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48. beige & red flags... our relationship in a nutshell · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Hi, guys, Welcome back to another episode of the Hawkgirl Energy Podcast.
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I'm your host, Kaylee, and this is your weekly reminder that it's a
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new day, a new week, a new mindset, and another day for
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you to become the Hawkgirl Energy you want to attract. Happy Tuesday, guys,
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and welcome back to another episode. I want to start the episode off
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with a little recap because if you guys follow me on Instagram, you guys
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know that we celebrated my best friend's wedding this weekend, me and Zach and
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all of our friends obviously, and it was such a fun weekend and obviously
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I've mentioned it here on the podcast. She did a majority of the planning,
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Like she's a type a kind of person, and she did such an
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incredible job. And it was such a beautiful wedding. Oh my god,
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guys, Like thinking about it just puts the biggest smile on my face,
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Like there is no better feeling than seeing your best friend Mary, the love
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of her life. Like it was so indescribable, Like I can't even express
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the amount of joy and happiness like I felt that day seeing her Mary,
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her best friend, and Guys, I was crying so much. I could
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not keep it together. Man Like I tried, but I couldn't. Like,
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oh, like, she's been a part of my life since like we
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were six years old, so and she's been like my ride or die.
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Like I'm telling you guys, like this girl is my sister. We FaceTime
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all the time. I see her almost every weekend, Like, yeah,
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my rid died, and so having a best friend like that, it's very
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rare, I find and I'm very grateful that I got to be a part
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of her special day and watch her mary her best friend. So all in
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all, it was such a great weekend. I did a little vlog on
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TikTok if you guys didn't see of the Friday of just like getting ready for
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the weekend and the rehearsal and everything. Their wedding was at their cottage,
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so it was a nice little personal touch and their dog was involved and obviously
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family and all that, and all in all, it was just so touching
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to see everyone together and again just seeing them get married. And yeah,
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I had to write a speech as I was the maid of honor for her
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wedding, and I was kind of last minute with it, like I wrote
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it a week before, but I never really practice it until like the Friday,
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Thursday and Friday before the wedding on Saturday, and it went really well.
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I'm like pretty good at public speaking, but I still sometimes get nervous
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in the beginning. Obviously, when you're in front of a lot of people,
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like sometimes you can get nervous, right, So I was a little
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shaky in the beginning, like speaking, I was a little nervous, but
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then like by the like after like the first minute, I was good and
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I bawled my eyes out the last part of this speech, and edburybody started
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crying because I started crying. And when I tell you guys, when I
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cry, like I have to like give myself a minute to start talking again
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because I can't speak when I cry, Like it would be like a mess
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if I tried to speak crying. And my best friend she does not shed
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a tear, like she is not like she's an emotional person, but she
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doesn't get emotional about like happy things. It's only like, you know,
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if someone passes away or something like that, you know what I mean,
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like wedding stuff. She doesn't really cry. And she told me after I
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did my speech, and I came up to her to hug her and her
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husband. She literally said, you actually made me shed a tear. You
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were the only person that made me cry this entire wedding. Anyways, it
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was so so special, and her mom was like bawling and she's like,
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oh my god, Gailey, Like, did you really have to everybody cry
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in the room? Anyways, So I'm really happy that the speech went well
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because I was a little nervous about that. But all in all, it
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was such a great weekend. And if you guys want to get a recap
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of everything that happened in video footage, you can go on my TikTok.
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I also posted a photo with her on Instagram, so yeah, it just
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gives you guys a visual of what happened this weekends. I just had to
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stop the recording for a second because a delivery truck just came to my front
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door with my engagement dress that I'm wearing for a photo shoot this weekend,
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So that's something I'll quickly touch on as well. We have not done our
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engagement photos shoot yet and it's happening this weekend, so I'm so excited to
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do that with Zach. I feel like that's when it's going to start feeling
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real. Like obviously, it's feeling real obviously because we've been engaged now for
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like six months, but I feel like nothing's really happened since. So having
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the photo shoot, I think, is going to feel like even more exciting.
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And we are two months away from our engagement party and I'm literally nervous
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but excited because there's still so much work that has to get done. But
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anyways, one of the dresses just came in and I have two looks that
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I'm doing for the photoshoot. One of them I've already tried on. It's
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from the company The Bar. It looks so good, it bits perfectly.
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I don't need to do any alteration, so I'm really happy about that.
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And then this second one just came in and I'm gonna have to try it
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on after recording this episode. But anyways, I'm very excited about that.
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Make sure to follow me on Instagram if you guys want to see the photos.
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I'm sure they'll be up sometime next week. But yeah, that's something
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else I just wanted to bring up because yeah, I feel like I haven't
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given an update on engagement stuff. So that's a little update on that.
