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Season 2 - Episode 307 - What you resist, persists · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  It is chilly this morning. Too much.
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  Anyway, let's talk about resistance, because I'm
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  resisting going into cold weather and I am focused on how
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  much I don't like it. And the you know of course of
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  that lesson then ends up showing up somewhere else in my life
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  when my son is resisting doing his Spanish corrections to his
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  assignment. Just the fact that he has the
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  ability to redo it is pretty amazing.
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  And I'm trying to remind him of that.
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  And I'm saying I'm not understanding why you're
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  resisting so much. And then I listen to myself and
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  I'm like, why am I resisting the change of the seasons when I
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  know it's part of the process? And throughout the day, I just
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  noticed that this was yesterday and throughout the day I just
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  noticed that there's like lots and lots and lots of resistance
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  going on. So when I woke up this morning
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  and one of the first things I was like, OK, I want to focus on
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  getting rid of that resistance and just opening up and saying,
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  OK, what am I learning from being so resistant with all of
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  this? And it what, what lessons can I
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  take with me into this day so that I stop doing it?
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  And what's interesting is, you know, there's an old phrase what
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  you resist, persist. And it could not be more true
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  because the more you resist the the learning, the more you
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  resist feeling a certain way about the cold weather and going
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  through all this, the more you know, you're going to have the
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  the rough experience. And so I was like, OK, when I
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  work on this today, I'm going to pull out, like, and I know I'm
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  being a colossal baby for those of you who are in much colder
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  places than I am. But I'm like, OK, I'm going to
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  get a hat. I'm going to get my big jacket
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  out. I got jeans.
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  I got my hiking boots on. I'm set.
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  So I can feel good. And then magically, because I
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  equipped myself for it, I didn't seem to hate it quite so much
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  because I embraced it in a different way.
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  I embraced the pattern of it a different way.
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  And all of a sudden the outcome changes.
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  So when you resist change, when you resist things, you have to
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  put leverage on yourself and say, OK, do you choose to keep
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  feeling this way? You know, if I ask myself, do I
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  choose to keep feeling this way and feeling so?
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  Gross about it. No.
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  I mean, granted, I do prefer the growing seasons, but I
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  understand that that's not how nature works.
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  I understand that I have to let go of things.
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  And in it just the reality of the world is when you resist the
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  learning that you have being presented to you in any way,
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  shape or form, you end up recreating it over and over and
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  over to drive yourself insane. So if you are in a situation
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  where things are not working out for you at work, and you are.
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  Focused on the fact that they're not working out and you keep
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  thinking about it over and over again rather than saying, OK,
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  this is happening, what can I do to change this?
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  Or what can I do to learn from this?
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  Or what can I do to move through this?
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  It's all going to stop the resistance and then as soon as
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  you start the learning process, everything shifts.
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  And this shows up consistently for me in my personal life over
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  and over and over. If I just focus on that piece, I
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  always end up better because I recognize I can shift.
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  At the moment I shift it takes place.
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  So really, sit down with yourself and if you're having
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  trouble or you're resisting certain things like this time of
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  year brings up a lot for people. We're getting ready to go into
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  the holidays. Some people are like, Oh my God,
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  now I've got to talk about this whole thing with the holidays
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  and who's going to sit where and why are we going to Uncle Mac's
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  house? And I can't stand him.
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  And we all have so much emotion around the holidays for some of
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  us. I have a very dear friend who is
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  like the day after Halloween is all excited about the fact that
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  we should have Christmas music on.
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  I am not that person I want to experience one holiday at a
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  time, so I'm not thinking about the the holiday season of
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  anything else except Thanksgiving.
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  Right now I'm focusing on Thanksgiving and what I can be
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  grateful for. And November is all about
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  gratitude. So.
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  If you start focusing on the fact that you, you've got to,
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  like, not resist all of the crap that's about to happen or come
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  up over this, then you can say, OK, what can I take into this?
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  What can I learn from this? How can I be different in this?
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  What's a better way for me to show up with this?
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  Bunches of questions that you can ask yourself that will put
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  you in a better frame of mind, and then you won't feel so
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  daunted by it all. So hopefully now you are going
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  to not resist all of these challenges that you're being
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  presented with and embrace them and make shifts with them.
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  OK my friends, I hope you have a very blessed day and I will see
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  you tomorrow. Bye.