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Prince Israel Zaar on: Stages of Marriage - Compatability, Bearing, & Freedom · Talk to Prince Show - Solving World's Problems

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  Speaker 1: The life span of a marriage shall depend on us
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  Speaker 1: understanding the stages of marriage and how well we manage
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  Speaker 1: each stage of of the marriage and to continue to
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  Speaker 1: infinity or to continue to life in infinity into the
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  Speaker 1: stages of marriage. You know, it comes with its own
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  Speaker 1: up and down some and challenges and difficulties for the
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  Speaker 1: spouse to overcome to ta to tackle as one voice,
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  Speaker 1: one unit, one one people, or one or two in one.
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  Speaker 1: And in the marriage, it's it's a system where it's
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  Speaker 1: it's it's it's difficult to read about a successful marriage
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  Speaker 1: in a book or or some inspiration, not speaking in
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  Speaker 1: our love is something you can really study. And it's
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  Speaker 1: so it's marriage. And when two people come together there
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  Speaker 1: first they're driven by proximity. Proximity brings A and B together,
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  Speaker 1: and A sees something in B that he likes, and
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  Speaker 1: B see something A that he likes, and they start
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  Speaker 1: from their first it's just to the reshape their projection,
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  Speaker 1: perception and perspective, to orange their mind towards that particular person,
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  Speaker 1: and they start to see everything good in that person
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  Speaker 1: because they've decided to love that person. Once the mind
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  Speaker 1: decide to like something and love something, it starts to
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  Speaker 1: plush off all the way nesses in that thing and
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  Speaker 1: seise the perfection of that thing. And couples like one another.
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  Speaker 1: They appreciate one another. They're seeing one another what they like,
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  Speaker 1: and they careless about the mistakes of arts. And that's
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  Speaker 1: and that's the first stage that people come together like
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  Speaker 1: one another. The bill relationship and friendship, and gradually that
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  Speaker 1: friendship transcends to date and along the road a lot
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  Speaker 1: of affair and they start to iron out their incompatibilities.
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  Speaker 1: Got the urge at the primary stage of the marriage
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  Speaker 1: is to get married. You know, both parties. One might
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  Speaker 1: be for lost, one may be for marriage and for love,
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  Speaker 1: and one might just wanting to get parried because of
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  Speaker 1: pressure from their parents and thinking that one is getting
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  Speaker 1: into all it becomes more of a calculation and the
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  Speaker 1: other side might be looking at interest that this person
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  Speaker 1: can help me more or or both can't just be
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  Speaker 1: balancing their admiration from one another and put in love
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  Speaker 1: ahead of anything or everything else. But another day, when
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  Speaker 1: two people come together, even though they love one another,
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  Speaker 1: they have interest in the relationship, their interests in their
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  Speaker 1: relationship and the expectations, and the relationship becomes the things
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  Speaker 1: that are saying in the later stages of life. The
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  Speaker 1: first stage of marrit marriage is exoberiant a love and
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  Speaker 1: the beauty and honeymoon and sweetness and the hopes to
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  Speaker 1: be together. The most essential part of that first stage
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  Speaker 1: of marriage is wanting to be together, to live together,
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  Speaker 1: ma trimmoney and patrimony. Wanting to because we wanted to
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  Speaker 1: have a home, to be seen together, to work together,
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  Speaker 1: to sleep together, to live together, to cook together, to
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  Speaker 1: go places together, to tell their stories together, to appear
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  Speaker 1: in public together, in private together. That the primary stage
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  Speaker 1: of marriage. It's that bond, that buying wanting to be
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  Speaker 1: with somebody with infectious love. At this point in time,
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  Speaker 1: it's given by last most and it's a selfish interest.