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Okay, so let's get into today's episode. I'm changing it up this week.
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I feel like I'm always talking about health of wellness, how to become
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our best selves, which obviously we love, but I wanted to change it
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up and do a TikTok trend. I've seen a few other podcasters do this
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as a podcast episode idea, and I thought it was really funny. I've
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listened to a few episodes, and it kind of also adds a personal touch
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because I feel like I talk about my personal life. Sometimes you guys know
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things about me, sometimes you don't. I obviously have an episode about me,
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just about myself, get to know me all that, and I feel
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like you guys know a little bit of stuff about Zach, which is my
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fiance, so if you're new, if you didn't know that, But this
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kind of also adds a bit of a personal touch about me and Zach.
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I kind of wish Zach was involved in this episode because it's about him and
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eyes beige flags and red flags. We did it together last night, and
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anyways, we had a good laugh doing it. But he's working and this
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has obviously worked for me, so I thought I would just do it myself.
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But if you guys have not heard of the beige flags and red flags
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on TikTok it is, I'll give you guys a bit of a definition.
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It is like quirky traits or habits about yourself that aren't relationship deal breakers,
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but aren't positive either, So that's the definition of a beige flag. So
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they aren't necessarily bad or good, but they still make you pause and think.
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It's basically something that it's like things that bug us about your partner or
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about yourself. So that's what a definition is of a beige flag based off
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of what I've seen on TikTok. And then a red flag definition is a
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potential problem. So it's typically a personality trait or habit that would make someone
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undesirable to date. So yeah, sometimes these red flags can be like about
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someone that you're close with. It could be red flags like from your first
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date about a guy whatever. So I thought it would be fun to do
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my own personal beige legs and red flags. And then the same thing about
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Zach his red flags and beige flags. So don't worry, the red flags
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are really not that bad for like Zach, I'm not gonna rip them apart
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or anything like that. Some girls are like really hateful against their boyfriends about
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some red flags. I've seen some tiktoks where I'm like, Okay, we
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like, why are you even dating him if he has all these red flags?
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So the red flags that I have for him are actually kind of funny.
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So anyways, we're gonna start with me. And again, this is
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also just adding a bit of a personal touch for you guys to get to
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know me, because these are all very accurate about myself. So and I
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feel like some of you guys can relate to this as well, which is
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kind of funny. Okay, So first beige flag for me is pretending I
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know someone but I actually don't remember them. So I will always have this
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situation where, you know, I'm at Walmart or something and someone comes up
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to me and they're like, oh my god, Kaylee, how are you?
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And I'm like, oh my god, how are you? And I'm
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like having a full conversation with them. Usually it's someone from high school whatever,
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And you know, sometimes I'm with my sister. Sometimes I'm alone,
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and you know, my sister will be like, oh, who's that and
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I'm like, oh, my god, I have no idea, Like I
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just like play up the situation, like you know, I know this person,
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and I just kind of make up random stuff and I'm like, I
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have no idea who that is. I do not have the best memory when
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it comes to remembering names sometimes faces as well. Sometimes I can recognize someone's
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face and I'm like, I don't know how I know you, but I
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know you, so I don't know. But that specific situation where I pretend
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to know someone when I'm talking to them when I actually don't know who they
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are at all is like very common about me. Okay. Another beige leg
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which is kind of related to Zach is Zach playing with my hair, and
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if he stops playing with it, I will get mad at him. So
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I love physical touch, like I love when he touches my arm, plays
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with my back, plays with my hair like I love that, and I
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get so upset with him if he stops, because like we'll be laying in
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bed for like two hours before bed and I'll get him to play with my
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hair, and if stops, I'm like, can you keep going? And
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obviously he's like, oh my god, I've already been doing this for two
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hours, like why do I still have to do this? So I feel
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like that might also be a red flag about me, is that I'm like
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needy maybe, but anyways, I thought that was really funny that, Yeah,
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he Zach also kind of made some of these up for me, And
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that's definitely a big yeah flag of me getting mad at him for literally no
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reason. It's just because I want to be touched. Okay. Another thing
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about me is I will call Zach literally like forty three times in one day,
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and I will literally just talk to him about the stupidest shit, Like
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I'll be like, oh, how's your date going, Oh Freddie did this?
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Oh I'm eating this for lunch. Oh, by the way, for
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our wedding that's not happening for another year that we haven't even booked a date
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for. Like I just I just love to call him, and he's busy
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at work. And Zach's an electricians so he doesn't really have the time to
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just have a conversation about what I'm eating for lunch, and obviously I'm busy
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too, but like, I don't really like to text. I'm a big
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talker, Like I would rather call someone or FaceTime someone than have a conversation
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over text. That's just me. So anyways, that's a huge joke I
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think through TikTok too is that like wives and girlfriends are always calling their significant
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other just like about the stupidest stuff. So that's another thing about me.
