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How To Talk To Teens - Turning Eye Rolls into actual Conversations · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Hello,
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  everyone.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  another
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  episode
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  and
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  review
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  parenting
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  books
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  for
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  you.
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  I
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  am
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn.
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  She's
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  a
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  bestselling
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  author
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  and
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  Mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  You
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  made
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  the
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  funniest
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  face
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  on
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  Instagram.
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  You
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  went.
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  I
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  was
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  trying
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  to
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  make
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  a
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  face.
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  My
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  sort
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  of
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  presentation
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  face.
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  Yes,
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  your
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  Vanna
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  White
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  face.
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  My
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  Vanna
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  White.
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  This
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  is
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  what
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  we're
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  doing
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  today
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  in
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  my
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  eye.
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  Can
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  you
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  see
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  it?
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  No,
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  not
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  from
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  here.
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  Oh,
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  you're
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  so
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  far
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  away.
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  Is
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  it
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  bothering
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  you?
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  No.
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  I
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  mean,
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  Every
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  time
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  I
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  wear
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  mascara,
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  this
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  happens
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  where
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  it.
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  Like
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  no
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  matter.
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  Like,
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  I
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  comb
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  them
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  out
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  after
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  I
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  do
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  the
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  whole
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  thing,
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  and
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  still
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  it's
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  in
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  my
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  eye.
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  Oh,
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  wow.
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  We
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  need
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  better
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  mascara
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  technology.
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  Just
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  whoever's
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  in
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  charge.
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  I
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  don't
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  know,
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  but
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  I.
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  Have
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  you
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  seen
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  those
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  on
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  TikTok?
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  Those.
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  Those
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  magnetic
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  eyelashes?
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  We
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  gotta
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  get
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  you
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  off
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  TikTok.
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  But.
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  Yes.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah,
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  you
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  do.
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  But
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  I
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  mean,
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  those
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  ticked.
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  I
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  mean,
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  it's
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  like.
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  It's
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  like
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  boom,
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  boom.
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  You
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  get
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  your.
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  You
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  have
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  terrible
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  eyes.
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  Suddenly
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  within
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  three
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  seconds,
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  you
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  can
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  have
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  gorgeous
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  eyes.
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  Gorgeous
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  eyes.
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  Yeah.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  those
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  lashes
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  are
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  way
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  too
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  long.
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  They're
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  like,
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  unnaturally
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  long.
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  They're
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  cartoon
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  eyelashes.
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  Yeah,
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  they're
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  like
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  three
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  inches
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  long.
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  You
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  don't
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  even
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  have
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  eyebrows.
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  Like,
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  they're
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  past
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  your
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  eyebrows.
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  Like,
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  I'm
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  sure,
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  like,
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  there
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  are
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  better
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  ones
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  than
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  the
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  ones
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  I've
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  seen.
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  Yeah.
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  Maybe
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  you
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  can
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  get
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  more,
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  you
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  know,
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  some
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  that
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  are
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  a
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  little
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  subtle.
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  Yeah,
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  Subtlety
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  is
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  key.
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  It
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  is.
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  So
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  speaking
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  of
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  subtlety,
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  this
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  book
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  didn't
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  have
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  it.
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  No.
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  Honestly.
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  What
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  is
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  it
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  called?
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  Teen.
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  It
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  is
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  how
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  to
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  Talk.
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  So
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  Teens.
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  Teen
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  Teens.
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  Not
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  this
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  teen.
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  Real
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  teens.
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  How
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  to
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  Talk
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  so
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  Teens
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  Will
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  Listen.
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  And
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  Listen.
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  So
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  Teens
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  Will
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  Talk
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  by
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  Adele
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  Faber
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  and
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  Elaine
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  Mazlish.
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  Yeah.
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  So
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  this
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  book
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  I
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  found
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  interesting
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  because
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  it
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  is
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  told
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  in
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  the
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  first
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  person,
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  which
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  is
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  unusual
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  for
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  these
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  styles
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  of
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  books.
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  It
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  is.
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  Yeah.
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  They're
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  telling
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  their
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  story.
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  Personally,
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  I
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  found
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  it
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  weird
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  and
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  I
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  found
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  it
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  a
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  little
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  off
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  putting.
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  Yeah.
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  Okay.
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  It
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  also
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  like
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  the
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  stories
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  that
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  they
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  led
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  with.
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  I
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  was
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  like,
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  girl,
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  this
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  didn't
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  happen
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  like
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  this.
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  Well,
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  like,
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  I
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  get
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  it.
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  It's
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  creative
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  license.
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  We're
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  trying
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  to
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  tell
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  a
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  story.
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  We're
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  trying
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  narrative.
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  Like,
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  cool,
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  Fine.
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  Granted.
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  But
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  I
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  was
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  like.
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  And
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  they
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  also
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  make
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  these
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  meetings.
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  It
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  starts
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  With
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  a
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  meeting
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  of
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  parents.
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  They
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  make
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  it
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  feel
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  like
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  a
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  recovery
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  meeting.
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  Well,
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  okay,
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  so
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  story
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  that
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  they're
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  telling
• 2:37
  is
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  these
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  are
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  two
• 2:38
  women
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  who
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  had
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  written
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  a
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  book.
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  It
• 2:41
  was
• 2:41
  called
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  how
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  to
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  talk
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  so
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  kids
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  will
• 2:44
  listen
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  and
• 2:45
  listen
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  so
• 2:46
  Kids
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  will
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  talk,
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  which
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  is
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  a
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  long
• 2:48
  title,
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  but
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  it
• 2:50
  was
• 2:50
  a
• 2:50
  big
• 2:50
  bestseller.
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  I
• 2:51
  mean,
• 2:51
  this
• 2:52
  was
• 2:52
  a
• 2:52
  very
• 2:52
  big
• 2:52
  bestseller.
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  And
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  this
• 2:53
  book
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  was
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  written
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  a
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  long
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  time
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  ago.
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  To
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  be
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  clear,
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  I
• 2:55
  didn't
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  hate
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  this
• 2:56
  book.
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  No.
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  Well,
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  I
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  loved
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  parts
• 2:59
  of
• 2:59
  this
• 2:59
  book.
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  One
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  of
• 3:00
  the
• 3:00
  greatest
• 3:00
  parts
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  of
• 3:01
  this
• 3:01
  book,
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  first
• 3:01
  of
• 3:02
  all,
• 3:02
  is
• 3:02
  it's
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  109,
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  91
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  pages
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  long
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  with
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  pictures.
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  With
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  so
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  many
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  pictures.
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  So
• 3:08
  many
• 3:08
  pictures.
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  I
• 3:09
  love.
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  Every
• 3:10
  time
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  I
• 3:10
  got
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  to
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  a
• 3:12
  series
• 3:12
  of
• 3:12
  comics,
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  I
• 3:13
  was
• 3:13
  like,
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  yes,
• 3:14
  I
• 3:15
  can
• 3:15
  watch
• 3:15
  the
• 3:15
  comics
• 3:15
  or
• 3:16
  read
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  comics.
• 3:17
  I
• 3:17
  really
• 3:17
  love
• 3:18
  that.
• 3:18
  I
• 3:19
  love
• 3:19
  a
• 3:19
  book
• 3:19
  with
• 3:19
  comics,
• 3:20
  lots
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  comics.
• 3:21
  And
• 3:22
  the
• 3:22
  comics
• 3:23
  demonstrated
• 3:24
  communication
• 3:25
  techniques,
• 3:26
  what
• 3:26
  to
• 3:26
  say
• 3:26
  in
• 3:27
  different
• 3:27
  situations.
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  So
• 3:28
  it
• 3:28
  was
• 3:28
  really
• 3:28
  fun
• 3:29
  to
• 3:29
  read.
• 3:30
  So
• 3:30
  it's
• 3:30
  a
• 3:31
  book
• 3:31
  about
• 3:31
  how
• 3:32
  to
• 3:32
  have
• 3:32
  effective
• 3:33
  communications
• 3:34
  with
• 3:34
  your
• 3:34
  teenagers.
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  If
• 3:36
  you
• 3:37
  have
• 3:37
  younger
• 3:37
  kids,
• 3:37
  you
• 3:38
  could
• 3:38
  read
• 3:38
  their
• 3:38
  earlier
• 3:39
  book,
• 3:39
  which
• 3:39
  is
• 3:39
  thicker,
• 3:40
  a
• 3:41
  lot
• 3:41
  thicker
• 3:41
  than
• 3:41
  this
• 3:42
  one.
• 3:42
  Hate
• 3:42
  thick
• 3:43
  books.
• 3:43
  Note
• 3:44
  for
• 3:44
  authors.
• 3:44
  If
• 3:45
  you
• 3:45
  ever
• 3:45
  send
• 3:45
  us
• 3:46
  your
• 3:46
  book,
• 3:46
  keep
• 3:47
  it
• 3:47
  small,
• 3:47
  keep
• 3:47
  it
• 3:48
  short,
• 3:48
  keep
• 3:48
  it
• 3:48
  brief.
• 3:49
  Yeah,
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  original
• 3:51
  book
• 3:52
  was
• 3:52
  much
• 3:52
  longer,
• 3:53
  but
• 3:54
  it's
• 3:54
  how
• 3:54
  to
• 3:54
  communicate
• 3:55
  with
• 3:55
  younger
• 3:55
  Children.
• 3:56
  How
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  communicate
• 3:57
  with
• 3:57
  Skylar
• 3:58
  and
• 3:58
  Teen.
• 3:59
  Send
• 3:59
  us
• 3:59
  short
• 4:00
  books.
• 4:01
  Well,
• 4:01
  we
• 4:02
  do
• 4:02
  like
• 4:02
  a
• 4:02
  short
• 4:02
  book,
• 4:03
  and
• 4:03
  this
• 4:03
  one
• 4:03
  is
• 4:04
  a
• 4:04
  short
• 4:04
  book.
• 4:05
  And
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  story
• 4:05
  that
• 4:06
  she's
• 4:06
  telling
• 4:06
  is
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  fact
• 4:07
  that
• 4:08
  I
• 4:08
  guess
• 4:08
  they
• 4:09
  had
• 4:09
  written
• 4:09
  that
• 4:09
  other
• 4:10
  book
• 4:10
  and
• 4:10
  so
• 4:11
  the
• 4:11
  kids
• 4:11
  were
• 4:11
  growing
• 4:12
  up,
• 4:12
  that
• 4:13
  they
• 4:13
  helped
• 4:13
  originally,
• 4:14
  and
• 4:14
  they
• 4:14
  were
• 4:14
  becoming
• 4:15
  teenagers
• 4:16
  with
• 4:16
  teenage
• 4:17
  problems.
• 4:18
  Dun,
• 4:18
  dun,
• 4:18
  dun.
• 4:19
  I
• 4:20
  know.
• 4:20
  And
• 4:21
  some
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  them
• 4:21
  are
• 4:22
  pretty
• 4:22
  serious
• 4:23
  problems.
• 4:23
  Serious
• 4:24
  problems.
• 4:24
  Although
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  parents,
• 4:25
  no
• 4:26
  offense,
• 4:26
  they
• 4:26
  sound
• 4:26
  like
• 4:27
  cornballs.
• 4:27
  Well,
• 4:28
  no,
• 4:28
  I
• 4:28
  mean,
• 4:29
  all
• 4:29
  parents.
• 4:29
  Don't
• 4:30
  we
• 4:30
  all
• 4:30
  sound
• 4:30
  like
• 4:30
  cornballs?
• 4:31
  No,
• 4:31
  I
• 4:32
  don't
• 4:32
  think
• 4:32
  so.
• 4:32
  I
• 4:33
  hope
• 4:33
  I
• 4:33
  don't
• 4:33
  sound
• 4:33
  like
• 4:33
  that
• 4:34
  when
• 4:34
  I'm
• 4:35
  a
• 4:35
  parent.
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  had
• 4:35
  hoped
• 4:36
  to
• 4:36
  be
• 4:36
  a
• 4:36
  very
• 4:36
  cool
• 4:37
  parent.
• 4:37
  Let
• 4:37
  me
• 4:37
  tell
• 4:37
  you,
• 4:38
  you
• 4:38
  were
• 4:38
  a
• 4:38
  very
• 4:38
  cool
• 4:38
  par.
• 4:40
  Guys.
• 4:40
  Did
• 4:40
  not
• 4:40
  think
• 4:40
  I
• 4:41
  was
• 4:41
  a
• 4:41
  cool
• 4:41
  parent.
• 4:41
  When
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  think
• 4:42
  you're
• 4:42
  cool
• 4:42
  now.
• 4:42
  Now
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  do?
• 4:43
  Of
• 4:44
  course,
• 4:44
  but
• 4:45
  now,
• 4:45
  of
• 4:45
  course
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  am
• 4:46
  cool.
• 4:47
  But
• 4:47
  no,
• 4:48
  but
• 4:48
  as
• 4:48
  I,
• 4:49
  you
• 4:49
  know,
• 4:49
  when
• 4:49
  I
• 4:50
  was
• 4:50
  raising
• 4:50
  you,
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  thought
• 4:51
  we
• 4:52
  were
• 4:52
  so
• 4:52
  horrible,
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  let
• 4:54
  me
• 4:54
  have
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  hookah.
• 4:54
  I
• 4:55
  thought
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  was
• 4:55
  cool.
• 4:56
  Why
• 4:57
  did
• 4:57
  I
• 4:57
  do
• 4:57
  that?
• 4:58
  I
• 4:58
  don't
• 4:58
  know
• 4:58
  what
• 4:58
  I
• 4:59
  know.
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  thought
• 5:00
  marijuana
• 5:00
  was
• 5:01
  not
• 5:01
  smoked
• 5:01
  in
• 5:01
  that.
• 5:02
  You
• 5:02
  didn't
• 5:02
  smoke
• 5:02
  marijuana.
• 5:03
  I
• 5:03
  mean,
• 5:03
  if
• 5:03
  you're
• 5:04
  smoking.
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  mean,
• 5:05
  I
• 5:05
  can't
• 5:05
  imagine
• 5:06
  smoking
• 5:06
  weed
• 5:06
  out
• 5:06
  of
• 5:06
  a
• 5:07
  hookah.
• 5:07
  That's
• 5:07
  like
• 5:07
  a
• 5:07
  giant
• 5:08
  bong.
• 5:08
  No,
• 5:09
  you
• 5:09
  were
• 5:09
  just
• 5:09
  smoking,
• 5:10
  like,
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  Sticky
• 5:11
  Tob.
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  didn't
• 5:12
  know
• 5:12
  what
• 5:12
  it
• 5:12
  was
• 5:12
  or
• 5:13
  what
• 5:13
  it
• 5:13
  did.
• 5:13
  I
• 5:13
  thought
• 5:14
  it
• 5:14
  was
• 5:14
  harmless.
• 5:15
  It
• 5:15
  is.
• 5:15
  I
• 5:15
  mean,
• 5:16
  I
• 5:16
  think
• 5:16
  it's
• 5:16
  a
• 5:16
  tobacco
• 5:17
  product,
• 5:17
  but
• 5:17
  I
• 5:18
  don't
• 5:18
  think
• 5:18
  it's.
• 5:18
  It's
• 5:19
  not.
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  can't
• 5:20
  imagine
• 5:20
  putting
• 5:21
  weed
• 5:21
  in
• 5:21
  a
• 5:21
  hookah.
• 5:22
  Like,
• 5:22
  what
• 5:23
  you
• 5:23
  would.
• 5:23
  I
• 5:23
  have
• 5:24
  no
• 5:24
  idea.
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  don't
• 5:25
  know
• 5:25
  anything
• 5:25
  about
• 5:25
  smoking
• 5:26
  that
• 5:26
  stuff,
• 5:27
  but
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  know
• 5:28
  that
• 5:28
  stuff.
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  never
• 5:29
  did
• 5:30
  it.
• 5:30
  I
• 5:31
  didn't.
• 5:31
  No,
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  did.
• 5:32
  I
• 5:33
  just
• 5:33
  didn't.
• 5:33
  I
• 5:34
  couldn't,
• 5:34
  like,
• 5:35
  breathe
• 5:36
  smoke
• 5:36
  into
• 5:36
  my.
• 5:36
  It
• 5:37
  just
• 5:37
  was
• 5:37
  coughed,
• 5:38
  so
• 5:38
  it
• 5:38
  didn't
• 5:38
  work.
• 5:39
  But.
• 5:39
  Yeah,
• 5:39
  but
• 5:39
  I
• 5:40
  didn't
• 5:40
  know
• 5:40
  why
• 5:40
  you
• 5:40
  wanted
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  hookah.
• 5:41
  But
• 5:42
  I
• 5:42
  think
• 5:42
  you
• 5:42
  must
• 5:42
  hook
• 5:43
  up.
• 5:43
  You
• 5:44
  must
• 5:44
  have
• 5:44
  convinced
• 5:44
  me
• 5:45
  it
• 5:45
  was
• 5:45
  harmless.
• 5:46
  I'm
• 5:46
  sure
• 5:46
  I
• 5:46
  did.
• 5:47
  Yeah.
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  was
• 5:47
  very
• 5:47
  persuasive.
• 5:48
  Well,
• 5:48
  and
• 5:49
  the
• 5:49
  thing
• 5:49
  about
• 5:49
  it
• 5:49
  is,
• 5:49
  when
• 5:50
  you're
• 5:50
  raising
• 5:50
  teenagers,
• 5:51
  you
• 5:51
  really
• 5:51
  have
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  pick
• 5:52
  your
• 5:52
  battles.
• 5:52
  Yeah.
• 5:53
  And
• 5:53
  so
• 5:53
  you're
• 5:54
  like,
• 5:54
  fine,
• 5:54
  have
• 5:54
  a
• 5:55
  hookah.
• 5:55
  Yeah.
• 5:56
  If
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  thought
• 5:56
  you
• 5:56
  were
• 5:57
  like,
• 5:57
  I
• 5:57
  don't
• 5:57
  know,
• 5:58
  smoking
• 5:58
  some
• 5:58
  sort
• 5:59
  of
• 5:59
  cherry
• 6:00
  oil
• 6:00
  or
• 6:00
  something,
• 6:00
  that's
• 6:01
  fine.
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  don't
• 6:02
  know.
• 6:02
  But
• 6:03
  I
• 6:03
  never
• 6:03
  heard.
• 6:04
  What's
• 6:04
  cherry
• 6:05
  oil?
• 6:05
  I
• 6:05
  don't
• 6:05
  know.
• 6:06
  But
• 6:06
  don't
• 6:06
  they
• 6:06
  put
• 6:07
  oils
• 6:07
  in
• 6:07
  those
• 6:07
  things?
• 6:07
  I
• 6:08
  have
• 6:08
  no
• 6:08
  idea.
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  don't
• 6:08
  know.
• 6:08
  It
• 6:09
  was
• 6:09
  like
• 6:09
  this,
• 6:09
  like,
• 6:09
  sticky,
• 6:10
  stinky,
• 6:11
  tobacco
• 6:12
  flavored
• 6:13
  tobacco.
• 6:14
  Okay.
• 6:14
  Okay.
• 6:15
  Well,
• 6:15
  anyway,
• 6:16
  what,
• 6:16
  you
• 6:17
  know,
• 6:17
  how
• 6:17
  do
• 6:18
  we
• 6:18
  get
• 6:18
  on
• 6:18
  hookahs?
• 6:18
  And.
• 6:19
  I
• 6:19
  don't
• 6:19
  know.
• 6:20
  I
• 6:20
  don't
• 6:20
  know
• 6:20
  either.
• 6:21
  Okay,
• 6:21
  so.
• 6:22
  But
• 6:22
  they.
• 6:22
  Okay,
• 6:23
  so.
• 6:23
  So
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  kids
• 6:23
  were
• 6:23
  growing
• 6:24
  up,
• 6:24
  they
• 6:24
  were
• 6:24
  becoming
• 6:24
  teenagers,
• 6:26
  and
• 6:27
  suddenly
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  problems
• 6:28
  were
• 6:28
  different.
• 6:29
  And
• 6:29
  what's
• 6:29
  interesting
• 6:30
  is
• 6:30
  this
• 6:30
  book
• 6:30
  was
• 6:31
  written
• 6:31
  over
• 6:31
  20
• 6:32
  years
• 6:32
  ago.
• 6:32
  This
• 6:32
  is.
• 6:33
  And
• 6:33
  it
• 6:33
  shows.
• 6:34
  Well,
• 6:34
  it
• 6:34
  does.
• 6:34
  The
• 6:35
  problems
• 6:35
  that
• 6:35
  the
• 6:36
  kids
• 6:36
  were
• 6:36
  having
• 6:36
  are
• 6:37
  probably
• 6:38
  somewhat
• 6:38
  different
• 6:39
  than
• 6:39
  the
• 6:39
  problems
• 6:39
  kids
• 6:40
  have
• 6:40
  today.
• 6:41
  Somewhat.
• 6:41
  There
• 6:42
  was
• 6:42
  one
• 6:42
  mention
• 6:43
  of
• 6:43
  cyberbullying,
• 6:45
  and
• 6:45
  you
• 6:46
  would
• 6:46
  think
• 6:46
  that
• 6:46
  they
• 6:46
  coined
• 6:47
  this
• 6:47
  term.
• 6:49
  Well,
• 6:50
  I
• 6:50
  mean.
• 6:50
  Yeah,
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  mean,
• 6:51
  cyberbullying
• 6:52
  has
• 6:52
  gone
• 6:52
  so
• 6:53
  far
• 6:53
  since
• 6:53
  what
• 6:54
  happened
• 6:54
  in
• 6:54
  this
• 6:54
  book.
• 6:55
  And
• 6:55
  so,
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  know,
• 6:56
  a
• 6:56
  lot
• 6:56
  of
• 6:56
  things
• 6:57
  have
• 6:57
  changed,
• 6:58
  but
• 6:58
  I
• 6:58
  did
• 6:58
  feel
• 6:59
  that
• 6:59
  the
• 6:59
  communication
• 7:00
  methods
• 7:01
  that
• 7:01
  they
• 7:01
  were
• 7:01
  teaching
• 7:02
  were
• 7:02
  fine.
• 7:02
  Held
• 7:03
  up.
• 7:03
  Yeah,
• 7:04
  they
• 7:04
  held
• 7:04
  up
• 7:04
  beautifully.
• 7:06
  So
• 7:06
  you
• 7:06
  may
• 7:06
  have
• 7:06
  some
• 7:07
  different
• 7:07
  problems,
• 7:08
  but
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  can
• 7:08
  use
• 7:08
  those
• 7:09
  techniques.
• 7:09
  And
• 7:10
  it
• 7:10
  is
• 7:10
  a
• 7:10
  thin
• 7:10
  book
• 7:11
  and
• 7:11
  there
• 7:11
  are
• 7:11
  a
• 7:12
  lot
• 7:12
  of
• 7:12
  comics.
• 7:13
  So
• 7:13
  if
• 7:13
  you
• 7:14
  are
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  the
• 7:14
  throes
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  struggling
• 7:15
  with
• 7:16
  your
• 7:16
  teenager,
• 7:17
  it
• 7:17
  could
• 7:17
  easily
• 7:17
  be
• 7:17
  a
• 7:18
  book
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  read,
• 7:18
  to
• 7:19
  get
• 7:19
  ideas.
• 7:19
  Yeah.
• 7:20
  This
• 7:20
  took
• 7:20
  about
• 7:20
  two
• 7:20
  days
• 7:20
  for
• 7:21
  me
• 7:21
  to
• 7:21
  read,
• 7:21
  which
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  love.
• 7:23
  It's
• 7:23
  fast.
• 7:23
  Yeah.
• 7:24
  And
• 7:24
  so
• 7:24
  anyway,
• 7:25
  after
• 7:25
  they
• 7:25
  Wrote
• 7:25
  the
• 7:26
  book.
• 7:26
  They
• 7:26
  were
• 7:26
  invited
• 7:27
  into
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  school
• 7:28
  because
• 7:29
  these
• 7:29
  people
• 7:29
  said,
• 7:29
  well,
• 7:30
  we
• 7:30
  have
• 7:30
  our
• 7:30
  teenagers
• 7:31
  now.
• 7:31
  We
• 7:31
  don't
• 7:31
  know
• 7:31
  how
• 7:31
  to
• 7:32
  talk
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  our
• 7:32
  teenagers.
• 7:33
  Come
• 7:33
  do
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  workshop.
• 7:34
  It
• 7:34
  was
• 7:34
  as
• 7:34
  if
• 7:35
  they
• 7:35
  were
• 7:35
  hosting
• 7:35
  aa.
• 7:36
  Like
• 7:36
  that.
• 7:37
  What
• 7:37
  it
• 7:37
  felt
• 7:38
  like
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  me,
• 7:38
  it
• 7:38
  was
• 7:39
  like
• 7:39
  a
• 7:39
  workshop.
• 7:39
  And
• 7:40
  not.
• 7:40
  Not
• 7:40
  an
• 7:40
  AA
• 7:41
  meeting.
• 7:41
  It
• 7:41
  was
• 7:41
  like
• 7:41
  a
• 7:41
  workshop,
• 7:42
  you
• 7:43
  know,
• 7:43
  like.
• 7:43
  Well,
• 7:43
  they.
• 7:43
  They
• 7:44
  mentioned
• 7:44
  in
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  beginning,
• 7:45
  they're
• 7:45
  like,
• 7:45
  people
• 7:45
  were
• 7:45
  really
• 7:46
  sheepish
• 7:46
  initially.
• 7:48
  And
• 7:48
  then
• 7:48
  finally
• 7:49
  when
• 7:49
  one
• 7:49
  person
• 7:50
  opened
• 7:50
  up,
• 7:50
  it
• 7:51
  was
• 7:51
  like
• 7:51
  the
• 7:51
  floodgates
• 7:52
  just
• 7:52
  opened.
• 7:53
  Right,
• 7:54
  right.
• 7:54
  So
• 7:55
  she.
• 7:55
  What
• 7:56
  she
• 7:56
  says
• 7:56
  to
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  parents
• 7:57
  in
• 7:57
  the
• 7:57
  first
• 7:57
  meeting
• 7:58
  is,
• 7:58
  she
• 7:58
  says,
• 7:58
  my
• 7:59
  job
• 7:59
  is
• 7:59
  going
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  be
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  teach
• 8:00
  you
• 8:00
  different
• 8:01
  methods
• 8:01
  of
• 8:01
  communication
• 8:02
  that
• 8:03
  can
• 8:03
  lead
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  better
• 8:04
  relationships
• 8:05
  between
• 8:05
  parents
• 8:05
  and
• 8:06
  teenagers.
• 8:07
  Your
• 8:07
  job
• 8:07
  is
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  test
• 8:09
  these
• 8:09
  methods,
• 8:10
  put
• 8:10
  them
• 8:11
  into
• 8:11
  action
• 8:11
  at
• 8:11
  home,
• 8:12
  and
• 8:12
  come
• 8:12
  report
• 8:12
  back.
• 8:13
  So
• 8:14
  they
• 8:14
  open
• 8:14
  with.
• 8:15
  First,
• 8:15
  the
• 8:15
  parents
• 8:16
  talk
• 8:16
  about
• 8:16
  what
• 8:16
  it
• 8:16
  was
• 8:17
  like
• 8:17
  for
• 8:17
  them
• 8:17
  as
• 8:18
  a
• 8:18
  teenager,
• 8:18
  what
• 8:19
  they
• 8:19
  felt
• 8:19
  like,
• 8:20
  what
• 8:20
  their
• 8:21
  parents
• 8:21
  were
• 8:21
  like,
• 8:22
  what
• 8:22
  their
• 8:22
  concerns
• 8:23
  were
• 8:23
  now
• 8:24
  with
• 8:24
  their
• 8:24
  own
• 8:24
  children.
• 8:25
  And
• 8:26
  the
• 8:26
  kinds
• 8:26
  of
• 8:26
  things
• 8:27
  that
• 8:27
  they
• 8:28
  brought
• 8:28
  up
• 8:29
  were
• 8:29
  things
• 8:29
  like
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  daughter
• 8:30
  acting
• 8:30
  out,
• 8:30
  a
• 8:31
  son's
• 8:31
  rebellion
• 8:32
  and
• 8:32
  an
• 8:34
  unwillingness
• 8:35
  to
• 8:35
  live
• 8:35
  by
• 8:35
  house
• 8:36
  rules.
• 8:36
  A
• 8:37
  daughter
• 8:37
  wanting
• 8:38
  acceptance
• 8:38
  from
• 8:39
  boys,
• 8:39
  sons
• 8:40
  not
• 8:40
  applying
• 8:40
  themselves
• 8:41
  at
• 8:41
  school.
• 8:42
  Son
• 8:42
  wants
• 8:42
  to
• 8:42
  be
• 8:43
  cool
• 8:43
  with
• 8:43
  his
• 8:43
  friends.
• 8:44
  Those
• 8:44
  are
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  kinds
• 8:44
  of.
• 8:45
  I
• 8:45
  think
• 8:45
  those
• 8:45
  are
• 8:46
  still
• 8:46
  problems
• 8:46
  today.
• 8:46
  Yeah.
• 8:47
  I
• 8:47
  mean,
• 8:47
  peer
• 8:47
  pressure
• 8:48
  is
• 8:48
  alive
• 8:48
  and
• 8:48
  well.
• 8:49
  That's
• 8:49
  right.
• 8:49
  And
• 8:50
  so
• 8:51
  they
• 8:51
  talk
• 8:51
  about
• 8:52
  things
• 8:52
  that
• 8:53
  parents
• 8:53
  might
• 8:54
  say
• 8:55
  immediately
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  shut
• 8:56
  down
• 8:57
  your
• 8:57
  child.
• 8:57
  Like
• 8:57
  if
• 8:57
  your
• 8:57
  child
• 8:58
  says
• 8:58
  to
• 8:58
  you,
• 8:58
  I'm
• 8:59
  not
• 8:59
  going
• 8:59
  to
• 8:59
  college,
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  know,
• 9:00
  maybe
• 9:01
  your
• 9:01
  reaction
• 9:01
  is,
• 9:01
  of
• 9:02
  course
• 9:02
  you're
• 9:02
  going
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  college.
• 9:03
  Everyone
• 9:03
  in
• 9:03
  our
• 9:03
  family
• 9:03
  goes
• 9:04
  to
• 9:04
  college.
• 9:05
  And
• 9:05
  you
• 9:05
  might
• 9:05
  say
• 9:05
  something
• 9:06
  like
• 9:06
  that.
• 9:06
  And
• 9:07
  they
• 9:08
  challenge
• 9:08
  parents
• 9:09
  to
• 9:09
  change
• 9:09
  their
• 9:09
  approach,
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  listen
• 9:11
  to
• 9:11
  what
• 9:11
  their
• 9:11
  kids
• 9:11
  lead
• 9:12
  with
• 9:12
  empathy,
• 9:12
  which
• 9:13
  I
• 9:13
  do
• 9:13
  support.
• 9:14
  Yes,
• 9:14
  absolutely.
• 9:16
  And
• 9:16
  then
• 9:16
  they
• 9:16
  get
• 9:17
  into.
• 9:17
  This
• 9:17
  is
• 9:18
  when
• 9:18
  we
• 9:18
  get
• 9:18
  into
• 9:18
  the
• 9:18
  first
• 9:18
  comic
• 9:19
  section.
• 9:20
  Several
• 9:21
  comics
• 9:22
  show
• 9:22
  a
• 9:22
  mom
• 9:23
  and
• 9:23
  dad
• 9:23
  dismissing
• 9:24
  a
• 9:24
  kid's
• 9:24
  feelings.
• 9:25
  And
• 9:26
  another
• 9:26
  where
• 9:26
  the
• 9:27
  mom
• 9:27
  or
• 9:27
  dad
• 9:28
  listen
• 9:28
  to
• 9:28
  the
• 9:29
  kid's
• 9:29
  feelings
• 9:29
  and
• 9:30
  then
• 9:32
  put
• 9:32
  their
• 9:32
  feelings
• 9:32
  into
• 9:33
  words,
• 9:33
  kind
• 9:33
  of
• 9:33
  reflect
• 9:34
  back
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  them
• 9:34
  what
• 9:35
  the
• 9:35
  feelings
• 9:35
  were
• 9:37
  to
• 9:37
  sort
• 9:37
  of
• 9:37
  help
• 9:37
  them
• 9:38
  feel
• 9:38
  as
• 9:38
  though
• 9:39
  they're
• 9:39
  being
• 9:39
  listened
• 9:39
  to.
• 9:40
  So
• 9:40
  there's.
• 9:41
  In
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  comic
• 9:42
  books,
• 9:42
  there
• 9:42
  are
• 9:42
  situations
• 9:43
  where
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  boyfriend
• 9:44
  dumps
• 9:45
  the
• 9:46
  person's
• 9:46
  daughter.
• 9:47
  A
• 9:48
  report
• 9:48
  is
• 9:48
  due
• 9:48
  tomorrow.
• 9:49
  The
• 9:49
  kid
• 9:49
  hasn't
• 9:49
  started
• 9:50
  it.
• 9:51
  How
• 9:51
  do
• 9:51
  you
• 9:51
  deal
• 9:51
  with
• 9:51
  that?
• 9:52
  A
• 9:53
  son
• 9:53
  wants
• 9:53
  to
• 9:54
  learn
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  drive,
• 9:54
  but
• 9:55
  he's
• 9:55
  too
• 9:55
  young.
• 9:56
  Son
• 9:56
  wants
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  go
• 9:57
  on
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  trip,
• 9:57
  but
• 9:58
  he
• 9:58
  has
• 9:58
  health
• 9:58
  issues.
• 9:58
  So
• 9:59
  there's
• 9:59
  real
• 9:59
  examples.
• 10:00
  And
• 10:01
  then
• 10:01
  they
• 10:01
  give
• 10:01
  you
• 10:02
  the
• 10:02
  language
• 10:03
  you
• 10:03
  can
• 10:03
  use
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  try
• 10:04
  to
• 10:05
  deal
• 10:05
  with
• 10:05
  the
• 10:05
  issue.
• 10:06
  So
• 10:06
  it's
• 10:07
  like
• 10:07
  they're.
• 10:07
  They're
• 10:08
  modeling
• 10:08
  for
• 10:09
  you
• 10:09
  how
• 10:09
  to
• 10:09
  handle
• 10:10
  it.
• 10:10
  Yes.
• 10:10
  Which
• 10:11
  is
• 10:11
  helpful.
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  love
• 10:12
  demonstrations.
• 10:12
  They
• 10:13
  help
• 10:13
  me.
• 10:14
  I
• 10:14
  am
• 10:14
  much
• 10:15
  more.
• 10:16
  I
• 10:16
  absorb
• 10:16
  information
• 10:17
  more
• 10:17
  easily
• 10:17
  when
• 10:17
  I
• 10:18
  can
• 10:18
  watch
• 10:18
  how
• 10:19
  it's
• 10:19
  done.
• 10:19
  Right.
• 10:20
  This
• 10:20
  reminded
• 10:21
  me
• 10:21
  at
• 10:21
  first
• 10:21
  of
• 10:21
  our
• 10:22
  Habit
• 10:22
  Coach
• 10:22
  program,
• 10:23
  because
• 10:24
  we
• 10:24
  have
• 10:24
  this
• 10:25
  whole
• 10:25
  part
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  Habit
• 10:26
  Coach
• 10:26
  where
• 10:27
  we
• 10:27
  have
• 10:28
  videos
• 10:28
  of
• 10:29
  parents
• 10:29
  doing
• 10:30
  it
• 10:30
  wrong
• 10:30
  and
• 10:30
  parents
• 10:31
  with
• 10:31
  kids
• 10:31
  doing
• 10:32
  it
• 10:32
  correctly.
• 10:32
  Yeah.
• 10:33
  So
• 10:33
  that
• 10:33
  reminded
• 10:34
  me
• 10:34
  of
• 10:34
  this.
• 10:34
  Only
• 10:35
  this
• 10:35
  is
• 10:35
  all
• 10:36
  in
• 10:36
  book
• 10:36
  form.
• 10:36
  All
• 10:37
  in
• 10:37
  book
• 10:37
  form.
• 10:39
  So
• 10:39
  many
• 10:40
  words.
• 10:41
  Well,
• 10:41
  not.
• 10:41
  Not
• 10:42
  as
• 10:42
  many
• 10:42
  as
• 10:42
  it
• 10:42
  could
• 10:43
  have
• 10:43
  been.
• 10:43
  Truly.
• 10:43
  Not
• 10:44
  as
• 10:44
  many
• 10:44
  as
• 10:44
  it
• 10:44
  could
• 10:44
  have
• 10:45
  been.
• 10:45
  Not
• 10:45
  as
• 10:45
  many
• 10:46
  as
• 10:46
  we're
• 10:46
  used
• 10:46
  to.
• 10:46
  So
• 10:47
  honestly,
• 10:47
  good
• 10:48
  on
• 10:48
  them.
• 10:48
  Yeah.
• 10:49
  For
• 10:49
  getting
• 10:49
  their
• 10:49
  point
• 10:50
  out
• 10:50
  in
• 10:50
  a
• 10:50
  reasonable
• 10:51
  number
• 10:51
  of
• 10:51
  pages.
• 10:52
  Well,
• 10:52
  they
• 10:52
  do
• 10:52
  a
• 10:52
  good
• 10:52
  job
• 10:53
  of
• 10:53
  it.
• 10:53
  And
• 10:53
  then
• 10:53
  we
• 10:53
  hear
• 10:54
  about
• 10:54
  the
• 10:54
  second
• 10:54
  meeting
• 10:55
  when
• 10:55
  the
• 10:55
  parents
• 10:55
  go,
• 10:55
  they
• 10:56
  try
• 10:56
  this
• 10:56
  stuff
• 10:57
  at
• 10:57
  home
• 10:57
  and
• 10:58
  they
• 10:58
  come
• 10:58
  back
• 10:58
  and
• 10:59
  then
• 10:59
  they
• 10:59
  report
• 10:59
  on
• 11:00
  how
• 11:00
  it
• 11:00
  worked.
• 11:01
  So
• 11:01
  you,
• 11:01
  you
• 11:02
  get
• 11:02
  these
• 11:02
  constant
• 11:03
  scenarios,
• 11:04
  you
• 11:04
  know,
• 11:04
  of,
• 11:05
  you
• 11:05
  know,
• 11:06
  how
• 11:06
  do
• 11:06
  you
• 11:06
  handle
• 11:06
  this
• 11:07
  type
• 11:07
  of
• 11:07
  thing?
• 11:08
  And
• 11:08
  at
• 11:08
  the
• 11:08
  end
• 11:09
  of
• 11:09
  the
• 11:09
  chapter,
• 11:10
  there
• 11:10
  is
• 11:10
  a
• 11:11
  summary
• 11:12
  of
• 11:12
  the
• 11:12
  technique
• 11:12
  they
• 11:13
  just
• 11:13
  taught,
• 11:14
  which
• 11:14
  in
• 11:14
  this
• 11:14
  case,
• 11:16
  you
• 11:16
  know,
• 11:16
  they
• 11:16
  teach
• 11:17
  how
• 11:17
  to
• 11:18
  identify
• 11:18
  your
• 11:19
  child's
• 11:19
  thoughts
• 11:19
  and
• 11:19
  feelings,
• 11:20
  acknowledge
• 11:21
  their
• 11:21
  feelings
• 11:22
  with
• 11:22
  a
• 11:22
  word
• 11:22
  or
• 11:23
  a
• 11:23
  sound,
• 11:23
  give
• 11:23
  a
• 11:24
  solution
• 11:25
  or
• 11:25
  give
• 11:25
  a
• 11:26
  fantasy.
• 11:26
  If
• 11:26
  you
• 11:26
  can't
• 11:27
  give
• 11:27
  a
• 11:27
  real
• 11:27
  solution
• 11:28
  and
• 11:29
  accept
• 11:29
  their
• 11:29
  feelings
• 11:30
  as
• 11:30
  you
• 11:30
  redirect
• 11:31
  their
• 11:31
  behavior.
• 11:32
  That
• 11:32
  sort
• 11:32
  of.
• 11:33
  Fair
• 11:34
  enough.
• 11:34
  Yeah.
• 11:35
  So
• 11:35
  they're
• 11:35
  teaching
• 11:35
  you
• 11:35
  how
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  handle.
• 11:36
  It's
• 11:36
  communication
• 11:37
  skills
• 11:37
  for
• 11:38
  when
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  have
• 11:38
  a
• 11:38
  teenager.
• 11:39
  Yeah.
• 11:39
  And
• 11:40
  we
• 11:40
  do
• 11:40
  not
• 11:40
  know
• 11:40
  how
• 11:41
  to
• 11:41
  talk
• 11:41
  to
• 11:41
  teenagers.
• 11:42
  It's
• 11:42
  as
• 11:42
  if
• 11:43
  parents
• 11:43
  were
• 11:44
  never
• 11:44
  teenagers
• 11:44
  at
• 11:45
  all.
• 11:45
  Yeah,
• 11:46
  Well,
• 11:46
  I
• 11:46
  guess
• 11:46
  you
• 11:46
  kind
• 11:47
  of
• 11:47
  forget.
• 11:49
  I
• 11:49
  don't
• 11:49
  know.
• 11:49
  I
• 11:50
  guess
• 11:50
  we
• 11:50
  become
• 11:50
  our
• 11:50
  parents,
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  know.
• 11:51
  You
• 11:52
  know,
• 11:52
  like
• 11:52
  those
• 11:52
  commercials
• 11:53
  where
• 11:53
  you.
• 11:53
  You
• 11:53
  become
• 11:54
  your
• 11:54
  parents.
• 11:55
  Yeah,
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  insurance
• 11:56
  commercials
• 11:57
  I
• 11:57
  love.
• 11:58
  They're
• 11:58
  funny.
• 11:58
  They're
• 11:58
  so.
• 11:59
  Yeah.
• 12:00
  And
• 12:00
  we
• 12:00
  all
• 12:00
  become
• 12:00
  our
• 12:00
  parents.
• 12:02
  So
• 12:02
  anyway,
• 12:03
  so
• 12:03
  then
• 12:03
  there's
• 12:04
  a
• 12:04
  chapter
• 12:04
  on
• 12:04
  how
• 12:05
  to
• 12:05
  get
• 12:05
  your
• 12:05
  kids
• 12:05
  to
• 12:06
  cooperate
• 12:06
  with
• 12:06
  you.
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  they
• 12:08
  talk
• 12:08
  about
• 12:08
  the
• 12:08
  fact
• 12:09
  that
• 12:11
  teens
• 12:11
  are
• 12:12
  gonna
• 12:12
  need
• 12:12
  reminders.
• 12:13
  They're
• 12:13
  always
• 12:13
  forgetting
• 12:14
  things.
• 12:15
  And
• 12:15
  also,
• 12:15
  we're
• 12:16
  constantly
• 12:16
  ordering
• 12:17
  our
• 12:17
  kids
• 12:17
  around.
• 12:19
  And,
• 12:19
  you
• 12:20
  know,
• 12:20
  when
• 12:20
  we
• 12:20
  find
• 12:21
  they
• 12:21
  haven't
• 12:21
  done
• 12:21
  what
• 12:21
  they're
• 12:22
  supposed
• 12:22
  to
• 12:22
  do,
• 12:22
  what
• 12:23
  do
• 12:23
  we
• 12:23
  do?
• 12:24
  We
• 12:24
  blame
• 12:24
  and
• 12:24
  accuse.
• 12:26
  We
• 12:26
  call
• 12:26
  the
• 12:27
  child
• 12:27
  irresponsible.
• 12:29
  We
• 12:29
  threaten
• 12:29
  them.
• 12:29
  We
• 12:30
  order
• 12:30
  them.
• 12:31
  We
• 12:31
  lecture
• 12:31
  them
• 12:31
  and
• 12:32
  moralize.
• 12:32
  We
• 12:33
  warn
• 12:33
  them,
• 12:33
  don't
• 12:33
  do
• 12:33
  this
• 12:34
  again.
• 12:34
  We
• 12:34
  become
• 12:35
  martyrs.
• 12:36
  That's
• 12:36
  right.
• 12:36
  We
• 12:37
  compare
• 12:37
  them
• 12:37
  to
• 12:37
  their
• 12:38
  sibling.
• 12:38
  We're
• 12:38
  sarcastic.
• 12:40
  We
• 12:40
  prophesize.
• 12:41
  You're
• 12:41
  gonna
• 12:41
  go
• 12:42
  nowhere.
• 12:42
  In
• 12:42
  life.
• 12:43
  Yeah.
• 12:44
  So
• 12:44
  then
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  comics
• 12:45
  go
• 12:45
  through
• 12:45
  lots
• 12:46
  of
• 12:46
  situations
• 12:47
  where
• 12:47
  kids
• 12:47
  are
• 12:48
  not
• 12:48
  cooperating
• 12:49
  and
• 12:49
  here's
• 12:50
  how
• 12:50
  you
• 12:50
  can
• 12:50
  handle
• 12:51
  it.
• 12:52
  So
• 12:53
  they
• 12:53
  say
• 12:53
  instead
• 12:54
  of
• 12:54
  giving
• 12:54
  an
• 12:54
  order,
• 12:55
  describe
• 12:56
  the
• 12:56
  problem
• 12:56
  and
• 12:57
  see
• 12:57
  if
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  teen
• 12:57
  might
• 12:58
  step
• 12:58
  up
• 12:58
  and
• 12:59
  help
• 12:59
  with
• 12:59
  a
• 12:59
  solution.
• 13:00
  Good
• 13:00
  luck.
• 13:01
  Yeah.
• 13:01
  Instead
• 13:01
  of
• 13:02
  attacking
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  teen,
• 13:03
  just
• 13:03
  tell
• 13:03
  them
• 13:04
  how
• 13:04
  you
• 13:04
  feel
• 13:04
  and
• 13:05
  maybe
• 13:05
  they
• 13:05
  will
• 13:06
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• 13:06
  helpfully.
• 13:07
  Treat
• 13:07
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• 13:07
  teenagers
• 13:08
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• 13:08
  cats.
• 13:09
  Invite
• 13:10
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• 13:11
  don't
• 13:11
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• 13:12
  them.
• 13:13
  What
• 13:13
  does
• 13:13
  that
• 13:13
  have
• 13:13
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• 13:14
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• 13:14
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• 13:14
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• 13:14
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• 13:15
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• 13:15
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• 13:15
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• 13:15
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• 13:16
  the
• 13:16
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• 13:16
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• 13:16
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• 13:17
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• 13:17
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• 13:18
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• 13:18
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• 13:18
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• 13:19
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• 13:19
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• 13:19
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• 13:19
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• 13:20
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• 13:20
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• 13:20
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• 13:20
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• 13:21
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• 13:21
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• 13:21
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• 13:21
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• 13:22
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• 13:22
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• 13:23
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• 13:23
  You
• 13:24
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• 13:24
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• 13:24
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• 13:24
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• 13:24
  gentler
• 13:25
  approach.
• 13:26
  Okay,
• 13:27
  okay.
• 13:27
  You
• 13:27
  know.
• 13:28
  Right.
