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What do you do when you don't know what to do? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So what do you do when you don't know what to do?
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  Interesting question, right? We all have these moments where
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  we don't know what to do and we are in our head stuck.
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  We often use that word will say I'm stuck.
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  I don't know what to do. Sometimes, we have anxiety over
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  it. Sometimes we start to
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  contemplate so much that we start to Loop is the word.
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  We like to use in coaching will say their looping, meaning, they
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  just keep going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth.
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  Roo all the stress, the anxiety, the open question, whatever it
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  is, that might be happening. And it's a really tough
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  situation when you find yourself in it, because you keep saying,
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  I don't know what to do. I just don't know what to do.
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  I wish I knew what to do but I don't know what to do.
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  And the more you tell yourself that you don't know what to do,
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  you know what happens? You don't know what to do and
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  the more you don't know what to do.
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  The more stress you have about not knowing what to do and it is
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  a self. If fulfilling prophecy and it is
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  a tough one, it is a really tough one because there is no
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  pattern that you can go back to and say, wait, wait, wait, I'm
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  going to take myself out because I know I've done this before
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  because when you're in that state that on resourceful State,
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  you're not thinking like that, you're not putting yourself into
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  a place where wait, I've survived a hundred percent of
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  the things that I've gone through before evidence is, I'm
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  still standing here. But But it takes training to get
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  yourself to be like that. And to think like that, and I'll
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  tell you even as much as I've done this throughout my life, it
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  does take a lot of work to be able to do that and pull
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  yourself up through that. It takes a massive effort
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  mentally to pause and say, hey, you know what?
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  I'm not going to allow myself to go down this lat, this state of
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  lack, and on resourcefulness and into this rabbit hole that I
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  clearly am in about not knowing And again, the more you tell
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  yourself, you don't know the more you don't know, because
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  that's how the brain works. It's very simple.
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  It's just, you know, if you focus on something, that's what
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  you're going to get. So when the overriding emotion
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  is the unknown, that's where you will stay because you keep
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  focusing on it. So, the trick how you handle
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  this is everything. If you don't stop yourself.
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  See this is what's interesting, nobody else can do it for you.
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  We can talk to you about it. We can point things out.
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  We can. Say well, let's take a deep
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  breath. Put you on pause, you can be
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  good for 10 minutes. But guess what's going to
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  happen? It's going to come back again.
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  Because the only person that ultimately can do this, is you,
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  we do not have the capability to go into other people's heads and
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  push the buttons on the panel, clear the panel out and say,
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  okay, let's hit a reset. Now, I can explain it and I can
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  tell clients how to do it and I can tell them what I do and what
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  my fellow coaches and other people do.
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  Do. But ultimately, the challenge
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  you have is that you actually have to do it yourself.
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  And you have to remind yourself that.
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  This is a process to interrupt the pattern.
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  So I want to be really specific about this today because I want
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  you to be able to do this when you're starting, you know, to go
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  through the holiday season. When you're dealing with family,
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  when you are stressed out about how to handle Christmas whatever
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  holiday It is you're celebrating Hanukkah.
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  It doesn't matter. Whatever you're celebrating.
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  This time of year can bring out a lot of stress and people will
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  say, well I don't know what to do and the reality is there's
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  always a piece of you inside that knows what you want.
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  Always a piece of that, that knows what you want.
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  You can always do the little trick that I learned years ago
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  from one of my mentors. When I first started coaching
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  and he said sometimes when I'm people that are stuck I'll tell
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  them take out a coin. And heads, its Choice, a tails,
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  is Choice, B. Flip the coin and people flip
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  the coin and it lands on it and he goes now it's not.
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  It doesn't matter what side the coin is on right now.
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  What's I did you wish for And in that, second in that little tiny
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  nanosecond of the coin being in the air, there was a wish of
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  going or OB or you know, like, you know, you had this little
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  tiny piece of you. That 99.9% of us will have that.
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  I wish it was that and that's what your true sense is of
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  whatever the situation is. So there's always a little tiny
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  piece, that knows something might not know the whole thing,
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  but it knows. Nothing that's Chi, 1 Chi to
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  make sure that you are recognizing that in your state
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  of saying, I don't know. And you go into often
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  desperation, the emotion is desperation and then you go into
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  a state of prayer. I am adamant with my clients
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  that praying is not about desperation.
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  God already knows how you feel because your emotions are direct
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  connection. Prayer is about, seeing it done
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  the way you want it to be done and saying thank you and
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  gratitude for it because that's what shifts it.
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  That's what changes the communication.
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  That's what saying I'm clear on what I want, I am communicating
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  that to you and I am seeing it and trusting you to take me
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  there. So, Shift your prayer from
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  desperation to gratitude, shift your prayer into a state of
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  absolute knowing that it's taken care of in.
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  And sometimes it's, I will find myself.
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  Just go to this place of, you know what, I would like it this
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  way, and I'm going to see it this way and if there's
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  something I'm missing or something better.
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  I'm okay with that too. I'm surrendering to the process,
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  but I won't allow myself to go to that place of despair.
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  Or desperation. So look at it that way work on
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  it that way. Stop yourself from going into
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  that place of looping, I don't know, I don't know, I don't
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  know, I don't know. Because guess what?
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  You'll get more of, I don't know.
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  And that sucks. That's a big no bueno in my
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  opinion. So I hope you guys have a very
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  blessed day and you know exactly what you want out of your day.
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  I hope you guys have a fantastic awareness in this because this
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  is a big One and this is a huge shift.
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  Have a blessed day everybody and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye. One and this is a huge shift.
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  Have a blessed day everybody and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.