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I Will Not Stop: Push Beyond Your Limits and Never Give Up · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: What we teach people is kind kindness to yourself. Do
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  Speaker 1: you think if I taught myself kindness and I agree
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  Speaker 1: with it? Gods, many people take me out of context.
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  Speaker 1: It's ridiculous. Take it? How really fuck you want to
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  Speaker 1: take it? When I was three hundred pounds, rethink that
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  Speaker 1: conversation would have got me if I spoke kindness to myself.
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  Speaker 1: I'll tell you where it gets me, right back to
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  Speaker 1: seven to eleven, another box of mini truck and donuts
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  Speaker 1: and the truck and milkshake. That's the one voice. That's
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  Speaker 1: the one voice that most of us have that you're
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  Speaker 1: talking about. If you don't have a conversation in there,
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  Speaker 1: the other voice that you create that says, okay, how
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  Speaker 1: does this look? Looks very ugly? That kind conversation for
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  Speaker 1: me went away a long time ago, which is why
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  Speaker 1: the dialogue is now, which you see a lot of
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  Speaker 1: action because most people have inaction because there's one person talking,
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  Speaker 1: and that one person's always leaning you down the same path,
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  Speaker 1: the path that makes you feel very comfortable and happy
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  Speaker 1: with yourself. The second you create the other voice, there's conflict,
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  Speaker 1: there's battles, there's wars. Just defeat one thing. I learned,
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  Speaker 1: and I taught myself this, and people go, I don't
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  Speaker 1: understand what you're saying. I don't try to break it
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  Speaker 1: down real quick. I didn't teach myself victory first. I
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  Speaker 1: taught myself failure. I taught myself how to fail, and
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  Speaker 1: people are that's so depressing, is it? When you're three
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  Speaker 1: hundred pounds and you can't read and write and you're
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  Speaker 1: up how many times you're gonna fucking fail on that process?
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  Speaker 1: So if you don't know how to fail, there is
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  Speaker 1: no victory. I never talked about winning because I knew
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  Speaker 1: the path to winning was gould be years failing first.
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  Speaker 1: So I taught myself how to fail properly. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to teach you how to fail, But if you're
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  Speaker 1: going out for insurmountable faking odds, that makes absolutely no
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  Speaker 1: freking sense. A black kid that cast whim three duds
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  Speaker 1: of pound gonna be a Navy seal. Yeah, okay, you
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  Speaker 1: better teach you stuff how to fail first, because if
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  Speaker 1: you sit in failure for too long, you will never
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  Speaker 1: come out of it. So the first part of my
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  Speaker 1: success was learning how to fail properly, and then eventually
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  Speaker 1: I started getting a few victories. But that's what people
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  Speaker 1: don't get. When you have buried yourself in such a
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  Speaker 1: deep and hole, you better first talk about the failures
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna have first. And that's when that other voice
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  Speaker 1: comes up. It tells you we got to do something.
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  Speaker 1: It also tells you, boy, I'm not gonna lie to
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  Speaker 1: your goggins. You're in for a fucking climb. Bro, You're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get your ass handed to you made fun of
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  Speaker 1: the outside noise the inside noise. Both voices are can
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  Speaker 1: be telling you to go your stuff. You are in
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  Speaker 1: for hell, bro, I am blind to fail. When I
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  Speaker 1: first got into endurance events, I love the breakdown phase
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  Speaker 1: because the suffering made me feel alive and reminded me
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  Speaker 1: that I'd gone all out this time. I didn't relish
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  Speaker 1: it in the same way, but I knew that breakdown
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  Speaker 1: was a byproduct of an all out effort, and that
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  Speaker 1: if I explored the crevices of my mind I would
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  Speaker 1: find valuable lessons, which tend to spill out with any unraveling.
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  Speaker 1: Most people prefer to avoid breakdowns like this because the
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  Speaker 1: suffering can be so overwhelming it just might mark you forever.
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  Speaker 1: I embrace breakdown and welcome the scarring. There is a
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  Speaker 1: hell of a lot of information and scar tissue. Scars
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  Speaker 1: are proof that the past is real. Physical scars never
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  Speaker 1: go away, and when you look at them, they can
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  Speaker 1: bring you right back to a specific place in time.
