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Business Coaching for the Soul · Authentic Living

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  Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a place where we have conscious conversations
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  about things that really matter in our lives.
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  And now here's your host, Roxanne Derhodge.
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  Hi, everyone.
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  It's up Roxanne.
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  How are you this week?
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  This week, I have, someone that I recently met, about, I guess, about 2 months ago.
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  And, I sat with Jennifer at, at, at, meeting for, the Canadian speakers association and
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  ready was you know, intrigued by what she did and, thought it would be a good compliment, to
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  to my show.
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  So, Jennifer, thanks so much for being here today.
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  Oh, so much fun to be here with you.
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  What a great way to start off the day.
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  Awesome.
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  So I'm gonna read a little bit about Jennifer and, why I was intrigued with she's an she is
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  an intuitive business coach.
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  So that when she said that, I went, woah, what What is that?
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  And I can just even feel by her presence sitting next to her that things were a bit
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  different.
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  She helps established females entrepreneurs step into an energetic upward cycle higher high
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  vibration leading to more opportunities, better clients, and a huge expansion of impact and
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  income.
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  She helps you to realign your soul heart and mind to clearly see what you to do in your
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  life, your business, and your relationships.
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  Awesome.
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  This allows you to confidently make decisions live like life authentically and run a business
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  that bills you up and energizes you.
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  When Jennifer's not working, she loves hanging out with her kids, hiking with her husband, and
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  walking barefoot in the grass, Maybe not in the winter, though.
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  And having delicious conversations with high vibing friends, all far parts of her spiritual
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  practice.
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  Wow.
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  That's that's, sounds really neat.
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  So Jennifer, Now I've, obviously, I've worked with business coaches.
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  I've, you know, been exposed to a lot of business coaches.
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  I'm sure a lot of people listening have to, done, a fair amount of business coaching.
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  A lot of the things that, you know, people that talk, about business it's kinda like, you know,
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  what's the vision, what's the mission, all that kind of stuff.
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  So I said, tell me more about what an intuitive coaches, business coach.
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  Great.
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  Absolutely.
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  So what I do a little bit differently is I teach people more about how they're showing up.
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  I get people to be present with who they are, what their values are, what they really want
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  out of life.
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  And then understanding what they need to be the best version of themselves for what they need
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  for their daily practice, what do they need to be giving back in community to feel filled in
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  that giving and and serving what they need to have in their relationships so that they can
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  feel fulfilled in being there for their kids their siblings, their parents, their friends,
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  their their spouses, or their partners.
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  And then once you have an idea of what that look like for how you wanna live, then we look
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  at their business.
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  And we energetically tune into the ideas that they have for their business because a lot of
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  entrepreneurs are amazing, and they are so creative.
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  And they have all these amazing ideas, but they get bogged down and make very little progress
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  and a lot of ideas.
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  And then they beat themselves up.
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  They're not really making a lot of progress.
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  So I help them with getting focused on what's really in alignment with how they wanna live.
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  And then understand who do they need to be to make the decisions to get to where they wanna
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  go.
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  So tuning in to the vision that they have.
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  So we create a structure for their business by tuning into the ideas prioritizing what's gonna
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  fit in their lives.
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  We create a structure for how they're gonna move forward for over the course of a year and,
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  it further out depending on where they are in their business.
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  But it really is about who are you being and how do you wanna live?
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  Do you find most people, you're talking pretty deep stuff, right, and do you find that it's
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  difficult for business people to do that?
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  Cause you're talking about slowing and really listening.
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  I might think that this widget is a good idea, right, because it's marketable and it's
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  trending or whatever.
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  Do you find that it's when you're talking about slowing, are are most people opposed to that,
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  or are they open because they're attracted to you knowing the kind of coaching that you do?
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  They are at that place where they are spiritually focused in some way, shape, or
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  form.
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  They've had a taste of it, and they know that they want it more in their life.
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  And they love the concept of bringing that type of presence into their business and how do they
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  how they approach their business and how they deliver in their business.
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  It's much more grounded, much more, authentic and alignment to who they're really meant to be
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  and how they're meant to serve because if we a lot of people so many of my clients, they've
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  left the corporate world.
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  Mhmm.
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  And
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  because they feel like they're not they're working too hard.
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  They're not moving in the direction that they wanna move in, and they're just feeling
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  uncomfortable and and out of alignment with yucky, and it's not who they are.
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  So they start to do things for themselves, and then they break out and they do their own
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  business, but then they realize, oh my gosh.
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  I've got so much to do And it's a little different when you're an entrepreneur because
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  you don't have the same sort of support systems as a big corporation.
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  You have an IT department.
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  You have somebody to order your office supplies and all of that.
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  So there's that component of it, understanding what your genius is as well for how to move
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  forward, but you have to make sure that you're not gonna get yourself back into that same
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  spot.
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  You don't wanna be back into hating where you are hating who you're being.
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  You need to be making these choices in a place of where you're really aware of who you're
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  being and how you're showing up.
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  How is this all impacting you?
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  And is this how you wanna live?
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  Mhmm.
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  Mhmm.
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  Yeah.
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  For sure.
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  Because as an entrepreneur, Whether you need a paperclip or you need, like, marketing that
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  same day, you can you have to go through so many so many things when you're starting off
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  until you're at the point where you cannot kind of outsource things, obviously.
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  You know, a lot of people, we have we all I've done it.
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  I'm sure you've done it when you start your business.
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  And it's draining.
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  It it can be draining, right, because there's so many parts to the business that you need to,
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  you know, you need to learn all the social.
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  And when the new social comes out.
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  It's like, you know, oh, I need to know that.
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  And so it's kinda like you're constantly being pulled in a million directions.
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  And everything supposedly works, podcasts work, you know, social media works, blogs, work,
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  blogs work, all that stuff comes flying at you.
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  And then after a while, you're like, oh, I I have a headache.
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  Right?
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  Is that's the so that's something that you see often with people coming to you?
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  Yes.
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  And I am working with people who have done a lot of that who are either starting to work
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  with, virtual assistants or other team members or they already have that in place, and they
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  wanna move to the next level.
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  And they know that who they're being or who they were being to get to the point where they
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  were.
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  They've got some systems in place.
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  They have an understanding of how they want to be in the world.
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  Or how they have wanted to be in the world, and now it's time to move up.
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  How am I gonna show up now?
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  What is it that I really want?
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  What's pulling me forward?
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  How can they make the big difference and give back in the most magnificent way.
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  So tell me how you, I mean, how did you get into a it.
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  I mean, business coaching, I probably think you went to school and you did your coaching and
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  stuff like that.
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  I'm I'm assuming you can tell me if it's otherwise.
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  No.
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  You didn't go to school for I
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  well, I did go to school.
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  I did I studied, hospitality and tourism I got a bachelor of commerce.
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  I remember in high school, my my, accounting teacher was actually encouraging me to become
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  an accountant because I was really good with numbers.
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  Okay.
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  But I knew that that was not where I was drawn to be.
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  So I took hospitality because I wanted to be of service.
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  I loved the hospitality industry.
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  I went into event planning.
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  And so with that, there's also project management, lots of deadlines.
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  I also worked with marketing.
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  So those are 2 my areas of specialty, and I worked in the corporate world.
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  I've worked in the not for profit.
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  I've worked on the supplier side as well as on the, the client side for events as well.
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  And when I had kids, then I realized that I did not wanna do that commute into Toronto anymore.
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  So I focused on working closer to home, And when I had my second son, I realized, you know,
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  I don't wanna just work just to pay for day care.
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  That just doesn't make any sense.
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  And it doesn't fulfill me.
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  So I had a a part time job.
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  And when that company closed, I then started my business.
