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Why ALL Scammers are Narcissists! · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Scammy scam, scammer tins. Did y'all know that scammers are
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  narcissistic people? I feel like this is just my
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  thoughts, y'all. I feel like that most, if not
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  all scammers, people who willfully scam people are
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  narcissists or highly narcissistic.
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  And that's what we're going to talk.
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  We, we're going to be talking about today.
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  Y'all, we're going to dig into that how scammers are
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  narcissists. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist, not
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  a scammer. And we'll go to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back. Y'all know what I just noticed
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  about yesterday's video? I did the welcome to the
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  narcissist code thing on YouTube right?
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  And I didn't put the intro in, I did it on, on, on my Spotify, on
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  my Apple, but I didn't put the intro on on YouTube.
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  So I was just like, welcome back and y'all didn't go anywhere.
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  I'm glad I wasn't farting or throwing up and acting crazy
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  when I was in, in my, in the, in the little interlude I saw.
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  I just like, well, too late now. I got to leave it up.
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  But yeah, y'all scammers. Yeah.
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  First of all, let me say this right here.
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  I hate scammers. Hate them with a raw seething
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  passion, like if you the the rawest, most seething passion on
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  the planet is that which what I with what I hate the scammers
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  with because scammers scammers you, you go think about it right
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  here. And This is why I say scammers
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  are are narcissists because you have to go.
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  You have to lack empathy to do that.
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  You have to lack empathy in caring for other people in order
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  to scam somebody, to willfully take, take, take somebody's
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  money from them. You have to be devoid of empathy
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  or truly lacking it in order to take stuff from someone else.
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  You just yeah. And I just y'all can disagree
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  with that, but I think most people would.
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  Or is there the off chance? No, not even off chance.
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  Is there the chance that the scammer is scamming because it's
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  to feed their family or whatever the case may be?
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  Yeah, that it could be. But still, even in that
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  instance, you're not thinking about the people that you're
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  taking from. What if the people that you're
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  taking from don't have anything either?
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  They're fighting tooth and nail, like, and you end up taking
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  their last bit of money, you know what I'm saying?
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  Money, money, money that they may or may not ever be able to
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  get back. Yeah, You know what I'm saying?
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  That's the type of stuff that happens realistically.
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  So I think scammers are narcissists.
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  Yeah, think about it right here. Scammers in order to get in like
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  this to scam you, most times they have to go through the
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  cycle of narcissistic abuse. The the, the scamming cycle
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  looks like the cycle of narcissistic abuse, right?
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  The simple, the simplistic cycle.
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  Now I have a course called Understanding the seven stages
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  of a Narcissistic abusive relationship, right?
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  The cycle that's a mental illness.net.
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  But for simplicity, we're going to do the four stages.
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  The first stage of a narcissistic abuse cycle is love
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  bombing scammers. Most times they have to get you
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  to trust them, so they love bombing you.
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  I call it, let's call it the scam bomb, the scam bomb, the
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  little scam. What's another word for bomb?
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  The scam detonate the scam bomb is this scam bomb, right?
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  They have to scam you. They have to get you to fall for
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  them in order to be able to scam you, right?
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  And this happens. This is the truth right here.
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  They scam you in order to get something from you.
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  They really, they really, really do.
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  They scam you to get you to fall for them, to get you to trust
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  them, to get you to, to be vulnerable with them, right?
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  And once you fall for them, once they get you scammed, they fully
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  love bomb you or scam bomb you. That's when they pull the
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  switch. Once they get what they want
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  from you, that vital information, that credit card
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  number, that address, that Social Security number, whatever
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  they are trying to get from you, that payment, whatever they're
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  trying to get from you, that's when you that's when you enter
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  the next stage of the, of the relationship, the devaluation
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  phase, right? You enter the, you enter the
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  devaluation phase of a scamming relationship doesn't sound crazy
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  of a scamming narcissistic relationship.
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  You entered the devaluation phase, meaning that they take
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  whatever they were offering you, whatever they would give you,
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  they take it away from you, right?
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  They take it away. They refuse.
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  They they, they give you a fake tracking numbers.
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  They do all kinds of stuff to keep you, to keep you involved
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  with them or to keep you in, to keep you in, in, in, in the
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  throws with them. They do all kinds of things.
