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Embrace Your Unique Self: A Journey to Self-Acceptance · Eye Opener Society

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Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Eye Opener Society. You have your hosts.
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Me, Hannah. And me, Gary. We are your hosts of the Eye Opener Society,
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and we want to welcome you back.
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And I just wanted to say, one, I'm so extremely excited that everybody's tuning in and listening.
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It's the best thing you can do for us, especially when it comes to supporting us.
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Obviously you could send us a million dollars tomorrow we're
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not going to say no to it however um just
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listening is just as good for us so i definitely uh want to say a big thank
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you while we have the audience you that just hit the play button thank you so
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very much um again we're doing um a quick little series of our shorter talks
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um just basically without having the.
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Like a basic topic.
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We're just sitting here as Hannah and Gary just talking to you in more of a conversational style.
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And the whole reason for that, again, is because we're trying to cram a lot
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of recordings in all at once for the month of August because Hannah is going
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to be going on vacation soon.
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And we just wanted to get the August show out there to you, or at least the August shows.
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So we thank you again for listening. And we thank you again for tuning in.
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And with this, our whole theme of positivity for the month, or basically for
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the rest of the show, we're always trying to promote some positivity,
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consciousness, awareness,
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being ourselves, and why we should be happy to be ourselves.
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And I think that's what I wanted to bring up to you, Hannah.
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I just wanted people to understand that. that as a human, we don't need to seek
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acceptance from others all the time.
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I think we need to seek acceptance from within and then start to enjoy our own
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being, our own well-being, and our own.
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To become a better human, we need to understand ourselves more rather than worrying
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about what everybody else thinks about you.
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What do you think about that?
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For me, I think, this is a hard one.
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So for me, I think, unfortunately, I'm always going to be that type of person
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that somewhat like seeks acceptance from other people.
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I just think it's like a trauma response from everything that I've been through
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in my life. However, I think I've come a long way to the point where,
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yes, I still look for that acceptance.
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But then in the back, you know, in some scenarios, I'm just like it is what it is. I am who I am.
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Fuck you. You know, it just honestly just depends. You know,
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it just depends on the person, the situation.
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I guess how I'm feeling that day. I'm a very act with emotions type of person.
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Well, this is where we need to focus and control what we feel.
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And we need to focus on ourselves because too many times we are,
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we're too worried about the opinions of others.
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And let me put it to you this way. Like, we never really accept negative comments,
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especially like on our social media pages and stuff like that.
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And the only reason is not because I can't take it. I got a thick enough skin.
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But the problem is I don't want to spread that negativity because that negativity
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really is like a cancer and it will spread around and other people will pick up on that.
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I always said there's certain things, art and music, things like that. It's subjective.
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Some people are going to like it. Other people are not going to like it.
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So why would you want to sit there other than to hear your own self-speaking
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and say how much you hate something? thing.
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Oh, yeah. You know, and this is where it comes down to where if we focus on
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ourselves and ourselves only and not worry about what everybody else thinks
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or whatever, but he thinks about us or what we want to say, we need to keep things kind of neutral.
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Yeah. I don't like, you know, this musical artist.
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It's not my taste of music. I don't think the recording was right.
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You know, I don't like their sound. Things like that, I think,
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is much more matured in saying, oh, this is the worst music in the world.
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I can't stand it and nobody else should like it.
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This is where we need to focus on ourselves and say, well, listen,
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me as a human, I accept myself. I'm proud of myself.
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And I don't need to tell the whole world about all of my opinions.
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Yeah, music is a really big thing for me. Yeah.
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Whether it's necessarily like it doesn't necessarily have to be a song that is has meaning.
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You know what I mean? I mean, every song has meaning. But, you know,
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I could be listening to like a rap song or I could be listening to like a heavy metal song.
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I could be listening to something that literally destroys my heart or,
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you know, makes me happy.
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But in the end, music like touches my soul no other way that anything else in
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my life or existence ever has.
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Um so I take music very personally and
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um I it's actually a really
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big pet peeve of mine um when it comes to
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people if I have people who
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just like sit there and just like like you said like bash on this bash on that
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I'm just like can you just let me vibe to my song because this is so important
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to my soul right now you know it doesn't the song doesn't even have to have
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meaning but the way that like let's say like a rap song like has a beat and
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the beat makes my body feel Like,
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it's just something that is so deep and personal to me that like like what you said,
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it's just like if you don't have it, just keep like, you know, keep to yourself,
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you know, don't spread your negativity or, you know, your opinion when it's
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not necessarily needed.
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You know, I can see someone jamming out to a song that I can absolutely despise
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and I will just either, you know, like walk away if I can, you know,
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put my headphones on or something and just not say anything because I know in
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that moment that person needed that song.
