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How to Manifest, For Real: with Psychic Medium Rebecca Rosen · QUESTION EVERYTHING

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Speaker 1: Big things happen when you're pretty, pretty bold, pretty clever,
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Speaker 1: pretty strong. I'm Danielle Robe and each week my guests
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Speaker 1: and I have conversations that put a new spin on
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Speaker 1: pretty This is pretty smart. There's a meme going around
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Speaker 1: that says, trust my gut, the thing that can't even
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Speaker 1: handle milk. It's funny because it's true, trust your gut,
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Speaker 1: listen to your instincts. The answers lie within yourself. It's
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Speaker 1: all very true. It's stuff I tell myself all the time,
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Speaker 1: and it's common life advice. We're often told that we
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Speaker 1: have the answers, we just have to listen to what
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Speaker 1: they already are. But what happens when you just don't
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Speaker 1: know the answer, Maybe you don't even necessarily trust your instincts,
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Speaker 1: or you feel unsure. Today I'm speaking with Rebecca Rosen
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Speaker 1: about just that gut, instincts and intuition be you do you.
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Speaker 2: And the universe will bring it to you. Intuition is
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Speaker 2: like that internal GPS system, okay, and it helps you
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Speaker 2: navigate your way through life.
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Speaker 1: Everyone knows what it feels like to have a pit
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Speaker 1: in your stomach as you weigh a decision. That's the
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Speaker 1: gut talking loud and clear. Scientists called the stomach the
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Speaker 1: second brain for a reason. There's a vast neural network
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Speaker 1: of one hundred million neurons.
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Speaker 3: Lining your entire digestive track.
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Speaker 1: That's more neurons than are found in the spinal cord,
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Speaker 1: which points to the guts incredible processing abilities. When we
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Speaker 1: approach a decision intuitively, our brain works.
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Speaker 3: In tandem with our gut.
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Speaker 1: Rebecca is a bridge between two worlds, a messenger of
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Speaker 1: divine guidance. She's an internationally renowned psychic medium with twenty
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Speaker 1: years of experience, a podcast titled Small Medium at Large,
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Speaker 1: and multiple books, including her new one, What's Your Heaven?
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Speaker 2: You can bring Heaven to Earth now. You don't need
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Speaker 2: to wait until you die to find those feelings.
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Speaker 1: Rebecca says, we're all surrounded every moment of every day
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Speaker 1: by our departed loved ones, spirit guides, and angels, and
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Speaker 1: they want to help us.
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Speaker 2: Intuitive hits happen fast. They usually aren't repetitive, they come
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Speaker 2: from out of the blue.
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Speaker 1: She believes we're all being led by divine design and
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Speaker 1: learning to harness the power of our team's spirit can
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Speaker 1: help us connect to the deepest sources of wisdom.
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Speaker 3: Within and around us.
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Speaker 2: What Spirit has taught me is get out of your head,
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Speaker 2: drop into your heart, okay, and try and feel in
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Speaker 2: the moment what you're feeling, because your feelings are your truth.
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Speaker 1: And while Rebecca is deeply connected to Spirit, she believes
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Speaker 1: we all have free will, and so today she shares
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Speaker 1: the daily practices and tools to live with more intention
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Speaker 1: and honesty, identify our biggest lessons, and race the personal
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Speaker 1: homework we have to complete to become the person we
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Speaker 1: were meant to be.
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Speaker 3: Today we're learning how to trust our gut.
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Speaker 1: Rebecca, you've been a psychic medium for twenty years now
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Speaker 1: and you say you want to normalize the paranormal. What
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Speaker 1: do you think is the biggest misconception about it?
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Speaker 2: You know, I think it's been very sensationalized with all
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Speaker 2: the movies, you know, the sixth Sense and all the
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Speaker 2: movies and TV shows. You know, it's not as simple
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Speaker 2: as just for me and my experience seeing dead people
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Speaker 2: walking around, and you know, it's much subtler. It's a
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Speaker 2: skill that takes practice, and it's like a muscle. You
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Speaker 2: have to develop your psychic ability in order to clearly
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Speaker 2: and easily connect with the.
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Speaker 1: Debt and you connected for the first time when you
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Speaker 1: were journaling at a bookstore in college. I was particularly
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Speaker 1: excited to hear about this because I love books.
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Speaker 3: This is such a booky podcast.
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Speaker 1: So can you tell me about the first time that
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Speaker 1: you had that energy take you over you?
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Speaker 2: Yes? Okay? So I was back. I was what nineteen
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Speaker 2: years old, and I'm supposed to be studying for a
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Speaker 2: marketing exam and instead I was having a bad day.
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Speaker 2: And I've always used journaling as a way to process
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Speaker 2: my feelings, and so I just started writing my feelings
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Speaker 2: out and all of a sudden, this energy started literally
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Speaker 2: pulling my hand across the page, and I could hear
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Speaker 2: the words in my head faster than I could get
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Speaker 2: it out. And it was this very poetic kind of
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Speaker 2: sing song gie energy. It was not my words, okay.
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Speaker 2: And she introduced herself initially as my guardian angel, and
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Speaker 2: then she handed it off to my dead grandmother, babe.
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Speaker 2: And for an hour, this energy wrote through me pages
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Speaker 2: and pages of information. And what was happening is they said,
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Speaker 2: we are here in response to your cries for help.
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Speaker 2: And I had been praying for months before. Every single
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Speaker 2: night I would cry myself to sleep. I was going
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Speaker 2: through a depression and I was sleep eating. It was
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Speaker 2: a nightmare. I was sleepwalking and eating in the middle
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Speaker 2: of the night is a way to stuff my feelings.
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Speaker 2: And so I was just at wits end and I
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Speaker 2: was asking for someone or something to help. Well, sure enough,
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Speaker 2: it was answered by the dead grandmother and guardian angel.
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Speaker 2: So they gave me this download of we are here
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Speaker 2: to help you, to heal you from the inside out.
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Speaker 2: And they said, we know you think you're crazy and
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Speaker 2: making this up, so we're going to give you three
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Speaker 2: specific things to run by your father, who at the
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Speaker 2: time was living because it was his mother, and they said,
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Speaker 2: ask him and you will know this is real. So
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Speaker 2: of course I left that journaling session shaking. I called
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Speaker 2: my dad and I read the whole thing, and sure enough,
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Speaker 2: he said, oh my god, I don't know how you're
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Speaker 2: doing this, but you talk to my mother because in
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Speaker 2: those three things, nobody knew the answers to those, but
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Speaker 2: one of them was how he found her when she died,
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Speaker 2: and she died by suicide, and so he had never
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Speaker 2: told these certain details to anybody, and so for me,
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Speaker 2: I needed that to know I wasn't crazy, this was
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Speaker 2: real and that you didn't.
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Speaker 1: Grow up with kind of believing in paranormal or understanding
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Speaker 1: any of that, not at all.
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Speaker 2: I was raised in a conservative Jewish household. We did
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Speaker 2: not talk about psychics or woo woo stuff at all,
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Speaker 2: and we weren't that religious. To be honest, I believed
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Speaker 2: in God and something bigger, but this was not familiar,
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Speaker 2: and so it's the bottom line is my grandmother also
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Speaker 2: was not a warm and fuzzy person while in life,
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Speaker 2: so you know the fact she was coming through now
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Speaker 2: completely opposite and trying to support me and love me
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Speaker 2: really through me.
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Speaker 3: How did it go from being an experience you had
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Speaker 3: to be in your life's purpose.
