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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just - The Crown of Service: Leadership Through the Lens of Humility 3.31.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  When he's talking about this idea of taking positions of
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  authority are dangerous because the person doing it for sake of
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  arrogance or for sake of cavort and these things and because we
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  explained yesterday it's actually not just dangerous.
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  It's the exact opposite of the purpose of that position which
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  everyone may be, but he's a person as a position in the
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  Jewish world of authority. The ultimate goal is service.
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  The ultimate goal is to be their fathers and to serve Hashem and
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  to represent the Jewish people told Hashem you you name the
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  person they have called themselves an Eben Moshe abander
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  was considered Hashem refers to the Moshe Abdi Mushi my servant
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  Mushi is considered an evident but he has an evidence he was at
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  one point considered a king Kohenga Dole and the biggest
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  prophet in the world is he's defined as a servant.
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  Yes, he's designed as defined as a servant because that's their
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  ultimate goal and that's ultimate purpose of the
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  position. So any Jewish leader in any
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  role, presidents, rabbi, board member, a committee member,
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  whatever you're involved in or you really are at its core, it's
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  just a servant, even a leader of a family, but you are is a
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  servant to your family interaction.
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  That's the overall theme. He gives an example.
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  Tommy did Abang Amelio. There was students of the two
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  rabbis, Yohiko. They proved this conversation
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  very clearly. Shahim Matsuhima, Fernani Otam.
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  These two men were very alerted men and they were very poor,
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  extremely poor. And so the rabbi for the sake of
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  his students got them jobs to become rabbis positions, got
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  them jobs so they can get paid velour adsulu Kabila Alehem
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  Sarah. They were not willing to accept
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  the positions because they want three men humble and the rabbi.
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  I told them, who am I, Shamus? I told them, Kim, do mean you
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  think? She said.
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  You think I'm giving you a position of power?
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  I'm giving you a position of service.
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  So the students were turning down the job because they didn't
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  want to take on power. They didn't want authority.
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  They didn't think it's good for them.
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  They think it's in cowboy to get to the head, all that mindset
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  and the teacher told them you're right, but you're wrong.
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  You're right. You should not want authority.
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  You should not want who's getting to you.
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  Hey, you shouldn't want power and covert because he has.
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  I'm giving you, I'm giving you service, hard work, labor, long
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  hours. That's what I'm giving you.
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  When I went a few years ago, I went to Rabbi to discuss this
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  role early on and I went to him and he told me it was a whole
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  conversation as much as the details developed.
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  But the overall thing he told me was I bring you a Gemara and he
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  brought me this Gemara. I said before you get involved,
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  before you get involved in the Raven and stuff, you need to
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  know this Gemara. You think you're taking on a
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  position of authority. You told me you're taking on a
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  position of service and recognize that and accept that
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  before you really step into this role, taking on a way that you
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  realize you're not taking on a position of authority, you're
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  taking on a position of service. And what does it mean?
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  That means that if you're doing the rabbi job or you're doing
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  the president job organization, you're doing board member or
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  committee member or whatever you're involved in, you're
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  taking on the role of no name, no fanfare, a lot of hard work,
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  late hours. It's not about you.
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  Not everything needs to be created here.
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  Give me credit for you. You recognize that there's going
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  to be a lot of it that's going to have agita and headache, you
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  know, to take you Oshawa Benun as the next leader or take our
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  own in different roles. God told them who take them as
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  she says. Pity Varim.
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  You need to convince him. You're going to need to convince
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  Oshawa. Oshawa Benun is being given the
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  greatest position the Jewish world ever knew taking over.
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  Should I ban him? He needs convincing.
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  Yeah. To who or not?
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  Who? You need to convince him because
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  he has to see if all it takes on that role.
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  That is a difficult role to take.
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  He has to see. That's a hard role to get.
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  Have to convince him in order to bring him on.
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  Which means if you went to him with the title, if you went to
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  him with the name, if you told them you're going to be Harab
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  Hagon, Cadola, Dorio Schwabenun. If you told him that, he might
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  jump in right away. But no, tell him the truth.
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  Make him aware of what it means. You know what being a leader
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  means. It means headaches.