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Another beige flag about me is I'm a hyperchondriact. If you guys don't know
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what a hyper contract is, is that anything that's wrong with me? If
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I'm feeling sick, like I immediately think of the worst case scenario, like
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if I'm you know, I rarely have a headache, I'm like, oh
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my god, I have cancer, which is so bad to say, like
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like Kiley, why I'm laughing because it's so accurate. But do not google
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stuff. That's the other thing I'm awful at that I have one symptom.
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I google what's wrong with me, and you know, obviously it's like the
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worst thing in the planet, and I freak out and then I get overstressed
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about that, which is obviously not healthy. So anyways, it's I can't
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I can't do anything about it, like it is what it is, It's
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who I am. That's just the reality. But I try to avoid googling
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stuff. Another one is is that I have to have something sweet after every
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single meal, like no word of a joke. After lunch, I need
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chocolate. After dinner, I need chocolate. After breakfast, I have a
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really sweet coffee or something like that. Like there's just this addiction to sweets,
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specifically chocolate, as I've said. And it's so funny because when Zach
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and I started dating, Zach thought it was so weird that I had dessert
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after every meal. Like He's like, that's so weird. I'm like not
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really, Like it's pretty common. Like and now guess who's a dessert person,
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Zach, And he blames me for every cavity he gets from the dentists
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or anything like that. I'm like, do not blame this on me,
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Like that is not my fault. Anyways, It's just funny. So he
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never used to be a dessert person, and now after you know, dinner
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or lunch, he always gets like a freezy or whatever. The difference between
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me and him, though, is that like I am caut is on how
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much sugar I consume when I'm having these desserts, whereas him, he's like,
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oh, okay, dessert, let me eat a whole bag of skittles
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because guys don't know how to control their sugar intakes. So anyways, okay,
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I kind of already mentioned this one, but I am the worst texter
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edber and it's so bad and I feel so bad, even like dms on
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Instagram, like sometimes I won't see your DM, like if you guys message
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me like a week later, and I feel so bad and I'm like,
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oh, I wish I responded to that whatever. Sometimes I will just because
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I feel so bad. But I think it's just because I feel so like
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overwhelmed and busy with everything in life that I feel like I don't have the
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time to text. I don't know, I just am not a good texter.
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And that's why if I want to have a conversation with someone, I'm
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always going to call you or FaceTime you. I will never text you.
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I don't know. I just even like stuff that I'm booking for my engagement
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party. Obviously, there's all these emails. I'm calling them because I'd rather
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call them than email them. I'm just I'm better over the phone and I
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am over text, and I feel like I can just get my point across
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better when I communicate like verbally, so that's a fact about me. I
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suck at texting. Another thing about me, I can't leave my dog alone,
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Like I am obsessed with my dog Freddy. And I actually think that
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I thought Freddie had separation anxiety, But now I'm starting to think that maybe
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I have separation anxiety from my dog, which is obviously probably unhealthy. Obviously
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I'm being overdramatic about the situation. Obviously I can leave Freddie alone, but
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like I do always feel bad, like I'm like, oh, like he's
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gonna be so sad. And I think it's because there's just been so many
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situations where he's cried and all that. And I will say that Freddie has
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gotten so much better from when he was a puppy verse now leaving him alone.
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I think I've mentioned it in the past that his anxiety is like really
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really bad and we had to like you know, get him on medication and
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all that, and we have just been using like CBD. But he's also
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just gotten a lot better. I found just like as he's gotten older,
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he's going to be too this year or so. Yeah, I don't know.
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I feel like he's like getting used to being alone. Like I can,
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I can leave and go to the grocery store. No problem. I'm
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just again being over dramatic about how I miss him and blah blah blah.
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But I do always love like giving my dog company, and I do always
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love like having him around people, Like if I can, I will drive
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him to my parents place if I'm gone for like a long period of time,
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because I like to know that he's happy, you know what I mean.
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Like, I don't like when my dog is sad. He's he's your
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baby. Like if you have a dog or a cat or any kind of
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animal that you just adore, you just know that they're literally like your little
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your little babies. So I just always like to make sure that he's in
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good hands. Okay, last beige flag about me, and I'm pretty sure
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I already did in this episode, is that I make up words all the
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time and I'm super confident that they're real and I just put them into sentences
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and people just assume, like, oh, yeah, that's a real word.
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Like I don't know, I just can, you know, talk shit
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and say whatever and people think it's a real word, and I'm I think
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it's a real word. I'm like whatever, it's a word. We're gonna
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make it a word. It makes sense, it sounds right. People believe
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me, so as long as they're confident, I think you know you're fine.
