even in your twenties, you could you go to a friend's house, maybe you had a couple too many to drink or whatever, you fell asleep on the couch, you woke up the next morning, okay. Maybe you had a hangover, but you you felt fine, your body wasn't stiff, you know, whatever. Now you wake up in the morning in your own comfy bed. In your own pillow, and you wake up and you're injured. So when did when did sleep become you know Crystal Nevedale: Mm. John Adams: something legitimately that can injure us, right? As as we got older. And yes, we can blame it on stretching. And are we getting enough stretching? Are we doing you know our exercises? But seriously, I'm sure everybody listening right now can relate. When did just sleeping in our own bed? becomes something that we have to be careful about because we might wake up injured. so Crystal, I I'll just ask you, do you do you am I talking out of turn here? Are you experiencing the same things? Like let's go into it a little bit. Crystal Nevedale: Well do you wanna know when I realized? John Adams: Sure. Crystal Nevedale: When when I got a twelve years younger than me. That's when I realized the actual age of my body. And that is John Adams: That'll do it. Crystal Nevedale: the honest to God truth. Like yeah, yeah. I was thought I was a live wire. My son even said to her, Well, I I hope you can keep up with my mom Now I find it so comical. And we've had that conversation a few times. She's like, Keep up with you I'm like, Yeah. So that's when I realized I wasn't as active as I thought. John Adams: Yeah, and and I'll be honest, I I half jokingly say when I fell from the train is when I realized. But no, I mean, even after that, yes, I couldn't move my arm and knees hurt, but it w I wasn't that bad. But as you know, just over the last couple of years, you know, even when I was driving Uber and I'd get out of the car, I'd find myself, you know, if I was in the car for more than 30 minutes, and then I would either stop to use the bathroom or get to a customer's house where I had to help them with their luggage. And I would go to get out of the car and I'd I'd start to stand up and I'd go, where did Crystal Nevedale: Uh-huh. John Adams: this come from? So that's kind of what we want to dive into is we aren't what we used to be. You know, we aren't these young people anymore. We're we're getting older. And and of course, you know, we we could go down the you know, exercise and stretching route. We talk a lot about that, but Let's just keep going down a little fun here. so have you ever hurt yourself doing something completely ridiculous? Me, yes. I I could tell you straightforward, I it's it's simple. You you you you climb a ladder to change a light bulb. That used to be look, as a kid, I used to take and put my hands on both sides of the door frame and climb all the way up the door. We lived in a big house that had higher ceilings. it was as a kid that didn't do anything. I climb a ladder to change a light bulb. And as I'm coming down, what did I do to my knee? when did this start? I don't know. Have you ever done anything completely just, you know, shouldn't have affected Crystal Nevedale: G John Adams: anything, shouldn't have changed anything. And then you find, what did I just do? Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. Many times, I've bent down to pick up a backpack. my back's been pulled. I can wake up and have a pulled muscle and don't know how it happened during the night. yeah, it happens pretty frequently. But I know you don't want to go down the exercise thing. I know you don't. But John Adams: Yeah. No, we can. Crystal Nevedale: it is we it is the lack of movement. We need to move more. I know that my body and I I think the the thing too is like it's Not to be afraid to say that you gotta start over or that you need to do X, Y, and Z to help your body because we are changing, right? Like every one of us, John Adams: Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: our bodies are changing. We have more pains, we have pains in places we didn't have pain before and all those things. But I feel like the important thing that's been in my life is taking inventory of that. John Adams: Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: What hurts me today when I wake up? Okay, what can I do to make that pain non existent? So there are little things now before I even get out of bed, I do I do where I what do they call that? Windshield wipers with my legs. And there's things I never had to do to get out of bed. But if I want to get out of bed and be able to stand straight up, then I have to do X, Y, and Z, you know? So I think that it's just listening to your body too as you get older, like what you can and can't do. And it's not that you can't do something, it's just that it's going to take more. Energy to do things. John Adams: More preparation, right? So you Crystal Nevedale: Yes. Yep. John Adams: y you've said it multiple times as we've been doing this podcast and as we've talked. You know, those morning routines, those things that we need to do on a regular basis just to be as good as we can, right? To oil the the the joints up, you know, the