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  Speaker 1: Is almost is hidden the first stage of marriage, and
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  Speaker 1: the true characters of humans are equally hidden, not hidden
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  Speaker 1: towards any ma gavela intentions, because love sometimes is like
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  Speaker 1: the sun that burns everything else. So the love is
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  Speaker 1: so overwhelming that the difference is and incompatibility at some times,
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  Speaker 1: not really saying and even though saying it's not important,
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  Speaker 1: what is important on that time is love. That the
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  Speaker 1: love is, it's it's mostly physical and emotional. Then when
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  Speaker 1: emotional and physical love comes together, the human being is
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  Speaker 1: in a drug stage of infectious love. And the marriage
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  Speaker 1: at this stage, it is that hope of togetherness, of
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  Speaker 1: being with one another. That's the first stage of marriage.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the sweetest that's the sweetest stage of that marriage.
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  Speaker 1: When two people make together and it's nothing else but there,
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  Speaker 1: just there, it's just A and B together, and A
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  Speaker 1: becomes B. B becomes A to the extent that you
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  Speaker 1: can confuse, finding difficult to separate A from B. It
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  Speaker 1: becomes a B or B A. It becomes like a
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  Speaker 1: gene code binding type of thing. Compatibility, the primary stage
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  Speaker 1: of marriage is a stage of compatibility. Oh, the spouse,
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  Speaker 1: the partners is just compatibility and incompatibility is not saying
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  Speaker 1: the stage of the stage of compatibility. We see just
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  Speaker 1: the good in one another. We see the kindness of
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  Speaker 1: one another. We believe in one another, we trust one another,
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  Speaker 1: we believe that with that each partner does what they
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  Speaker 1: do for the best intention of the other. So that
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  Speaker 1: the compatibility stage is a bond stage, a binding stage.
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  Speaker 1: The couples see themselves as inseparable as one unit, one love,
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  Speaker 1: one hound, one people, as I would call it not
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  Speaker 1: two people. At this stage a plural, the plural of
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  Speaker 1: things is lost just one person in two And at
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  Speaker 1: this stage both both work. They go to work, they
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  Speaker 1: come back from work, and they have a good time.
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  Speaker 1: They go out to it. They go visit places. You
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  Speaker 1: cannot see a without beer, and you cannot see be
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  Speaker 1: witho a. They're in arms, holding the hands of one
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  Speaker 1: another at the park, go to the park, to the movies,
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  Speaker 1: at the best roostaurram the traveler. They enjoy a life,
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  Speaker 1: enjoy each other's company. They go to the same church.
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  Speaker 1: They sit closer to one another, and every where the girl,
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  Speaker 1: everywhere the girl. They go with love, love for one another.
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  Speaker 1: At the compatibility stage, the couple can can forget about
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  Speaker 1: the world. They like each other the mind, the body,
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  Speaker 1: so the company. They like the aroma of each other.
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  Speaker 1: The dreams become compatible and they see themselves working for
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  Speaker 1: one another's what marriage should be. And as that marriage progresses,
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  Speaker 1: the child comes alone. When a child comes alone, that
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  Speaker 1: becomes the bearing stage of marriage. The compatibilities face faces
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  Speaker 1: out the bearing stage of marriage. The baring stage of
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  Speaker 1: marriage is when the family start to bear children. The
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  Speaker 1: plant fruits, the plant sits as a burying state of marriage.
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  Speaker 1: The bear one another. The baring state of the marriage.
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  Speaker 1: The bear the baby, the bear children, the plant sits.
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  Speaker 1: They start to invest in family. They start to invest
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  Speaker 1: in family, and it soon becomes much about the children
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  Speaker 1: than themselves. And at this stage the bear children and
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  Speaker 1: they start to bear and tolerate one another. As the intermediary.
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  Speaker 1: Now it's children, and even they choose to have no kids,
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  Speaker 1: they might have a pet. That pet is the same
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  Speaker 1: like a children. They gather intermediary that is a pet
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  Speaker 1: or a plant or something. If they choose not to
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  Speaker 1: have children, they can bear the children. They can adopt
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  Speaker 1: the children. And that bearing stage is a family investment stage.
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  Speaker 1: They can choose to invest in the house, invest in
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  Speaker 1: the market, business, or in something they need to take
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  Speaker 1: care of, something a way of taking care of themselves.