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  They absolutely do. And this is the mentality, this
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  is the mindset a lot of narcissistic people do right
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  here. That is what they absolutely do.
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  They once they get what they want from you after the love
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  bombing, they devalue you. They take it away or they
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  disappear on you, right? And then the cycle of
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  narcissistic abuse goes love bombing, devaluation.
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  And then guess what, the discard phase they did by you.
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  What's the scammer or the narcissist has gotten whatever,
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  whatever they wanted from you. Narcissistic supplies scamming
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  supply. They discard you, they get rid
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  of you, they block you. You try to call the you try to
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  call the customer service number and you get we're sorry.
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  The number you trying to reach is no longer in service of being
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  temporarily disconnected. You like what?
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  We're sorry the number you you were like, what the hell?
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  What happened? How we get here?
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  You see, it follows the exact same psycho damn near.
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  And so that's why I just say scammers are narcissists.
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  Yeah, you could, I feel like some people can argue with me.
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  You can you can argue with, argue with me on this point
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  right here. But you also understand how true
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  it is that these people are absolutely trying to scam the
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  hell out of you. They're they're love bombing
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  you. Scammers are narcissists, right?
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  Well, Lee, what made you want to do like, let me let me go over
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  the last cycle first. The last stage of the cycle of a
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  narcissistic abuse relationship or scamming relationship is the
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  hoovering. What I mean by hoovering is that
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  they try to suck you back into the relationship.
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  They try to come back into your life.
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  Hey, the payment didn't go through.
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  Maybe they maybe they didn't get what they wanted from you.
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  Maybe they feel like they can get more from you.
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  Maybe they can just say, oh, sorry my my company shut down,
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  but I'm here to help you and they scammed you again.
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  You entered the scamming cycle again, right?
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  You into the scamming cycle of a narcissistic abuse relationship
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  again and it becomes very difficult to get out of it.
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  In this cycle can continue on as long as it can.
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  As long as the scammer or the narcissist is getting something
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  from you, they will keep coming back around.
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  If they feel like they have a gullible target or vulnerable
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  target, they will keep coming back into your life.
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  They will keep messing with your head.
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  They will do whatever it takes and whatever is necessary to
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  continue down this path of being disruptive towards you.
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  They will absolutely do this. This is the mentality that you
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  will face against right here y'all and I already know if
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  people want to ask me lately what motivates you to do this
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  video? What why?
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  Why you have scamming on the brain?
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  Because believe it or not, I got scammed recently.
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  Well, not even recently. This is last year y'all and I'm
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  still I'm still dealing with it right now.
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  I guess when I was on I do a little bit of acting right?
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  I was in Knoxville, TN to film an episode of For my For My Man
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  or Fatal Attraction. Was one of them Fatal Attraction
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  or For my Man, right? I don't know.
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  Some of y'all been commenting on there asking me have y'all seen?
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  Was it me on the show? Yeah, I've been on the show
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  before, right. So I was on For my Man or Photo
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  attraction. I think it was Fatal Attraction.
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  And in the hotel room in the middle of the night, I got an
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  e-mail and somebody had my somebody had hacked my Facebook.
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  And then they got into it again later on, a couple of months
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  later, they got into it again, sending me an e-mail from
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  Facebook e-mail. They spoof Facebook e-mail
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  address, send me an e-mail from Facebook, got and phished my
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  account, got started spending money running my debit cards,
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  running my credit cards up, started doing a whole bunch of
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  shit, like literally sent me back a bunch of money.
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  They took off my page on my Facebook page for a while.
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  And, you know, they think those people cared.
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  They didn't care. They were blocking people.
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  They were talking shit to people.
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  They were hurting people's feelings.
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  They were taking money from me, taking inboxing people, trying
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  to take money from there. You think those people cared?
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  No, they were narcissistic. Those people were damn near
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  evil. Like you have to be damn near
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  devoid of empathy to go after somebody, a content creator or,
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  or an older folk. So these, yeah, these people go
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  out to our parents or grandparents or great
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  grandparents for the Social Security or their, their, their
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  retirements or their four O 1 KS.
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  Hey, you have a gift card. I can see you.
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  I need you to upload $20,000 on this gift card.
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  How much money do you have? 40,000 I need 40,000 cards.
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  I need $40,000 on the cards, please.
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  But that's all my money's. That's all my money.