like you said, you know, raising the leg in the morning, you know, just to kind of before you get out of bed, you know, we're not 20 years old anymore. We're we can just jump right out of bed. We we need those things. Exactly. So that's where, you know, look, Crystal Nevedale: We need to juice the joints first. John Adams: we can go down that path a little bit, you know. So while we're we're talking about, you know, the the the body aches. Some of the things that we can do and things that, you know, you do or I do or or things that we can maybe do better is simply that, you know, you wake up in the morning. The first thing that I do when I get out of bed is I will I'll you know, I have to sit there for a second and and kind of do one of these before I get up because my back okay, I can blame it on the train, but I also need to do more stretching myself too. But then once I'm out of bed, I've got a routine of things that I do with stretching and breathing and getting ready for the day that at 20 years old we didn't need to do. Those are things that we took for granted, right? And maybe, just maybe, and if there's any younger people listening to this, maybe we wouldn't need as much preparation today had we not taken so much of it for granted back then. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. If we yeah, I think that both of us had a pretty unhealthy last ten years. so yeah, like the damage that we did do, like I totally I totally did damage to my body. Like I had a little bit more personal, but I had a breast reduction when I was thirty, which should have been done when I was about twenty two because it it did damage my back. So there's like little things like that that I wish I would have been in tune with. I just didn't know. I was young, I didn't understand the consequences of my actions and now those aches and pains in my back have a lot to do with that sort of thing in my body. So yeah, I think it's all just an unfolding. You don't know until you're there. I talk about this to women every single day in the shop and the same thing if it literally a lady said yesterday, if I would have just taken care of myself when I was younger, I wouldn't be like this now. And I thought, yeah, but you don't know until You don't know until you know. You can't beat yourself up for what you didn't John Adams: You don't Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: know. And I feel like just the whole understanding of being self aware does not happen in your twenties. we're still flying by the seat of our pants, having a great time, trusting everything, believing everything, do doing all the things. But then you get older and it's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. So I mean, it's all an unfolding in my mind. John Adams: One hundred percent. I could tell you in my twenties we ran hard. We man, so many nights, you know, with y you know, Danny and just different times when we would be out drinking and doing and running and gunning and just not even thinking the times that we drove home in situations where we should not have drove home. the things that we didn't think about when we were younger that now as adults we look back and we go, How am I still here? Crystal Nevedale: Well that was Yeah. John Adams: You know. So I think that The end of the day, I think anybody listening to this that says, Man, but you guys, you talk about this all the time. Listen, if we if I could go back to when I was 16 and just smack myself in the head and say, Listen, boy, you need to do this right now. Because okay, maybe the tr the falling from the train is avoid is not avoidable. You're you're gonna have this situation happen and you need to be prepared for this. And how are you gonna come out of this? And I would be such a different place right now, right? So that's so true. You don't think about that. Crystal Nevedale: I think that's a mentality we can adapt now though. that's really a a mentality we can adapt now. I listened to a podcaster many years ago and he would say that he's not preparing for the great things in life. He's preparing himself mentally and physically for the times when, you know, let's say someone in your life passes away or you have an injury that takes you down. He's like, that's what I'm preparing for. I'm preparing to be the best I can be during those times of hard times. Cause right now things are all right and I can do what I'm doing. So it that's a very powerful message. Like our preparation should really be for our future hard times. Because if you can prepare for those when they get here, they're not half as bad, you know. I think that like s that basket. Remember when I used to talk about the baskets and all my different things in baskets, and I I think that health and wellness of yourself as an individual is so important. It it really does give a structure for the rest of your life, you know, once you sit down with yourself. And I think the thing with our society is is everybody is so busy in the morning. Like let's say, let's give an example. I have a sister that has five kids. Her mornings look completely different than my mornings. So for her to to to pinch in a 15 minute