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  Speaker 1: The compatibility soon transition into battering barring stage, the footful,
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  Speaker 1: the seed and fruit and trade stage of the marriage.
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  Speaker 1: That is the most productive part of the marriage. Because
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  Speaker 1: people get married they find compatibility to do something. They
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  Speaker 1: do something in the marriage. Is the bearing stage, the
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  Speaker 1: most productive and industrious stage, the most meaningful and purposeful stage.
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  Speaker 1: That stage that bear sits that that sat become a tree,
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  Speaker 1: and that tree bad fruit, and that fruit becomes the
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  Speaker 1: time that the tree says that the parents says and
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  Speaker 1: said it was worth it. This bearing stage is the
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  Speaker 1: most challenging stage. They will break some marriages, put some
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  Speaker 1: marriages together, he puts on apart. The bearing stage is
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  Speaker 1: a commitment stage. It's a responsibility stage, the expert dictation stage,
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  Speaker 1: the obligation stage, the investment stage of a marriage. That's
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  Speaker 1: when you prove you love one another. And this parents
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  Speaker 1: stage equally can be taken care of a parent, a grandparent,
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  Speaker 1: a mom or dad, a family member. Means there's somebody
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  Speaker 1: else away from the spouse. It's an intermediary, it's somebody
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  Speaker 1: in the middle. So you need to do something before
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  Speaker 1: getting to the other person. So amb is divided by
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  Speaker 1: divider of responsibility, expectation, obligation, investment, and commitment. You need
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  Speaker 1: to do something else before getting to meet one another.
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  Speaker 1: So the love, that infectious love, now it's reduced. The
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  Speaker 1: warmth of one another is gradually being transitioned to something else.
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  Speaker 1: It might be taken a pat out. It might be
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  Speaker 1: taking care of the investment, taking care of the children,
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  Speaker 1: or taking care of opplications, responsibilities away from the family
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  Speaker 1: and but related to the family. It is a stage
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  Speaker 1: of bearing. If they choose to bear children, it will
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  Speaker 1: depend on the number. It doesn't really matter because what
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  Speaker 1: you do to one child shall be the same thing
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  Speaker 1: you do to the others. The processes are all designed,
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  Speaker 1: but just the responsibility might be too much to bear.
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  Speaker 1: And once they decide to have a child, that a
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  Speaker 1: transition for the affection mind, body, soul, biological affection and
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  Speaker 1: emotions bring forth a seed, and that attention nowice towards
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  Speaker 1: that seed. Twenty five percent is divided. Before the couples
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  Speaker 1: have time for themselves fifty to fifty percent for themselves,
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  Speaker 1: but now they need to divide twenty five percent to
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  Speaker 1: have fifty percent for the child equal So the china
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  Speaker 1: is fifty percent of that's a street care and the
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  Speaker 1: parents have twenty five to twenty five percent to break
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  Speaker 1: the whole one hundred percent. And that care mostly become
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  Speaker 1: supposed to become an equal distribution type of work, but
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  Speaker 1: the mother based much of the responsibility because the child
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  Speaker 1: is in the womb. The brother carries that child for
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  Speaker 1: nine months and that become the testament of a good husband.
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  Speaker 1: To see that the baby grow in the belly, and
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  Speaker 1: to be there with your wife from the beginning to
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  Speaker 1: the end to when the baby is delivered. Some terrible
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  Speaker 1: men at this stage start to cheat on the wife,
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  Speaker 1: start to separate with the wife, and even if the
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  Speaker 1: wife noticed that, they might just let the girl or
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  Speaker 1: keep it cold, or some might divorce. But once the
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  Speaker 1: wife understands that during my parents stage, it didn't really
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  Speaker 1: care for me that much. It's he went outside, which
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  Speaker 1: means something else is more important to you than the family.