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  If you don't give me the $40,000, you're going to get
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  arrested, you're going to go to jail.
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  And then you send the money over and they disappear.
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  They go spend the money on some bullshit and you think those
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  people are you think those people have any lick of empathy,
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  any lick of regret unless they get in trouble.
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  No. And This is why I say a lot of
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  times you'll see these people online flexing their wealth as
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  well. Y'all scammers are the most
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  narcissistic them. They're the most narcissistic
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  people on the planet because they'll be scamming and they'll
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  be bragging online about what they have right, Not even
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  helping people. They'll be lying.
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  Like lying like This is why I never I try my hardest not to
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  get jealous of people, people that I see online because a lot
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  of times that stuff is fake. Man, these people be faking the
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  funk, maybe scamming, taking money from people for a living
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  and faking like hell on social media.
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  Go watch a Ray William Johnson. He just did a video about the
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  guy a hush puppy. The scammer hush puppy from I
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  think it's from Nigeria, Nigerian scammer bragging about
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  all the money he had. I think he's a Nigerian.
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  If he wasn't Nigerian, I'm sorry South Africa.
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  I don't forget what ethnicity it was but yeah y'all see it like
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  scamming? Like here bragging about his
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  life. I'm doing so much scamming.
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  Hundreds of millions of dollars scamming, taking money from
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  corporations and people. Well, Lee is a victim.
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  Scamming is a victim of this crime.
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  So how can people like nobody actually gets physically hurt
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  when you scam them. So how can it be a bad thing?
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  Because people lose their financial sometimes.
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  Sometimes they lose their financial freedom.
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  Imagine your grandparent being scammed out of their retirement
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  fund. They can't recover it and then
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  they have to go back to work at 75 or 80 years old after being
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  retired for 5/10/15 twenty years.
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  You see what I'm saying? What happens then?
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  So that's all you're saying. These scammers don't care about
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  the end result. They care about getting their
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  scamming narcissistic supply or something that makes them feel
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  better in these instances and whatnot.
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  They don't care about what they who they hurt.
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  They just care about what they're going to get.
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  They don't give a damn about people Like scammers are
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  absolutely some of the most horrible people on the planet.
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  And yes, they are absolutely narcissistic.
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  Well, Lee, are you a scammer? You're a narcissist and you're a
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  scam. Y'all, I've been on this.
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  I've been doing this for too long.
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  Y'all ain't seen me online bragging about nothing.
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  I help people literally before a living on my one on ones over
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  Zoom. I help people.
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  I have video series, I have courses.
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  I have a lot of things that are designed to help people, right?
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  A lot of things that I've cultivated and created that are
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  designed to help people that are absolutely reasonably priced.
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  Yo, you don't see me selling thousand $15,000 courses.
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  No, because I won't. I don't want only rich people,
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  wealthy people to be able to get healing and they're kind of
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  backwards. I want people who are might come
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  from be strapped or whatever. And Haley, I see the courses is
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  reasonably priced, but I can't afford it.
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  See me e-mail. We'll talk about something like
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  shit you something. I'm saying I got courses.
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  I got all kind of stuff available.
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  I'm on one on ones. You know what I mean?
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  My zoom calls. I'm not scamming.
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  I want to actually help people. I brag about helping people.
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  The only got in the new watch, but I ain't got an Apple Watch
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  got a new car. I said my car is a 2000 or 2012
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  Prius. My wife got a 2012 Honda Pilot
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  and we got a 2009 Ford Flex that we ain't we ain't bowling like
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  that. I had a Gray hair from from
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  stress. This is look.
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  The scammers don't have stress they'd be scamming.
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  They still had a Gray hair from stress right here understand is
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  this thing standing straight up. I had to lay it down like a
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  little cow lick. I'm like a flight rogue from
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  X-Men. But anyways, y'all, I hope y'all
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  haven't met. Hope you're having a great day,
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  great evening. Hope this video butchers and
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  clarity. Hope butchers and peace scammers
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  are evil. Hope y'all wish the worst on
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  y'all. If y'all here scamming, ruining
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  people's lives for your, for your own benefit, that's
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  horrible. You are a horrible person.
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  Anyway, y'all have my courses available, my support group,
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  everything is available at mentalillness.net.
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  I appreciate every single one of y'all.
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  I'm super grateful for you. And as always y'all, as always,
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