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Stress and filling yourself back up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  We are continuing our series on stress and we're talking about
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  filling yourself back up. So what do I mean?
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  When I say filling yourself back up?
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  Well, I'm talking about doing the things for you that make you
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  happy that, you know, are healthy for you.
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  I'm not talking about filling yourself back up with things
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  that are not healthy for you. I'm talking about the things
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  that are good for you, good for your soul, things that make you
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  feel great. And I think an important aspect
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  Act of stress is to understand how to fill yourself back up,
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  because a big component of stress is not understanding how
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  draining it is on your soul, when you keep doing it every
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  day, every day, every day. Every day now granted, let's be
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  very clear. Stress happens.
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  Even in the most prepared moments, myself included, there
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  are moments of stress. I am not a stress-free person,
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  but I am someone who can pivot quickly out of it.
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  I'm someone who can work through it.
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  And I'm definitely someone who has set my life up to have as
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  little stress as I possibly can by being prepared, understanding
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  how to schedule. And looking at things just like
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  last night, I had a client who requested a session that was
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  very late past my time zone. I don't book a session that
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  starts at 7 p.m. because it's way too much for me.
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  And I know I'm not mentally capable of doing it.
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  So, rather than getting stressed out about the fact that I had to
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  say no to them. What I basically just said, was,
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  I'm sorry. Sorry, I'm just no good at at 7
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  p.m. I won't be mentally present, so
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  we can't do it. Then we have to find another
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  time and that's the truth. And when you tell the truth, it
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  takes away a huge moment of fear in something because I'm not
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  going to show up well. Now, granted, do I think she's
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  going to go somewhere else? No, because I'm telling the
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  truth and I want to give her the best possible experience I can
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  and she knows that. So we're going to work on that
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  today too. You're out something of a time
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  for her but in but in any event back to filling yourself back
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  up, one of the most important things that you can do is look
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  for the things that fill you up. One of the reasons that I record
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  out here in the chicken coop and that I have these chickens to
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  begin with is because they bring me so much joy.
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  You know, I had them when I was a child and it was disastrous,
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  it was great in the beginning and then it ended in a very,
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  very disastrous. Way and they were all killed by
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  a neighbor's dog and I so I was so sad and I so wanted to do it
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  again and have more of them and my mother was absolutely
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  insistent that we not do it because she said no this is the
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  dog is still there. The dog is going to do it again
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  and I'm like, well, can't we have it in a place where they
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  won't get to him? Know the answer was just no, and
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  we didn't have chickens again and from my whole life, from the
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  time I was 6 years old until the time I am now.
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  I want two chickens. I talked about it because it
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  filled me back up, it made me happy having them and there was
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  just something about them, and unless you have them, you don't
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  understand it, that you just look at them, like they're
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  chickens, but when you have them and you understand their
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  personalities, their quirky, they're fun.
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  And for me, I can walk out into this chicken coop, which is why
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  I record from here and watch them.
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  And they're like, little quirky beings, and they have all their
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  own personalities each And has their own personalities and they
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  bring me joy. So because of that, it fills me
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  back up having plants. Another thing that fills me back
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  up gardening, fills me back up, painting fills me, backup
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  cameras and taking pictures. Huge thing for me about filling
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  me back up. Huge huge, I have an iPhone and
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  I have constant picture-taking throughout my day.
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  All the little things around me that I can you Use to take
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  pictures of if I see a feather on the ground and it looks cool.
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  I'll take a picture of it and those are moments of mindfulness
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  that I capture visually for myself.
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  And I can put those in my phone, revisit those throughout the
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  day, which I do. And funny enough, my family has
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  a habit of grabbing an iPad at night and looking at pictures
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  all the time. So we have probably I think I'm
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  up to 80,000 photos legitimately in iPhone and not Just in my
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  iPhone but in the cloud and my family will scan through them
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  because I basically record life for us but that feels me back up
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  and that's the point doing those things.
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  Having that list of stuff simply coloring putting Play-Doh out on
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  a table. Those are moments to fill
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  yourself back up, bring you back to Childhood.
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  You want to try something fun by six pack of Play-Doh.
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  Keep it on the kitchen counter and watch how people just dive
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  into it, random. Lee, they'll just pick it up and
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  start playing with it. I have cards on my counter, the
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  quiz cards, like, you know, Trivial Pursuit cards but
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  they're they're more like brainbuster cards.
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  But years ago, we went to a bar and they always had Trivial
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  Pursuit cards on the bar and I always thought gosh, that's so
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  much fun. I love that and just started
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  doing it in our own house and it, you'd be so surprised the
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  kids gravitate to it, our neighbors kids walk in, and grab
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  cards, and start reading the questions right away to see if
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  they know, These are things that fill me back up, so I don't have
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  to feel like I'm constantly giving giving giving giving
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  giving giving giving and not filling back up.
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  But it, the trick to, this is notice, I am not waiting for
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  someone else to fill me back up. I am filling me back up.
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  And this is where a lot of our stress comes from because we
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  wait for other people to fill us back up.
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  Sure. Is it nice one.
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  My husband does something very kind for me.
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  You better believe it is and I'm thrilled with it.
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  Is it nice on my son? Does it?
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  Absolutely my daughter 100%, but I don't just wait for those
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  moments. I participate in my own rescue
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  and film myself back up. Because when I'm doing that,
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  then I'm more likable and then I'm likely to have somebody else
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  want to film me back up to, because if I'm just depleted all
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  the time, nobody wants to fill you back up.
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  So work on this focus on it, find out what your little things
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  are, they can be as simple as cooking.
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  They can be as simple as sitting and reading In A Book Like a
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  real book. What a concept whatever it might
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  be do it. Figure it out.
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  I'm not saying you gotta go out and get 47 chickens like I did
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  but what I'm saying is find your thing, find your things have a
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  list. So it's right there at your
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  fingertips. Just like my iPhone is when I
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  take the pictures and hopefully you work today on billing
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  yourself back up. Okay, guys.
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  I will see you tomorrow and I hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye.