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Season 2 - Episode 121 - How are the good opinions of other people affecting you? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the In Coop, sorry for the nasally voice
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  today but we've got a little cold going on over here through
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  our family. So question of the day, how
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  often do you catch yourself making excuses?
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  You know my son and I were having a discussion about this
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  earlier in the day we homeschool our son and I was asking him
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  about his time that he logged for his independent study and
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  you know he always has an interesting Concept of Whole
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  Hog. Something took him and we
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  recently switched our programs that we were using and this one
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  has very very accurate time to let us see exactly how long he's
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  in a module, how long he's actually studying reading what
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  is he doing? And he started listening to him.
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  Give me his interpretation of his day.
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  And then I realized how many excuses that that that boy can
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  come up within a very short period of time, and I was
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  laughing about Out. And I said, my feel like you're
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  making excuses right now and he's like, no.
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  I'm telling you what happened? And I said, I understand that
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  that's your interpretation of what happened.
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  But it's all an excuse and we got into this big debate about
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  it. Now, the reason I'm bringing
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  this up to you because I explained to him the same thing,
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  you know, we, as human beings have a way of skewing things to
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  soften it for ourselves. We don't like to confront
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  ourselves head-on. Sometimes you have to confront
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  things head on so that you can change them back to most of the
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  time you have to confront things head on to change them.
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  So for me I really work hard with my clients or making sure
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  that there are. There's a difference between
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  excuses and facts. There are different things that
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  come up. And you know what, most of the
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  time it boils down to is we just don't want to do something or we
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  might not. Prioritize it enough and if you
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  start to think of things in your head like we start, we structure
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  things in like, this is more important than that and no
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  matter what we rate, everything, whether we realize it or not, we
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  spend an inordinate amount of time rating things in our system
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  that we have for ourselves. So you know, some of those, I
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  didn't get a chance to take care of that for you today.
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  It wasn't a priority and they're not just saying to you hey I you
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  know I didn't make it a priority. there was a very funny
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  commercial years ago on television where these two
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  people were on a date and it was about what if people like really
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  told the truth and they sat there and the girl was looking
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  at the guy and she's like, I just can't stand the way you
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  look and he's like, yeah, I'm never calling you back and it
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  was very funny and very humorous and you know, it just reminded
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  me of like wouldn't it be great if people were just really
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  honest about certain things and just came out and said it, Old
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  Dudley, Moore movie, Funny Farm, same thing where it was they
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  would just tell the truth in this movie.
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  And it was really, really funny about how the reaction to other
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  people would bounce back to them with it.
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  And when you think about how many excuses you give yourself
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  instead of just being honest about it.
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  Like look it didn't. It wasn't a priority for me or I
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  just didn't care about it. We do this to ourselves all the
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  time. So once my had this conversation
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  with my So I started thinking about, all right, how many
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  excuses do I make up in a day? Like what are the excuses that I
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  come up with? And that I make for myself in a
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  day? And I started thinking about the
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  fact that I haven't painted in a very, very, very long time.
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  Like I have not, I haven't done any painting in a long time and
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  too long of a time. And I said to myself, you know,
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  what's the reason that I haven't painted said, well, I don't have
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  a place where I can set it up. Well, that's not exactly.
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  Be true. I do have a place where I can
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  set it up. I would just have to take down
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  if I set it up and and the worst part is like I have the ability
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  to do that, but I allowed myself to buy the excuse of.
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  Well, you know what? I don't have a place because I
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  can't leave it set up and that's an excuse, but I can paint.
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  I just don't prioritize it or I'll say, well, I don't have the
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  paper I like to paint on right now, and I can't find the paper
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  again because my supplier went, well, that's an Was I can still
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  get other paper. I could try a good experiment,
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  if it was a high enough priority, if I made it urgent
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  and I wanted to do it and it got me to really think about how we
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  have become so desensitized to making excuses.
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  And I want you guys to really look at this and where this
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  shows up in your day, where the shows up in your life because
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  I'm going to tell you it's everywhere and as much as I work
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  on it, I still find myself getting hooked on Don it, I hear
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  it with clients. I hear with my son, I hear it
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  across the board and I hear it within myself to.
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  So I thought you know, this is a worthy thing for us to take a
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  look at because if we're making excuses and we're not
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  prioritizing things and we're not telling people you know I'm
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  just not going to get to it or I've got a lot on my plate it's
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  not going to be till here till I can do it.
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  Then we're just causing ourselves to to set up a
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  situation where we're going to fail and the thing I would like
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  to help you avoid is Setting up things to fail.
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  There's nothing worse than having a successful strategy for
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  failure. So, look at this, really start
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  to pay attention. How many times am I making
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  excuses and do I really need to even make an excuse?
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  Why can't I just say, you know what?
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  I didn't prioritize it I apologize or I just didn't want
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  to do it and I apologize and I think when you do that, you're
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  going to start to feel a lot better and you're going to start
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  to feel a lot honest. And you're going to start to see
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  things really shift in your life.
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  So take it out. See if what comes about for, you
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  does the same thing for me and you know, how it affect you.
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  So, I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Hopefully, I won't be quite as
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  nasally tomorrow morning. Hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye. See if what comes about for, you
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  does the same thing for me and you know, how it affect you.
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  So, I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Hopefully, I won't be quite as
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  nasally tomorrow morning. Hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye.