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Feel It, Then Forget It — Release to Rise · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is your Fearless Friday episode, Feel It, Then Forget It.
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  Today, I want to challenge the way we deal with our emotions.
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  The title is simple Feel it, then forget it Now before somebody jumps in the
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  comments or in my inbox With, Coach C, what do you mean forget it?
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  I'm glad you asked I'm talking about that anger That anxiety That disappointment That frustration,
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  That rejection That offense That bad attitude Feel it Experience it Acknowledge it.
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  Process it, cry if you need to, pray if you need to,
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  talk it out if you need to, journal if you need to, do whatever healthy thing
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  you need to do, but then let it exit.
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  Because somewhere along the
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  way, we confused holding on to our feelings with honoring our feelings.
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  Those are two different things.
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  God gave us emotions. They're real. They're violent.
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  They're human, but they were never meant to become permanent roommates.
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  Here's where we get stuck. We don't just feel our emotions. We feed them.
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  We replay the conversation. We rehearse the betrayal.
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  We relive the disappointment, we scroll through old messages,
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  we tell the same story over and over, we keep watering weeds and then wonder why they're growing.
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  Eventually, what we were supposed to just experience starts experiencing us.
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  The anger starts making decisions, the anxiety starts controlling opportunities.
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  The offense starts shaping relationships.
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  The fear starts stealing dreams. That's why I say, feel it, then forget it.
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  Not because it didn't matter, not because it didn't hurt, but because you deserve to move forward.
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  I've learned that unforgiveness doesn't trap the other person. It traps me.
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  Bitterness doesn't punish them. It poisons me.
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  Worry doesn't solve tomorrow. It steals today.
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  Here's another way to think about it.
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  Feelings are visitors. They knock.
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  They come in, you acknowledge them, but don't hand them a key to your house.
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  Don't let temporary emotions make permanent decisions.
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  Your feelings should inform you, not imprison you.
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  So yes, feel the grief, feel the disappointment, feel the fear, feel the frustration.
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  Then ask yourself, what is this feeling trying to teach me?
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  Learn the lesson. Take the wisdom. Leave the baggage.
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  Because life is too short to carry emotional luggage that no longer belongs to you.
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  You don't have to pretend you're okay. You just don't have to stay where the hurt found you.
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  Feel it. Learn from it. Release it. Forget it. And keep moving.
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  Because your future deserves a version of you that isn't dragging yesterday behind it.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, I want you to identify one emotion
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  you've been carrying longer than you should. Write it down.
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  Then answer these three questions.
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  Why am I still holding on to this?
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  What has this emotion cost me?
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  What would my life look like if I finally let it go?
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  Now here's the challenge Choose one healthy release Pray,
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  journal, go for a walk, talk with someone you trust Write the letter you'll never sin,
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  Cry if you need to But don't pick the emotion back up once you've laid it down
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  Remember, healing doesn't always happen because time passes,
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  Sometimes healing happens because you finally decide to stop carrying what no longer belongs to you.
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  I'm Coach C reminding you, you can acknowledge your feelings without allowing
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  them to become your identity.
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  This is Real Talk, where we're realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  That's L-Y-F-E For more inspiration, merchandise, and motivation between episodes
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.