• 13:29
  So
• 13:29
  that's
• 13:29
  what
• 13:29
  they're
• 13:29
  kind
• 13:29
  of
• 13:30
  showing
• 13:30
  is
• 13:30
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• 13:31
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• 13:31
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• 13:31
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• 13:31
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• 13:31
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• 13:33
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• 13:33
  they
• 13:34
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• 13:34
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• 13:34
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• 13:34
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• 13:34
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• 13:35
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• 13:35
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• 13:36
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• 13:36
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• 13:36
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• 13:36
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• 13:37
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• 13:37
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• 13:38
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• 13:38
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• 13:39
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• 13:39
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• 13:39
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• 13:40
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• 13:40
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• 13:41
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• 13:41
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• 13:41
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• 13:41
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• 13:41
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• 13:42
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• 13:42
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• 13:42
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• 13:42
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• 13:42
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• 13:43
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• 13:44
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• 13:44
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• 13:44
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• 13:44
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• 13:44
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• 13:45
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• 13:45
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• 13:45
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• 13:46
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• 13:46
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• 13:46
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• 13:46
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• 13:46
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• 13:47
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• 13:47
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• 13:47
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• 13:48
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• 13:49
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• 13:49
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• 13:49
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• 13:50
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• 13:50
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• 13:50
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• 13:51
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• 13:51
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• 13:52
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• 13:52
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• 13:52
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• 13:53
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• 13:53
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• 13:54
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• 13:54
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• 13:55
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• 13:55
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• 13:56
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• 13:56
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• 13:56
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• 13:56
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• 13:57
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• 13:57
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• 13:57
  Conflict.
• 13:58
  Yeah.
• 13:58
  This
• 13:58
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• 13:58
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• 13:59
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• 13:59
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• 13:59
  averse
• 14:00
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• 14:01
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• 14:01
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• 14:01
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• 14:01
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• 14:02
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• 14:02
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• 14:03
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• 14:03
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• 14:03
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• 14:04
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• 14:05
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• 14:05
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• 14:05
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• 14:05
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• 14:05
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• 14:06
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• 14:06
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• 14:06
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• 14:07
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• 14:07
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• 14:07
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• 14:08
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• 14:08
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• 14:08
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:09
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• 14:10
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• 14:10
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• 14:10
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• 14:10
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• 14:11
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• 14:11
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• 14:13
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• 14:13
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• 14:13
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• 14:14
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• 14:15
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• 14:15
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• 14:15
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• 14:16
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• 14:16
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• 14:16
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• 14:17
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• 14:17
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• 14:17
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:18
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• 14:19
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• 14:20
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• 14:20
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• 14:20
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• 14:21
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• 14:21
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:22
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• 14:23
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• 14:23
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• 14:23
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• 14:23
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:24
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• 14:25
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• 14:25
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• 14:25
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• 14:26
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• 14:26
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• 14:26
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• 14:26
  Yeah.
• 14:28
  So
• 14:28
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• 14:28
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• 14:28
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:29
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• 14:30
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• 14:31
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• 14:31
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• 14:31
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• 14:31
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• 14:32
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• 14:32
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• 14:32
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• 14:33
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• 14:33
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• 14:33
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• 14:33
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• 14:33
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• 14:33
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• 14:34
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• 14:34
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• 14:34
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• 14:34
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• 14:34
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• 14:35
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• 14:35
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• 14:36
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• 14:36
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• 14:37
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• 14:37
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• 14:40
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• 14:41
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• 14:42
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• 14:42
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• 14:42
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• 14:43
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• 14:43
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• 14:43
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• 15:59
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• 16:00
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• 16:00
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• 16:01
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• 16:01
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• 16:02
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• 16:02
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• 16:02
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• 16:03
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• 16:05
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• 16:07
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• 16:08
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• 16:08
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• 16:09
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• 16:09
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• 16:10
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• 16:10
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• 16:10
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• 16:10
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• 16:11
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• 16:11
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• 16:11
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• 16:12
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• 16:13
  oh,
• 16:13
  my
• 16:13
  God.
• 16:14
  Right?
• 16:14
  Well,
• 16:14
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• 16:15
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• 16:15
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• 16:15
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• 16:16
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• 16:16
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• 16:16
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• 16:16
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• 16:16
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• 16:17
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• 16:17
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• 16:17
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• 16:18
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• 16:18
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• 16:18
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• 16:19
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• 16:19
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• 16:19
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• 16:19
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• 16:19
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• 16:20
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• 16:20
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• 16:20
  A
• 16:20
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• 16:20
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• 16:21
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• 16:21
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• 16:21
  Exactly.
• 16:22
  What
• 16:22
  happened?
• 16:23
  I'm
• 16:23
  just.
• 16:23
  Okay,
• 16:24
  okay,
• 16:24
  so.
• 16:25
  And
• 16:26
  now
• 16:26
  the
• 16:27
  next
• 16:27
  section
• 16:27
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• 16:28
  about
• 16:28
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• 16:28
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• 16:29
  is
• 16:29
  interesting
• 16:31
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• 16:32
  the.
• 16:32
  When
• 16:32
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• 16:32
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• 16:33
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• 16:33
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• 16:33
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• 16:34
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• 16:34
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• 16:34
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• 16:35
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• 16:35
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• 16:35
  father
• 16:35
  says,
• 16:36
  my
• 16:36
  kid
• 16:37
  did
• 16:37
  this
• 16:37
  terrible
• 16:37
  thing
• 16:38
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• 16:38
  I
• 16:38
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• 16:39
  him
• 16:39
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• 16:39
  a
• 16:39
  month.
• 16:40
  And
• 16:41
  then
• 16:41
  the
• 16:41
  author
• 16:41
  says,
• 16:41
  does
• 16:42
  punishing
• 16:42
  a
• 16:43
  child
• 16:44
  actually
• 16:44
  make
• 16:44
  them
• 16:45
  more
• 16:45
  responsible,
• 16:46
  in
• 16:47
  her
• 16:47
  opinion?
• 16:48
  She
• 16:49
  thinks
• 16:49
  in
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  caring
• 16:50
  relationship,
• 16:50
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• 16:51
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• 16:51
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• 16:51
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• 16:51
  punishment.
• 16:54
  Her
• 16:54
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• 16:55
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• 16:55
  punishment
• 16:56
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• 16:56
  she
• 16:56
  has
• 16:56
  a
• 16:56
  whole
• 16:57
  technique.
• 16:57
  Okay,
• 16:58
  first,
• 16:58
  state
• 16:58
  your
• 16:59
  feelings,
• 17:01
  state
• 17:01
  your
• 17:01
  expectations.
• 17:02
  Show
• 17:03
  them
• 17:03
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• 17:03
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• 17:03
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• 17:03
  amends
• 17:04
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• 17:04
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• 17:04
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• 17:04
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• 17:05
  Offer
• 17:06
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• 17:06
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• 17:06
  take
• 17:07
  action.
• 17:07
  So
• 17:07
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• 17:08
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• 17:08
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• 17:10
  which
• 17:10
  was
• 17:10
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• 17:11
  mom
• 17:11
  was,
• 17:11
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• 17:11
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• 17:12
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• 17:12
  daughter
• 17:12
  was
• 17:13
  supposed
• 17:13
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• 17:13
  be
• 17:13
  at
• 17:13
  her
• 17:13
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• 17:14
  house
• 17:14
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• 17:14
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• 17:15
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• 17:15
  out.
• 17:17
  Or
• 17:17
  she
• 17:18
  and
• 17:18
  her
• 17:18
  friend
• 17:18
  were
• 17:19
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• 17:19
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• 17:19
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• 17:19
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• 17:20
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• 17:20
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• 17:20
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• 17:21
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• 17:21
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• 17:21
  daughter
• 17:22
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• 17:22
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• 17:22
  up.
• 17:23
  And
• 17:23
  so
• 17:23
  you
• 17:24
  state
• 17:24
  your
• 17:24
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• 17:24
  I
• 17:25
  was
• 17:25
  frantic
• 17:26
  when
• 17:26
  Jill's
• 17:27
  mother
• 17:27
  called
• 17:27
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• 17:28
  said
• 17:28
  you
• 17:28
  weren't
• 17:29
  at
• 17:29
  the
• 17:29
  party.
• 17:29
  Okay,
• 17:29
  this
• 17:30
  story
• 17:30
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• 17:30
  a
• 17:30
  little
• 17:30
  more
• 17:30
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• 17:31
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• 17:31
  that.
• 17:31
  She
• 17:32
  was
• 17:32
  late
• 17:33
  to
• 17:33
  go
• 17:33
  meet
• 17:33
  Jill,
• 17:34
  to
• 17:34
  go
• 17:34
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• 17:34
  Jill's
• 17:35
  birthday
• 17:35
  party,
• 17:36
  and
• 17:36
  held
• 17:36
  up
• 17:37
  the
• 17:37
  entire
• 17:38
  group,
• 17:39
  which
• 17:39
  is
• 17:39
  so
• 17:40
  much
• 17:40
  more
• 17:40
  inconsiderate
• 17:41
  than
• 17:42
  the
• 17:42
  picture
• 17:42
  you
• 17:42
  have
• 17:43
  painted.
• 17:43
  Okay,
• 17:44
  so
• 17:44
  it
• 17:44
  was
• 17:44
  worse
• 17:44
  what
• 17:45
  the
• 17:45
  kid
• 17:45
  did.
• 17:46
  So
• 17:46
  do
• 17:46
  you
• 17:46
  think
• 17:46
  the
• 17:46
  kid
• 17:46
  should
• 17:47
  have
• 17:47
  been
• 17:47
  punished?
• 17:48
  Yeah,
• 17:48
  okay,
• 17:49
  I
• 17:49
  do.
• 17:49
  Because
• 17:50
  I
• 17:50
  think,
• 17:50
  like,
• 17:51
  okay,
• 17:51
  if
• 17:51
  you're
• 17:51
  gonna
• 17:52
  disrespect
• 17:52
  everybody's
• 17:53
  time,
• 17:53
  first
• 17:54
  of
• 17:54
  all,
• 17:55
  uh
• 17:55
  huh.
• 17:55
  No.
• 17:56
  Second
• 17:56
  of
• 17:56
  all,
• 17:56
  it's
• 17:57
  this
• 17:57
  other
• 17:57
  girl's
• 17:58
  birthday
• 17:58
  and
• 17:58
  you
• 17:58
  were
• 17:59
  distracted
• 17:59
  by
• 17:59
  a
• 18:00
  boy
• 18:00
  you
• 18:00
  met
• 18:00
  on
• 18:00
  the
• 18:01
  street.
• 18:02
  Okay,
• 18:02
  you
• 18:02
  held
• 18:03
  up
• 18:03
  everybody.
• 18:03
  Yeah.
• 18:04
  Like,
• 18:04
  again,
• 18:04
  girl,
• 18:06
  respect
• 18:06
  yourself.
• 18:07
  Well,
• 18:07
  yeah,
• 18:08
  but
• 18:08
  the
• 18:08
  thing
• 18:08
  is,
• 18:09
  she's
• 18:09
  a
• 18:09
  teenager
• 18:10
  and
• 18:10
  teenagers
• 18:10
  do
• 18:10
  dumb
• 18:11
  things
• 18:11
  like
• 18:11
  that.
• 18:12
  That's
• 18:12
  the
• 18:12
  thing.
• 18:12
  I
• 18:13
  don't
• 18:13
  know.
• 18:13
  It's
• 18:13
  like,
• 18:13
  you
• 18:14
  will
• 18:14
  be
• 18:14
  shot.
• 18:15
  Well,
• 18:15
  I
• 18:16
  know,
• 18:16
  but
• 18:16
  kids
• 18:17
  do
• 18:17
  that.
• 18:17
  They
• 18:17
  do
• 18:17
  things
• 18:17
  that
• 18:18
  are
• 18:18
  just
• 18:18
  ridiculous.
• 18:19
  I
• 18:19
  want.
• 18:19
  If
• 18:19
  my
• 18:19
  daughter
• 18:20
  does
• 18:20
  something
• 18:20
  like
• 18:20
  that,
• 18:20
  I
• 18:21
  want
• 18:21
  her
• 18:21
  to
• 18:21
  remember
• 18:23
  that
• 18:23
  you
• 18:23
  don't
• 18:23
  do
• 18:23
  things
• 18:24
  like
• 18:24
  that.
• 18:24
  You
• 18:24
  don't
• 18:24
  disrespect
• 18:25
  people's
• 18:25
  time.
• 18:25
  I
• 18:25
  don't
• 18:26
  hold
• 18:26
  up
• 18:26
  people's
• 18:26
  birthday
• 18:27
  parties.
• 18:27
  I
• 18:27
  would
• 18:27
  say
• 18:28
  probably
• 18:28
  true,
• 18:29
  but
• 18:29
  you
• 18:29
  know
• 18:29
  what?
• 18:29
  Okay.
• 18:30
  I'm
• 18:30
  gonna
• 18:30
  tell
• 18:30
  you
• 18:30
  what
• 18:30
  she
• 18:31
  says
• 18:31
  to
• 18:31
  do.
• 18:31
  Okay.
• 18:32
  Okay.
• 18:32
  So
• 18:33
  she
• 18:33
  says
• 18:34
  okay.
• 18:34
  So
• 18:34
  it's
• 18:34
  much
• 18:34
  worse
• 18:35
  than
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  originally
• 18:36
  said.
• 18:37
  Much
• 18:37
  worse.
• 18:37
  Much
• 18:37
  worse.
• 18:38
  In
• 18:38
  fact,
• 18:38
  you
• 18:39
  know
• 18:39
  this.
• 18:39
  She
• 18:39
  should
• 18:40
  really
• 18:40
  almost
• 18:41
  have
• 18:41
  gone
• 18:41
  to
• 18:41
  jail.
• 18:42
  Prison.
• 18:43
  Okay,
• 18:44
  so
• 18:44
  mom
• 18:45
  should
• 18:45
  have
• 18:45
  stated
• 18:46
  her
• 18:46
  feelings.
• 18:47
  I
• 18:47
  was
• 18:47
  frantic
• 18:48
  when
• 18:48
  Jill's
• 18:49
  mother
• 18:49
  called
• 18:49
  and
• 18:49
  said
• 18:50
  you
• 18:50
  weren't
• 18:50
  at
• 18:50
  the
• 18:50
  party.
• 18:51
  State
• 18:51
  your
• 18:52
  expectations.
• 18:53
  I
• 18:53
  expect
• 18:53
  you
• 18:54
  to
• 18:54
  be
• 18:54
  where
• 18:54
  you
• 18:55
  say
• 18:55
  you're
• 18:55
  going
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  be
• 18:55
  when
• 18:56
  you
• 18:56
  say
• 18:56
  you're
• 18:56
  going
• 18:57
  to
• 18:57
  be
• 18:57
  there.
• 18:57
  Or
• 18:57
  call
• 18:57
  me
• 18:58
  if
• 18:58
  your
• 18:58
  plans
• 18:58
  change.
• 18:59
  Now,
• 19:00
  third,
• 19:00
  show
• 19:01
  her
• 19:01
  how
• 19:01
  she
• 19:01
  can
• 19:01
  make
• 19:01
  amends.
• 19:02
  You
• 19:02
  need
• 19:03
  to
• 19:03
  send
• 19:03
  a
• 19:03
  note
• 19:03
  to
• 19:04
  Jill's
• 19:05
  mother
• 19:05
  apologizing.
• 19:06
  She
• 19:06
  was
• 19:06
  worried.
• 19:07
  Offer
• 19:08
  a
• 19:08
  choice.
• 19:09
  You
• 19:09
  could
• 19:09
  call
• 19:10
  her
• 19:10
  if
• 19:10
  you
• 19:10
  don't
• 19:10
  want
• 19:10
  to
• 19:10
  write
• 19:11
  to
• 19:11
  her.
• 19:12
  Take
• 19:12
  action.
• 19:12
  If
• 19:13
  your
• 19:13
  child
• 19:13
  repeats
• 19:14
  the
• 19:14
  offense
• 19:15
  again,
• 19:15
  jail.
• 19:17
  No.
• 19:17
  According
• 19:17
  to
• 19:18
  this,
• 19:18
  the
• 19:19
  child
• 19:19
  can't
• 19:20
  go
• 19:20
  to
• 19:20
  Jill's
• 19:20
  again
• 19:21
  until
• 19:21
  she
• 19:22
  presents
• 19:22
  a
• 19:23
  plan
• 19:23
  saying
• 19:24
  how
• 19:24
  she
• 19:24
  this
• 19:25
  will
• 19:25
  never
• 19:26
  happen
• 19:26
  again.
• 19:26
  And
• 19:27
  what
• 19:27
  is
• 19:27
  her
• 19:27
  plan
• 19:27
  to.
• 19:27
  I
• 19:28
  want
• 19:28
  a
• 19:28
  PowerPoint,
• 19:29
  I
• 19:29
  want
• 19:29
  a
• 19:29
  deck.
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  want
• 19:30
  slides.
• 19:31
  Right,
• 19:31
  right.
• 19:32
  Okay.
• 19:32
  But
• 19:33
  she
• 19:33
  says
• 19:33
  she
• 19:33
  disagrees
• 19:34
  with
• 19:34
  punishment.
• 19:35
  Because
• 19:35
  when
• 19:35
  you
• 19:35
  take
• 19:36
  action,
• 19:36
  a
• 19:36
  child
• 19:39
  has
• 19:39
  a
• 19:39
  chance
• 19:39
  to
• 19:40
  fix
• 19:40
  their
• 19:40
  behavior.
• 19:41
  Punishment
• 19:41
  stops
• 19:42
  the
• 19:42
  behavior.
• 19:43
  And
• 19:43
  it
• 19:43
  doesn't
• 19:44
  teach
• 19:44
  your
• 19:44
  child
• 19:45
  how
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  self
• 19:45
  correct.
• 19:47
  The
• 19:47
  kid
• 19:48
  focuses
• 19:48
  on
• 19:48
  the
• 19:48
  parent
• 19:49
  being
• 19:49
  unreasonable,
• 19:50
  not
• 19:50
  on
• 19:50
  what
• 19:51
  they
• 19:51
  did
• 19:51
  wrong
• 19:52
  and
• 19:52
  how
• 19:52
  they
• 19:52
  can
• 19:53
  make
• 19:53
  sure
• 19:53
  it
• 19:53
  doesn't
• 19:53
  happen
• 19:54
  again.
• 19:54
  So
• 19:54
  she's
• 19:55
  into
• 19:55
  a
• 19:56
  more
• 19:57
  collaborative
• 19:58
  kind
• 19:58
  of
• 19:58
  empathetic
• 19:59
  response.
• 20:00
  Maybe.
• 20:00
  At
• 20:00
  least
• 20:00
  the
• 20:01
  first
• 20:01
  time.
• 20:02
  Okay.
• 20:03
  And
• 20:03
  then
• 20:03
  there's
• 20:03
  lots
• 20:04
  of
• 20:04
  examples
• 20:04
  of
• 20:05
  stories
• 20:06
  of
• 20:07
  other
• 20:08
  people
• 20:08
  talking
• 20:08
  about
• 20:08
  punishment.
• 20:09
  So
• 20:10
  this
• 20:10
  did
• 20:10
  remind
• 20:10
  me
• 20:11
  of
• 20:11
  Dr.
• 20:11
  Becky
• 20:12
  good
• 20:12
  inside,
• 20:13
  didn't
• 20:13
  it?
• 20:13
  A
• 20:14
  little.
• 20:14
  But
• 20:15
  Dr.
• 20:15
  Becky's
• 20:16
  book
• 20:16
  I
• 20:17
  liked
• 20:17
  more.
• 20:18
  Oh,
• 20:18
  yes.
• 20:18
  Oh,
• 20:19
  I
• 20:19
  love
• 20:19
  Dr.
• 20:19
  Becky's
• 20:20
  book.
• 20:20
  Yeah.
• 20:21
  But
• 20:23
  what
• 20:23
  Dr.
• 20:23
  Becky
• 20:24
  would
• 20:24
  say
• 20:24
  is
• 20:24
  behavior
• 20:25
  is
• 20:25
  a
• 20:25
  window
• 20:25
  into
• 20:26
  your
• 20:26
  child's
• 20:26
  feelings.
• 20:27
  Unmet.
• 20:27
  What
• 20:28
  is
• 20:28
  this?
• 20:28
  A
• 20:28
  window
• 20:29
  into
• 20:30
  what
• 20:30
  unmet
• 20:31
  need
• 20:31
  was
• 20:31
  her
• 20:32
  daughter
• 20:32
  expressing
• 20:34
  late
• 20:35
  and
• 20:35
  making
• 20:36
  everybody
• 20:36
  else
• 20:37
  late
• 20:37
  and
• 20:37
  scaring
• 20:38
  everyone.
• 20:38
  Well,
• 20:39
  I
• 20:39
  think
• 20:39
  maybe
• 20:39
  the
• 20:40
  daughter
• 20:40
  was
• 20:40
  too
• 20:41
  concerned
• 20:41
  with
• 20:41
  what
• 20:42
  were
• 20:42
  they?
• 20:42
  The
• 20:42
  boy
• 20:42
  on
• 20:43
  the
• 20:43
  street
• 20:43
  thought
• 20:43
  about
• 20:44
  her
• 20:45
  and
• 20:45
  she
• 20:45
  is.
• 20:46
  Maybe
• 20:46
  she's
• 20:46
  boy
• 20:47
  crazy.
• 20:47
  And.
• 20:48
  And
• 20:48
  that
• 20:48
  she
• 20:49
  put
• 20:49
  something
• 20:51
  less,
• 20:51
  you
• 20:51
  know,
• 20:52
  she
• 20:52
  wanted
• 20:53
  attention
• 20:53
  from
• 20:53
  the
• 20:54
  boy.
• 20:55
  Would
• 20:55
  you.
• 20:55
  You
• 20:55
  know,
• 20:56
  and
• 20:56
  maybe
• 20:56
  that
• 20:56
  was
• 20:56
  the
• 20:57
  thing.
• 20:57
  That
• 20:57
  was
• 20:57
  her
• 20:58
  need.
• 20:58
  That
• 20:58
  was
• 20:59
  her
• 20:59
  need.
• 20:59
  Fair
• 20:59
  enough.
• 21:00
  And
• 21:00
  then
• 21:00
  she.
• 21:00
  And
• 21:01
  she
• 21:01
  has
• 21:01
  to
• 21:01
  realize
• 21:02
  that,
• 21:02
  you
• 21:02
  know,
• 21:03
  that
• 21:03
  you've
• 21:03
  got
• 21:03
  12
• 21:04
  other
• 21:04
  girls
• 21:04
  waiting
• 21:05
  to
• 21:05
  go
• 21:05
  to
• 21:05
  the
• 21:05
  movie
• 21:06
  or
• 21:06
  whatever
• 21:07
  you,
• 21:08
  you
• 21:08
  know,
• 21:09
  that
• 21:09
  was
• 21:09
  the
• 21:09
  need.
• 21:10
  I
• 21:10
  was
• 21:10
  life
• 21:11
  or
• 21:11
  death.
• 21:11
  Life
• 21:11
  or
• 21:12
  death.
• 21:12
  I
• 21:12
  had
• 21:12
  to
• 21:12
  have
• 21:12
  attention
• 21:13
  from
• 21:13
  the
• 21:13
  boy.
• 21:14
  Thank
• 21:15
  goodness.
• 21:15
  Yeah.
• 21:15
  But
• 21:16
  I
• 21:16
  think
• 21:16
  that
• 21:16
  was
• 21:16
  the
• 21:16
  need.
• 21:18
  But
• 21:18
  Dr.