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  Speaker 1: She might keep it under the rear, but it gonna emerge,
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  Speaker 1: so because she got something more important to take care of,
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  Speaker 1: and to take care of that baby and good parenting
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  Speaker 1: the parents over there. But parents are there for the kid,
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  Speaker 1: and it makes love not to be much meaningful and purposeful,
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  Speaker 1: not just lusty, but driven towards family. Family. It becomes
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  Speaker 1: a family type of love that we love ourselves or
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  Speaker 1: we love our child. With children the most and they
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  Speaker 1: become an investment in love type of stage where both
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  Speaker 1: couples start to invest in the child. They start to
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  Speaker 1: compete their love with the love of the child. That's
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  Speaker 1: the best stage of marriage when parents are competing with
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  Speaker 1: love for the child, and the child becomes part of them,
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  Speaker 1: part of their love and in the nurturing part of
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  Speaker 1: the child. To measure the choice it's press feel, breast,
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  Speaker 1: fair or mere. And to take care of the kids.
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  Speaker 1: They dipart the changing the doctors, that warmth, that love,
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  Speaker 1: that smiles, that playing with the baby, buying the twys,
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  Speaker 1: and constantly being there for the kid twenty four seven.
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  Speaker 1: To master the temperature and master what the kid eats,
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  Speaker 1: what the kid likes, to make that relationship conducive, comfortable, tender, tender,
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  Speaker 1: and caring for that kid. That's what makes love to
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  Speaker 1: become love, something more love not transition from lust for
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  Speaker 1: the flesh to care see ar e to caring for something,
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  Speaker 1: from lost love to caring love to something not bearing.
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  Speaker 1: The planting stage in the marriage, when you plant and
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  Speaker 1: when you plant in its work, you work harder. Couples
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  Speaker 1: work harder at this stage because they have a family
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  Speaker 1: to fait. They have to put the roof over their head.
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  Speaker 1: They have to invest in that kid, the kid's education,
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  Speaker 1: the kids well being, the kid's mind, body, sole environment
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  Speaker 1: in the state. At that stage, it's all about mom.
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  Speaker 1: There's a stage when the woman becomes the most important
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  Speaker 1: when the man subjed itself to the wife for the
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  Speaker 1: sake of the family. To help the wife, to help
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  Speaker 1: the woman, to make sure that the kids have what
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  Speaker 1: they need, to make sure that the man does as
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  Speaker 1: the woman says. For the woman at this stage knows better.
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  Speaker 1: At this critical stage, a woman must know better. Not
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  Speaker 1: that the woman doesn't know better all the time. By
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  Speaker 1: this time, the man must listen. Listen because of the
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  Speaker 1: children or the kid. It's something more important, something more fragile,
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  Speaker 1: something more tender, the thanksgiving of the marriage, a gift
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  Speaker 1: of a child, a child named after the parents. Let's
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  Speaker 1: say that I represent that parents. So now they have
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  Speaker 1: something more important than anything else, and it's therefore very
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  Speaker 1: critical for both parents to be there. That both parents
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  Speaker 1: must be there at this stage in life. The one
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  Speaker 1: parent cannot abandon that responsibility on one parent on the
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  Speaker 1: other parent. That I need to see Mom and Art
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  Speaker 1: smiling to that kid all the time. That you need
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  Speaker 1: to know the warmth of a family. That the family
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  Speaker 1: means two people coming to get there, to be there
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  Speaker 1: for that child. That Chinese you see more. And that
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  Speaker 1: unless something something beyond, beyond, beyond the influence of both parents.
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  Speaker 1: Something that might happen that can separate one parent from
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  Speaker 1: the other a Chinese board parent at this station. And
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  Speaker 1: that is what love actually is about, because getting together
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  Speaker 1: with opposite sex there is understanding that the baby might
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  Speaker 1: come out. And when you better that baby, you cannot
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  Speaker 1: work away. You cannot say that's what I intended. You
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  Speaker 1: cannot make love unprotected love or expecting a baby. And
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  Speaker 1: if that be shouldn't be a surprise. That's what love
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  Speaker 1: is all about. And when the baby comes, it's the
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  Speaker 1: responsibility of the parents to be there. That's why they
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  Speaker 1: got enough in the first place. That was the expectation.
