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5 Min Pocket Pep Talk- Listen When You Don't Feel Brave · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey there, welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show, the five-minute pocket pep talk.
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  If you found this episode today, I have a feeling that you might just need it.
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  Maybe there's something you've been thinking about for weeks.
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  Maybe it's a decision that you've been avoiding or a conversation that you've
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  been putting off or a risk that you know you need to take and you're hesitating.
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  Or maybe it's a beautiful dream that you keep talking yourself out of.
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  Whatever it is, if that's where you are right now, I want you to hear this clearly.
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  You do not need to feel brave to move forward. That's right. Let me say that again.
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  You do not need to feel brave to move forward.
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  Sometime along the way, many of us bought into this idea that brave people feel
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  different than the rest of us.
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  Well, I'm going to tell you it's completely false. All right.
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  We imagine that courageous people just wake up and they're full of confidence
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  and they love to take risks, that they feel certainty and motivation as soon as they get out of bed.
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  We assume they don't have fear and we assume they don't have doubts,
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  but that is far from the truth.
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  And that's not what I've observed with people around me and people I work with.
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  The bravest people I know, they feel fear all the time.
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  The difference is that they don't wait for fear to leave before they take action.
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  And I need you to really think about that for a second. How many opportunities
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  have we missed in our lives because we're waiting to feel ready?
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  You know, a lot of the people that are stuck are going through this.
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  How many conversations did you avoid in your life because you wanted more certainty?
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  How many dreams have stayed dreams in people's life because they thought that
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  confidence had to come in first?
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  And the truth is that confidence rarely comes before action.
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  Confidence comes from action. And confidence comes from collecting evidence
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  that you can handle things.
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  So the more risk you take, the more action you take, whether you are prepared
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  or not, it doesn't matter.
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  It sends a message to your brain that you are safe. And you collect evidence
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  after evidence by stepping into a situation that will stretch you.
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  I think about every major decision that I've made in my life,
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  moving across the world, you know, starting something new, taking risks,
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  applying for jobs, saying yes to opportunities that scares me.
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  Well, none of those moments came wrapped up in confidence with a beautiful bow on it.
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  It came wrapped in uncertainty, you know, with questions. What if it doesn't
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  work? What if I fail? What if people judge me?
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  What if I make the wrong decision? And if I'm being honest with you,
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  sometimes those questions still show up because fear is not a sign that you're on the wrong path.
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  And this is where I want to go with this podcast today.
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  Sometimes fear is simply a sign that you're about to do something that matters a lot to you.
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  Sometimes fear shows up because you are growing, you're expanding,
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  because you're stepping outside of what's familiar in your life.
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  You're becoming someone that you've never been before.
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  And your brain, that silly brain of yours, loves everything that's familiar.
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  Your brain loves everything that's predictable. and certain.
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  Growth offers none of those things. Growth says the opposite.
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  Hey, come this way. I can't promise exactly how it's going to turn out,
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  but I can promise that you're going to be stronger and that can be uncomfortable.
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  Maybe what you need is a simple decision, a decision that you're no longer going
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  to let fear make your choices for you because fear will always have an opinion.
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  Fear will always tell you to play small. Fear will always tell you to wait a little bit longer.
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  To think about it a little longer, you know, to stay where you're safe,
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  but your future isn't built in safety. Your future is built in action.
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  So let me ask you something real quick.
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  What's the thing that you've been putting off and what's the thing you know you need to do?
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  Huh, what's the conversation, decision, opportunity, or next step that keeps showing up in your mind?
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  That's your work. Not next month, not when you feel ready.
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  Now, today, bravery is not something that just lands in your lap.
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  Bravery is something that you built one choice at the time, one step at the time.
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  Every single time that you move, even if you're not brave, even if you're filled
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  with fear, you send yourself a very powerful message.
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  I can do hard things. I can trust myself.
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  I can handle uncertainty. And eventually what started as courage becomes that
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  confidence, that confidence that you were looking for all along.
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  So if you're listening to this right now and you don't feel brave,
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  it's okay. You don't need to feel brave. You just need to move, okay?
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  Because the life that you want and the goals you want to reach are not waiting
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  for you to be confident. It's waiting for action.
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  And remember this, you're capable of way more than your fellow would like you to believe.
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  Now go take that first step. I'll catch you in the next episode.