• 21:19
  Becky
• 21:19
  would
• 21:20
  still
• 21:20
  get
• 21:20
  to
• 21:21
  the
• 21:21
  root
• 21:21
  of
• 21:21
  the
• 21:21
  issue,
• 21:22
  try
• 21:22
  to
• 21:22
  connect
• 21:23
  with
• 21:23
  the
• 21:23
  child.
• 21:24
  And
• 21:24
  punishment
• 21:25
  just
• 21:25
  cuts
• 21:26
  things
• 21:26
  off.
• 21:27
  And
• 21:28
  these
• 21:29
  other
• 21:29
  authors
• 21:29
  kind
• 21:29
  of
• 21:29
  agree
• 21:30
  with
• 21:30
  that.
• 21:30
  They're
• 21:31
  like,
• 21:31
  give
• 21:31
  the
• 21:32
  kids
• 21:32
  a
• 21:33
  chance
• 21:33
  to
• 21:34
  fix
• 21:34
  it
• 21:34
  for
• 21:34
  the
• 21:35
  next
• 21:35
  time.
• 21:35
  Now
• 21:36
  if
• 21:36
  they
• 21:36
  keep
• 21:36
  doing
• 21:36
  it,
• 21:36
  if
• 21:36
  it's
• 21:37
  a
• 21:37
  constant
• 21:37
  thing,
• 21:37
  that
• 21:38
  jail.
• 21:38
  Yeah,
• 21:39
  exactly.
• 21:41
  Okay.
• 21:42
  Then
• 21:43
  they
• 21:43
  get
• 21:43
  into
• 21:44
  another
• 21:44
  technique.
• 21:45
  Working
• 21:45
  it
• 21:45
  out
• 21:46
  together
• 21:47
  instead
• 21:47
  of
• 21:48
  punishment,
• 21:48
  sit
• 21:48
  down
• 21:49
  and
• 21:49
  tackle
• 21:49
  a
• 21:49
  problem
• 21:50
  together.
• 21:51
  So
• 21:51
  if,
• 21:51
  let's
• 21:52
  say
• 21:52
  something
• 21:52
  happens,
• 21:53
  you're
• 21:53
  really
• 21:53
  upset
• 21:53
  with
• 21:54
  your
• 21:54
  kid,
• 21:55
  and
• 21:55
  they
• 21:55
  give
• 21:56
  an
• 21:56
  example
• 21:56
  of
• 21:56
  a
• 21:56
  messy
• 21:57
  room
• 21:57
  that
• 21:58
  the
• 21:58
  kid
• 21:58
  just
• 21:58
  doesn't
• 21:58
  clean
• 22:00
  it.
• 22:00
  Let
• 22:00
  the
• 22:00
  teen
• 22:01
  tell
• 22:01
  their
• 22:01
  side
• 22:02
  of
• 22:02
  the
• 22:02
  story
• 22:03
  and
• 22:03
  just
• 22:03
  put
• 22:03
  your
• 22:04
  own
• 22:04
  feelings
• 22:04
  on
• 22:05
  hold
• 22:05
  and
• 22:05
  listen.
• 22:06
  And
• 22:06
  the
• 22:07
  reason
• 22:07
  is,
• 22:07
  is
• 22:07
  that
• 22:08
  once
• 22:08
  teens
• 22:09
  know
• 22:09
  that
• 22:09
  their
• 22:10
  point
• 22:10
  of
• 22:10
  view
• 22:10
  has
• 22:10
  been
• 22:10
  heard
• 22:11
  and
• 22:12
  understood,
• 22:12
  they're
• 22:13
  more
• 22:13
  likely
• 22:13
  to
• 22:14
  hear
• 22:14
  then
• 22:14
  what
• 22:14
  you
• 22:15
  have
• 22:15
  to
• 22:15
  say.
• 22:16
  Okay.
• 22:16
  And
• 22:16
  I
• 22:17
  actually
• 22:17
  think
• 22:17
  all
• 22:17
  human
• 22:18
  beings,
• 22:18
  that's
• 22:19
  not
• 22:19
  just
• 22:19
  teens,
• 22:19
  that's
• 22:20
  everybody.
• 22:20
  Yeah.
• 22:21
  If
• 22:21
  I'm
• 22:21
  mad,
• 22:21
  I
• 22:22
  have
• 22:22
  to
• 22:22
  be
• 22:22
  able
• 22:22
  to
• 22:22
  say
• 22:22
  what
• 22:23
  I
• 22:23
  feel.
• 22:23
  Yeah.
• 22:24
  You
• 22:24
  don't
• 22:24
  want
• 22:24
  to
• 22:24
  just
• 22:24
  feel
• 22:25
  attacked.
• 22:25
  You
• 22:25
  want
• 22:26
  to
• 22:26
  feel
• 22:26
  like
• 22:26
  it
• 22:26
  is
• 22:27
  a
• 22:27
  discussion.
• 22:28
  Because
• 22:28
  again,
• 22:29
  there's
• 22:29
  two
• 22:29
  perspectives.
• 22:32
  The
• 22:32
  kid
• 22:32
  often
• 22:33
  thinks,
• 22:33
  I
• 22:33
  can
• 22:33
  live
• 22:34
  in
• 22:34
  this
• 22:34
  messy
• 22:34
  room,
• 22:34
  I
• 22:35
  don't
• 22:35
  care.
• 22:36
  And
• 22:36
  the
• 22:36
  mom
• 22:36
  is
• 22:36
  like,
• 22:37
  no,
• 22:37
  no,
• 22:37
  no,
• 22:37
  no,
• 22:37
  no.
• 22:38
  There's
• 22:39
  ants
• 22:39
  crawling
• 22:39
  in
• 22:39
  your
• 22:40
  bed.
• 22:40
  Yeah.
• 22:41
  Which
• 22:41
  means
• 22:41
  there
• 22:41
  are
• 22:41
  gonna
• 22:41
  be
• 22:42
  ants
• 22:42
  all
• 22:42
  over
• 22:42
  the
• 22:42
  rest
• 22:43
  of
• 22:43
  my
• 22:43
  house.
• 22:43
  Yeah,
• 22:44
  exactly.
• 22:45
  The
• 22:46
  idea
• 22:46
  here
• 22:46
  is
• 22:48
  let
• 22:49
  your
• 22:49
  child
• 22:50
  say
• 22:50
  their
• 22:50
  point
• 22:51
  of
• 22:51
  view.
• 22:52
  Then
• 22:52
  you
• 22:53
  wanna
• 22:53
  put
• 22:53
  your
• 22:53
  head
• 22:54
  together
• 22:54
  and
• 22:54
  come
• 22:55
  up
• 22:55
  with
• 22:55
  a
• 22:55
  solution
• 22:55
  that.
• 22:56
  That
• 22:56
  will
• 22:56
  work
• 22:56
  for
• 22:56
  both
• 22:56
  of
• 22:57
  you.
• 22:57
  And
• 22:57
  then
• 22:58
  this
• 22:58
  is
• 22:58
  all
• 22:58
  played
• 22:59
  out
• 22:59
  in
• 22:59
  comics
• 23:00
  where
• 23:00
  you
• 23:00
  can
• 23:01
  see
• 23:02
  language
• 23:02
  that
• 23:02
  you
• 23:03
  can
• 23:03
  use.
• 23:03
  And
• 23:04
  they
• 23:04
  in
• 23:04
  many
• 23:04
  different
• 23:05
  situations
• 23:07
  where
• 23:08
  rather
• 23:08
  than
• 23:08
  punishing
• 23:09
  your
• 23:09
  child,
• 23:09
  you
• 23:09
  find
• 23:10
  a
• 23:10
  way
• 23:10
  when
• 23:10
  you're
• 23:10
  upset
• 23:11
  with
• 23:11
  them,
• 23:12
  to
• 23:12
  let
• 23:12
  them
• 23:12
  talk,
• 23:13
  listen
• 23:13
  to
• 23:14
  them,
• 23:14
  and
• 23:14
  then
• 23:14
  try
• 23:14
  to
• 23:15
  come
• 23:15
  up
• 23:15
  with
• 23:15
  working
• 23:15
  it
• 23:16
  out
• 23:16
  together.
• 23:17
  And
• 23:17
  she
• 23:17
  says
• 23:18
  some
• 23:18
  problems,
• 23:18
  though,
• 23:18
  are
• 23:19
  maybe
• 23:19
  too
• 23:19
  big
• 23:19
  for
• 23:19
  you
• 23:19
  to
• 23:20
  solve
• 23:20
  together.
• 23:21
  You
• 23:21
  may
• 23:21
  need
• 23:21
  to
• 23:21
  Bring
• 23:21
  in
• 23:22
  a
• 23:22
  professional,
• 23:22
  in
• 23:23
  some
• 23:23
  cases,
• 23:23
  like
• 23:24
  a
• 23:24
  eating
• 23:24
  disorder
• 23:25
  situation.
• 23:25
  Oh,
• 23:25
  yeah,
• 23:26
  totally.
• 23:26
  Yeah.
• 23:27
  Don't
• 23:27
  take
• 23:27
  on
• 23:27
  problems
• 23:28
  that
• 23:28
  you
• 23:28
  don't
• 23:28
  understand.
• 23:29
  Right.
• 23:30
  Cause
• 23:30
  oftentimes
• 23:31
  you
• 23:31
  can
• 23:31
  just
• 23:31
  make
• 23:31
  them
• 23:31
  so
• 23:31
  much
• 23:32
  worse.
• 23:33
  Yeah.
• 23:33
  If
• 23:33
  you
• 23:34
  don't
• 23:34
  know
• 23:34
  what
• 23:34
  to
• 23:34
  do.
• 23:35
  Exactly.
• 23:36
  Okay.
• 23:37
  So
• 23:37
  then
• 23:38
  the
• 23:38
  author
• 23:38
  talks
• 23:39
  about.
• 23:40
  She
• 23:40
  wants
• 23:40
  to
• 23:40
  meet
• 23:40
  the
• 23:41
  kids
• 23:41
  that
• 23:41
  they've
• 23:41
  been
• 23:41
  talking
• 23:42
  about,
• 23:43
  and
• 23:44
  she
• 23:44
  asks
• 23:45
  the
• 23:45
  teens
• 23:45
  all
• 23:46
  these
• 23:46
  different
• 23:46
  questions
• 23:48
  and
• 23:48
  gets
• 23:48
  some,
• 23:48
  you
• 23:49
  know,
• 23:49
  now
• 23:49
  we
• 23:49
  get
• 23:49
  the
• 23:50
  teens
• 23:50
  perspective.
• 23:51
  And
• 23:51
  I
• 23:52
  think
• 23:52
  that
• 23:52
  in
• 23:52
  the
• 23:52
  book,
• 23:53
  you
• 23:53
  know,
• 23:53
  the
• 23:53
  teen's
• 23:54
  perspective,
• 23:56
  a
• 23:57
  lot
• 23:57
  of
• 23:57
  it
• 23:57
  still
• 23:57
  holds
• 23:58
  today,
• 23:59
  even
• 23:59
  though
• 23:59
  it's
• 23:59
  been
• 23:59
  a
• 24:00
  while.
• 24:01
  So,
• 24:02
  for
• 24:02
  example,
• 24:02
  they'll
• 24:03
  say,
• 24:03
  you
• 24:03
  know,
• 24:04
  some
• 24:04
  of
• 24:04
  the
• 24:05
  things
• 24:05
  they
• 24:05
  said
• 24:06
  is,
• 24:06
  what
• 24:06
  do
• 24:06
  you
• 24:06
  think
• 24:07
  people
• 24:07
  mean
• 24:07
  when
• 24:07
  they
• 24:08
  make
• 24:08
  comments
• 24:08
  like,
• 24:09
  oh,
• 24:09
  well,
• 24:10
  he's
• 24:10
  a
• 24:10
  teenager,
• 24:12
  or,
• 24:12
  what's
• 24:12
  the
• 24:12
  best
• 24:13
  part
• 24:13
  of
• 24:13
  being
• 24:13
  your
• 24:13
  age
• 24:14
  for
• 24:14
  you
• 24:14
  or
• 24:14
  your
• 24:14
  friends?
• 24:15
  What
• 24:15
  are
• 24:15
  the
• 24:16
  things
• 24:16
  you
• 24:16
  worry
• 24:16
  about?
• 24:17
  So
• 24:17
  they
• 24:17
  answered
• 24:18
  these
• 24:18
  questions.
• 24:18
  Well,
• 24:19
  they
• 24:19
  worry
• 24:19
  about
• 24:19
  not
• 24:19
  fitting
• 24:20
  in,
• 24:20
  not
• 24:21
  being
• 24:21
  accepted
• 24:21
  socially,
• 24:22
  being
• 24:22
  skinny
• 24:23
  and
• 24:23
  pretty,
• 24:23
  being
• 24:24
  cool
• 24:24
  and
• 24:24
  athletic.
• 24:25
  School
• 24:25
  shootings,
• 24:26
  drugs
• 24:26
  and
• 24:26
  violence.
• 24:27
  The
• 24:27
  world.
• 24:27
  That's
• 24:28
  all
• 24:28
  valid
• 24:28
  today.
• 24:29
  Yeah,
• 24:29
  totally.
• 24:30
  We
• 24:30
  haven't
• 24:31
  come
• 24:31
  that
• 24:31
  far.
• 24:31
  No.
• 24:32
  Is
• 24:32
  there
• 24:33
  anything
• 24:33
  your
• 24:33
  parents
• 24:34
  say
• 24:34
  or
• 24:34
  do
• 24:34
  that's
• 24:35
  helpful
• 24:35
  to
• 24:35
  you?
• 24:36
  What
• 24:36
  do
• 24:36
  they
• 24:36
  do
• 24:37
  that
• 24:37
  is
• 24:37
  unhelpful?
• 24:38
  If
• 24:38
  you
• 24:39
  could
• 24:39
  give
• 24:39
  advice
• 24:40
  to
• 24:40
  your
• 24:40
  parents,
• 24:40
  what
• 24:40
  would
• 24:41
  it
• 24:41
  be?
• 24:42
  And
• 24:42
  some
• 24:42
  of
• 24:42
  the
• 24:42
  answers
• 24:43
  to
• 24:43
  that
• 24:43
  one
• 24:43
  were,
• 24:44
  don't
• 24:45
  say
• 24:45
  you
• 24:45
  can
• 24:46
  tell
• 24:46
  me
• 24:46
  anything,
• 24:47
  and
• 24:47
  then
• 24:47
  freak
• 24:47
  out
• 24:47
  and
• 24:48
  lecture
• 24:48
  us
• 24:48
  when
• 24:48
  we
• 24:49
  do.
• 24:49
  Don't
• 24:50
  criticize
• 24:50
  our
• 24:50
  friends.
• 24:51
  You
• 24:51
  really
• 24:51
  don't
• 24:51
  know
• 24:51
  them.
• 24:53
  I
• 24:53
  used
• 24:53
  to
• 24:53
  criticize
• 24:54
  your
• 24:54
  friends,
• 24:54
  didn't
• 24:54
  I?
• 24:55
  Oh,
• 24:55
  God,
• 24:56
  limitlessly.
• 24:57
  I
• 24:57
  remember.
• 24:58
  If
• 24:58
  you
• 24:58
  want
• 24:59
  your
• 24:59
  kids
• 24:59
  to
• 24:59
  tell
• 24:59
  you
• 24:59
  the
• 25:00
  truth,
• 25:00
  don't
• 25:00
  ground
• 25:01
  them
• 25:01
  for
• 25:01
  every
• 25:01
  little
• 25:02
  thing.
• 25:02
  If
• 25:03
  there's
• 25:03
  a
• 25:03
  way
• 25:03
  to
• 25:03
  let
• 25:03
  your
• 25:04
  kids
• 25:04
  experience
• 25:04
  life
• 25:05
  without
• 25:05
  being
• 25:05
  in
• 25:06
  danger.
• 25:06
  Give
• 25:07
  them
• 25:07
  more
• 25:07
  freedom.
• 25:08
  Yes,
• 25:08
  Things
• 25:08
  like
• 25:09
  that.
• 25:10
  The
• 25:10
  other
• 25:11
  things
• 25:12
  they
• 25:12
  said.
• 25:13
  I
• 25:13
  wish
• 25:13
  my
• 25:13
  parents
• 25:13
  would
• 25:14
  realize
• 25:14
  I'm
• 25:14
  not
• 25:14
  a
• 25:15
  baby
• 25:15
  anymore
• 25:15
  and
• 25:15
  let
• 25:16
  me
• 25:16
  do
• 25:16
  things
• 25:16
  that
• 25:17
  I
• 25:17
  want
• 25:17
  to
• 25:17
  do.
• 25:18
  I
• 25:18
  wish
• 25:18
  my
• 25:18
  schedule
• 25:19
  wasn't
• 25:19
  so
• 25:19
  packed
• 25:20
  with
• 25:20
  studying
• 25:20
  and
• 25:20
  music
• 25:21
  so
• 25:21
  I
• 25:21
  could
• 25:21
  spend
• 25:22
  more
• 25:22
  time
• 25:22
  with
• 25:22
  my
• 25:22
  friends.
• 25:23
  You
• 25:23
  packed
• 25:23
  my
• 25:24
  schedule
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  keep
• 25:24
  me
• 25:25
  out
• 25:25
  of
• 25:25
  trouble?
• 25:25
  I
• 25:26
  did
• 25:26
  because
• 25:27
  I
• 25:27
  went
• 25:27
  to
• 25:27
  a
• 25:27
  psychologist
• 25:28
  and
• 25:29
  you
• 25:29
  were
• 25:29
  struggling
• 25:30
  a
• 25:30
  little
• 25:30
  bit
• 25:30
  at
• 25:31
  school,
• 25:32
  and
• 25:32
  I
• 25:32
  was
• 25:32
  worried
• 25:33
  you
• 25:33
  were
• 25:33
  gonna
• 25:33
  get
• 25:33
  in
• 25:33
  trouble.
• 25:34
  And
• 25:34
  he
• 25:34
  said,
• 25:34
  keep
• 25:34
  her
• 25:35
  so
• 25:35
  busy
• 25:36
  that
• 25:36
  she
• 25:37
  has
• 25:37
  no
• 25:37
  time
• 25:37
  to
• 25:37
  get
• 25:38
  in
• 25:38
  trouble.
• 25:38
  So
• 25:38
  that's
• 25:39
  what
• 25:39
  you
• 25:39
  did.
• 25:39
  I
• 25:40
  persisted.
• 25:40
  And
• 25:41
  yet
• 25:41
  you
• 25:41
  probably
• 25:41
  did
• 25:42
  get
• 25:42
  in
• 25:42
  trouble,
• 25:42
  right?
• 25:45
  A
• 25:45
  time
• 25:45
  or
• 25:45
  two.
• 25:46
  A
• 25:46
  few
• 25:46
  times,
• 25:47
  yeah.
• 25:47
  Well,
• 25:47
  that's
• 25:48
  just,
• 25:48
  you
• 25:48
  know,
• 25:48
  that's
• 25:49
  teenagers
• 25:51
  anyway.
• 25:52
  Okay.
• 25:53
  So.
• 25:55
  Yeah.
• 25:55
  So
• 25:55
  these
• 25:56
  were
• 25:56
  some
• 25:56
  of
• 25:56
  their
• 25:56
  concerns.
• 25:59
  Okay.
• 25:59
  And
• 26:00
  so
• 26:00
  in
• 26:00
  this
• 26:00
  section,
• 26:01
  she
• 26:02
  talked
• 26:02
  about
• 26:03
  telling
• 26:03
  the
• 26:03
  kids,
• 26:03
  well,
• 26:04
  if
• 26:04
  I
• 26:04
  could
• 26:04
  help
• 26:05
  you
• 26:05
  communicate
• 26:06
  with
• 26:06
  your
• 26:06
  own
• 26:06
  friends
• 26:07
  better,
• 26:07
  would
• 26:07
  you
• 26:08
  like
• 26:08
  that?
• 26:08
  And
• 26:09
  the
• 26:09
  kids
• 26:09
  all
• 26:09
  wanted
• 26:10
  that.
• 26:10
  So
• 26:11
  there
• 26:11
  was
• 26:11
  a
• 26:12
  whole
• 26:12
  section
• 26:12
  on
• 26:13
  teaching
• 26:13
  the
• 26:14
  kids
• 26:15
  how
• 26:15
  to
• 26:15
  communicate
• 26:16
  better
• 26:16
  with
• 26:16
  their
• 26:16
  own
• 26:16
  friends.
• 26:17
  Yeah,
• 26:17
  that
• 26:18
  was
• 26:18
  helpful,
• 26:18
  probably
• 26:19
  for
• 26:19
  the
• 26:19
  kids.
• 26:19
  Yeah.
• 26:21
  I
• 26:21
  guess
• 26:22
  as
• 26:22
  like
• 26:22
  a
• 26:22
  teenager,
• 26:23
  I
• 26:23
  just
• 26:23
  wonder
• 26:23
  how
• 26:24
  much
• 26:24
  stock
• 26:24
  I
• 26:24
  would
• 26:24
  put
• 26:25
  into
• 26:25
  that.
• 26:27
  Right.
• 26:27
  Like,
• 26:27
  there
• 26:28
  were
• 26:28
  some
• 26:28
  moments
• 26:28
  in
• 26:28
  the
• 26:29
  book
• 26:29
  where
• 26:29
  I'm
• 26:29
  like,
• 26:30
  didn't
• 26:30
  he
• 26:30
  really
• 26:31
  say
• 26:31
  that?
• 26:32
  You
• 26:32
  know,
• 26:33
  well,
• 26:33
  it
• 26:33
  gives
• 26:34
  you
• 26:34
  things
• 26:34
  to
• 26:34
  try.
• 26:36
  Like,
• 26:36
  you
• 26:36
  know,
• 26:37
  in
• 26:37
  one
• 26:37
  case,
• 26:37
  there
• 26:37
  was
• 26:38
  a.
• 26:38
  This
• 26:39
  was
• 26:39
  in
• 26:39
  a
• 26:39
  comic,
• 26:40
  a
• 26:41
  friend
• 26:41
  calls
• 26:42
  a
• 26:42
  friend
• 26:43
  an
• 26:43
  idiot
• 26:43
  because
• 26:43
  she
• 26:44
  admitted
• 26:44
  having
• 26:44
  a
• 26:45
  crush
• 26:45
  on
• 26:45
  someone
• 26:46
  to
• 26:46
  a
• 26:46
  friend
• 26:46
  who
• 26:47
  was
• 26:47
  just
• 26:47
  a
• 26:47
  blabbermouth.
• 26:48
  And
• 26:49
  so
• 26:49
  she
• 26:49
  told
• 26:49
  her,
• 26:50
  you're
• 26:50
  so
• 26:50
  stupid.
• 26:50
  You
• 26:51
  shouldn't
• 26:51
  have
• 26:51
  said
• 26:52
  anything
• 26:52
  to
• 26:52
  this
• 26:52
  one.
• 26:53
  As
• 26:53
  opposed
• 26:54
  to,
• 26:54
  you
• 26:54
  know,
• 26:55
  you
• 26:56
  should
• 26:56
  just
• 26:56
  listen
• 26:57
  and
• 26:59
  just
• 26:59
  encourage
• 27:00
  them
• 27:00
  to
• 27:00
  keep
• 27:00
  talking
• 27:01
  without
• 27:01
  criticism,
• 27:02
  because
• 27:03
  never
• 27:03
  join
• 27:03
  the
• 27:03
  CIA.
• 27:04
  And
• 27:05
  then
• 27:05
  friends,
• 27:06
  one
• 27:06
  friend,
• 27:07
  one
• 27:07
  sticks
• 27:08
  up
• 27:08
  for
• 27:08
  friend,
• 27:08
  two's
• 27:09
  stepfather,
• 27:09
  one
• 27:09
  friend,
• 27:10
  friend,
• 27:10
  too,
• 27:10
  just
• 27:10
  wants
• 27:11
  to
• 27:11
  vent.