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So anyways, that's a funny beige flag about me. Okay, let's
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go on to Zach. And I feel like some of you guys will relate
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to this with your boyfriends or partners or husbands or anything like that. But
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one thing about Zach is he always like he always falls asleep but like eight
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pm. He just his job is exhausting, right, Like he's a blue
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collar boy. So anyways, he always sleeps super early and then he pretends
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that he's awake. So if I catch him on like eight thirty sleeping,
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I'm like Zach, because like he's usually snoring, Like I can hear him
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snoring and I'm watching TV. I'm not even bet at this point, and
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I'm like, you're sleeping and he's like, no, I'm not, and
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I'm like, yes, you are, like you're literally sleeping. And anyways,
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it's so funny because like sometimes I even sneak videos and then I show
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them after I'm like, really, you said you weren't sleeping. Well,
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here's a snapchat video to prove it. Anyways, we have this like running
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joke between us because he always is so confident about like nope, I'm awake,
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and especially during movies, don't even get me started. Like I'm like,
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oh, let's watch a movie. And then he like the first like
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twenty minutes in the movie, he falls asleep, and I'm like, okay,
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what just happened. He's like, well, you know like this,
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I'm just like, exactly, you were asleep. Don't even don't even lie.
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So anyways, that's his beige leg. It's yeah, it's not a
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problem. It's just funny. Another thing about Zach is Zach and I are
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very opposites when it comes to this, like this is my red flag and
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this is Zach's beige leg. Zach will always arrive like half an hour early
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before like anything, when it comes to like an appointment, a game,
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whatever, like we have to be somewhere. So if we're getting ready for
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dinner and we have a reservation, like, Zach wants to be there like
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twenty five minutes early. Unlike me. I run late all the time,
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Like I'm never on time. It's really really bad. It's a really bad
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habit. And That's definitely one of my red flags is I just I'm never
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on time unfortunately. And yeah, so even like a dinner reservation, like
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obviously the girls get it getting ready and all that, he's like, oh
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my god, we should have left like ten minutes going. I'm like,
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babe, the restaurant is literally ten minutes away, and like it's still a
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half an hour like away from the reservation time. So anyways, it's just
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funny. But Zach is always early about everything, like even his baseball games.
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I'm like, baby, like your game is literally not for another hour
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and a half and he's like, yeah, don't know, but I want
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to be there early. I want to stretch, I want to take everything
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out, blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, you do you whatever.
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Anyways, So that's sacks page flag. Another page flag about Sack is
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he's overly loud. He just like having a conversation and I'm like, babe,
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dial it down, Like your voice is so loud. I mean,
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I'm kind of loud too. I think that's I don't know how we work
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so well. But anyways, he just like laughs, loud, talks loud,
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all that. So that's one. Another thing about Zach is he like
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this is not to say like in a cocky way, he just like knows
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the most random as shit, Like he knows everything. Like we call him
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Zakopedia like Wikipedia, because he'll just say like randomly, like oh do you
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guys know that like in nineteen seventy five Blue Jays blah blah blah blah,
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and I'm like, how do you know this? Like like he'll just pull
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facts out of his ass and everyone's like what, Like it just is the
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most randomist stuff And it's just so funny because everyone just calls him Zacopedia because
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it's like, what are you saying right now? And how do you even
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know this information? Like he doesn't even like read books or anything, so
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it's just funny. I think he reads a lot of like news articles.
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He listens to a lot of podcasts, like I'm talking like forty five po
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casts a day at work, so maybe he's learning this information from that as
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well. But it's just funny because he always has these random facts that he
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tells in front of her friends or family or whatever, and it's just funny.
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Another beach flag about Zach is he always likes to show people ugly photos
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of me and thinks that I actually like look good at them, and he
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always tells me like, oh, he looks so beautiful, like before I'm
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going to bed, not when I'm going out. Like when I'm going out,
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I'm expecting like, oh, like Zach's gonna Zach's gonna compliment me because
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it looks so good whatever, you know, Like he'd be like, oh,
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yeah, you look good, and I'm like, okay, thanks,
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And then before I go to bed and be like, oh my god,
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you look so beautiful, like and I'm like, I'm literally have no makeup
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on my face, my hair, I haven't washed in seven days, and
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I'm pretty sure I wore these pajamas yesterday. Like just like never when I
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look my best, and I feel like you guys get that, Like I
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feel like guys like when he looks like you, like very natural, like
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nothing like no makeup, no like crazy outfit all that. Like I don't
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know if you guys can relate to that, but I always feel like Zach
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always says I look good when I'm like when I feel like I'm at my
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worst. It's just the reality of our relationship. But not like he never
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compliments me when I dress up, Like obviously sometimes he does, but I
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just feel like there's more compliments when I look like shit verse when I actually
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try so. And then yeah, the whole ugly photos thing, Like I
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don't know why he thinks it's so cute and funny, and I'm like,
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this is like the worst picture of me ever. Like he shows us one
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photo to our friends of me eating black ice cream, and I have ice
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cream all over my face and my teeth, and I'm like, do we
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really need to show this to everybody here? Like it's not a good photo
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anyways, It's just so funny. Okay. Last beige flag about Zach is
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he cannot wear white clothes because he will spill like everything on himself, like
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literally, like every single time, like when we go to my parents' house
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and we're eating pizza or something or wings or ribs or whatever, he will
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literally take a shirt off in front of my family and sit and like eat
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without a shirt on because he will literally spill like stuff on a shirt.