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  Speaker 1: And if it wasn't the expectation, he should be avoided.
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  Speaker 1: When you bring for the child, that chick is meant
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  Speaker 1: to consolidate, solidify a marriage, not to break it apart.
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  Speaker 1: A child cannot be the reason why parents fall apart.
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  Speaker 1: That chick cannot bear the brunt of that kilt. At
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  Speaker 1: that stage the parents stage of marriage as so parents
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  Speaker 1: to be there for one another and for the children.
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  Speaker 1: It's a process that might last twenty to twenty five years.
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  Speaker 1: The Parian stage of life is the most important stage
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  Speaker 1: of life. That's when memories are made, holidays are celebrated,
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  Speaker 1: but days graduations. It's the best time of the marriage.
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  Speaker 1: It's the best time that the spouse get to know themselves,
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  Speaker 1: to be there for the kids. Take the kids out,
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  Speaker 1: prepare them food, and make sure they're healthy, smileing, happy,
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  Speaker 1: they're doing their homework. You provide for the kids. The
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  Speaker 1: bearing stage is a providing stage, investment stage. You're doing
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  Speaker 1: everything in the name of the family for the future
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  Speaker 1: of that family depends on how you take care of
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  Speaker 1: the kids. The children become the trophy of the marriage itself.
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  Speaker 1: It's the most challenging. Most marriages fall apart because at
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  Speaker 1: this stage it's not about you. It's about the children.
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  Speaker 1: Even when you guys get to be together, to go
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  Speaker 1: to the movies again, to remember the old guys, You're
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  Speaker 1: constantly checking at home, and even if nane is they're
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  Speaker 1: taking care of the children. Save the five percent of
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  Speaker 1: your attention is home. You have something more important. You
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  Speaker 1: have humans with you, a pleasance through your womb that
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  Speaker 1: you have added to the population of the universe. You
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  Speaker 1: do everything for them to be responsible citizens, to be productive,
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  Speaker 1: to be positive, to be industrious, to be hard working.
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  Speaker 1: It's a stage when the parents few infuse wisdom into
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  Speaker 1: their children, common sense, reply responsibility, tach the kid to lead,
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  Speaker 1: and teach the kid to take care of itself several
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  Speaker 1: lions independence. That parents stage soon becomes the teaching stage.
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  Speaker 1: After the chies it's made to this world. The teaching begins.
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  Speaker 1: The parents that to moralize, educate, enlightening the kid start
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  Speaker 1: to make them to have confidence and believe in themselves.
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  Speaker 1: Try to help their kids to know themselves and streateen
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  Speaker 1: their own independence. That's the second stage of marriage, and
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  Speaker 1: the stage gradually ends when the kids graduate from school
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  Speaker 1: and they become humans of their own and gradually, one
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  Speaker 1: by one they live home and the last kid that
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  Speaker 1: lives home or even they choose to be home, but
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  Speaker 1: they're only already. They're supposed to be home. Those that
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  Speaker 1: succeed quick quick, they will go find our jobs and
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  Speaker 1: say a thank you to mom and dad, and so
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  Speaker 1: we go and come back based on their own success
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  Speaker 1: and fortunes in life. But the second stage ends. The
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  Speaker 1: bearing and investment stage ends when the kids graduate and
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  Speaker 1: they found and the tad stage of marriage gradually gradually
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  Speaker 1: faces in as the second stage faces out and going
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  Speaker 1: back to the second stage of marriage. The second stage
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  Speaker 1: of marriage can equally be the incompatibility stage. The incompatibility
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  Speaker 1: stage can equally be the second stage of the marriage.
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  Speaker 1: The second stage of the marriage is the burying stage,
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  Speaker 1: right the investment stage, and the incompatibility stage. The burying stage.
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  Speaker 1: The investment stage keep the marriage together. The incompatibility stage
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  Speaker 1: is when one partner for reasons and work work why,
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  Speaker 1: find fancy incompatible for some reasons, and walks away, walks
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  Speaker 1: away from one person to take care of the children.