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Speaker 2: I fought it initially because back in nineteen when was
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Speaker 2: this nineteen ninety seven to nineteen ninety nine, This is
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Speaker 2: like now a days, I feel like talking about this
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Speaker 2: is a lot more accepted in common, but back then
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Speaker 2: it was very taboo and it was like coming out
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Speaker 2: of the closet. So once this all happened and I
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Speaker 2: did this eighteen month like mind body spirit workout to
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Speaker 2: heal myself from the inside out every day, connecting with
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Speaker 2: dead Grandma, Babe and my guardian angel, well, once I
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Speaker 2: was done. They had said, now it's time for you
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Speaker 2: to go use this gift and help others. Well, I
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Speaker 2: got my advertising degree at that time, and I wanted
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Speaker 2: to pursue that. So I tried and nothing was working.
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Speaker 2: And so that's when I wasn't getting jobs like nothing.
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Speaker 2: So I believe in you know, if things don't flow,
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Speaker 2: there's a reason. And so that's when a friend of
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Speaker 2: mine said, just go do this. At that time, i'd
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Speaker 2: moved to Detroit outside of like a suburb West Bloomfield, Michigan,
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Speaker 2: and a friend said, how about this. You go read
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Speaker 2: a few of my friends likes and test it out.
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Speaker 2: And so I said, okay, I'm terrified, but I will
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Speaker 2: try this. I don't know if it's going to work
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Speaker 2: for other people. Well, sure enough, it was working, and
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Speaker 2: so then I surrendered. I said, God, you are my publicist.
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Speaker 2: If you want me to do this, bring it to me,
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Speaker 2: because I am not going to chase people down. And
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Speaker 2: so I set up shop in a West Bloomfield coffee
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Speaker 2: shop and I started seeing people one by one in
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Speaker 2: the back of that coffee shop, and three months later,
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Speaker 2: the head of the Detroit Jewish News came in. I
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Speaker 2: didn't know that at the time, but I did this
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Speaker 2: reading for her and she was so blown away. She said,
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Speaker 2: I want to do a story on you, and it
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Speaker 2: turned out to be a few months later the front cover,
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Speaker 2: which then turned into My business. Wow.
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Speaker 3: How did your friends and family react?
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Speaker 2: Initially? Everyone literally thought I was crazy and maybe there
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Speaker 2: was some mental health issues, like people didn't know what
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Speaker 2: to do with it. My father, again, who was alive
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Speaker 2: at the time, was my biggest cheerleader. He so believed
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Speaker 2: in me, and he was on his own spiritual journey.
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Speaker 2: But I got a lot of pushback from family and friends.
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Speaker 2: And the bottom line was I knew in my heart
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Speaker 2: this was something real and it was healing and meaningful.
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Speaker 2: I know for me and for what I was witnessing
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Speaker 2: with so many others that I felt inspired to continue
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Speaker 2: on despite what other people thought.
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Speaker 3: You had an inner knowing I did.
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Speaker 1: You talk about something called team spirit and you say
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Speaker 1: your dad is on your team spirit and that he's
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Speaker 1: constantly showing up for you behind the scenes.
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Speaker 3: What is team spirit and how does your dad show up?
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Speaker 2: So team spirit it's an energetic support system that we
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Speaker 2: have in place before we're born. So it's made up
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Speaker 2: of departed loved ones, angels, spirit guides, ascended masters. And
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Speaker 2: these are beings that are in a sense, your cheerleaders,
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Speaker 2: your guides, your your greatest coaches, there behind the scenes
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Speaker 2: to assist you while you're doing your work here on
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Speaker 2: in earth school. And they are always there available. It's
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Speaker 2: like a doctor on call. You just page them and
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Speaker 2: they're right there. But we have free will, and so
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Speaker 2: we have to give them permission, which means invite them
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Speaker 2: in every day. And the other point I want to
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Speaker 2: make care is just because somebody died doesn't mean they
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Speaker 2: become a part of your team or a spirit guide,
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Speaker 2: because it takes proper training for these, you know, departed
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Speaker 2: loved ones to know how to responsibly guide us. Okay,
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Speaker 2: And so my dad it took him. He's been gone
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Speaker 2: for sixteen years. He just recently, in the last two
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Speaker 2: or three years, became a guide. He had a lot
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Speaker 2: of work to do and he's done it. And the
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Speaker 2: way he shows up, I have all sorts of signs
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Speaker 2: and this is such a cool story. The other day.
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Speaker 2: So he's responsible for a part of this book, and
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Speaker 2: the book being like heal your unfinished business. And my
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Speaker 2: husband and his father have a lot of unfinished business,
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Speaker 2: and he was the inspiration behind encouraging my husband to
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Speaker 2: reach out to his dad to make peace with him.
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Speaker 2: And so one morning we had his dad over for
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Speaker 2: breakfast and I just felt my dad's presence there. I
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Speaker 2: could tell he was so proud my husband's making the effort.
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Speaker 2: And then we had to leave to go pick up
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Speaker 2: our daughter somewhere, and we took a really weird route
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Speaker 2: to get there, and we ended up behind a license
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Speaker 2: plate that had my dad's name on it, Shelley, And
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Speaker 2: so I looked at my husband, I'm like, see, you
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Speaker 2: were supposed to have that breakfast this morning with your dad.
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Speaker 2: He's patting on the back. I mean, I've never seen
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Speaker 2: a license plate with my dad's name on it.
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Speaker 1: So they show you my signs to make you know
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Speaker 1: that it's real. Because if you had to know that
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Speaker 1: it's real, you maybe don't need the sign So.
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Speaker 2: I don't need the signs. But for me, it's breadcrumbs
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Speaker 2: along my path to keep me excited and inspired to
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Speaker 2: know that I'm on the right track in that moment.
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Speaker 2: We all need that a little encouragement. And of course
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Speaker 2: I believe, in fact, it's beyond belief at this point.
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Speaker 2: It's a knowing, but spirits love giving us signs because
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Speaker 2: it's this back and forth dialogue that we have with
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Speaker 2: them to know that we are in alignment with them
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Speaker 2: and our higher selves.
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Speaker 3: So much of this is rooted in intuition.
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Speaker 1: And I know in so many of your books you
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Speaker 1: talk about how intuition is our most powerful tool.
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Speaker 3: So what does intuition mean to you?
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Speaker 2: So intuition is a connection to our higher self and
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Speaker 2: our higher guidance. Okay, we are all born with it.
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Speaker 2: It's that spidey sense that we all have that you
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Speaker 2: can't make sense of necessarily on paper, but you just
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Speaker 2: feel it or know it in your bones. Right. Intuition
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Speaker 2: is like that internal GPS system, okay, And it helps
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Speaker 2: you navigate your way through life. And so if you
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Speaker 2: acknowledge it and actually use it, it saves you from
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Speaker 2: making the wrong choices, and it helps you move forward
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Speaker 2: in your life with a lot more grace and ease
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Speaker 2: and less pain and struggle.
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Speaker 1: How do you access it when you feel like you
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Speaker 1: haven't heard from your inner self in a while.
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Speaker 2: You know, it can be a little rusty. You have
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Speaker 2: to still your mind's voice, your ego. You know, all
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Speaker 2: the monkey mind that we all experience at times. You
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Speaker 2: have to find a place of stillness and quiet in
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Speaker 2: order to tune into what I was saying in the
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Speaker 2: very beginning, the subtle impressions. Okay, so intuition, it's it's
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Speaker 2: very quiet, but it's very simple and it's very direct.
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Speaker 2: But you have to be present. So if you're lost
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Speaker 2: in thoughts of the past or obsessing and worrying future
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Speaker 2: tripping about the future, you're going to miss it. And
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Speaker 2: that's the whole purpose of meditation.
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Speaker 1: Can meditation be different things for different people, like can
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Speaker 1: yoga be bent meditation? My mom always says she feels
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Speaker 1: meditative on a bike.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my gosh. Spirit talks about this all the time.
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Speaker 2: Moving meditation, honestly, I think is an easier way to
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Speaker 2: start because you're not setting yourself up for failure by
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Speaker 2: trying to sit and load disposition and be still and
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Speaker 2: stop your mind. Instead, you're moving energy. You're breathing, you're
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Speaker 2: doing yoga, you're running, you're hiking, your spin class, whatever.