• 27:12
  So,
• 27:12
  you
• 27:12
  know,
• 27:13
  you
• 27:13
  don't
• 27:13
  want,
• 27:14
  you
• 27:14
  know,
• 27:14
  don't
• 27:14
  brush
• 27:15
  your
• 27:15
  friend's
• 27:16
  feelings
• 27:16
  aside.
• 27:17
  So
• 27:17
  these
• 27:17
  are
• 27:17
  lessons
• 27:18
  kid
• 27:19
  to
• 27:19
  kid,
• 27:19
  and
• 27:19
  I
• 27:20
  don't
• 27:20
  know
• 27:20
  if
• 27:20
  a
• 27:20
  kid
• 27:20
  would
• 27:21
  ever
• 27:21
  read
• 27:21
  this
• 27:21
  book
• 27:22
  to
• 27:22
  figure
• 27:22
  that
• 27:22
  out.
• 27:23
  Yeah,
• 27:23
  I
• 27:23
  don't
• 27:24
  think
• 27:24
  so.
• 27:24
  Honestly,
• 27:25
  getting
• 27:25
  a
• 27:25
  kid
• 27:25
  to
• 27:25
  read
• 27:26
  a
• 27:26
  book,
• 27:26
  period.
• 27:27
  Yeah.
• 27:27
  And
• 27:27
  this
• 27:27
  is
• 27:28
  not
• 27:28
  going
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  be
• 27:28
  the
• 27:28
  book
• 27:28
  they're
• 27:29
  going
• 27:29
  to
• 27:29
  read.
• 27:29
  No.
• 27:29
  That
• 27:29
  said,
• 27:30
  maybe
• 27:30
  tell
• 27:30
  them
• 27:30
  about
• 27:30
  the
• 27:31
  comics.
• 27:32
  Just
• 27:32
  look
• 27:32
  at
• 27:32
  the
• 27:32
  comics.
• 27:33
  Just
• 27:33
  read
• 27:33
  the
• 27:33
  comics.
• 27:34
  Yeah.
• 27:34
  Yeah.
• 27:34
  That's
• 27:35
  new.
• 27:35
  The
• 27:35
  comics
• 27:36
  are
• 27:36
  good.
• 27:37
  But
• 27:37
  the
• 27:37
  kids
• 27:38
  really
• 27:38
  liked
• 27:38
  learning
• 27:39
  how
• 27:39
  to.
• 27:42
  How
• 27:42
  to
• 27:42
  talk
• 27:42
  to
• 27:42
  their
• 27:43
  own
• 27:43
  friends.
• 27:43
  Yeah.
• 27:44
  Okay.
• 27:44
  Yeah,
• 27:44
  I
• 27:44
  think
• 27:45
  stuff
• 27:45
  like
• 27:45
  that
• 27:45
  could
• 27:46
  be
• 27:46
  helpful.
• 27:46
  Like,
• 27:47
  there
• 27:47
  should
• 27:47
  be
• 27:48
  a
• 27:48
  communications
• 27:49
  class
• 27:49
  in
• 27:49
  high
• 27:50
  school.
• 27:50
  Yeah.
• 27:51
  And
• 27:51
  it's
• 27:51
  not.
• 27:52
  I
• 27:52
  mean,
• 27:52
  I
• 27:53
  don't.
• 27:53
  I
• 27:53
  didn't
• 27:53
  go
• 27:53
  to
• 27:54
  college,
• 27:54
  so
• 27:54
  I
• 27:54
  know
• 27:54
  when
• 27:54
  people
• 27:55
  are
• 27:55
  like,
• 27:55
  I
• 27:55
  majored
• 27:55
  in
• 27:56
  communications.
• 27:56
  I'm
• 27:56
  like,
• 27:57
  not
• 27:57
  this.
• 27:58
  What
• 27:58
  does
• 27:58
  that
• 27:58
  mean?
• 27:59
  This
• 27:59
  would
• 27:59
  be
• 27:59
  more
• 27:59
  like
• 28:00
  psychology.
• 28:01
  It's
• 28:01
  like,
• 28:01
  how
• 28:01
  do
• 28:01
  I
• 28:02
  communicate
• 28:02
  with
• 28:03
  people
• 28:03
  in
• 28:03
  my
• 28:04
  life
• 28:05
  to,
• 28:06
  you
• 28:06
  know,
• 28:06
  just
• 28:07
  more
• 28:07
  effectively.
• 28:08
  Right.
• 28:08
  And
• 28:08
  especially
• 28:09
  during
• 28:10
  hard
• 28:10
  conversations.
• 28:11
  I
• 28:11
  don't
• 28:11
  think
• 28:11
  anyone
• 28:12
  is
• 28:12
  comfortable
• 28:13
  having
• 28:13
  hard
• 28:13
  conversations.
• 28:14
  Well,
• 28:14
  there's
• 28:14
  that
• 28:14
  one
• 28:14
  book
• 28:15
  everybody
• 28:15
  loves
• 28:16
  called
• 28:16
  Hard
• 28:17
  Conversations.
• 28:17
  Oh,
• 28:18
  really?
• 28:18
  Yeah.
• 28:18
  I've
• 28:19
  had
• 28:19
  so
• 28:19
  many
• 28:19
  people
• 28:19
  recommend
• 28:20
  it
• 28:20
  to
• 28:20
  me,
• 28:20
  and
• 28:20
  I
• 28:20
  haven't
• 28:21
  read
• 28:21
  it
• 28:21
  because
• 28:21
  now
• 28:22
  I
• 28:22
  read
• 28:22
  books
• 28:22
  for
• 28:22
  my
• 28:22
  job
• 28:23
  and
• 28:23
  I
• 28:23
  can't
• 28:24
  read
• 28:24
  books
• 28:24
  for
• 28:24
  leisure
• 28:25
  anymore.
• 28:26
  Oh.
• 28:26
  But
• 28:26
  maybe
• 28:26
  we
• 28:27
  should
• 28:27
  read
• 28:27
  it
• 28:27
  and
• 28:27
  see
• 28:28
  if
• 28:28
  it's
• 28:28
  applicable
• 28:28
  to
• 28:29
  the
• 28:29
  parenting
• 28:30
  Situation.
• 28:30
  I'm
• 28:31
  sure
• 28:31
  it
• 28:31
  is.
• 28:32
  It's
• 28:32
  supposed
• 28:32
  to
• 28:32
  be
• 28:32
  an
• 28:32
  amazing
• 28:33
  book.
• 28:33
  People
• 28:33
  love
• 28:34
  it.
• 28:34
  Yeah.
• 28:34
  Yeah.
• 28:34
  Because
• 28:35
  I
• 28:35
  know
• 28:35
  me,
• 28:36
  I
• 28:36
  mean,
• 28:36
  I'm
• 28:36
  really
• 28:36
  old
• 28:37
  and
• 28:37
  everything,
• 28:38
  but,
• 28:38
  But
• 28:39
  I've
• 28:40
  been
• 28:40
  through
• 28:40
  life,
• 28:41
  a
• 28:41
  lot
• 28:42
  of
• 28:42
  life.
• 28:42
  Right?
• 28:42
  You
• 28:43
  are
• 28:43
  wizened.
• 28:44
  You
• 28:44
  are
• 28:44
  seasoned.
• 28:45
  Wizened.
• 28:46
  What
• 28:46
  am
• 28:46
  I,
• 28:46
  like
• 28:46
  an
• 28:47
  old
• 28:47
  wizard
• 28:49
  in
• 28:49
  a
• 28:49
  Harry
• 28:50
  Potter
• 28:50
  book?
• 28:50
  No,
• 28:51
  wizened,
• 28:51
  like
• 28:52
  wise.
• 28:52
  Oh,
• 28:53
  I'm
• 28:53
  wise.
• 28:53
  People
• 28:53
  say
• 28:53
  wizened
• 28:54
  and
• 28:54
  I'm
• 28:54
  like,
• 28:55
  no,
• 28:55
  wizened.
• 28:56
  God,
• 28:56
  you
• 28:56
  have
• 28:56
  no
• 28:56
  grip
• 28:57
  on
• 28:57
  the
• 28:57
  English
• 28:57
  language.
• 28:58
  You
• 28:58
  are
• 28:58
  wizened.
• 28:59
  Okay,
• 29:00
  well,
• 29:01
  all
• 29:01
  I'm
• 29:01
  saying
• 29:01
  is
• 29:02
  I
• 29:02
  have
• 29:02
  a
• 29:02
  really
• 29:02
  hard
• 29:03
  time
• 29:03
  with
• 29:03
  a
• 29:03
  hard
• 29:04
  conversation.
• 29:05
  You
• 29:05
  know,
• 29:05
  I
• 29:05
  struggle
• 29:05
  with.
• 29:06
  You
• 29:06
  hate
• 29:07
  confrontation
• 29:07
  more
• 29:08
  than
• 29:08
  anyone
• 29:08
  I
• 29:09
  have
• 29:09
  ever
• 29:09
  met
• 29:10
  in
• 29:10
  my
• 29:10
  life.
• 29:10
  It's
• 29:10
  terrible.
• 29:11
  I
• 29:11
  mean,
• 29:11
  that's
• 29:11
  why
• 29:11
  I
• 29:12
  had
• 29:12
  to
• 29:12
  give
• 29:12
  up
• 29:12
  being
• 29:12
  a
• 29:12
  lawyer.
• 29:13
  The
• 29:13
  gymnastics
• 29:14
  you
• 29:14
  will
• 29:14
  do
• 29:15
  to
• 29:15
  avoid
• 29:16
  a
• 29:16
  confrontation
• 29:16
  is
• 29:17
  incredible
• 29:17
  to
• 29:17
  me.
• 29:18
  It's
• 29:18
  so
• 29:18
  stupid.
• 29:19
  I
• 29:19
  know.
• 29:19
  I
• 29:20
  just.
• 29:20
  You'll
• 29:20
  tell
• 29:20
  me
• 29:20
  about
• 29:21
  things
• 29:21
  that
• 29:21
  happen
• 29:21
  in
• 29:21
  your
• 29:22
  life
• 29:22
  and
• 29:22
  I'll
• 29:23
  be
• 29:23
  like,
• 29:23
  so
• 29:23
  you
• 29:23
  swung
• 29:24
  on
• 29:24
  him,
• 29:24
  right?
• 29:24
  And
• 29:24
  you're
• 29:25
  like,
• 29:25
  no,
• 29:26
  I
• 29:26
  just
• 29:27
  walked
• 29:27
  away.
• 29:28
  I
• 29:28
  walked
• 29:28
  away
• 29:30
  and
• 29:30
  that
• 29:30
  was
• 29:30
  that.
• 29:31
  I'm
• 29:31
  like,
• 29:31
  oh
• 29:32
  my
• 29:32
  God,
• 29:32
  am
• 29:32
  I
• 29:32
  holding
• 29:33
  a
• 29:33
  grudge
• 29:33
  to
• 29:34
  this
• 29:34
  day?
• 29:35
  This
• 29:35
  is
• 29:35
  why
• 29:35
  I.
• 29:36
  Yeah,
• 29:36
  no,
• 29:36
  I
• 29:37
  mean,
• 29:37
  it's,
• 29:37
  it's,
• 29:38
  you
• 29:38
  know,
• 29:38
  it's
• 29:38
  why
• 29:38
  I
• 29:38
  can't
• 29:39
  sleep
• 29:39
  at
• 29:39
  night.
• 29:39
  When
• 29:40
  you
• 29:40
  told
• 29:40
  me
• 29:40
  about
• 29:40
  that
• 29:40
  man
• 29:40
  who
• 29:40
  was
• 29:41
  mean
• 29:41
  to
• 29:41
  you
• 29:41
  at
• 29:41
  the
• 29:41
  dog
• 29:41
  park,
• 29:42
  I
• 29:42
  almost
• 29:42
  got
• 29:42
  on
• 29:42
  a
• 29:42
  plane.
• 29:43
  Oh,
• 29:44
  yeah.
• 29:44
  I
• 29:44
  almost
• 29:45
  got
• 29:45
  on
• 29:45
  a
• 29:45
  plane.
• 29:46
  Figured
• 29:46
  out
• 29:46
  his
• 29:47
  apartment.
• 29:47
  Oh,
• 29:47
  that,
• 29:47
  that
• 29:48
  whole
• 29:48
  man.
• 29:49
  Yeah.
• 29:49
  And
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  would
• 29:51
  have
• 29:51
  let
• 29:51
  him.
• 29:51
  Yelled
• 29:52
  at
• 29:52
  me.
• 29:52
  He
• 29:52
  yelled
• 29:52
  at
• 29:53
  me
• 29:53
  and
• 29:53
  it
• 29:53
  was
• 29:53
  ridiculous.
• 29:54
  I
• 29:54
  did,
• 29:54
  I
• 29:54
  did
• 29:55
  not
• 29:55
  deserve
• 29:56
  it
• 29:56
  and.
• 29:57
  Yeah,
• 29:57
  but
• 29:57
  I
• 29:57
  didn't.
• 29:58
  For
• 29:58
  yourself.
• 29:59
  I,
• 29:59
  I,
• 29:59
  I
• 30:00
  did
• 30:00
  yell
• 30:00
  at
• 30:00
  him.
• 30:00
  Back
• 30:01
  another
• 30:01
  time.
• 30:02
  Okay,
• 30:02
  good.
• 30:02
  When
• 30:02
  you
• 30:03
  had
• 30:03
  time
• 30:03
  to
• 30:03
  gather
• 30:03
  yourself.
• 30:05
  Yeah,
• 30:05
  well,
• 30:05
  he
• 30:06
  was
• 30:06
  so
• 30:07
  his
• 30:07
  dog
• 30:08
  got
• 30:08
  my
• 30:08
  dog's
• 30:09
  head
• 30:09
  in
• 30:09
  his
• 30:10
  mouth
• 30:10
  and
• 30:10
  the
• 30:11
  man
• 30:11
  would
• 30:11
  not
• 30:12
  help
• 30:12
  me
• 30:12
  get
• 30:12
  the
• 30:13
  dogs
• 30:13
  apart.
• 30:14
  And
• 30:14
  so
• 30:15
  that's
• 30:15
  when
• 30:16
  I
• 30:16
  yell
• 30:16
  at
• 30:16
  them.
• 30:16
  I
• 30:16
  hate
• 30:16
  that.
• 30:17
  I
• 30:17
  know.
• 30:17
  So
• 30:18
  I
• 30:18
  can
• 30:18
  yell
• 30:18
  at
• 30:19
  people
• 30:19
  under
• 30:19
  the
• 30:19
  right
• 30:19
  circumstance,
• 30:20
  but
• 30:20
  it
• 30:20
  takes
• 30:20
  a
• 30:20
  lot.
• 30:21
  Yeah,
• 30:21
  it
• 30:21
  takes
• 30:21
  a
• 30:22
  lot.
• 30:22
  It
• 30:22
  takes
• 30:22
  a
• 30:22
  lot.
• 30:22
  And
• 30:22
  I
• 30:23
  would
• 30:23
  like
• 30:23
  to
• 30:24
  know
• 30:24
  how
• 30:24
  to
• 30:24
  have
• 30:24
  hard
• 30:25
  conversations
• 30:26
  in
• 30:26
  a
• 30:27
  less
• 30:27
  confrontational
• 30:28
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• 30:28
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• 30:28
  I'm
• 30:29
  sure
• 30:29
  it's
• 30:29
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• 31:37
  So
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• 31:38
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• 31:40
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  So
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  parents
• 31:40
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• 31:41
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  So
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  parents
• 31:44
  and
• 31:44
  teens
• 31:45
  together.
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  Meeting
• 31:46
  of
• 31:46
  the
• 31:46
  mind.
• 31:47
  That's
• 31:47
  right.
• 31:47
  And
• 31:49
  she
• 31:49
  challenges
• 31:50
  the
• 31:50
  group.
• 31:50
  You
• 31:50
  know,
• 31:50
  if
• 31:51
  we
• 31:51
  ever
• 31:51
  find
• 31:51
  ourselves
• 31:52
  becoming
• 31:52
  annoyed
• 31:53
  or
• 31:53
  angry
• 31:53
  with
• 31:53
  anyone
• 31:54
  in
• 31:54
  our
• 31:54
  family,
• 31:55
  we
• 31:55
  need
• 31:55
  to
• 31:55
  stop,
• 31:56
  take
• 31:56
  a
• 31:56
  breath,
• 31:56
  ask
• 31:57
  ourselves,
• 31:57
  how
• 31:58
  can
• 31:58
  I
• 31:58
  express
• 31:59
  my
• 31:59
  honest
• 31:59
  feelings
• 32:00
  in
• 32:00
  a
• 32:00
  way
• 32:00
  that
• 32:01
  will
• 32:01
  make
• 32:01
  it
• 32:01
  possible
• 32:02
  for
• 32:02
  the
• 32:02
  other
• 32:03
  person
• 32:03
  to
• 32:03
  hear
• 32:04
  me
• 32:04
  and
• 32:04
  even
• 32:04
  consider
• 32:05
  what
• 32:05
  I'm
• 32:05
  saying?
• 32:06
  It's
• 32:06
  not
• 32:06
  easy.
• 32:07
  We
• 32:07
  have
• 32:07
  to
• 32:07
  make
• 32:07
  a
• 32:08
  conscious
• 32:08
  decision
• 32:09
  not
• 32:09
  to
• 32:10
  tell
• 32:10
  another
• 32:11
  person
• 32:11
  what's
• 32:11
  wrong
• 32:12
  with
• 32:12
  them,
• 32:12
  but
• 32:13
  to
• 32:13
  only
• 32:13
  talk
• 32:13
  about
• 32:13
  yourself.
• 32:14
  What
• 32:14
  you
• 32:15
  feel,
• 32:15
  what
• 32:16
  you
• 32:16
  want,
• 32:17
  don't
• 32:17
  like,
• 32:17
  or
• 32:17
  would
• 32:18
  like,
• 32:18
  speak
• 32:18
  and
• 32:19
  I
• 32:19
  statements
• 32:19
  I
• 32:20
  like.
• 32:21
  Right?
• 32:21
  What?
• 32:21
  Exactly.
• 32:23
  So
• 32:23
  when
• 32:23
  parents
• 32:24
  are
• 32:24
  frustrated,
• 32:25
  you
• 32:25
  know,
• 32:25
  sometimes
• 32:25
  they
• 32:26
  lash
• 32:26
  out
• 32:26
  with
• 32:26
  angry
• 32:27
  accusations.
• 32:28
  So
• 32:28
  instead
• 32:29
  of
• 32:29
  accusing,
• 32:30
  you
• 32:30
  might
• 32:30
  say
• 32:31
  something
• 32:31
  like,
• 32:31
  I
• 32:32
  get
• 32:32
  upset
• 32:32
  when
• 32:33
  I'm
• 32:33
  in
• 32:33
  the
• 32:33
  middle
• 32:33
  of
• 32:33
  a
• 32:34
  sentence
• 32:34
  and
• 32:34
  someone
• 32:35
  walks
• 32:35
  out
• 32:35
  on
• 32:35
  me.
• 32:36
  If
• 32:36
  what
• 32:36
  I'm
• 32:37
  saying
• 32:37
  bothers
• 32:37
  you,
• 32:38
  just
• 32:38
  tell
• 32:38
  me
• 32:39
  and
• 32:39
  I'll
• 32:39
  listen.
• 32:40
  That
• 32:40
  would
• 32:40
  be
• 32:40
  hard,
• 32:41
  but
• 32:41
  okay.
• 32:42
  When
• 32:42
  teens
• 32:42
  are
• 32:42
  insulted,
• 32:43
  sometimes
• 32:44
  they
• 32:44
  return
• 32:44
  the
• 32:44
  insult
• 32:45
  instead
• 32:45
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• 32:46
  counterattack.
• 32:47
  You
• 32:47
  know,
• 32:48
  instead
• 32:48
  just
• 32:49
  say,
• 32:49
  hey,
• 32:49
  dad,
• 32:49
  that
• 32:50
  hurts.
• 32:50
  I
• 32:51
  like
• 32:51
  what
• 32:51
  I'm
• 32:51
  wearing.
• 32:52
  I
• 32:52
  know
• 32:52
  it's
• 32:52
  not
• 32:52
  your
• 32:52
  taste,
• 32:53
  but
• 32:53
  I
• 32:53
  wish
• 32:53
  you'd
• 32:53
  respect
• 32:54
  me
• 32:54
  more
• 32:54
  instead.
• 32:55
  They
• 32:55
  deliver
• 32:55
  a
• 32:56
  sick
• 32:56
  burn.
• 32:57
  Yeah,
• 32:57
  I
• 32:58
  mean,
• 32:58
  but
• 32:58
  if
• 32:58
  my
• 32:58
  kid
• 32:59
  ever
• 32:59
  said
• 32:59
  that
• 32:59
  back
• 32:59
  to
• 32:59
  me,
• 33:00
  I'd
• 33:00
  be
• 33:00
  like,
• 33:00
  oh,
• 33:01
  I'm
• 33:01
  sorry.
• 33:02
  I
• 33:02
  mean,
• 33:02
  I
• 33:03
  would,
• 33:03
  you
• 33:03
  know
• 33:04
  how?
• 33:04
  Do
• 33:04
  you
• 33:04
  remember
• 33:04
  the
• 33:05
  stuff
• 33:05
  you
• 33:05
  used
• 33:05
  to
• 33:05
  say
• 33:05
  to
• 33:05
  me
• 33:06
  when
• 33:06
  you
• 33:06
  didn't
• 33:06
  like
• 33:06
  my
• 33:06
  outfit?
• 33:07
  You
• 33:07
  told
• 33:07
  me
• 33:07
  once
• 33:07
  I
• 33:08
  couldn't
• 33:08
  wear
• 33:08
  an
• 33:08
  all
• 33:09
  leather
• 33:09
  outfit.
• 33:10
  Right?
• 33:10
  And
• 33:10
  I
• 33:11
  remember
• 33:11
  telling
• 33:11
  one
• 33:11
  of
• 33:12
  your
• 33:12
  friends,
• 33:12
  you
• 33:13
  guys
• 33:13
  were
• 33:13
  about
• 33:13
  to
• 33:13
  go
• 33:13
  out
• 33:13
  that
• 33:14
  she
• 33:14
  looked
• 33:14
  like
• 33:14
  a
• 33:14
  hooker
• 33:15
  and
• 33:15
  she
• 33:15
  couldn't
• 33:15
  go
• 33:16
  out.
• 33:16
  And
• 33:16
  you
• 33:16
  were
• 33:17
  so
• 33:17
  mad
• 33:17
  at
• 33:17
  me.
• 33:17
  You
• 33:17
  call
• 33:17
  people
• 33:18
  that
• 33:18
  anymore?
• 33:19
  I'm
• 33:19
  sorry.
• 33:20
  It's
• 33:20
  okay.
• 33:21
  But
• 33:21
  that's
• 33:22
  what
• 33:22
  I
• 33:22
  said.
• 33:22
  This
• 33:22
  was
• 33:23
  before
• 33:23
  I
• 33:23
  was
• 33:24
  understood.
• 33:25
  Language
• 33:26
  issues.
• 33:26
  But
• 33:27
  she
• 33:28
  looked
• 33:28
  like
• 33:28
  a
• 33:28
  street
• 33:28
  walker.
• 33:29
  I
• 33:29
  was
• 33:29
  like,
• 33:29
  also
• 33:30
  teen.
• 33:30
  We
• 33:30
  don't
• 33:31
  use
• 33:31
  this
• 33:32
  somewhere.
• 33:33
  Oh,
• 33:34
  God.
• 33:34
  You're
• 33:34
  gonna
• 33:34
  have
• 33:34
  to
• 33:35
  bleep
• 33:35
  me.
• 33:35
  I'm
• 33:36
  just
• 33:36
  gonna
• 33:36
  cut
• 33:36
  this
• 33:36
  whole
• 33:36
  section
• 33:37
  out
• 33:38
  so
• 33:38
  you
• 33:38
  don't
• 33:38
  get
• 33:39
  canceled.
• 33:39
  Thank
• 33:40
  you.
• 33:40
  Thank
• 33:40
  you.
• 33:41
  Okay,
• 33:41
  we
• 33:41
  won't
• 33:42
  do
• 33:42
  that.
• 33:42
  We
• 33:42
  won't
• 33:43
  talk
• 33:43
  about
• 33:43
  that
• 33:43
  because.
• 33:44
  Yeah,
• 33:44
  okay.
• 33:45
  Okay.
• 33:45
  No,
• 33:46
  I.
• 33:46
  I
• 33:46
  said
• 33:46
  inappropriate
• 33:47
  things
• 33:48
  to
• 33:48
  your
• 33:48
  friends.
• 33:49
  I
• 33:49
  remember
• 33:50
  that.
• 33:50
  Very
• 33:50
  judgmental.
• 33:51
  Very
• 33:52
  judgmental.
• 33:52
  We
• 33:52
  were
• 33:53
  expressing
• 33:53
  our
• 33:53
  personal
• 33:54
  styles.
• 33:54
  Okay,
• 33:55
  I
• 33:56
  know,
• 33:56
  I
• 33:56
  know.
• 33:56
  And
• 33:57
  I
• 33:57
  wanted
• 33:57
  to
• 33:57
  dress
• 33:57
  like
• 33:58
  a
• 33:58
  leather
• 33:58
  daddy
• 33:58
  as
• 33:59
  a
• 33:59
  teenager,
• 33:59
  and
• 34:00
  you
• 34:00
  said,
• 34:00
  no.
• 34:01
  No
• 34:01
  way.
• 34:02
  Right?
• 34:02
  And
• 34:03
  guess
• 34:03
  what
• 34:03
  I
• 34:03
  did?
• 34:04
  I
• 34:04
  put
• 34:04
  on
• 34:04
  a
• 34:04
  different
• 34:04
  outfit.
• 34:05
  And
• 34:05
  then
• 34:05
  when
• 34:05
  I
• 34:05
  got
• 34:06
  to
• 34:06
  where
• 34:06
  I
• 34:06
  was
• 34:06
  going,
• 34:07
  I
• 34:07
  changed
• 34:08
  anyway.
• 34:08
  So
• 34:08
  it
• 34:08
  was
• 34:09
  futile.
• 34:09
  You
• 34:10
  showed
• 34:10
  me.
• 34:10
  I
• 34:11
  showed
• 34:11
  you?
• 34:11
  As
• 34:11
  if
• 34:12
  I
• 34:12
  didn't
• 34:12
  show
• 34:12
  you.
• 34:13
  I
• 34:13
  hid
• 34:13
  it
• 34:13
  from
• 34:13
  you.
• 34:15
  Great.
• 34:16
  Okay.
• 34:16
  Well,
• 34:16
  I'm
• 34:17
  just
• 34:17
  glad
• 34:17
  you
• 34:17
  grew
• 34:17
  up.
• 34:18
  Okay.
• 34:18
  And
• 34:18
  nothing
• 34:19
  terrible
• 34:19
  happened.
• 34:20
  You
• 34:20
  know,
• 34:20
  that
• 34:21
  outfit
• 34:21
  really
• 34:21
  could
• 34:22
  have
• 34:22
  been
• 34:22
  the
• 34:22
  thing
• 34:22
  that
• 34:23
  put
• 34:23
  me
• 34:23
  over
• 34:23
  the
• 34:23
  edge.
• 34:26
  Might
• 34:26
  have.
• 34:27
  I
• 34:27
  was
• 34:28
  trying
• 34:28
  to
• 34:28
  teach
• 34:28
  you
• 34:28
  how
• 34:29
  to
• 34:29
  be
• 34:29
  appropriate.
• 34:29
  You
• 34:30
  know,
• 34:30
  I
• 34:30
  don't
• 34:31
  know
• 34:31
  that
• 34:31
  I've
• 34:31
  ever
• 34:31
  learned
• 34:32
  that
• 34:32
  lesson.
• 34:32
  I
• 34:33
  guess
• 34:33
  not.
• 34:34
  Okay.
• 34:35
  Okay.
• 34:36
  Okay.
• 34:37
  So
• 34:37
  they.
• 34:38
  She
• 34:38
  says,
• 34:38
  you
• 34:38
  need
• 34:38
  to
• 34:39
  learn
• 34:39
  how
• 34:39
  to
• 34:40
  express
• 34:40
  your
• 34:41
  irritation
• 34:42
  in
• 34:42
  ways
• 34:42
  that
• 34:42
  are
• 34:43
  helpful
• 34:43
  rather
• 34:43
  than
• 34:44
  hurtful.
• 34:44
  Participants
• 34:45
  come
• 34:45
  up
• 34:45
  with
• 34:46
  examples
• 34:46
  of
• 34:47
  how
• 34:48
  they
• 34:48
  can
• 34:49
  describe
• 34:49
  their
• 34:50
  feelings
• 34:50
  instead
• 34:50
  of
• 34:51
  creating
• 34:51
  a
• 34:51
  conflict.
• 34:51
  And
• 34:52
  this
• 34:52
  is
• 34:52
  an
• 34:52
  exercise
• 34:53
  she
• 34:53
  does
• 34:53
  with
• 34:53
  kids.
• 34:54
  And
• 34:54
  the
• 34:54
  moms
• 34:55
  in
• 34:55
  the
• 34:55
  workshop,
• 34:55
  the
• 34:56
  dads,
• 34:56
  too.
• 34:56
  Instead
• 34:57
  of
• 34:57
  saying,
• 34:57
  all
• 34:58
  I
• 34:58
  ever
• 34:58
  hear
• 34:58
  from
• 34:59
  you
• 34:59
  is,
• 34:59
  give
• 34:59
  me,
• 34:59
  give
• 35:00
  me,
• 35:00
  give
• 35:00
  me.
• 35:00
  No
• 35:01
  matter
• 35:01
  what
• 35:01
  I
• 35:01
  do
• 35:01
  for
• 35:02
  you,
• 35:02
  it's
• 35:02
  never
• 35:02
  enough.
• 35:02
  And
• 35:03
  I
• 35:03
  don't
• 35:03
  ever
• 35:03
  get
• 35:04
  a
• 35:05
  thank
• 35:05
  you
• 35:05
  from
• 35:05
  you.
• 35:06
  Say,
• 35:07
  hey,
• 35:07
  I'm
• 35:08
  happy
• 35:08
  to
• 35:08
  help
• 35:08
  where
• 35:09
  I
• 35:09
  can,
• 35:09
  but
• 35:10
  when
• 35:10
  I
• 35:10
  do,
• 35:11
  I'd
• 35:11
  like
• 35:11
  to
• 35:11
  hear
• 35:12
  a
• 35:12
  word
• 35:12
  of
• 35:12
  appreciation.
• 35:14
  So
• 35:14
  instead
• 35:14
  of
• 35:15
  getting
• 35:15
  mad,
• 35:15
  you
• 35:16
  say
• 35:16
  it
• 35:16
  nicely
• 35:16
  like
• 35:16
  that.
• 35:18
  I
• 35:18
  hate
• 35:18
  getting
• 35:19
  into
• 35:19
  an
• 35:19
  argument
• 35:20
  when
• 35:20
  I
• 35:20
  ask
• 35:20
  for
• 35:20
  help.
• 35:21
  It
• 35:21
  would
• 35:21
  make
• 35:21
  me
• 35:22
  so
• 35:22
  happy
• 35:22
  just
• 35:23
  to
• 35:23
  hear,
• 35:23
  say
• 35:24
  no
• 35:24
  more,
• 35:24
  Mom.
• 35:25
  I'm
• 35:25
  on
• 35:25
  the
• 35:25
  job
• 35:27
  again.
• 35:28
  Some
• 35:28
  of
• 35:28
  these
• 35:28
  things
• 35:29
  I'm
• 35:29
  like,
• 35:30
  who?
• 35:30
  Well,
• 35:30
  okay,
• 35:31
  maybe
• 35:31
  a
• 35:31
  kid
• 35:31
  wouldn't.
• 35:33
  Well,
• 35:33
  but
• 35:34
  it
• 35:34
  would.
• 35:34
  You
• 35:35
  know,
• 35:35
  if
• 35:35
  you
• 35:35
  say
• 35:35
  to
• 35:35
  your
• 35:36
  kid
• 35:36
  said
• 35:36
  something
• 35:37
  goofy
• 35:37
  like
• 35:37
  that,
• 35:38
  maybe
• 35:38
  they'll
• 35:38
  laugh.
• 35:39
  Okay,
• 35:39
  Mom.
• 35:40
  On
• 35:40
  the
• 35:40
  job.
• 35:40
  On
• 35:41
  the
• 35:41
  job.
• 35:43
  Okay.
• 35:43
  I
• 35:43
  hate
• 35:44
  being
• 35:44
  home
• 35:44
  on
• 35:44
  Saturday
• 35:45
  nights.
• 35:45
  This
• 35:46
  is
• 35:46
  what
• 35:46
  a
• 35:46
  kid
• 35:46
  might
• 35:46
  say.
• 35:47
  I
• 35:47
  hate
• 35:47
  being
• 35:47
  home
• 35:48
  on
• 35:48
  Saturday
• 35:48
  nights
• 35:49
  when
• 35:49
  all
• 35:49
  my
• 35:49
  friends
• 35:49
  are
• 35:50
  having
• 35:50
  Fun
• 35:50
  hanging
• 35:51
  out
• 35:51
  at
• 35:51
  the
• 35:51
  mall.
• 35:52
  This
• 35:52
  just
• 35:52
  sounds
• 35:52
  like
• 35:52
  ways
• 35:53
  to
• 35:53
  manipulate
• 35:53
  your
• 35:54
  parents,
• 35:54
  because
• 35:55
  ultimately
• 35:55
  the
• 35:56
  result
• 35:56
  is
• 35:56
  the
• 35:56
  same.
• 35:57
  Right.
• 35:57
  You
• 35:57
  get
• 35:57
  to
• 35:58
  go
• 35:58
  out
• 35:58
  to
• 35:58
  the
• 35:58
  mall
• 35:58
  and
• 35:59
  do
• 35:59
  whatever
• 35:59
  nonsense
• 36:00
  you
• 36:00
  were
• 36:00
  going
• 36:00
  to
• 36:00
  be
• 36:00
  doing.
• 36:01
  Right.
• 36:01
  But,
• 36:01
  like.
• 36:02
  Like,
• 36:03
  I
• 36:03
  don't
• 36:03
  know.
• 36:03
  I
• 36:04
  don't
• 36:04
  know
• 36:04
  about
• 36:04
  this.
• 36:05
  But.
• 36:05
  But.
• 36:06
  No,
• 36:06
  but
• 36:06
  wouldn't
• 36:06
  you
• 36:06
  rather
• 36:07
  have
• 36:07
  a
• 36:07
  civilized
• 36:08
  conversation
• 36:08
  about
• 36:09
  it
• 36:09
  with
• 36:09
  your
• 36:09
  child
• 36:10
  rather
• 36:10
  than
• 36:10
  yelling
• 36:11
  and
• 36:11
  stupid.
• 36:11
  Imagine
• 36:11
  I
• 36:12
  had
• 36:12
  been,
• 36:12
  hey,
• 36:13
  Mom,
• 36:13
  I'm
• 36:13
  gonna
• 36:13
  go
• 36:14
  stay
• 36:14
  at
• 36:14
  my
• 36:14
  friend's
• 36:14
  house,
• 36:15
  and
• 36:15
  we're
• 36:15
  gonna
• 36:15
  go
• 36:15
  to
• 36:15
  a
• 36:16
  nightclub.
• 36:17
  Well,
• 36:17
  if
• 36:17
  you
• 36:18
  do
• 36:18
  that.
• 36:18
  I
• 36:18
  know.
• 36:19
  Civilized.
• 36:20
  Yeah,
• 36:20
  see,
• 36:20
  that's
• 36:21
  why
• 36:21
  I
• 36:21
  didn't
• 36:22
  say
• 36:22
  it
• 36:22
  like
• 36:22
  that.
• 36:23
  Hey,
• 36:23
  Mom,
• 36:23
  I'm
• 36:24
  gonna
• 36:24
  go
• 36:24
  have
• 36:24
  a
• 36:24
  sleepover
• 36:25
  party
• 36:25
  at
• 36:25
  my
• 36:25
  friend's
• 36:26
  house.
• 36:26
  And
• 36:26
  you
• 36:26
  said,
• 36:27
  okay,
• 36:28
  I
• 36:28
  would
• 36:28
  check
• 36:29
  their
• 36:29
  own
• 36:29
  father
• 36:29
  or
• 36:30
  mother.
• 36:30
  Yeah.
• 36:31
  And
• 36:31
  then
• 36:31
  they
• 36:31
  would
• 36:31
  pretend
• 36:32
  to
• 36:32
  be
• 36:32
  their
• 36:32
  own
• 36:32
  father
• 36:32
  or
• 36:33
  mother.
• 36:35
  Oh,
• 36:35
  God.
• 36:36
  You
• 36:36
  know,
• 36:36
  it's
• 36:36
  a.
• 36:37
  I'm
• 36:37
  going
• 36:37
  need
• 36:37
  to
• 36:37
  FaceTime
• 36:38
  parents
• 36:38
  if
• 36:38
  my
• 36:39
  child
• 36:39
  is
• 36:39
  going
• 36:39
  over
• 36:39
  to
• 36:40
  their
• 36:40
  house.
• 36:40
  Well,
• 36:40
  now,
• 36:40
  I
• 36:41
  would
• 36:41
  do
• 36:41
  that
• 36:41
  in
• 36:41
  those
• 36:41
  days,
• 36:42
  I.
• 36:42
  Although
• 36:42
  the
• 36:42
  AI
• 36:43
  might
• 36:43
  be
• 36:43
  so
• 36:43
  advanced
• 36:44
  by
• 36:44
  then
• 36:44
  that,
• 36:45
  like.
• 36:45
  No,
• 36:45
  but
• 36:46
  I
• 36:46
  think
• 36:46
  you're
• 36:46
  right.
• 36:46
  I
• 36:47
  think
• 36:47
  as
• 36:47
  a
• 36:47
  parent,
• 36:48
  if
• 36:48
  you
• 36:48
  do
• 36:48
  want
• 36:48
  to
• 36:48
  check
• 36:49
  on,
• 36:49
  you
• 36:49
  know,
• 36:50
  to
• 36:50
  make
• 36:50
  sure
• 36:51
  your
• 36:51
  friends,
• 36:52
  the
• 36:53
  child's
• 36:54
  parent
• 36:54
  will
• 36:54
  be
• 36:54
  there,
• 36:55
  you
• 36:55
  should
• 36:55
  FaceTime
• 36:56
  them
• 36:56
  and
• 36:56
  make
• 36:56
  sure
• 36:56
  you
• 36:56
  are
• 36:57
  talking
• 36:57
  to.
• 36:59
  Yeah.
• 36:59
  Because
• 36:59
  I
• 37:00
  remember
• 37:00
  you
• 37:00
  did
• 37:01
  that
• 37:01
  to
• 37:01
  me.
• 37:01
  Oh,
• 37:02
  I
• 37:02
  did
• 37:02
  that.
• 37:02
  I
• 37:02
  know
• 37:02
  you
• 37:02
  did.
• 37:03
  And
• 37:03
  so
• 37:04
  you
• 37:04
  were
• 37:04
  so
• 37:04
  devious.
• 37:06
  And
• 37:06
  I
• 37:06
  remember
• 37:07
  once
• 37:08
  you
• 37:08
  were
• 37:08
  invited
• 37:08
  over
• 37:09
  to
• 37:09
  a
• 37:09
  friend's
• 37:09
  house,
• 37:10
  and
• 37:11
  I
• 37:11
  said,
• 37:11
  will
• 37:12
  the
• 37:12
  parents
• 37:12
  be
• 37:12
  there?
• 37:13
  And
• 37:13
  you
• 37:13
  said,
• 37:14
  talk
• 37:14
  to
• 37:14
  the
• 37:14
  dad.
• 37:14
  And
• 37:15
  I
• 37:15
  did
• 37:15
  talk
• 37:15
  to
• 37:15
  the
• 37:15
  dad.
• 37:16
  And
• 37:17
  this
• 37:17
  dad
• 37:17
  said,
• 37:17
  no,
• 37:17
  I'm
• 37:18
  not
• 37:18
  gonna
• 37:18
  be
• 37:18
  there.
• 37:18
  And
• 37:19
  I'm
• 37:19
  like,
• 37:19
  oh,
• 37:20
  well,
• 37:20
  then
• 37:20
  I
• 37:20
  guess
• 37:20
  Skylar
• 37:21
  can't
• 37:21
  come.
• 37:21
  And
• 37:22
  he
• 37:22
  says,
• 37:22
  you
• 37:22
  know,
• 37:22
  I
• 37:23
  trust
• 37:23
  my
• 37:23
  daughter,
• 37:24
  so
• 37:24
  I
• 37:25
  know
• 37:25
  she's
• 37:25
  not
• 37:25
  gonna
• 37:26
  do
• 37:26
  anything
• 37:26
  wrong.
• 37:26
  Wrong.
• 37:27
  And
• 37:27
  I'm
• 37:28
  like,
• 37:28
  well,
• 37:29
  I
• 37:29
  don't
• 37:29
  trust
• 37:29
  mine.
• 37:30
  I
• 37:31
  said,
• 37:31
  I
• 37:32
  knew,
• 37:32
  and
• 37:32
  I
• 37:32
  don't.
• 37:33
  Didn't
• 37:33
  trust
• 37:33
  her
• 37:33
  either.
• 37:34
  I
• 37:34
  mean,
• 37:34
  come
• 37:34
  on.
• 37:35
  You
• 37:35
  know,
• 37:35
  I
• 37:35
  mean,
• 37:35
  we
• 37:35
  were
• 37:36
  what,
• 37:36
  like,
• 37:36
  14?
• 37:36
  Yeah.
• 37:37
  You
• 37:37
  were
• 37:37
  gonna
• 37:38
  do.
• 37:38
  They
• 37:38
  were
• 37:38
  sort
• 37:39
  of
• 37:39
  European
• 37:40
  in.
• 37:41
  Yeah.
• 37:41
  In
• 37:42
  essence.
• 37:42
  Yeah.
• 37:43
  But
• 37:43
  that's.
• 37:43
  It's
• 37:43
  like
• 37:44
  you.
• 37:44
  You
• 37:44
  know,
• 37:44
  you
• 37:44
  have
• 37:45
  to.
• 37:46
  I
• 37:46
  don't
• 37:46
  know.
• 37:47
  I.
• 37:47
  I
• 37:47
  needed
• 37:47
  more
• 37:48
  control
• 37:48
  over
• 37:48
  you
• 37:49
  or.
• 37:50
  I
• 37:50
  don't
• 37:51
  know
• 37:51
  if
• 37:51
  I
• 37:51
  had
• 37:51
  it,
• 37:51
  but
• 37:52
  I
• 37:52
  tried
• 37:52
  to
• 37:53
  have
• 37:53
  it.
• 37:53
  Yeah,
• 37:54
  you
• 37:54
  had
• 37:54
  the
• 37:54
  illusion
• 37:55
  of
• 37:55
  control,
• 37:56
  which,
• 37:56
  to
• 37:56
  be
• 37:56
  honest,
• 37:56
  sometimes.
• 37:57
  Sometimes
• 37:57
  that's
• 37:57
  enough.
• 37:58
  Well,
• 37:58
  but
• 37:59
  what
• 37:59
  I
• 37:59
  would
• 37:59
  say
• 37:59
  about.
• 38:00
  Look,
• 38:00
  you.
• 38:01
  You
• 38:01
  don't
• 38:01
  want
• 38:01
  to
• 38:02
  have
• 38:02
  screaming
• 38:02
  fights
• 38:03
  with
• 38:03
  your
• 38:03
  kids.
• 38:03
  You
• 38:04
  Want
• 38:04
  to
• 38:04
  try
• 38:04
  to
• 38:04
  encourage
• 38:05
  them
• 38:05
  to
• 38:05
  be
• 38:06
  open
• 38:06
  and
• 38:06
  honest
• 38:07
  with
• 38:07
  you.
• 38:07
  And
• 38:08
  I
• 38:08
  do
• 38:08
  think
• 38:08
  that
• 38:08
  many
• 38:09
  of
• 38:09
  the
• 38:09
  techniques
• 38:10
  that
• 38:10
  she
• 38:10
  lays
• 38:11
  out
• 38:11
  in
• 38:11
  the
• 38:11
  book
• 38:12
  give
• 38:12
  you
• 38:13
  ways
• 38:14
  to
• 38:14
  try
• 38:14
  to
• 38:14
  communicate
• 38:15
  to
• 38:15
  your
• 38:15
  child.
• 38:17
  And
• 38:18
  you
• 38:18
  know,
• 38:18
  that's
• 38:19
  really
• 38:20
  that
• 38:20
  to
• 38:20
  me
• 38:21
  it's
• 38:21
  a
• 38:21
  helpful
• 38:22
  thing.
• 38:24
  She
• 38:24
  gives
• 38:25
  you
• 38:25
  ways
• 38:25
  to
• 38:26
  express
• 38:26
  your
• 38:26
  appreciation
• 38:27
  so
• 38:27
  the
• 38:28
  person
• 38:28
  feels
• 38:29
  valued.
• 38:31
  And
• 38:31
  you
• 38:32
  know,
• 38:32
  she
• 38:32
  says
• 38:32
  don't
• 38:32
  go
• 38:32
  overboard
• 38:33
  when
• 38:33
  you're
• 38:33
  praising
• 38:34
  your
• 38:34
  kid
• 38:34
  because
• 38:35
  they'll
• 38:35
  know
• 38:35
  you're
• 38:36
  lying
• 38:36
  to
• 38:36
  them.
• 38:38
  Just
• 38:38
  focus
• 38:38
  on
• 38:38
  what
• 38:39
  they
• 38:39
  really
• 38:39
  did
• 38:40
  and
• 38:40
  how
• 38:41
  you
• 38:41
  really
• 38:41
  feel
• 38:41
  about
• 38:41
  it.
• 38:42
  And
• 38:43
  then
• 38:43
  there's
• 38:43
  a
• 38:43
  whole
• 38:44
  section
• 38:44
  on
• 38:44
  really
• 38:45
  how
• 38:45
  to
• 38:45
  talk
• 38:45
  to
• 38:45
  kids
• 38:46
  about
• 38:46
  sex
• 38:46
  and
• 38:46
  drugs.
• 38:47
  There
• 38:47
  we
• 38:47
  go.
• 38:48
  Uh
• 38:48
  huh.
• 38:49
  And.
• 38:51
  And
• 38:51
  one
• 38:51
  of
• 38:51
  the
• 38:51
  issues
• 38:51
  they
• 38:52
  brought
• 38:52
  up,
• 38:52
  and
• 38:53
  I
• 38:53
  was
• 38:53
  surprised
• 38:53
  because
• 38:54
  this
• 38:54
  was
• 38:54
  like
• 38:54
  20
• 38:54
  years
• 38:55
  ago,
• 38:55
  but
• 38:55
  I
• 38:55
  guess
• 38:55
  this
• 38:56
  was
• 38:56
  an
• 38:56
  issue
• 38:56
  back
• 38:56
  then.
