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Nellie is a PEOPLE PLEASER · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: John Jay and rich Nelly, Good morning, Good morning, how
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  Speaker 1: are you? Thanks for holding you're on the radio.
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  Speaker 2: So I need someone to bitch to my My husband
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  Speaker 2: has you know, decided that I'm just like the designated
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  Speaker 2: community parent or whatever, and without me without telling me,
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  Speaker 2: like without my permission. So like anytime someone needs something,
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  Speaker 2: you know, be it like a pot love dish or
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  Speaker 2: like team snacks for for you know, his colleagues or
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  Speaker 2: or or neighborly help or whatever, like I am the volunteer,
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  Speaker 2: like I am volunteerd that like I will be.
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  Speaker 3: Buying all of that stuff.
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  Speaker 4: I actually okay for.
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  Speaker 2: You, No hate it. I hate it for myself too.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, I feel like I'm just like this
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  Speaker 2: neighborhood like concierge or whatever. And I didn't I didn't
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  Speaker 2: agree to this role. And so you know, I'll be
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  Speaker 2: like minding my business, like on the couch, watching TV
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  Speaker 2: or whatever, and then and suddenly he'll be like, oh, hey, babe,
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  Speaker 2: by the way, we need forty cupcakes by Friday. Can
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  Speaker 2: you get on that? Yeah? And I'm like, sir, I'm
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  Speaker 2: watching Netflix, like no, I can't get on that, like
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  Speaker 2: and it's just it's ridiculous It's like, I'm sorry that
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  Speaker 2: you don't know how to bake or do anything around
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  Speaker 2: the house, but like it's not my job to do
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  Speaker 2: that for you.
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  Speaker 4: You know, on a positive note, you must be super
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  Speaker 4: clutch at getting things done because he's entrusting you with
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  Speaker 4: all that.
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  Speaker 2: But you should ask you this is true, this is true.
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  Speaker 4: I am.
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  Speaker 2: I am very good at multitasking. I'm a very good baker.
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  Speaker 2: I got a lot of a lot of tangible skills.
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  Speaker 2: But I you know, I'm like three seconds from just
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  Speaker 2: like losing my mind. So I just need to know
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  Speaker 2: if I'm crazy or if there are other people out
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  Speaker 2: there that are like dealing with the same.
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  Speaker 3: Bold I'm just wondering why you do it. I would
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  Speaker 3: have been like, well, good luck getting those cupcakes. Me
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  Speaker 3: know how it was for you.
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  Speaker 2: You know, that's a good point.
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  Speaker 1: I think he's doing that because usually you're doing the
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  Speaker 1: things that he's volunteer me to know. My take on
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  Speaker 1: this is I've seen this in relationships before, and but
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  Speaker 1: most of the time, or almost every time I could
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  Speaker 1: ever think of, the wife loves it and he's willing,
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  Speaker 1: like not going to complain about it like it's something
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  Speaker 1: or the husband the other way around. I know women think, oh,
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  Speaker 1: he'll come over and fix that for you. He's great.
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  Speaker 1: It's usually because they love it. I've never heard it
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  Speaker 1: before where she's like stop doing that, Like have you
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  Speaker 1: said stop doing that?
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  Speaker 2: Well, to be honest, I did love it at first,
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  Speaker 2: like I because I love to bake and I love
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  Speaker 2: doing these things. I think it's just when I'm told
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  Speaker 2: that I have to do it, like I like to
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  Speaker 2: do it when it's on a whim or whatever, and
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  Speaker 2: so it's only a recent thing that I'm like resenting
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  Speaker 2: the fact that I have to do it.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of like like Kyle, you do stuff like
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  Speaker 1: that all on your own. I'll make cups for the
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  Speaker 1: whole team.
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  Speaker 3: I do. But I think if someone told me I
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  Speaker 3: had to, I also resent it. So it is probably
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  Speaker 3: the presentation. You have to talk to him about that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I guess I haven't. I haven't really thought
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  Speaker 2: about like, actually.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, what if he's doing it to you know, maybe
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  Speaker 1: he's not happy to relationship anymore and he's seen how
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  Speaker 1: far can I push her? Like what if his next
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  Speaker 1: week he's like, NELLI, yeah, you need her to clean
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  Speaker 1: out your stories for silly She'll.
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  Speaker 3: Do that she loves that stuff.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, do you feel like we were helpful, because
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  Speaker 4: if you did, we would like forty cupcakes stat by Friday.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, how dare you do that? Nelly?
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  Speaker 3: Nellie's a people pleas her. That's what it is. She
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  Speaker 3: doesn't want to say no because she doesn't want to
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  Speaker 3: disappoint anything.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I would just start making like really gross cakes.
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  Speaker 3: She can't, she's too good at making. You could just
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  Speaker 3: be like oops for out the flower.
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  Speaker 2: No, you're so right about the people pleaser saying my
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  Speaker 2: therapist would like have a field day with it.
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  Speaker 1: Well, thanks for calling in, Nellie, thanks for listening.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you,