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It's just it's just a running joke in my family, like at a restaurant,
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like I mean, he just tries to avoid wearing light colors. He'll
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wear like the napkin on his shirt or on his pants or something like that.
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But he just cannot wear light clothes because he just spills everything on himself.
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Like maybe he's clumsy. I have no idea, but that is one
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thing about him that he just Yeah, he cannot wear light clothes. It's
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just so funny. Okay, let's get into my red flag. So I
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said one of them, which is never being on time. Another one is
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this is really bad. I'm listening, but I'm actually not. And it's
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not like I don't want to see that in a hurtful way. But when
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I'm on my phone, I'm so focused on like editing a video or posting
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an Instagram or TikTok or whatever, Like I'm so focused on that. Like
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I'm not that kind of person, Like I can multitask, but I can't
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multitask when it comes to like being on my phone and having a conversation with
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someone, like that's just not going to work. I'm way too focused on
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making sure that the post, you know, there's no spelling mistakes, that
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all the edits are correct. Whatever. So someone's trying to have a conversation
23:08
with me, I like they'll say something and they'll be like mmm, like
23:12
kind of like yeah, I'm not listening, but sure, and then Zach
23:15
would be like, Okay, what did I just say? And I'm like,
23:18
oh god, I have no idea, and he's like exactly, like,
23:19
you're not listening to me. It's not purposely done. But like,
23:23
I feel bad sometimes when I'm doing that. But that's a huge red flag
23:27
of mine, is that I'm listening, but I'm like, I pretend that
23:32
I'm listening when I'm actually not. Oh yeah, this is the one that
23:34
Zach made for me talking during movies. I'm really bad at that. Like
23:41
I will be at the movie theater with Zach and I'll be like, okay,
23:45
so like what happened at this part? Like I don't really understand.
23:48
He's like, oh my god, shut up, Cally. So yeah,
23:53
I feel like there's always one person in a relationship that's going to talk during
23:56
a movie. It's just the reality. If you don't talk during a movie.
24:00
I mean, good on you, guys, but I'm the talker when
24:03
it comes to movies. I need some explanation, especially when the movie seems
24:07
a little too complicated or when you know, when movies are just like like
24:11
way out of order when like you know, it starts from like the end
24:15
of the movie and then you know, backs tracks and then it's all confusing
24:18
and anyways, Yeah, no, I always ask a lot of questions during
24:22
movies. Okay, another red flag about me. I feel like this is
24:26
more like I wouldn't say I'm an oversharer on social media, but I feel
24:30
like I'm an oversharer when it comes to like my friends, Like I kind
24:33
of overshare a little too much about my personal life because I love well.
24:38
I mean, I'm pretty honest with you guys too. I feel like I
24:41
share a lot on here, but I am an oversharer. I don't think
24:45
that's really a red flag. Maybe maybe it's more of a beige flag.
24:48
I don't know, but I don't know if it's a bad thing. But
24:52
sometimes, you know, I just overshare. Oh, Zach also thought of
24:57
this one. I mean, I feel like girls like this, but I'm
25:00
high maintenance. Yeah, I'm very high maintenance. Yeah. I like to
25:04
get my nails done, like to get my hair done. I like to
25:07
spend a lot of money in general. Like, I don't know, I'm
25:11
just very high maintenance. Like I can't even explain anything else, Like,
25:14
I feel like you guys already know that I'm high maintenance. It is what
25:15
it is. This is very accurate. This next one, and I kind
25:18
of talked about this in the solo episode, is that I can't be alone,
25:22
Like I have to force myself to be alone, and I do enjoy
25:26
my own company. I just enjoy like being with people, like I love,
25:32
like, you know, even like working from home alone, like I
25:34
will try and like find an hour of my day to leave and go spend
25:38
time with my parents or my sister. I constantly text my sister. I'm
25:42
always like, what are you doing today? Like do you want to work
25:45
together? You know? I just like to have company around me when I'm
25:48
working or anything like that. I'd love to have plans. I like to
25:51
keep myself busy. I don't really like to just be at home and have
25:55
time to myself, even though I enjoy being alone and having time for myself,
25:59
I just for some reason have this motivation to always be with people.