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Speaker 2: Moving meditation is such an excellent way because you're naturally
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Speaker 2: when you breathe, you're getting present, you're opening and expanding
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Speaker 2: your energy, and then you make space for the intuitive downloads. Okay,
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Speaker 2: so out of the blue thoughts and impressions that come
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Speaker 2: to you, that's intuitive guidance.
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Speaker 1: You wrote something in your book I really loved, mostly
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Speaker 1: because I love the idea of asking ourselves questions to
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Speaker 1: get deeper better answers. And you say, get in the
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Speaker 1: habit of asking yourself from what frequency am I making
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Speaker 1: this choice?
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Speaker 2: Yes? So everything we do, we have free will, free choice,
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Speaker 2: And you can choose from light or you can choose
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Speaker 2: from shadow. And so it's another way of saying that
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Speaker 2: you choose from love or you choose from fear. Okay,
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Speaker 2: and we all have a shadow side. That's okay. But
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Speaker 2: it's when you need to make important decisions or any decision,
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Speaker 2: you want to line up and plug into your higher
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Speaker 2: self and your higher guidance. Okay. What I call source energy,
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Speaker 2: you can call it divine spirit, whatever you want to
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Speaker 2: call it God. But when you are making a choice
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Speaker 2: from light or in that frequency, you will always make
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Speaker 2: the right choice.
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Speaker 1: So in What's Your Heaven, the little Synopsis says, in
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Speaker 1: order to live with more intention and honesty, identify your
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Speaker 1: biggest lessons and embrace the personal homework. You'll have to
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Speaker 1: complete to become the person you were meant to be.
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Speaker 1: I thought it was really interesting that you mention honesty
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Speaker 1: in there, and I think it ties into the light
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Speaker 1: and shadow work that you have.
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yes, because we all have an ego,
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Speaker 2: and our ego gets defensive and we go into judgment.
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Speaker 2: And you know, when you're in shadow, you're a lot
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Speaker 2: of times in avoidance or denial, okay, and you're not
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Speaker 2: doing an honest self inquiry. So it's really important that
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Speaker 2: you align with your higher self and get out of
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Speaker 2: your ego self so that you can at least get neutral.
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Speaker 2: Neutrality is where you really want to be, because from
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Speaker 2: there you can tune into the truth.
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Speaker 1: I love the simplicity of asking am I making this
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Speaker 1: choice from love or fear? From shadow or light. It's
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Speaker 1: just a really easy question to ask yourself.
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, it's so easy. But how many of
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Speaker 2: us forget to.
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Speaker 3: Do it exactly?
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Speaker 2: You know? We react that, Yeah, we react instead of respond.
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Speaker 2: When you react, you're in fear. When you respond, you're
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Speaker 2: coming from light and love and your higher self.
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Speaker 1: I think our emotions can really guide that. How can
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Speaker 1: we tune in to our emotions more.
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Speaker 2: So this is a big part of the book because
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Speaker 2: I actually included doctor David Hawkins scale consciousness with all
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Speaker 2: the emotions on it, from the bottom of the tone pole,
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Speaker 2: which is shame, you know, and victimhood, to the top,
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Speaker 2: which is enlightenment and love. Our emotions are our guidance.
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Speaker 2: So what Spirit has taught me is get out of
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Speaker 2: your head, drop into your heart, okay, and try and
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Speaker 2: feel in the moment what you're feeling, because your feelings
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Speaker 2: are your truth. That is guidance. Feelings don't lie. The
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Speaker 2: mind will make up stories and false beliefs, but the
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Speaker 2: feelings are true, and so that is intuitive guidance right there.
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Speaker 2: So it's really making it a point to say, Okay,
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Speaker 2: I'm in my head about this right now, I really
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Speaker 2: need to stop this analysis, paralysis or projecting my thoughts,
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Speaker 2: opinions and judgments onto this or this situation or person.
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna drop into my body. I'm going to breathe
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Speaker 2: into my heart and from there that's where the stillness
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Speaker 2: comes in. I'm gonna check in with how I feel
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Speaker 2: and your feelings, you know, if you're feeling resistance, frustration, irritation, anger,
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Speaker 2: any of the lower fear based emotions, then you're in
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Speaker 2: your ego. You're gonna get an answer from shadow. So
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Speaker 2: we want to get neutral or something above and connect
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Speaker 2: with that higher energy of love.
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Speaker 1: As I'm listening to you, if we separate the paranormal
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Speaker 1: part of what you do, so much of it sounds
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Speaker 1: like enlightenment to me. What have you learned about what's
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Speaker 1: important to you in this life? From speaking to so
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Speaker 1: many people who are in their past life.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, what I have learned and what they say every
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Speaker 2: single day is they come forward to all these regrets
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Speaker 2: about being operating from their ego and ego. Wayne Dyer
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Speaker 2: once said, it's edging got out and when we do that,
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Speaker 2: that means we are trying to do it alone, go
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Speaker 2: it alone. And one of the most important messages I
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Speaker 2: hear is we are not alone. So one of my
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Speaker 2: I have seven lessons, seven fundamental lessons that spirit taught
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Speaker 2: me that are in this book, and one of them
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Speaker 2: is based around your team's spirit. You are surrounded and
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Speaker 2: supported and these spirits, they said, if I would have
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Speaker 2: only known then what I know now that I have
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Speaker 2: this energetic support system like we talked about earlier, to
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Speaker 2: cheer me on, to give me clarity when I fall
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Speaker 2: off path, to give me signs to deepen my authentic
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Speaker 2: faith and trust that this is real and this matters.
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Speaker 2: That I think is the most important. And then also
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Speaker 2: we pick up in death where we leave off in life.
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Speaker 2: So whatever unfinished business you have here, it's going to
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Speaker 2: follow you. And unfortunately I know little too much about
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Speaker 2: suicide because my father and his mother both died this way,
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Speaker 2: and I obviously work with countless number of people who
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Speaker 2: have experienced loved ones who have died this way. And
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Speaker 2: what they always say is is that they wished they
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Speaker 2: would have found the right help, professional help, you know,
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Speaker 2: personal help. They wish they would have found the courage
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Speaker 2: or the strength to tackle their unfinished business, to really
20:34
Speaker 2: dig in and heal and do the work, because it
20:38
Speaker 2: all follows them. Everything follows us, and we're going to
20:41
Speaker 2: have to face it at some point. It's always easier
20:45
Speaker 2: to do it here in the environment in which it's created,
20:48
Speaker 2: versus waiting till you die.
20:50
Speaker 1: I've read a few books about what the Yogis believe,
20:54
Speaker 1: and it's almost like we come back as humans to
21:00
Speaker 1: finish that business, and we keep coming back until that's complete. So,
21:04
Speaker 1: for instance, if I really want to be a mom
21:07
Speaker 1: in this life, and I don't get to be one,
21:09
Speaker 1: I'll come back in my next life. Really, is my
21:12
Speaker 1: purpose to become a mother? Is that close to what
21:15
Speaker 1: you feel?
21:16
Speaker 3: Or it is? So?
21:18
Speaker 2: First of all, you don't have to reincarnate, but most
21:20
Speaker 2: souls opt to. It's a gift. It's a true privilege
21:25
Speaker 2: because there's more souls that want to incarnate than bodies available.
21:29
Speaker 2: So if you're here in a body right now listening
21:31
Speaker 2: to this, see it as a gift. You have a purpose.