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  That's what it means. It means late nights and means
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  your early monies. It means difficult.
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  It means people bothering you. It means Monsieur Beno having a
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  big chump on Mizell, having a real problem with him.
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  Even though he saved their life over and over again, yet they
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  still had a problem with him. That is where a leader is.
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  And if you recognize that prior, take the job.
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  If you don't recognize that, don't take the job.
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  You need to convince them that although it's difficult, it's
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  still an important role to take. Don't sugarcoat it, and don't
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  allow them to angle and see the leadership element as
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  significant. Point the leadership part,
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  Ignore the cavort part, goodbye. The title, useless.
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  The position, nothing. Simply focus on service, labor,
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  hard work, accepting the headaches.
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  But it's worth it. It's the sake of the community.
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  It's not for the sake of me, it's for the sake of Hashem.
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  It's not not forsaken me if they step into that role.
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  In other words, if they're willing to put on the hat of
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  service call like a vote, if they're thinking that they're
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  going to take on the hat of honor and position, good luck
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  because their entire life be trying to say, hey, I thought it
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  was a position. I thought there was an honor
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  involved. I thought I feel good at the end
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  of the day. Why at the end of every day am I
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  worn out? Why do I feel like there are
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  people who are bothering me or people who don't hold me?
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  Isn't that not the goal of the position?
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  The answer is that is the only role of the position.
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  Service and service means like an Evid and Evid does not have
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  anything going for him besides for the fact at the end of the
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  day, he completed his work as all a leader should say to
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  themselves that I complete my role in work, not that I get any
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  sort of credit, accolades, position, title, name
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  recognition, cavod, etcetera. Does that exist?
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  It does, but is that why you're in that role?
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  Zero. It cannot be the role at all
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  because if it is I'm a one, you're not doing your real role
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  because if you're in it for Cavod or you're in it for title
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  or you're in it for security, you're in it for feeling good
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  about yourself. You're going to do a 0 nothing
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  job when it comes to your real role.
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  It's unbelievable that the same position could have two
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  completely different definitions.
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  A position of Jewish authority could have two completely
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  different definitions and one is endlessly productive and the
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  other one is zero production. If a person is in this role for
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  the sake of position, title, honor, cavort, recognition,
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  hula, etcetera, then that person will get nothing tangibly done.
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  Nothing. And I'm not talking at a line of
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  ear. I think that's clear because if
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  they're doing it for the sake of themselves, then there is 0
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  productive service that'll come out of it.
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  They may try to keep their title intact and therefore do enough
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  to keep them in that position, but that's not for the sake of
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  the people. That's not going to help the
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  people. Maybe there'll be some
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  inadvertent help, but not the real one.
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  They'll have 0 genuine production.
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  That's how far it goes, all right.
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  And they really have 0 ultimate pride.
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  That's the joke, is all business.
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  If you go in to try it out a position of authority, you're
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  facing the fact zero production and 0 environment.
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  If you go in trying to be a servant, you'll face the facts.
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  You'll have endless as much as your cohort with Hashem's help
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  can perform. You'll have endless Seattle
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  deshmaya and production service or produce results.
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  You know it's funny, you'll have a lot of satisfaction too, even
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  though it's not your goal. You have a lot of satisfaction
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  because if you're predicated and focus on service, your service
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  will make you feel good. But if you focus on cavort and
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  my title and my name, look at nothing and you feel like
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  nothing. That's how far it goes.
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  Think of all our greats. I think about it took on their
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  titles of Raham Ishak, Yaakov Boucher, addon, David Sugarmore.
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  You go through the list you said with all them titles would not
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  for the sake of titles. They were there to be servants
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  and that's something able to produce that he considered
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  himself an evil of Rahman's talking about cool consent of a
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  deem and because they didn't just say I'm a regular guy, they
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  went to the other extreme servant.
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  Servant is the lowest in totem pole.
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  We know we're talking about. It's the Ahmed sign.
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  We're talking about going from servant to servant.
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  We're talking about the fact that we were the servants in the
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  time. It's the lowest in totem pole
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  that couldn't find some sort of in between title.
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  They needed to say we're a servant.
