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Abandon Yourself and You Abandon Your Cats · Back In The Closet - Two Crazy Cat Ladies

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I'm Jay, I'm Adrian, and together we are there's two
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crazy girl ladies. I'm going to cut you I.
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Think I just peed. Buckle up.
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We're back in the closet. Welcome to a another episode, a
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long overdue episode of Back in the Closet with the 2 Crazy Cat
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Ladies. We're so excited to be back.
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It has been a month since we have recorded a podcast.
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In fact it's it's been a month I believe since we've been live on
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social media anywhere as well. A whole month.
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So we are very excited to be back guys.
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We have been travelling, we've been doing a lot of things and I
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think this episode is really. It's going to resonate probably
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with many of. You yeah, I think it will
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resonate because so this this episode is entitled abandoned
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yourself and you abandon your cats and this basically like.
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Kind of. It is dramatic, but.
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It's kind of like a personal story of where we've been, what
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we've been kind of like what we've been going through and
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where our cats are because of what we've been mentally, you
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know, mentally and physically, but, but mentally for us, like
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and energetically for us, where, where we've been and what we've
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seen with our cats. And then obviously to give some
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value what we're doing moving forward to to to help the the
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whole issue. And what I think it's funny is
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because we've really been and you guys that are part of our
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community know really since July is really is really when things
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started getting super. Do you mean July of last year?
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Right, because that's when it started.
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I mean, what do you mean? Well, I mean like, oh.
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Right, Yeah, basically, yes. But this year, I mean, I think
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that that this year it really started going so hard in the
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paint. We started going hard.
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In the paint. Right, like personally and
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travel wise and all of that, it really the wheels came off,
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let's just say that. No, that you could say the
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wheels came off. I don't.
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I don't. I don't think the wheels are
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off. Maybe, maybe not multiple
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wheels, but. They might be a little like low
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in air for sure, for sure, but but but but the wheels didn't
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fall off completely, right? So let's just let's let's let's
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back it up right. So so this episode is about what
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happens when you don't take what happens to your cats when you
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don't take care of yourself, right?
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What happens to your family, your furry family?
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This could be this is dogs. This dogs included in this but
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personally what has happened in our in our personal family of
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seven of us here in this house since we have kind of gone off
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the rails is is is a better way of we didn't lose our wheels.
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We we held on by a thread a little bit a couple times.
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Well, here's to that. Or we felt like we were holding
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on by a thread a few times, but but why once we've sat like sat
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back once we got like a little bit of time away and we're able
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to kind of sit back and evaluate what is happening and why is
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this happening? It, it really like makes sense
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as to why our cats are responding the, the way that
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they are responding and how important it is for us to take
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care of ourselves because that's the biggest thing that we have
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neglected over the past really two years.
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The, the is taking care of ourselves in order to better
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take care of our cats, right. And I know you guys know, we're
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all about nutrition. We're all about, you know.
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Awesome things that we can give our cats to to help them.
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Enrichment Wellness, like just making sure that our cats
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physically are always do like they are being taken care of in
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our homes in the way that we all want them as our children,
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right? Like as as part of our family.
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We're we're trying to just help save the world, save all the
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cats that are in homes and and help you guys help your cats in
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a, in a, in a, in a, in whatever way that is that works in your
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home, right. So when you neglect yourself,
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however, which is what we have done, then you get what where
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we're at right now. And I must say right now,
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because we literally just got home like less than 48 hours
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ago, I think it's. 48 hours now, I think it might be 48 hours.
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No, I think it's more it was very early Monday.
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Yeah. Either way, it's so much more
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than what we can give them nutritionally or supplementally
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or enrichment wise. It's about the energy that we
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bring into their lives and that is something that we have a
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really, really experienced as a a wake up call for us, honestly.
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Yeah, it's been. Sterling Trap King Davis is here
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right now and says it that he needs to take a break himself.
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And, and, and, and they actually spoke him and Sally and Aaron,
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beautiful, beautiful friends. You guys all know them, but they
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spoke actually this weekend on stage at at the female
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convention in Seattle, talking about talking about, you know,
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like uniting together and, and how important it is to, you
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know, to, to work together and. Collaboration over competition.
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Correct, which is which is absolutely beautiful.
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But yes, that's The thing is that like Searles, like we have
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spent like we that we're all about that.
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You guys know that everybody I think pretty much knows that we
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are all about like let's all work together.
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What can we do? How much more can we do?
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How much better can we do? How much better can we be?
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And if we're together, can we do even more?
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And then and then you get into or, or you know, you can
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probably you, but you know it in whatever realm it is that you
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are in your life. You might not be in cat welfare,
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but whatever it is like you can get so into that that you're
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just trying to do better. You're just trying to be better.
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You're just trying to be the better, best version of your of
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yourself and do like make the biggest difference.
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And and then you kind of find yourself almost at like what I
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completely rejected before when people would say like it burnout
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is a real thing. It's like.
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Come. On.
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Come on, that's for. There's 28 hours a day.
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Keep moving. Yeah, yeah, there's, I mean, no,
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just like better organize your time and it's fine, right?
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Like, I mean, you can get all the stuff done and still have
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time for a glass of wine. You can do it 'cause I could do
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it, right? And until you realize that you
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are slowly trying to be everything to everyone and you
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get to this point where you don't even know it's all good
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intentions, right? You, you have no idea that you
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have neglected yourself. You're not doing any of those
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things that you know that bring you comfort, peace, that.
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Nourishes you, yeah. Centeredness like you're not
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reading anymore. You're not I, I haven't like
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read a book. Like I like to read self help
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books or like like business books or, you know, things that
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like kind of like motivating books.