stretch and meditation is like You gotta be kidding, right? If I do that, somebody's missing the bus. John Adams: Yeah. Yep. Crystal Nevedale: You know? So it's really trying to find a structure where you can give yourself that time because it will bleed into the rest of your life. If you start your morning out in chaos, it's gonna go through your entire day. But if you can start John Adams: Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: yourself in a place of peace and understanding and and listening to your body and go like, okay, I'm not feeling this today. Let's do X, Y, and Z. I think it's I think the thing that about me too, I've been talking about this day after day with I think that's in my younger years, I I thought I thought that once I decided this is how I felt, this is where I had to stay. Once I said this is my opinion, I had to stay there. And now I'm learning yeah, I change my mind every, I don't know, four seconds. John Adams: Yep. Crystal Nevedale: So that's I think the difference now for me too, and listening to my body and and just being observant, I guess is the word. Like really listening to what my body needs. John Adams: Yeah. Being willing to try new things, right? So, man, we could take this down so many different avenues. So so let's let's let's go off on in a tangent here. But what you just said, you used to think, okay, once I was at this point, the this is the way, okay, this is how it's gonna work because this worked previously or whatever. But again, your body changes, things change. Now you have to adapt, you have to pivot, you have to This could go into so many different ways of your life, whether it be, in in your relationships or with your business or with anything, same as with health. What worked yesterday may not work tomorrow because things change. And we have Crystal Nevedale: Yes. Right. John Adams: to be willing to go, okay, so what else can work? What else can Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. John Adams: I try? And if you're not willing to listen to people to go, you know what? Let me. Give it a shot. And when you when I say give it a shot, I don't mean write it down and pretend like you're gonna do it and never do it. give it a legitimate shot. If it don't work, it don't work. Great, try something else. But if we would just stop, I guess get the ego out of the way, and just listen to other people's thoughts and go, you know what? Let me try it, right? Because Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: what worked yesterday doesn't always work tomorrow. How many times have you? And you you just said it. you've changed you've done this for so long. Okay, it's working, it's working, and then now all of a sudden it's not anymore. You have to pivot. That goes in everything in our lives. Crystal Nevedale: Absolutely. And I am learning that in the ways that I communicate. You know, like everybody can't hear you in the way you communicate. And so I feel like like you were saying, like if you can't take people's advice and stuff with the ego in the place, I feel like that like if you listen to a lot of things that are along the lines of what you want, you'll just pick out a little piece that works for you. and if you are open enough to pick out that little piece to start building on, and then something else comes to you. I have a lot of people that come to me and they're like, Well, I don't know how you got where you're at. Well, I'm like, I didn't get here overnight. I take I made a million little baby choices that got me a life where I could travel and do the things that I want to do. This didn't happen, you're you're trying to start a business. It doesn't happen like that. It's it's just being brave enough to make a little bitty tiny choice. And it's scary. it's but if it's not if you don't make these little tiny choices with your body and and try to maneuver, like you said, and pivot, your body okay, so we're here now, let's think about ten years from now and we're not making any changes. You're not gonna be getting out of bed. John Adams: No. Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: So I think it's just learning to pivot and change and go with your body and listen to it, If X, Y, and Z hurts, don't do it. Do A, B, and C, you know? It's all just about pivoting and changing and being malleable, right? John Adams: for sure, yeah. So I'll I'll I'll I'll just jump right on to that. You're talking you you just said a a key point that I wanna kind of piggyback off of. If something hurts, don't do that. Well, I'm gonna kind of agree and disagree at the same time. so man, I don't know, it was this six, seven months ago. I woke up one morning, went to put my socks on and I always, my legs if Lucinda didn't have a stroke, she could tell you other story. But I my legs were always super flexible. Even even when I was a bigger, bigger guy, my legs were always super flexible. We went to Roverfest one year, and I mean, I just put my legs straight up, tied my shoe real quick. My legs have always been very flexible. So I got up one morning, I guess at about six, seven months ago, and I just went to put my foot up on my other knee so I can