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  I was part of a Ontario program for starting up my business on Ontario self employment benefit
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  program.
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  And I got coached, for a whole year on getting my business started.
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  And I had created a business called Live Healthy.
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  The intention of inspiring people to be proactive about their health.
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  I had created a video podcast.
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  So this is 2008 when podcasting was still very new.
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  I co hosted and co produced it with an naturopathic doctor from Toronto.
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  And my intention was just to sell advertising in the podcast.
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  But the problem was is that I didn't believe in myself.
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  I didn't have any qualifications as a health care practitioner.
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  And I didn't know why anybody would wanna listen to me.
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  So I didn't do a very good job when I was approaching companies to try to get
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  advertising.
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  So After that period of time, how that had started was I had created a group called
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  Healthy Mums Connect where I had connected with a number of different women in the community
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  practitioners and community.
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  And I wanted to do sessions where we could learn about how to be a healthier mom.
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  So back in 2007, there like, all the wellness stuff was just starting.
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  It was just starting to bubble up, and it's not at the place where it is now.
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  So I went through a journey of not believing in myself being passionate about this topic, but
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  not believing in myself.
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  And so things did not progressed the way I'd hoped.
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  So I looked at, okay, how can I use the skills, my passion for wellness, my event planning
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  background, and how can I use this to still do good in the world?
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  So I looked at corporate wellness.
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  And so I got some corporate wellness clients.
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  However, that was 2008, And at that point, I don't know if you remember what was happening
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  at that time.
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  That was the recession.
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  So as I'm going on knocking on doors, literally going into offices and they let the
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  receptionist go because they don't have the budget for that.
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  Right.
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  Right.
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  So I nurtured my corporate clients, and I took on a few other projects.
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  And I stepped back to say, alright.
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  I've really only been working at my business part time because my kids were both young, and
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  my youngest was still going to school every other day.
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  Once my youngest gets to go to school full time, that's when I'll give myself permission
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  to figure out what I wanna do when I grow up.
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  And that is when the if the Pandora's box, the the beautiful, spiritual window line opened up
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  for me, and I discovered all these different spiritual tools.
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  And it helped me get out of that place of, like, I was I was not very good at making
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  decisions.
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  I would get my stomach tied up a knot.
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  So for instance, when we moved into our house, we're painting our kitchen and just above the
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  kitchen window, There's 2 sets of cabinets on the left side and right side of the window, and
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  there's this little 8 inch strip, 3 feet wide, of wall.
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  And I took me 30 minutes to decide, do I paint it the same color as the walls or the ceiling?
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  And that is such a simple decision It should not have taken that long, but I was so afraid
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  of making a mistake.
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  So on my spiritual journey, what it's helped me to do Is to become detached?
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  Do not get caught up in all of the logical things of, oh my gosh, what can what can happen
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  if I do this and and take you down a deep hole of all the things that can go wrong, but rather
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  take a step back, become detached from it, and look at all the possibilities, not only what's
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  gonna go wrong, but what can go right and understanding How to tune into the energy of
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  the different possibilities to see what's best for me, to see what's best for my clients, and
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  then teaching them how to tune in so that they can feel confident when they're making
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  decisions too.
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  So tell me about that tuning in process.
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  Tell me a little bit more what that's about.
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  And, you know, for the average person, maybe that has never done anything intuitive.
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  You know, it's like, they say that we have more, brain cells, like nerve endings in her
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  tummy when they say I have a, you know, a a a guts feeling, And now that's been proven by
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  neuroscience that there's actually more, you know, neurons in our tummy than than there is
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  in our even in our head.
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  And it's a wider throat or body.
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  But in our tummies, especially there's that much more.
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  So it makes sense what you're saying.
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  So tell me a little bit more about the process of how you help people tune in.
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  So first let me just, explain something in alignment with what you were just mentioning.
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  In native traditions, they believe that we have 3 brains.
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  Mhmm.
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  We have our intuitive brain in our gut.
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  We have our emotional brain in our heart, and then we have our logical brain.
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  And what they do when they're making decisions is they go to that intuitive brain in their
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  Whereas in North America, we are so caught up in the busyness of life.
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  We're caught up in our logical brain.
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  And it's just a fraction of the insight and knowledge that's available to us.
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  So one of the things that I was given on my spiritual journey was my own modality called
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  connect to you, and the intention of that work is to connect those 3 brains.
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  Your to to frame, your soul, your heart, and your mind.
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  So as you open up those communication channels, then you're able to take the best of all of
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  those worlds.
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  When I am teaching my clients, I don't want you to do your due diligence with your logical
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  grain.
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  You still need to do the research.
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  You still need to collect the information to make sure you're making an educated decision,
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  and then you also bring in the intuitive things.
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  So to walk through an example, let's say you had three choices for 3 different suppliers
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  that you're considering to work with.
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  Maybe you want to do, online programs and you're looking for a membership site, for
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  instance.
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  So you do your due diligence.
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  You get all the information, and then you look at option a, b, and c.
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  I invite my clients to take a pause and notice how do they feel physically, emotionally,
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  mentally, and then once your gut reaction for each option.
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  So when you tune in physically, you close your eyes and you say, okay, on a scale, 1 to 10,
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  how does option 8 make me feel?
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  And then you listen to your body.
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  You do a quick body scan.
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  Oh, I feel like really tight in my stomach or in my chest, and I'm finding it hard to
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  breathe.
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  I'm I'm getting a tingling sensation down my leg, or I I feel heavy.
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  And then maybe for the next one, you feel this lightness and you you feel like excitement and
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  you you feel like you wanna bounce up and down.
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  And then for the third one, you Yeah.
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  You just don't really notice anything.
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  It just seems kind of neither here nor there.
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  And then you go in, alright, emotionally.
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  How does each option feel emotionally?
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  So maybe that the first one, it it feels like there's this funny feeling in my mouth.
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  Like, I I almost wanna, I wanna I want I say, well, I'm a vomit.
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  It's sort of a thought that I have, and it's just you feel yucky.
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  You feel ill at ease.
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  There's something really uncomfortable about that.
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  The second one feels really exciting and really, really happy.
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  And, like, there's something really good about the energy of that one.
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  And then the third one, I feel like deflated.
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  And so tuning into the energy of how you feel emotionally.
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  And then you go into your logical mind.
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  Okay.
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  Well, the first one You know what?
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  It's a really comprehensive program.
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  It does a lot, but I have to get 3 other programs to hook into it to get it to really
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  integrate with my system.
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  Alright.
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  So that one is like a a 3 out of 10.
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  And then the next one, I really like the, the integrity of the company.
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  It really is an alignment.
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  It flows effortlessly into my other programs.
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  I need to get one more thing in to really get it to work properly.
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  But I can I like the other solution, and it feels great?
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  And then the last one, it just is not comprehensive enough.
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  It just it doesn't talk to other systems.
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  It's not gonna help me.
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  There's just just nothing with that.
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  So bringing in the intuition like that one, the situation I just described It's kind of more
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  clear on the logical mind, but sometimes the there are things that are a little closer that
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  makes it harder to distinguish which one's really the best, and that's when you go through
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  this and you start to recognize the subtleties that are going on and in your body as you start
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  to think about working with each of the systems.
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  That's that sounds amazing because when I think of myself and business and what I'm passionate
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  about, it's it's speaking.
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  Like I love to speak.
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  Right?
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  And every time I've kind of diverted away from that, I I can tell.
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  Like, it's it's just work.
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  It's just, you know, it's too much.
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  And, yes, I might the other stuff I might enjoy also, but when I get back online with anything
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  related to the part that I love because it doesn't feel like work for me.
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  So it's interesting.