26:03
So yeah, that's one of my red flags. I really can't be alone.
26:06
I also feel like that's why I got a dog, because Zach and
26:10
I we moved out and literally not even the first two weeks of moving out
26:14
together, we were both like, we need a dog. Like it was
26:17
just like an immediate instinct that we were like, yep, we're buying a
26:18
dog. Like we can't like be in a house without ones. So we
26:23
used to babysit my parents' dogs and bring them to the apartment, and I'm
26:26
like, it just didn't feel the same, like it just you needed to
26:30
have like your own dogs. So yeah, that's another thing. Oh yeah,
26:34
this one's definitely a red flag. Buying ten dollars lattes. I will
26:38
spend like I could care less how much money I spend on a coffee,
26:41
Like I go to New York City and I easily drop like twelve to thirteen
26:45
dollars in a coffee and I could care less. But it's the best ice
26:48
coffee like I'll ever have, and I'll make me the happiest person alive,
26:51
so it's like worth it. So I'm really bad at that. And you
26:56
guys know, I always love to treat myself to a coffee, like probably
27:00
at least two to three times a week. There's something about buying yourself a
27:03
coffee, like I find like I make really good coffees here at home,
27:07
but it's the whole experience of getting out of the house buying yourself a coffee,
27:12
Like I don't know, I like I would do that every single day,
27:15
but you know, you got to put a limit on some stuff.
27:18
So yeah, I'm pretty bad at that. This one is I feel like
27:23
really obvious on social media as well about me, is I can't relax.
27:29
I am that kind of person where I'm always going, like I just the
27:32
motivation just never stops here like obviously, like not saying the motivation, it
27:36
never stops like obviously, Like I have to be honest, these past two
27:38
days of being home. So I came home Sunday, today's Monday. I
27:45
have not unpacked my suitcase. I have not got into my you know,
27:48
get back into routine kind of thing. And that's okay. You guys know
27:53
that based on my other episodes that sometimes it takes, you know, a
27:57
few days to get back into routine. One thing I did do this morning
28:00
was I did do a workout. I did like a twenty minute workout.
28:04
I think we talked about us in the last episode. Actually how you know,
28:07
I just kind of like take it a dial down than what I typically
28:11
do to get back into my morning routine and all that, but like I
28:14
still have an unpacked by still haven't on grocery shopping. It's the reality,
28:17
and I'm being honest here, I just haven't had the full motivation to get
28:22
bully back into the swing of things. And obviously work has been busy as
28:25
well these past two days, like catching up on work, so that is
28:27
my priority is catching up on work, getting whatever I have to get done,
28:30
and then get back into my routine and all that. So yeah,
28:37
so like I can't relax, like I'm still doing stuff even though like I'm
28:41
not fully back into routine. But I'm that kind of person that just like
28:45
always needs to have things like planned or done. Like there's just like never
28:51
like even at night, like when I'm sitting in bed, like Okay,
28:53
yeah, I guess you can consider that relaxing. But I'm always on my
28:56
phone. I'm always on my computer, like doing stuff for the engaging party,
29:00
doing stuff for work, like you know, always making sure I have
29:06
a whole like layout of what I have to get done the next day,
29:08
like a whole planned out day, which you guys know, I'm a big
29:11
to do list kind of gal and that's what always pushes me to, you
29:15
know, get Steff done and all that is these to do lists. So
29:18
I don't know, I just can't relax. The only time that I can
29:21
relax is if I'm at a spa. That's when I really force myself to
29:23
like enjoy like the relaxation of going in sauna is going in hot bass and
29:29
just being at a spaw in general, like not being able to take your
29:32
phone out or anything. Those would be the only times I honestly would think
29:36
that I actually relax. Is when I'm forced to not like be on social
29:40
media or anything like that, which kind of sounds bad. But yeah,
29:42
I just I can't relax. And my last red flag is I have stomach
29:48
problems. I feel like this is for a lot of girls. I Yeah,
29:53
eating certain foods sometimes just doesn't sit well with me. It's not like
29:57
to the point where I'm like, oh my god, me too. It
30:00
tested like I know what your tats my stomach. It's usually dairy when I'm
30:04
like, I've consumed like a high volume of dairy. If I have like
30:07
a little bit of cheese on a pizza, I'll be fine. Ice cream
30:12
again, if I have like a whole like you know, like a blizzard
30:15
from dairy Queen. If I had a regular blizzard size of ice cream,
30:18
I would be sick to my stomach for literally two days. If I have
30:25
like a heavy cream pasta dish, I will be sick the next day.
