Latest / Why I Believe / Kurt Luidhardt: God Is a 4th Quarter Comeback
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- 0:00Hello and welcome to Why I Believe.
- 0:03I'm your host, Michelle von Ruuden, and today our guest is Kurt Ludhart.
- 0:07How are you today, Kurt?
- 0:08I am feeling great.
- 0:10Awesome.
- 0:10Can you tell us a little bit about yourself?
- 0:13Yeah.
- 0:13Um I am a spry 47 years old as of just a couple of weeks ago.
- 0:21I am based in Indianapolis, Indiana, home of IndyCar and the Indy 500, which I'm a big fan of.
- 0:30My wife and I have run a marketing agency for 20 years.
- 0:35Uh and we have two kids, uh, four and six.
- 0:41Ooh, young.
- 0:42so we're we're right in the middle of it.
- 0:43My wife and I have been married over twenty years, but we waited to have kids until a little later in life, which has its advantages and disadvantages.
- 0:51Uh you can see I love to read, but now that I have a four year old and a six year old, I feel like I'm lucky if I can squeeze in twenty minutes of reading a day.
- 1:00Uh and I'm glad to be here.
- 1:04Yeah, well thanks for being here and happy belated birthday.
- 1:06Um, I know the feeling with the reading.
- 1:08I have a fifteen year old and a seven year old.
- 1:11So a lot of the reading is kids' books.
- 1:14Yes.
- 1:15Yes, exactly.
- 1:17Yeah.
- 1:18Awesome.
- 1:18So, um, thanks for being here.
- 1:20I appreciate having you on.
- 1:22And can you just give us a brief introduction to your relationship with God and what that looks like?
- 1:28Yeah.
- 1:29You know, I had the blessing that not everybody gets of having two wonderful parents, who both of which had uh great faith in God.
- 1:41my father's passed away, mom is still alive, and we're good examples of faith to me and my my brothers and sisters growing up.
- 1:49And so all of us became uh Christians at a relatively young age.
- 1:57And
- 1:58uh never felt at any point in my life like I I really doubted that decision because I've I had a good solid foundation and faith growing up, a good church.
- 2:10Um so I wasn't I didn't go into college or some other place unprepared to to be introduced to other viewpoints.
- 2:21But I also went to a great Christian school, Indiana Wesleyan University here in Indiana.
- 2:26Which did a great work in helping me grow in my faith as well, and talked about a lot of deeper issues of faith and philosophy that I wouldn't have uh covered in high school.
- 2:40And uh so that's always been a blessing in my life to always have that solid foundation of faith uh in my life, not to say I'm I haven't had my moments of questioning whether God
- 2:54was following my plan properly or not, but
- 2:57Your plan, right?
- 2:58yeah, my plan.
- 2:59Um, but uh I've had a great blessing in that.
- 3:04Yeah, that's awesome.
- 3:05I think that's great that you said your plan and you know, because the reality is is he's got a plan for us and he gets us on that plan one way or another.
- 3:12And, you know, you and I were talking a little bit before and you said hindsight's always twenty twenty and you can s really see God working in your life when you look back on your
- 3:20life.
- 3:20What are some examples of that?
- 3:22Yeah, you know, I I I wish I could properly attribute this saying to someone, which I read recently, which is you can't ever really appreciate what God's done until you look
- 3:35backwards, right?
- 3:37And there are a number of moments in my life when, you know, to to the statement I made before, I felt like God wasn't doing the stuff that he should be doing.
- 3:51Um, I had a plan or I had desires, goals that weren't getting met.
- 3:56And I I rem I now know looking back, I can see multiple instances where God protected me from things I couldn't see and I didn't know about.
- 4:07One of the most early frustrations in my career was a job that I was supposed to get.
- 4:14The my boss was leaving and he wanted me to take over.
- 4:21for him and it was a big promotion, big responsibility, and a really exciting job.
- 4:30And in the last minute, one of the sort of board of directors of the organization intervened and wanted to bring in an older candidate, older older than me.
- 4:43I'm back in my twenties, right?
- 4:44Older.
- 4:45Um
- 4:46And it it resulted in a big fight within the organization.
- 4:49And my boss, Brad, he did not win and I did not get hired.
- 4:54And I was very upset about it.
- 4:55I was I was moving.
- 4:57I was pl you know, I I was so confident.
- 4:59I was already looking at apartments and and doing things like that.
- 5:04And and then about six months to a year later, it came out in the news that Brad was embezzling from the organization or had been.
- 5:15And the new person who came in had had been the one to discover it.
- 5:20And and it and I re I as I look back, I realized I probably was saved from what might have ended up being really poor decision making, someone who I felt loyal to, who I might have
- 5:34chosen to to give him a pass, or maybe I would have allowed him to pay it back, or what what something I would have done in my youth.
- 5:44that I would know better about now instead of going straight to the authorities.
- 5:48Or I might have just never looked because I trusted him so much.
- 5:53And uh and then you I can see that, particularly as I started my business um just a couple of years later, about different clients that I wanted to get that I didn't get.
- 6:05And I look back and I think, well man, that one would have been a real mess.
- 6:09Uh and and so many times where in
- 6:15In the moment I thought, we are not generating the revenue we needed.
- 6:19We don't have the clients.
- 6:21And almost without exception, uh God came through with things that I can't really claim that I I I got, right?
- 6:30Clients that came out of nowhere.
- 6:34and uh, you know, it's developed partially partially my belief, and I think there's plenty of scriptural evidence of this.
- 6:44God's kind of like a fourth quarter comeback.
- 6:46That's part of his character.
- 6:48He likes a good fourth quarter comeback.
- 6:51In part because as humans, I think when something good happens, we tend to give ourselves credit.
- 6:58When something goes bad, we blame God, right?
- 7:01And and so uh there's a if we're gonna if God's gonna get to glory and if we're gonna recognize who's responsible for our success, it's gonna be because it came at the fourth
- 7:12quarter.
- 7:13When we knew we it was a miracle and we knew we didn't have anything to do with it.
- 7:17And even then it's easy to look back and say, Well, man, I I've got that client because I've been out there, you know, slinging it and having sales meetings and somebody heard
- 7:28about me and that's why I got that client.
- 7:30Uh not I had no business getting that work.
- 7:35So as I look back, I see so many occasions of this, but it really does require you to look back dispassionately.
- 7:44I think it's John Piper that says, God is doing ten thousand things in our lives, but we only we may only recognize one.
- 7:54And there's a lot of truth to that the older I get.
- 7:58Yeah.
- 7:59Yeah, there sure is.
- 8:00And I think one of the reasons why God shows up so well in the ways that he does is because when we're at that point, most people are desperate and they're surrendering
- 8:09themselves, right?
- 8:10And they're like, Listen, here's all my problems, here's everything I need, like you do you, right?
- 8:15Do what you can and help me.
- 8:17And I'm I'm ready to do it your way because my way's not working.
- 8:22Because so often we try to do it our way, and our way is not always the correct way or his way.
- 8:27Right.
- 8:28Well, it's it rarely is, I think.
- 8:33Um, you know, I think it's Tim Keller who says our three enemies according to the Bible are the world, the flesh, and the devil, right?
- 8:41And the flesh is our own innate desire to run things ourselves.
- 8:46And as a entrepreneur, business person who loves doing well and who wants to be successful.
- 8:54I struggle with this all the time.
- 8:56I want to run things my own way.
- 8:58I want to work and achieve.
- 9:00I don't want to pause, slow down, pray about something.
- 9:04I don't want to acknowledge that there might be some knowledge that our creator has that I don't.
- 9:10And so that's that flesh in us, right?
- 9:12The desire to I want to do it my way.
- 9:14I want this to happen the way I want to have have it go down.
- 9:19and, you know, it's a it's a true enemy uh to
- 9:23To our relationship with God.
- 9:28Yeah.
- 9:30You mentioned earlier when we were talking that there was a turning point in your life about three years ago when you decided to put him first, find your identity, your true
- 9:39identity, is which is one thing that I really talk about, and starting to get rid of the idols in your life.
- 9:43Can you tell us more about that?
- 9:46Yeah, you know, it's like you said, sometimes we need to have some bad things go down for us to take a moment, pause and and listen to God and and what he has for us.