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  So that's when you say that, that that would make a lot of sense because when you sit with
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  it, you know, we generally go in the you're right.
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  In the west, we go to the logical mind immediately, and we go to the metrics and
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  what's gonna happen and all that stuff.
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  We really most people don't often slow down, which is, I think, what you're seeing is really
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  the the pebble and the rough there.
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  And that's slowing down.
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  That is the genius for everything.
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  We're we are trying to cram too much into our days, into our lives.
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  And in the process, we're missing the joy of the process of bringing it to life.
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  Because we gotta get it all done, and I gotta get this done.
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  I gotta get that done.
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  But what about, like, the joy of the the research?
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  Of, you know, learning new things.
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  And what of the what about the joy of, oh my gosh, the things that this is going to create
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  that's possible and there's a lot of joy that when we can slow down rather than just trying
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  to get it done, that we can That's what we're here to do.
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  Right?
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  We're not here to just to just make this widget.
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  We're not here just to make this widget.
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  We are here to have the the joyful process of creating all of the different components that
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  make the widget, of getting into that creative space space, the problem solving space, and and
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  going into new dimensions of, like, areas that we've never explored before for new materials
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  to make that widget and create leading edge conversations for this widget.
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  Even though it's just a widget, it could still be a leading wedge widget.
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  And I think you're right.
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  It's like it's almost like I've heard it describe, like, child's play.
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  Right?
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  If you look at a child play
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  Yes.
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  Right?
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  You know, they're like they're like their eyes are like lit up all the time.
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  Right?
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  And and with adults, we lose that because it was so outcome driven.
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  You know, and and you know, sometimes, I don't know if you go through this.
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  Sometimes I'll look back at my ear because I'm needing, you know, to get something together
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  to, to, you know, renew something.
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  And I'm, I'm looking, and I'm, I'm guilty of it.
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  I'm sure a lot of, people that you are too.
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  I I sometimes I think, oh my goodness, I cannot believe what I've done in 1 year.
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  Yes.
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  I'm gonna celebrate it.
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  No.
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  I know because you're going, going, going, And then you're like, and then you stop because,
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  you know, I'm renewing a membership where they need validation or something, and then I'm
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  like, wow.
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  How did I get all of this stuff done?
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  But you're so right.
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  You don't I and I'm I'm a lot better now, but I wouldn't stop and say, well, I've, you know,
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  I've started the podcast of, you know, I've hired an assistant, you know, all that stuff
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  that, you know, it's kinda like, you know, and these are big decisions.
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  Not a lot of decisions.
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  And I think you're right.
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  It's it's almost like giving that emotional part of yourself a pat on the on the back, but
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  I literally say Wow.
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  You've done well.
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  And there's things that have failed also, but, you know, how much you actually done.
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  So celebrate, I think, is very, very key.
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  It is.
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  And so I have, a business mastermind, and that's one of the things that we do on every
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  call.
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  We celebrate what we've done in the last 2 weeks.
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  And then we also look at what it is that we are working through, what do we need help with,
• 22:18
  what are and then create what we're accountable for for the upcoming period.
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  And then we always always always finish off our calls with who are we going to be for the next
• 22:28
  2 weeks.
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  And declare that.
• 22:30
  Because that's
• 22:31
  where are you going to be versus what are you going to achieve?
• 22:35
  Yeah.
• 22:35
  Yeah.
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  Well, we do do them.
• 22:37
  What are you gonna achieve?
• 22:37
  Because we do have an accountability, but who are you gonna be to in order to be able to
• 22:42
  achieve that?
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  Does that make sense?
• 22:45
  I like that, Jennifer.
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  Like, seriously, because when you're out of alignment, I know what I am, I can feel that
• 22:52
  Right?
• 22:52
  Yeah.
• 22:53
  But if I'm kinda thinking in the world of why I started doing what I'm doing, I I wanted to
• 22:58
  make a difference you know, my thing was when I started as a little girl, I liked to talk to
• 23:03
  people, and they liked, when I talked to them, they felt better.
• 23:07
  So I like that element of being able to talk to people and make them feel better, which
• 23:12
  obviously ended up into me going to school and all those things.
• 23:15
  And really, the element is just feeling the feeling the impact of changing someone's life.
• 23:21
  Yes.
• 23:22
  Right?
• 23:22
  And when I do things that take me off course, of that, whatever the the activity is, then I I
• 23:29
  I get stifled.
• 23:30
  Yeah.
• 23:31
  You know?
• 23:32
  So it sounds it sounds very so you're actually having people go in.
• 23:36
  Alright.
• 23:37
  So do you do things like, actual slowing process with your masterminds and your one to
• 23:43
  one coaching where you do, like, body scans, you know, for people listening, a body scan is
• 23:50
  just like it sounds.
• 23:51
  It's it's kind of going into a state, and I'm thinking this is this is what I do with a body
• 23:55
  scan.
• 23:55
  You you get very relaxed and you're really kinda Listen to what your head, your, you know,
• 23:59
  what's happening at the top of your head, kind of what's happening in your cheek.
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  You've and you go all the way over your body, and then you kind of become in tune with what
• 24:08
  your body's sharing with you.
• 24:10
  Is that the same thing that you do?
• 24:13
  Yes.
• 24:13
  So I teach people how to do this.
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  I call it personal energy management, and I teach them how to do it every day for
• 24:22
  themselves so that when they're making the decisions, It's something that they're able to
• 24:26
  do kind of automatically.
• 24:28
  So imagine doing this quick check-in every single day, how am I feeling physically,
• 24:32
  emotionally, mentally, and then spiritually to know how you're feeling.
• 24:36
  So you're doing this body scan.
• 24:38
  It's like, oh, you know what?
• 24:39
  I didn't really I got a kink in my back.
• 24:41
  I must have slept funny last night.
• 24:43
  But that kinky netback could be a distraction for you all day.
• 24:47
  You might be better served by taking 5 minutes to do some stretching or booking an appointment
• 24:53
  to see your health care practitioner to get it looked at or or making a note that if it's not
• 24:58
  better by the next day, to get it looked at.
• 25:01
  But once you've done this check-in and you write it down, then you know what's going on in
• 25:07
  your body.
• 25:08
  Physically, emotionally, you might realize that you're tired.
• 25:11
  You might realize that you're still feeling some heaviness in your heart because of a
• 25:15
  conversation you had with somebody that you cared about.
• 25:17
  Yes, today and it's still affecting you today.
• 25:20
  So getting present and then mentally, you can tune into, alright, I'm feeling really alert.
• 25:26
  I feel really alive.
• 25:27
  I feel like I can take on the day.
• 25:30
  Or, it could be that my brain's in a fog because it didn't sleep last night because my
• 25:35
  back's bothering me.
• 25:36
  So I need to re reorganize my day in order to make sure I have some time to get myself into a
• 25:44
  place where I can think better or perhaps, you know, that accounting or or proposal that I was
• 25:49
  gonna work on I need to move it to the next morning when I'm in a better mental state, so
• 25:54
  I'm not ending up redoing it all over again.
• 25:58
  So it's really it's really about gentleness and kindness to yourself.
• 26:02
  I mean, you know, at the end of the day, certain things have to go out certain times.
• 26:05
  We know about deadlines.
• 26:07
  Don't have to tell business people that they understand that.
• 26:09
  Right?
• 26:09
  Do you know if you're working on you're talking about working on a speech I'm working on.
• 26:13
  It's gonna get done because sometimes you just have to work through things.
• 26:17
  But overall, you're you're telling people to really intuit where they are on every level.
• 26:24
  Yes.
• 26:25
  Maximize their energy based on what's happening for them.
• 26:29
  Do you have people kind of, map out what their most productive times of the day are and kind
• 26:35
  of work with that also.