21:35
Speaker 2: Isn't that amazing? And so anyways, yes, you come back
21:41
Speaker 2: to heal and balance karma, whether it's with yourself or
21:46
Speaker 2: with others. Okay. And there's another reason is we have
21:50
Speaker 2: this thing called intergenerational homework. And so this is like
21:55
Speaker 2: family legacy stuff, okay, transgenerational patterns or lessons that are
22:02
Speaker 2: passed down that need to be balanced and healed. And
22:05
Speaker 2: so sometimes a lot of times what's going on is
22:09
Speaker 2: you're here to clean up the karmic mess left behind
22:12
Speaker 2: by a parent or a grandparent. Okay. And so we'll
22:15
Speaker 2: keep reincarnating until we come in and get it right.
22:18
Speaker 2: Check the boxes on that karmic to do list. So
22:22
Speaker 2: that we can grow and evolve not only individually as souls,
22:25
Speaker 2: but collectively as soul groups. Okay, So the people the soulmates,
22:30
Speaker 2: our family, are friends. The people in your life who
22:35
Speaker 2: you have a deep connection with are part of your
22:37
Speaker 2: soul family. And we travel and reincarnate in soul groups
22:40
Speaker 2: in and out of multiple lifetimes, playing different roles to
22:45
Speaker 2: help teach each other and learn from each.
22:47
Speaker 1: Other, just so people can have an example, if it
22:50
Speaker 1: feels a little bit of tooth, is it in this
22:53
Speaker 1: life my father could have been the mayor of my
22:57
Speaker 1: town in my last life, and in some ways we
23:01
Speaker 1: had an important relationship.
23:04
Speaker 2: Yes, so yes, it can play out a lot of
23:07
Speaker 2: different ways. So for example, let's say in this lifetime,
23:11
Speaker 2: your father was an abuser. He's abused you, whether it's physically, verbally, emotionally, mentally, okay,
23:18
Speaker 2: and maybe he's just playing out the role you asked
23:21
Speaker 2: him to play, because in the last lifetime lived, you
23:25
Speaker 2: were the abuser. And so you need to flip flop places,
23:30
Speaker 2: trade sides to fully appreciate and integrate both sides of
23:35
Speaker 2: the lesson because you didn't fully get it. And so
23:40
Speaker 2: this takes us when we start to reframe it and say, oh,
23:43
Speaker 2: I'm learning through opposites, okay, and polarity on contrast, whether
23:48
Speaker 2: it's something in this lifetime or trading roles in another lifetime,
23:53
Speaker 2: it's always because we agreed to it. On some level.
23:57
Speaker 2: We ask our sole group members to do this because
24:01
Speaker 2: it challenges us to learn the lesson, and so that
24:04
Speaker 2: takes you out of victimhood when you realize, oh my gosh,
24:07
Speaker 2: I signed up for that, and I'm just here to
24:11
Speaker 2: heal and balance karma with my father, whoever it is
24:14
Speaker 2: you're playing that role with. So it's not happening to me,
24:17
Speaker 2: it's happening for me, and that puts you in the
24:20
Speaker 2: driver's seat of empowerment. So you can co create your
24:24
Speaker 2: life in a meaningful way.
24:26
Speaker 1: And you have an opportunity to heal it. And it's
24:28
Speaker 1: up to us if we decide if we want to
24:30
Speaker 1: or not in this life.
24:32
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, And the problem is that we fall asleep,
24:36
Speaker 2: we forget that we we created this soul contract. So
24:41
Speaker 2: before we're born, we create a loose blueprint or script
24:45
Speaker 2: of the lessons we need to learn, and usually most
24:48
Speaker 2: souls are working on anywhere from two to five really
24:51
Speaker 2: big lessons okay, And it's the common themes or patterns
24:57
Speaker 2: you notice over your life that you're going through and
24:59
Speaker 2: by the way, you can figure that out in the book.
25:01
Speaker 2: But I also have a free quiz on my website
25:03
Speaker 2: people can take to help them identify what that is.
25:06
Speaker 2: So you realize, wait a second, I scripted all of this,
25:12
Speaker 2: so this is not happening to me again, I'm not
25:15
Speaker 2: being punished, it's not bad luck. This is truly for
25:19
Speaker 2: my soul's growth and evolution that I agree to. And
25:23
Speaker 2: so just knowing that you take your power back.
25:27
Speaker 1: I think my first entry point to spirituality was with Oprah.
25:31
Speaker 3: Do you hear that a lot from people?
25:32
Speaker 1: I do.
25:33
Speaker 2: Yeah, He's amazing. She's one of our greatest teachers here.
25:37
Speaker 3: So there are people like her.
25:40
Speaker 1: I heard someone say this once about Kobe Bryant. I
25:43
Speaker 1: think there are certain Barack Obama, certain people in our
25:46
Speaker 1: culture that help raise our collective conscious.
25:50
Speaker 3: Do you believe in that? Are people placed in those
25:53
Speaker 3: positions for that?
25:55
Speaker 2: Yes, they are, And there's a lot of what we
25:59
Speaker 2: call light workers star seeds. These are enlightened beings on
26:03
Speaker 2: the planet who are taking one for the team. They
26:05
Speaker 2: are here more for the growth and evolution of the
26:09
Speaker 2: planet and others. They're in here in service to others
26:14
Speaker 2: more than necessarily their own self. Okay, doesn't mean like
26:19
Speaker 2: we all still have our homework to do, but then
26:22
Speaker 2: you pay it forward in service to others.
26:25
Speaker 3: There was this video years ago.
26:27
Speaker 1: I watched her in and she said, the universe speaks
26:30
Speaker 1: to us always first in whispers, and if you don't
26:33
Speaker 1: pay attention to the whisper, it gets louder and louder
26:35
Speaker 1: and louder. And if you don't pay attention to that,
26:38
Speaker 1: it's like getting a brick upside your head.
26:41
Speaker 3: What are the types of signs.
26:44
Speaker 1: That we need to pay attention to so we don't
26:46
Speaker 1: get a brick upside our head?
26:48
Speaker 2: Yes, write about this example with my stepdaughter who wasn't
26:52
Speaker 2: getting it, and she kept getting speeding tickets and then
26:56
Speaker 2: it evolved into a minor car crash, and then it
26:58
Speaker 2: turned into a almost fatal car crash. And so if
27:02
Speaker 2: we don't pay attention like it doesn't have.
27:05
Speaker 1: To be.
27:07
Speaker 2: You know, a loud roar, it can be a whisper
27:09
Speaker 2: and the whispers. That's the whole point. You have to
27:12
Speaker 2: be present enough so you don't miss it. The signs
27:16
Speaker 2: are always going to be in the present moment. So
27:19
Speaker 2: let's say you get a feeling I shouldn't be dating
27:22
Speaker 2: this person and you don't listen, and then you go
27:25
Speaker 2: through you ignore it because your mind is saying, oh,
27:28
Speaker 2: you're being judgmental or too hard or whatever, and then
27:32
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, a month later, you get another
27:34
Speaker 2: red flag and then that turns into a bigger, you know,
27:39
Speaker 2: wake up call, whatever that is. And then if you
27:41
Speaker 2: don't listen, it's going to turn into a really giant,
27:45
Speaker 2: you know, scream in your face, and God forbid it's
27:49
Speaker 2: you know, it's not like deadly, but it can be.
27:52
Speaker 2: And so the whole point is we have the opportunity
27:57
Speaker 2: to get it right with ease, and great, it doesn't
28:00
Speaker 2: have to become such a big drama. But the problem
28:04
Speaker 2: comes back to again, we're so in our ego, we
28:07
Speaker 2: are so lost in our heads, in our mind thoughts,
28:12
Speaker 2: and not tuned into our inner guidance, our soul knowing,
28:16
Speaker 2: or we're not trusting it. I think doubt is a
28:19
Speaker 2: really big thing. We start to doubt, well, I can't
28:22
Speaker 2: make sense of why I got this feeling, you know.
