Episode 43 | Hope — And the Question Nobody Asks You Before You Start Paying for Things You Can't Take Back

Your Effin’ Love Story · Jul 8, 2026 · 27m

I didn't want to have children.

Ever.

I said that out loud for the first time not too long and ago, and then again in this episode — publicly, on a microphone, knowing my biological children might hear it. Not because I don't care about them. Because the truth matters more than the performance of what I was supposed to want.

And do.

I got married because religion told me that's what you do with sexual urges. I had children because the Bible said be fruitful and multiply. I took jobs I didn't want. Said what people wanted to hear. Went through the motions of a life that was built around…