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  Speaker 1: But the scar tissue that builds up around that old
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  Speaker 1: injury is weak. Professional fighters who've been hit in the
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  Speaker 1: face thousands of times bleed faster than those who have
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  Speaker 1: never been punched. Once you've been cut deep, you are
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  Speaker 1: forever vulnerable to bleeding. The same is true for the
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  Speaker 1: mental and emotional scars that we all carry with us,
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  Speaker 1: the scars we cannot see. They might be invisible, but
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  Speaker 1: they affect us much more severely than physical scars. Mental
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  Speaker 1: and emotional scars are our weak spots, and they can
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  Speaker 1: open up just as easily as physical scars unless we
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  Speaker 1: do the work to strengthen them. If you haven't dealt
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  Speaker 1: with your scars, they can alter your life's path. You
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  Speaker 1: will be prone to failure during difficult physical and emotional situations,
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  Speaker 1: whether that's during an athletic event, at work or in
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  Speaker 1: your home life, and eventually you will land back in
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  Speaker 1: front of your mirror that never lies. Breakdown is its
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  Speaker 1: own kind of mirror. Whatever you're made of is laid
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  Speaker 1: out in front of you, clear and plaining. Your history
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  Speaker 1: and mindset become a weather old map ridged with your scars,
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  Speaker 1: and if you read them like an archaeologist on a dig,
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  Speaker 1: you might uncover the code you need to rise again
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  Speaker 1: and become better and stronger, because there is no transformation
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  Speaker 1: without breakdown, and there is always another evolution, another skin
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  Speaker 1: to shed, a better or deeper version of ourselves waiting
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  Speaker 1: to be revealed every morning I wake up. It's not
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  Speaker 1: just about working out, but for me, working out has
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  Speaker 1: been a very big part of my mental growth. So
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  Speaker 1: for me, if I am not challenging myself every day,
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  Speaker 1: and that's where to God, people would not believe it.
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  Speaker 1: I was over almost three hundred pounds twice in my life.
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  Speaker 1: A person that does that twice in his life does
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  Speaker 1: not enjoy Cardiovascus like okay, So people can put anything
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  Speaker 1: they want to in their head. I did realize one thing,
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  Speaker 1: the things I don't enjoy that I still do. That's
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  Speaker 1: where growth is at. And that's for me. The only
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  Speaker 1: place growth is at is in that very uncomfortable you know,
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  Speaker 1: in that uncomfortable zone. So for instance, today, I woke
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  Speaker 1: up and I just got to London and I don't
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  Speaker 1: know where to run here. It's very difficult to run
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  Speaker 1: around this place. So someone said, hey, you can run
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  Speaker 1: around out here, like around this one mile block, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I'm not doing that. So
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  Speaker 1: I went down to the gym and there's this like
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  Speaker 1: crazy elliptical trainer, but it's not a normal elliptical trainer.
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  Speaker 1: It's one that you like, almost self power. So I
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  Speaker 1: got on that thing and I realized, man sucks. And
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  Speaker 1: after like two minutes, I'm like, I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: do this. So right then I realized, hmm, it looks
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  Speaker 1: like we're gonna be here for a while. So I
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  Speaker 1: did that for two hours and forty five minutes. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying do that, but that's something I did today.
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  Speaker 1: Once my mind say you know what, let's not do
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  Speaker 1: this today, I said, well, since we're my mind went there.
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  Speaker 1: I redirected it and I said, just for having that
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  Speaker 1: weak thought, we're going to be on here for a while.
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  Speaker 1: For many people, the haunting begins the minute they wake up.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe they are fat, or disabled, feel ugly, or are
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  Speaker 1: failing and overwhelmed at school or work, and it consumes them.
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  Speaker 1: Their obsession with their own imperfections and faults suffocate self
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  Speaker 1: respect and submarines progress, and from the time they get
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  Speaker 1: out of bed until they're able to crawl back in
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  Speaker 1: that night, the only thing on their agenda is avoiding
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  Speaker 1: exposure and surviving another day in hell. When that's how
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  Speaker 1: you feel about yourself, it's impossible to see possibilities or
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  Speaker 1: seize opportunities. We have to learn to stop looking for
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  Speaker 1: a sign that the hard time will end. When the
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  Speaker 1: distance is unknown, it is even more critical that you
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  Speaker 1: stay locked in so the unknown factor doesn't steal your focus.
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  Speaker 1: The end will come when it comes, and anticipation will
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  Speaker 1: only distract you from completing the task in front of
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  Speaker 1: you to the best of your ability. Remember, the struggle
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  Speaker 1: is the whole journey. That's why you're out there. It's
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  Speaker 1: why you signed up for this race or that class,
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  Speaker 1: or took the damn job. There is great beauty when
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  Speaker 1: you're involved in something that is so hard most people
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  Speaker 1: want it to end. We can make any obstacle as
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  Speaker 1: big or small as we like. When you're climbing a
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  Speaker 1: mountain or involved in any other difficult task, the only
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  Speaker 1: way to free yourself from the struggle is to finish it,
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  Speaker 1: So why bitch about it when it gets hard? I
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  Speaker 1: hope it will end soon when you know it will
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  Speaker 1: end eventually. When you complain and your mind starts groping
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  Speaker 1: for the eject button, you are not bring your best
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  Speaker 1: self to the task, which means you are actually prolonging
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  Speaker 1: the pain. The hard chargers keep their heads down and
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  Speaker 1: hammer away. They have trained their minds to stay hard
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  Speaker 1: in those hard moments. They recognize the false summit for
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  Speaker 1: what it is and will always act as if they
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  Speaker 1: are nowhere near the top. Most people slow down and
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  Speaker 1: suffer on a steep trail, but slope and elevation are
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  Speaker 1: of no consequence to the hard charger. They keep their
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  Speaker 1: mind in attack mode until there are no more mountains
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  Speaker 1: to climb, and when they actually reach the top, they
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  Speaker 1: wish it had lasted a little bit longer. If you
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  Speaker 1: want to maximize minimal potential and become great in any field,
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  Speaker 1: you must embrace your savage side and become imbalanced, at
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  Speaker 1: least for a period of time. You'll need to funnel
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  Speaker 1: every minute of every single day into the pursuit of
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  Speaker 1: that degree, that starting spot, that job that edge. Your
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  Speaker 1: mind must never leave the cockpit, sleep at the library
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  Speaker 1: or the office, hoop long past sundown, and fall asleep
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  Speaker 1: watching film of your next opponent. There are no days
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  Speaker 1: off and there is no downtime when you're obsessed with
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  Speaker 1: being great. That is what it takes to be the
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  Speaker 1: baddest mother ever. At what you do, know that your
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  Speaker 1: dedication will be misunderstood, some relationships may break down. The
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  Speaker 1: savage is not a socialized beast, and an imbalanced lifestyle
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  Speaker 1: often appears selfish from the outside. But the reason I've
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  Speaker 1: been able to help so many people with my life
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  Speaker 1: story is precisely because I embraced being that imbalanced while
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  Speaker 1: I pursue the impossible dream of becoming the hardest mother ever.
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  Speaker 1: That's a mythical title, but it became my compass, bearing
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  Speaker 1: my north star. When you observe highly successful individuals, it
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  Speaker 1: may seem tempting to conclude that they were inherently born
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  Speaker 1: with their capabilities, that they possess innate talent and that's
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  Speaker 1: the end of the story. However, talent, while undoubtedly making
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  Speaker 1: life more straightforward, is just one piece of the puzzle.
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  Speaker 1: Reflecting back, I was once a shy and fearful person. Ironically,
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  Speaker 1: this apparent misfortune turned into a source of strength, igniting
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  Speaker 1: significant changes in my life. By consistently stepping out of
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  Speaker 1: my comfort zone, I not only conquered social shyness and
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  Speaker 1: improved my communication skills, but also nurtured robust self confidence
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  Speaker 1: and overcame other fears in my life. I might not
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  Speaker 1: have been naturally inclined to excel in social settings. I
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  Speaker 1: still prefer solitude over crowds. However, with self discipline and
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  Speaker 1: persistent effort, I attained remarkable results. So the next time
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  Speaker 1: you think you lack talent in a particular area or
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  Speaker 1: believe you weren't born with inherent abilities, remind yourself that
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  Speaker 1: in many situations, self discipline can compensate for the absence
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  Speaker 1: of inborn traits. Living life seems easy when you take
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  Speaker 1: the hard path, and challenging when opting for the easy
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  Speaker 1: way out self disciplined demands, traversing the difficult route, resisting
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  Speaker 1: temptations and immediate gratification and exchange for more substantial and
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  Speaker 1: superior rewards in the future. It might seem simpler to