put my sock on. That's it. I don't bend down to put my, I've never done it. I've always, but my calf was so super like sore and stiff. I'm like, what the? And then okay, so I bent down, I put my sock on. That became a habit of doing that. My calf got to the point where I could barely lift my leg. Doing my stretching, I it just hurt so bad. I I just didn't stretch it because it hurt so bad. And then finally I said, I can't. This is not working. Pain be damned. I have to stretch this out. And then I did. I went back to in my stretching to working this leg and I worked it harder. And now I'm fine again. It's perfect. But that pain was there so bad. I was like, I okay, I'll I'll let you go for a while, you know. But I had to, I had to push through the pain. I would have not been able to put my shoes on had Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: I not pushed through that pain. So I do warn people. When yes, if it hurts, don't do it for sure. But is it hurting because of it needs worked out or is it hurting because you're doing something you shouldn't be doing, I guess? Crystal Nevedale: What's the word when you do like so say the exercise is super hard for this person over here and then it's super easy so that this person that has this injury can still do it. What's the word I'm looking for? Modified, modified, modified. So John Adams: Yes, modify it. Yeah. Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: that's what I mean. I don't mean don't do it. you you could still do it, but you just need to modify it. You're not gonna do John Adams: Yes. Yes. Crystal Nevedale: jumping jacks if you're pulling your back out, but you could John Adams: Right. Crystal Nevedale: maybe bend to the side or you know what I mean, that sort of thing. John Adams: Right. Yeah. Adjust again, pivot and do the small things. This is living ninety-five in a nutshell. It doesn't you don't have to do a hundred percent. Can you do five percent right now? If can if if you can do five Crystal Nevedale: And build on it. John Adams: percent and build on it, that's the whole that is living ninety. Everybody asks, what is living ninety-five? That is it. It is the simple fact that going all or nothing from day one is the fastest way to fail. Building On things is how you succeed. Crystal Nevedale: Rabbits. John Adams: Building small habits, doing the things. And in the case of we're sore, we're hurting. but I can't stretch. You can stretch, you can do this workout. You don't have to do it this way, but can you do it this way? Prime example, okay? It's gonna sound corny, but because my arm does not straighten, I cannot. Do legitimate push-ups. I do wall push-ups where I will take myself out and I step back from the wall and I'll lean in and I will do push-ups on the wall because I can, because that's all I can do, right? I could do them on the ground, but I throw out my shoulder. I've done that where and then my back goes out. So I adjust. I can do them on the wall. Crystal Nevedale: Mm-hmm. John Adams: That's how I do them. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: That's all we're saying. We're not saying if it hurts, don't do it. What we're saying is if it hurts, find a way that you can adjust, that you can modify what you need to do to fix that. Had I not modified my stretching, I would have just given up. That it was so sore. I mean, it felt like I'd run a marathon. I don't know what I did. Again, waking up in bed. I don't know what I did. I woke up, went to put my sock on, like I always do. And I could not lift my leg up to put my other foot on this knee. I couldn't. So, yes, modify. Learn to switch things up and listen to your body. And again, had I not said, I can't, I have to fix this, I still would be having a hard time putting my socks on, my shoes on, anything on that leg. But now I'm back and I that was the one thing that I had was flexible. You know what I mean? I could, I could do Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: squats. I could my legs were always good. And then I I I don't know what it was from. It could have very well been just from, you know, doing Uber for a couple years and getting in and out of the I don't know what it was. But I got I wasn't gonna let it stay that way. It was terrible. So we went off on a little tangent there, but that was good. I like that because at the end of the day, that kind of goes into the whole reason why we were having the discussion. You know, as we're getting older, our bodies are changing. And if we don't adapt, we don't modify, we don't do those things that we need to do to pivot to keep our bodies moving, we're going to go in the other direction really fast. Case in point, my thigh. It could have derailed everything. And I didn't let it. So we'll wrap that one Crystal Nevedale: All right. John Adams: up. That was a good one. I think that it it it went down a path that maybe it was meant to go. do you have anything else for everybody? Crystal Nevedale: Nope, just keep going. John Adams: Yeah, that's it. That's all we can do. Well, as always, guys, stay healthy. Crystal Nevedale: Stay balanced. John Adams: Keep driving forward. We'll see you next time.