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And I haven't read a book like all the way through.
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I haven't read a full book in a, in a hot minute, real hot
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minute. Like I'm talking a couple of
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years, right? Couple.
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Years. Tell me the last one I did, it
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was the one that I gave to Terry.
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No, Yeah, no, the one I gave to Terry.
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Anyway, it's been a couple years and, and I, I'm not like going
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out like we, we start neglecting those things like getting up and
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doing your morning walks or your exercises, right?
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Like doing, like nourishing your body is better, like the, the
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meditation or what we learned because of this, some breathing
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work, which we'll, we'll tell you guys about too, that we're
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very excited about because it has made a world of difference
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in us in this process. But like just doing things for
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yourself, we, you realize that you're just slowly sacrificing
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those things and this is not on anyone else but you, right?
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Like, but me, this is not on anyone but me, but like slowly
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sacrificing me in order to please everybody else, right?
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In whatever way, whatever that looks like.
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You guys, it's like if it's possible to do something, we
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want to do something. So that's.
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Then it becomes. And it's not people like, if not
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everybody's asking us, I'm asking people like, oh, I want
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to help you with that. Oh, I want to.
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Yeah, right. But it's, it's, it's like when
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you think about the fact that there are 24 hours in a day and
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you do want to do all these things and your and your and
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your sphere of influence becomes larger than maybe your, the size
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of your cup, Then it's like you want to do all these things And,
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and so, yeah, you can do them. But then you start replacing
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your morning routine of just stretching, going for a walk,
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you know, spending some time with the babies into, oh, we can
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handle this or we can handle that.
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And before you know it, you're neglecting your cats too.
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Like, right, Like in those little places we're, and we,
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we've said it recently, right? Like we've said over the past
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few weeks that like it, we, we're getting into this, we've
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been getting into this mode for a while, but we're kind of able
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to stop and reflect, but we've been in this mode for a while
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that we just want to make the biggest difference and do the
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best that we can and be the best that we could be and, and trying
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to save everything and everyone, right, Whether it's and, and
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that's humans and cats alike. We were trying to do so much
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that that now like, oh, oh, well, sorry, our cats can't get,
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you know, fed at the right time or we're just not, you know,
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we're not actually paying any attention to them.
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And it's not just that guys. That's the, the, the real thing
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that we are realizing is that it's not just what we do with
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our cats and when we do things with our cats like thumbs up.
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Speaking of our cats. You guys love each other.
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You're good, huh? Yeah.
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Girl, boy, they're fine. Everything's fine.
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But it's not just what we feed our cats.
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It's not just like how many times we, you know, take time to
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give them all the enrichment that they need.
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It's not just, you know, all the, all of these things are
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super important, but we're really, really realizing how
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important it is that we take care of ourselves because we can
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do all of those things. And we've been doing all of
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those things, right? Like we've been over the past
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two years, we have been doing all of the things that you're
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supposed to do. But when our energy is off,
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their energy is off and you can't pour from an empty cup,
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right? And so we were slowly just
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losing like our cup was just getting like smaller and smaller
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and smaller. And all of a sudden our lives
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are ridiculous in this house, right?
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Like we would not invite one of you into our home right now.
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We love you all at all. We love you all.
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I wouldn't invite my mother into our house right now.
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Seriously, Because so we spend all of this time like just amped
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UPS, like anxious basically, right?
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Like, I mean, I don't have a whole lot of words.
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It really it's, it's the fight or flight.
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It really is fight or flight. It's like if there's always
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something to do and there's always something to be
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responsive to, sometimes reactive to and.
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The less we take care of ourselves, the more important
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those things, or the more anxious.
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Right. It, it just, it just accumulates
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and it starts snowballing. And I think it's so interesting
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that they, you know, people talk about your body's always in
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fight or flight. You have to, you know, do stuff
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to rebalance your synthetic nervous system.
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It's like excellent, great. One more thing to add to the
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list. Awesome.
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But we have now we are, we recognize that that energy is
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actually so real. Our cats are living in a state
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of fight or flight because of us, because of us.
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There is nothing in their world that is difficult.
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There is nothing that they want for it.
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There is when you when we got to take a step back in Ireland and
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really started looking at this. I have been waiting to wear this
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sweatshirt. For those those of you listening
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on the She got a sweatshirt in Ireland.
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It's beautiful that, that, that experience when we get to take a
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step back, it's, it's like that analogy is of back in the day.
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If you're watching television, I don't know if it's still that
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way with HDTVS and all that, whatever.
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If you went straight up to the TV and you're looking, all you
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would see are these little dots, right?
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You have no idea if you're watching a football game or you
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know, special victims unit, who knows what you're, you just see
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snow. When you get a chance to step
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back, the picture starts coming into focus.
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So we have spent the last year. Great analogy.
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It's. Not mine, but I'm happy to use
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it here when the last year we have been in this situation of
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like whoa, baby, hi, good catch. You're good.
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You're good. You're so good.
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You're so good, buddy. I love you when we of just being
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in a state of confusion with our cats.
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Like what else can we do? What do you need?
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What do you want, Animal? Communication sessions and it
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will, you know the our, our cat behavior sessions, which they're
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all super helpful, but and they really actually tell us to.
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Put on our. List yeah, but they actually
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tell us what we can do or or or maybe not even like in the
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animal communication sessions exactly what we should do but
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like we know we can gather like what the issue kind of is here
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and it's just exactly what we're saying right now but there
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wasn't any way to like. Interestingly enough, this is
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just coming to me right now. Follow me.
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So animal communication sessions, right?