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  Speaker 1: avoid discomfort and indulge in immediate pleasures, but eventually this
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  Speaker 1: approach only offers fleeting pleasure at the cost of a
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  Speaker 1: potentially much improved future. Imagine a person lacking determination who,
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  Speaker 1: when faced with a challenge, chooses to withdraw immediately. How
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  Speaker 1: likely as such an individual to achieve something significant in
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  Speaker 1: life when their primary value lies and seeking comfort. Contrast
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  Speaker 1: this with someone who voluntarily embraces difficulties. They actively seek
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  Speaker 1: and welcome challenges as opportunities for personal growth. Each self
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  Speaker 1: imposed trial toughens them, making them less susceptible to being
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  Speaker 1: overwhelmed by life's adversities. They become more resilient as they
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  Speaker 1: face difficulties head on. When life throws unexpected challenges at them,
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  Speaker 1: they are prepared to handle them because due to living
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  Speaker 1: their lives through perseverance, they've developed readiness for hardships. Our
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  Speaker 1: decisions are made in a moment, but their repercussions can
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  Speaker 1: extend throughout a lifetime. Humans possess the ability to resist
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  Speaker 1: impulses in exchange for a brighter future. Unfortunately, many people
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  Speaker 1: live by the principle of if it feels good, do it,
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  Speaker 1: and if it doesn't, don't do it. Yielding to temptations
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  Speaker 1: whenever they arise is akin to surrendering your humanity in
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  Speaker 1: certain ways. As intelligent beings, we have the capacity, and
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  Speaker 1: I would venture to say the obligation to base our
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  Speaker 1: decisions on rational thinking, not just on instinct alone. Strive
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  Speaker 1: to be a better human by embracing your humanity. Exercise
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  Speaker 1: your willpower muscle instead of surrendering to the most primal
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  Speaker 1: and least beneficial part of your brain for long term goals.
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  Speaker 1: While primal instincts may provide immediate comfort, they rarely serve
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  Speaker 1: well in the long run. No, don't take it like
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  Speaker 1: go out there and run through a brick wall as
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  Speaker 1: many times you can. No, I'm not saying be me,
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  Speaker 1: don't run towards them five miles at one time. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not saying do that. I'm saying, start to learn. The
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  Speaker 1: mind is powerful. It's powerful, man, it's unbelievable.
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  Speaker 2: But if people need, they need a thing to get
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  Speaker 2: them going right, They need a thing, they need a
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  Speaker 2: go they need they need to like it's well, sometimes
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  Speaker 2: the first step is the hardest, Like it's hard to
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  Speaker 2: take that one million step too, But sometimes the first
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  Speaker 2: step is the most There's something about the gosh, what
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  Speaker 2: do I do? How do they start going over the phone,
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  Speaker 2: they start calling people, they don't get out of the house.
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  Speaker 2: It's and there's something about procrastination. It's like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's painful, you know you should be doing things, but
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  Speaker 2: you just keep doing it. You keep itching that scab.
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  Speaker 1: I procrastinate like man, every day, I would. That's that's
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  Speaker 1: what's so funny. Man. People looking like I'm some damn
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  Speaker 1: superhero that came down from the gods, from the heavens
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  Speaker 1: of earth. No, man, I don't want to do it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking at my shoes for thirty minutes sometimes thinking. Man, man,
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  Speaker 1: people people look up to your goggins. Damn. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I want to do this shit, man, But guess what
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  Speaker 1: you do it. I'm gonna do it as long as
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  Speaker 1: you do it. And that's what I know about it, man,
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  Speaker 1: That's why I stopped doing it. I'm thinking, Oh, man,
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  Speaker 1: you sit here, you look at your shoes for thirty
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  Speaker 1: forty minutes. You go, you gotta think about it all
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  Speaker 1: day long.
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  Speaker 2: You go do it anyway, and sometimes you don't have
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  Speaker 2: the time and look at issues for thirty minutes. No,
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  Speaker 2: those are those are the beautiful days, yes, because you
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  Speaker 2: know you just have to go that's right. And so
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  Speaker 2: like there's no room for procrastination.
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  Speaker 1: And that's when I when I was in the military,
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  Speaker 1: I loved my schedule because I knew how to be
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  Speaker 1: work at seven o'clock. So you better get your ass
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  Speaker 1: up at four o'clock many brother, because I had to
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  Speaker 1: go before, right, you know. So that was my mentality
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  Speaker 1: back then. Man, you know, like I had to get
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  Speaker 1: the miles and get everything in man and get to work. Man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm competing with the alpha males.