28:25
Speaker 2: So the guidance comes through feelings strong overwhelming, Like you
28:29
Speaker 2: start noticing these patterns, like that is not a coincidence
28:32
Speaker 2: that three times in a row I end up with
28:34
Speaker 2: a manchild and I feel like a mommy taking care
28:37
Speaker 2: of this guy, Like maybe there's a pattern here going on,
28:41
Speaker 2: and I need to look at this. I think it's
28:43
Speaker 2: just a matter of being aware enough to recognize the
28:46
Speaker 2: signs that are coming, and the patterns that keep repeating
28:50
Speaker 2: themselves are not coincidence.
28:53
Speaker 3: What's the most powerful sign you've received?
28:56
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's okay. Well here, the most powerful
29:01
Speaker 2: was back in a time when I needed it the most,
29:04
Speaker 2: because I had the most doubt, and I think that's
29:07
Speaker 2: usually why it's the most impactful. I shared with you
29:11
Speaker 2: how this all began my grandma. My angels were talking
29:15
Speaker 2: to me. I thought it was crazy, but regardless, I
29:17
Speaker 2: did the work. For eighteen months, I healed myself. I
29:20
Speaker 2: was back to a healthy, balanced state of mind and being.
29:24
Speaker 2: During that time, my grandma said to me, you will
29:27
Speaker 2: meet your husband and his name is Ryan, and he's
29:31
Speaker 2: going to give you a rose, and that's your clue
29:34
Speaker 2: to know it's him. And in one journaling session, she said,
29:37
Speaker 2: and by the way, his birthday is nine twenty four
29:40
Speaker 2: September twenty fourth, So again, we're back in nineteen ninety nine.
29:45
Speaker 2: This is like pre Google, you know. Okay, So I
29:48
Speaker 2: just had this information, didn't know what to do with it.
29:51
Speaker 2: I put it away for a good year. Well, fast forward,
29:55
Speaker 2: I'm in a good space. My mom then introduces me
29:57
Speaker 2: to the Sky she had met when I was away
29:59
Speaker 2: at school well and really felt strongly I needed to
30:02
Speaker 2: meet him. On our second date, I realized his first
30:05
Speaker 2: name is Brian and his last name was Rosen. So
30:09
Speaker 2: I'm like, wait a second. If you drop b from Brian,
30:11
Speaker 2: you get Ryan, you drop n form Rosen, you get Rose.
30:14
Speaker 2: So I'm like, that's crazy, But am I making it fit?
30:17
Speaker 2: And then I went and dug through my journals and
30:19
Speaker 2: I found the nine twenty four and so I called
30:21
Speaker 2: him and I said, ah, this is crazy, but I
30:23
Speaker 2: have to ask you. Is your birthday September twenty fourth?
30:26
Speaker 2: And he said it was. And That's when I knew.
30:30
Speaker 2: So for me, that sign was alleviating any doubt remaining
30:35
Speaker 2: doubt to help me fully believe that I am being
30:39
Speaker 2: divinely guided and that this is destined.
30:42
Speaker 3: So are we assigned to people? If that's the.
30:44
Speaker 2: Case, So what happens is we have primary secondary tertiary
30:49
Speaker 2: soul groups. Okay. The primary are the people that are
30:52
Speaker 2: like your besties and you know, the soulmates you keep
30:56
Speaker 2: reincarnating with, whether it's romantic or not romantic, the parent
31:00
Speaker 2: child relationship. Those are your primary. Secondary are people that
31:05
Speaker 2: you have a season or a chapter with, but not
31:07
Speaker 2: a lifetime. And then the tertiary would be like the
31:10
Speaker 2: barista at Starbucks that was in your life for a
31:13
Speaker 2: brief moment in time, but they really impacted you. Okay,
31:17
Speaker 2: And so we I don't know if we're assigned it,
31:20
Speaker 2: but we all agree to it. Okay that Hey, our
31:25
Speaker 2: paths are going to cross at this point, and because
31:29
Speaker 2: of free will, what we do with it. We may
31:30
Speaker 2: embrace that interaction and experience and learn the lesson, or
31:34
Speaker 2: our ego might rebel and reject it. And if it does,
31:38
Speaker 2: if we say no, that door closes. But I promise
31:41
Speaker 2: you it circles back around down the road because it
31:44
Speaker 2: keeps coming back, whether it's with that person or in
31:47
Speaker 2: another relationship mirroring the same exact pattern because you have
31:53
Speaker 2: failed to learn the lesson, And once you say yes
31:55
Speaker 2: to it, embrace it and heal or learn the lesson,
31:59
Speaker 2: it goes away.
32:00
Speaker 1: So if you had not been ready to meet your
32:03
Speaker 1: husband and that door closed, what would have happened?
32:07
Speaker 2: Most likely it would have circled back around with him
32:11
Speaker 2: at a later date, because we, like, we're no longer married,
32:14
Speaker 2: but we're still in the same soul family. We're really
32:17
Speaker 2: close friends, and we have children together, so we're co
32:19
Speaker 2: parents together. And so I know that he and I
32:23
Speaker 2: had karma to bring those two boys in Okay, And
32:26
Speaker 2: so I am almost certain if my ego would have
32:29
Speaker 2: been in fear or shame or I'm not worthy and
32:32
Speaker 2: I can't do this, it would have circled back. He
32:35
Speaker 2: probably would have been persistent and a year later tried,
32:38
Speaker 2: or you know, maybe I moved to another city and
32:40
Speaker 2: we'd bump into each other at a bookstore in another city.
32:43
Speaker 2: I mean, that is not coincidence. That is synchronicity. That
32:47
Speaker 2: is the universe waking you up to this is supposed
32:50
Speaker 2: to be happening. So are you gonna embrace it? Are
32:53
Speaker 2: you gonna resist it?
32:55
Speaker 1: You right, your struggle is your biggest opportunity for healing
32:59
Speaker 1: and growth. And I love that reframe. How do you
33:03
Speaker 1: think we can reframe all of our challenges as that,
33:06
Speaker 1: even when in the moment it's hard to look at
33:09
Speaker 1: it that way.
33:10
Speaker 2: Yeah, it really is hard when you're coming through viewing
33:13
Speaker 2: it through the lens of your ego or a fear. Right,
33:16
Speaker 2: it's really saying, what is this here to teach me?
33:20
Speaker 2: There's a gift in this, and not why is this
33:23
Speaker 2: happening to me that puts you in a victim but
33:26
Speaker 2: what is this here to teach me? And then taking
33:30
Speaker 2: what is and flipping it, And so I have a
33:33
Speaker 2: whole program where it's like, take the false belief like
33:37
Speaker 2: I am not enough and flip it to no, I
33:39
Speaker 2: am enough, I am perfectly imperfect, and I am enough
33:43
Speaker 2: right here, right now, okay, and then reprogramming your subconscious
33:47
Speaker 2: and conscious to really start to believe and then integrate
33:52
Speaker 2: that false belief into a new belief.
33:55
Speaker 1: I've heard you talk about an intuitive hit versus anxiety,
33:59
Speaker 1: and which probably feels somewhat similar.
34:02
Speaker 3: Is that the case?
34:04
Speaker 2: Yeah? You know, Okay, Yes, sometimes it's hard to differentiate
34:08
Speaker 2: the two. In the book, I actually outline a whole
34:12
Speaker 2: section on how to know if it's a divine guidance
34:15
Speaker 2: or your mind a mind thought making it up, and
34:19
Speaker 2: so the simplest way is intuitive. Hits happen fast. They
34:24
Speaker 2: usually aren't repetitive. They come from out of the blue.
34:27
Speaker 2: You don't know how it hit you. It's either a
34:29
Speaker 2: feeling or thought or just something that is just in
34:32
Speaker 2: your knowing. You can't explain it, okay, Versus a mind
34:36
Speaker 2: thought that is, or a feeling that is trailed. It's
34:40
Speaker 2: like you wake up feeling anxious and then your your
34:43
Speaker 2: husband said something and it triggered you, and you get
34:45
Speaker 2: even more anxious, and then you have a deadline at
34:47
Speaker 2: work and you get more anxious. That's trailed, it's been
34:50
Speaker 2: following you. Versus you wake up feeling great and you're
34:53
Speaker 2: driving to work and out of nowhere you have like butterflies,
34:56
Speaker 2: Like you have this really intense anxiety in your stomach.