• 26:37
  If people don't have that awareness yet, Doing this check-in three times a day helps them to
• 26:42
  identify that.
• 26:43
  Okay.
• 26:44
  And even though you might have things that you need to get done, Well, because you know that
• 26:49
  you have some things that you need to get done, we review what are the best tools for them to
• 26:54
  reach for, to get into a better feeling state so that they can get that work done.
• 26:59
  How
• 26:59
  can they use their energy?
• 27:01
  So for me, when it's nice out, my go to is going outside.
• 27:04
  Even when if it's a a cold today is a rainy day, not such a great day, but if even if it's
• 27:09
  winter time, but it's nice and sunny out, I'll put my boots.
• 27:12
  I'll put my coat on.
• 27:13
  Go for a walk around the block.
• 27:14
  Go for a walk around my garden.
• 27:16
  Get grounded.
• 27:17
  And that will if I'm feeling Anytime I'm feeling less than a 7, I have to do something
• 27:23
  immediately to fix that because I know that the work that I'm gonna do I'm just gonna have to
• 27:28
  fix it anyway.
• 27:29
  So I'm better off spending 5 minutes, 15 minutes, whatever it might be to boost my
• 27:34
  energy in order to have thing that I'm working on, have the best energy, have me showing up as
• 27:39
  the best version of myself.
• 27:40
  Otherwise, yeah, I'm gonna redo it.
• 27:42
  It'll take me longer in the end.
• 27:44
  Makes so much makes so much sense.
• 27:46
  Right?
• 27:47
  You know, because sometimes you'll hear the prescription, you know, get up, do this, do
• 27:52
  that, you know, which, and I try to apply to everyone.
• 27:56
  And we know that that's not reality.
• 27:57
  It's really about it tailoring to who who we are, where we're at, Do you have young, I mean,
• 28:02
  you know, when people, I know you work with a lot of, female, entrepreneurs, you, you know,
• 28:08
  you're still, you know, you know, getting the lunches and and and throwing them up the front
• 28:13
  door and driving them to school, all that stuff.
• 28:16
  That's still part of your day.
• 28:18
  So kind of trying to figure out with people what what the best flow is for them and being
• 28:22
  authentic, which obviously I talk a lot about that because about being Why am I doing what
• 28:27
  I'm doing?
• 28:29
  Yes, we all work, and we have to make a living, but when I've connected to this what who I am
• 28:34
  and what I do, it's just easier to produce.
• 28:38
  Yes.
• 28:39
  And especially the women who still have children and that they need to take care of
• 28:44
  their needs.
• 28:45
  If we were a phone, if you can imagine your phone battery, If it is on, like, 30%, you're
• 28:52
  gonna wanna charge it up before you begin your day.
• 28:55
  So you need to charge yourself up before you begin your day with whatever you need to do for
• 29:01
  the kids.
• 29:02
  So if it means getting up half an hour earlier, then you need to do that.
• 29:06
  To do some sort of practice to take care of yourself.
• 29:10
  Even if you had to stay up late to finish off something else for someone else, and you're not
• 29:16
  able to get that full half hour in 15 minutes, 10 minutes, something to nurture you, to get
• 29:23
  you into a better place.
• 29:24
  Because if you're just trying to get the kids out the door at 30% and then you're getting
• 29:29
  frustrated.
• 29:30
  And then that starts their day off in a frustrated way.
• 29:34
  I'm gonna be ill.
• 29:36
  Oh my gosh.
• 29:36
  I shouldn't have yelled at them.
• 29:38
  And then that is it just it snowballs for the rest of your day.
• 29:42
  So taking that 10 minutes.
• 29:45
  Even is gonna set the tone for the rest of your day.
• 29:48
  We get so distracted by everybody else's needs and we need to really take care of our own
• 29:55
  needs in order to to shine.
• 29:57
  And just even that quick check-in, how do I feel physically emotionally mentally and
• 30:01
  spiritually even if you have to do it in the bed before you get out of bed?
• 30:06
  Mhmm.
• 30:06
  That's great.
• 30:07
  I I encourage people to do it when they brush their teeth.
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  Because that's a natural time.
• 30:11
  So you could check-in on before you get started with your day.
• 30:14
  And then at the end of the day, and then find a natural time in the middle of the day, maybe
• 30:18
  it's when you fill up the water bottle or when you go by lunch.
• 30:23
  Nice.
• 30:24
  So I'm intrigued by this, and I wanted her to talk a little bit, about it.
• 30:30
  There's a a pendulum that she uses, and I want I and I still and I have to get to you,
• 30:36
  Jennifer, to to to experience this.
• 30:41
  And I think you took it out of the meeting and we we kind you know, you kinda showed me what
• 30:45
  you did, but I want you to explain it to people because I think most of the a lot of people
• 30:49
  were all trying to figure out more ways to clear ahead, get more true, you know, and, you
• 30:56
  know, as we as we're ending off 2013, I know I know I'm thinking, you know, what could I do
• 31:01
  differently?
• 31:02
  How can I, you know, as I get a year, I my birthday is in January, so I'm, you know,
• 31:07
  another year later?
• 31:08
  Kinda, how do I, you know, kinda do it, but don't be so harsh about it, just learn more
• 31:15
  ways.
• 31:16
  And when you showed me the pendulum about the questions, I was fascinated.
• 31:20
  So I I asked, Jennifer to tell us a little bit about that process and, you know, what she does
• 31:26
  with it.
• 31:27
  So.
• 31:27
  So first, I wanna explain what working with the pendulum is.
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  It's called dowsing.
• 31:33
  And dowsing is something that's been around for 1000 years.
• 31:35
  It's even mentioned in the Bible.
• 31:37
  A lot of people are familiar with the term of dosing.
• 31:41
  I know I first heard about it in school where we heard about people who would go on a
• 31:47
  farmland and they would have a y stick.
• 31:50
  So there'd be two handles that would be held in each hand, left, and right, and then the the
• 31:54
  stick that goes down for the y is what would point out in front of them, and they would walk
• 31:58
  the land to see where to drill for water.
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  And then that why the stick part would wiggle when they found the location.
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  What you're doing is you're tuning into life force energy with that stick.
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  I uses process of dowsing with a tool called a pendulum.
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  And a pendulum is really, like a chain or a piece of string that's like 3 to 6 inches long
• 32:22
  and a weight at the end of it.
• 32:24
  You could use a pendant of a necklace as a pendulum.
• 32:27
  You can buy pendulums from different spiritual stores or some health food stores even.
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  They are often made out of a crystal material.
• 32:37
  Or wood, or it could be metal.
• 32:40
  Those are the most common materials.
• 32:42
  I can douse with pretty much anything, even if I had a tea bag, a weight, a wet tea bag, a
• 32:47
  light tea bag, not so much, but a a a tea bag that's been wet, but not dripping light because
• 32:51
  you don't want making a mess, And it's about whenever I pick up my pendulum, I feel like I'm
• 33:00
  having a conversation with the universe.
• 33:03
  I'm saying, okay, universe.
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  My soul, I believe my soul is the universe.
• 33:08
  That's my personal belief.
• 33:11
  Okay.
• 33:11
  What information is it that I need to know about this situation?
• 33:16
  I can I've programmed my pendulums for a response for yes, no, yes, but, and no but.
• 33:24
  So it's kinda like the 20 questions game.
• 33:27
  If I ask a question, I can get a yes answer or no and then yes but and no but help me to it's
• 33:33
  more like the hot and cold game where you're getting warmer.
• 33:36
  You're getting warmer.
• 33:37
  So I need to reframe my question to make sure that I'm getting the answer that I the end
• 33:43
  result of the answer that I'm looking for.