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They needed that feeling. You know, if people feel the way I do when I listen
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to music, then who am I to shut down and spread like a negative vibe to them
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because I don't like what they're listening to.
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And it goes beyond music, you know? It does. And music, like I said,
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it's just one example because it's so subjective.
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But I could look at a piece of artwork and I could feel one way another person
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next to me could stare at that same exact piece of artwork and feel something completely different.
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There's differences on how music and art.
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Actually take hold of another person and enable them to see something different.
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So yeah, us sitting there and expressing like, if my opinion was asked,
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I can tell you, well, this piece of artwork makes me feel this way.
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This musical artist I either like or don't like, and here are the reasons or
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at least what I'm feeling.
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But to force my opinion onto somebody else or to say,
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you have to feel this way, or you're stupid for listening to this,
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you know this cheapens humanity so
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much and this is where we need to focus we
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need to wake up and become adult like we're all acting like
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children and you know it gets to the point where you don't want to talk to anybody
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anymore you don't want to ask anybody's opinion because the opinion is turns
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to hatred right away and being a conscious human beings being someone who's trying to learn
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more about the higher self i like to
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use art and music and everything else as
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a way to tune in with people and
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if a person says this is my favorite song it could tell a lot about that person
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yeah and the same thing with art and how they feel about a certain piece of
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artwork or whatever or sounds or just anything it's very it's very deep into
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the psyche when it comes to music music, believe it or not.
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It is. And just a little side note, we're going to have a discussion about this,
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hopefully soon within the next month.
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We're going to have a guest on our show, Monica Susanna, and she's with TIK Radio.
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And we are going to sit and actually talk about mental health and music,
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because I think the two go hand in hand.
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They do. And we're looking forward to that. I was going to say,
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I don't want to touch on it too much here, like now, because I want to save it for the podcast.
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But I will add, and I will probably end up mentioning And again,
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it's just like, I always have said that you can tell a lot about what someone
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is currently going through by the song that they have on repeat.
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Yeah, you absolutely can. You're so right. And yeah, we will definitely bring that up.
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It does. It tunes in because an artist can write a song and that song can have
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a meaning to that artist.
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But somebody else can listen to it and it'll have a completely different meaning
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because that person is taking those words, those lyrics and relating it to something
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in their life and not the artist's life.
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So it does, it becomes so subjective and it's, that's what makes it art. And humans are art.
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Every one of us are different. Every single one of us. The way they dress,
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the way you, you know, do your makeup, the way you do your nails,
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you know, the way you do your hair, like, everyone is art.
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Like, life is art. And-
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It's just, like, such a beautiful thing that I think people don't sit back and,
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like, reflect on more in life.
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And I think we do to an unhealthy portion because, like you say,
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the way you wear your hair, the way you wear your makeup.
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But how about just your body that you were given at birth?
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Yeah, yeah. Why can't we take hold of that, embrace it, and say,
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this is what was given to me and it is perfect? Yeah.
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Rather than taking what everybody else is thinking and being told,
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well, you have to be fatter, you have to be skinnier, you have to be...
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Take what you have and enjoy it and embrace it and understand that that is you as a whole. Yeah.
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If there's things health-wise, you can make changes later based on that,
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but it shouldn't be because of shame.
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You should not be shameful. what's in or what's the right image
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there is no right image i ever since i can remember have
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always been that kid
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that would make the people
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that you know look physically different or something like that feel noticed
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because it's not right it's not right to judge somebody by if you know their
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shoe size or their waist size or you know if they're bigger or lighter um i
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don't like using the word fat.
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I think it's really just, it's just horrible.
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I just, I feel like everyone is beautiful in their own way.
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And like you said, if they have something health going on, who are you to sit
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there and call them fat or obese or anything like that? Because you don't know
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what's going on in their body.
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They could have something like a condition or something like that.
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I know I've touched on this so many times, but it's just like.
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Don't say anything if you don't have anything nice to say you know
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you have no idea what someone's going through everyone is beautiful in
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their own way and i don't think i've ever sat
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there and just you know spit
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out just horrible slander about somebody because i just
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like i said it just goes back to you know that's your
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body and that's your image that you were born with you know the universe god
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whoever whatever gave you and embrace that enjoy yourself stop trying to get
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with the trends and worry about what other people are doing or other people's
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opinions. Just be who you are.
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Right. And embrace who you are. That's the main thing.
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I don't like seeing people transforming themselves into something that they're
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not for whatever the reason.
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Take what you have and enjoy Enjoy what you have.
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That is where you're empowered because you are who you are.
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You're different from everybody else. You are a fingerprint. You're unique.
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And that's what we need to understand. And I really think, too,
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even in the medical field now, I've had the same thing, body shaming from doctors
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now. Oh, my God. It's disgusting.