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  Speaker 1: The incompatibility stage is always not the best for the family,
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  Speaker 1: not not for the best interests of the kid. The
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  Speaker 1: parents refuse to reconcide that difference, says, and they use
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  Speaker 1: the incompatibility to surpriate. This is why you got the
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  Speaker 1: one parent a scenario type of thing, the single mother
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  Speaker 1: a single parent type of thing that, instead of being
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  Speaker 1: the investment on parents stage, one spouse look for incompatibility
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  Speaker 1: and walk away, walks away and bail out on the family.
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  Speaker 1: It might be for some reasonable reasons differences, unless it's
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  Speaker 1: beyond management reconsolation, parents are supposed to reconcile for the
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  Speaker 1: sake of the kids, unless it's beyond imagination. Unless the
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  Speaker 1: relationship is cruel, abusive, unmanageable. The parents need to look
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  Speaker 1: for compatibility for the sake of the children, for the
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  Speaker 1: children to have a home, because they have brought those
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  Speaker 1: kids into the world. You cannot look for incompatible reasons
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  Speaker 1: to walk away while the other parents is left with
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  Speaker 1: the children. So the test stage is when the kids
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  Speaker 1: are gone and the parents are back together. I called
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  Speaker 1: the test stage of marriage the freedom stage, the freedom
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  Speaker 1: stage of marriage. Yet the first face is the compatibility face. Well,
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  Speaker 1: patterns look for every reasons to be together to get married.
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  Speaker 1: The second stage it's the incompatibility stage. They find it
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  Speaker 1: unnecessary to be together and walk away, or they stay
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  Speaker 1: or the burying stage they bare children and invest in
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  Speaker 1: the children, or they still find it incompatible and walk away.
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  Speaker 1: They got the compatibility stage, you look for every reasons
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  Speaker 1: to get together. All the different stays are are covered
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  Speaker 1: under the rock and the second the bearing stage the
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  Speaker 1: second stage of bearing stage investment stage. They choose to
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  Speaker 1: look for compatibility for incompactibility and divorce or separate or
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  Speaker 1: walk away from one another, or they choose the bearing
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  Speaker 1: stage and investment stage to invest in the children, invest
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  Speaker 1: in the family, invest in homes and business, invest in
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  Speaker 1: the things that makes life, to be prosper prosperous, to
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  Speaker 1: be flourishing, to be healthy, to be lightened, and to
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  Speaker 1: be kinder, to be conducive and comfortable from one another.
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  Speaker 1: So the test stage is the freedom stage, and the
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  Speaker 1: freedom space stage is where the kids are all gone,
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  Speaker 1: and then the partners spouse are become a little bit
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  Speaker 1: frail because they took all their energy to invest in
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  Speaker 1: the family and their kids or in investment in business.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes they are retired from having children, they are
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  Speaker 1: retired from work and retired from all activities. That freedom stage,
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  Speaker 1: it's another type of love that partners or spouse age
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  Speaker 1: together and celebrate their lives and appreciate one another and
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  Speaker 1: are grateful for the investments they're making life. The freedom
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  Speaker 1: stage it's a resting stage. As a resting stage. If
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  Speaker 1: the family is successful, that transition to infinity or to
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  Speaker 1: death do us path and it's the stage that life
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  Speaker 1: is lived again. And this is the most there is
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  Speaker 1: the longest stage of the marriage. It's the freedom stage.
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  Speaker 1: Freedom stage, and parents celebrate their children, they celebrate their lives,
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  Speaker 1: and there's the longest stage of life. It can last
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  Speaker 1: for terry for fifty sixty years, depending on the blessings
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  Speaker 1: of longevity. And at this freedom stage, parents enjoy matrimony
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  Speaker 1: and party of money. They enjoy their time together. They
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  Speaker 1: celebrate their time together in thanksgiving and gratitude to their children,
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  Speaker 1: and their children do the same with their parents and
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  Speaker 1: their parents in life. To be worth it, to be
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  Speaker 1: worth living. This is a stage when parents become parents.