• 33:46
  I prefer to use something called a Ray chart.
• 33:49
  And what a rate chart is is if you can think back to school days where you have a protractor
• 33:55
  and on the edge of the end of the pro factor.
• 33:57
  There's all the degrees of the radius for that semi circle.
• 34:01
  Now imagine instead of there being all those numbers at the end, that there were options of
• 34:06
  the different things you're trying to consider.
• 34:08
  So let's say go back to that 3 different systems you're trying to evaluate.
• 34:13
  You wanna get clear as to what are the parameters for the end result that I'm looking
• 34:18
  for?
• 34:18
  So for those the system that I'm evaluating for, I wanna sure that it's easy to use.
• 34:23
  It integrates into my existing systems.
• 34:26
  I wanna make sure that, the the The way it looks represents my brand and that it's gonna
• 34:33
  be also easy for my clients to use.
• 34:36
  So I'll write down all those parameters, and and I needs to fit my budget.
• 34:40
  And so I'll write down all those parameters of what a positive end result looks like.
• 34:46
  Now tuning into that, feeling that, alright, getting so you read it over.
• 34:50
  This is what feels really good for my end result.
• 34:53
  This is what I want it to feel I write down on a rate chart.
• 34:57
  So I draw a line across the bottom and then up straight for where 90 degrees would be and then
• 35:03
  up to the left and up to the right.
• 35:05
  So there's a line across the bottom and then 3 of lines that stick out.
• 35:09
  And then I will say based on these parameters, what is the best option for me to choose?
• 35:16
  And then I can pick that option.
• 35:17
  It'll swing towards.
• 35:18
  So so the middle is is no.
• 35:22
  The middle will actually be so if I draw a line across the bottom Okay.
• 35:29
  Just kind of like a a baseline.
• 35:31
  Okay.
• 35:32
  Okay.
• 35:32
  And then if I draw a line up top for option b, align to the left for option a, and align to
• 35:39
  the right for option c.
• 35:42
  Okay.
• 35:43
  And then I hold my pendulum at the bottom intersection with that b line.
• 35:51
  So the the line that's at 90 degrees intersects with baseline.
• 35:56
  Okay.
• 35:57
  I'll ask the question based on these parameters, which system is best for me, and I
• 36:02
  wait to see where it swings.
• 36:03
  And I also need to have other because there could be another system that I haven't
• 36:08
  evaluated that I need to look at.
• 36:11
  So one of those, the baseline to the right, I'll write other.
• 36:15
  Okay.
• 36:16
  So
• 36:16
  that's how I use a rate chart.
• 36:18
  When I, use the pendulum to get a yes or no response, I've programmed my pendulum to show a
• 36:25
  clockwise rotation for yes and a counter clockwise rotation for no.
• 36:30
  So I can ask well, to be honest, I I find that asking yes and no questions gets to be tedious
• 36:39
  it's good for getting started as you're learning how to DAOs, but I just go to rate
• 36:43
  charts.
• 36:44
  I'll ask instead on a scale of 1 to 10, and Roxanne, I'm gonna show you what my I keep this
• 36:51
  under my keyboard.
• 36:53
  It's a yellow one at a time.
• 36:54
  So it's a gray chart with a scale of one to 10.
• 36:56
  So if I Right.
• 36:57
  To douse an to get the insight on a question on a scale of 1 to 10, how beneficial is it for me
• 37:03
  to do this interview with Roxanne?
• 37:05
  I was presented with an opportunity to do a presentation this Friday on a scale of 1 to 10.
• 37:11
  How beneficial is it for me to do this presentation?
• 37:14
  And I got a 10 and it kinda surprised me because I had decided I was gonna focus on
• 37:19
  other things and yet I got a yes for this.
• 37:22
  And it was something that I was gonna make a priority for next year, but I can see how
• 37:27
  saying yes to this helps me get things in alignment to make it a priority for next year.
• 37:32
  So you're holding the the chart and then just using the pendulum this way.
• 37:37
  Yeah.
• 37:38
  So I hold the chart horizontally in front of me so that all the desk in front of me.
• 37:42
  Right.
• 37:43
  Right.
• 37:43
  And then I hold the pendulum over the midpoint section where all of the lines reach the Right.
• 37:50
  The base.
• 37:50
  Okay.
• 37:51
  Okay.
• 37:51
  That's interesting.
• 37:53
  Like, and I and I said, like I said, I was fascinated by the time you'd you told me I
• 37:57
  didn't even fascinated.
• 37:58
  And what did it say about being on my show?
• 38:01
  A 10, of course.
• 38:03
  Well, I don't know.
• 38:04
  I'm like, okay.
• 38:05
  I hope she got a 10 or at least somewhere high.
• 38:08
  For me, I need a 10.
• 38:10
  For me to
• 38:10
  say that.
• 38:11
  To to to move forward, you go with a 10.
• 38:13
  I go with a 10.
• 38:14
  And if you get if you get anything, let's say, less than a 10, like an 8, What does that
• 38:20
  signify for you?
• 38:22
  So that for instance,
• 38:28
  I'm gonna walk you through the example that, something that we're deciding in in our home
• 38:32
  right now.
• 38:32
  My son's deciding what university needs to go to.
• 38:35
  Mhmm.
• 38:35
  In case decision, I like to tune in to understand what he's considering.
• 38:42
  And of the 4 schools that he's going to, I dowse and I determined, okay, so this is the
• 38:47
  best school for him to go to.
• 38:49
  And I said, oh, just at curiosity on a scale 1 to 10, how is it if he goes to this school?
• 38:54
  This one's the the school.
• 38:55
  And of the 4, 3 of them are 10 and 1 as an 8.
• 38:59
  So I know Wow.
• 39:01
  But he can't make a bad decision.
• 39:04
  Mhmm.
• 39:05
  I know I can give him the space.
• 39:08
  To feel what's right for him.
• 39:11
  And I know that I can rest easy, but it's all good.
• 39:14
  So let's say there were There's 4 options of something I'm considering considering 3 of them
• 39:19
  are 10 and 1's an 8.
• 39:21
  But maybe there's maybe number 8, the one that's 8, maybe I get to work with somebody
• 39:25
  that really, really, really, really wanna work with.
• 39:28
  It will help me understand, a couple of things.
• 39:32
  If I really, really, really am attached to working with that person, I might say, okay.
• 39:37
  It still is pretty decent, and I'll still say yes to it.
• 39:41
  Or and it will also me also help me say, alright.
• 39:46
  Working with that person is really good and really exciting, but there's something even
• 39:51
  better waiting for me with these other options.
• 39:56
  Nice.
• 39:57
  Yeah.
• 39:57
  No.
• 39:57
  No.
• 39:57
  Absolutely.
• 39:58
  Because sometimes
• 40:01
  you have a
• 40:01
  lot of options They don't have a clear and definite differentiating, variable logically.
• 40:09
  Right?
• 40:09
  Yes.
• 40:10
  Yes.
• 40:10
  Right.
• 40:10
  And then like, if you're doing the the dows thing and and, like, with your son, like,
• 40:14
  clearly, you know, that that 4th that 4th option can go aside.
• 40:18
  And then it really comes down to their 3 great options for him.
• 40:21
  It really depends on which way he wants to go.
• 40:24
  And think about it in business.
• 40:27
  How often are we we're faced with options like that?
• 40:31
  I'm doing an online course.
• 40:32
  I have I can do this and this and this and this and this And, you know, I can coach this way or
• 40:37
  I can do this, and there's all there's, like, every step, you know, to adding a product
• 40:44
  there's 20 steps potentially of things that you could do.
• 40:48
  So every every time it becomes confusing.
• 40:51
  Yes.