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The one thing that keeps popping up and if you guys know us, you
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know that Jay is really the one that struggles with anxiety.
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She is an overachiever. She's type A, she has some OCD
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tendencies. She is very good.
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Well, I mean, they're not when they're when they're when
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you're, when you are centered in your space.
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It's how you built this business when you know how.
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It's fine. Moving on, interestingly enough,
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in these animal communication sessions, Friday and Annie both
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are mirroring you, right? Friday is bullying Annie,
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Friday's in a constant state of fight, and Annie's in a constant
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state of flight. Interesting, right?
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That just, it's something that came to mind right now.
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All to say, it's not just Annie and Friday.
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All of our cats are exhibiting things.
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And I want to, I want to talk a little bit about Ireland.
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What an incredible opportunity it was to be able to take a step
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back to bring the picture into focus.
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Better to recognize that all these things that were confusing
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to us, it wasn't that there was anything that our cats needed,
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it was. It is literally just our energy
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that is causing them to live in this same place of fight or
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flight. Correct all the time.
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Yeah, so we started, so I, I started planning this trip to
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Ireland like over a year ago, right?
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It's been on my bucket list for 13 years to bring Adrian to
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Ireland. This is our 10 year anniversary
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as a 2 crazy cat ladies, as you guys know.
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And, and it was, it was just a good, it was, it was like a,
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this is a good excuse to get her to say yes to travel because
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like she will say yes, she has been saying yes, thank you to
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traveling for the past like 2 years where we've been going to
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conventions and, and, you know, going and seeing and doing
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things. And it's been amazing to be able
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to be, you know, in real life in our communities.
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Yes, it's been, it's been awesome.
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And to get more experience at like speaking in, in front of
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people in real life on stage, things like that, right?
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Like it's, it's been, it's been wonderful to do those things.
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But we were literally, and this is what I think, like God's or
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the universe like sent us to Europe, right?
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Like in hindsight, getting it, even though I started planning
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it a year ago. The universe always knows better
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than us bigger plans that we would have to be.
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So time, time zone wise, we would have to be so far removed
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that we like our people weren't even up awake or doing anything
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until it was like late afternoon.
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And by that time we're already like relaxed.
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We had already gone through walks through the park and did
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so many good things for ourselves, right?
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Like we did some breathing exercises and we did some, you
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know, like we just kind of really relaxed in Ireland and I
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think that was. Something we haven't done in I
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don't even know how many years. We've done a couple trips like
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San. Diego.
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Where it's kind of like a working from the beach kind of
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thing. You know, you get up in the
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morning, you handle your emails, you check in with the team,
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whatever. If something happens, you run
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back. Feels good so you feel like
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you're more relaxed. I mean.
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Come up right? It's like the place of peace for
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me. It's it's it's not that she's
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she is just moving and shaking this guy.
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Not even the move. This was literally so far
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removed from. Our day-to-day reality.
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That we woke up in the morning and there literally was nothing
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to do. My sticker chucked our emails
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and stuff but there was nothing that could be done.
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So you guys know that Jay is like the planner and for this
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trip she had planned, I'm planning so many tours.
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My friends since I like I don't know how long, like since like
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Lubo I remember. Was like one of the. 1st or
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granddad was one of the 1st that I I used to literally put.
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I used to literally put on my To Do List to create A to do list
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for the next day. Like before I had an actual
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planner. I'm sure they made them, but I
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had like a little, you know, like one of those little yellow
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notepads, right? And I would have A to do list
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every single day to get everything done.
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And I would put on each day. I would put on the To Do List,
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make tomorrow's To Do List, right?
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Or, and they would make fun of me.
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So yeah, I'm a planner. She's a planner, so she had
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planned. How I get things done if I don't
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have it written down, don't get done?
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These are facts, but she had planned to plan everything about
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this trip. We were going to do so many
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tours. We were going to go to the
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seashore, some cliffs, the Jameson tour.
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Of course, I wanted like a whiskey tour.
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Come on. Right.
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I totally agree to that. The Guinness place, the Dublin
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tour, the so many tours and stuff and things.
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And about a month and a half out from us actually leaving and we
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were already like traveling and doing whatever we were.
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Already right there at burnout. She said, I think that we're
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going to Erin said sounds like the C style.
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We have more to talk about with you about that here.
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We, she said. I think that we should just go
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to Ireland and just play it by ear.
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Just. Do and if you guys know me,
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total type B? Oh, she was like, Oh my God.
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That's great. No binder.
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It was already difficult enough to think about leaving the
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babies for two weeks and all the stuff and.
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Things And just like Trap King just said, sometimes you got a
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plan not to plan. And that's what I ended up
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doing. I was like, you know what, we're
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going to Ireland. I think it's gonna be great.
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You're gonna love the people. We'll eat some foods.
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We'll, you know, we, we stayed at a great place.
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The one thing and I'm like I, we're outdoorsy girls.
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I think like we don't treat ourselves to outdoorsy stuff as
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much as we used to, which is another thing that we're going
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to start building into our or I am definitely going to start
20:48
building into my self-care routine.
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But there I, I booked our Airbnb literally like right across the
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street from the park that I went to 13 years ago that I fell in.
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I was there by myself. So I didn't, I like, it was like
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I was experiencing this and I was like, Oh my God, this is the
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most beautiful park. I went about the same time of
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yeah, I went at the same time of year.
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So I get to see all the fall leaves and, and it was just like
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I, I walked that park and I was like, I really want to
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experience this with someone. And specifically Adrian.
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And I was like, she will love this place.
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So I booked our Airbnb like across the street from Saint
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Stephen's Green and we went there every single day we would
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like. Are we going to in the park and
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talk about birdie friends and they had so many.
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We love the birds people in the just the history of it.
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It was just, I mean, you're in the middle of Dublin, this big
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bustling city and this park was we all to say as far as like
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being able to step away and really rebalance being near that
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park. Every day we would grab our
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coffee, go for a walk to the park.
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Sometimes you go for an afternoon walk, sometimes it
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went there two or three times a day.
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It was just so cathartic and relaxing it because when you
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don't, I think a lot of us forget how to relax.
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And so then it feels very foreign when.
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I forget how to relax. When you have the opportunity
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and then you don't. I remember how to so it was such
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a gift to have many days. So it was, yeah, enough time.
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Where there were. Plans.
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Yeah, to kind of like remember what it is to breathe and be.
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Spontaneous, just kind of go where the day takes you and walk
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by a place and say, should we go in here?
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Let's check this out? Yeah, because we don't have a
22:48
plan. And I and you could do it and I,
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I can't tell you, we also like. So this part, this part of this
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trip was also flying from Ireland to Spain and of course.
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They figured out how to make part of it a work trip.
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Well, I didn't, I mean, we were asked, we can't say no.
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Like this is a this is a beautiful opportunity to speak
23:07
to veterinarians at the Raw Feeding Veterinary Society event
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in Mallorca, Spain. And and we were at like they
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wanted. The giants in in the in the
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community like you guys were in the pet health.
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So these are the giants in the pet health community.
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Huge names, giants. And so just realizing who's
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going to be there. Jay got what kids call these
23:31
days. Imposter.
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Syndrome. It's also known as.
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I think it's still just. Insecurity.
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Right. Yeah, but it's like what?
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What did we have? But.
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Imposter syndrome in that realm feels like so more accurate,
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like more accurate than just insecurity like oh, I'm so
23:49
insecure about doing this like it's no like how like why am?
23:53
Why am I here right like in like I like this feels weird but it
24:00
went over so well it. Really did.
24:04
And yeah, and, and I like, I really only needed one Xanax to
24:10
get through it. And she was, she was actually
24:12
doing good without any pharmaceuticals for a while.
24:16
Yeah. In the moment, yeah.
24:18
Was it the day of? No, it was actually the day.
24:21
Before right? That I had to, yeah.
24:24
That I was like. The first week, on the second
24:25
day. And so we had a, we had an
24:28
opportunity to get to just be present.
24:31
Oh my God. And I know that our time in
24:33
Ireland because we have been in Ireland for 9 days before that,
24:37
that we had an opportunity to finally just, you know, relax a
24:41
little bit and recenter a bit. So day one was the one that you
24:45
were most nervous about. But I will say so a few things
24:48
to bring, to bring some more value, right?
24:50
Like a few things that we are, that we are now, that we are now
24:53
doing and that we, that we actually started before we went
24:58
to Ireland. Because I will tell you guys,
25:01
our stress and anxiety was so high that we almost cancelled
25:05
the whole trip multiple times, multiple times.
25:09
We were like, we can't do it. And that just maybe.
25:11
We should not. No, we have to.
25:13
No. Let's cancel it.
25:15
I think that's a bad decision. Nope, but it's a good decision
25:18
because, you know, emergency after emergency after emergency
25:22
for those of you guys that follow us, like on the, you
25:24
know, on the personal level, like with like my family and,
25:28
and our like Madison ending up in the ER and all these things
25:32
and like, and it was just like, maybe we maybe we shouldn't go.
25:38
And then we were finally like, no, let's she cried, Adrian
25:41
cried. 4 hours of the flight there right like our first leg
25:47
of the flight to the point where the.
25:51
Oh my. The sweet stewardess this, which
25:53
I think they still call him British Airways, but.
25:57
He was gentleman, his name was Aster.
25:59
If you're if you ever watch this podcast, thank you so much.
26:02
He was like, man, is there anything we can do anything at
26:05
all. Is this flying thing, man, what
26:08
maybe you do. Would you like a moist towelette
26:12
with those moist like he was such a sweet man, but I like I
26:17
couldn't just Jake has business class tickets because she knows
26:21
how much I'd love to fly to begin with and so.
26:24
She hates to flies, but she they were.
26:26
Hate is a strong. Word.
26:28
I don't dislike flying. And this gentleman was so sweet
26:33
to me because it's one thing to leave the babies.
26:36
That was hard enough. And then it's like, I'm always
26:39
that person. That's like, what's going to
26:40
happen? Something's going to happen that
26:42
we don't have to get the flight. The, the flights going to be
26:43
cancelled. There's going to be a, the
26:44
government shotgun down is going to make it whatever.
26:46
But then you get on the plane and then you're taxing.
26:49
It's like, Nope, nobody's causing a go back to the gate
26:52
thing. And then you take off and it's
26:55
like, oh, this is happening. This is happening.
26:58
So yeah, I, I, I, but this gentleman was so sweet.
27:04
And so whatever all to say that our stress, I'm sure it had a
27:10
more centered place. Had I felt more, I would have
27:14
been like so full of like faith and so excited for the
27:19
experience. And, and instead I'm sitting
27:21
there just sobbing like a a three-year old, you know, I
27:27
don't even know because it was that it was, it was difficult in
27:32
that moment. Yeah.
27:33
But I mean, that's how stressed we were before.
27:35
So, So what we so a few things that we did, a few things that
27:40
we had did that we started prior to even leaving, leaving so that
27:45
we could encourage ourselves to like, I don't know, actually
27:49
just like, like be OK and not give up, right?