- 9:59And um three years ago, now I remember we had one of our worst years in business, and nothing seemed to be going right at all.
- 10:09And all of my plans seemed to be going wrong.
- 10:13And uh
- 10:15And I was really frustrated about it.
- 10:18And there was a moment, there were a couple of things that happened that I think God used to get my attention.
- 10:24Sometimes He uses things that aren't that are, you know, not necessarily faith based, but I was at a Tony Robbins conference.
- 10:32I love Tony.
- 10:33And Tony does his date with Destiny conference.
- 10:37If you've ever been, it's a great thing to do once in your life, if not more than once.
- 10:41I've been a few times.
- 10:43And uh the third time I went, I was I had this attitude of, well, I know what's coming because Tony follows a pretty similar script.
- 10:52He does some of the same things every year at this event.
- 10:55And one of the things he does is he talks about um what's important in life and putting your your time and efforts into things that are important.
- 11:07And to illustrate this, he shows the
- 11:10Part of the movie Mr.
- 11:12Holland's Opus.
- 11:13Have you ever seen Mr.
- 11:13Holland's Opus?
- 11:14Does do you know what I'm talking about?
- 11:17It's a good movie.
- 11:19The basic theme of it is there's this musician who wants to write a world famous symphony, but you don't make any money writing symphonies, so he takes a music teacher job to pay
- 11:32the bills while he writes his symphony.
- 11:35But he doesn't really care about the music teacher job because what he really wants is the symphony.
- 11:40And so he go he leaves early every day and he he he's he neglects his students.
- 11:46But at multiple times through the movie, you know, the school says you need to work harder and then he has a son and the son turns out to be deaf and can't really appreciate music
- 11:57and every one of those things, his job, his wife, his son, they're all getting in the way of his symphony creation time.
- 12:09And he's got this growing resentment, which he eventually sort of gives up.
- 12:13And he's he he the symphony kind of takes second fiddle.
- 12:18And the culmination of the movie though is is the students at his musician music class uh on upon his retirement discover the symphony and play it for him that he's been writing,
- 12:32right?
- 12:32So it's this big emotional moment.
- 12:34And so I know it's coming.
- 12:35I was thinking about leaving.
- 12:38But for the first time I thought I'm a lot like Mr.
- 12:41Holland's Opus.
- 12:42Um, I have some success goals.
- 12:46I'd like to see, I'd like to make more money, I'd like to build my business bigger, I'd like to grow my net worth.
- 12:54There's all these things that I was I wanted.
- 12:58And I, you know, a few years ago, I had a couple of uh kids pretty young.
- 13:04I mean, they're still young at four and six, but you're talking about.
- 13:07you know, two, you know, three and one.
- 13:10And and I was resentful in my heart of my kids because three year old, one year old take a lot of your time.
- 13:18And that's less time on my success goals and less independence and freedom.
- 13:23And and I'm upset at my wife because maybe she should be the one who does all that stuff and frees me up more.
- 13:34All these sort of things that happen.
- 13:38when your the the things that you idolize in your life are in the wrong place.
- 13:46And uh I was given a great blessing because you know we all I I think it's um Russell Brand who says as humans we worship, right?
- 14:02It's just part of our innate characteristics.
- 14:06It's just a question of what we worship, what I do we idolize.
- 14:10And uh if what I am truly idolizing and finding identity in is success.
- 14:17Um then these other things get in the way.
- 14:21And eventually success comes for its piece of flesh, right?
- 14:27And a lot of men have that.
- 14:28When their marriages fall apart and the kids hate 'em, or they they gain 150 pounds, all the consequences of putting your faith in the wrong place.
- 14:38And I got a chance to see that Mr.
- 14:40Holland in a fake thing and realize that I was heading that direction.
- 14:45And it was a big
- 14:48realization for me that I was I was putting my identity in something other than Christ.
- 14:54I wasn't finding my satisfaction there.
- 14:59I was out chasing after this stuff.
- 15:03And if I didn't stop it, I was going to be just as angry and resentful as he was.
- 15:07So it was a big moment.
- 15:09It was very rattling.
- 15:12I remember going back home and
- 15:18Not sure what I was supposed to do because I, you know, so much of my daily rituals were all about my obsession with my goals.