• 40:52
  And the most important part, though, is that you have to step back from the decision.
• 40:59
  And until you can learn how to become detached and be neutral, your dowsing will not be
• 41:05
  accurate.
• 41:06
  Okay.
• 41:07
  Okay.
• 41:07
  It took me a year to build up my accuracy because I would be here with a pendulum in my
• 41:12
  hand and be like, I need to throw an asshole.
• 41:15
  And that that doesn't That doesn't help me because it will be a reflection of, right, I
• 41:22
  had to tune into based on these parameters.
• 41:25
  What is the best outcome?
• 41:26
  But if I'm dealing like this, that's the that's the perspective of the answer that's gonna be
• 41:31
  reflected back to me.
• 41:32
  Right.
• 41:33
  Right.
• 41:33
  So the year that you used, you worked was just getting spiritually connected, slowing down.
• 41:38
  Yeah.
• 41:39
  I'm doing lots of different spiritual practices.
• 41:41
  I would assume.
• 41:42
  Yes.
• 41:42
  Learning meditation.
• 41:43
  I learned automatic writing.
• 41:45
  I learned more about how to work with the pendulum.
• 41:48
  I learned about tuning into energy, and I've actually been working with energy since I was
• 41:53
  four years old, and I just didn't realize it.
• 41:55
  Oh, wow.
• 41:56
  And because on the baby of 7, and my eldest brother had, a bad water skiing accident and
• 42:04
  his back was thrown out.
• 42:05
  So I became the family massage therapist when he was lying on the living room floor just
• 42:10
  trying to get some reliefbers back, and I'd wrap back.
• 42:13
  And now I realized that I actually was doing energy work
• 42:17
  with him.
• 42:17
  My uncles
• 42:17
  and energy healer in Europe and he had told me that there's one in every generation.
• 42:25
  And while that might sound really woo, we all work with energy.
• 42:31
  Our it all of our senses are 5 senses.
• 42:33
  It's all energy.
• 42:35
  And the way I work with it is just heightened awareness for it.
• 42:40
  And those are the things that's the skill that I teach my clients is how do you heighten those
• 42:47
  skills, how do you heighten those senses so that when you feel something coming on, you get
• 42:52
  a funny taste in your mouth, a funny feeling in your body, that you stop and you listen to it.
• 42:58
  Mhmm.
• 42:58
  But you have to have slowed down in order to have noticed it.
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  Right.
• 43:06
  Right.
• 43:06
  Absolutely.
• 43:06
  And I think of when I see my clients, whether I'm coaching them or or, in my practice as
• 43:12
  psychotherapist, I think I said that to you.
• 43:14
  Sometimes I will feel like I can wade through their words and really, really hear what
• 43:22
  they're trying to say on a profound level.
• 43:25
  And then I'll say it back to them, and they'll go, Where'd you get that from?
• 43:30
  Yeah.
• 43:31
  I'm like, what do you mean?
• 43:32
  Like, no.
• 43:33
  Tell me where those words you picked where and I said, I'm I was just listening to you, but
• 43:39
  really this thing on a deep level, and they're blown sometimes they're blown away.
• 43:43
  They're like, wow.
• 43:44
  It's like you were reading my mind.
• 43:45
  And I'm like, oh, okay.
• 43:47
  You know, because you could get it.
• 43:49
  It's so bang on and maybe something they weren't even saying in the words that they were
• 43:54
  thinking that, you know, so, like, I didn't know you and I talked a little bit about that.
• 43:59
  You know, it's about it I guess it's intuitive plus years of doing what I I I do.
• 44:05
  And then, you know, you're just trying to tune in that much more just to figure out What is
• 44:09
  the client's needing that they're maybe not saying?
• 44:13
  Yeah.
• 44:13
  There's an there is all of that.
• 44:16
  And so the skill that I see you have built up is you have become so attuned to the energy of
• 44:25
  words And the words people choose as well as the way they sound as they express it because
• 44:34
  If somebody, you you somebody says, you go, how are you?
• 44:37
  And I say, I'm fine.
• 44:39
  It feels way different than, oh, I'm fine.
• 44:41
  Thank for us.
• 44:42
  You know, there's a very different energy.
• 44:44
  And sometimes that I'm fine is just very subtle in the difference of I'm fine.
• 44:52
  Right?
• 44:52
  It's it's subtle, but you can still see that there's something there, and you can pull that
• 44:57
  out.
• 44:57
  I'm the same way when I'm having conversations with clients.
• 45:00
  There'll be 1 or 2 words that really jump out of what they're saying.
• 45:03
  It's like, oh, oh, oh, oh, tell me more about that.
• 45:05
  There's something about that word that's really important for you and your business.
• 45:09
  And then you've as you go in, it's like, that is, like, their soul's purpose.
• 45:14
  And that is what is the foundation for the whole reason why they created the business in
• 45:18
  the first place.
• 45:19
  And it's coming out in this one word.
• 45:21
  It's like, okay.
• 45:22
  You need to really make sure you express this in your marketing as you're working with
• 45:26
  clients.
• 45:26
  Because it's foundational for the work that you do with them.
• 45:29
  So that listening.
• 45:31
  And when when we can become aware of the things that we are saying, right?
• 45:38
  Because it's easier to pick up what's going on around us, but to pick up what we're projecting
• 45:43
  out That is a huge skill to learn too because if you can understand how you're landing and
• 45:49
  how you're being heard by the outside world, and some of these subliminal things that that
• 45:55
  are going subconscious things that are going on within yourself and how it's affecting the
• 46:00
  words that you're using and the the way that you're presenting yourself, that's huge.
• 46:05
  That's even more powerful.
• 46:07
  And that's what I wanna empower people with.
• 46:10
  So this is personal, but, you know, my husband and I, we have a a raised garden bed in our
• 46:16
  backyard where we're growing vegetables.
• 46:19
  And we first started it about 3 years ago, and my husband wanted to move it by, like, a foot
• 46:24
  because he wanted to get the lawnmower in around it.
• 46:28
  And I really didn't want him to move it.
• 46:30
  And he's like, I don't understand why are you so upset about me moving this this race garden
• 46:36
  bed, a foot.
• 46:36
  Like, what's the big deal?
• 46:38
  And so I had to pause.
• 46:40
  I was like, okay.
• 46:41
  What's going on for me?
• 46:42
  And I realized that I felt sad.
• 46:45
  I was like, okay.
• 46:45
  Well, what's that sadness about?
• 46:47
  I felt sad for the plants.
• 46:49
  The plants that would have already receded themselves that would grow all themselves if we
• 46:53
  leave it straight where it was.
• 46:55
  So there was this connection to me and my little babies of the plants that I had planted
• 47:00
  in that garden.
• 47:01
  That I wanted to see come up and once I was able to realize, okay.
• 47:04
  That's what it is.
• 47:05
  Alright.
• 47:06
  I feel badly about it, but my lot, I can I can handle that?
• 47:09
  We can sure we can move it over a foot to make things easier for you.
• 47:12
  And Oh.
• 47:14
  But does that make sense?
• 47:15
  Like
• 47:15
  Absolutely.
• 47:16
  Absolutely.
• 47:17
  Because I think you know, I think we we you know what?
• 47:21
  You in my psychotherapy role, people are, you know, are they kinda common?
• 47:25
  They're open, but then in the business world, you know, this is I think the concept is the
• 47:31
  exact same concept, but it's really then your full seeing more on in on what your business is
• 47:38
  projecting out.
• 47:39
  And guess what?
• 47:41
  Is it any different in a lot of ways of when people are stuck in different parts of their
• 47:44
  life?
• 47:45
  You know, I will I will deal with people with every parts of their life, you know, as a when
• 47:50
  I coach, it's different, obviously.