27:54
Because that, that burnout thing is so weird where you you
27:58
literally get to the point where you're like, OK, I'm done, I'm
28:02
done. I don't want to do anything
28:04
anymore. And your brains telling you
28:06
giving up is not an option, right?
28:08
If you're like, if you're like me giving up, quitting is not an
28:12
option. You don't get to quit.
28:13
Like you will never ever quit. Like you don't get to quit but
28:19
but your whole body and every other thing that is happening.
28:23
And I don't know what all the things that happened, but like
28:27
things were happening that was like, uh, uh, I can't do
28:30
anymore. I'm done, I'm done, I'm done,
28:32
I'm done. We're we're shutting down.
28:34
We're shutting down, Doctor. Key Woodley is here.
28:36
Oh my goodness, I love you so much.
28:38
She is such a rock for us. She wasn't.
28:40
Such a rock. Doctor Key Woodley 'cause she
28:43
she gets it without us even telling her.
28:46
She checks in on us right at the right time every time.
28:49
But anyway, so so we started breathing.
28:55
Believe it or not, there is a thing called breathing which is
29:00
a thing. Called breath work.
29:02
Yes, which we had like no idea, like just not in tune with like
29:09
anything anymore at that point, right?
29:11
Like we're not in tune with anything anymore that we could
29:14
do that's good for ourselves. Even though like in the back of
29:17
our brain I know we know those are.
29:19
Like let's go to the mountains. And it's like, no, there is no
29:21
time for that. We don't have time for that.
29:22
Laundry like on our Sundays, our one day we would be like, we're
29:26
going to go to the. Mountains tomorrow, let's.
29:28
Do this. Let's let's put our phones down
29:30
and go to the mountains. And don't have it no, no, it
29:33
it's no time no time yeah. So so we literally out of like
29:42
desperation at the beginning of September.
29:46
So this was after like right after multiple conventions, like
29:52
back-to-back all the all these parents are like all these
29:55
things happening all at the same time.
29:58
After we have not taken care of ourselves for over a year,
30:01
right? And then all this stuff is
30:04
happening and then Madison ends up in the ER and we're like,
30:09
just like, yeah, we're, we're just like, I, I can't, we, we
30:15
can't. And you guys know, like most,
30:17
like many of you guys know that follow us.
30:18
Like we were already having issues in our home with our cats
30:23
spraying, peeing everywhere, peeing everywhere and like just,
30:28
you know, like off the rails, believe it or not, right?
30:31
With us, the, with their, with their parents.
30:34
So crazy. And then?
30:37
478 breath work is great. And then yes, thank you farm
30:41
girl, we have found, then we then we find breath work and we
30:44
hire this breath work coach inside.
30:47
Came highly recommended. Became highly recommended and
30:50
he's absolutely amazing if you ever want to check him out.
30:52
Brady Brees on Instagram, I think I don't know.
30:57
And on YouTube, Brady Breeze is what it is.
31:02
Anyway, he's fantastic. We hired him for the month.
31:06
Thank you, Sissy. So for the month of September we
31:12
met with him for an hour every Wednesday and we did a like a
31:17
breath work session. Can I just tell you how
31:19
difficult it was in the very beginning?
31:20
It's like this is something that is going to be valuable.
31:23
This is something that's going to be very valuable.
31:25
But then like picking, picking the day once a week or we could
31:29
take an hour. Was it?
31:32
We're like, oh, we're going to sacrifice a whole hour just to
31:36
breathe for ourselves. Then we started feeling guilty,
31:39
right? Like that's not something.
31:41
We should have felt no we. Should not have felt guilty,
31:44
right? But but to prioritize ourselves
31:47
over everything else that we had.
31:48
Going on a sneaky little sage. He is a sage.
31:54
He is, and he has studied all over the world.
31:56
He has his own story about how he discovered breath work.
31:59
Also with anxiety attacks Which? Panic attacks.
32:03
And he is. He's such a gift for anyone who
32:05
doesn't know what breath work is or it's.
32:08
Learning to breathe again, right?
32:10
But it is, it's amazing. It's totally different.
32:15
I have to say. I've had, I'll post this on my
32:18
well, I, I won't post it. It has nothing to do with cats.
32:20
But I'll post it on our, my personal Facebook page about
32:24
like this eye issue that I have had going on for over a year,
32:30
like has suddenly since breath work started, has suddenly
32:37
disappeared. And I knew that it all started
32:40
because of stress. Yeah, but I did everything,
32:43
literally everything minus peeing on my eye.
32:47
Which one holistic doctor recommended that I wash my eye
32:52
with my purine. I did not do that.
32:56
I did not do that. But but it was, it was, it's, I
33:02
knew that it had. And I've been to two doctors to
33:05
like one eye specialist, another doctor all misdiagnosed didn't
33:10
their their recommendations didn't make sense and so so
33:16
like. But somehow breathing, breathing
33:21
breathing actually helped. You know, do you know what's so
33:24
funny is that since we've started.
33:25
Brought and that doesn't take anything.
33:27
Usually, usually when one of us, when one of us does this, it's
33:32
like, Oh my God, what's wrong? Every time, Every time.
33:35
Like it wasn't too long ago that I said, you know what?
33:38
Whenever we hear each other take a deep breath anymore, we have
33:40
to stop saying what's wrong. What's going on?
33:42
What's wrong? Because that's like, because
33:44
we're just like positioned. For it to be a trigger if.
33:47
You take a deep breath. Oh my God, Christy, you teach
33:50
online breath work too? No.
33:52
Way. Oh my God, it was so good
33:56
meeting you at. Yes, it was.