- 15:28And well, if I'm if I'm letting that go, how do I motivate to work?
- 15:34It was such a shakeup for me.
- 15:35Um, but it was an important message.
- 15:38And you know, I keep quoting some of my favorite authors, so apologize.
- 15:42I but you know, you can see I read a lot.
- 15:44So, but Tim.
- 15:46Tim Keller talks about this in his book, Counterfeit Gods, which I would highly recommend to anyone.
- 15:51And it's there's a lot of good things in life, but if we put them in the wrong place, they become our masters, and they're all cruel masters in the end.
- 15:59They sell snake oil.
- 16:02Look, if you get successful and you make enough money, you'll be able to hire a nanny and, you know, have somebody clean your house and have a nice car and live in the big place in
- 16:12the neighborhood, and then you'll be happy.
- 16:15Mm-hmm.
- 16:17And but these masters are cruel.
- 16:19They always come for their piece of flesh.
- 16:22And we resist giving it up to God.
- 16:25Even today, even today I was thinking about this this morning.
- 16:28Um, it's not a one-time thing, like you just decide God's in charge, and then it just happens.
- 16:34Um, it's like a daily dying to self because the flesh rears its ugly head again, but we resist giving
- 16:44giving our life over to our one good master, the one who died for us and who who truly wants the best for us.
- 16:52Um, you know, because it's given up control and it's given up the world and it's not listening to the lies of the devil.
- 17:00Uh, but at least that's the one good master, right?
- 17:04Not the cruel one.
- 17:06And they're all cruel masters, right?
- 17:07It's whether it's success and there's they're all good things.
- 17:11Like you're you can obsess about your family.
- 17:14And that seems like a good thing, but if you put in the wrong spot, you create a lot of pressure on your kids and on your spouse that you that they can't possibly meet, and then
- 17:24you're unhappy, you know.
- 17:25So that's a little bit of a big realization I had a few years ago, but I still even this morning thinking about Kurt, you've got to if God's in charge, you gotta act like it.
- 17:40Yeah.
- 17:41And and and that's hard to be sometimes.
- 17:45So
- 17:46Yeah, I think it's really uh important that you point out that you were noticing where you were sliding and realizing it was taking away the family.
- 17:54And it's interesting.
- 17:54So, our son, like I said, he's 15, he babysits some times for us.
- 17:58And when before we leave, we're like, remember, this time is not about you, about what you want, what you need, what you want to do.
- 18:05It's about her.
- 18:06So your focus is on her.
- 18:08And I think when we start letting these earthly things get into our heads, it doesn't become about God.
- 18:15It becomes about
- 18:16What's the next goal?
- 18:17What's the next best thing?
- 18:19What do I need to do?
- 18:19What you know, what's next?
- 18:22And I find with my clients that they're all still left very unhappy, right?
- 18:26And because we forget our origin story, right?
- 18:31Our origin is we are a child of God.
- 18:34And when we don't recognize that identity and we try to meet all these audacious goals, we lead to burnout and all these other things that I could talk for hours on.
- 18:42But it really comes back to when you strip all of that away at the end of the day.
- 18:46What's left?
- 18:48Yeah.
- 18:49Well, there's a great uh sermon that Tim Keller preaches on identity.
- 18:56Um, it's on YouTube for anybody who wants to watch it.
- 19:00If you just search Tim Keller and identity, it'll come up.
- 19:02It's a speech he gave at Wheaton College to college students.
- 19:05And he said something profound in that speech about what is unique about Christian identity formation, what's different?
- 19:17And
- 19:21Even with Tony, who I love, you know, Tony will talk about um affirmations, and we you know, we gotta choose our identity, you know, uh get in the right state, um, have goals,
- 19:36say, I am a warrior and scream it loud, right?
- 19:40And essentially you're tr you're you're being told to kind of look inside yourself and say, what is it that I truly
- 19:49on the inside.
- 19:50That's my true identity, right?
- 19:52So in theory, that means, well, I truly am a warrior on the inside, even though I'm acting like a like I'm not, or I truly I what I really want to be is a musician, but I've been
- 20:03doing finance management, right?
- 20:05That's the idea.
- 20:07But there's something ultimately empty about creating your identity by naming it yourself.
- 20:13And of course, when we look down inside and we're honest with ourselves, we see a lot of bad stuff as well as good.
- 20:19Right.
- 20:20So we see that maybe I'm a warrior inside, but I'm also afraid.
- 20:24And I'm also a little dark in these areas.
- 20:27You know, I also have lusts and I have gluttony and have all these things.
- 20:33But what's um ultimately better about a identity formation on Christ is that your identity comes from outside and from someone who has the authority to give you one.
- 20:48So it's sort of like in life, sometimes when you have somebody you super respect who says something to you that's very meaningful, it means more because it it came from someone you
- 20:58respect and it came from someone outside, someone named you.
- 21:02Now that person is imperfect, but God is perfect, God knows us best and he names us and he gives us our identity.
- 21:09And there's actual real foundation in that because it's not just something you sort of rah-rod into existence.
- 21:18And there's something I think incredibly powerful about that as you think about it and come to fully understand it.
- 21:25It's also not achievement related, which is another key theme of Tim Kellers, is that you know, what is unique about Christianity is we're not in some sort of self improvement
- 21:35program here to win God's favor.
- 21:39We we get God's favor first.
- 21:43Yeah.
- 21:44Yeah, I say, um, you don't have to earn your worth, you just have to own it.
- 21:48Yeah, I love that.
- 21:50That's such a great thing.
- 21:51But it's unique in Christianity.
- 21:55Other people might say it, but it's in the end, it's it's still a mind trick, right?
- 22:01And I you know, I go I reference Tony a lot.
- 22:04I love Tony, and Tony, if you ask him, will say he's a Christian, but his programs are not big you know, he doesn't talk about faith in that way in his programs.
- 22:14And I think ultimately.
- 22:17Most of us in the self help space, we learn these mind tricks.
- 22:19Like I'm gonna set goals, I'm gonna have dreams, I'm gonna have posters up on the wall, I'm gonna do my morning meditation, I'm gonna do all this stuff.
- 22:26And I'm I'm doing this all to sort of trick my mind into, you know, some kind of enthusiasm and identity formation.
- 22:34And I'm not saying those things are wrong um to do, but they're only like half the story.
- 22:42Uh, because it's still just a trick.
- 22:45You know, it's still just me saying my dream is to change the world.
- 22:48uh, which means I can get up tomorrow and say my dream's not to change the world.
- 22:54Um, and so there's something just powerful about what we what we have because of our faith.
- 23:02Yeah.
- 23:04So since you've had that aha moment, how are you walking that in daily life?
- 23:12Well, there are a few lessons that I'm I'm I'm seeing illustrations of and I still have to do daily, which is um in my my morning scripture reading was from Luke twelve, when uh
- 23:32Jesus is giving uh what is a somewhat famous reference to well look the if the if he takes care of the sparrows and he takes care of the
- 23:42Flowers in the field, then how much more does God care for us?
- 23:49And we can be, we can trust that He will give us good things.
- 23:52You seek first the kingdom of God, and all these things will be added to you as well.
- 23:56And so I I'm really working on the idea that, uh, which I struggle with because it's so against my human nature, that I can do my work.
- 24:11And trust God for the outcome, that He has a plan in store, that everything that happens is either by His hand or because He's allowing it to happen.
- 24:24There is there's no time when I pray to God and He's I'm glad you told me that.
- 24:28I didn't really know that was going down.
- 24:31And so I can trust and I can have faith.
- 24:33One of the best examples of this, I we put on dinners for our, we have a community, we put on dinners for our community.
- 24:41And we had one in St.
- 24:42Louis and it usually had fifteen or twenty people there.
- 24:44And I worked really hard for a couple of weeks to get fifteen or twenty people there and I just couldn't do it.
- 24:49Couldn't do it.
- 24:50I was very frustrated, kinda angry, complaining to God.
- 24:53Why is everybody busy?
- 24:54We only had three people registered to come, but we'd already committed to the restaurant.
- 24:59We decided to go out there anyway.
- 25:01We almost didn't go.
- 25:02We almost canceled it.
- 25:04Decided to go out there anyway.
- 25:06We invited um
- 25:08four other people for free just to kind of fill up the room.
- 25:11So it wasn't gonna be just my wife and I and three guests.
- 25:14And I thought these guys are gonna think this is a horrible event because it's it should have been bigger and it's all about networking and meeting new people.
- 25:20And there's only two other people plus us and these guests.
- 25:24And then in in the end, it turned out to be one of the better dinners we've done.
- 25:29You know, we we work on a faith we have a faith based group.
- 25:33And so we ended up d discussing about
- 25:36God and how to run your business with God first came up pretty quickly.
- 25:40And it was a there was a great moment that happened there where um you know one of the guests who came had really been struggling as a new Christian how to run his business with
- 25:53Christ in mind.
- 25:54And there were multiple people who had really thought and had done that for a long time who were able to uh speak into into his concern into his life.
- 26:03And I left there thinking I should just decide.
- 26:06moving forward that I'm gonna work my best, but I'm gonna trust God for the outcome and I'm not gonna stress about this and strive about it because he clearly had a plan.
- 26:16He clearly made these other people busy.
- 26:18Because he wanted those three people there.
- 26:21And and if I would have done something, if I would have, you know, canceled that that the opportunity for that would have been lost.
- 26:29And so that's a big change and that's tough for me.
- 26:32And I have to do it every day.
- 26:34Um
- 26:36And uh is to to just trust that God has a plan that's better.
- 26:41And uh I think the other thing that I'm really that's really difficult for me, again as a human, is to realize that my to-do list is less important than my time in prayer.
- 26:55So I'm a to-doer.
- 26:57Like give me a I like to check boxes and I want to get up I've I've always been somebody who does a quiet time, right?
- 27:04But I always feel this tension.
- 27:06I got this these things to do, God, and people have expectations, and I'm trying to meet these expectations and doing these things.
- 27:13But there's more power in hearing from God about what I should be doing during the day.
- 27:19And it's a constant mourning thing.
- 27:21It's like, well, I'm gonna do a few I'm gonna tackle these couple things, and then I'm gonna get to my prayer time.
- 27:28Um, which I was I was able to do that when I had no children because I could have four hours in the morning.
- 27:35I would get up at five and do that for three to four hours.
- 27:39I could do some work and I could do some prayer.
- 27:41Now the kids are wide awake at 6 45 in the morning.
- 27:45So those are just really trust things.
- 27:47It's it's it's i in many ways, it's like the earliest question that the devil asks uh humans in the garden can God really be trusted?
- 27:59Did God really say that?
- 28:01Did he really say that, you know?
- 28:03you would be punished if you ate or you would die if you ate from the tree of life.
- 28:07It's the it's the it's the thing the devil's been whispering since day one.
- 28:12Can we really trust God?
- 28:15And if so, then that prayer time's 10 times more valuable than my to-do list time.
- 28:23But it's so counterintuitive, uh even for me.
- 28:27And so getting there, uh those are a couple of things that I've been trying to change and how I
- 28:32behave and how my heart perceives uh these things, but it's uh it's not not been overnight change.
- 28:45so good.
- 28:45Well thank you so much for being here.
- 28:47Um, I have one final question for you today, Kurt.
- 28:49What is your favorite Bible verse?
- 28:52Well, I'm gonna do two things.
- 28:55I'm gonna give you multiple verses, so maybe that's a cheat.
- 28:57I'm also gonna read it here, but my my wife and I and our family, our verses are Psalms thirty seven, three through six.
- 29:07Trust in the Lord and do good, dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
- 29:12Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
- 29:17Commit your way to the Lord, trust in him and he will do this.
- 29:21He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn and the justice of your cause like the nonday sun.
- 29:29Beautiful.
- 29:30Yes, I love that whole chapter, Frenny.
- 29:31That's what that's really my favorite chapter uh in the Bible, Psalms thirty seven.
- 29:36I have the whole thing highlighted, which sort of negates the purpose of highlighting if I'm just highlighting everything.
- 29:42but it's a great there's a there are multiple verses in that chapter that are well worth it from from King David.
- 29:49Yeah, wonderful.
- 29:50Thanks again for being here, Kurt.
- 29:52I really appreciate your time today.
- 29:54Thank you, Michelle.