30:30
So yeah, if I'm making a cream pasta dish myself, like, I
30:33
can control how much cream goes in it, so I'll be fine knowing what
30:37
I'm putting into it. But at a restaurant, obviously you can't see how
30:41
much cream they're putting in. So anyways, I just know that dairy is
30:45
not the greatest for me, but I still eat it anyways, and I
30:48
don't take any medication for it, just because it's not to the point where
30:52
I need to be on medication. So and then other stomach problems just about
30:56
who knows what, like probably haven't drank enough water in the day or whatever.
31:00
Like yeah, I feel like a lot of girls can relate to that
31:03
is just having stomach problems. Okay, we're now going to get into Zach's
31:07
red flag. Sorry this makes me laugh just because I made these for Zach,
31:11
and like I said, we went through them last night and we were
31:15
just laughing because they're so accurate. But one red flag about Zach is that
31:19
he cannot dance like at all. And I think the first reason why I
31:25
thought of this one first is because at the wedding, obviously we both had
31:29
a few drinks. We were feeling good whatever, and Zach, when he
31:32
has a few drinks, he can dance on the dance floor. But like,
31:33
he can't dance like he just like looks like he's anyways. Just makes
31:38
you laugh. He just looks like he's trying to dance, And I'm like,
31:41
Babe, I love you so much, but we are going to need
31:44
to go to dance classes for like our first dance for a wedding because it's
31:48
that bad. Like love you, honey, But he's got no rhythm like
31:51
at all. Or he can't sing either, like he just you know anyways.
31:55
So that's a red flag about Zach because I can't dance, and I
31:59
guess you know all the icks about your guy. A new ich unlocked this
32:04
weekend is Zach dancing but still love him. Another red flag about Zach is
32:08
that he doesn't eat veggies. What girl can agree with me? Like,
32:13
I will make a full pot of broccoli for like a side dish for dinner,
32:17
and he will literally only put the carb and the protein on his plate.
32:22
And sometimes if he's feeling, you know, healthy for some reason,
32:27
he'll grab like two pieces of broccoli after he's done eating his whole entire meal.
32:30
And it's like, okay, there you go. I eat vegetables like
32:32
making me think that, like, oh, good for you, honey,
32:36
like you ate your greens, but he never puts the greens on his plate,
32:40
just because he hates vegetables so much. Like there's not one veggie I
32:44
can think. Actually there's one veggie that he does eat every single time.
32:46
That's asparagus, but we don't really buy it that much or that often.
32:51
So anyways, that's one thing about him is that he doesn't like to eat
32:54
veggies. Okay, this one is still like shocking to me till this day,
32:59
Like when I met him, when he told me he did not like
33:01
this. It is he's the only person that I've ever met that I honestly
33:06
don't like that doesn't like this. He doesn't like watermelon, Like who doesn't
33:12
like watermelon? To me, that's like shocking. It is literally the best
33:16
fruit, like ever and he doesn't like it, like he basically the reason
33:22
why he doesn't like Let me give a backstory on this is when he was
33:25
like five or six, his parents entered him into a watermelon eating contest,
33:30
and like, I get it, the texture is kind of weird, right,
33:35
So he all this watermelon for the contest to try and win, and
33:37
then he threw up like so much the entire day, just from like over
33:43
like eating watermelon and over hydrating himself, right, because watermelon is kind of
33:47
hydrating. And to this day, he said he cannot eat watermelon without like
33:53
gagging because of the texture, and just like it just like haunts him to
34:00
this day of that experience he had of the watermelon eating contest. So I
34:05
swear to god, he's the only person I know that doesn't eat watermelon.
34:07
But it's quite funny that he doesn't like that, Okay. Another red flag
34:13
is that he forgets everything, like doesn't know where his wall it is,
34:17
doesn't know where his car keys are, can't find his phone, like everything,
34:22
And I'm like, baby, it's at the front door, like I
34:25
always know where it is. But he loses everything. It is so bad,
34:31
but yeah, it is what it is, Okay, another red flag
34:36
is he's lactose intolerant, which I mean I am too, so I guess
34:39
that's my red flag as well. But the reason why it was actually a
34:45
choice he made when Zach was younger, he like in high school, he
34:47
had really bad acne and obviously guys like, don't go to the doctor about
34:53
it. They you know, they don't want to do anything when it comes
34:57
to their skin. And so we started dating obviously when we were in high
35:00
school. So I was trying to help him out as a girl, like
35:01
wanting to help him with his skincare, and we realize I was like,
35:07
maybe you should try and cut out dairy and see if that helps your skin.
35:10
And ever since he cut out dairy, his skin has completely cleared up,
35:16
like so so much better. And we still eat like dairy from time
35:22
to time, but every time he eats dairy, he has a little breakout
35:24
like on his skin, like whether it's just like one or two pimples whatever,
35:29
Like it's the reality. But yeah, we both are kind of lactose
35:34
intolerant, like we that's the diet. It's not a diet, but you
35:37
understand what I'm saying that we follow here at home, laptoas free, cheese,
35:40
lactose free like milk all that. So yeah, going on to skincare,
35:46
he has no skincare routine. No matter how hard I try to get
35:50
him on like skincare products, he will not, Like he will not do
35:53
a skincare routine before but or before he leaves the house. He will literally
35:57
wash his face with a bar soap Like why why are guys like that?