33:59
I love you so much. This is exactly what we love
34:03
about the about the in person events, meeting people that
34:06
we're like always chatting with online and then we get to see
34:11
like this face. With the.
34:12
Name and yeah, and we're, we're like fast friends.
34:17
This is a family. This is such a, it's such a
34:20
beautiful space. I love that we just get to sit
34:21
here and ramble on, but this is so significant to us and I
34:24
really feel like we've been rambling on for, Oh my God, 34
34:27
minutes already. Here's the thing, all of
34:30
everything we've been going through, it's like we we're
34:32
still going through the mechanics of making sure that
34:35
our babies have play time sometimes.
34:37
Yep, feeding them all the stuff, making sure they're the
34:39
supplements they need, doing all the whatever, giving them their
34:41
catio time, make all the all the mechanics.
34:44
And yet our cats when we came home from Ireland, y'all little
34:49
back story, our bestie here in Vegas that we've known for 20
34:52
years, I she recently retired from the from bartending.
34:57
Thank God. She is our shipping manager now
35:00
and she graciously took care of all of our orders and our babies
35:07
and stayed at our house. So we were gone for those 16
35:10
moons when we got home. However, the entire.
35:18
The house was covered in pee pads I'm testing.
35:21
The stairs, the refrigerator, the kitchen counters, the bar
35:24
area, the couches, the everything.
35:27
Everything. Every.
35:29
Because she said, you know what? I just, they're cleaning it up
35:34
every day. I just was mitigating as much as
35:36
I could because just smart babies.
35:38
And why do cats pee everywhere? Why do cats pee?
35:42
Like it's one of the number one reasons that they get rehomed,
35:45
sent back to the shelter just. Euthanized.
35:48
Abandoned and ultimately euthanized because they don't
35:52
have any sense of security, confidence, they don't know
35:57
what's. Going on when they're scared,
35:58
they pee. When they don't feel
36:00
comfortable, they. And by pee, I mean spread,
36:04
right? That's what we came home to.
36:06
That's what we left them with. That's what we left them with
36:10
was this anxiety and stress that we had.
36:12
It was already happening. We left them with that.
36:15
We left them with someone that they love and they know and like
36:18
Madison herself, like Madison, but they were like, but then we
36:22
left them for 16 nights where they were like, okay, after, you
36:26
know, they're, they're used to us being gone for the past
36:29
couple of years. Like, yeah, maybe 3 or 4 nights.
36:33
7 was. It was 6, I think was the
36:35
longest before that when we went to last last year in July.
36:39
No, because we went for my mom's 70. 5th and yeah, yeah, yeah.
36:44
But they, so they were used to us being gone for a certain
36:47
amount of time, but I think it hit a moment where they were
36:50
like, Oh my God, they're not coming back.
36:52
And they, and that's what, you know, our cat behaviors, the cat
36:55
behaviors.com who we met with yesterday, who is also helping
37:00
us to get back on this track of OK, these are the things that we
37:04
know, but we forgot. Now remember that we need to,
37:08
you know, incorporate into the doing right, into the doing with
37:13
them specifically. But the number one thing that we
37:17
really have to do is take care of ourselves, right?
37:20
If we abandoned ourselves, we abandoned our cats.
37:23
We cannot pour from an empty cup.
37:26
They they pick up on our energy so much.
37:29
I remember before this experience, I remember someone
37:33
saying once that cats, before they see you, they see your
37:37
energy. I remember one time coming home
37:41
from work after an especially hard day before I got to come
37:44
work for us full time. Just is it three years ago now.
37:49
4. 20215 almost wow. I came home from a hard day and
37:57
Jack, Jack is my boy, my boy, my boy.
38:00
He knows he's my boy. But I walked in the door and
38:03
that cat looked, looked at me and his whole body poofed up and
38:09
he hissed at me and ran like I, like Satan himself, just walked
38:13
in the door. That was the energy that I
38:16
brought in. And.
38:19
Now we have this. And guys, let me just let me
38:21
just put this as not just as like your, your cats could start
38:25
start spraying or fighting or things like that.
38:28
But when we came back from Ireland, the very night like the
38:32
OR that that next morning, which we kind of came like we didn't
38:35
go to sleep until about. 2:00 in the morning.
38:37
In the morning but and we came home late that night, but but it
38:42
was just a couple hours later that we were woken up by our
38:46
cats puking and then the next night another cat puking and
38:50
then another cat puke. Like our cats don't puke.
38:53
They don't like. It's not just like a normal.
38:55
It used to be right back when we were eating horrible foods and
39:00
whatever, it was a normal thing. These are all of us guys
39:03
responses. These are cats that are stressed
39:06
out. They're given everything they
39:07
need. How many people have said to us
39:09
very sweetly, if I ever die, I want to come back as a cat in
39:12
your house? No, you don't.
39:13
Not right. Now you don't.
39:14
Not right now, you don't. These poor babies are.
39:17
They have, they want, they want for nothing, but they are
39:20
energetic beings that are so incredibly intuitive and they
39:24
are individuals and they are all just pleading with us to get our
39:29
shit together. And it's not.
39:32
And it's not a list. It is rebalancing our lives.
39:36
It is re nourishing our souls. It is refocusing our day.
39:41
It is taking care of ourselves. We, we wind down with a glass of
39:45
wine all the time. It's I don't think there was
39:48
many days that we missed a bottle, that we missed drinking
39:53
that night. And one of the things alcohol is
39:56
something that makes cats feel people are a little
39:59
unpredictable, right? And just smell different.
40:03
Right. So the things that we are that
40:05
we are planning on calibrating right now, even already I can't
40:09
tell you since we got back from Seattle, there's a shift I keep.