• 47:51
  It's not as as in-depth but as a psychotherapist, it could be any part of their
• 47:55
  lives.
• 47:56
  And your business coaching, you're kind of you're really dealing with them.
• 48:00
  And their expression of themselves through their business.
• 48:03
  Yes.
• 48:03
  Exactly.
• 48:04
  Right?
• 48:04
  Exactly.
• 48:05
  So you're tuning into all the things that matter and what they value and who who, what,
• 48:10
  why, and when, and, you know, all those things because at the end of the day, if you're
• 48:15
  aligned with that, and you create from that space, then it's kinda like play.
• 48:21
  Right?
• 48:21
  You still have to work.
• 48:22
  We all have to work, but then then it's you're not efforting as much as, you know, you're
• 48:27
  going along with what you want versus kinda trying to create something like, oh, yeah.
• 48:32
  I should be doing this because Jane is doing this or whatever.
• 48:36
  And, you know, it's like, you know, that squirrel, which also when you, entrepreneurs
• 48:41
  get and I've got I've been there and still do it at times.
• 48:44
  Or then I stop and say, why am I doing what?
• 48:46
  Why am I why am I doing this?
• 48:48
  What what's the what am I talking to?
• 48:49
  Is it just outcome driven?
• 48:51
  Is it something that I think I should be due, or is it something that I really get deep
• 48:55
  within me knows that I I have to do this?
• 48:58
  Is really something that I, you know, is necessary for my business.
• 49:03
  And and the thing is is that when we create this awareness, the self awareness for how
• 49:08
  we're showing up, and this awareness of what's most important to us for how we wanna live our
• 49:14
  lives and how we wanna express our business.
• 49:18
  It helps us to create a container that makes that intuitive business decision making easier.
• 49:24
  Because if you know where you're focusing your attention and intention, then it's easier to
• 49:30
  say yes to this opportunity or no.
• 49:33
  To that opportunity.
• 49:35
  Because if it's not aligned in alignment with where you're going, then it's not gonna help
• 49:41
  you.
• 49:42
  So before we started on a call, I shared that, you know, I I've been presented with an
• 49:47
  opportunity to to speak this Friday And in the last few weeks, I've decided, no, I'm gonna
• 49:53
  focus my attention here because I wanted to do some corporate stuff.
• 49:58
  I wanted to do personal stuff.
• 49:59
  I wanted to do entrepreneurs.
• 50:00
  I was like, no.
• 50:01
  I need to focus on entrepreneurs.
• 50:04
  I need to pick a lane.
• 50:05
  Right?
• 50:05
  Pick a lane.
• 50:07
  And so when I tuned in to the soft opportunity.
• 50:11
  And I got a yes for this.
• 50:13
  It's just like, alright.
• 50:15
  I'll I'm gonna say yes.
• 50:17
  I'm gonna jump in.
• 50:18
  I'm gonna be courageous and I'm gonna get this all put together.
• 50:23
  And then just in our conversation here, I realized, and I said this earlier that even
• 50:28
  though it's not really what I wanna do, focus on right now, I know that's gonna lay a
• 50:34
  foundation for it to be for me to be able to focus on it in the future, like, in next year.
• 50:40
  And the work that I do for this is also gonna help me prepare for my target market too.
• 50:46
  So it's it's all gonna be valuable, and it's gonna create some other, interesting insights
• 50:52
  for me and for those that I connect with.
• 50:55
  So it's all good.
• 50:57
  Sounds sounds amazing.
• 51:00
  Now To me, this is sounds like an alignment.
• 51:05
  So with people that are coming to you, you said there there are people that are already started
• 51:11
  to be do you starting a use with startups, or have they been in business for what's the right
• 51:16
  kind of match for client for you for people listening.
• 51:19
  And, you know, and then we're gonna talk.
• 51:20
  I know you have an event coming up, which I would love to hear more about.
• 51:23
  And if you know, and to tell people where if they wanted to get their business planning
• 51:28
  done, they might be able to come out and work with you.
• 51:30
  In this in Burlington and Missus.
• 51:33
  Alright?
• 51:34
  So so
• 51:37
  I work with people who are already established in their business.
• 51:41
  Okay.
• 51:41
  They already have a foundation in place.
• 51:43
  They already have some of the systems in place.
• 51:46
  I can help them with fine tuning that, but I can best serve people who already have a
• 51:52
  foundation in place.
• 51:53
  Okay.
• 51:53
  Okay.
• 51:54
  Want to fine tune how they're showing now and go up to the next level.
• 51:58
  They have figured the basics out.
• 52:01
  Like, I'm I'm not here to help you create your initial business plan.
• 52:06
  You need to have already figured out, in general, what you wanna do.
• 52:10
  I can help with fine tuning that or going in a new direction.
• 52:14
  But you have to have an idea of of where you're starting and foundation for whether you are
• 52:20
  making widgets or if you are doing coaching or if you're doing online products, you have to
• 52:25
  know what your offer is in general, and we can find 2 things going forward, but you have to
• 52:29
  have something that you're starting from, a base that you're starting from.
• 52:32
  Okay.
• 52:33
  Okay.
• 52:34
  And so tell us about this, year end, biz biz business planning.
• 52:39
  That it's it's coming up soon.
• 52:41
  So tell everybody a bit about it and, where they can get information further on it or where
• 52:46
  they can just reach out to you to sign up for for this event.
• 52:50
  Absolutely.
• 52:51
  So on Wednesday, December 12th, I'm hosting a small group here in Burlington for an intuitive
• 52:58
  business planning full day workshop.
• 53:01
  So we'll be beginning by reviewing 2018.
• 53:04
  Celebrating.
• 53:05
  We were talking earlier about celebrating, your our wins.
• 53:09
  Celebrating what went really well, reflecting on some of the things that didn't go so well
• 53:14
  and doing a release.
• 53:15
  So you're not carrying the energy of beating yourself up for what didn't go well in 2018.
• 53:20
  We don't want you carrying that energy into 2019.
• 53:23
  Then we're gonna look at, giving the space for all of those ideas that you have for what
• 53:29
  you're considering doing for 2019.
• 53:31
  Tune into the energy of the ideas, prioritize some creative structure for the year ahead, and
• 53:36
  then start to map them out across every month so you can start to have your plan for how
• 53:41
  you're moving forward.
• 53:42
  So by the end of the day, you'll have, at least the the beginning outline, you'll have to still
• 53:47
  drill down a little bit more for all the fine details, but you'll know that in this month,
• 53:52
  I'm focusing on this.
• 53:53
  On this month, I'm gonna focus on that, or maybe these 3 months, I'm focusing on this
• 53:57
  project, and then I'm gonna do that launch, and then I'm gonna focus on that.
• 54:00
  So you're not running all over the place, you're able to manage your energy better, focus
• 54:05
  your efforts in a more productive way, and also then start to do your marketing planning so you
• 54:10
  can get your content calendar figured out and and create content that you can make once and
• 54:18
  use multiple times.
• 54:19
  So you create, alright, this month, I know that I need to talk about business planning safe for
• 54:25
  2000.
• 54:26
  That's for December.
• 54:27
  In my December, I'm gonna be in November next at the end of next year, focusing my
• 54:31
  conversations on.
• 54:32
  The business planning for the following year.
• 54:34
  So I will be creating posts on why you do it.
• 54:37
  How do you do it?
• 54:38
  And then I can use it not only for blog posts, but I can then use it for Facebook posts,
• 54:43
  LinkedIn posts, and videos, all the same content, so you're not efforting as much.
• 54:48
  You're using all the same information, and then it flows into what you're offering is.
• 54:54
  Great.
• 54:54
  Well, it's that sounds like a fantastic day.