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You know, with diabetes, I've walked into, you know—.
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Clinic once and I was in full winter gear and they weighed me like that.
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So of course, I put on an extra 12 pounds, but literally I weigh like 160 pounds soaking wet.
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As soon as I walk in, the very first words out of the doctor's mouth is,
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first of all, you're obese.
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I'm like, you got to be kidding me, man. Obese.
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Yeah. And you're ugly, doc. Thanks. But this is where the whole hatred then
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comes, you know, and now you're yelling back and forth.
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It's like, who is a doctor to say you're obese right off the bat?
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You know, listen, you have health problems.
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This is where I'm concerned about. Your weight should be down here or something
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like that. We can help you get to it.
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It's more professional, but they're really being taught nowadays to go according to these charts.
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If you are five foot seven, you must weigh this amount. Yeah.
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It doesn't work that way.
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It doesn't. You know, you were born a certain way and that's what you have.
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We could maybe help things, but you can't sit there and shame and make you feel horrible.
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I mean, I didn't feel horrible because it's to call me obese.
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It's hilarious. It's hilarious. That's like calling you obese.
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It just doesn't fit. It doesn't fit at all.
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But we have to learn that we got to accept who we are and we can't have other
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people telling us the way we should be.
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Yeah. I think it's important to just believe in yourself and,
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you know, establish your values. use.
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And it's really hard. And I'm still honestly learning how to do this.
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But stop worrying about how other people feel about you and how people see you.
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You know, it's about how you see yourself. It's about how you feel about yourself.
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And it's hard because, you know, some people, like I said, I'm guilty of it.
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You want validation from people. You want love from people. But.
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That love can be very gaslighting and it can have hidden agendas.
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So it's just really important to stay true to yourself and true to your image
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and don't let anything, you know, alter that.
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And how are you going to love anybody if you're not able to love yourself?
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You have to start by loving yourself and that's the hardest thing to do. Yeah, definitely.
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You know, it's not easy. You know, there are people I know that look in the
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mirror and hate what they see.
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And I know that's a mental problem. And, you know, I think we're here to say,
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listen, you're not seen that way.
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Anybody that's saying the ugly things, it's a reflection of themselves.
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You know, they're so self-conscious about themselves that they're projecting onto others.
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And is that right? No, obviously it's not right.
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We, this is how we function as humans, is always wrong. We always do the wrong thing.
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Yeah. So if you are, if you are that person that's looking in the mirror,
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hear this voice in the back of your head. You are beautiful.
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Listen to that voice and hear it. Just remember from this moment on,
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remember the words, you are beautiful.
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Next time you go and look at yourself in the mirror, that's what I want you
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to hear. Yeah. You are beautiful. You matter.
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Someone is happy that you're here. Yeah.
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You may not hear that all the time. When you're outside and your perception
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of things, you're probably always hearing the ugly things, even if they're not spoken.
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Because I know there are people that will sit there and think,
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oh, I think this person is thinking this.
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It's very difficult when you have these problems. It really It really is.
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But that's why I just want you to remember, you are beautiful.
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Just remember that. You are beautiful. And if that's the only thing that you
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put in your head is you are beautiful, that's all you are going to hear.
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When you look in the mirror. Yeah.
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Anywhere. But anywhere, anyplace, anytime. Anytime you're not feeling right.
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If the only thought in your head is you are beautiful.
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That will eventually start to take over and you might start to feel better about
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yourself. We're hoping it does.
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Yeah. Because I think everybody needs to start breaking out of this horrible, miserable,
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low level, low energy and start looking into the higher stuff,
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the higher energies, the 5D world where we're all beautiful and nobody says
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anything bad about each other.
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I think it's really important, you know, it's slightly off topic,
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but somewhat in topic here is that, you know, instead of keeping necessarily
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like a happy thought to yourself about someone like today,
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for example, I had to go get my license picture taken and there was a worker
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there and he was knitting or crocheting, you know, a scarf and or whatever,
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a blanket. I think it was. It was a blanket. Yeah.
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And, you know, I could have just sat there and not said anything.
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But, you know, I was fascinated. You know, I was fascinated by the art that he was making.
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And I just was like, wow.
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He's like, what? And I was like, I'm just watching you. Like, that's amazing.
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Like, you're doing such a wonderful job. And when I tell you,
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when I left, I turned back and I saw the smile because I feel like he got the
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energy that I was proud of him.
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You know, it's just something that I took to heart because I know what it's
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like to be in that seat doing something that you don't think that anyone is noticing you doing.
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And then you get that small, just simple compliment and it literally just reforms
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your, like your mental for the rest of the day and it's just like you're on this some type of high.
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Not that it matters what other people say, but it's just like,
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If you have a thought that you know that is going to, you know,
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maybe turn around someone's day, say it.
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We get so scared to say the positive stuff. Oh, my God, not me.
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I always say it all the time. I'm like, I wish there were more people who are awkward like me.
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Because it's not meant to be awkward, but I just make it awkward.
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That's my personality. personality but I'm always going to be that person that
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I guess it's because of everything that I
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went through like how many times that I wish someone
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would have just you know told me when I felt like I needed it like that I was
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doing a good job or like they're proud of me or you know hey I like your shirt
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today hey your hair looks good did you do it's just like the small things you
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know that you're being noticed and it's not about necessarily the validation from other people,
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but it's just our world is filled with ugly right now.
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And even something small as you like someone's shirt can take it a long way.
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Yeah. The point I wanted to make was the fact that hatred is so easy to spread.
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It's the end thing. You feel validated because you spoke your mind and you said
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something ugly and you're really good and you're going to go around aggravated
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for the rest of the day now. It's easy to do that.
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It takes a bigger person to give the compliment, to say something nice,
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or to suppress those negative comments and say something nice.
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We can be gods, we can be goddesses based upon the way we act in society.
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And more people need to understand that. You guys out there listening to Hannah
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and I, Why, think about this.
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Spread this. Spread love. Stop spreading hate.
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I don't care how small of a compliment it is. Try it.
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Every time a negative thought comes
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across your head, replace it with a positive, no matter how hard it is.
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And it'll make you a much bigger person than that ugly side that would have came out before.
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We all need to do that. We all need to question the higher self.
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We need to question. And I wanted to bring this up in a topic,
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but we could wrap it up very quickly with this.
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We question, and I'm the first to say question everything.
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There's nothing wrong with questioning, but however, we need to understand the
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questions that we're asking. kink.
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We sit sometimes and ask the most simplest question, oh, how do I meditate?
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The thing is, there's no answers to these simple questions.
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There's guidance, there's instructions on how to do it and all that.
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When we sit down and we actually do what it is we're setting out to do,
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the questions need to become higher and we don't need to reach out to other people with, it.
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Oh, how do I do this? What's next?
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Start questioning ourselves. Yes.
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Question, why am I doing this? How can I do this better?
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How am I going to learn to do this better? What works for me?
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What works for me? I like that, Hannah. Thank you.
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These are the questions that are going to help us become better,
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to help our mental strength, to open up the doors at 5D where we all want to be,
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rather than in this low-level, low-energy 3D world where we just ask the simple
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questions and look for a simple answer to get us into a very simple next step.
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If you want to make that big leap, then you need to ask the questions and ask
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yourself the questions, make them higher questions.
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I always said I like to be a guide. I don't like to answer questions.
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I just want to guide you. You ask the question to yourself.
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I could give you some pointers, some direction, guide you.
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That's what it should be like. I think we all need to be mentors to each other,
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to help each other think on a higher level rather than answering the smaller
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questions that really never help you learn.
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And that's what I wanted to talk about. And I think I got that all in.
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And it's very simple. Rather than having an entire show on it,
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question yourself, ask the questions, make them powerful questions.
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What is going to matter to you? Because you, the individual,
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You are that unique fingerprint.
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And if you ask a question, the answer may only apply to somebody else and not
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to you or may apply to a whole group of people.
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Make it specific to yourself. And that's why asking yourself these questions
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and answering them yourself makes you a much higher person.
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Yeah. And to add to that, I think it's important for people to realize and...
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Is that you are your unique being. There is no one that's going to ever be like you.
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So people should stop trying to be like others.
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You know, it's nice to have an admirer, you know, or someone that you admire,
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an idol, there's the word.
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But I think it's important to remember is that you are your own unique being.
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And there is nothing more beautiful than being yourself.
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You know, there's nothing wrong with, oh, I really like how this person did
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their hair. I might try that out. There's nothing wrong with that. That's creativity.
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But stay true to yourself. Don't go liking a band just because the person you
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idolize likes a band or, you know, they dress like this and they hate this person
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because so you're going to.
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Don't be like that. Be yourself because you're so unique and it's so important
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to just be your own person.
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I like that. And I want to end on that note, because you said exactly what the show is about.
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Be yourself, be unique, be happy about yourself. And always remember, I am beautiful.
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Remember that all the time in the back of your head and keep it there.
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And Hannah and I, we will, you know, constantly reinforce that for you.
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We appreciate everybody tuning in again. we kind
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of like this conversational style but we will be getting back September into
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our regular format so don't worry about it and we're going to have guests and
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all but we just wanted to set this whole month of August for more positivity
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and spread a lot of that and that's going to continue on for as long as this
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show is on the air so everybody take care.