35:00
Speaker 2: It's like a visceral response. You're like, where'd that come from?
35:02
Speaker 2: And then five minutes later you find out something awful
35:05
Speaker 2: happened to someone close to you.
35:07
Speaker 3: It's that you may not recognize it, but it's inside
35:10
Speaker 3: of you already.
35:11
Speaker 2: It's there, and it doesn't make sense conceptually, So on
35:16
Speaker 2: a mind's level, forget it. You're not going to figure
35:19
Speaker 2: it out. But just on an intuitive level. It's a
35:24
Speaker 2: knowing in or knowing.
35:25
Speaker 1: One of my favorite aspects of your work is the
35:28
Speaker 1: idea of raising our vibration here on earth.
35:32
Speaker 3: What are some simple ways, maybe two or three?
35:35
Speaker 1: If you can share that, we can all raise our
35:37
Speaker 1: vibration on a daily basis.
35:39
Speaker 2: Yes, So nature seems to be spirits number one go to, Like,
35:46
Speaker 2: if you're having a bad day, get out into nature. Nature,
35:50
Speaker 2: the human resonance, okay, the vibration of the planet. It's
35:54
Speaker 2: just always neutral and high vibe. Okay. So if you
35:59
Speaker 2: were to go put your feet on the ground, earthing
36:02
Speaker 2: is a whole technique. You walk barefoot on the earth,
36:05
Speaker 2: It literally changes your entire energetic being. It drains you
36:10
Speaker 2: of stress, It raises your vibe naturally all the negative
36:14
Speaker 2: ions found in nature, especially the mountains, by ocean, natural
36:18
Speaker 2: streams and rivers and lakes. Okay, So that would be
36:21
Speaker 2: the first thing I would say. Second would be meditation,
36:25
Speaker 2: but it can be exercise. It can be moving meditation.
36:28
Speaker 2: I think exercise. Honestly, outside you're killing like three birds
36:31
Speaker 2: with one stone, right because you're getting out into the
36:34
Speaker 2: high vibe of nature. You're breathing and getting present in
36:37
Speaker 2: your body, you're moving energy and you get into a zone.
36:41
Speaker 2: So whether it's just walking or it's riding a bike,
36:45
Speaker 2: but if you can do that immediately, you're gonna come
36:47
Speaker 2: back from that feeling really good and high vibe. And
36:50
Speaker 2: then another thing, I would say, spending time with people
36:56
Speaker 2: who light you up and bring you joy. Whether that's
36:58
Speaker 2: a beloved pet or child, or best friend or lover,
37:03
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter. If you feel at ease and you
37:07
Speaker 2: light each other up just by being together or having conversations,
37:11
Speaker 2: that's a really simple way for both of you to
37:14
Speaker 2: raise your vibe.
37:15
Speaker 3: Thank you, I really like those. Okay.
37:17
Speaker 1: You talk in your book about everyone having a different
37:20
Speaker 1: version of heaven.
37:22
Speaker 3: What is your version?
37:25
Speaker 2: I have many versions, but my hands down number one
37:28
Speaker 2: is being anywhere warm and sunny by the ocean.
37:32
Speaker 1: And so when you say heaven, what does that mean?
37:35
Speaker 1: Because I think it has a lot of meetings exactly.
37:38
Speaker 2: So exactly when spirits come through, sometimes they'll say, Hey,
37:41
Speaker 2: my Heaven's like being at the beach, and another will
37:44
Speaker 2: say it's like sitting at a blackjack table in Vegas.
37:46
Speaker 2: Heaven is a feeling. It is not a place. Sometimes
37:50
Speaker 2: the place brings you the feeling or the thing brings
37:54
Speaker 2: you the feeling or the experience. But heaven is a
37:57
Speaker 2: state of being, Okay, it's a feeling, you know, as
38:01
Speaker 2: with anything, when we're trying to manifest, we're not really
38:03
Speaker 2: trying to manifest the thing. I mean we are, but
38:06
Speaker 2: it's the feeling the thing brings us that we're after.
38:10
Speaker 2: So any feelings of peace, relief, happiness, joy, you know, contentment,
38:17
Speaker 2: all those feelings or feelings of heaven. And so that
38:21
Speaker 2: is what heaven is. And that's why the book is
38:24
Speaker 2: what's your heaven, because you can bring heaven to earth.
38:26
Speaker 2: Now you don't need to wait until you die to
38:28
Speaker 2: find those feelings. But it's really easy to get caught
38:32
Speaker 2: up in the frenetic, fear based energy of this three
38:35
Speaker 2: D earth world. And so that's why you've got to
38:38
Speaker 2: figure out what your tools are and use your tools mind, body,
38:41
Speaker 2: spirit on a daily basis so that you keep your
38:44
Speaker 2: vibration high and you plug into the feelings of heaven.
38:49
Speaker 1: I love that you mentioned manifestation because I think it's
38:52
Speaker 1: almost been co opted by the Internet at this point,
38:55
Speaker 1: and I love that it's so wonderful. I mean, I
38:58
Speaker 1: think the Internet probably brought it to me. It's oneful
39:00
Speaker 1: that everybody knows about it, but I do think that
39:03
Speaker 1: it's maybe been watered down a bit.
39:05
Speaker 3: What is your version of manifestation?
39:09
Speaker 2: Manifesting for me, based on what my guides have shared,
39:12
Speaker 2: works best for me is when I am able to
39:16
Speaker 2: feel what I desire in the future as if it's
39:20
Speaker 2: already here, okay. So it's really taking the dream goal,
39:26
Speaker 2: whatever it is, and feeling worthy of it and receiving
39:30
Speaker 2: it now okay, and thinking like, in the present sense,
39:34
Speaker 2: thank you for this, this perfect loving relationship where thank
39:38
Speaker 2: you for this beautiful home on the ocean. It's the
39:42
Speaker 2: feeling sinking into that and if you can, because honestly,
39:46
Speaker 2: your mind and imagination doesn't know the difference between what's
39:50
Speaker 2: real and what's not, what's here and what's yet to come.
39:53
Speaker 2: So it's about feeling your way into it now as
39:56
Speaker 2: if it's already happened. And I think a really important
40:00
Speaker 2: point here is feeling worthy of receiving it. I think
40:03
Speaker 2: so many of us like, we want that, and we
40:05
Speaker 2: say it, but at the end of the day, we
40:07
Speaker 2: still don't have it because we aren't receiving we're not
40:13
Speaker 2: allowing ourselves there's an unconscious part of us that's holding
40:16
Speaker 2: us apart from that because we don't believe we deserve it.
40:20
Speaker 3: There's some sort of blockage.
40:22
Speaker 2: There is, and that's the book. The book isn't get
40:24
Speaker 2: to the root of your blockage, clear it. Because you
40:27
Speaker 2: are worthy and deserving. Everyone is meant to feel heaven
40:31
Speaker 2: here now, and the goal is is to allow yourself
40:36
Speaker 2: to receive it and not hold yourself apart, and not
40:39
Speaker 2: wait until you die to have that.
40:44
Speaker 1: I was actually that was my next question is I
40:46
Speaker 1: think you could have written a lot of different books.
40:49
Speaker 3: Why this one? Now?
40:50
Speaker 2: This is so I love that you asked us because
40:52
Speaker 2: this book originally was a manifestation book and then it
40:55
Speaker 2: was an abundance book. And I'm like, no, no, this, this
40:57
Speaker 2: has been overdone, this is not it. I wrote this
41:01
Speaker 2: book because I was okay two reasons. One, during the pandemic,
41:05
Speaker 2: I was marathon reading. I was seeing thirty forty clients
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Speaker 2: a week every week for two years.