40:14
I have so much gratitude. I keep saying to the babies,
40:17
we're home. We're.
40:18
Home. Whenever we have like we like a
40:21
bunch of meetings and this and that, whatever and it's like try
40:24
to get this done in between this meeting, try to get that done
40:26
and get that posted and do this and it's like we're home.
40:30
Like we're home. Do everything with a different
40:33
energy. It is.
40:35
It's already changing. We already see it just from just
40:39
from coming home, like the amount of places that they were
40:42
spraying beforehand. This time we haven't seen
40:46
anybody poop since we came home from Seattle, right?
40:49
Like like our energy, because our energy was still kind of
40:53
like, oh, OK, we have our next week.
40:54
Basically for me, I was like, OK, I just have to make sure to
40:57
get over jet lag before we leave for Seattle so we can be on
41:00
point when we get to Ireland and.
41:02
Seattle was was. 8 days. More lacks than we go like we're
41:08
going to we're going to be gone. You know, we always tell the
41:11
babies we're going to be gone for we're going to be home in
41:13
the fourth moon. It's going to be a quick trip.
41:15
It's going to be it's. Going to be fine and
41:16
everything's going to be fine. But this is all to say so so
41:20
guys, if you are like, if you're like me or us, right, like if
41:24
you, if you have a busy life and most of us do right.
41:28
And so many of you are helping and nourishing so many people.
41:31
You're working. Yeah.
41:33
You're working hard to like, change, to fix, to do, to help,
41:37
to be be better, do better. Just don't forget and don't be
41:44
like me where you know, I was like and I'll probably still
41:48
struggle with this probably for the rest of.
41:49
My life but. But like I get my fulfilment by
41:56
helping, right? Like I like it.
41:59
There's a it's, it's selfish. You can call it selfish, right?
42:02
Like it's not that like I'm whatever, like I, I get this.
42:07
Cute. She sees a need.
42:08
She needs to fix it. She needs to solve it.
42:11
Correct. She is.
42:12
She's wired that way. Yes, so it it makes me feel good
42:16
and fulfilled and like I am doing like my purpose in this
42:20
world when I'm fixing problems, when I am like helping people,
42:23
right. But she's better at.
42:25
It when she is actually. Helping myself as well.
42:30
So, so there has to be a balance.
42:32
We have to as like as a community, we can help each
42:36
other, right? Like that's what we're, that's
42:38
why we're telling you this right now is that like, we have to do
42:43
whatever, even if it feels like a chore, like I'm going to make
42:48
myself wake up 20 minutes earlier so that I can read those
42:53
5 pages of that book that I've been wanting to read for so
42:57
long. Or I'm going to, you know, do
42:59
whatever it is. I'm going to stop for 20 minutes
43:03
during my day. I'm going to mark it down.
43:06
If you're like me, write it on your To Do List so you it has to
43:09
be done or set an alarm on your phone or whatever it is.
43:12
So it has to be done because it told you that it had to be done
43:15
if. That's how you.
43:16
Operate, if that's how you operate.
43:18
And so, so you stop and you do what needs to be done.
43:23
And, but make sure that you schedule in that time for
43:27
yourself, because the longer you wait and the, the longer, longer
43:33
you wait to take care of yourself in, in sacrifice,
43:37
right? Like in sacrifice of helping
43:39
everyone else, of helping, like of doing everything else,
43:42
whether it's even just your cats, right?
43:44
Like, Oh my, have you know, so many of us in our community,
43:48
we're rescuers. You've got all these cats,
43:50
special needs cats. You've got, they've got a lot of
43:53
needs and we're doing all this stuff, but it we're not taking
43:55
any time for ourselves. And that will end up being the
44:00
detriment to the cats in the, in, in the, in the long term,
44:04
right. So we have to remember to take
44:06
that time, whatever it is, go out and go out in nature, listen
44:09
to your music, do a meditation, pray, go to church, whatever
44:13
that. Is a couple a couple specifics
44:15
breathe, yes. I mean, let's talk about the
44:17
specifics real quick, because I think breath work, breath work
44:20
for us is is it was a word at first, but I feel like it is it
44:26
can really be a lifestyle. I love farm girl said people
44:29
pleasing is really being controlling.
44:31
We're trying to control our environment.
44:34
Yes, yes, which gets back to the fight or flight.
44:36
If we can control our environment that we can feel
44:39
safer, right. All of this stuff breath work.
44:42
I think one of the fastest way to reset your your whole, what
44:47
do they call it, the parasympathetic, your nervous
44:49
system. It really does something to your
44:51
body when you think about how much stress causes disease in
44:54
people and in pets. It it the this is really the
44:58
priority of this podcast to us. When we recognize that you think
45:01
we're doing all the right things, but we're not taking
45:03
care of ourselves. We are constantly stressed out.
45:06
This has this doctor Randy, who we will introduce you guys to.
45:10
Oh my. God, we have a great podcast
45:12
from now on. Health span, you guys, health
45:15
span is something that's different even than longevity.
45:19
That's different than so many things there so many is so much,
45:23
so breath work. It really can be a way of life.
45:26
Last night Jay was like, do you want to do a breath work before
45:28
we go to bed? And at first I was just like,
45:30
no, I just want to go to bed. Like can I just go to bed?
45:34
I was like I'm doing. It total shift.
45:36
Total shift in my whole mentality, what I was thinking
45:38
about whatever hamster wheel I was going to be on before I fell
45:41
asleep in the sun. Like waking up every three hours
45:44
ANYWAYS to a place where my body felt heavy and soft and ready to
45:52
relax. It was a whole different shift.