36:01
But like I'm like, honey, put some moisturizer on, like you know,
36:06
like I honestly like his skin is good now, like there's nothing wrong
36:08
with it. But you know, I'm just trying to keep him young,
36:12
and yah know he doesn't want to do it, so a bar soap will
36:16
do. I guess, Oh my god, this is yeah, this is
36:20
We were laughing at this one because it's so accurate. He gets so angry
36:24
like this, Like yeah, I get I guess I kind of get angry
36:29
myself too, But he is like another level of hungry, like he like
36:34
needs eat so much in a day, Like I swear buying groceries. I
36:37
swear I'm buying like more than half the groceries just for him because he eats
36:39
so much. But yeah, he gets really angry, like it's really bad,
36:45
but we still love him. Another red flag is that he's overly obsessed
36:51
with baseball. This guy lives and breathes the sport, like every time summer
36:55
comes around, Like he plays on two different teams. He plays two to
37:00
three times a week, and then he also plays in a bunch of tournaments
37:04
on the weekend. And usually they're like travel like tournaments, like he'll go
37:08
to you know, Kingston, he'll go to London, whatever. So yeah,
37:13
that's a red flag. I mean, it's kind of like the girls
37:15
that are like my man is overly obsessed with golf, and golf's like every
37:19
night, like or video games or whatever. Like that is Zach with baseball,
37:23
Like it's just an obsession watching it. You know, he loves sports
37:28
obviously, but he plays baseball and that's his obsession. And yeah, he
37:34
just you know, I'd rather him be obsessed with that, I guess,
37:36
than anything else. So that's his obsession. Another red flag is that he's
37:42
overly competitive about everything, literally everything, Like he thinks everything's a competition.
37:49
Like when we're playing, you know, drinking games with our friends, it's
37:52
like who can drink the most he wants to be the he wants to win,
37:55
you know, just any type of board game that we play with our
37:58
friends or just him. And you know sports, if he loses, like
38:02
he you know, gets heated obviously. So yeah, he's very, very
38:07
competitive. And the last red flag is that he has back problems, which
38:14
I mean it sounds funny. I mean, I have stomach problems, and
38:15
then he has back problems. But his back problems are really bad. He
38:20
injured his back from snowboarding a long, long time ago, and since then,
38:25
his back has never been the same, no matter how much physio he
38:28
goes to or anything like that, stretching. Um, it's just like an
38:31
injury that like really affected him. So sometimes like it will just give out
38:37
and yeah, it's like really really bad. So yeah, that's his red
38:42
flag. He has back problems. And then sorry, I think I have
38:45
one more. I think I said the back problem was the last one,
38:47
but this one's actually the last one. Every buddy loves him, like Grandma's
38:52
oh my god, Zak is so great, like parents that I've only met
38:57
once. Oh yeah, Zach, He's such a great guy. Like I'm
38:59
like, oh my god. Everybody loves this guy. Like why, but
39:01
why, Well, I'm marrying him, so obviously I understand why everybody loves
39:06
him. But yeah, it's just funny because I feel like everyone always has
39:09
something nice to say about Zach. They just think he's such a great guy,
39:13
so personable. One thing about Zach is that he can get along with
39:16
anyone, Like he knows how to pick up what people you know, like
39:21
in terms of like if you just met someone for the first time and you
39:22
want to spike a conversation with them and you don't want to talk about,
39:25
like, Zach will know what to talk about with that person even when he
39:29
just first met them, Like, He's very good at getting to know people
39:32
and being able to bond with them after like the first twenty minutes of knowing
39:37
someone, like And that's why I feel like everybody loves him is that he's
39:40
able to relate to them in some way, which is honestly a green flag
39:44
as well, like knowing that your partner can you know, you can put
39:49
him into any kind of situation, you know he'll be good. You know
39:51
he's never gonna like not want to be somewhere because he's uncomfortable, Like he
39:57
will always feel comfortable with me knowing that he's able to to be confident enough
40:01
to spike conversations with new people and create a friendship with someone. So yeah,
40:07
but those are the beige and red flags of Zach and I. I
40:12
guess it gets you to, you know, get to know me a bit
40:16
better as well as Zach and also kind of relate to maybe you and your
40:21
partner. But thank you guys so much for listening to another episode. If
40:24
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40:40
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40:45
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40:52
You guys know how much I love you all, and I will see
40:55
you guys next week. One by phone