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, because everybody was like, what's happening in
41:12
Speaker 3: my favor? Such happening.
41:13
Speaker 2: Everyone's having these like crisises and at a crossroads because
41:19
Speaker 2: you were forced into this universal time out to reevaluate
41:22
Speaker 2: everything in front of you. You can't run away from it.
41:25
Speaker 2: And so the pattern I noticed was people were struggling
41:29
Speaker 2: with the why behind their struggles, like why am I
41:32
Speaker 2: unhappy in my marriage? And I have everything on paper,
41:35
Speaker 2: I should be so happy, but I'm not. Why am
41:37
Speaker 2: I unfulfilled with this career? It's because it's not your purpose?
41:41
Speaker 2: And so spirit they're seeking spiritual guidance, a broader, non
41:45
Speaker 2: physical perspective to shed light. Okay. And so I just
41:49
Speaker 2: noticed this pattern, and I started reading people's acashic records,
41:54
Speaker 2: which basically stores that what we talked about, the sole contract,
41:57
Speaker 2: what they signed up for. And I was able to
42:00
Speaker 2: identify you're around thirty eight to forty, aren't you, yes,
42:03
Speaker 2: and you are struggling in your marriage. Yes, well guess
42:07
Speaker 2: what it's supposed to be coming up? Because you're not
42:10
Speaker 2: learning the lesson or because your partner's not learning so
42:15
Speaker 2: and then from there I was able to help walk
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Speaker 2: them through a process on how to shift and transform
42:22
Speaker 2: that and move past their struggle. Okay, and so that
42:25
Speaker 2: the whole program here is this book. The other reason
42:28
Speaker 2: was my husband had been struggling his whole life with
42:33
Speaker 2: patterns of dysfunction in his family, and he his dad's
42:37
Speaker 2: at the eleventh hour of his life. Parkinson's eighty one
42:39
Speaker 2: years old, and they have a lot of unfinished business.
42:42
Speaker 2: And my husband's like, you know what, I don't want
42:45
Speaker 2: to take this to the grave, and I know my
42:46
Speaker 2: dad doesn't want to, and I certainly don't want to
42:48
Speaker 2: repeat this in my next lifetime. So I'm going to
42:52
Speaker 2: sit down with him and have an honest conversation. I said, hey,
42:56
Speaker 2: let's come up with a list of all the things
42:58
Speaker 2: I hear the dead tell me they regret and wish
43:00
Speaker 2: they would have done, and sit down and interview your dad.
43:04
Speaker 2: And so in the back of this book, I included
43:07
Speaker 2: in the appendix the list of questions you can sit
43:10
Speaker 2: down and work through. Whether it's a literal death, like
43:14
Speaker 2: somebody's on their deathbed and you want to clear the air,
43:18
Speaker 2: or you're going through, let's say, a death of a
43:20
Speaker 2: marriage or a death of a thirty year career, or
43:25
Speaker 2: you're becoming an empty nester and before your kid goes
43:28
Speaker 2: up to college, you want to sit down and take
43:30
Speaker 2: a do a life review. So really, what this is
43:33
Speaker 2: is a life review before you die and have to
43:36
Speaker 2: do a life review, because there's still time to clean
43:39
Speaker 2: up your karma and heal whatever needs to be healed
43:42
Speaker 2: so that you can find peace here now, because, like
43:45
Speaker 2: I said earlier, if you have to take this with
43:47
Speaker 2: you to the other side, it's going to be a
43:50
Speaker 2: lot messier and more complicated than if you had the
43:53
Speaker 2: courage and willingness to do the work while you're here.
43:58
Speaker 1: It's fascinating that you say regrets in death because I
44:03
Speaker 1: interviewed a rabbi and he's done thousands of eulogies, and
44:08
Speaker 1: I said, what do you understand about death that the
44:10
Speaker 1: average person wouldn't And he said, never once has he
44:15
Speaker 1: spoken to anybody who regretted something they did. On everybody's deathbed,
44:21
Speaker 1: the regrets are something they did not do, which is
44:25
Speaker 1: exactly what you're talking about.
44:27
Speaker 2: That's exactly it. It's, you know, the regrets coming through from
44:31
Speaker 2: the other side, Aren't I wish I would have taken
44:32
Speaker 2: more vacations, or I wish I would have It's more
44:35
Speaker 2: like I wish I would have had the courage to
44:37
Speaker 2: apologize or own up to my part in the deal
44:40
Speaker 2: with that relationship. I wish, you know. So they're acknowledging
44:43
Speaker 2: what they didn't do that. In hindsight, it was so obvious,
44:48
Speaker 2: but they were so blinded because they were so in
44:50
Speaker 2: their own way. They're too close to it.
44:52
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's and so it's valuable.
44:55
Speaker 2: It's the ego, and the ego likes to rebel, resist, reject, ignore,
44:58
Speaker 2: and I and so that is the importance of getting
45:03
Speaker 2: humble and aligning with your soul and your higher self
45:08
Speaker 2: so that you can take an honest inventory and be accountable.
45:12
Speaker 2: Because all our thoughts, words, and deeds we have to
45:14
Speaker 2: own once we cross over. So let's do it now
45:18
Speaker 2: and think of what an amazing place this world would
45:20
Speaker 2: be if we came we all operated from that place.
45:24
Speaker 1: M h. Somebody said to me that they think that
45:26
Speaker 1: humble gets a bad rap because sometimes the word humility
45:30
Speaker 1: feels like you're making yourself smaller or you're self deprecating,
45:34
Speaker 1: and it's I think it's actually like the biggest puppiest
45:37
Speaker 1: thing you can do.
45:39
Speaker 2: It is because your ego doesn't need to be stroked.
45:42
Speaker 2: When you're humble, you are able to be kind versus
45:47
Speaker 2: being right. Okay, you don't need the well, you know
45:52
Speaker 2: how people make giant donations anonymously. That's a humble gesture.
45:56
Speaker 2: They don't need the accolades or acknowledgments. Yeah, because they
46:00
Speaker 2: know in the end it's between them and God or
46:02
Speaker 2: the divine and so humility is one of the greatest
46:06
Speaker 2: strengths you can have. There's nothing small about it. I
46:09
Speaker 2: have a few rapid fire questions for you. So, what
46:12
Speaker 2: is a motto that you live by? Be you, do
46:16
Speaker 2: you and the universe will bring it to you. Oh?
46:18
Speaker 3: I like that. I've never heard that.
46:20
Speaker 2: Spirit told me that one that's good.
46:23
Speaker 3: Spirit is a poet.
46:24
Speaker 2: Oh, Spirit is a poet.
46:26
Speaker 3: That's all.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
46:27
Speaker 2: Yeah.
46:29
Speaker 3: What is a book that you've read that you think
46:31
Speaker 3: everybody should read?
46:33
Speaker 2: Journey of Souls or Destiny of Souls by doctor Michael Newton.
46:37
Speaker 2: It is Have you read it?
46:38
Speaker 3: No, I've never even heard of it.
46:40
Speaker 2: So he's now deceased, but he is this famous therapist
46:46
Speaker 2: who did a lot of past life regressions and life
46:49
Speaker 2: between life regressions, and he's done tens of thousands of
46:53
Speaker 2: case studies. And it walks you through just about everything
46:56
Speaker 2: we talked about today on before You're born and you
47:00
Speaker 2: signed up for this, and what it looks like on
47:02
Speaker 2: the other side, and what role spirit guides and angels
47:06
Speaker 2: really play. I mean, every question you could ever need
47:09
Speaker 2: to know is in that book. And the reason I
47:12
Speaker 2: say this, I suggest it is because back when I
47:15
Speaker 2: was in college, just playing around with all this very
47:18
Speaker 2: new territory, I would get these meditations and I saw
47:22
Speaker 2: souls and soul groups as bubbles all connected. And then
47:26
Speaker 2: later a few months later, I came across his books
47:29
Speaker 2: and in it he has a diagram with the exact
47:31
Speaker 2: same thing Spirit showed me, and as I read it,
47:34
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, it was blowing my mind
47:36
Speaker 2: because I'm like, this is exactly what I've been receiving
47:40
Speaker 2: from my guides, so I know it's based in truth,
47:42
Speaker 2: and it really helps paint a bigger picture to bring
47:45
Speaker 2: a sense of empowerment but also healing to people if
47:48
Speaker 2: they're struggling around their life or a death. I think
47:52
Speaker 2: it's an excellent book.
47:54
Speaker 1: It must feel validating when other people you see like
47:56
Speaker 1: words or phrases of downloads that you receive incredibly.
48:00
Speaker 2: In fact, just recently my husband was rereading The Four
48:03
Speaker 2: Agreements by dom Miguel Ruiz and I actually quote him
48:07
Speaker 2: in my book. It's one of my all time favorites.
48:09
Speaker 2: And the other morning he's like, oh my god, he's
48:12
Speaker 2: saying the same thing you're saying, but in his own language.
48:16
Speaker 2: And in the end it says heaven on earth. And
48:18
Speaker 2: he's like, he's said and I did not remember this,
48:20
Speaker 2: And I'm like, we're all saying the same thing because
48:23
Speaker 2: it's truth, and truth is simple, and when it's the truth,
48:28
Speaker 2: a lot of messengers are going to be bringing it through,
48:31
Speaker 2: saying it in different ways because we all hear and
48:33
Speaker 2: receive things differently.
48:36
Speaker 3: I like that I don't remember that from a book
48:38
Speaker 3: either to.
48:39
Speaker 2: The last chapter. I have to reread it. But pretty amazing.
48:43
Speaker 1: So every episode I ask everyone a pretty smart question
48:46
Speaker 1: because we're virtual.
48:47
Speaker 3: Just let me know when you feel like stopping. Okay,
48:51
Speaker 3: what is the biggest sacrifice you've had to make on
48:53
Speaker 3: your path to achievement.
48:55
Speaker 2: I'm with my kids. You know, this job is amazing,
49:00
Speaker 2: but it's twenty four to seven because the dead people
49:02
Speaker 2: don't stop talking. And I love what I do. It's
49:06
Speaker 2: my passion, my purpose. I would be doing it no
49:09
Speaker 2: matter what, but it really does demand a lot of
49:12
Speaker 2: my time and energy. And I you know, I was
49:15
Speaker 2: doing this before I had children, so they knew what
49:18
Speaker 2: they were coming into and the only thing that brings
49:20
Speaker 2: me a sense of peace about that is that they
49:22
Speaker 2: signed up for me as a mom and they can
49:24
Speaker 2: handle this.
49:26
Speaker 3: Wait, what do you mean by that?
49:27
Speaker 2: Okay, So we choose our parents. We choose our situations,
49:32
Speaker 2: our circumstances, but.
49:33
Speaker 3: Our parents choose us. We choose them.
49:36
Speaker 2: We choose them. Now it could be a two way
49:38
Speaker 2: street where they choose us, we choose them. We're going
49:41
Speaker 2: to play this role. You'll be mom this time, I'll
49:43
Speaker 2: be child. It was flip flopped the last lifetime. But
49:46
Speaker 2: we sign up for it because there are lessons for
49:50
Speaker 2: us to either learn from them and or teach them. Okay,
49:56
Speaker 2: And so you know, again, going back to your question,
50:00
Speaker 2: it's like I'm still a I'm a spiritual being having
50:02
Speaker 2: a human experience, and I still, as any human, crave
50:07
Speaker 2: the time and love and connection with my family. But
50:11
Speaker 2: I am so often doing God's work that it takes
50:16
Speaker 2: me away from the other night I couldn't go to
50:18
Speaker 2: my daughters. She had a big project event social cultural
50:22
Speaker 2: night at our school. Guess what the nanny took her.
50:25
Speaker 2: Because I had agreed to a large audience event in person,
50:28
Speaker 2: I couldn't get out of it, and so it's worth it,
50:32
Speaker 2: but it's also that kind of feel torn sometimes.
50:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you think it's affected them or do they understand?
50:41
Speaker 2: No, my kids are amazing and that takes me back
50:43
Speaker 2: to like they're so at peace with it. So my
50:46
Speaker 2: code for the boys. They have this amazing father and
50:49
Speaker 2: we co parents so well, like we were. I can't
50:52
Speaker 2: show up, he does, and so that thank god, they
50:55
Speaker 2: have enough from both of us bringing different things to
50:58
Speaker 2: the table. And with my daughter, with my second husband,
51:01
Speaker 2: she was a miracle and she's our teacher. She is
51:04
Speaker 2: like from another planet. She's angelic, she is strong, she's independent,
51:09
Speaker 2: and nothing bothers her. And so I'm like, you know what,
51:13
Speaker 2: she knew what she was coming into. She always says,
51:15
Speaker 2: I'm here to take care of you. Your dad sent
51:17
Speaker 2: me to take care of you. And she says that
51:21
Speaker 2: to you, she says that to me, and it's like
51:23
Speaker 2: she knew my dad because the truth is he knew
51:26
Speaker 2: her before I knew her. In this lifetime, what is.
51:29
Speaker 3: The smartest decision you've ever made?
51:31
Speaker 2: Saying yes to that first reading in the coffee shop
51:35
Speaker 2: when I was a young twenty two twenty three years old,
51:39
Speaker 2: terrified to sit with another and start doing this. But
51:43
Speaker 2: I walked away from advertising and I felt the fear.
51:47
Speaker 2: I did it anyways, and look what it evolved into.
51:50
Speaker 1: I've been asking everybody this since I was on the
51:53
Speaker 1: phone with someone that I really respect, and before we
51:57
Speaker 1: I look up to him and before we got off
51:59
Speaker 1: the phone said to me, what's one thing that you
52:01
Speaker 1: think I need to know? And so now I ask
52:04
Speaker 1: all my interviewees that what is one thing that you
52:06
Speaker 1: think I need to know that.
52:08
Speaker 2: You need to know? Well, I'm going to ask Spirit
52:12
Speaker 2: because I trust they're insight more than my own. Okay, okay,
52:19
Speaker 2: So you just need to be reminded of you. You're
52:25
Speaker 2: a healer and you may not see it that way,
52:28
Speaker 2: but they're pointing to your mouth. And when Spirit does this,
52:31
Speaker 2: it means your soul's purpose. What you signed up for,
52:34
Speaker 2: is to use your words and the wisdom that comes
52:36
Speaker 2: to you and through you to comfort, counsel, guide, and
52:39
Speaker 2: inspire people forward in their lives. Look at this, You've
52:42
Speaker 2: found a perfect platform to share your soul's gift with
52:47
Speaker 2: the world. But they're telling you now, it's almost like
52:51
Speaker 2: you keep doing this, have zero doubt because this is
52:54
Speaker 2: what you're born to do. But it's how do you
52:57
Speaker 2: then bring it back to you? So feeling up your
53:00
Speaker 2: worthiness cup, like how do you receive? Because you're really
53:04
Speaker 2: good at giving and holding space and putting other people
53:06
Speaker 2: in the spotlight to lift them up higher, But now
53:10
Speaker 2: it's about how do you receive to lift yourself up higher.
53:18
Speaker 3: I want to thank the people that make the show possible.
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Speaker 1: Colleen O'Neill, Jill Salama, Karrie O'Keefe, and Phil speed Tech.
53:26
Speaker 3: Okay, you know what time it is. Today's a good day.
53:29
Speaker 3: To have a good day. I'll see you next week.