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  Speaker 1: They graduate from the things they have done to celebrate
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  Speaker 1: themselves and celebrate life. They're supposed to be the most
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  Speaker 1: peaceful time in life, especially if the lives of the
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  Speaker 1: kids are successful. The lives of the kids are not successful,
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  Speaker 1: his freedom stage and playful stage is always interceded. Oh
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  Speaker 1: of interference. We're taking care of of the kid or
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  Speaker 1: the children that did not make it in life, maybe
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  Speaker 1: due to laziness, entitlement and responsibility or victim heard the
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  Speaker 1: kids that don't make it. We didn't follow parent the instructions,
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  Speaker 1: and they didn't they didn't listen to the parents, listen
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  Speaker 1: to the teachers, listen to society. And so the parents
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  Speaker 1: are supposed to take care of these kids now that
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  Speaker 1: cannot take care of themselves, and maybe they have their
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  Speaker 1: own kids. So it takes away from that freedom stage
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  Speaker 1: and peaceful stage, this stage equality. Now, the parents now
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  Speaker 1: can still look for some incompatibility to divorce from one
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  Speaker 1: another because the point in time parents are looking for
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  Speaker 1: to escape from responsibility, to be free and peaceful. After
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  Speaker 1: they have walked a lot to bring for the family,
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  Speaker 1: they want to take care of themselves. Me time, then me,
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  Speaker 1: me and me face of life because the body is afraid.
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  Speaker 1: The body cannot work a lot too much and they
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  Speaker 1: want to be themselves. I enjoyed the rest of life.
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  Speaker 1: That they have to be themselves again to take care
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  Speaker 1: of themselves, go back to their dreams, write their books,
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  Speaker 1: and reinvent their own world. Have that freedom to move
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  Speaker 1: around freely, and theyn't like to do that with a spouse.
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  Speaker 1: But sometime, due to family responsibility, some kids don't turn
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  Speaker 1: out well and the parents start to blame one another.
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  Speaker 1: It's because for you that this kid did not turn
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  Speaker 1: out well, and now it's therefore you're supposed to take
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  Speaker 1: care of that responsibility. And at this restless stage, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: some partners just to cheat on one another. That's not advisable,
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  Speaker 1: that's not why. And instead of resting and having freedom
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  Speaker 1: to be together and now incompatibilities still sets in. And
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  Speaker 1: when you start to cheat on the other spouse, start
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  Speaker 1: to do things behind the back of another spouse. And
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  Speaker 1: because as as humans get older, you know, some somethings
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  Speaker 1: are edged for something new, newer, the spouse start to
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  Speaker 1: look for something newer, and that is dangerous. But the
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  Speaker 1: human mind is what it is. Some humans always like
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  Speaker 1: to suffer. They'll do the things that make them suffer.