45:55
So making the time meditation, you guys meditation, I know
45:59
that's a thing. It's a, it's a whatever.
46:03
But however you meditate taking 5 minutes, 15 minutes, 20
46:05
minutes just to be connected to whatever you believe source is
46:11
getting into nature, resetting, grounding, just boundaries, you
46:15
guys. Here's the thing.
46:16
I'm gonna. Another shout out to just a big.
46:19
One for me and Doctor Katie Woodley, which I used to be
46:22
like, she takes so long to respond and she's like I, I
46:26
don't keep my like sound on. I keep my phone on vibrate all
46:30
day. I'm like how does she get
46:31
anything done? This is years ago.
46:33
I used to be like how does she get anything done?
46:35
Keeping her phone on vibrate. Now I'm putting my phone on
46:41
vibrate. Not just that, but here's a
46:43
little secret and this is what we've done because you know, we
46:46
run so much for our business on the phones we have.
46:48
Everything is on our phones for all of us, right?
46:51
We do phones down Sunday. Now here's the thing, we've
46:54
talked about phones on Sunday before.
46:56
We put our phone down on Saturday night.
46:57
We don't pick it up until Monday morning.
47:00
This year has tell us a lot about emergencies.
47:03
Sometimes those emergencies do and have happened on a Sunday.
47:09
So what do we do then? Michelle Missy, our Missy, our
47:12
shipping manager, our bestie, she said you guys need to get a
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burner phone. You give it just to your family
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so that if there is a family emergency, as there has been,
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then it's it's, it's a burner phone.
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We have that. So here's the thing, our phone
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we're we're going to re do reincorporate our phones down
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Sunday. We are because we've only had
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like 2 this whole year I think. Maybe 3, but yeah, phone's down.
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Sunday we are going to get back into nature.
47:43
We are going to shout out to Sterles.
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I just have to say this, sometimes we have to plan to not
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plan. I want to do that on a couple
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Sundays because it always turns into the Saturday.
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Like what do we need to get? Done laundry, grocery shopping
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We've got. To do that right, blow the yard.
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Do like Sunday's the catch all where it's just by the time you
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get done with all of the chores. Should we go to the mountains?
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No. It's dark.
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Yeah. Why would we do that?
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So they're close, recalibrating stuff.
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And here's here's what I think. We really want to leave you guys
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with this. I know that.
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We've just rambled on and maybe some of you guys really do
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relate to this. I think it's so important if you
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aren't already, doing something that nourishes your soul and
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your soul alone. Not something beautiful that you
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can do for your neighbor that makes you feel good.
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Not something wonderful you can do for the rescue and not
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volunteering that makes you feel so fulfilled.
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Something for your soul and your soul alone.
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Think about it, think about it, find it, and commit to doing it
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at least once in the next week. Yes, yeah, start with like 1.
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One little. Baby owe yourself 1 little thing
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that you could do for yourself this week.
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Maybe it takes 30 minutes, maybe it takes 3 hours.
48:56
Maybe it's a whole day that you could give to yourself that
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you're that you realize through listening to this that you could
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actually give yourself a day and you need that day.
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Then do that right? If it's even if it's playing
49:10
with your cats, right, like or or laying with your cats,
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spending more time with your cats, if that's that's what
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makes many of us right like feel a a a lot more peaceful, then do
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that. Like schedule time aside from
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put your phone down, no TV, no anything and spend a little bit
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more time doing that. But but something that's but not
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for your cats, but for you, right?
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Something. Want us so badly to just be
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present. Yeah, I think that's one of the
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things that all all of our cats are trying to teach us. 1000%.
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And I think that it, it's our mindset about it.
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I, I do the Qigong meditation and it's like, sometimes man, in
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the morning, especially getting back from travel, it's like, oh,
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we slept until 7. I don't have time to do this.
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And Zorro specifically is like make it our, our cats love when
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we can just be. So think about what that one
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thing is that that you can do. I'm so excited.
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We're we have, you know, it's like all of us this time of
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year, like, oh, in the new year, we're going to do this.
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No, we're starting a lot of things right now.
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And the new year, we have more things planned that are going to
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be health filled for ourselves. But I think that's another
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mistake that we make is that, well, in the new year, I'm going
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to do this. No, start this week.
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Think of one thing. Start small, it like one thing
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compounded over time is what creates the the the the biggest
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success, right? So, yeah, so.
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Start small. Start now that you that it has
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start this week. Yeah.
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And we're gonna keep you guys posted.
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Do something for you so that you can help fill their cups.
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Because you don't have an empty cup, Yes.
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Yeah, fill it up. Fill it up.
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Fill it up. Don't we love you guys so much.
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Thank you so much for joining us, guys.
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We have our big, big, big news coming this Friday, November 7th
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at 5:00 PM Pacific Time. And in Australia, because it's
51:16
Australian news, that's Saturday at 11 AM AES.
51:20
T. So whatever time zone that is
51:24
in. Different places, but it's been
51:26
time. It's 11.
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Do please come join us for that because we've been working for
51:30
over a year on that one and we're very excited to announce
51:35
it to you guys. We love you so much and we are
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so grateful for this community and we're so grateful to be home
51:42
for a really long time where you're going to see a lot.
51:45
We're going to you're going to get tired of seeing our faces on
51:47
social media because we're just going to be here with you guys.
51:50
We're back at it like it's 2020 again here all the time.
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So we love you so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you
51:58
for being amazing. And don't forget to take some
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time for yourself, do something for yourself this week.
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We love you. We love you guys.
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Good night, guys. Good night.