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  The answer is yes. To produce, you need to be a
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  servant. You know, I'll give you segue to
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  Pesa for a moment. You know, according to Nazar,
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  there's a well known concept. It's Sam.
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  And same was a wonderful thing. We know that.
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  But even Galum and same was part of our chance plan, right?
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  We talked during the second night.
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  I'll give you an angle on this point a little.
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  When we're drinking the first two cups, we're still in the
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  middle of talking about slavery. All right, The first two cups,
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  we're in the midst of talking about slavery and we're leaning,
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  he leaning in the first two cups.
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  The ground has a problem with this.
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  Excuse me. And they all went back and forth
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  on this point. But during the first two cups of
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  wine, we're saying language that is involved in slavery.
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  Key douche. We're still in the slave mode.
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  And am I in the beginning? We're still in slave mode, a
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  shanda, we're doing over the cup.
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  A lot of it is a slave mode. So the girl has a problem with
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  it. How do you explain this?
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  So I have an answer. It's my own answer.
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  I think it's a good answer. And that is that Zohar writes
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  that we're not only celebrating their freedom on this night,
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  recognizing the fact that God put us in galut and it took us
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  out like I saw in one of my many our God does.
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  I saw one of the masks, I said you celebrating, I shouldn't
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  taking you out, but God put you there in the 1st place.
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  Don't put us in, don't take us out.
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  It was a miracle, a miracle in the negative form that we ended
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  up in sign. It required the sale of yourself
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  and the brothers and the whole thing come as slaves and God
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  take us out, thank you very much.
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  Don't put us in, don't take us out, right.
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  Azar writes that Gulat Mitzam is a great thing, being redeemed as
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  a great thing, but being redeemed was predicated on the
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  fact that we were first slaves in the first list.
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  Hashem needed to make our slaves as Azar.
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  Why I need to make our slaves? We couldn't just have a nice
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  free ride. Abraham Itzhak and I called
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  yourself the tribes not on Surah.
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  Why do we need slavery with an answer is you got you got to
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  start from the bottom, work your way up the way the Zora says it
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  is to that point the Zora says it is in order to be of the
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  Hashem, in order to be servants of Hashem, he needs to 1st
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  understand what it means to be a servant.
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  An army cell needed to go through a full fledge service
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  development in a terrible way serving Paro, and then come out
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  of that and become mayor of de Parola, AB de Ash.
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  And this is a difficult concept to accept, but there's others.
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  All right. We had to go through Cora,
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  Brazil, the crucifixes, they call it.
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  We have to go through the molding process now.
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  Understood. It's hard to understand.
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  Does that explain why people died?
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  No. Does that explain why Jewish
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  people need to lose their identity for a long time?
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  No. I'm with you.
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  But the theme I'm trying to pull out for now is, is that a Jew is
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  best. He's in his best mood when he's
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  a servant. A Jew is in his best zone and
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  he's a servant. And we went from servants of
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  Paro, the servants of Hashem. That is when you're your finest,
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  you're not your finest. When you wrestle your laurels,
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  you're not your finest. When you accept the position of
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  authority, when you believe you made it, that is your worst.
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  Your best position is I'm a servant, sure, but I'm serving
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  the right one. I'm serving Hashem, I'm serving
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  his people. If you accept that you can
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  thrive as Hashem needed to make us servants first and then give
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  us the Gila because we needed to go with that mindset and switch
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  it over to I've been working out of a life.
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  I'm a very hard working person. I don't take breaks.
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  I'm dedicated to A cause and then you switch the cause and
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  the cause is meaning has purpose has as production, has
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  development has Kedusha has Tawra, has Lukhaniyut has all
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  those beautiful things. All you did, it was.
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  All you did was you shifted your direction with the same
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  mentality. I'm a servant along with the
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  nothingness, right? Everything.
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  And that creates our people. And that is that you can explain
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  how obvious I was able to accept the Torah because we were in the
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  service drive and we just switch who we're going to serve, not
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  zero. We witness Hashem, we got his
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  market. We know what he's about.
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  I was serving it. It was a Jew, used to be in a
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  steady service mode. Not about the position, the
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  title, the gratification, the honor.
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  Rather about the production, production, production for the
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  sake of meaning. After his time, right?
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  Stop with this.