• 38:57
  Girls
• 38:58
  giving
• 38:58
  oral
• 38:58
  sex
• 38:58
  to
• 38:59
  boys
• 39:00
  who
• 39:00
  were
• 39:00
  12
• 39:00
  and
• 39:01
  13
• 39:01
  years
• 39:01
  old.
• 39:02
  And
• 39:02
  the
• 39:02
  author
• 39:03
  gives
• 39:03
  parents
• 39:04
  the
• 39:04
  language
• 39:05
  to
• 39:05
  address
• 39:05
  this
• 39:06
  type
• 39:06
  of
• 39:06
  situation
• 39:08
  and
• 39:09
  you
• 39:09
  know,
• 39:09
  and
• 39:09
  how
• 39:09
  to
• 39:09
  keep
• 39:10
  your,
• 39:10
  to.
• 39:10
  How
• 39:10
  do
• 39:10
  you
• 39:11
  handle
• 39:11
  your
• 39:11
  tone,
• 39:12
  keeping
• 39:12
  it
• 39:12
  neutral,
• 39:13
  the
• 39:14
  questions
• 39:14
  you
• 39:14
  ask,
• 39:15
  the
• 39:15
  things
• 39:15
  you
• 39:15
  say.
• 39:18
  And
• 39:19
  she
• 39:19
  says
• 39:19
  that,
• 39:19
  you
• 39:20
  know,
• 39:20
  talking
• 39:20
  about
• 39:20
  sex
• 39:21
  with
• 39:21
  your
• 39:21
  kids,
• 39:22
  you
• 39:22
  don't
• 39:22
  even
• 39:23
  think
• 39:23
  about
• 39:24
  trying
• 39:24
  to
• 39:24
  handle
• 39:25
  that
• 39:25
  in
• 39:25
  one
• 39:25
  sitting.
• 39:26
  It's
• 39:27
  the
• 39:27
  kind
• 39:27
  of
• 39:27
  thing
• 39:27
  that
• 39:27
  has
• 39:27
  to
• 39:28
  be.
• 39:28
  There
• 39:28
  are
• 39:29
  layers,
• 39:29
  layers
• 39:30
  and
• 39:30
  layers,
• 39:31
  layers.
• 39:32
  Did
• 39:32
  we
• 39:32
  talk
• 39:32
  about
• 39:32
  sex?
• 39:34
  Honestly,
• 39:34
  I
• 39:34
  don't,
• 39:34
  I
• 39:35
  don't
• 39:35
  remember.
• 39:35
  I
• 39:35
  don't
• 39:35
  remember
• 39:36
  that.
• 39:36
  I
• 39:36
  don't
• 39:36
  either.
• 39:37
  I
• 39:38
  don't
• 39:38
  know.
• 39:38
  I
• 39:39
  don't
• 39:39
  think
• 39:39
  you
• 39:39
  ever
• 39:39
  like
• 39:40
  sat
• 39:40
  me
• 39:40
  down
• 39:40
  because
• 39:41
  I
• 39:41
  don't
• 39:41
  think
• 39:41
  I
• 39:41
  ever
• 39:42
  asked.
• 39:43
  I
• 39:43
  must,
• 39:43
  I
• 39:44
  was
• 39:44
  getting
• 39:44
  my
• 39:44
  information
• 39:45
  from
• 39:45
  like
• 39:45
  the
• 39:45
  older
• 39:46
  kids
• 39:46
  at
• 39:46
  school
• 39:47
  and
• 39:47
  I
• 39:47
  read
• 39:48
  you
• 39:48
  some
• 39:48
  books
• 39:48
  when
• 39:49
  you
• 39:49
  were
• 39:49
  young
• 39:49
  about
• 39:50
  it,
• 39:50
  you
• 39:50
  know,
• 39:50
  about
• 39:51
  that
• 39:51
  were
• 39:51
  like
• 39:52
  almost
• 39:53
  like
• 39:53
  five
• 39:53
  and
• 39:54
  six
• 39:54
  year
• 39:54
  old,
• 39:54
  appropriate,
• 39:56
  you
• 39:56
  know,
• 39:56
  so
• 39:56
  I
• 39:56
  don't
• 39:57
  know,
• 39:57
  we
• 39:57
  never
• 39:57
  got
• 39:57
  into
• 39:57
  things
• 39:58
  later.
• 39:59
  Yeah,
• 40:00
  I
• 40:00
  guess
• 40:00
  I
• 40:00
  really
• 40:01
  fell
• 40:01
  down
• 40:01
  as
• 40:01
  a
• 40:02
  parent.
• 40:02
  You
• 40:02
  didn't
• 40:02
  fall
• 40:03
  down.
• 40:03
  I
• 40:03
  mean
• 40:04
  I
• 40:04
  can't
• 40:04
  even
• 40:04
  imagine
• 40:05
  how
• 40:05
  that
• 40:05
  conversation
• 40:05
  would
• 40:06
  have
• 40:06
  went
• 40:06
  when
• 40:06
  I
• 40:06
  was
• 40:06
  a
• 40:06
  teenager.
• 40:07
  I
• 40:07
  probably
• 40:07
  would
• 40:08
  have
• 40:08
  like
• 40:08
  left,
• 40:08
  left
• 40:08
  of
• 40:08
  the
• 40:09
  room,
• 40:09
  running
• 40:09
  and
• 40:09
  screaming
• 40:10
  and
• 40:10
  calling
• 40:10
  the
• 40:10
  police.
• 40:11
  Yeah.
• 40:11
  I
• 40:11
  mean
• 40:11
  they
• 40:11
  do
• 40:12
  a
• 40:12
  comic
• 40:12
  about
• 40:12
  a
• 40:13
  dad
• 40:13
  trying
• 40:13
  to
• 40:14
  give
• 40:14
  the
• 40:14
  big
• 40:14
  sex
• 40:14
  talk
• 40:15
  to
• 40:15
  the
• 40:15
  child
• 40:15
  and
• 40:16
  the
• 40:16
  kid
• 40:17
  says
• 40:17
  dad,
• 40:17
  I
• 40:17
  know
• 40:18
  all
• 40:18
  about
• 40:18
  it.
• 40:21
  Really.
• 40:22
  And
• 40:22
  instead,
• 40:23
  you
• 40:23
  know,
• 40:23
  just
• 40:23
  look
• 40:23
  for
• 40:24
  opportunities
• 40:24
  for
• 40:25
  lots
• 40:25
  of
• 40:25
  small
• 40:25
  talks
• 40:26
  is
• 40:26
  what
• 40:26
  they
• 40:26
  say.
• 40:27
  Uh
• 40:27
  huh.
• 40:27
  Which
• 40:27
  fair
• 40:28
  enough,
• 40:28
  as
• 40:28
  it
• 40:28
  comes
• 40:29
  up,
• 40:29
  let
• 40:29
  them
• 40:29
  come
• 40:30
  to
• 40:30
  you.
• 40:30
  Right.
• 40:31
  Don't
• 40:31
  have
• 40:32
  a
• 40:32
  formal
• 40:32
  sit
• 40:32
  down
• 40:33
  because
• 40:33
  it
• 40:34
  feels
• 40:34
  like
• 40:34
  an
• 40:34
  intervention.
• 40:35
  And
• 40:36
  that
• 40:36
  format
• 40:37
  is
• 40:37
  not
• 40:37
  useful.
• 40:38
  No.
• 40:39
  And
• 40:39
  they
• 40:39
  say
• 40:40
  in
• 40:40
  the
• 40:40
  book
• 40:41
  she
• 40:41
  talks
• 40:41
  about
• 40:41
  how
• 40:42
  Even
• 40:42
  though
• 40:42
  teens
• 40:42
  may
• 40:43
  appear
• 40:43
  mature,
• 40:44
  their
• 40:44
  brain
• 40:45
  is
• 40:45
  still
• 40:45
  developing,
• 40:45
  which
• 40:46
  we
• 40:46
  know.
• 40:46
  And
• 40:47
  the
• 40:47
  part
• 40:47
  that
• 40:47
  controls
• 40:48
  impulses
• 40:48
  and
• 40:49
  exercises
• 40:49
  judgment
• 40:50
  is
• 40:50
  the
• 40:50
  last
• 40:50
  part
• 40:51
  to
• 40:51
  develop.
• 40:52
  And
• 40:53
  she
• 40:53
  says
• 40:53
  even
• 40:53
  though
• 40:54
  kids
• 40:54
  act
• 40:54
  like
• 40:54
  they
• 40:55
  don't,
• 40:55
  they
• 40:55
  do
• 40:56
  care
• 40:56
  deeply
• 40:56
  about
• 40:56
  what
• 40:57
  you
• 40:57
  think.
• 40:57
  Yeah,
• 40:58
  totally.
• 40:59
  So
• 40:59
  just
• 40:59
  remember
• 41:00
  that,
• 41:00
  you
• 41:00
  know,
• 41:01
  just
• 41:01
  remember
• 41:01
  that
• 41:01
  they
• 41:01
  care.
• 41:02
  Right.
• 41:04
  And
• 41:05
  after
• 41:05
  the
• 41:05
  workshop
• 41:06
  comes
• 41:06
  to
• 41:06
  an
• 41:07
  end,
• 41:08
  some
• 41:08
  of
• 41:08
  the
• 41:08
  big
• 41:09
  conclusions
• 41:10
  that
• 41:10
  they
• 41:10
  come
• 41:10
  to
• 41:11
  are,
• 41:12
  feelings
• 41:13
  matter,
• 41:13
  yours
• 41:14
  and
• 41:14
  the
• 41:14
  people
• 41:14
  with
• 41:15
  whom
• 41:15
  you
• 41:15
  disagree.
• 41:16
  Civility
• 41:17
  matters.
• 41:18
  Anger
• 41:18
  can
• 41:19
  be
• 41:19
  expressed
• 41:20
  without
• 41:20
  insult.
• 41:21
  Words
• 41:22
  matter.
• 41:23
  They
• 41:23
  can
• 41:23
  cause
• 41:24
  resentment,
• 41:24
  or
• 41:25
  they
• 41:25
  can
• 41:25
  generate
• 41:25
  goodwill.
• 41:28
  Punishment
• 41:28
  has
• 41:28
  no
• 41:29
  place
• 41:29
  in
• 41:29
  a
• 41:29
  caring
• 41:29
  relationship.
• 41:30
  That's
• 41:31
  her
• 41:31
  opinion.
• 41:32
  I
• 41:32
  know
• 41:32
  some
• 41:32
  people
• 41:33
  agree
• 41:33
  with
• 41:33
  that.
• 41:33
  Some
• 41:33
  people
• 41:34
  don't.
• 41:34
  People
• 41:34
  are
• 41:34
  obsessed
• 41:35
  with
• 41:35
  punishment.
• 41:35
  We've
• 41:36
  read
• 41:36
  entire
• 41:36
  books
• 41:37
  devoted
• 41:37
  to
• 41:37
  punishment.
• 41:38
  We
• 41:38
  have.
• 41:38
  Yeah,
• 41:38
  we
• 41:39
  have.
• 41:39
  And
• 41:40
  the
• 41:40
  more
• 41:40
  I
• 41:41
  read
• 41:41
  about
• 41:41
  punishment,
• 41:44
  the
• 41:44
  more
• 41:45
  I
• 41:45
  believe,
• 41:46
  you
• 41:46
  know,
• 41:47
  you
• 41:47
  try
• 41:48
  not
• 41:48
  to
• 41:48
  have
• 41:48
  punishment.
• 41:49
  I
• 41:49
  mean,
• 41:49
  certainly
• 41:50
  at
• 41:50
  the
• 41:50
  beginning,
• 41:50
  you
• 41:51
  try
• 41:51
  to
• 41:51
  use
• 41:51
  it
• 41:51
  as
• 41:51
  a.
• 41:52
  You
• 41:52
  want
• 41:52
  to
• 41:52
  address
• 41:53
  the
• 41:53
  root
• 41:53
  cause
• 41:53
  of
• 41:54
  the
• 41:54
  behavior.
• 41:54
  I
• 41:54
  think
• 41:54
  that
• 41:55
  tends
• 41:55
  to
• 41:55
  be
• 41:55
  a
• 41:55
  more
• 41:56
  useful
• 41:56
  approach
• 41:58
  to
• 41:58
  showing
• 41:58
  kids
• 41:59
  what's
• 41:59
  right
• 41:59
  and
• 41:59
  wrong.
• 42:00
  Right.
• 42:00
  And
• 42:00
  then
• 42:00
  if
• 42:01
  the
• 42:01
  kids
• 42:01
  continually
• 42:02
  flout
• 42:02
  the
• 42:03
  rules,
• 42:04
  then
• 42:04
  you
• 42:04
  might
• 42:04
  have
• 42:05
  to
• 42:05
  punish,
• 42:05
  I
• 42:05
  guess.
• 42:06
  Yeah.
• 42:06
  I
• 42:06
  don't
• 42:07
  know.
• 42:07
  We
• 42:07
  have
• 42:07
  to
• 42:07
  ask
• 42:08
  Dr.
• 42:08
  Becky.
• 42:08
  That's
• 42:09
  who
• 42:09
  I
• 42:09
  would
• 42:09
  trust.
• 42:09
  Yeah.
• 42:10
  Dr.
• 42:10
  Becky,
• 42:10
  weigh
• 42:11
  in.
• 42:12
  Okay.
• 42:13
  And
• 42:13
  the
• 42:13
  sad
• 42:14
  thing
• 42:14
  is
• 42:15
  both
• 42:15
  of
• 42:15
  the
• 42:15
  authors
• 42:16
  of
• 42:16
  this
• 42:16
  book
• 42:16
  have
• 42:17
  died.
• 42:17
  Oh,
• 42:18
  I
• 42:18
  know.
• 42:18
  It's
• 42:19
  so
• 42:19
  sad.
• 42:19
  But,
• 42:20
  you
• 42:20
  know,
• 42:20
  I
• 42:20
  think
• 42:21
  this
• 42:21
  was
• 42:21
  written
• 42:21
  about
• 42:22
  20
• 42:22
  years
• 42:22
  ago,
• 42:22
  so
• 42:23
  it's
• 42:23
  an
• 42:23
  older
• 42:23
  book.
• 42:23
  And
• 42:24
  I
• 42:24
  wanted
• 42:25
  to
• 42:25
  do
• 42:25
  it
• 42:25
  because
• 42:25
  there
• 42:25
  aren't
• 42:26
  many
• 42:26
  books
• 42:26
  about
• 42:27
  communicating
• 42:28
  with
• 42:28
  teenagers.
• 42:29
  Yeah.
• 42:29
  Like
• 42:30
  actually
• 42:30
  giving
• 42:31
  you
• 42:32
  scripts
• 42:33
  and
• 42:33
  ideas
• 42:33
  of
• 42:34
  how
• 42:34
  to.
• 42:34
  How
• 42:34
  to
• 42:35
  talk
• 42:35
  to
• 42:35
  a
• 42:36
  teenager
• 42:36
  to
• 42:36
  try
• 42:37
  to
• 42:37
  get
• 42:37
  through
• 42:37
  to
• 42:37
  them
• 42:38
  and
• 42:38
  limit
• 42:39
  the
• 42:39
  conflict
• 42:39
  in
• 42:40
  the
• 42:40
  house.
• 42:40
  So
• 42:41
  anyway.
• 42:41
  But
• 42:42
  it
• 42:42
  was
• 42:42
  sort
• 42:42
  of
• 42:42
  sad
• 42:42
  when
• 42:42
  I
• 42:43
  read
• 42:43
  that.
• 42:43
  It
• 42:43
  was
• 42:44
  because
• 42:44
  I
• 42:44
  felt
• 42:44
  like
• 42:45
  when
• 42:45
  I
• 42:45
  was
• 42:45
  reading
• 42:45
  the
• 42:45
  book,
• 42:46
  they
• 42:46
  were
• 42:46
  just
• 42:47
  talking
• 42:47
  to
• 42:47
  me,
• 42:47
  the
• 42:47
  authors,
• 42:48
  you
• 42:48
  know,
• 42:48
  and
• 42:49
  then
• 42:49
  I'm
• 42:49
  like,
• 42:49
  oh,
• 42:50
  they're
• 42:50
  not
• 42:50
  here
• 42:50
  anymore.
• 42:51
  You
• 42:51
  can't
• 42:51
  call
• 42:51
  them.
• 42:52
  No.
• 42:52
  But
• 42:53
  their
• 42:53
  daughters.
• 42:54
  Well,
• 42:54
  one
• 42:54
  of
• 42:54
  the
• 42:54
  daughters
• 42:57
  is,
• 42:58
  I
• 42:58
  think,
• 42:58
  Adele's
• 42:59
  daughter.
• 43:00
  Her
• 43:00
  name
• 43:00
  is
• 43:00
  Joanne
• 43:01
  Faber.
• 43:02
  She
• 43:02
  has
• 43:02
  carried
• 43:02
  on
• 43:03
  the
• 43:03
  work
• 43:03
  with
• 43:04
  her
• 43:04
  friend
• 43:04
  Julie
• 43:05
  King,
• 43:05
  and
• 43:06
  they
• 43:06
  do
• 43:06
  these
• 43:06
  how
• 43:06
  to
• 43:07
  Talk
• 43:07
  workshops
• 43:08
  around
• 43:08
  the
• 43:08
  country.
• 43:09
  So
• 43:09
  I
• 43:09
  guess
• 43:10
  there's
• 43:10
  information
• 43:11
  on
• 43:11
  how
• 43:11
  to
• 43:11
  get
• 43:11
  one
• 43:11
  of
• 43:12
  those
• 43:12
  brought
• 43:12
  into
• 43:12
  your
• 43:12
  school.
• 43:13
  Oh,
• 43:13
  that's
• 43:13
  cool.
• 43:14
  Yeah.
• 43:14
  So
• 43:15
  I
• 43:15
  thought
• 43:15
  that
• 43:15
  was
• 43:15
  good.
• 43:16
  I
• 43:16
  imagine
• 43:16
  this
• 43:17
  is
• 43:17
  something.
• 43:17
  I
• 43:17
  mean,
• 43:17
  this
• 43:18
  is
• 43:18
  like
• 43:18
  a
• 43:18
  universal
• 43:19
  concern.
• 43:19
  Right.
• 43:19
  It's
• 43:20
  like
• 43:20
  teenagers
• 43:20
  will
• 43:21
  always
• 43:21
  be
• 43:21
  difficult.
• 43:22
  Yes.
• 43:22
  At
• 43:23
  least
• 43:23
  in
• 43:23
  some
• 43:23
  areas.
• 43:24
  Nobody
• 43:24
  has
• 43:24
  a
• 43:24
  perfect
• 43:25
  teenager.
• 43:26
  So
• 43:26
  these
• 43:27
  workshops
• 43:28
  actually
• 43:28
  sound
• 43:28
  very
• 43:29
  valuable
• 43:30
  because
• 43:30
  it's
• 43:30
  kind
• 43:30
  of
• 43:30
  like
• 43:31
  group
• 43:31
  therapy
• 43:31
  in
• 43:31
  a
• 43:32
  way.
• 43:32
  You
• 43:32
  know,
• 43:32
  it's
• 43:33
  like
• 43:33
  you
• 43:33
  all
• 43:33
  show
• 43:33
  up,
• 43:34
  you
• 43:34
  all
• 43:34
  have
• 43:34
  stuff
• 43:34
  you're
• 43:34
  dealing
• 43:35
  with.
• 43:35
  You
• 43:35
  can
• 43:35
  take
• 43:35
  tips
• 43:36
  from
• 43:36
  each
• 43:36
  other
• 43:37
  and
• 43:37
  also
• 43:37
  commiserate.
• 43:38
  I
• 43:38
  think
• 43:38
  there's.
• 43:39
  Commiseration
• 43:40
  is,
• 43:40
  you
• 43:41
  know.
• 43:41
  Right.
• 43:42
  Underrated.
• 43:43
  Yeah.
• 43:43
  Commiserating
• 43:44
  other
• 43:45
  parents,
• 43:45
  dealing
• 43:45
  with
• 43:45
  the
• 43:46
  same
• 43:46
  kind
• 43:46
  of
• 43:46
  thing.
• 43:47
  Getting
• 43:48
  ideas
• 43:49
  about
• 43:49
  how
• 43:50
  to
• 43:50
  handle
• 43:51
  different
• 43:51
  situations.
• 43:53
  It's
• 43:54
  interesting,
• 43:54
  the
• 43:54
  idea
• 43:54
  of
• 43:54
  having
• 43:55
  workshops.
• 43:55
  Things
• 43:56
  in
• 43:56
  person
• 43:56
  anymore
• 43:57
  don't
• 43:58
  happen
• 43:58
  the
• 43:58
  way
• 43:58
  they
• 43:59
  used
• 43:59
  to
• 43:59
  happen.
• 44:00
  Yeah.
• 44:00
  The
• 44:00
  pandemic
• 44:01
  really
• 44:01
  ruined
• 44:02
  that.
• 44:02
  It
• 44:02
  did,
• 44:03
  yeah.
• 44:03
  Now
• 44:04
  everything
• 44:04
  seems
• 44:04
  to
• 44:04
  be
• 44:04
  online,
• 44:05
  but
• 44:07
  I
• 44:07
  like
• 44:07
  getting
• 44:08
  together
• 44:08
  with
• 44:08
  real
• 44:08
  people
• 44:09
  and
• 44:09
  talking
• 44:09
  to
• 44:10
  them
• 44:10
  and
• 44:11
  commiserating.
• 44:12
  Who
• 44:13
  doesn't
• 44:13
  love
• 44:13
  to
• 44:14
  commiserate?
• 44:16
  You
• 44:16
  and
• 44:16
  I
• 44:16
  do
• 44:16
  that.
• 44:16
  On
• 44:16
  the
• 44:16
  other
• 44:17
  hand,
• 44:17
  similar
• 44:17
  complaints.
• 44:18
  I
• 44:18
  know.
• 44:18
  We
• 44:18
  do.
• 44:18
  We
• 44:18
  love
• 44:19
  to
• 44:19
  commiserate.
• 44:19
  Yeah.
• 44:20
  It's
• 44:21
  in
• 44:21
  our
• 44:21
  culture.
• 44:22
  It
• 44:22
  is.
• 44:22
  It
• 44:23
  is.
• 44:23
  It
• 44:23
  is.
• 44:24
  Anyway,
• 44:25
  so.
• 44:25
  Okay,
• 44:25
  so
• 44:26
  what
• 44:26
  did
• 44:26
  you
• 44:26
  think
• 44:26
  about
• 44:27
  this
• 44:27
  book?
• 44:27
  You
• 44:28
  know,
• 44:28
  I
• 44:28
  thought
• 44:28
  it
• 44:29
  was
• 44:29
  okay.
• 44:29
  On
• 44:29
  a
• 44:29
  scale
• 44:30
  of
• 44:30
  scientist
• 44:31
  to
• 44:31
  parent,
• 44:31
  I
• 44:31
  would
• 44:31
  have
• 44:32
  to
• 44:32
  honestly
• 44:32
  give
• 44:32
  it
• 44:32
  a
• 44:32
  seven.
• 44:33
  I
• 44:34
  didn't,
• 44:34
  like,
• 44:34
  love
• 44:35
  the
• 44:35
  style
• 44:35
  of
• 44:35
  writing.