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  Speaker 1: And once in the freedoms staged out because sometimes people
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  Speaker 1: with too much freedom, you know, they become diabolic, they said,
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  Speaker 1: And I don't mind it said, Devils wash up without
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  Speaker 1: so much time, and people do crazy things and or
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  Speaker 1: the At this freedom stage that is supposed to be together,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's supposed to create more activities, activities that
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  Speaker 1: keep the family active, that the spouse active. And one
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  Speaker 1: of the spouse might just want to sit home, why
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  Speaker 1: the other. You know, one might choose to be an
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  Speaker 1: introvert while the other is an extravert. Right there, they
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  Speaker 1: will be a proud at this freedom stage. That is
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  Speaker 1: all Lester day life has been the success. As there
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  Speaker 1: is the time to give back to society, to donate
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  Speaker 1: your time, to run for office, you know, to volunteer
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  Speaker 1: to fiilanthropy, and it's a time of activity, of participation
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  Speaker 1: to keep mind, body and soul together. It's a time
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  Speaker 1: of activity, more activities, because in activity we slow the
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  Speaker 1: body down and we shortened life. At that freedom stage
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  Speaker 1: when the kids are god at the test stage of
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  Speaker 1: the marriage, and what drives marriage is activity, much activity,
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  Speaker 1: constantly doing things, moving from place to place, contributing in things,
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  Speaker 1: volunteering that time, going out there and doing stuff. At
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  Speaker 1: this stage, now maybe it might be due to illnesses
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  Speaker 1: and some constraints in life, that freedom is reduced to vulnerabilities,
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  Speaker 1: you know, to free it is and one spouse the
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  Speaker 1: supposed to be taking care of the other and they
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  Speaker 1: can still have the best out of life, because that's
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  Speaker 1: what love is all about. That freedom means taking care
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  Speaker 1: of something. That's the taking care of something, stage, that
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  Speaker 1: carried for something, stakes, that means contribution to something away
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  Speaker 1: from yourself. At this stage, contributing to something away from yourself,
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  Speaker 1: away from the family becomes very important, and taking care
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  Speaker 1: of the other spouse comes something that's more important. But
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  Speaker 1: that becomes a freedom of doing that and that seeking
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  Speaker 1: that eternal happiness, eternal bliss, that indelibility type of stage.
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  Speaker 1: You're doing something because it's the right thing to do.
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  Speaker 1: It's the enrichment of soul type of stage. You do
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  Speaker 1: things to enrich your soul, to be to be seen better,
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  Speaker 1: to be respected, to have that enough fulfilledment of making
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  Speaker 1: the difference. It's good for longevity, it's good for the health,
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  Speaker 1: it's good for self esteem and dignity. You know, that
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  Speaker 1: freedom stage, you start to do the things to be
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  Speaker 1: loved by society more, to be seen by society more,
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  Speaker 1: and to build, to help build bridges, help others in
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  Speaker 1: need and are helping other stage. You know, it's a
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  Speaker 1: stage of freedom to do the things that you like
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  Speaker 1: to do in life. You can creat and art, start
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  Speaker 1: something new, start a foundation, something that will take the
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  Speaker 1: rest of your life. You can plan more trees, inviting
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  Speaker 1: in in people who cannot take care of themselves, traveling
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  Speaker 1: other countries, donate your time. It's a very important stage
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  Speaker 1: of life that we care for the things of life,
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  Speaker 1: and the states gradually transition to old age, old age.
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  Speaker 1: Now parents, kids and grandkids come back now to take
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  Speaker 1: care of their own parents or their grandparents, to pay
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  Speaker 1: back that good that that that good fortune that they
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  Speaker 1: have given to you, and gradually is the interface of
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  Speaker 1: life that is meant with a lot of wisdom and
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  Speaker 1: timefulness and gratefulness. Will if the one sits back and
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  Speaker 1: said it was worth it, and see eternity as as
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  Speaker 1: a door to infinity, hoping that life was well spent
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  Speaker 1: the way. That's the way, It's a door to set.
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  Speaker 1: My time has come. I'm grateful for the life I lived,
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  Speaker 1: for the contubitions I made, for the differences I made
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  Speaker 1: in the lives of others, and as a set of
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  Speaker 1: nature the fruit before for new seats to crow, and
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  Speaker 1: for the infinity of being that's its become the indelibered
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  Speaker 1: dead that lives on in the memories of others. For
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  Speaker 1: such as life Philosopher Prince Legencis philosopher Praises ras Are
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  Speaker 1: a pray seventeen twenty twenty five from the Great City
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  Speaker 1: of Las Vegas. In death and marriage and life and
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  Speaker 1: the contribution that we make being there for one another,
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  Speaker 1: being there for the children, and when the children are grown,
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  Speaker 1: and God the spouse, being there for one another, and
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  Speaker 1: that freedom and the liberty of state of pay, to
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  Speaker 1: care for one another, to love one another, to cherish
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  Speaker 1: one another, an At the same time, do not forget
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  Speaker 1: the beauties of life. The life is about contribution, not
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  Speaker 1: anything else. Thank you m HM