• 54:57
  So is there someone, somewhere people can go, to sign up for it, or what's the process for
• 55:03
  them to sign up for it?
• 55:05
  So if they went to my website, jlyall.comforward/events, on the left hand
• 55:13
  side, you'll find the event and be able to click on it and register there.
• 55:17
  Okay.
• 55:17
  Great.
• 55:18
  Well, this has been fascinating yet again.
• 55:22
  Talking to you about this and, you know, the level that's, you know, I've worked with
• 55:27
  coaches and I'm presently working with 1, but this is, again, a different kind of way of
• 55:32
  approaching, which is which really makes sense, right?
• 55:35
  Because initially, when you're right, when you get started, you're, like, you're waiting and
• 55:39
  you're you're knee deep and you're in the weeds, you know, you're you're trying to figure
• 55:43
  all that stuff out.
• 55:44
  And, be a couple years in now.
• 55:47
  I'm I'm clearer, but this really helps me to see how you could provide clarity to people
• 55:53
  that are in in that space because when I talked to some of our our, my colleagues, they'll talk
• 55:58
  about, oh, I shouldn't have done that.
• 56:01
  You know, it it took me offline.
• 56:03
  For, you know, 4 months or, you know, yeah, I got it done, but you know what?
• 56:07
  It really I didn't have fun.
• 56:10
  Yeah.
• 56:10
  There's a revenue stream, but it's Yeah.
• 56:13
  I I won't do it again.
• 56:14
  I've I've heard so, and I know that there's things that I've done even in this last year
• 56:18
  that I think, wow, I shouldn't have done that.
• 56:21
  Yeah.
• 56:21
  And I still will look at things that sometimes I get guided to do it, and it might not make
• 56:28
  sense then in that moment.
• 56:30
  However, the skill set that I learned or the relationships that I formed are still hopeful
• 56:36
  for moving forward.
• 56:38
  So there are some people who will be cursing.
• 56:41
  Oh, you know, I wish I'd left corporate sooner, but then they forget about that if they had
• 56:46
  left it the year before, they wouldn't have gotten that extra training that the corporation
• 56:50
  had paid for them to do that they're now able to use in their business.
• 56:53
  Right?
• 56:54
  Right.
• 56:54
  Right.
• 56:55
  It's always looking at the gift and those experiences.
• 56:59
  So when we can stop beating ourselves up for it too, like, I I get that there's that reflection
• 57:04
  of, like, Okay.
• 57:05
  So that's not quite the outcome that I was expecting and seeing what you can learn from
• 57:10
  it, but as long as you're not beating yourself up for it, what is what what are the gems that
• 57:15
  you can take away from it?
• 57:16
  And I'm sure that you must do that with all of your clients too, whether it's the coaching
• 57:20
  clients or the psychotherapy clients.
• 57:22
  Alright.
• 57:23
  Sure.
• 57:23
  This disaster happened, but you ended up being a stronger person on the other side of it.
• 57:28
  And what was it about who you're being that you learned?
• 57:31
  Right.
• 57:31
  Oh, no.
• 57:32
  It's it without a doubt, you learned so much about yourself.
• 57:36
  Like, every time you try something new and then you think, okay.
• 57:38
  Well, yes, I did gain skills, but then in, you know, like you said, when you go inside and
• 57:43
  kinda think about what would I what did I learn?
• 57:46
  What will I not repeat?
• 57:48
  What will be?
• 57:48
  What will, you know, how will this guide me differently?
• 57:51
  Absolutely.
• 57:52
  You're you gain so much from, you know, some of the new things that you you experienced.
• 57:57
  And then now you have all this additional knowledge, right, to bring with you.
• 58:02
  So that prior to doing something like an event, I did my first event this year, I learned a
• 58:06
  ton, and I learned how not to do it on my own again.
• 58:11
  Just because I was awfully tired after I because I I pulled it most of it, it off by
• 58:15
  myself.
• 58:16
  So, you know, so again, learning and more energy and those types of things, but it was a
• 58:22
  still ended up being quite successful.
• 58:24
  But again, you know, that like you said, that learning experience Did it add to my brand?
• 58:29
  Absolutely.
• 58:30
  Did I have people attend?
• 58:31
  Absolutely.
• 58:32
  Did we get a lot of exposure?
• 58:33
  Absolutely.
• 58:34
  And but I think from a business perspective, it took energy away from me that I would have
• 58:40
  used, you know, I could have used my energy in different ways by hiring or or subcontracting
• 58:47
  out a lot more parts that could have been done by others, right, which is kinda like what you
• 58:51
  said.
• 58:52
  Learn what learn what that genius is and stick to it.
• 58:56
  And then Yeah.
• 58:57
  Let Kyra try to kinda outsource, you know, the ones the parts that other people can, take care
• 59:02
  of better than you could.
• 59:04
  Yes.
• 59:04
  And I also believe that having that experience from the get go helps you understand how you
• 59:09
  still want things done and who you need to get, and it just helps still too.
• 59:14
  So it's amazing.
• 59:16
  Well, this has been a pleasure.
• 59:18
  Thank you so much.
• 59:19
  And, you know, you can I think video doesn't create the, the feeling that you get around,
• 59:25
  Jennifer?
• 59:25
  I could tell you then when I was sitting with her, in Mississauga, for the last well, the
• 59:30
  first time I met her, I sat next to her and they I could feel the I don't know what the
• 59:34
  energy was, but I could just it was somebody I I I said I have to talk to her.
• 59:39
  I just knew I had to talk to her.
• 59:40
  So I was It was really a pleasure, and then we saw each other again just recently.
• 59:45
  So thank you so much for sharing all your wisdom.
• 59:49
  For anybody that's, you know, at the stage, like she's saying, where you're kinda trying to
• 59:54
  give that get that clarity, that course, Burlington is, you know, obviously, in the GTA,
• 1:00:00
  we're not too far out here in the, Golden horseshoe.
• 1:00:03
  It's it's easy to get to.
• 1:00:05
  It's a one day right in your backyard.
• 1:00:08
  So definitely look it up.
• 1:00:10
  And, anything that you can do to get more authentic be connected to yourself, which is
• 1:00:17
  what I talk about with my brand, the authentic connection movement is we're helping ourselves.
• 1:00:22
  And the more anchored we are within ourselves, ultimately, what are we doing?
• 1:00:26
  We're better in our relationships.
• 1:00:28
  We're better in our friendships.
• 1:00:30
  We're better in our, you know, you know, our businesses.
• 1:00:33
  We're better in our community, and we're just overall radiating that that space.
• 1:00:39
  That genius, like you said, that we're meant to be in the world.
• 1:00:42
  And but that takes time.
• 1:00:44
  It takes time, and it takes commitment, and it takes slowing down.
• 1:00:50
  And, you know, what I would say is, you know, the intuity doesn't just happen.
• 1:00:55
  It's something that it's a muscle like anything else where you really have to start to learn to
• 1:01:00
  slow down and and develop that muscle so that it makes it easier to access.
• 1:01:05
  So, Jennifer, again, thank you so much for being here and for everybody listening, or
• 1:01:11
  watching.
• 1:01:11
  If you're wanting more information on me, you go to roxanderhodge.comforward/blueprint where
• 1:01:17
  you can download a free course on how to be a bit more authentically connected to yourself so
• 1:01:23
  that you can make the, you know, the magic happen.
• 1:01:25
  Like, Jennifer talk to us today.
• 1:01:27
  Okay.
• 1:01:28
  Take care, everyone.
• 1:01:28
  Thanks so much, Jennifer, and we'll talk to you soon.
• 1:01:31
  Bye bye.
• 1:01:34
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• 1:01:38
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• 1:01:38
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