• 44:36
  There
• 44:36
  was
• 44:36
  valuable
• 44:37
  information,
• 44:38
  and
• 44:38
  the
• 44:38
  comics
• 44:39
  were
• 44:39
  helpful,
• 44:40
  both
• 44:40
  in
• 44:40
  terms
• 44:40
  of
• 44:41
  making
• 44:41
  the
• 44:41
  book
• 44:41
  go
• 44:42
  faster
• 44:42
  and
• 44:43
  also
• 44:43
  because,
• 44:43
  again,
• 44:44
  I
• 44:44
  like
• 44:44
  to
• 44:44
  see
• 44:45
  demonstrations.
• 44:45
  That's
• 44:46
  very
• 44:46
  helpful
• 44:46
  for
• 44:47
  me.
• 44:48
  And
• 44:48
  they
• 44:48
  were
• 44:49
  cute
• 44:49
  and
• 44:49
  silly,
• 44:50
  and
• 44:50
  I
• 44:50
  liked
• 44:50
  them.
• 44:51
  Yeah.
• 44:51
  That
• 44:51
  was
• 44:51
  my
• 44:51
  favorite
• 44:52
  part
• 44:52
  of
• 44:52
  the
• 44:52
  book,
• 44:52
  was
• 44:53
  the
• 44:53
  comics.
• 44:53
  I
• 44:53
  thought
• 44:53
  they
• 44:54
  were.
• 44:54
  Those
• 44:54
  were
• 44:55
  great.
• 44:55
  Yeah.
• 44:55
  And
• 44:55
  if
• 44:56
  you
• 44:56
  can
• 44:56
  share
• 44:56
  those
• 44:56
  with
• 44:57
  your
• 44:57
  teenagers,
• 44:57
  honestly,
• 44:58
  like,
• 44:58
  Xerox
• 44:58
  them.
• 44:58
  Do
• 44:59
  people
• 44:59
  have
• 44:59
  Xerox
• 44:59
  machines
• 45:00
  anymore?
• 45:00
  Yeah.
• 45:01
  Oh,
• 45:01
  well,
• 45:01
  your
• 45:02
  printer.
• 45:02
  You
• 45:02
  just
• 45:03
  put
• 45:03
  stuff
• 45:03
  in
• 45:03
  your
• 45:03
  printer
• 45:04
  and
• 45:04
  then
• 45:04
  you
• 45:04
  copy
• 45:04
  it.
• 45:05
  I
• 45:05
  don't
• 45:05
  have
• 45:06
  a
• 45:06
  printer.
• 45:06
  I
• 45:06
  know,
• 45:07
  but
• 45:07
  you
• 45:07
  can
• 45:07
  use.
• 45:07
  I
• 45:07
  use
• 45:07
  your
• 45:08
  printer.
• 45:08
  I
• 45:08
  know.
• 45:09
  It's
• 45:09
  okay.
• 45:09
  You
• 45:10
  can
• 45:10
  use
• 45:10
  my
• 45:10
  printer
• 45:11
  anytime
• 45:11
  you
• 45:11
  want.
• 45:11
  Thanks,
• 45:13
  I
• 45:13
  will.
• 45:13
  You
• 45:14
  could.
• 45:14
  Okay.
• 45:14
  Anytime.
• 45:15
  Just
• 45:15
  go
• 45:15
  over
• 45:16
  and
• 45:16
  use
• 45:16
  it.
• 45:17
  Oh,
• 45:17
  I
• 45:17
  do.
• 45:18
  I
• 45:18
  break
• 45:18
  into
• 45:18
  your
• 45:18
  apartment
• 45:19
  all
• 45:19
  the
• 45:19
  time
• 45:19
  when
• 45:19
  you're
• 45:19
  not
• 45:19
  there
• 45:20
  to
• 45:20
  print
• 45:20
  stuff.
• 45:20
  Okay,
• 45:21
  good.
• 45:21
  That's
• 45:21
  fine.
• 45:22
  I'm
• 45:22
  happy
• 45:22
  with
• 45:22
  that.
• 45:23
  You
• 45:23
  do
• 45:23
  that,
• 45:23
  then
• 45:23
  you're
• 45:23
  checking
• 45:24
  up
• 45:24
  on
• 45:24
  my
• 45:24
  apartment?
• 45:25
  Yeah.
• 45:25
  Yeah.
• 45:25
  If
• 45:26
  I'm
• 45:26
  not
• 45:26
  there.
• 45:26
  That's
• 45:26
  the
• 45:26
  thing
• 45:26
  about
• 45:27
  apartments,
• 45:27
  is
• 45:27
  that,
• 45:28
  like,
• 45:28
  you
• 45:28
  don't
• 45:29
  need
• 45:29
  a
• 45:29
  house
• 45:29
  sitter.
• 45:29
  Really?
• 45:30
  Because
• 45:31
  who's
• 45:31
  getting
• 45:31
  in
• 45:31
  there?
• 45:32
  No,
• 45:32
  nobody.
• 45:33
  You
• 45:33
  lock
• 45:33
  the
• 45:33
  door,
• 45:33
  you
• 45:34
  leave.
• 45:34
  That's
• 45:34
  what's
• 45:35
  great
• 45:35
  about
• 45:35
  living
• 45:35
  in
• 45:36
  the
• 45:36
  apartment
• 45:36
  life.
• 45:37
  Last
• 45:38
  night
• 45:39
  I
• 45:39
  was
• 45:39
  saying
• 45:39
  to
• 45:40
  my
• 45:40
  husband,
• 45:40
  I
• 45:40
  was
• 45:41
  like.
• 45:41
  Like,
• 45:41
  in
• 45:41
  a
• 45:41
  house.
• 45:42
  What
• 45:42
  do
• 45:43
  you
• 45:43
  do?
• 45:43
  You're
• 45:44
  just
• 45:44
  there
• 45:44
  and
• 45:44
  alone.
• 45:45
  Like.
• 45:45
  Like,
• 45:45
  I
• 45:45
  know.
• 45:46
  What
• 45:46
  if
• 45:46
  I
• 45:46
  panic?
• 45:47
  I
• 45:47
  need
• 45:47
  a
• 45:47
  panic
• 45:47
  room.
• 45:48
  He's
• 45:48
  like,
• 45:48
  skyler,
• 45:49
  people
• 45:49
  live
• 45:49
  in
• 45:49
  houses
• 45:50
  all
• 45:50
  over
• 45:50
  the
• 45:50
  world,
• 45:51
  and,
• 45:51
  like,
• 45:52
  most
• 45:52
  of
• 45:52
  them
• 45:52
  don't
• 45:53
  get
• 45:53
  robbed.
• 45:53
  I'm
• 45:54
  like,
• 45:54
  yeah,
• 45:54
  but,
• 45:54
  like,
• 45:55
  what
• 45:56
  do
• 45:56
  you.
• 45:56
  What
• 45:56
  happens?
• 45:57
  Well,
• 45:57
  you
• 45:57
  get
• 45:58
  a.
• 45:58
  You
• 45:58
  get
• 45:58
  a
• 45:58
  security
• 45:59
  system.
• 45:59
  Or
• 45:59
  you
• 46:00
  could
• 46:00
  get
• 46:00
  one.
• 46:00
  I
• 46:01
  always
• 46:01
  would
• 46:01
  get
• 46:01
  one.
• 46:01
  And
• 46:01
  then
• 46:02
  never
• 46:02
  learn
• 46:02
  how
• 46:02
  to
• 46:02
  use
• 46:02
  it,
• 46:03
  so
• 46:03
  I
• 46:03
  could
• 46:03
  never
• 46:03
  use
• 46:04
  it.
• 46:04
  But
• 46:05
  I
• 46:05
  don't
• 46:06
  know,
• 46:06
  like,
• 46:06
  you
• 46:06
  get
• 46:07
  a
• 46:07
  sign
• 46:07
  that
• 46:07
  says,
• 46:07
  adt
• 46:08
  is
• 46:08
  protecting
• 46:09
  this
• 46:09
  house.
• 46:09
  Right.
• 46:10
  And
• 46:10
  I
• 46:10
  was
• 46:10
  like,
• 46:10
  do
• 46:10
  you
• 46:10
  think
• 46:11
  our
• 46:11
  dogs
• 46:12
  would
• 46:12
  help
• 46:12
  us
• 46:13
  if
• 46:13
  we
• 46:13
  were
• 46:13
  getting
• 46:14
  bark?
• 46:15
  I
• 46:15
  mean,
• 46:15
  maybe.
• 46:15
  I
• 46:16
  don't
• 46:16
  think
• 46:16
  they'd
• 46:16
  be
• 46:16
  that
• 46:16
  helpful,
• 46:17
  Dolly.
• 46:17
  Maybe
• 46:18
  because
• 46:19
  Dolly
• 46:19
  actually,
• 46:20
  like,
• 46:20
  has
• 46:20
  protective
• 46:21
  instincts.
• 46:21
  Harvey,
• 46:22
  I
• 46:22
  just
• 46:22
  think
• 46:23
  wouldn't
• 46:24
  care
• 46:24
  that
• 46:24
  much.
• 46:24
  I
• 46:25
  know.
• 46:25
  I
• 46:25
  love
• 46:26
  him.
• 46:26
  He's
• 46:26
  an
• 46:26
  angel,
• 46:26
  but
• 46:27
  he's
• 46:27
  not
• 46:28
  fierce.
• 46:28
  Oh.
• 46:29
  See,
• 46:29
  my
• 46:29
  dog
• 46:29
  would
• 46:30
  bark,
• 46:30
  but
• 46:31
  incessantly.
• 46:32
  But
• 46:32
  he's
• 46:32
  ten
• 46:33
  pounds,
• 46:33
  so
• 46:34
  nobody
• 46:34
  would
• 46:34
  be
• 46:34
  scared.
• 46:35
  Yeah,
• 46:35
  that's
• 46:35
  a
• 46:35
  good
• 46:35
  point.
• 46:36
  They'd
• 46:36
  probably
• 46:36
  just
• 46:36
  scoop
• 46:37
  him
• 46:37
  up
• 46:37
  and
• 46:38
  then
• 46:38
  he
• 46:38
  would
• 46:38
  kiss
• 46:38
  me.
• 46:39
  So.
• 46:39
  Yeah.
• 46:39
  No,
• 46:40
  I
• 46:40
  mean,
• 46:40
  it
• 46:40
  is
• 46:40
  harder
• 46:41
  to
• 46:41
  live
• 46:41
  in
• 46:41
  a.
• 46:42
  In
• 46:42
  a
• 46:42
  home.
• 46:42
  That's
• 46:43
  really
• 46:43
  true.
• 46:43
  It's
• 46:44
  harder
• 46:44
  to
• 46:44
  live
• 46:44
  in
• 46:44
  a
• 46:44
  home.
• 46:45
  And,
• 46:45
  you
• 46:45
  know,
• 46:45
  you
• 46:46
  have
• 46:46
  to
• 46:47
  be
• 46:47
  able
• 46:47
  to
• 46:47
  lock
• 46:48
  things
• 46:48
  up
• 46:48
  so
• 46:48
  you
• 46:49
  feel
• 46:49
  secure.
• 46:50
  Yeah.
• 46:50
  Yes.
• 46:50
  You
• 46:50
  have
• 46:50
  to
• 46:51
  figure
• 46:51
  that
• 46:51
  out.
• 46:51
  That's
• 46:52
  why
• 46:52
  I
• 46:52
  like
• 46:52
  living
• 46:52
  in
• 46:53
  a
• 46:53
  building,
• 46:53
  because
• 46:53
  I
• 46:54
  do
• 46:54
  feel
• 46:54
  a
• 46:54
  little
• 46:55
  more
• 46:55
  secure.
• 46:55
  Yeah.
• 46:56
  And
• 46:56
  maybe
• 46:57
  it's
• 46:57
  an
• 46:57
  illusion.
• 46:57
  I
• 46:57
  was
• 46:58
  also
• 46:58
  like,
• 46:58
  yeah,
• 46:58
  like,
• 46:58
  if
• 46:59
  a
• 46:59
  burglar
• 46:59
  comes,
• 47:00
  there
• 47:00
  are
• 47:01
  so
• 47:01
  many
• 47:01
  other
• 47:01
  apartments
• 47:02
  they
• 47:02
  could
• 47:02
  rob
• 47:03
  before
• 47:03
  they
• 47:03
  made
• 47:04
  it
• 47:04
  to
• 47:04
  mine.
• 47:05
  Right.
• 47:05
  Which
• 47:05
  makes
• 47:06
  me
• 47:06
  feel
• 47:06
  secure.
• 47:07
  Right.
• 47:07
  That's
• 47:08
  true.
• 47:08
  And
• 47:08
  then
• 47:08
  Ben
• 47:09
  was
• 47:09
  like,
• 47:09
  listen,
• 47:09
  Skylar,
• 47:10
  like,
• 47:10
  our
• 47:10
  doormen
• 47:10
  don't
• 47:11
  even
• 47:11
  call
• 47:11
  us
• 47:11
  when
• 47:11
  food
• 47:12
  is
• 47:12
  coming
• 47:12
  up.
• 47:13
  So
• 47:13
  if
• 47:13
  somebody
• 47:14
  posed
• 47:15
  as
• 47:15
  a
• 47:15
  food
• 47:15
  delivery
• 47:16
  person
• 47:16
  and
• 47:17
  they
• 47:17
  wanted
• 47:18
  to
• 47:18
  rob
• 47:18
  us,
• 47:18
  they
• 47:19
  could
• 47:19
  come
• 47:19
  right
• 47:19
  now.
• 47:19
  They
• 47:19
  could.
• 47:20
  Right,
• 47:20
  Right.
• 47:21
  Absolutely.
• 47:22
  Yeah.
• 47:22
  No,
• 47:22
  no.
• 47:23
  Your
• 47:23
  doorman
• 47:24
  never
• 47:24
  calls.
• 47:24
  When?
• 47:24
  I
• 47:25
  just
• 47:25
  love
• 47:25
  them.
• 47:26
  They're
• 47:26
  lovely,
• 47:26
  wonderful
• 47:27
  people.
• 47:27
  But
• 47:27
  also,
• 47:28
  like,
• 47:28
  my
• 47:28
  building
• 47:29
  is
• 47:29
  gigantic.
• 47:30
  If
• 47:30
  they
• 47:30
  called
• 47:31
  every
• 47:31
  time,
• 47:32
  for
• 47:32
  every
• 47:33
  single
• 47:33
  person,
• 47:34
  they'd
• 47:34
  be
• 47:34
  on
• 47:34
  the
• 47:34
  phone
• 47:34
  day
• 47:35
  and
• 47:35
  night.
• 47:35
  That's
• 47:35
  true.
• 47:35
  True.
• 47:36
  Yeah.
• 47:36
  But,
• 47:36
  yeah,
• 47:37
  it's
• 47:37
  true.
• 47:37
  Well,
• 47:38
  so
• 47:38
  home
• 47:38
  security,
• 47:39
  but
• 47:39
  that
• 47:39
  doesn't
• 47:39
  have
• 47:39
  anything
• 47:40
  to
• 47:40
  do
• 47:40
  with
• 47:40
  talking
• 47:41
  to
• 47:41
  teenagers.
• 47:42
  Yeah,
• 47:42
  it's
• 47:42
  a
• 47:42
  good
• 47:43
  point.
• 47:43
  It
• 47:43
  doesn't.
• 47:44
  No.
• 47:45
  So
• 47:45
  how
• 47:45
  did
• 47:45
  we
• 47:45
  get
• 47:46
  on
• 47:46
  this
• 47:46
  topic?
• 47:46
  I
• 47:47
  digress.
• 47:47
  Okay.
• 47:48
  Anyway,
• 47:48
  on
• 47:49
  a
• 47:49
  scale
• 47:49
  of
• 47:49
  scientist
• 47:49
  to
• 47:50
  parent,
• 47:50
  what
• 47:50
  would
• 47:50
  you
• 47:51
  rate
• 47:51
  the
• 47:51
  book?
• 47:52
  This
• 47:52
  book,
• 47:52
  to
• 47:53
  me.
• 47:53
  Okay.
• 47:54
  This
• 47:54
  book
• 47:54
  was
• 47:54
  about
• 47:54
  a
• 47:55
  six
• 47:55
  to
• 47:55
  me.
• 47:56
  Five.
• 47:56
  Six.
• 47:56
  Okay.
• 47:57
  I
• 47:57
  would
• 47:57
  say,
• 47:57
  wow.
• 47:58
  Never
• 47:58
  given
• 47:58
  a
• 47:58
  better
• 47:59
  rating
• 47:59
  than
• 47:59
  you.
• 48:00
  Yeah.
• 48:00
  But
• 48:00
  you
• 48:01
  know
• 48:01
  what?
• 48:01
  I
• 48:01
  don't
• 48:01
  know.
• 48:02
  The
• 48:02
  thing
• 48:02
  about
• 48:02
  this
• 48:03
  book
• 48:03
  is
• 48:04
  if
• 48:04
  you
• 48:04
  have
• 48:04
  a
• 48:05
  teenager
• 48:05
  and
• 48:05
  you
• 48:06
  are
• 48:06
  struggling
• 48:06
  with,
• 48:07
  you
• 48:07
  know,
• 48:07
  you're
• 48:08
  in
• 48:08
  conflict
• 48:08
  a
• 48:09
  lot.
• 48:10
  Give
• 48:10
  it
• 48:10
  a
• 48:10
  try,
• 48:11
  you
• 48:11
  know,
• 48:11
  I
• 48:12
  mean,
• 48:12
  you
• 48:12
  get.
• 48:12
  What
• 48:12
  do
• 48:12
  you
• 48:13
  have
• 48:13
  to
• 48:13
  lose?
• 48:13
  Yeah.
• 48:14
  It's
• 48:14
  like,
• 48:15
  it's
• 48:15
  a
• 48:15
  book.
• 48:15
  You
• 48:16
  can
• 48:16
  buy
• 48:16
  it.
• 48:17
  It's
• 48:17
  older,
• 48:18
  so
• 48:18
  you
• 48:18
  can
• 48:18
  probably
• 48:19
  buy
• 48:19
  a
• 48:19
  used
• 48:19
  copy,
• 48:20
  and
• 48:20
  you
• 48:20
  can
• 48:20
  get
• 48:21
  some
• 48:21
  good
• 48:21
  language
• 48:21
  that
• 48:22
  you
• 48:22
  can
• 48:22
  use.
• 48:23
  I
• 48:23
  mean.
• 48:24
  Yeah.
• 48:24
  So
• 48:25
  I
• 48:25
  would
• 48:25
  say,
• 48:26
  you
• 48:26
  know,
• 48:27
  why
• 48:27
  not?
• 48:27
  It
• 48:27
  gives
• 48:28
  you
• 48:28
  language
• 48:28
  to
• 48:28
  use,
• 48:29
  ideas
• 48:29
  of
• 48:30
  how
• 48:30
  to
• 48:30
  handle
• 48:31
  different
• 48:31
  situations.
• 48:32
  Try
• 48:32
  it.
• 48:33
  I
• 48:33
  mean,
• 48:33
  it
• 48:34
  might
• 48:34
  make
• 48:34
  your
• 48:34
  life
• 48:34
  better
• 48:35
  in
• 48:35
  a
• 48:35
  couple
• 48:35
  of
• 48:36
  ways.
• 48:36
  You
• 48:36
  might
• 48:36
  open
• 48:36
  up
• 48:37
  communications
• 48:37
  with
• 48:38
  your
• 48:38
  teenager,
• 48:39
  which
• 48:39
  is
• 48:39
  so
• 48:39
  hard.
• 48:40
  As
• 48:40
  I
• 48:41
  said,
• 48:41
  I
• 48:41
  wanted
• 48:42
  to
• 48:42
  be
• 48:42
  the
• 48:42
  cool
• 48:42
  parent,
• 48:43
  you
• 48:44
  know,
• 48:44
  when
• 48:44
  I
• 48:44
  expected
• 48:45
  to
• 48:45
  be
• 48:45
  a
• 48:45
  cool
• 48:46
  parent.
• 48:46
  And
• 48:47
  when
• 48:47
  you
• 48:47
  guys
• 48:48
  were
• 48:48
  teenagers,
• 48:49
  you
• 48:49
  thought
• 48:49
  we
• 48:50
  were
• 48:50
  the
• 48:50
  opposite
• 48:51
  of
• 48:51
  cool.
• 48:52
  You
• 48:52
  did
• 48:52
  not
• 48:52
  think
• 48:53
  we
• 48:53
  were
• 48:53
  cool
• 48:53
  in
• 48:53
  any
• 48:54
  way.
• 48:55
  Guilty.
• 48:56
  Yeah.
• 48:57
  No,
• 48:57
  I
• 48:58
  mean.
• 48:58
  And
• 48:58
  so
• 48:59
  we
• 48:59
  had
• 48:59
  some
• 48:59
  hard
• 48:59
  years.
• 49:00
  When
• 49:00
  you
• 49:00
  were
• 49:00
  teenagers,
• 49:01
  I
• 49:01
  would
• 49:01
  say
• 49:03
  you
• 49:03
  and
• 49:04
  your
• 49:04
  brother
• 49:04
  each
• 49:04
  went
• 49:05
  through
• 49:05
  times
• 49:06
  that
• 49:06
  were
• 49:06
  very,
• 49:07
  very
• 49:07
  difficult.
• 49:08
  And
• 49:09
  I
• 49:09
  would
• 49:09
  have
• 49:09
  read
• 49:10
  a
• 49:10
  book
• 49:10
  like
• 49:10
  this.
• 49:10
  Yeah.
• 49:11
  When
• 49:11
  I
• 49:11
  was
• 49:11
  struggling
• 49:12
  to
• 49:13
  communicate
• 49:13
  with
• 49:14
  you,
• 49:14
  and,
• 49:15
  you
• 49:15
  know,
• 49:15
  I
• 49:16
  did
• 49:16
  not
• 49:17
  know
• 49:17
  what
• 49:17
  to
• 49:17
  do
• 49:17
  or
• 49:17
  how
• 49:18
  to
• 49:18
  handle
• 49:18
  things
• 49:18
  often.
• 49:19
  And
• 49:19
  so
• 49:19
  I
• 49:20
  would
• 49:20
  have
• 49:20
  grabbed
• 49:21
  at
• 49:21
  any
• 49:21
  possible
• 49:23
  idea
• 49:23
  to
• 49:24
  try.
• 49:25
  Anything.
• 49:26
  Anything.
• 49:27
  Speaking
• 49:27
  of
• 49:27
  anything,
• 49:28
  if
• 49:28
  you
• 49:29
  guys
• 49:29
  have
• 49:29
  any
• 49:29
  requests
• 49:30
  for
• 49:31
  us
• 49:31
  to
• 49:31
  read
• 49:31
  in
• 49:31
  the
• 49:32
  future
• 49:32
  or
• 49:33
  want
• 49:33
  to
• 49:33
  reach
• 49:33
  out
• 49:34
  to
• 49:34
  us
• 49:34
  about.
• 49:35
  Anything,
• 49:35
  anything,
• 49:36
  anything,
• 49:37
  feel
• 49:38
  free
• 49:38
  to
• 49:38
  email
• 49:39
  us@anythingotherpeoplesparenting.com
• 49:43
  that's
• 49:44
  correct.
• 49:44
  Anyway,
• 49:46
  thank
• 49:47
  you
• 49:47
  guys
• 49:47
  for
• 49:47
  joining
• 49:48
  us,
• 49:48
  and
• 49:48
  we
• 49:49
  hope
• 49:49
  to
• 49:49
  see
• 49:49
  you
• 49:49
  next
• 49:49
  week
• 49:50
  for
• 49:50
  another
• 49:50
  episode
• 49:50
  of
• 49:50
  Other
• 49:51
  People's
• 49:51
  Parenting.